Zakaullah Saleem – 80 Riyad asSalihin

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The speaker discusses the responsibility of men in the world and the history of the Prophet's (the) Islam. They stress the importance of fulfilling obligations and responsibilities, including attending church and preventing anyone from entering the house. They also mention the authority of a woman in respect of her husband and her children.

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			Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim Al
hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa
		
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			O'Loughlin 13 salatu salam ala
Rasulillah Karim while earlier he
		
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			was sobbing ah mine my bad.
		
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			Bible help me Zoji la mala God
Allahu Taala region or a wa Munna
		
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			Island is
		
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			female football a lot of outdoor
Humala about what Bhima and focu
		
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			mean I'm wildly him.
		
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			Well, Mila Hadith I mean, her
Hadith Muhammad evening was
		
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			savagely filled by being popular.
And I'd be okay with that. All the
		
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			Allahu Anhu on our level Sula, he
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that
		
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			are few Rewi at the level made
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			ferocious oh gee ha Alana Talia
Mala Iike to Hatha dose,
		
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			or fee rewire kala Rasulullah
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam one
		
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			leadin fcbd mom in LA Julian
gadroon burrata who elaphiti rashi
		
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			Fatah abhaile Illa cannula the
free summer in Southampton, highly
		
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			her Yoruba and
		
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			this is a chapter 35 of the book
radical Salah Hain title help Zoji
		
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			I'll mark
		
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			the right or the rights of the
husband over the wife.
		
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			Last week, we talked about the
rights of the Y over the husband.
		
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			And we mentioned details the
rights of the wives over the
		
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			husband according to the ayat of
the Quran, as well as the hadith
		
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			of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi
wasallam, such as the famous
		
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			Hadith in which the Prophet
sallallahu sallam said hi Eurocom
		
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			hydro calmly. Lee were Anika
Eurocom leave early the best
		
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			amongst you is the one who is best
towards his own family. And when
		
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			when we say a hill, the first
person who falls within a hill is
		
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			the wife and he Salah salem said
we're Anika Eurocom Li Li and I'm
		
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			best amongst you all towards my
own family. That is why we say
		
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			that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam was the best husband and
		
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			he was the best father to his
children. So he was sallallahu
		
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			alayhi wa sallam a role model in
every single aspect.
		
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			So, when Allah subhanahu wata
Allah and the Prophet sallallahu
		
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			alayhi wa sallam ordain the right
of the wives over the husband the
		
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			same way. Allah and His Messenger
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
		
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			ordering the rights of the husband
over the wife as well
		
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			as usually a moment Nobita him a
whole lot begins this chapter by
		
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			quoting the idea from certain Nisa
in which Allah subhanho wa Taala
		
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			says, or deja vu Khawaja Munna
Island Nisa, men are responsible
		
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			over women.
		
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			They are gay takers of women. They
are maintainers of women. Be ma
		
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			football Allahu bah bah whom Allah
about and then Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			taala gives the reason for that.
Why the men, they are caretakers,
		
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			why they are responsible over
women, because of two reasons.
		
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			First one is Mima furball Allahu
Akbar, Allahu Allah about because
		
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			Allah subhanho wa Taala is the one
who has given men preference over
		
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			women.
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa taala give them
preference over women in the
		
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			body, in the energy in the ability
in their capability, because they
		
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			are things that men can only do
women cannot do.
		
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			And then Allah subhanahu otile
also said why Bhima and Falco men
		
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			and why to him and the second
reason for that is that men are
		
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			responsible for spending over the
women. They are the ones who are
		
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			responsible, not women, women are
not responsible for earning, they
		
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			are not responsible for spending.
Rather, this is the responsibility
		
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			of the men. So because of these
two reasons, Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			taala has made men responsible.
And obviously with responsibility
		
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			comes authority as well.
		
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			A manager in a company in
organization who has the
		
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			greater responsibility. He has
authority also, how can a person
		
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			has a responsibility without an
authority? The bigger
		
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			responsibility the bigger
authority.
		
