Yusuf Estes – Bringing Up Champions

Yusuf Estes

Sheikh Yusuf Estes, American Muslim Preacher & Teacher giving public lecture on the topic ‘Bringing Up Champions – Peace Makers 2010’

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The host discusses the topic of raising children in difficult situations, including terminal diseases and lack of personal development. They emphasize the importance of not giving children too much and using Islam as a means of information. The speaker also emphasizes the need for parents to have at least 10 children in care and to be a Muslim to gain valuable information and help others. They stress the importance of finding a balance between father and son, avoiding being the only one to ask for help, and avoiding giving children their rights.

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			So I would like to invite you to take the podium and address us this evening. Our dear brother, Chef
Youssef masters from the USA to address the topic, bringing up champions, our brother used to Festus
		
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			Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah.
		
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			My name is Yousef, can you say you're?
		
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			Very good. You know, my wife still says useless, I don't know could be a speech problem.
		
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			The subject that we want to talk about tonight is a very near and dear subject to me, the subject of
Qatar BIA,
		
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			but we didn't want to leave it in Arabic language. So we translated it more or less as raising up
champions, because tarbiyah deals with the subject of how we educate and raise our children. One of
the problems of many problems facing Muslims today is how do we deal with our youth. Now, whether
you live in the east or the west, or somewhere in between? There's always this subject of how can I
raise my children the best way. And it's a very important thing, because each and every one of these
children is a mana
		
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			a trust from a law, and the law will ask us about it.
		
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			You've heard it from many of our speakers when they tell us what means in English, or you who
believe save yourself
		
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			and your family, your children from a fire whose fuel is meant in stones. There's a Hadith of the
Prophet Mohammed, some of it was Salaam, that means something like this, that out of every 1000
people
		
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			999 of those people,
		
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			they're not going to make it.
		
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			That means only one out of 1000 really well except this message of law in a llama. I'm going to sue
law and do something about it.
		
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			We hear oftentimes, the same verses recited again and again, telling us the importance of calling to
Islam. But before we even get into tonight's topic,
		
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			I want to remind myself
		
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			and share with all of you that when we talk about the word dour,
		
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			this word is being grossly abused.
		
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			When we talk about giving Dawa, to Muslims, dour to our Muslim family dour to our Muslim children.
It's inappropriate to use this word in this way. Because actually dowa is to call people who are not
Muslim to Islam. The word in Arabic that we're looking for is actually Islam. This is according to
our scholars a much better way to describe encouraging and bringing each other closer to Allah
subhanho wa Taala in the Quran, one of the most famous of all of the chapters, and I'm sure all of
you memorized it when you were little guys. ls is out of the bag many shaytani r rajim Bismillah Ar
Rahman AR Rahim while asked in mille insana. Luffy was Illallah Dena amanu Aminu Salah hackey. What
		
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			was the
		
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			what was the suffering?
		
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			And again, you've heard people translate this and give the meaning of it, interpret it and I don't
want to bore you with that. But for the sake of audiences that may hear this in the future that
maybe they don't know Islam don't know Arabic. I'll endeavor to give you just a little overview of
it. A look here is swearing by something amazing when he says while
		
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			he's swearing by the actual passage of time, some
		
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			thing about which we have little if any real concept. We think we know what time is, don't we?
		
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			But how long have I been talking?
		
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			How long will I talk? And how long before you forget everything I said,
		
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			when you're sitting at the traffic light, or title tied up in traffic,
		
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			seems like it goes on and on and all many hours. But you look at your watch, it was only a few
seconds.
		
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			But when you're watching a soccer match or a cricket game,
		
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			it seems like just a few seconds. Oh, here's another commercial. And then a few more seconds, and
it's all over. Why?
		
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			Because, of course, the things we like, and enjoy, things like that passes quickly. And last swears
by this time.
		
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			And what what did he swear? And that's what's even more important, isn't it? He said for sure
enough. Certainly.
		
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			Then these use the word insane. Insane doesn't just mean Muslims. It doesn't mean men. It doesn't
mean women it means that every single human being
		
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			all of them, love the horse.
		
