Zakaullah Saleem – 83 Riyad asSalihin
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The responsibility of the head of the household is to prevent anyone who is in trouble from committing crazy things, while the mother and father have a responsibility to pray. The importance of praying for Islam is emphasized, as it is a source of wealth and drinking. The speakers emphasize the importance of learning about Halal deen and avoiding mistakes in life. The transmission of Islam's transmission laws to children is emphasized, and parents are encouraged to offer the Islam when young children reach the age of 10. Handling children with Halal foods is emphasized, and regular prayer practices and avoiding offense towards the statement of Islam are emphasized.
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it is compulsory upon the head of the household to enjoin his family
and his children and everyone who is in or under his care, enjoying
them to show their obedience to Allah subhanho wa Taala encourage
them to obey Allah Azza wa Jalla wa Crom wanna hear him Anil Maha
lava and it is the responsibility of the head of the household to
stop and to prohibit his family members from going against
anything that is glass in the Sharia or doing anything against
the obedience to Allah subhanahu wa Tada what that dbx him and it
is his responsibility to discipline them, while mentoring
him in order to curb him and he anon and it is his responsibility
also to prevent them from committing anything that is
prohibited in the deen of Allah in the religion of Allah subhanho wa
Taala
Mr Manoli Rama Allah begins a chapter by quoting two verses from
the book of Allah azza wa jal, the first one being the verse 132 of
surah Taha, in which Allah subhanahu wa taala directly
addresses his Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam ordering him what
more Allah kabhi Salah T was Tavira the prayer was Toby Riley,
and you yourself also must adhere to it.
And Allah also says in another ayah in sorrow to Tallinn in which
he will July Vikram says yeah, you hola Dena Amanu or you believed
coup and full circle wha Haley come nah, save yourselves and your
families from the fire of *.
This is the responsibility of the head of the whole of the
household.
And in this chapter
of our novio Rama Allah has gotten some a hadith of Rasulullah
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam highlighting the responsibility
and the duty of the head of the household in order to protect his
family, not only from the harms of this dunya rather more so to
protect them from the harm of the next life to protect them from the
fire of *.
And in order for him to do this, the very first thing or the most
important thing that he needs to do is to order his family to
establish the prayer.
The husband has the responsibility to encourage his wife to offer the
five daily prayers and the father has a responsibility towards his
children to encourage them to offer their five daily prayers.
Mother has also responsibility towards her children.
So everyone is responsible as this is the Hadith that is we have
mentioned many times and Imam and Novia Rama Allah has caught in
this chapter once again, that everyone is responsible and
everyone will be held accountable before Allah subhanahu wa Tada
with regards to his responsibilities. That is why
A mama Nogueira Mala coated this particular idea the very first
idea in this chapter, what more Allah cubby Salatu was sabudana
Yeah, Allah subhanho wa Taala ordered his Nabi sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam and he said, what more Alec, you must order your family
and you must instruct them, and then join them to offer the salah.
And this is your responsibility to make sure that your family or for
the Salah, and this rule or this commandment of Allah subhanho wa
Taala is applicable to every individual who is the responsible
of the household.
Any person who is the head of the household, he has a responsibility
to make sure that his family members established the prayer. So
the father cannot run away from his responsibility. The mother
cannot run away from her responsibility.
The husband cannot run away from his responsibility. So, there are
so many responsibilities and duties. And one of the greatest
responsibilities is to make sure that the family establishes the
pray. And unfortunately, many of the Muslim families have neglected
the prayer and the big part of it is played by the head of the
household. The fact of the matter The reality is that the heads of
the household themselves they do not know the significance of the
Salah. They themselves do not pray five times a day. If the husband
does not pray, if the father does not pray, if the mother does not
pray five times a day, how can they encourage their children to
offer the Salah and it will be clear hypocrisy and NIF arc for
the parents for the father and mother to encourage their children
to offer the salah whereas they themselves do not pray five times
a day or they do not offer every single pray on his time. That is
why this is one of the greatest responsibility.