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			Allah subhanahu wata Allah has
taken upon Himself the
		
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			responsibility of providing
everyone has Allah says one
		
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			moment,
		
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			fill out the Allah Allah Allah He
this. There is no creature on this
		
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			earth, except Allah subhanahu wa
taala has taken the responsibility
		
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			upon himself to provide for them.
Real Allah has taken the
		
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			responsibility he has the
authority as well. So with
		
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			responsibility comes authority.
So, unfortunately, nowadays we
		
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			find people, the haters, the
haters of the deen of Allah, the
		
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			haters of Islam, they take these
kinds of ayat out of context and
		
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			they start criticizing the Quran
the book of Allah and object to
		
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			the Hadith of the Prophet
sallallahu Salah to the level that
		
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			out of the hatred, the end up
burning the Quran,
		
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			the end up cursing the Prophet
sallallahu sallam, the end up
		
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			making the cartoons of the Prophet
sallallahu Sallam because of what
		
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			not that they are very noble
people within the society. They
		
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			are the hate preachers, they
themselves are the hate preachers
		
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			and they are the ones who preach
hatred within the society and they
		
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			take these kinds of ayat and
Hadees out of context.
		
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			So Allah subhanahu wa taala simply
said in this area or region or a
		
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			wa Munna Island, these men are
caretakers, they are responsible,
		
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			and when a husband has the
responsibility to earn and to
		
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			provide for his family for his
wife and children, then obviously
		
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			he has the authority as well,
which does not mean in any formal
		
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			shape, that he has a power to the
level that he can do whatever he
		
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			wants, without consulting with his
wife without having sure our
		
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			consultation with the children no
this not this, this does not mean
		
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			any form of shape. But again, I
give you an example of a company
		
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			and organization in any
organization in any company you
		
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			cannot have two boss or two
managers with the same authority
		
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			and with the same responsibility
because this this is something
		
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			that is against the nature. The
Deen of Islam is the dean of
		
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			nature and fedora Fedora to Allah
Hila T Fedora NASA Alia
		
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			Can you give any single one single
example of any company or any
		
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			organization, any country where
you have two people at the same
		
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			level with the same authority with
the same responsibilities in a
		
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			country you cannot have two prime
ministers in a country you cannot
		
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			have two presidents
		
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			in a country you cannot have two
ministers at the same level
		
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			in any company in any
organization, you cannot have two
		
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			managers exactly with the same
responsibility and same authority.
		
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			Why?
		
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			When it comes to these kinds of
things, why do not bring up the
		
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			laws and the rules of equality?
Why do we not say no they should
		
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			be every single person within the
organization should be manager.
		
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			Why? Because this is something
that is against the nature, this
		
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			is something that does not work a
system cannot work.
		
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			So, there must be one person who
is responsible and one person who
		
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			has the final say the person who
has who has the who has the
		
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			authority to make a final decision
in organization for example, if a
		
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			charity in a charity, you have a
trustees and all the trustees are
		
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			responsible for the charity and
all of them they have the right to
		
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			vote, but it is a common close
within the charity law. That if
		
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			there is any conflict or if there
is disagreement amongst the
		
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			trustees, one person must have a
casting vote must have the
		
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			authority of the casting vote,
which means what that a
		
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			chairperson can make the final
decision. Can we say no? Why has
		
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			he been given the authority? No.
Because in order to run a charity
		
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			because in order to run
		
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			a company or any organization, one
person must be responsible for
		
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			making decisions
		
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			When we say a person or manager or
boss has the authority to make
		
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			decision, does it mean that he
does not need to consult with the
		
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			people below him or with his
employees? No, it doesn't this
		
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			does not mean in any formal shape,
rather, he has to work along with
		
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			them. But sometime there is
disagreement or there is need for
		
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			a person to have the authority to
make a decision. And exactly this
		
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			is what is applied in a household.
In order to run a household in
		
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			order to have a happy family, one
person must be responsible. And
		
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			who can that person be? Can that
be a wife, a woman? No, why?
		
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			Because she does not have the
responsibility to provide, she
		
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			does not have the responsibility
to protect the household, the
		
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			family, this is the responsibility
of the husband.
		
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			When husband has that
responsibility, then he has the
		
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			authority. That is where Allah
subhanahu wa taala set Vemma for
		
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			God, Allahu Bhaga, whom Allah
Allah subhanahu wa taala created
		
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			men with stronger ability and with
more energy than women.
		
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			And this is a fact no one can deny
this when it comes to worldly
		
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			matters. There are many things
that women cannot do.
		
