Zakaullah Saleem – 79 Riyad asSalihin
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The speakers discuss the use of mobile units in cases where spouses commit were not supposed to be in touch with them, and the importance of providing good food and accommodation to couples who are not supposed to be in touch with them. They stress the need to be mindful of the language used in these situations and emphasize the importance of separating from one's partner in marriage. The speakers also mention that divorce is a consequence of confusion and lack of knowledge, and that couples should not care about their partner's behavior or reputation. Finally, they emphasize the importance of being good in marriage and being a good husband.
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When glorifying Him whether Cara Wawa and then he advised his
companions and the audience and he does and he's Allahu Allah Salam
said Allah was to also be Nyssa it Hydra be way be kind and show
kindness and gentleness towards women for in Hoonah for in namah
Hoonah Iowa and in India calm for verily they are like captives with
you captives not in the negative term meaning that they are your
dependents because as a husband, you are responsible for them, you
are responsible for their provision, you are responsible for
the clothing, you are you are responsible for the accommodation
you are responsible for everything and which means that they are your
dependents. Lay certainly couldn't I mean, who knows? You do not own
anything from them.
In addition to this, what other than this Illa Tina before hit the
mobile unit? Yes. If they commit adultery and fornication, then
yes, then you have right against them for in fall for your own
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if they do so, then you as a husband, you have the authority to
separate your beds from them, what booty boo hoo Nagar ban via mobile
era, and then in this particular case, you can beat them, but it
has to be a light, beat light striking.
And sometimes, unfortunately, these kinds of ahaadeeth are taken
out of context, that look, the Muslims are promoting, you know,
beating women. But if you were to take the Hadith out of context, if
you read the context, the context is that if a wife committed Zina,
how can a man with a healer, bear this, this is something that is
unbearable, and even all and only in this case, the Prophet sallahu
alayhi wa sallam allowed husband to be the wife only in this
particular case, it does not reach which also indicates that there is
no any other reason, there is no any other reason for which a
husband can be the wife, this is down which is actually in in real
word, it is kind of crossing the boundaries.
So if the wife has broken the trust, she has completely breached
the trust between husband and wife and she has gone to that level two
that extreme that she has committed Zina with another man
then how can a husband bet only in that and in addition to that, even
in this case, the prophets of Assam said what do you boo hoo
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you can be them but with little striking, light striking.
Another Hadith says do not be them in a way that leaves any kind of
marks on wound on their body. Which means what? Very light just
to discipline them. And then he saw a Salam in addition that he
said for in Altona, calm fella taboo Allah in the city. And after
this after discipline them in Atlanta come if they obey you, and
they rectify, they acknowledge and they admit their mistake and they
rectify and they become obedient to you for that Abu Zubaydah, then
you do not need to find any other way to basically hate them or to
separate them. And then he saw Salam said Allah in Lancome Allah
and Isa a compact car. The prophets are Salam said you as
husbands you have a right
over your wives won in ESA eco Alikum haka, and your wives have
rights over you as well for help Coco la hin so you're right over
them is Allah you take in Photoshop calm Manta Cahoon wala,
you then Nephi beauty calm lemon Takara Hoon, that they do not
allow anyone to enter into your house. Someone that you do not
want them to enter, they do not allow them to enter your house and
they do not allow them to sit on your seats. Meaning that if
husband does not want anyone from amongst a usually it happens from
amongst the relatives, anyone from within the relatives to come into
his house, then it is not permissible for wife to insist on
that and to allow him or her to enter and again, we have you know,
we experienced these kinds of cases on a daily basis. The
husband says that my in laws they have a lot of interference in our
Marriage, if my in laws do not interfere, then we can have very
happy life. And unfortunately, it is a fact that the in laws, they
do interfere, sometimes a lot, they do go overboard, asking their
daughter all the time, how the husband was doing, and how he's
treating, if he has provided this and that, and then ties and
constantly. This is clear interference, which actually
damages the marriage. So if the husband says that I do not want my
in laws to come to my house in my absence, then the wife must accept
that in order to save the marriage, because for her, the
husband, it must be more important than the parents. She has left the
house of her parents, and now she has become dependent of her
husband, not the parents anymore. So who's going to provide for her
husband? Who is going to provide her accommodation? The husband,
who's going to earn for her the husband, not parents, not the
father anymore? Does it make sense? The husband earns the
husband, you know, provides her provides for her, and she does not
obey the husband and she obeys. And she listened to the father and
the mother.
to the level that it it damages the marriage.
That is why the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam said the husbands
right over the wife is that she does not allow anyone to enter the
house of the husband, anyone who the husband does not permits. He
does not allow. And then he Salah Salam said well Haku who naturally
come and the wives right women's right over you as the husband is
and to see no lie hidden fee kiss What in our time in that you do
your best when it comes to providing them the clothing and
the food.