Then Imam interview Rama Allah. He quoted the hadith of Abu Hurayrah
of the Allahu Taala who says
I'm Fidel Hassan Abu Ali and not the Allahu Taala on Houma Tama
Ratan min temporary sadaqa Fauja Isla fee fee for father Rasulullah
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam cough cough. It may be her Amma alimta
and na learner Kulu sadaqa with the Falkland Islands The hadith is
reported by Imam Al Bukhari and Imam Muslim Rahima whom Allah on
the authority of Abu Huraira the Allahu Taala and who says that his
son the son of Ali, Radi Allahu taala, on Houma, the grandson of
the Prophet sallallahu Sallam Hudson, are the Allahu taala. And
he was a young child.
He
grabbed a date from the dates of the charity. So there were some
dates given in charity, and he picked up one date. And as soon as
he placed in his mouth, the Prophet sallallahu wasallam saw it
and he Salah Salam said cough, it may be hard, leave it, leave it,
throw it away, throw it, don't eat it, in Alanna Kulu sadaqa for
verily, We the family of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi salam, we do not
eat sadaqa we do not eat charity.
Another version of the Hadith says that the Prophet sallallahu sallam
said Lada Hallo Lana sada in NA, Allah Mohammed, learn Kulu Sadako
Allah Hey, Lulu, Anna sadaqa we the family of Muhammad Sallallahu
sallam, that charity is not permissible for us. It is not
halal for us.
And there are many reasons for that. And one of them is that the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that a sadhaka the
charity in nama here I will sell foreigners. The charity is the
dirt of the people.
And that is why Allah said in the Quran for mankind Vernian folia
staff if whoever is independent, whoever has enough wealth, to stay
away from charity, he must stay away from charity. The charity
becomes Halal only for those who are in need of it. And those who
are not in need of a meaning those who are not poor and needy. It is
not permissible for them. And it is not for them because it is the
dirt of the people.
And that is not permitted.
suitable for other than poor people and for them it is Hala.
Because this one Allah subhanahu wa taala said in the Quran so
because it is the dirt Rasulullah sallallahu sallam said we the
family of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, a halal bait,
the best of the households. Allah subhanho wa Taala ever created as
Allah says in the Quran. In nama UD doula holy util he Bancomer
register and elbaite. While you are here, welcome to Hira. Allah
says at the beginning of the 22nd Joseph SatoLA hijab Allah says
addressing the household and the family, and the wives of the
messenger salAllahu alayhi wasallam in nama UD doula and the
Unibanco moonridge Allah subhanahu wa taala intends to remove all
types of impurity and dirt from you, while you're taught here are
committed to who you are. And Allah subhanho wa Taala intends to
purify you with complete purity.
And Allah will bathe the family and the household of Rasulullah
sallallahu alayhi wasallam they have a special status within the
deen of Allah within the religion of Allah azza wa jal aalegra. That
is why charity is not or was was not permissible for Rasulullah
sallallahu alayhi salam, it was not permissible for the family of
Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam for the wives and the children and the
grandchildren of of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. That
is why our mother I shadowed the Allahu Taala on her. She reported
many Hadees
that the House and the family of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam sometime they would suffer from hunger for many weeks, but
they would never back. They would never ask for charity, they would
never accept charity, because it is was something that was not
permissible for them.