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			They are in what? what is causing
		
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			a horse the rain, these are the ones that are considered losers. So human beings are in a state of
being bankrupt.
		
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			When we know about bankruptcy today, you're seeing in all the newspapers, so many different
organizations going bankrupt, people declaring their bankruptcy, it just means they can't pay their
bills in Islam host means the one who on the day of judgment on the day of accountability, they
can't pay up. Because they don't have the right ingredients. They don't have the right denomination
to be able to do it. They can that's all the human beings basically go into *. That's it. Then a
beautiful word comes in
		
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			lol Edina, except for those except for those who have Amen, the correct sign of a man in the law as
one and only one.
		
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			And it's not all
		
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			and they do the almost the righteous deed still not over? Why? What a while. So what is that?
		
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			It means to encourage and push each other shove each other? Come on guys.
		
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			And
		
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			again, why was so
		
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			hot? What's the word? So this summer,
		
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			to encourage each other and all it is the truth of La la la la. And to encourage exhort each other
to have perseverance,
		
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			steadfastness
		
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			and patience.
		
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			But all of the words that I just said, are much more profound in Arabic than they are in English.
English is very weak when it comes to trying to understand the depth, the gravity of the Arabic of
the Koran. But did you understand what I showed you the Hadeeth or assume that almost every single
person is going to go to *. This should scare you because we're human beings. I dare say we've
already got more than 1000 people here right now, does that mean that only one of us is going to go
to Paradise? Well, there's more good news, by the way, some very good news
		
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			that not all human beings are represented here. In fact, the Muslims are supposed to be the
exception to that rule, aren't they?
		
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			But what do we do? And I'm going to talk about current events. What do we do in the face of some
very real statistics, when we find that the Muslim children, the Muslim youth are leaving Islam?
I've seen it with my own eyes. No, not all of them are declaring that they want to be a Kaffir. Not
all of them are saying I don't want to be on most of them anymore. But by their very acts that are
very deep, the very things that they're sending me in emails, putting on websites, and that social
network like Twitter,
		
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			Facebook, Myspace, which I call my disgrace. We're seeing things and hearing things from our youth
that scare us. I already knew before I came here that I wanted to talk on this subject of our youth
and how to raise them up. But I had no idea how much your law really wanted to drive the point home
to me. The person who was supposed to take me to the airport didn't show up. They didn't come.
		
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			So I asked my wife if she would take me to the airport. It's a long drive. But she said yeah, let's
go. We loaded up the whole van got ready to go out and
		
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			Yesterday as I was backing out of the driveway, a car pulled up a van. So I thought maybe this is
the people who supposed to take me. I don't know what their car looks like. Then somebody got out.
So I'm Monaco, Monaco, salaam. I said, Are you the one supposed to take me? He said, Take you wear a
suit to the airport? He said you need to go to the airport. I said, No, no, it's okay. I'll have my
wife update me. No, no, no, no, he says, I'll take you. Alright. So I get in the van with him. We
loaded up the stuff. He said, I came all the way over here to talk to you. It's an emergency. I
don't know what to do. I don't know where to turn, I need help. And you're the only one who can help
		
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			me.
		
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			And I told him, if I'm the only one who can help you, you really do have a problem? What is it? He
said, it's my children. And I wish that he was the only one who ever said it. But he's not. It's
happening again. And again. And again. And again.
		
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			A sister comes and tells me about her brother, a brother tells me about his sister, the siblings
telling about each other Uncles, aunts, cousins all contacting me with emails, phone calls, you're
asking, help me help us. The problem is, they're coming to me just after the person has already left
Islam,
		
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			just after the person has already gone to jail for drugs, just after somebody is diagnosed with some
kind of terminal disease that they got by doing whatever.
		
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			In other words, they're coming in, it's too late. And this was the same case. When the brothers
telling me, my kids,
		
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			I put them into university.
		
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			And now they're questioning Islam. They're there so that so and so.
		
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			And I said, When did you first think about this?
		
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			Is I've been too busy. And he you know, I've got to take care of this and that I have my job. I have
my part time job of business. I'm trying to start on time.
		
