Yusuf Estes – Repeat For Better Understanding

			Bismillah Alhamdulillah you're watching way over Muslim defining the Muslim character. I'm your
host, Yusuf Estes. And for the next few minutes, we'd like to talk about the subject of the
teachings and sayings of Mohammed, peace and blessings be upon him to help define the Muslim
character, what is the behavior of a Muslim, and this is what we're going to be exploring. Now, in
this segment of our program.
		

			I want to begin by mentioning that Anna's may Allah be pleased with him, reports that whenever the
Prophet peace be upon him said anything, he liked to repeat his words, three times, so that the
meanings would be understood fully. And whenever he came upon a group of people, he would greet
them. And he would repeat this salutation three times.
		

			Now this is recorded in both Sahih Bukhari and Muslim. So therefore, we have no doubt whatsoever,
this is something very important that we should pay attention to. Very often people misunderstand
each other. And a lot of it has to do with our communication. Sometimes I say something, in my case,
I say something kind of fast. And then what happens is, you misunderstand or you didn't hear all of
it. So if I repeat it, then it makes it easier for you. For instance, if I want to give you
instructions about something, then it's rather important. It doesn't hurt to repeat it, will you
please go over there and shut off the microwave oven, please go over there and turn it off. The
		

			microwave oven needs to be shut off, please do that. And so this would be in the sooner or the way
of Muhammad to repeat what we're trying to get across to somebody. But especially when we're
teaching something in Islam, we like to repeat it. Sometimes when we're dealing with the Arabic
language, then when we say something, especially if you're not familiar with it, it could be
difficult for you. So this gives us a chance to hear it again. And then hear it again. And in
greeting somebody if you said Salaam Alaikum, salaam Aleykum Selam Aleykum. And then people feel
good look at this guy. He's really a happy person. He's given me salaams three times. And why are
		

			they called Sadam Rahmatullah? So this is a very good characteristic of the Prophet peace be upon
him something for us to learn, take benefit from it. The next thing that he talked about and
actually practiced himself, is the way that he delivered his speeches. Now, I meet a lot of the
youngsters who say, when I grew up, I would like to be a fatigued a person who gives the Juma hookah
or the Friday sermon. And if I'm going to do that, what are some of the things I need to know about
it? Well, the Prophet salallahu Salam peace be upon him talks about that, he says, and this is by
Henri Yasser, by the way, a very famous companion or Muhammad peace be upon him. He says that he
		

			heard the prophet of a loss of Atlanta with solemn, saying that to prolong the Salah, and shorten
the hook, but indicates religious knowledge of a person. So make your Salah long, and your sermon or
flipper short.
		

			Now, what we mean by this is that when the one who is speaking, gives a talk about Islam, he comes
to the point very, very quickly. And this is something that is indicative of a person who knows his
subject, he doesn't need a lot of verbiage he doesn't keep talking, and talking and talking, try and
get his point across. Because if he really knows his subject, he comes to the point captures your
attention, deliver the message, and then what go to the prayer and stand in the prayer and recite
long stories or verses from the Quran. And then this is a the best kind of sermon that there is, by
the way, we don't see a lot of that these days, I find even in my own foot, but sometimes that I'm
		

			talking a lot longer and praying a lot shorter than I really shouldn't be. But sometimes we feel
like we have to say more. We want this opportunity. We've got everybody together here in the Juma
clip, but let's keep going and going and going. But in reality, the shorter speeches have more
effect they really do. There's one of the teachings of Muhammad SAW Islam is just like that, listen
to this. Somebody went to Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him and he said, Tell me something about
Islam lit only you could kill me. And actually the word he said was dean, the way of Islam Tell me
something about the way of Islam that only you could tell me.
		

			Now, if somebody came to me and said that why would I be thinking a man could I give this guy a
speech, I could tell him this and I could say that and so and so and so. And others would say, Man,
I can speak volumes. Here's the guy's a walk in library could talk for the next three weeks, about
the private moment.
		

			allied with Salam answered this statement, this request from this man with a very simple small
expression. The man says, if I say something to me about this thing that only you could tell me,
look what he said, cool amantha Bella thermostat thing. And it means say,
		

			I put everything in the trust of a law. And then be steadfast on what you said.
		

			I want to repeat that, say, I put everything into the trust of the law, and be steadfast on what you
said. And according to the data we just heard, I'll repeat it again. Say, I put everything into the
trust of the law, and then be steadfast on what you said. What do we mean by this? Well, when a
person says, a shadow, la, la la la, I bear witness that there's none to worship, except the law.
That's a form of putting your trust into a law and you begin to worship Him alone, and nothing else,
worshiping the Creator, and not his creation. And so by putting my trust into a law like this, and
then being steadfast on that I have complied with this teaching Mohammed peace and blessings be upon
		

			him.
		