And this is obviously because of the high status, they had to
suffer. They had to suffer and because of that Allah subhanahu wa
taala raised the rank. So the reason that Imam another way
Ramallah quoted this hadith in this chapter is to show that the
head of the household is responsible for the upbringing of
their children. And also he's responsible to make sure that
those who are under his care, they consume Halal wealth and halal
drinking and eating
and they consume halal food well, although the date itself is halal,
but when the date comes from the charity, it does not it is not
halal for the family of Rasulullah Salah listen, and the Prophet
sallallahu Sallam when he saw Hassan of the Allahu Taala and who
that he had placed a date in his mouth he did not ignore it, he did
not say it is okay is a little child is not going to be held
accountable before Allah He has not reached the age of puberty It
is okay. No, rather he stopped him they they said there may be ha
throw it la Nakuru sadaqa we the family of Mohamed Salah Salem we
do not eat and it is not permissible for us. Which shows
that when it comes to therapy, and upbringing, the children, the
parents must not ignore their mistakes. They are ways of
correcting their mistakes, it does not mean that you you know that
you hit them that you shout at them all the time. No, rather, you
explain to them as the prophets Allah Allah and Islam explained to
her some of the Allah Hutan he explained, he did not say throw
away and he did not say why did you eat the date of the of the
charity, and he did not hit him did not shout at him. Rather, he
said throw it and he gave the reason for that. And he explained
it. And he explained to her son of the Allahu Taala and he said
because this data is from the charity and the charity is not
permissible for us. So this is how the parents need to give the
therapy to the children do not ignore the mistakes. And it also
shows that it is the responsibility of the head of the
household to make sure that his children always consume halal food
and it is his responsibility to earn halal for them and to feed
them halal.
And just say imagine if the head of the household does he himself
does not earn halal, how can you encourage his children to consume
halal
and what kind of impact the Haram welt will have on the Tobia and on
the upbringing of the children
And this is one of the reasons unfortunately that we see
nowadays, that many parents they complain. They complain about the
disobedience of their children and they never pay attention to the
earning. If the earning is haram, they earn money from cheating from
lying. from haram means and then you earn that money you buy the
food and you feed that food to your children. How can we how can
you expect them to you know, how can you expect them to obey you
and obey Allah subhanahu wa.
If you truly want your children, to stay obedient to first and
foremost Allah azza wa jal and Crom the Prophet sallallahu Sallam
and to you as a parents, then this is one of one of the obligations
you have which is that you earn halal for them and you feed them
halal.
Even if it is little, they will be baraka and they will always be
blessing from Allah subhanahu wa taala in little and don't strive
for owning a lot and you cross the boundaries of Islam and you end up
earning haram or you're mixing halal and haram together in order
to keep your children happy.
Well, Allah He if you if you feed your children with something
little, but it is pure and halal. And you explain to them that no,
this is the reason that you are having only enough food to fill
your bellies. And this is why because Allah subhanahu wa taala
has ordered us to stay away from haram. Because if we consume
haram, our worship will not be accepted by Allah. If we consume
haram it will have negative impact and effect in our lives. If you
explain to your children that way, and then you strive for halal,
then Allah subhanho wa Taala will place Baraka in their life, in
your provision as well. And then you will see that they remain
obedient to you and to the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam, and they
will remain obedient to Allah subhanho wa Taala and then they
will remain connected to the deen of Allah, Allah will generally
bet if you miss this point, if you ignore it, then no matter what you
do, there will be a point in their life, when you will have to suffer
from the disobedience of your children.
Because you as a father in first place, you as a mother in first
place, have not encouraged them to be content and satisfied with
little halaal.
And if you yourself, if you are not you if you yourself are not
content to be the little halal. How can you give that a beer to
your children? So Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did
not ignore the action of hustler the Allahu Taala and who rather he
sallallahu alayhi salam stopped him there and then and then he
explained him and he did not allow him to consume even one single
date of charity which was not halal for him. Radi Allahu Taala
the next hadith is the hadith of
Abu Hafs Rama bin Abi Salama, Radi Allahu Taala and
Omar bin Abi Salama
was a young child who was under the care of Rasulullah sallallahu
ala Sena.