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			So what will you tell Allah, on the day of judgment, about the way you raise your kids?
		
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			This is serious. Some of you are young, you're not even married yet. planning on getting married, or
you're just recently married, going to start your family. Some of you have some children at home
little guys.
		
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			But the fact is, if you don't start thinking about it right this minute, my question is going to be
when are you going to think about it is going to be after you look up and see your child in this
condition, whether they're on drugs, in jail,
		
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			or left Islam, all of these things, that's when it's too late.
		
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			Now, ordinarily, you see me with the children on TV, and we're playing and having fun,
		
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			and talking about Islam. But this is a time for me to be serious with you about those children,
because I can't sit with all of them. I wish I could. But you can do something right now. First
thing is, I don't care if you remember me or what I said. But you need to think
		
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			think about what you're going to say on the Day of Judgment. What would you say to along about
taking care of your family? And it's not about the food. And it's not about the house and the
clothes and education, which all of us put such a high value on? There's a bigger value that comes
first, isn't it? The man in the law?
		
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			Isn't that first. Those who like myself come to Islam by choice. Seems like they have a better grasp
of that. You know why? We've already been there. We've already seen that. We know what it's all
about. And we know what it doesn't do.
		
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			We want to encourage ourselves all of us to make use of this time while we still have it.
		
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			What does this lamb tell us about our children? A Hadith of the Prophet sallallaahu salaam has had
such an impact that we've used it in many ways usually when we talk about Dawa, but actually, the
idea wasn't about Dawa. It was about how to raise your children. The province Li Salaam use the word
in Arabic called fitrah. Now, you know which he didn't want to tell you. The province till Islam
said every child is born on the fitrah of all it's loud, but it is their parents who will raise them
up to be a Christian, a Jew, a fire worshiper.
		
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			Whatever they become, it's going to be really by the way they were raised up. Is that true or not?
If you heard it,
		
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			you've heard it. And that's why today in English we say when somebody came to Islam, we even use
this idea to come up with a word in English.
		
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			revert, instead of saying convert, you're saying you revert, you're just going back to your natural
status. The way you were when you came into the world, the innocence the beauty of the baby, you
know, the little babies, they almost look innocent they are.
		
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			And it's true as it is, it's still not the main point is, the main point is you're supposed to be
raising your children as Muslim.
		
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			What does it take? I'm gonna give a couple examples before I walk off the stage, if you don't mind.
		
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			One example,
		
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			happened a number of years ago when one of our brothers from an Arab country. And by the way, he
told me clearly, to use his story for other people. I want you to know that this is how much it had
an impact. Anyway, I met him, he came to our Masjid back when I used to have a mosque in Texas.
		
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			And he said, Oh, I'm meeting you today. This is very exciting to meet you. And to also tell you some
good news. Some other exciting good news today. I said, Okay, what is it?
		
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			He said today?
		
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			I put my son in American public school, said, Really? Why don't you put him in the toilet? He said,
like, No, you didn't understand me. I put my son in American public school.
		
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			I said, I understand you.
		
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			And I think you understand me, but I'll tell you an Arabic. A Mom, why don't you put him in the
toilet.
		
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			He just looked at me like I was crazy. He said why he said this. I said because it leaves, you could
wash it off.
		
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			Because the public school in my country has degraded down deteriorated down to such a level. It's
not fit to put children in anymore. And our warranty material.
		
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			Because we had schools that he could put his child in. But he was determined back home that looks so
good. My son's in American public school.
		
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			The sad news is I was right. And I wish I would be wrong. About seven years later, after I moved up
to Washington DC. The same brother had moved not very far from me.
		
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			He called me on the phone, I got to talk to you. Please come to my house immediately. I went and had
a brother with me. And we went and on the way over. I was telling him the same story I just told
you.
		
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			Same story. I just told him you know, when I met this guy, I told him put your kid in the toilets
better in public school. When we got there. The brother give us the best hospitality. We sat on the
floor, drink the coffee while we're sitting there. He said, Okay. Do you remember the first word who
ever said to me seven years ago when you met me? I said, Yeah, I do very well. I was just telling
him. I'm surprised you remember? He said, Well, you were wrong. I said, Okay. Actually, I'm glad
I've been wrong before. He said, No, you were really wrong. I said, Okay. He said, You should have
told me it's 10 times better to put them in a toilet than to put them in the school.
		
