Can People of Opposite Gender be Friends
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The next question is by
Abdullah Amar,
from Afghanistan,
I have recently got admission at the university and added a core educational system. I have developed relationships and started talking with some of my female classmates through WhatsApp, and messenger,
even though we consider each other as brother and sister relationship, but I found that this led me astray from the straight path.
Like I cannot pray at times right now, and I cannot concentrate in my salah and many more things.
Can you please tell me? If it's permissible, what I'm doing is right.
And if it's not permissible, please give me an advice. How can I get myself out of this situation? It's not only me who is going through these situations, but there are many Muslims whose fate is same as mine.
There isn't the question on the same topic asked by a sudden Nadeem on the YouTube.
Can people of opposite gender be friends?
The question posed by Abdullah Ahmad from Afghanistan is a very common question. And it's common today that people go to co educational schools, co educational universities. And it's very common that when they go there, they have friends of opposite sex. The question poles that can you have friends of the opposite gender, and they get involved and it leads them away from the teachings of Islam. As far as having friends of the opposite gender is concerned. What do you mean by the word friend, is important? If you're talking about acquaintances, having of opposite gender, no problem having acquaintances as long as you do not break any of the teachings of the Quran and say Hadith?
As long as you do not break any of the ruling of the Sharia, you can have acquaintances of opposite sex and we come to it. Inshallah shortly regarding saying that I consider them to be my sister and brother. You have to understand what do you mean by brother and sister? If we're talking about brother and sister and humanity no problem if we're talking about brother and sister in faith, no problem. But these brothers sister is not the same as brother and sister of blood. This is totally nonsense. You know, like we have in India. Girls, tie the rocky to the boy. She is Meraki sister, the girl rocky sister in Islam,
sister in humanity, okay, like if a sister asked a good question, sister in faith, no problem. But all these sisters of humanity and faith, you have to do full and total job with them. Only with your blood sister where your parents are coming where the boy parents or one parent then the job is relaxed. Even with your cousin. You have to maintain your full hijab. The problem is that we see in the Western countries. It's very common that the intermingling of sexes and many of the Muslim countries this is becoming common in them two way of qualification schools, we have codification of universities and there you have friends and you keep on chatting and you keep on speaking things
which are not required. If you speak with an opposite fake things which are required at the emergency. No problem but you cannot do chatting like how you do with the same sex like a boy had the boyfriend no problem. You can chat you can laugh. You can joke what you cannot do the same thing with an opposite sex with another mme, it's not permitted in Islam. What we find and it's very clearly mentioned, as far as the hijab is concerned, before talking about the hijab, for the woman, hijab for the woman is given in the Quran, that Muslim should be properly covered and I discussed that in my previous session, then also in my lectures, that complete body should be covered only
part can be seen the face and hands up the rest, etc. But this is only the hijab of the cloth, the complete hijab, besides the hijab of the cloth in the hijab of a lady walks the way a lady talks the way a lady things the way a lady fish before talking about the job of the female, the woman in the Quran, Allah talks about the hijab of the men into the new chapter number 24 Verse number 30, where Allah smart Allah says, say to the believing man, that he should lower his gaze, and God is modesty.
That means whenever a male looks at a female, any breathing thought coming in his mind, he should lower if case.
There was once a boy standing at a girl for a long time. Suddenly, Brother What am I doing? It's not allowed in Islam. He told me that a prophet said the first glance is forgiven. The second is prohibited. I have not completed half my glands. For to the Prophet me
When he said that the first glance is forgiving, the second is prohibited, what it means that if you accidentally look at a woman do not look at her again to fish on a beauty, that does not mean you can look at a woman for 10 minutes without blinking and saying that I have not complete my glands.
So maintaining the hijab is very important. Therefore, it is not advisable for taking education in a co educational University.
And if you have to take education, if there is no other option, then you have to maintain your hijab. When you're speaking with the opposite sex, you should lower your gaze you cannot stare at the woman or look into her eyes and talk in the western country. If you do not look into the eye then speak it's either like an insult.