			I want to move to another subject. And this was something mentioned by his wife, the wife of the
Prophet Mohammed Salah later Salaam named Aisha, may Allah be pleased with her reports that she says
here, I have never seen the prophet of a law laughing, so much so that you can see deep down into
his mouth to this over. And he she said he used to only smile. And this is also nice to know that
the idea of this heavy laughter Ah ha ha ha ha that we see people doing is really not in the way of
the Muslim character. This we don't really find with Muhammad. And in fact, I recall another Hadith,
when he peace be upon him was passing by some people who were laughing like that they were laughing
		

			so hard. Oh, you know. And he looked at him real serious. And he said, you know, if you knew what I
knew, you would laugh less and cry more. So it's appropriate for Muslim to smile, as mentioned here,
but it's also appropriate for Muslims to control themselves, that we don't want to be out here.
		

			Like this, because this is really more like the way of a donkey brain than it is for the behavior of
a good human being. It's good to give a nice polite laughter to somebody say something funny, and
you can and something cute or comical, but to reserve ourselves. And this goes back to some of the
other teachings that we've been talking about as well. And this idea of being shy as a Muslim, and
being reserved, all of this is developing the good character of a Muslim.
		

			The next one we want to talk about here is on the authority of Abu huraira. And he says that he
heard the Prophet celebs and I'm saying that you should love someone
		

			to a certain degree in moderation. Because perhaps one day, you're going to have dislike for this
person. But you should also dislike a person with a certain moderation because someday, you might
find that this is somebody you love. Now, this is a very important statement here because we are
learning not to go overboard. It doesn't mean by the way that you shouldn't really love somebody
deeply. But to have moderation It is important. Because the real love that any Muslim should have
should first be for a law. Naturally, we love our mother. We love our sisters and brothers. And we
love our spouses, husbands and wives. Naturally, we love our children too. But still, when we're
		

			talking about a relationship with a friend or somebody we know and our everyday dealing with them.
We want to be careful not to make this a relationship where we're dependent or codependent on
somebody else. Now modern psychiatrists are telling us that's exactly true today, something that was
taught to us 1400 years ago. And here amazingly enough, this is what the psychiatrists are saying
the same thing. You don't want to become someone that's called codependent means that you don't have
anything if something happens to the other person. Many times we hear about somebody who's so much
in love with somebody that if they die or leave them or divorce them, that this person commit
		

			suicide. Well, this is way out of Islam. It's not acceptable whatsoever for a Muslim to do something
like that. Or they might even begin taking drugs or doing alcohol, any of these types of things, but
they said oh
		

			I lost the person I love so much, I can't stand it anymore, blah, blah, blah. And that's because
they did not adhere to what Muhammad says. And I'm Doris.
		

			Now, here's another teaching that I think all of us could take benefit from, especially these days
when there's so much rushing around hurrying to go here and hurrying to go there. Everybody seems to
be in this huge rush. Listen to this one.
		

			And this is on the authority above the live in the bass. May Allah be pleased when
		

			he says that when they were returning from arafat, during the hedge, that some of the people behind
the Prophet peace be upon him, were beating their animals and their cameras, trying to run faster
and faster and hurrying.
		

			So he pointed toward them with his whip, and he said, Oh, people proceed calmly. There is no virtue
in rushing. So what we learn from this immediately is that to be in a big hurry, is not what it's
all about. Of course, if you live in the West, you see this all the time, we have what we call rush
hour traffic, heard someone say, what do you call it rush hour, when you get into the traffic,
nobody can go anywhere it stopped.
		

			You see what happens when you hurry up too fast, you can't go anywhere. It's a very good point that
we're learning from our blessed Prophet 1400 years ago, Don't be in a hurry. Take your time, be
patient, and also have mercy for each other. We're going to wrap up this part of our program right
here and then come back right after these messages and learn more about the way of the Muslim in
defining the Muslim Bismillah Alhamdulillah. We're back and you're watching way of the Muslim
defining the Muslim character. We were talking on the issue of the importance of Muslim character as
regards the way that Muhammad peace and blessings be upon him taught us. We talked about being in a
		

			hurry rushing into things and taking our time or being polite and just, you know, following along
with things as they go, being a lot better than trying to rush, rush, hurry, hurry all the time. Now
we want them to go to the next topic. And that is that the Prophet peace and blessing be upon him is
reported to have said, and this is on the authority Babu Herrera, he said that whoever believes in
the law, and the last day, let him show hospitality to his guests.
		