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			I've lost my son. What should I say? Or should I know?
		
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			He started crying. We talked about it, we found many problems. Most of them related to the fact that
the father just didn't get it in his mind. You can't do it like that. It's Graham has a prescribed
way for everything. Everything.
		
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			And if you follow it, it will work. If you don't, you're on your own yes or no. That makes sense.
		
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			All right. How do we raise our children? Let's start with that.
		
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			First of all, from the time they're born, does Islam tell us what to do when they're born. And then
there's certain Few days later that we take the hair of the head and weigh it, cut it, weigh it and
give an equal amount of charity of silver. The point isn't about the fix. The point is to look and
ask what am I supposed to be doing? When my child is born? What am I supposed to be doing? And don't
we have a celebration?
		
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			We have a celebration where we bring the people and feed them and tell them Oh, we have a child who
was born here.
		
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			But we find the date people are ignoring that. Instead, we celebrate their birthday.
		
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			Well, we told to celebrate their birthday. No, we were told to celebrate their birth. Did we do
that? No.
		
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			Then we wonder why there's a problem later. And as long as you're going to celebrate the birthday,
boy, you got to bring a cake. You gotta have ice cream. You got to have candles.
		
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			Nevermind that those candles are coming from another religion. But you didn't know that. So it
doesn't really matter, does it?
		
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			What's happening to us?
		
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			What's happening to us? The way that we raise our children up, and they're not seeing us? And when
they do see us, we're not really following Islam? How are we going to explain that on the day of
judgment? Do you expect that you could just drop your children off at a Muslim school? In the
morning, pick them up in the afternoon? and magically, they're going to be the model Muslim?
		
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			Is this really what you think? The Islamic international school here is probably one of the best
Muslim schools on the planet, especially for those who have the English language and are trying to
learn, I'm serious. But at the same time, if you really thought that's all it takes, how how can you
think that you are responsible for your own children? The teachers are there to give them some
message. But it's up to you to really follow through when they come home every day, what was the
last time you sat with children help them with the homework? When? When was the last time you sat
with them and just listen to them talk about their day? No, you're too busy talking about your day.
		
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			Or even worse, too busy watching television. Of course, if they're watching piece TV, that's
different.
		
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			We'll make that exception immediately. But even piece TV, it has some good things. But Thirdly, you
wouldn't leave your child parked in front of that television set all day long.
		
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			This isn't reality, this conference that we're holding right now, it is so important for us to have
this chance to be with each other and talk and share questions and answers, especially when Dr.
zakra comes out and really give you some good answers. But still, that's not our dean. If you just
live all year long for the next conference, that's not our dean.
		
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			Our Dean is what some people said it's our religion. These are people that don't understand Arabic.
		
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			Or else they don't understand English, or both.
		
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			Deen is your way of life. Everybody has a Deen. Not everybody has a religion.
		
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			D is all encompassing. You have religion inside of Dean. There is a place inside of Dean for
religion for worship for a Baba. But everything for the Muslim is Dean yes or no. We have to think
about it. And to raise these children properly, we've got to plant the seeds the right way. Let me
give you an example. Another time in Maryland. I was given a talk. And I know the brothers. They're
pretty good. And we're friendly with each other. And so when I tease them, they understand where I'm
coming from. They don't see it as I'm really picking on anybody. So we had a father Sunday.
		
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			Somebody made up an idea, Father Sunday. I don't know why, but they did. And it's on Sunday. Anyhow,
so we've got the fathers, we got the sons, everybody's I don't know why we didn't have any
daughters. But whatever.
		
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			Then what would they're all sitting there waiting for my talk. I said before we get started. Can I
ask you a question? Yeah. Who will sell me their son?
		
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			Who will sell me their son?
		
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			What's he talking about?
		
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			Okay, how much is your son worth to you? Like?
		
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			There's no amount of money? No, your son, you got a price on it? No way.
		