What we find that even the Muslim when they go to western country, they do not follow this hijab when I visited Islamic organizations. Mr. Country, I find that Muslim ladies and gents sisters and brothers, they are freely intermingling, they're freely talking, they may be wearing the hijab, they may be covered, the hair is covered, but that is a physical exam only of the clothes. They're laughing. They're joking. In some of the Western countries, I find a man and a woman sitting alone in a small room and chatting of Muslim woman doing the outdoor non Muslim boy in a closed room. It's not allowed. Our Beloved Prophet masala Salam said that if two non Muslim alone in a room, the third
person is a devotee.
It's not allowed that you can be in a closed room, a man and woman in some organization have gone and seen that the head of the organization has the lady secretary, how can you hold any secretary? Do you think all the Muslim men in that country are not capable? Or under qualified? I cannot understand that. How can a practicing Muslim have a lady secretary?
How can they maintain the job when the Secretary comes in the room in your room and no one else is there. It's not permitted. It is very common. Unfortunate. They're preaching Islam and they're practicing Islam. So if you bring the hijab that are high chances, what the brother has asked Amara will happen, your focus will go away from education, you will start thinking other things as though your brother or sister for namesake. But then love affair starts and you deviate from the Sharia and you start doing an Islamic things. Therefore, best is to educate yourself in a single sex University. And the survey done in UK that the schools which were single sex had better performance,
and single sex universities as compared to universities which were coined.
And that the same thing in India also, if it's a single sex education, the performance is better because many a time in a co education, each sex is trying to impress the other sex. So if a teacher is teaching the boy trying to impress the girl in his class, rather than paying attention on the subject, this is very common. So single sex education is better. If there's no other option than if you're doing higher education. If you have to go to a court education theater to maintain your hijab. I'm not talking only about university, the ministry going office places the hijab should be maintained. It is not that you are prohibited to speak with opposite sex No. But when you speak, you
have to be careful that the words revealed in the Quran in surah Aza chapter number 33 was number 32, which is addressed to the wife of the prophet to the Omo Hatter Momineen. It says that all wives of the Prophet, be not too complacent in your wife, left in whose heart is a disease, he will have desires. Imagine the wives of the Prophet, they are called Mahato Momineen. It is not permitted for any one else to marry the wives of the Prophet even after the prophet has died. The Quran is revealing a verse for the wives of the Prophet, be not too complacent in your voice, lest in whose heart is a DVT he may have them do that. Imagine the Sahaba who are the highest level among the
Muslim ummah, the Prophet said, the best generation for the Sabbath, there is no human being today on the face of the earth, which is anywhere close to the Saba, there is no woman who is anywhere close to the mortal moment and yet Allah says to the mortal Momineen Do not be complacent in your wife. Why?
So that, in whose heart in the disease can the Sabbath have a disease in the heart?
You cannot think of it yet for safety. As a precaution, Allah revealed this verse and today we find the woman in the offices in Muslim organization when Muslim companies they are talking to each other. They are laughing Riverside completed, they are joking. What they think only wearing the scarf hijab is done.
They're totally wrong.
And unfortunately, this western culture is even percolating into the Muslim countries. Nowadays we find Muslim countries also, Muslim men and women, they freely talk they freely mix, if you required if they're the requirement, you have to talk, then you can talk, but when you talk, don't look into it, lower your gaze, how many Muslims do you find today in the world, when they speak to a non Arab lady, that the lower they gave very few in the western country hardly, you will be counted like a joker.
But believe me a hamdulillah a strong Muslim will follow this. And if this is done, all these things will not happen. At the question of us, my mind is everting I cannot offer Salah what natural
and today we find the dressing also is not as per the Sharia, you have non Muslim lady not dressing up properly when the Muslim lady they may be Muslim, they may not be dressing up properly, more of the body is exposed than covered. So all the things you have to maintain the hijab, if you maintain the hijab, the men maintaining their hijab, that whenever they look at a woman, they should lower their gaze and see to it that they also not too friendly. Only talk when is required when there is a requirement, not unnecessarily joking, etc can be done with the same sex but not with the opposite sex.
Hope that answers the question.