Zakaullah Saleem – 79 Riyad asSalihin

When glorifying Him whether Cara Wawa and then he advised his

companions and the audience and he does and he's Allahu Allah Salam

said Allah was to also be Nyssa it Hydra be way be kind and show

kindness and gentleness towards women for in Hoonah for in namah

Hoonah Iowa and in India calm for verily they are like captives with

you captives not in the negative term meaning that they are your

dependents because as a husband, you are responsible for them, you

are responsible for their provision, you are responsible for

the clothing, you are you are responsible for the accommodation

you are responsible for everything and which means that they are your

dependents. Lay certainly couldn't I mean, who knows? You do not own

anything from them.

In addition to this, what other than this Illa Tina before hit the

mobile unit? Yes. If they commit adultery and fornication, then

yes, then you have right against them for in fall for your own

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if they do so, then you as a husband, you have the authority to

separate your beds from them, what booty boo hoo Nagar ban via mobile

era, and then in this particular case, you can beat them, but it

has to be a light, beat light striking.

And sometimes, unfortunately, these kinds of ahaadeeth are taken

out of context, that look, the Muslims are promoting, you know,

beating women. But if you were to take the Hadith out of context, if

you read the context, the context is that if a wife committed Zina,

how can a man with a healer, bear this, this is something that is

unbearable, and even all and only in this case, the Prophet sallahu

alayhi wa sallam allowed husband to be the wife only in this

particular case, it does not reach which also indicates that there is

no any other reason, there is no any other reason for which a

husband can be the wife, this is down which is actually in in real

word, it is kind of crossing the boundaries.

So if the wife has broken the trust, she has completely breached

the trust between husband and wife and she has gone to that level two

that extreme that she has committed Zina with another man

then how can a husband bet only in that and in addition to that, even

in this case, the prophets of Assam said what do you boo hoo

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you can be them but with little striking, light striking.

Another Hadith says do not be them in a way that leaves any kind of

marks on wound on their body. Which means what? Very light just

to discipline them. And then he saw a Salam in addition that he

said for in Altona, calm fella taboo Allah in the city. And after

this after discipline them in Atlanta come if they obey you, and

they rectify, they acknowledge and they admit their mistake and they

rectify and they become obedient to you for that Abu Zubaydah, then

you do not need to find any other way to basically hate them or to

separate them. And then he saw Salam said Allah in Lancome Allah

and Isa a compact car. The prophets are Salam said you as

husbands you have a right

over your wives won in ESA eco Alikum haka, and your wives have

rights over you as well for help Coco la hin so you're right over

them is Allah you take in Photoshop calm Manta Cahoon wala,

you then Nephi beauty calm lemon Takara Hoon, that they do not

allow anyone to enter into your house. Someone that you do not

want them to enter, they do not allow them to enter your house and

they do not allow them to sit on your seats. Meaning that if

husband does not want anyone from amongst a usually it happens from

amongst the relatives, anyone from within the relatives to come into

his house, then it is not permissible for wife to insist on

that and to allow him or her to enter and again, we have you know,

we experienced these kinds of cases on a daily basis. The

husband says that my in laws they have a lot of interference in our

Marriage, if my in laws do not interfere, then we can have very

happy life. And unfortunately, it is a fact that the in laws, they

do interfere, sometimes a lot, they do go overboard, asking their

daughter all the time, how the husband was doing, and how he's

treating, if he has provided this and that, and then ties and

constantly. This is clear interference, which actually

damages the marriage. So if the husband says that I do not want my

in laws to come to my house in my absence, then the wife must accept

that in order to save the marriage, because for her, the

husband, it must be more important than the parents. She has left the

house of her parents, and now she has become dependent of her

husband, not the parents anymore. So who's going to provide for her

husband? Who is going to provide her accommodation? The husband,

who's going to earn for her the husband, not parents, not the

father anymore? Does it make sense? The husband earns the

husband, you know, provides her provides for her, and she does not

obey the husband and she obeys. And she listened to the father and

the mother.

to the level that it it damages the marriage.

That is why the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam said the husbands

right over the wife is that she does not allow anyone to enter the

house of the husband, anyone who the husband does not permits. He

does not allow. And then he Salah Salam said well Haku who naturally

come and the wives right women's right over you as the husband is

and to see no lie hidden fee kiss What in our time in that you do

your best when it comes to providing them the clothing and

the food.

So again, pay attention to the wording of the Hadith that the

Prophet SAW Selim did not say that they write upon you is that you

just simply provide for them know, provide them the best type of food

you can afford. The best type of clothing you can afford, the best

type of accommodation you can afford.

It is not that when it comes to hanging around your friends, you

go to restaurant and you choose the best restaurant and if your

wife asked you to have food, and she does not want to cook and you

say go and by fish and chips.