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			$100 Oh, $1,000. A million dollars. No, no, no. How much? Tell me the price. And they will never
sell my son. And so and so you know, and the kids are looking at Dad, like, what's this guy talking
about? Then I said, Okay. How many of you took a part time job? How many of you worked
		
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			late at night for extra money? Or you worked on Saturday or Sunday when the kids were home? How many
of you you did that?
		
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			Everybody
		
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			I said and who took care of your children while you're working?
		
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			Some babysitter or they're old enough to take care of themselves. They don't need anybody. They're
eight years old. They're 10 years old. They don't need anything. Yeah, they're okay. We only left
him about eight or nine hours. No big deal. We left food on the stove there. Okay. And I told him
how much did you get?
		
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			$20 25 5050 100 and 100 125 go out here and 151 5175 because what you did your option your kids off
the same way. Whatever money you
		
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			You made that how much you sold them for. Because when you were not with them you were not living up
to your responsibility
		
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			as a parent, the amount that was given to you by a law you say yeah, but I needed the money for my
family, your family looks to me like you got a new Rolex on your arm What's that got to do with your
family?
		
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			There's me like you got a new game boys. Over here you got a new computer over there, putting new
tires on the car, jazzing up deaths and died and, and worst of all making payments on the house you
got on Reba. Oh, do Bella in all in the name of my family. If you really want to be with your
family, you will find a way to do it. And you put them first instead of this dunya.
		
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			Go back and look at it again and think think
		
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			Allah said Oh, you who believe save yourself and your family from a fire of fire.
		
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			That even the stones are on fire. Even the people in it are on fire.
		
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			This is from the Quran. Allah is not joking. He's telling you something serious.
		
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			Let's make a commitment. A serious commitment. Starting right now Tonight, we're going to look at
our children in a whole different light.
		
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			There are responsibilities.
		
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			They are a trust from along.
		
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			And they are helpless without us. They're totally completely unable to do this for themselves. They
don't know what they need. Children don't know the best thing for themselves. When you let a child
tell you what they need. What in the world are you thinking about? Do you let the children go pick
out your clothes for you?
		
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			Do you let the children tell you what to eat?
		
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			Please?
		
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			It's for sure. It's for sure. In his mom, the law. He's going to ask us about how we raise these
children. Now, okay, no, we made a commitment. We're going to stay home with him. But what are we
going to do? Well, you sit on the couch with them while they watch TV?
		
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			No, what's the benefit there? Or you'll take them to the park and they can watch you play a game?
No. Every single family has a different situation and I won't pretend to be able to tell you how to
do yours. But I will tell you that there's a way in Islam, for you to have at least enough time to
give them certain valuable information they need and you have good information. Allah has blessed
you to be a Muslim. Allah has given you something that he calls not
		
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			a big name of Allah subhanho wa Taala is Islam and the Lord told us how important it is. out yo
molek now to learn from dinner comm we're at mum to alikoum net magic, are ready to local Muslim
Medina, the word nepotism. This is a large possessive of this word that Allah has given you the best
of his favors, which is Islam.
		
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			And what about he Daya? All of us everyday was saying if Dena Serato must be king. That is the the
straight way Allah is guiding us. We're turning it down. He's offering it to us every day. When was
the last time you prayed fudger in the masjid. If the answer is this morning,
		
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			a lot of a lot I mean
		
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			hamdulillah I'm proud of you. And then you came home
		
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			and sat with your children and read Quran with them. Yeah.
		
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			Or maybe you even took your children to the masjid. And after find your you sat right there with a
teacher and help them learn Quran. Yeah.
		
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			Well, not exactly.
		
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			I'm kind of busy. You know, I'm going to tell you about somebody that you know, at least you know
about him.
		
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			I know a person that's so busy, really busy. The man doesn't sleep.
		
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			Except maybe sitting up in the airplane. or sitting up in a vehicle while we're traveling to another
place. I've traveled with him in a lot of places and seeing how he operates. The man doesn't know
how to sleep. He's too busy running a television channel or school.
		
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			And for sure, these conferences that you're at right now.
		