So again, pay attention to the wording of the Hadith that the
Prophet SAW Selim did not say that they write upon you is that you
just simply provide for them know, provide them the best type of food
you can afford. The best type of clothing you can afford, the best
type of accommodation you can afford.
It is not that when it comes to hanging around your friends, you
go to restaurant and you choose the best restaurant and if your
wife asked you to have food, and she does not want to cook and you
say go and by fish and chips.
Now this is not the way you treat your wives.
That is why in the next Hadith
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when he was asked and as an
ex hadith is
narrated by why we have been hired or the Allah Hutan who says
poultry Yara Sula, I said O Messenger of Allah ma hubco Zoda T
Aha, Dana ILA. What is the right of one of our wives upon him. He
said Allah is Salam said and tutori Maha is our time that you
feed her. When you feed yourself when our you eat. What Aksu her
Erector Set and you and you provide her the clothing whenever
you purchase clothing for you.
For yourself Wallah top dribble, watch and do not strike her on her
face, Wallah to publish, and do not avoid her. And do not say a
baccala kapa haka Allah that May Allah destroy you don't say these
type of words, wala Jor el fill bait and do not separate from her
except you remain within the house, meaning you may separate
you may become angry at you know, one of one of the matters but it
does not mean that you leave her and you leave the house and you
separate from her. Unfortunately, nowadays, you know, sometimes it
seems the other way around. The husband does not want to leave the
house, but she says you know you are kicked off you, you have to
leave the house, otherwise I'm gonna call the social services,
okay. But the advice of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam to the
husband is later in life will be that you do not leave you do not
separate from her except that you remain within the house.
Why? Because if you continue living together, living together,
then Allah subhanahu wa taala will somehow create the love and
affection within your hearts and you will end up making up but if
you separate with the whisper of shaitan that I need some space.
Okay, this is a common, you know, phrase nowadays, I need some
space. And what happens? The wife says I
Need some space, leave me alone for a couple of weeks. And then
the matter goes to beyond weeks, even months, and then even here,
and the end result is breaking the marriage. And this is something
that constantly we face.
You know, almost every day we hear these kinds of stories.
Either wife or husband says, you know, I need some space. Give me
Leave me alone for a couple of weeks. And then few weeks pass by,
and then they say no, no, I'm still not ready. I'm not yet
ready. So give me more time. A couple of months. I'm still not
ready. Okay. So how are you going to work on your marriage? Allah
subhanho wa Taala said in the Quran, that it is an obligation
upon husband, when he divorces his wife, that he is still responsible
to keep her within his house. Asking you who knows I mean, he's
who second to me what did he come? Then that I Allah subhanahu wa
taala says Latta de la Allah Allah und for but other than the camera
now to name him boo you to him while I wrote the first I have to
pull up. Allah says La to Kaduna mean booth in Do not kick them out
from your houses, wala Yahoo Rajan. And they themselves also
should not leave the house of the husband, even after first after
the first and the second divorce. They must continue living
together, because just by simply saying the word divorce or palak
does not mean that the marriage has come to an end. No, there's
still a chance for them to reconcile, to come together. There
is a period of ADA period. And the one of the reasons of the Edo
period on the wisdom behind the the period is so that they
continue living together, and then they may make up lataguri Lala
Josefa Alexandra, you never know that perhaps Allah subhanahu wa
taala creates something new for them. So they end up loving each
other.
And if this is the case after divorce, then what about the
separation without a divorce? And then we have people asking the
question, you know, I have lived separate from my wife for more
than a year. Does it count Talaq divorce Subhanallah such an
ignorant? You do not learn about your religion before getting
married. You do not learn about your responsibility after getting
married. You do not even learn about the rulings of divorce. You
live the life of ignorant and then you end up asking these kinds of
questions.
No,
come back to the deen of Allah subhanho wa Taala if husband and
wife they were to understand the responsibilities and and their
duties towards each other and they try their best to pay each other's
rights, and then they abide by the rules and legislation and the laws
of Allah subhanho wa Taala there will always be height. Why do we
have this high ratio of divorce nowadays? This is all because of
ignorance because of ignorance because of not learning and
seeking knowledge. Not learning the deen of Allah subhanho wa
Taala So anyway, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said
lotta jewel Illa filled bathe. If you want to separate from your
wife, you may separate your bed, you may separate the room but stay
within the house. And don't say I'm not going to eat the food that
you have cooked. I'm not going to, you know, do anything Well, I'm
going to leave the house. So I leave you and leave your children.
Now to build this not for you if you do that, it means that you
have neglected your responsibilities and your duties
towards her. Allah subhanho wa Taala says for him Sercombe ma
roof outer city you can be
either you continue living together in a good manner or you
separate in a good manner in between separation for a couple of
months, or even some time for years. This is something that is
not permissible in the deen of Allah to Jalal Rica.
The next hadith is the hadith of Abu Huraira the Allah Hutan who
says the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said
acmella Mina Iman Asana home Hello Paul.