			And he who believes in law on the last day, let him maintain good relationship with his relatives.
And whoever believes in the law in the last day to either say good things, or else remain silent.
Now,
		

			in another Hadith, teaching of Muhammad Salaam, it's reported that he says, Whoever believes in the
law on the last day should accommodate his guest, according to the guest rights.
		

			And then he was asked, What is the guest rights or profitable law. And he said, it is to accommodate
the guest for a day and a night. And hospitality extends for three days. And whatever is beyond that
is charity.
		

			Now, this is a very good teaching for us, when we start talking about rights. Because you see, Islam
comes with rights and limits. Now all of us are interested in rights. We talk about it all the time.
Human Rights,
		

			women's rights,
		

			grandparents rights, children's rights, we have people now talking about animals rights,
		

			even plants rights. But did you know that these rights have been covered in Islam 1400 years ago,
we're only referring referring to a small part of that when we talk about this today, but in Islam,
it goes very deep about these rights, and what the limits are, what we're interested as a human
beings, what's my rights, but we don't care about the limits as long as I get what I want. But the
limits means that this is where it stops. You can have this to a point and then it stops. Let's take
an example. Something that came with all the profits, and nothing new when it comes in Islam, is
that the monotheistic religion of Islam is teaching, you don't eat pork, you don't eat the meat of
		

			the pig. We learned from this immediately that we have rights had the right to eat a lot of things.
But then there's this limit. Certain things that we don't eat same withdrawal
		

			You can drink anything except don't drink alcohol. And these are the limits. And then what about
when we talk about the behavior and this is what our program is about developing good Muslim
character. We learn very clear here some rights and limits. Your guest has rights on you. But what
are the limits? Well, it's pretty clear from this, if you'd like to have your guests stay with you,
overnight, a day and a night, this is in Islam. Three days, this is also in Islam. But whatever you
do beyond that is going to be an act of charity, you don't have to do it, you can tell them, okay,
you're three days are up, I have a nice time. Or you can allow the guest to stay a little longer,
		

			according to how you would like to be charitable for your guests. The next thing that I mentioned
was about kinship about your relatives, how do you treat your relatives, because it says, Let the
one who believes in Allah and the Last Day This is talking about the people who are going to
paradise, if you want to go to Paradise, if you want to go to heaven, then one of the things is
important is how you treat your relatives. And it starts with your mom. As we know from the Hadith
of the Prophet sallallaahu salam, and somebody asked him, who after Alon is messenger has the most
writes on me, said your mother. He said that who said your mother said that who said your mother,
		

			and then your father. So look how much rights Your mother has, this is the closest relative to you,
who carried you inside of her for nine months. And then who was giving birth to you in great pain
and agony. And who is the one that raised you up and took care of you taught you how to walk taught
you how to talk your mother. So certainly, you can see why she'd have the rights over you. From the
time you're born until you die. Your mother has rights on you. Then what about your dad, he's the
next one in line, Evan writes on you, your parents have rights. Now, you might say, Well, yeah, but
my parents are different. They're not nice, blah, blah, blah, doesn't matter what they're doing.
		

			You're doing this for a law.
		

			And as a good Muslim, developing good Muslim character, one of the things that you have to keep in
mind is that you're not doing this for the people. You're doing it for yourself in front of a law,
you want a law to know that you're doing this really, because the law has shown you the way to do it
through his last and final prophet. I want to amplify a little bit more on that subject, because He
also spoke about the way that we deal with not just the guest, and not just the one who is the the
relatives, but also in the way that we deal with our own tongue our speech, because he says, Let the
one who believes in the law and the last day either say good things or be silent.
		

			Or what does this mean? Well, naturally, you don't want to say something that's bad, like hurting
people's feelings. You don't want to say a lie. Certainly that wouldn't be in Islam to lies. You
don't want to say things that are going to provoke trouble. You don't want to say things that you're
carrying gossip and all the rest of it. All the things that we're talking about here is either say
something good or keep silent.
		

			And another hidden ether tissue. Mohammed, I recall that he said that it's sufficient for a person
to just repeat what he hears in a day to be considered a liar. Now, that's an amazing thing. Because
what you hear and that's true, if you think about if you repeated everything you heard from this
person, and that person and television and all the rest of it in a day's time.
		

			Chances are, for sure you'd be telling some lies in there, whether you meant to or not. It's not
essential. It's not important for us to just keep talking talk, talk, talk talking all the time. I
really don't know where we got this idea from, but it's very prevalent in today's society. It seems
as though we just keep going on and on and talking and talking. And if we're sitting in the car, we
feel like we have to chatterbox chatterbox, or else we want the radio going, having noise going all
the time. But there's something really beautiful and being silent. And the prophet SAW Islam saying
that right here. Yes, moot. He said in Arabic, be silent. And the silence is golden. It's very
		

			beautiful. Think about the Quran, and think about how you can do some good deeds today. Use your
time wisely. Even when you're sitting still. Even when you're traveling somewhere, you can use this
time instead of trying to talk talk, talk, talk, just keep the tongue busy. And talking about this
term. The Prophet peace be upon him taught us that if a person would like to go to gender, he said I
can guarantee the gender the paradise for a person who can guard two things, the tongue and their
private parts. So sir
		

			This one the tongue is the most dangerous of all. So we guard this tongue will be in good shape.
		