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			You know who I'm talking about. There's no way you're I could even begin to touch one of these days.
We couldn't do it. We'd have to go to the hospital to recuperate for one day.
		
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			Yet this man has time for his family.
		
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			He has time for
		
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			His children, I know because I've been with them. And I've seen it, he's got the time, and he's got
something else from them, he has their respect their full respect. Why? Well, of course, it's from a
law, it's a gift, no doubt. But it's something, something that he has put himself in position to
receive. And you and I are not doing that if we're not following Islam.
		
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			And there are a lot of other people that aren't famous that we don't know them. They also they also
are doing a lot of work,
		
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			a lot of work
		
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			and still finding time to secure their family. And that's what we have to find something called
armies on, which is a balance of balance.
		
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			Now, probably, if you knew my story, you'd say, well, that's the most unbalanced guy in the world,
then you'd be right.
		
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			But somehow, I still managed to find at least some time each day for my kids. Even when I traveled,
I used to take them with me.
		
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			Even when we were far away from home, we still found time to sit with our core on, go over some
hobbies. I'm sure not the best one for Koran recitation, and certainly not the best for Arabic. But
I'm the one that Allah gave them.
		
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			So I figured along wants me to try to do it. And we did.
		
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			You can do it. You can do it. If Allah wills, but you got to try brother, and sisters, this is your
real job. These children are going to be directly really a reproduction of you what you do, they'll
be just like you, and they're going to be a product of what you show them. Remember the hoodies.
I'll repeat it again, as I'm winding this up and remind you again, the Hadith of the Prophet SAW
Islam, when he told us every child is born on the fitrah
		
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			of all Islam
		
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			is already born, every child, I don't care if the parents are Hindu, Buddhist, Christian, Jewish,
doesn't matter. Pretend Muslim, it doesn't matter. The child is born, what innocent. We're not
saying Islam from standpoint the child is doing a lot. We're saying that they're on the fitrah of
what Islam is about being innocent, being pure, being totally and completely dependent on a law.
		
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			The child is in that condition yes or no.
		
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			And for us, we know that if any of these children, these babies die,
		
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			they go straight to paradise.
		
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			I don't care what the religion of the parents was, the child at least is going to paradise. And
they're in paradise asking a law or law let my parents be with me or law that my parents would be
with me. So Panama.
		
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			But what are we going to do with these beautiful, innocent?
		
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			children? What are we going to do with them?
		
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			chapter seven.
		
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			And before I walk off this one little piece of advice that I always like to give our youth want to
talk to the youth for just a minute.
		
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			Anybody who has a father or a mother,
		
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			basically all of us think about what I'm going to say.
		
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			In Islam, we learned a very valuable lesson about our parents didn't know
		
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			how much rights do our parents have on us?
		
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			Did they have any rights? Or do we just like okay, I'm 18 now I've had it with new people goodbye.
I'm 21 I don't need to hear your stuff. I heard it. I'm on my own. That's Western mentality. They
walk out the door many of them never come back. Except to borrow money or a place to stay. I'm
asking you masking
		
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			do the parents have rights in Islam? What is the resource first
		
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			somebody went to him and they said after a law Alliance big rights on you to worship him along
without any partners and His Messenger the Prophet Muslim has rights on you that you follow Him and
everything but if you don't then align gonna love you.
		
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			As the law said about the prophet SAW some in the Quran Chapter Three, verse 31. And he made it very
clear because he said cool St. Gallen gundrum. Jo e buena love it daddy oni como la jolla,
		
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			la hoga for him, say to them all Mohammed, when they say I love Allah, Allah loves me, you know,
people I love a lot. When they say that, tell them if you really love a law, follow me, Prophet
Muhammad. Then Allah will love you and he'll forgive you.
		
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			Your sins because he is the forgiver. No mercy.
		
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			So Allah and His Messenger have the biggest rights. But after, and this is what the companion was
asking, after online is messenger, who has the most rights on me. And you'll be able to hear the
lady said all the way back from the sister section, after Yvonne is messenger, who as most writes on
me said, Your,
		
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			your mother, and then your mother, and then
		
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			your mother, and then
		
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			then your father.
		