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			There are many types of jobs and
paths that men can do, but women
		
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			cannot do.
		
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			Why? Because this is how Allah
subhanahu wa taala created them.
		
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			Likewise, Allah subhanahu wa taala
says, where we met and for whom,
		
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			and I'm worthy him,
		
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			the men they have the
responsibility to spend, and this
		
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			is an obligation, which means
what?
		
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			Again, in order to understand if a
manager or the person who is
		
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			responsible for an organization,
if he does not fulfill his
		
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			responsibility, Does he still have
the authority? No, he doesn't have
		
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			the authority he will be he should
be removed from that post, because
		
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			he's not fulfilling his
responsibility. Apply the same on
		
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			the husband. If the husband is not
fulfilling his responsibility, he
		
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			has no authority. When Allah
subhanahu wa taala and the
		
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			prophets, Allah Salim said that
the husband has authority, it
		
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			means that he has a responsibility
as well. If he fulfills his
		
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			responsibility, then he has the
authority if he does not fulfill
		
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			the, fulfill his responsibility,
then he has no right whatsoever to
		
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			say that I have the authority over
you, as my wife and I have
		
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			authority over my children, no, he
does not have that authority. And
		
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			it is a fact unfortunately, there
are some men out there who do not
		
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			earn they do not look after the
family, they do not look after
		
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			their wives, they do not look
after their children. And all they
		
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			do is to show as a boss, that I
have the authority, I am the head
		
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			of the household. So I you know I
have to order. This is this is
		
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			something that the religion of
Allah does not allow.
		
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			Last week we mentioned about the
rise of women, our men over men.
		
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			And we mentioned that the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam gave a
		
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			clear guidance to men, how to
treat the women. And there was a
		
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			hadith, in which the Prophet
salallahu Alaihe Salam when he
		
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			only saw towards salaam was
informed about men, who used to be
		
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			the women the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam when he heard
		
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			this he said Allah equalizer
periodical such people are not
		
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			good people.
		
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			He saw Selim explicitly said these
are not the good people who beat
		
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			their wives
		
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			when they do not fulfill their
responsibility. So it it comes
		
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			from those who hate the deen of
Allah subhanho wa taala. Those who
		
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			hate the Quran and the Sunnah and
the Hadith of Rasulullah Salam,
		
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			they are the ones who take these
ayat out of context. And then they
		
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			start criticizing and you know,
the deen of Allah and they end up
		
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			you know, preaching their hatred
within within the society. So
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa taala says,
we'll be Martin for who mean, I'm
		
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			one.
		
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			And then another point that we
need to also bear in mind that
		
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			when
		
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			a couple gets married, husband and
wife,
		
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			one of the basic or actually the
main
		
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			condition for any car to be valid
in Islam is the consent and
		
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			agreement of both groom and bride.
		
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			Meaning what? The both they accept
each
		
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			The as a husband and wife,
		
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			just by your title, no, with
responsibilities with
		
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			responsibilities, and this is what
we usually do when particularly
		
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			myself when I conduct an ICA, I
specifically asked the groom, do
		
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			you accept so and so, as your wife
with all the responsibility and
		
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			obligation that Allah subhanahu wa
taala has placed on husband and he
		
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			says yes,
		
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			as same applies to women as well,
when both of them they fall into
		
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			the agreement of marriage, and
they both agree that they will be
		
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			trying their best to fulfill their
responsibilities and obligation
		
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			towards each other, then after
that, if one of them does not
		
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			fulfill their responsibility, then
what happens? Now, obviously, it
		
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			leads to it leads to breakage of
the marriage, and this is when
		
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			people have all these type of
issues within within their
		
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			relationship, because they do not
fulfill their responsibilities.
		
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			So when both of them they have
accepted that they will fulfill
		
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			the obligations and their duties
towards each other. Now, it has
		
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			become forced upon them. Because
Nikka and marriage is a sacred act
		
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			within the deen of Allah.
		
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			It is not a simply worldly
agreement. Rather, With this
		
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			agreement, you have obligations
and FARA, as a husband and wife
		
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			towards each other. To the extent
that if you do not fulfill your
		
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			responsibilities, you will be held
accountable before Allah.
		