You remember, I think last week or week before we mentioned briefly
about the story of Abu Salah and Omar Salama about the Allahu Taala
and Omar
Abu Salama, was the husband of OMA selama both of them they were more
hygiene. They migrated from Makkah and to Madina, Munawwara for the
sake of Allah subhanho wa taala. And they had to sacrifice they had
to sacrifice literally everything, the land, the family, the
relatives, the house, the wealth, everything in order to save the
religion.
And then
short while after the migration, I will sell them out of the Allahu
Taala and he passed away. That almost Salah model the Allahu
Taala Anna and she became widowed of Abu selama and the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam taught her specific DUA and then when she
completed
100 which is four months and 10 days for widowed, the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
sent her a message that he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam wants
to marry her and she accepted that. So almost Salama Radi Allahu
taala. And her then she became the wife of Rasulullah Salallahu Salam
and she had children. And one of those children was Omar
Omar bin Abby Salem. So he was in the care of Rasulullah sallallahu.
So you which is known as Robbie Robbie boo Rasulullah sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam. So a young child, an orphan who was under the
care of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. He says, Come to
Willem and fie Hijri Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam it was a young
boy, under the care of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and
the Prophet sallallahu Sallam obviously he understood his
responsibility to upbring Omar Radi Allahu Taala and Omar bin Abi
selama. And the Prophet sallallahu Sallam gave him the best Serbia.
So he Omar bin Abi Salah model the Allahu Taala and OMA he himself
reports he says,
Once I was sitting with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam for a mean, what kind of to get the tissue for Safa. And my
hand was wandering about in the dish. We had a dish. We were
having meals together, and I was picking the food from all
different corners of the dish.
For holily, Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi salam said to me, and the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam.
Now this is this is the Obeah this is part of Serbia. The Prophet
sallallahu sallam said to him yah hoo Lam some Mala Tala or young
boy, begin your fee your food by naming Allah subhanho wa taala,
say Bismillah at the beginning. And then he said, What call will
be Yemeni. And he always eat with your right hand. And then he said,
we'll call me Malik, and eat from what is near to you.
And this has become part of the Sharia. This is the tarbiyah that
Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam has given to the child.
And it is for us as a parents to teach this lesson to our children
and it is for us as well. So when we sit together, and we have food,
and a big platters, for example, then you share the food with other
people say they are five, six people all together, eating from
one platter, then every one of them has to eat from what is near
to him.
And this is from the etiquettes of the bomb advocates of the food. So
here the point is that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam again,
did not ignore Omar Omar bin Abi Salama saying that he is a young
child it is okay. When he grows up, then he will learn himself all
these men are no no no. Rather, the tarbiyah is given to the
children at very young age.
And,
you know, when you need to teach your children from very young age
as soon as they are able to drink and and feed themselves. The child
is very young. And the child is able to hold the food in his hand
when her hand. At that point, the parents have the responsibility
and duty towards that child, to teach them and to encourage them
to grab whatever they want to eat or drink from their right hand
with the right hand and don't ignore it.
How many times I have seen young children eating or drinking with
the left hand in the presence of the Father and Mother and they
don't.
The father and mother they never stopped them then they never asked
them or advise them not to eat and drink from the left hand. We as
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam said,
Eat and drink with your right hand and never use your left hand for
shaytaan eats and drinks with his left hand.
To take this matter, this matters seriously. Don't ignore it. And if
you don't, if you don't advise if you don't teach your children
these these kinds of etiquettes at a young age they will grow up
And then they will adopt the habit of eating and drinking with the
left hand
and left hand is used by shaytaan Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam did
not allow it, our religion does not allow it in any circumstances,
unless you cannot raise your left and your right hand, if you cannot
raise your right hand and if you don't have, you have problem in
your right hand and you can hold and grab anything with your right
hand, this is the only exception then you have no have no choice
but to use your left hand Other than that, whenever you eat or
drink, you must use your right hand.