Now this is not the way you treat your wives.

That is why in the next Hadith

the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when he was asked and as an

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narrated by why we have been hired or the Allah Hutan who says

poultry Yara Sula, I said O Messenger of Allah ma hubco Zoda T

Aha, Dana ILA. What is the right of one of our wives upon him. He

said Allah is Salam said and tutori Maha is our time that you

feed her. When you feed yourself when our you eat. What Aksu her

Erector Set and you and you provide her the clothing whenever

you purchase clothing for you.

For yourself Wallah top dribble, watch and do not strike her on her

face, Wallah to publish, and do not avoid her. And do not say a

baccala kapa haka Allah that May Allah destroy you don't say these

type of words, wala Jor el fill bait and do not separate from her

except you remain within the house, meaning you may separate

you may become angry at you know, one of one of the matters but it

does not mean that you leave her and you leave the house and you

separate from her. Unfortunately, nowadays, you know, sometimes it

seems the other way around. The husband does not want to leave the

house, but she says you know you are kicked off you, you have to

leave the house, otherwise I'm gonna call the social services,

okay. But the advice of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam to the

husband is later in life will be that you do not leave you do not

separate from her except that you remain within the house.

Why? Because if you continue living together, living together,

then Allah subhanahu wa taala will somehow create the love and

affection within your hearts and you will end up making up but if

you separate with the whisper of shaitan that I need some space.

Okay, this is a common, you know, phrase nowadays, I need some

space. And what happens? The wife says I

Need some space, leave me alone for a couple of weeks. And then

the matter goes to beyond weeks, even months, and then even here,

and the end result is breaking the marriage. And this is something

that constantly we face.

You know, almost every day we hear these kinds of stories.

Either wife or husband says, you know, I need some space. Give me

Leave me alone for a couple of weeks. And then few weeks pass by,

and then they say no, no, I'm still not ready. I'm not yet

ready. So give me more time. A couple of months. I'm still not

ready. Okay. So how are you going to work on your marriage? Allah

subhanho wa Taala said in the Quran, that it is an obligation

upon husband, when he divorces his wife, that he is still responsible

to keep her within his house. Asking you who knows I mean, he's

who second to me what did he come? Then that I Allah subhanahu wa

taala says Latta de la Allah Allah und for but other than the camera

now to name him boo you to him while I wrote the first I have to

pull up. Allah says La to Kaduna mean booth in Do not kick them out

from your houses, wala Yahoo Rajan. And they themselves also

should not leave the house of the husband, even after first after

the first and the second divorce. They must continue living

together, because just by simply saying the word divorce or palak

does not mean that the marriage has come to an end. No, there's

still a chance for them to reconcile, to come together. There

is a period of ADA period. And the one of the reasons of the Edo

period on the wisdom behind the the period is so that they

continue living together, and then they may make up lataguri Lala

Josefa Alexandra, you never know that perhaps Allah subhanahu wa

taala creates something new for them. So they end up loving each

other.

And if this is the case after divorce, then what about the

separation without a divorce? And then we have people asking the

question, you know, I have lived separate from my wife for more

than a year. Does it count Talaq divorce Subhanallah such an

ignorant? You do not learn about your religion before getting

married. You do not learn about your responsibility after getting

married. You do not even learn about the rulings of divorce. You

live the life of ignorant and then you end up asking these kinds of

questions.

No,

come back to the deen of Allah subhanho wa Taala if husband and

wife they were to understand the responsibilities and and their

duties towards each other and they try their best to pay each other's

rights, and then they abide by the rules and legislation and the laws

of Allah subhanho wa Taala there will always be height. Why do we

have this high ratio of divorce nowadays? This is all because of

ignorance because of ignorance because of not learning and

seeking knowledge. Not learning the deen of Allah subhanho wa

Taala So anyway, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said

lotta jewel Illa filled bathe. If you want to separate from your

wife, you may separate your bed, you may separate the room but stay

within the house. And don't say I'm not going to eat the food that

you have cooked. I'm not going to, you know, do anything Well, I'm

going to leave the house. So I leave you and leave your children.

Now to build this not for you if you do that, it means that you

have neglected your responsibilities and your duties

towards her. Allah subhanho wa Taala says for him Sercombe ma

roof outer city you can be

either you continue living together in a good manner or you

separate in a good manner in between separation for a couple of

months, or even some time for years. This is something that is

not permissible in the deen of Allah to Jalal Rica.

The next hadith is the hadith of Abu Huraira the Allah Hutan who

says the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said

acmella Mina Iman Asana home Hello Paul.

The perfect

believer amongst the believer, in terms of his Iman is the one who

is best in terms of his o'clock and his manners. While he ought to

come here to come linezolid in and best amongst you are those who are

best towards their wives.