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			And this is a reason that the
scholars have said that Rasulullah
		
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			Salah Salem used to recite the
ayat in football harder in his
		
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			quote by the time of Nica, he
would include some verses from the
		
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			book of Allah azza wa jal, the
ayah from Surah Allah Imran
		
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			another ayah, from Surah Nisa to
ayat from SatoLA hisab. In all
		
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			these ayat one word has been
repeated again and again. And that
		
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			is none other than the word Taku
it tabula fear Allah, fear Allah
		
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			fear Allah, what is the purpose of
repeating this verse or this word,
		
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			again and again at the time of
Nica, it is to serve as a reminder
		
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			for both of them, that you are
going to fall in you are going to
		
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			sign an agreement, where you will
have responsibility and obligation
		
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			towards each other. And you have
to fear Allah with regards to
		
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			these responsibilities and these
obligations. And if you do not
		
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			fulfill your obligation, and if
you show any kind of negligence or
		
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			carelessness, you will be held
accountable before Allah. And if
		
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			marriage breaks, because of your
carelessness or negligence, then
		
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			it will not affect only you to
individuals, rather, it will have
		
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			great impact on to household.
		
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			And you will be responsible for
that.
		
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			So the point here is that when
husband and wife when they get
		
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			married, they sign an agreement.
And the agreement is what the both
		
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			of them they agree that they will
fulfill their responsibilities
		
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			towards each other. Now, what is
the responsibility of the husband
		
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			and what is the responsibility of
the wife.
		
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			As you mentioned previously, the
Hadith of the Prophet salallahu
		
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			Alaihe Salam have given the
details and we mentioned some of
		
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			them previously. And today, we
highlight the responsibility of
		
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			the husband, the husband has the
responsibility towards the wife.
		
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			Hence he has the authority
likewise, wife, she agrees at the
		
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			time of Nica that she will remain
wife, wife mean that she must
		
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			accept the decision of the husband
again, I repeat again so that no
		
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			one can take my statement out of
context, because this usually
		
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			happens because all of our
lectures are live broadcasted, and
		
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			live streamed. And some haters,
they take one single statement out
		
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			of context and say those look, the
Greenland Masjid an imam is
		
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			preaching hatred. Now, it will be
less than that. So, when wife she
		
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			accept the responsibility that she
will remain wife and she will
		
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			remain obedient to husband, it
means that she has accepted the
		
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			authority of the husband at the
time of Nica.
		
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			She has accepted
		
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			the same way. When you apply for a
job in a company, you accept the
		
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			authority of the manager.
		
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			You accept the authority of the
boss the same way why when she
		
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			signed the agreement, she accepts
the authority of the husband.
		
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			And when she accept that now she
has to fulfill that responsibility
		
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			towards him. And if she does not
do so, then she will be
		
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			sinful, exactly the way the
husband will be sinful if he does
		
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			not fulfill his responsibility. So
if you understand this context,
		
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			then we can look into the hadith
of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam
		
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			that Imam and Nova rahamallah has
quoted in this chapter, the hadith
		
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			of Abu Huraira, the Allahu taala,
in which he says that the Mercy of
		
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			Allah alayhi salatu salam said is
the our Raju nombre atta who Isla
		
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			Fiera she, when husband calls a
wife to his bed and she refuses
		
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			forbartha Vaudois Allah and he
becomes angry. And he's he's upset
		
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			with her. Lana tell Mala Iike to
Hata to the angels will be cursing
		
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			that wife until she wakes up in
the morning. Again, this is when
		
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			husband is fulfilling all of his
responsibilities and his duties
		
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			towards her and she's not
fulfilling her duties towards him.
		
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			Then this hadith will apply.
		
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			On the other hand, if husband does
not fulfill his responsibilities
		
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			towards his wife does have it does
he have authority to this kind of
		
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			authority? No, he doesn't have
		
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			in fact, in this case, will apply
other ayat of the Quran in which
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa taala said for
example, so to Bukhara for money,
		
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			tada Aleikum Fatah do Allah if
you've been with LaMotta Dalek,
		
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			whoever, whoever exercises
transgression against you, fighter
		
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			do either you had been with them
either the Alikum you have the
		
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			right to transgress against him in
the same manner.
		