The perfect
believer amongst the believer, in terms of his Iman is the one who
is best in terms of his o'clock and his manners. While he ought to
come here to come linezolid in and best amongst you are those who are
best towards their wives.
This is Hala. This is a very strict criterion
very strict
You know standard of you being good, you may be good you may be
considered someone you know, of good Allah good character amongst
your colleagues amongst your friends, other people within your
community, but when it comes to your wife, you do not treat your
wife, you know with kindness and gentleness and you do not pay her
her right you do not fulfill your responsibility towards her. Then,
according to the Hadith of the prophets, Allah Salam, you are not
a best person.
And we do have people within our community like this, when they are
around or with their friends, they are very kind hearted. But when
they are at home with their wives, they are the most arrogant people.
They are the brutal and you know, this is how they behave completely
changed. And they may blame the wife that because the behavior
changes because of the attitude and the behavior of the wife,
which can be true. But you need to remember the Hadith of the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, in the mouth of the holy cutman Lilla
a woman has been created from rib. And this is something that is a
principle that you need to remember from the right outset of
your marriage, that you cannot expect her to meet your needs and
your criteria and your requirements. 100% they will
always be deficiency and shortcomings from her and you have
to accept you have to accept it. So the Prophet salallahu
understand I'm saying to Seattle, calm Hello, calm Lindesay him the
best amongst you are those who are best towards their wives. In
another Hadith the Prophet SAW Allah Salam said hi Eurocom hydro
calmly Allah He were unafraid to calmly ally. The best amongst you
is the one who is best towards his own family, his own wife, and then
he said, Anna Eurocom Lee ugly, and I'm best amongst you all
towards my own family. Subhan Allah no doubt, the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was the best husband? Did he not have
any problem with his wives? At all? No, he did have. He did face
some time, issues and problems from his wives. The most beloved
of his wife's eye shadow the Allahu Taala she would sometime
become angry at the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam.
But did the prophets ever say you know you have left the fold of
Islam because you have become angry on the Messenger of Allah?
This something that is against you EMA? No, because in that
particular scenario, he was acting as a husband. So how you will come
what will come the early I'm best amongst you towards my own family.
So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is a role model, as a
husband as a father, and as a guide, as messenger sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam May Allah subhanahu wa Tada give us the
African ability to rectify our mistakes and may Allah subhanahu
wa Tada forgive us for our shortcomings. And may Allah will
Jenna NuCalm give us all feet and ability to follow the Sunnah of
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in the whole Semyon Kirlian
Mooji further.
Yeah, brothers asked me a question with regard to separation without
divorce. Yes, there is one way but again, that is within the within
the limit or within the boundaries of Islam. That kind of separation
is permissible and that separation is called isla.
Isla, as Allah says in the Quran, Lila Xena you alone I mean, Nisa
in him that Rob Basu Autobots ashore, the maximum period that
husband and wife can separate from each other is formance. But there
are a number of things that we need to bear in mind in this
particular case. First of all, it is not for wife, it is not for
wife to separate. It is not hard, right? It is not for her to
separate and say to kick the husband out or say that I'm
leaving you and she goes back to her parents and she separates No,
this is not for her. This is for husband.
This is the light of the husband. They let you know you don't so
Isla is done by the husband. Ilan means basically to take an oath,
saying that I will not go near my wife for a certain period of time
and the maximum period
Yes, or the longest period that you permissible is our Battiato,
four months.
No more than that. So the fifth ruling with regards to Isla is
that if husband separates from the wife, and he decides to separate,
if he when he separated, if he defines no a time period, he says
I'm going to separate for four weeks or six weeks, then after six
weeks, he must come back, he cannot extend it, he must come
back. And if he separated without specifying any time, any duration,
then the maximum duration that is permissible for him to be separate
is former's after four months, he will need to be brought into the
court and then the judge must make decision asking him to either
continue with his marriage and living together or divorce the
wife and he cannot leave her like this as separate. So when I say
when I was saying about the separation and separation without
and unfortunately again, when it comes to the separation nowadays,
there's a common separation that we hear a lot nowadays, it's not
either your husband does not know and the wife she does not know and
these you know these this type of separation is not in accordance
with the ruling of our of the deen of Allah
so what the prophets Allah Salam, Salah, tahajjud, elaphiti Filby Do
not leave her except within the house. Yes. Even if it is argument
yes for temporarily for example, if there is heated argument
between husband wife, and one of them decides to leave, you know,
not for wife. If she leaves the house then it may cause bigger
problem is probably for husband to leave her alone. Say okay, I'm
going to leave the house and then we'll come back later. Yes, for
temporarily for a short period of time. Yes. For probably a couple
of hours. I was
set meaning as particularly we do you know, it indicates that you do
not spend the night outside the house. So it may be for a couple
of hours, but at night you must come back. Yes.
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