Yousuf Raza – Quran Daily Surah al Fatiha Ayah 2 Ar Rahmaan Ar Raheem II
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The feeling of being loved and not being loved by loved ones is a fundamental aspect of personal life. It's important to acknowledge and embracing the feeling of being loved, which can lead to a lasting impression on oneself and others. The speakers stress the importance of helping individuals grow their understanding of love and embracing it, and creating a framework for helping individuals grow their understanding of love and embracing it. The speakers also mention the need for a framework for helping individuals grow their understanding of love and embracing it.
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All right, salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu.
Hello everyone watching.
This is Yusuf Reza and we're doing Let's
Grow Quran Daily.
It's not coming out as daily as I'd
want it for it to come but some
of the ideas that I want to express
are more difficult than I thought they would
be.
I wanted to keep it as simple as
possible, but sometimes just the ideas get so
overwhelming that for me to formulate how I'm
going to present that it's a little daunting.
So to be able to communicate what depth
or what benefit this particular ayah has to
offer us, especially reiterated, repeated in our prayers,
there's a lot that I still want to
communicate.
One of the dimensions that I'm going to
pick up on today is how our feeling
of being unworthy may be somewhat addressed by
how we carry ourselves or the attitude with
which we recite Ar-Rahman Ar-Rahim and
ponder over it during our prayer.
Please understand that all of what I'm talking
about with respect to what these ayat of
Surah Fatihah have to offer as benefit, as
shifa, as a possible remedy of certain cognitive
distortions or of certain pathological or depressive or
depression-promoting thoughts.
All of these are thoughts or are concepts
that are coming in that have to be
first understood and believed in.
And number two, repeated in our prayers.
Because understand that depression or depression-like thoughts,
they sustain themselves as beliefs over a long
period of time and they translate into emotions.
So as to be able to dispel them,
so as to be able to contradict them
and replace them, first we have to understand
the newer, better belief and then to be
able to repeat it to ourselves.
Since the depressive thought and belief and the
resulting emotion had a very long time to
really sit in our brain and mushroom into
other depressive thoughts, ideas, and emotions.
Or just replicate itself and become stronger and
stronger.
And so to be able to replace them
with more adaptive, with more constructive, with more
growth-oriented, with more optimistic ideas and thoughts,
not only do we have to repeat them,
but before repeating them, they have to be
very, very believable.
We have to understand and believe them.
And it becomes simpler if we already at
least theoretically hold on to that belief, but
then it is a matter of strengthening, further
consolidating that understanding and then going on to
repeat, repeat, repeat as prayer helps us do.
And so the repetition that the depressive process
has or any other maladaptive, pathological, psychopathological process
has, we get to offset that with these
constructive practices aligned with our prayer.
These constructive cognitive practices, thought practices that we
align with the prayers that we're doing anyways,
and we get a better realization of how
Surah Al-Fatihah can be a shifa, a
cure for what we ail from.
So coming to Ar-Rahman Ar-Rahim again,
one particular, very commonly seen pattern is that
of a feeling of unworthiness, which is more
common in those predisposed to depression and anxiety,
but then every single one of us will
to a certain degree experience that every now
and then.
A feeling of unworthiness, a feeling of just
not being good enough.
So one thing that that stems from, one
possible root or source of that, yes, there
is a guilt, but then there is an
exaggerated guilt.
There is a pathologically, neurotically exaggerated guilt, something
that a guilt should not be allowed to
lead into, but it does, is with respect
to feeling bad about ourselves, feeling unworthy about
ourselves, and then how that stems from certain
childhood or teenage experiences of not having been
the perception of not having been loved, right?
Feeling that we were not worthy of love,
feeling that we were not loved.
Now, the key point here is feeling.
That may or may not have been the
case, right?
Maybe the kind of love that was extended
to us by our parents was insufficient, or
maybe it was sufficient.
Again, that being bracketed to a side, usually
it is sufficient.
Maybe it is not done in the most
effective manner.
Maybe it is not communicated in a language,
in an emotional language, that we understand.
And so as far as parenting is concerned,
we would stress upon expressing and communicating in
the language that children would understand or teenagers
would understand.
But nevertheless, if we are now those adults
who were those children or were those teenagers
who felt unloved, that feeling is a reality
in itself.
Even if that was not a proper perception
of reality, but it was there.
It was misperceived.
It was mistaken.
It was a misunderstanding, but it persisted for
years upon years upon years, and we carry
it with us through our adulthood.
And whatever childhood memories or teenage memories we
do remember, they are colored and biased by
that feeling of not being loved.
And most of what we remember in terms
of incidents and events are precisely those times
when that feeling of unworthiness or lack of
love, that my parents don't love me or
nobody loves me, etc, etc, was more pronounced,
right?
So those events are supercharged as they were
emotionally, and so they are more they are
better remembered or even misremembered, incorrectly remembered, whatever
the case may be.
This leads for a lot of us to
not give ourselves the leeway, not give ourselves
the break that we need, not go easy
on ourselves, and maybe not even consider ourselves
worthy of growth.
Not even consider ourselves worthy of developing, of
achieving, of doing great things, because we think
we're not great people, we're unworthy, because we
were unloved.
So one thing that Ar-Rahman Ar-Rahim
does after Alhamdulillahi Rabbil Alameen has already led
for us to acknowledge that we do not
have this inherent sense of entitlement that I
should get everything good and great and awesome
just because of who I am, Ar-Rahman
Ar-Rahim communicates that you are still loved.
That there is a mercy that extends to
you despite not having that entitlement.
That there is this love, this grace that
is extended upon you, that is that reaches
you, that has reached you, and that will
be continuously available to you, is enveloping you
right now, and is accessible to you now
and in the future.
And so to be able to reiterate that
to yourself, so as to fill that cup
up, because really to lead a meaningful life
and become a loving person, feeling loved is
important.
As you constantly hear, you cannot serve from
an empty cup, but let's be real.
Sometimes when you're carrying that perception of not
being loved by your parents throughout your childhood
and teenage and even your life, and then
you may not have the best relationship at
home with your spouse, or siblings for that
matter, whatever your immediate circle family and friends
is, they may genuinely be, and we are
living in that society where people are so
self-obsessed, where people are so self-centered,
that even whatever relationships we do extend or
whatever love we do communicate seems to be
so utilitarian and self-serving.
So to be going around with empty cups,
to be going around with the feeling of
not being loved or unworthiness, it's pretty norm,
it's pretty, it's become a norm, even if
it's not normal.
It's pretty common.
Right?
So Ar-Rahman Ar-Rahim, what it does
is that it helps for us to offset
all of those experiences in our daily lives
and force us to consider and think and
acknowledge that yes, we are being loved.
Yes, we are being enveloped by grace.
Yes, we are being treated with mercy.
Right?
And how all of those different things are,
I really do want to go into more
detail of that perhaps tomorrow.
And once we get a recognition of that,
this reiteration and this just pausing after Ar
-Rahman Ar-Rahim to think that, to believe
that, to remind ourselves of that, it would
help for us to be merciful to ourselves
foremost.
And then there is another dimension to this
of being merciful to others.
How that becomes something of a responsibility as
a consequence.
Something of an embodying of an attribute of
Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala that is necessary
for us to do.
That we have to be merciful to others
if we expect mercy for ourselves.
Right?
So again, this will be picked up tomorrow.
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