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			Allah subhanaw taala has a lot to
weigh in our kaboom faki boo boo
		
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			Miss Lima, Ruthie, but don't be if
you when you punish, Allah says
		
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			punish, according or in the same
way as you have been punished.
		
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			Meaning if you have been
oppressed, then you have the
		
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			authority to defend yourself. If
someone comes to you, in order to
		
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			hit you and harm you, can you say
I'm not going to self defense? No,
		
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			you have the authority and while
defending yourself while defending
		
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			yourself, obviously you will have
to hit the person. Does it mean
		
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			that we are preaching hatred or
who will love me that this is
		
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			taking everything out of context.
So that is why Rasulullah
		
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			sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said
that this is the authority that
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa taala has given
to the husband. Next hadith is the
		
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			hadith of Abu Huraira, the Allahu
Taala as well, in which he says
		
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			that the Messenger of Allah alayhi
salatu salam said, Leia, hallo
		
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			Limra attain and assume was out to
her showerhead elaborate with me,
		
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			it is not permissible for wife to
observe a voluntary fast
		
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			without the permission of her
husband,
		
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			without the permission of her
husband. Why? Because cooperating
		
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			with the husband, fulfilling his
desire is the responsibility of
		
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			the wife. The same way it is the
responsibility of the husband as
		
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			well.
		
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			When he has this authority, then
she must not observe voluntary
		
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			force except with his permission.
So that if he allows then
		
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			hamdulillah because observing
voluntary fast is a voluntary act,
		
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			we as fulfilling his or her
responsibility towards the
		
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			husband. It is something that is
false. The responsibility is in
		
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			obligation. And the general ruling
within the deen of Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa taala is that the obligations
the Ferrara is take preference
		
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			over the voluntary acts. Likewise,
he saw Salam said wala then see
		
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			Beatty he a lovely evening. And
this is what you mentioned last
		
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			week as well in the part of the
Hadith, that it is not permissible
		
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			for a wife to allow anyone to
enter into the house of her
		
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			husband without his permission.
		
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			Obviously, just imagine a husband
who works he earns, he saved
		
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			money, he purchases a house or
even he does not purchase the
		
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			house. He's paying towards the
rent. He's responsible. He's
		
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			responsible for the provision.
He's responsible for production in
		
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			everything. And the wife inside
the house she allows anyone to
		
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			enter in the house.
		
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			How can a husband accept that?
		
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			Again, I give the example of a
company if you're working for an
		
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			organization in the company. As an
employee, you have to abide by the
		
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			rules and the terms and conditions
of your employment. You cannot
		
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			allow anyone to enter into your
office
		
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			You can't Why can you save? You
know? Why are you why are you
		
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			people? You know, closing keeping
your doors closed and you're not
		
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			keeping the office open all the
time? 24/7 is a public place No.
		
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			When it comes to the masjid, can a
person say why can't you leave the
		
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			doors of the masjid open? 24/7 We
can't. Why? Because the management
		
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			of the masjid they have the
responsibility to protect the
		
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			property of the Masjid.
		
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			So when it comes to the
responsibility, they have the
		
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			authority as well. They have the
authority to make the decision
		
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			what time to open and what time to
close.
		
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			And this country the Prophet SAW,
Selim said, it is not permissible
		
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			for wife to allow anyone to enter
into the house of the husband
		
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			without his permission. And this
will I mentioned previously, and
		
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			if there are people within the
relatives, or outside of the
		
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			relatives, who are causing
problems between husband and wife,
		
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			and it is a fact that no one can
deny there are people who do cause
		
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			problems between husband and wife
and they will they do interfere in
		
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			the marriage. And if they are
people like this, and husband does
		
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			not want them to attend his house
or to enter into house, then he
		
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			has the authority to stop it. And
to prohibit and she has the she
		
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			has the responsibility to obey and
listen and accept the decision of
		
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			the husband
		
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			at this scale, in this case, you
cannot say that she has the equal
		
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			rights, she has the equalizer. If
you say she has the equal rights,
		
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			then every single marriage will be
broken and unfortunate to certain
		
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			extent, it is what is happening
nowadays.
		
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			This is why this is one of the
reasons that we are witnessing
		
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			high ratio in divorce. Because
Because of these kinds of issues.
		
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			Now with the excuse of equality
and this and that Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa taala says, well, Hoonah
mithril la de la Neville maruf
		
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			that women has the right as the
husband have right?
		
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			As the as the husband have rights,
the women also have rights. So
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa taala says,
They have both of them. They have
		
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			rights, both of them they have
responsibilities, but one of them
		
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			must have authority over the
other. And it is husband who has
		
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			been given authority by Allah
subhanho wa taala.
		
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			The next Hadees Hadees Abdullah
have no matter the Allahu Taala
		
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			and Houma
		
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			who says that the Prophet
sallallahu sallam said could look
		
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			Qumran what could look who must
own arm camera Yeti, every single
		
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			one of you is a shepherd. We're
Kulu comas own Umbra Yeti and
		
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			every one of you is responsible
and you will be questioned with
		
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			regards to his responsibility
towards his flock. While ammirare
		
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			in the person who is in charge. I
mean, he is responsible in his
		
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			shepherd. What Roger Laura in Isla
alibi at a man is responsible for
		
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			his household, including his wife
and his children. While morale to
		
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			orange tune Allah Beatty's LG ha,
well, what are the and a woman is
		
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			responsible for the house of her
husband as well as the children.
		
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			And nowadays a very common
question. No, I think a couple of
		
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			weeks ago, and this mercy we
released a podcast with the title
		
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			I know if you have watched that,
do I have to cook the food? Do I
		
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			have to cook and clean? This is a
common question. Women ask
		
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			nowadays, you have to cook and
clean, okay? Just Just imagine if
		
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			you don't have to cook and clean.
So what is your responsibility
		
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			then?
		
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			What is your responsibility?
Husband has a responsibility to
		
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			earn he has a responsibility to
pay the bills. He has to he has a
		
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			responsibility to do shopping. He
has a responsibility to
		
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			everything. So what is your
responsibility?
		
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			Aloha to Raja tuna, Hala Beatty's
Oda. exclusively the prophets wa
		
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			sallam said, a wife is responsible
for the house of her husband. What
		
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			does it mean? She is responsible
for the house.
		
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			Let's take a minute and ponder and
reflect on this word. She is
		
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			responsible for the house of the
husband.
		
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			Whatever he is within the house,
she is responsible for cleaning.
		
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			She is responsible for cooking.
She is responsible for looking
		
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			after the children. She is
responsible. This is a clear
		
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			Hadith of the prophets of Allah
salah.
		
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			But if she wants to compromise on
her responsibilities, and husband
		
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			allows that then there is no
		
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			I'm in sharing the responsibility.
For example, if husband asked the
		
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			wife, to get a job, and to earn
and help him in covering the
		
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			expenses of the household, then
the husband has to take some of
		
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			the responsibility of the wife as
well. He has to take the
		
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			responsibility. It does not mean
that he has the authority to force
		
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			her to get a job to help him in
paying towards the bills and
		
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			everything. And in addition to
that, he leaves everything within
		
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			the household for his wife, no,
		
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			because if she's helping him, he
also has the responsibility to
		
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			help her as well.
		
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			But if both of them they stay
within their own remit, then they
		
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			both have the responsibility
towards each other, and they have
		
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			the right over Egypt.
		
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			So the Prophet sallallahu sallam
said, Allah Torah Arya Thun, Allah
		
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			beit is our jihad. Our Lady, a
woman wife is responsible for the
		
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			work for the house of her husband
and for his children for Kulu
		
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			Komarov in Wakulla como una Andhra
Yeti. So the conclusion is that
		
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			every one of you is a shepherd and
everyone has a responsibility.
		
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			May Allah subhanahu wa taala give
us all feet and ability to
		
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			understand our religion with
sincere and clean heart and may
		
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			Allah subhanho wa Taala allow us
to fulfill our obligations. First
		
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			and foremost was him who will
challenge you become as our
		
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			Creator our Lord who will
generically kromm And then towards
		
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			our NABI SallAllahu Sallam and
towards each other, towards our
		
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			spouses towards our parents,
towards our siblings towards our
		
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			children, and we will be held
accountable before Allah subhanho
		
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			wa taala. With all these types of
obligations and responsibilities,
		
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			may Allah subhanahu wa taala help
us May Allah give generic rom give
		
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			us the African ability no Simeon
curry Mujib Subhana, Allah will be
		
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			handed a shadow law either a land
or self