And also, whenever you eat and drink, say Bismillah
mentioned the name of Allah subhanahu wa taala and call me
Malik and eat from what is near to you. Okay, it applies to a food or
meal when you're having meal together in one big platter or big
pot. And it also applies when you are sitting on a table, then you
should try to eat and eat the food and get the foods only the food
that is near to you. You don't have to go that way and this way
and making all these funny actions. No, this now from the
man's the believer is content with what Allah whatever Allah
subhanahu wa taala has provided? Yes, there is no harm in asking
someone sitting around the table to pass on the food to you. If it
is easily accessible, it is permissible. But if not, then
don't become wild on the table. rather learn the etiquettes remain
within the boundaries of the Sharia in Islam. And this is best
teachings of Rasulullah sallallahu ala Heusen Samila what could we
emenike Well call me Malik name Allah subhanahu wa taala say
Bismillah e TT with your right hand and eat from what is near to
you.
Then the next hadith
is the hadith of amor been sure I've and I've been injured the
hammer being sort of the Allahu Taala and who who says, Kala Rasul
Allah He sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the messenger of allah
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, mu Allah the Combi Salah womb a
burner will serve very soon in order advice instruct your
children to offer the salah
when they have reached the age of seven when they are 70 years old,
start
teaching them how to offer the salah encourage them instruct them
which also means that you teach them how to offer the salah what
booty boo hoo Miley her home Obinna washer and discipline them
and sometime this word is you is translated as strike them if they
do not offer the salah once they have reached the age of 10
it is explanation for that. Because nowadays anything can be
taken out of context. Okay? You must be aware that you know
someone from those who hate the religion of Allah. They took a
short clip of mine a few weeks ago from 45 minutes lecture only 20
minutes, a 22nd clip and they get it viral on the social media and
people on wild on that Oh, Imam is preaching this and that
unfortunately, okay. And the hate is all the haters of Islam, the
God together without verifying without looking at the context and
this context and we must learn the deen of Allah Subhanallah first
and foremost, we must mean bear in mind that we are living in the UK
and we have to abide by the law of the country. Okay, this is the
first thing and the second thing is when it comes to the deen of
Allah, we cannot be apologetic. Rather, this is part of our iman.
This is what Rasulullah Salam has taught us we cannot deny it. It is
part of the religion it is part of the statement of Rasulullah Salah
Zina and the prophets Allah Salam has said what do you boo whom
Allah whomever now Asha, strike them, if they do not pray when
they have reached the age of 10?
Yes, there is explanation there is context for that. What is the
context? Remember, look at the Hadith. You can't take the
statement or this wording of the Hadees out of context, ignoring
the first part and the end part of the Hadith
and only those who have
no ill intention or those who have hatred towards the deen of Allah
or towards the statement of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam they
can do so. As for the true believers, they always try to
understand the Hadith and the text of the ayat and the Quran and the
Hadith of the prophets of Salaam in the right context. Here, let's
pay attention to the to the context the context is what
Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam ordered the parents first and
foremost Moodle Allah the Combi Salah at home abna Or Sabri seen
in order your children to offer the salah when they reach the age
of seven, from the age of 789 10. Three years, three years have been
given to the parents to teach their children salah.
Everything about salah the names of the prayers further God as a
matter of Asia, the number of records of each pray the Sooners
attached to each Salah what is to be recited in the position of Yom
ruku due to childhood. What is What are the words about of the
Salah. And in addition to all of that, they have to encourage them
to offer the Salah, explaining them to the benefit of offering
the Salah and explaining them the dangers and the harms of
abandoning the salah. explaining all of that. And on top of all of
this, the parents themselves as he just said, parents themselves,
they themselves have to be regular in their five daily prayers. This
Imagine if the parents strive and struggle for three years to teach
the young children about salah and why Salah because we as a Muslim
we believe that the most important act of acts of worship within the
deen categorically nothing is more important than Salah in religion.
You name anything.