This is Hala. This is a very strict criterion

very strict

You know standard of you being good, you may be good you may be

considered someone you know, of good Allah good character amongst

your colleagues amongst your friends, other people within your

community, but when it comes to your wife, you do not treat your

wife, you know with kindness and gentleness and you do not pay her

her right you do not fulfill your responsibility towards her. Then,

according to the Hadith of the prophets, Allah Salam, you are not

a best person.

And we do have people within our community like this, when they are

around or with their friends, they are very kind hearted. But when

they are at home with their wives, they are the most arrogant people.

They are the brutal and you know, this is how they behave completely

changed. And they may blame the wife that because the behavior

changes because of the attitude and the behavior of the wife,

which can be true. But you need to remember the Hadith of the Prophet

sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, in the mouth of the holy cutman Lilla

a woman has been created from rib. And this is something that is a

principle that you need to remember from the right outset of

your marriage, that you cannot expect her to meet your needs and

your criteria and your requirements. 100% they will

always be deficiency and shortcomings from her and you have

to accept you have to accept it. So the Prophet salallahu

understand I'm saying to Seattle, calm Hello, calm Lindesay him the

best amongst you are those who are best towards their wives. In

another Hadith the Prophet SAW Allah Salam said hi Eurocom hydro

calmly Allah He were unafraid to calmly ally. The best amongst you

is the one who is best towards his own family, his own wife, and then

he said, Anna Eurocom Lee ugly, and I'm best amongst you all

towards my own family. Subhan Allah no doubt, the Prophet

sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was the best husband? Did he not have

any problem with his wives? At all? No, he did have. He did face

some time, issues and problems from his wives. The most beloved

of his wife's eye shadow the Allahu Taala she would sometime

become angry at the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam.

But did the prophets ever say you know you have left the fold of

Islam because you have become angry on the Messenger of Allah?

This something that is against you EMA? No, because in that

particular scenario, he was acting as a husband. So how you will come

what will come the early I'm best amongst you towards my own family.

So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is a role model, as a

husband as a father, and as a guide, as messenger sallallahu

alayhi wa sallam May Allah subhanahu wa Tada give us the

African ability to rectify our mistakes and may Allah subhanahu

wa Tada forgive us for our shortcomings. And may Allah will

Jenna NuCalm give us all feet and ability to follow the Sunnah of

the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in the whole Semyon Kirlian

Mooji further.

Yeah, brothers asked me a question with regard to separation without

divorce. Yes, there is one way but again, that is within the within

the limit or within the boundaries of Islam. That kind of separation

is permissible and that separation is called isla.

Isla, as Allah says in the Quran, Lila Xena you alone I mean, Nisa

in him that Rob Basu Autobots ashore, the maximum period that

husband and wife can separate from each other is formance. But there

are a number of things that we need to bear in mind in this

particular case. First of all, it is not for wife, it is not for

wife to separate. It is not hard, right? It is not for her to

separate and say to kick the husband out or say that I'm

leaving you and she goes back to her parents and she separates No,

this is not for her. This is for husband.

This is the light of the husband. They let you know you don't so

Isla is done by the husband. Ilan means basically to take an oath,

saying that I will not go near my wife for a certain period of time

and the maximum period

Yes, or the longest period that you permissible is our Battiato,

four months.

No more than that. So the fifth ruling with regards to Isla is

that if husband separates from the wife, and he decides to separate,

if he when he separated, if he defines no a time period, he says

I'm going to separate for four weeks or six weeks, then after six

weeks, he must come back, he cannot extend it, he must come

back. And if he separated without specifying any time, any duration,

then the maximum duration that is permissible for him to be separate

is former's after four months, he will need to be brought into the

court and then the judge must make decision asking him to either

continue with his marriage and living together or divorce the

wife and he cannot leave her like this as separate. So when I say

when I was saying about the separation and separation without

and unfortunately again, when it comes to the separation nowadays,

there's a common separation that we hear a lot nowadays, it's not

either your husband does not know and the wife she does not know and

these you know these this type of separation is not in accordance

with the ruling of our of the deen of Allah

so what the prophets Allah Salam, Salah, tahajjud, elaphiti Filby Do

not leave her except within the house. Yes. Even if it is argument

yes for temporarily for example, if there is heated argument

between husband wife, and one of them decides to leave, you know,

not for wife. If she leaves the house then it may cause bigger

problem is probably for husband to leave her alone. Say okay, I'm

going to leave the house and then we'll come back later. Yes, for

temporarily for a short period of time. Yes. For probably a couple

of hours. I was

set meaning as particularly we do you know, it indicates that you do

not spend the night outside the house. So it may be for a couple

of hours, but at night you must come back. Yes.

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