			And here's another important aspect of developing the Muslim character. And that is gentleness.
		

			This is narrated on the authority of Abu huraira radio wha hoo on he said that the Prophet, peace
and blessings be upon him, said, indeed a law is gentle, and he loves gentleness. And Allah gives
due to gentleness that which he does not give to harshness. And, you know, today, we see a lot of
harshness in the way that people deal with each other. The harshness the way that we treat each
other in the streets, and the markets in the shops and in the schools. Even in the MOS. It's not
good that we see this harsh treatment, when somebody said, just dude, yeah, this way, you know, to
be gentle with the people is to follow the teaching of Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam peace be upon
		

			him. And it's certainly a good way for us to gain pleasure or reward with a lot. Because this
gentleman says something that Allah loves very much. And sometimes you feel like, well, these people
are being harsh with me, why shouldn't I retaliate? The same way that they're treating me, I'll
treat them back. But it's the one who has this gentleness, the one who will really take their time,
relax, and be in Islam, who will gain the reward from Allah. What I mean by that is, if you
remember, Islam means peaceful submission to Allah. So when I'm in peace, even when things are
happening, that I don't particularly like, I'm still going to be gentle in the way I do. Now, this
		

			is talking about how I deal with strangers and people that I barely know, what about the gentleness
that I should have for those people that I know pretty well, my good friends, my family, my mom, my
dad, how should I treat them, and it should be gentle, soft kind, because the kind treatment will
actually get other people to do the same thing to it makes everybody have more peace and stickiness,
sweetness, tranquility in them. So this is a very important aspect of Islam is this gentleman's
called riff, or Rafiq, in Islam, I want to now mention something about the truth of a person who is
dealing in sin. Now, a lot of times we think that it would be the best kind of Muslim would have no
		

			sin whatsoever. But that's really not possible because we're human beings.
		

			A person is not an angel, and we're going to be making mistakes, we're going to do sins. And this
next study deals with that subject, this is narrated on the authority of cannabis. May Allah be
pleased with him, who said that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu wasallam, the stroma, Prophet
Muhammad peace be upon him, that there is no believer, except that he has a sin, which he commits
from time to time,
		

			or a sin which he continually persist in, doesn't leave it until he dies or leaves this world.
Indeed, the believer was created as one who is frequently tried and tested, and he often repents.
But then he forgets, when he is admonished he accepts the admonition.
		

			This is the good Hadeeth or teaching of Mohammed Salah Salaam, that gives us a number of points.
First of all, we need to remember that we are human beings, and we're being tested by law. This
testing that we're talking about is our life. From the time we're born to the time we die, we're in
a test from the law. And this certainly focuses on that subject, because it says that we're gonna
sin.
		

			But we're gonna stop sinning at some point or repent for that. But then there may be a sin that will
commit and not repent for before we die, or something that people persist in. And that
		

			sometimes we forget. And you know, this is really something that human being is all about. And this
is a truth in this, that the human being is made to forget the word in Arabic for human is ins, or
insam. And when we say I forgot, it comes from the same root on an associate, I forgot. So the human
being has been created. Forget, Allah knows we forget, but this is something
		

			as Muslims, we need to try to overcome, we need to remember I think one of the best things, by the
way is to remember a lot to think of a law.
		

			So, if you make a sin, do your best to repent from that. And if you make it again, if you forgot and
did it again, don't think oh, Allah is not going to forgive me, because that's the wrong attitude.
Repent again. Repent every time you make a mistake, and try your best to, to stop Of course, but at
the same time, don't give up on yourself. Don't say oh, well, I give up because you know what, I'm a
sinner. I can't stop sinning and that's just my nature. Don't do that. Try your best to do your good
deeds, but he makes a mistake, then just say, Okay, stop for Allah, Allah forgive me, and then
inshallah Allah, Allah will forgive you.
		

			Our whole series that we're dealing with here and the way of the Muslim is intended to develop the
character of a Muslim using the teachings of Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam. I hope inshallah, that
these teachings will benefit me too, because the mouth is the closest to the ear. And I hope that I
gained from this and become a better Muslim through these efforts. And this is a prayer for all of
us. Allah guide us to do our best I mean, until next time, Salaam Alaikum. Welcome to Landry.