Your charity you Allah, your mannerism, whatever you say
anything and everything comes after salah. Except the tornado
Falah your iman and believe as soon as you enter in the form of
Islam, nothing at all is more important than salah. That is why
the children don't have to offer the salah and the parents don't
have to ask their children too fast when they are in the age of
seven. They don't have to ask them to give in charity when they are
the age of 789 10. When it comes to hajj and umrah they don't have
to do is but when it comes to Salah first and foremost, this is
the responsibility of the parents.
And just imagine if the parents have fulfilled their
responsibility.
If the father and mother both they have fulfilled their
responsibility to first and foremost offer the salah
themselves, every single pray offering at its time not delaying
not showing any kind of negligence or laziness or carelessness
towards the salah. And they themselves have expressed the
strong love for Salah and they know everything about salah and
then they pass it on to their children, then they have given the
duration of three years with ample time, enough time for them to see
the children and then when the children have reached the age of
10. Now, it means that they have tried their best and they have
fulfilled all those responsibilities, as he just
mentioned. And now very, very rarely you find a child who needs
to be disciplined at the age of 10.
But just imagine if the parents themselves, they do not offer
their prayer time. They themselves do not know how to offer the salah
according to the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, they
themselves do not know the words they bought and the foreign aid
and the Sunnah of the Salah. They themselves do not know they do not
they never trying to learn about salah Okay, which means that they
themselves in first place have not fulfilled their responsibility and
their duty. In this case, they have no right whatsoever to strike
their children in any form. Why? Because they have not fulfill
their responsibility.
Secondly, when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said
what would he boo hoo Miley? Ha. This is not a commandment that the
parents
have to do. Rather, this is something that the Prophet SAW
salem said this is something that is permissible in order to
discipline your children, you may strike them. And this is something
that is permissible within the Sharia. It does not mean that you
have to apply it, you have to apply every time in every way. No.
for things that are permissible within the deen of Islam. There
are times and there are places
the parents who live those who live in those countries where this
these kinds of punishment is permissible, they may choose this
option as one of the many options. But for those who live in a
country where this kind of punishment is prohibited, then
obviously it is not advisable because you will be putting
yourself into bigger trouble. So what's the point? For a parent or
for the father and mother to strike rest of the life the child
is ruined and you have ruined the life of the children. Because of
that, you have to use your mind. You have to use your Heckman
wisdom.
Okay, but as he said, despite explaining all this context, the
haters can always take this little bit from the lecture and they can
say the Imam is preaching that the parents should strike their
children. Okay, as you said, this the wording of the Hadith, the
prophet Salah Salem has allowed it something that is permissible
within the deen it has time it has its time it has this place to
practice wherever it is not possible. And it can cause problem
for you. You must refrain from it and there are many other ways of
discipline of disciplining your children. But Rasulullah
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the main point in this hadith is that
the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam is has instructed the parents to
realize their responsibility towards the children when it comes
to connecting them to Allah subhanho wa taala. This is the
responsibility of the father and mother.
No matter how good UCLA you teach your children, what kind of
behavior you teach your children.
If they behavior towards ALLAH, if they attitude towards Allah
subhanho wa Taala is not sorted, then nothing can really help them
and nothing is again going to save you from the punishment of Allah
Azza wa Jalla lucra. It is your responsibility to connect your
children to Allah who will challenge the crop from the very
young age
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Yes, from the Exactly. So from the sunny to you need to teach your
children from the young age and as a parents you must realize this
responsibility that Allah subhanahu wa taala Allah subhanahu
wa taala has placed on your shoulders. May Allah will Jerry
kromm Give us all faith and ability to realize our duties
towards Allah subhanho wa Taala first and foremost, our duties to
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam, our duties towards our
parents and our children, our family, and may Allah subhanahu wa
taala help us to fulfill our responsibilities and our duties
will generally economy Allah subhanahu wa taala give us all
fees and ability in the host community Subhana Allah Mohammed
Asha to Allah Allah land