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			They didn't even need a microphone, you could hear good. Yeah.
		
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			Of course, partly, they're reminding you,
		
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			your mother, your mother, your mother, and then your father.
		
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			Why is this important to know if we're talking about tarbiyah?
		
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			Well, because if you do not give your parents their right,
		
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			guess what? Your children are not going to give you your rights either.
		
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			how you treat your parents, a law sukawati, Allah is going to give you children to treat you the
same way. wants you to think about that. I'm looking into the audience, the father of Dr. Sacra
night, and I have seen them in their family situation. And I see the respect being given to the
Father. And then I see the respect of the son being given to his father the same way, how this is
from a law.
		
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			At the same time, I've been in homes where I've seen disrespect given to the elder, and then the
child disrespecting them the same way. Have you seen it? Do you know what I'm talking about? Now,
all you got to do is just ask yourself a question. How do I want to be treated?
		
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			As a parent, how do I want to be treated, I don't care if you're 15 years old, I don't care if
you're eight years old, you still can understand what I'm telling you how you treat your parents
today, look out.
		
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			Because you can expect the same thing back from your own children in a very short time. It's very
critical that you and I realized the only way we're going to ever raise up these champions. We want
them to be champions, we want them to get out there and do good. And we want them to be the best
examples. There's Muslim, we want to be the best doctors, the best engineers, the best professors,
the best business people, we want our children to be the best. Of course, I'm putting an emphasis on
Islam, I want to see our children, the scholars of Islam, Hafiz or the Quran, I want to see them
really get involved in what our religion is teaching.
		
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			But at the same time, I realized that there is very material matter that we have to deal with. But
don't let either one take you away.
		
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			And then this final last couple seconds, I want to talk about the one who gets too involved in
religion, to take care of his family. Because usually people like me are telling you to get into the
religion get more involved in llll Allah go to the masjid read the Quran sitting in circles of
learning rrr but if it takes you away from your responsibility, your family it's still a problem,
isn't it? There is a balance. We are the oma didn't watch it. What is what's the mean? balance.
There is of course time for Salah time for learning Quran, time for being with the brothers in the
masjid. But when we pick up and leave and don't come back for days at a time, weeks at a time, now
		
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			when we are there, we're trying to make up for the last time, you're always out doing my preaching
or whatever. And now I don't have time for my family, I have to double up on my work. I still have
ignored the thing that I was commanded to do, above all other things. And that's the treatment of
other people. Earlier today, we heard a beautiful talk about dignity, and how important dignity is.
		
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			And this is the same. Give your children dignity by spending your time with them.
		
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			And then when somebody asks you, how much are your children worth? You say to them, My children are
worth my time. That's what they're worth.
		
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			And you can't give that to them only I can
		
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			spend a little bit more time with those children.
		
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			You'll be glad you did. Allow love you for that. Your children will respect you for that. And most
important on the Day of Judgment, you will have at least tried your best. And hopefully, you won't
have to be calling me or Dr. Zack or some of the other teachers out here and begging them to come
help you
		
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			Deal with a problem that you could have avoided a long time ago, just by spending your time. And
really that's it
		
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			isn't it was too simple, didn't really need me to come out here and tell you, it was right in front
of you. But that's what's beautiful about Islam. It is simple. And it is right in front of all of us
		
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			who are walk off. Now I want to make a prayer, a prayer of supplication to a law, or me for my
family, for your family, for all the future generations of all the Muslims. I pray Actually, I beg I
beg along that He will guide them, guide us, guide us to be the best Muslims we can be. And whatever
we do. I mean,
		
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			we ask Allah Vega law, to keep our children and our families and us a way far away from that
Hellfire army.
		
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			We asked the love for the best of this life and the best of the next life and save us from that
punishment of the Fire. Rabbana actually not be doing your house and what military has done. What
Trina doesn't know more on me. And I'll have a lot of galantamine who allowed
		
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			me
		
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			to go.
		
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			Does that Colombo Kira chef use of eSpares for the truly inspiring talk, was Salam Alaikum
warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu