Yousuf Raza – MHA Caught between Destigmatization & Glamourization

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The speakers discuss the importance of mental health disorders and the need for professional help for depression. They suggest creating a self-fulfilling prophecy and identifying the presence of two phenomena in society. The speakers also discuss the importance of trust and mental health in society, and the need for professional help to prevent mental health problems. They stress the importance of identifying the "byproduct" of mental health challenges and finding a professional help for mental health issues. The conversation also touches on FCPS psychiatry and how it affects functionality and functionality.

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			Yes, in the name of Allah, peace and
		
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			blessings be upon the Messenger of Allah.
		
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			Peace be upon you, everybody, and peace be
		
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			upon you, Dr. Muhammad Azam Khalid.
		
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			Peace be upon you, Dr. Yusuf, how are
		
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			you?
		
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			I am fine, Alhamdulillah.
		
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			How is everything going on your end?
		
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			Alhamdulillah, everything is fine.
		
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			Yes, Dr. Yusuf, so, why this topic?
		
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			Yes, that's a very good question.
		
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			This topic is important considering that we overdo
		
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			our job.
		
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			When we talk about mental health awareness, and
		
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			we've seen that as a trend, particularly in
		
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			the West, and we're seeing that more and
		
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			more in Pakistan as well, that so much
		
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			focus is put on mental health, so much
		
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			awareness is created, that those who don't have
		
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			problems, they start having problems there as well,
		
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			and the stigma is challenged so well, that
		
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			it almost becomes something of a thing to
		
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			have, something sought after, something to be proud
		
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			of, that we have a mental health illness,
		
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			and it should be there.
		
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			We have a natural self-victimizing tendency as
		
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			human beings.
		
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			So, in a way, they also get a
		
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			trigger, a justification, and, you know, it's glamorous
		
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			to be depressed, it's glamorous to have a
		
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			diagnosis, and so that is a problem in
		
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			and of itself, that if we only talk
		
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			about awareness, and don't address this trend of
		
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			glamorization, that's going to be unjust.
		
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			But, Yusuf, but this also has a role,
		
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			the research that psychiatrists like us have done
		
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			over the past few decades, that those who
		
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			are depressed are actually very intelligent, those who
		
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			look at society very carefully, that's why they
		
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			get depressed, those who are manic are very
		
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			creative, those who are schizophrenic are very philosophical.
		
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			So, we have spread all these myths.
		
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			True, true, that is true, that there is
		
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			a role of all of these aspects, that
		
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			when we talk about countering stigma, then the
		
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			people who have experienced or are experiencing mental
		
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			health challenges, we paint them in such a
		
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			positive light, as if to suggest that it
		
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			is the thing.
		
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			And those myths may not all be wrong
		
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			either, that their truth in its place, the
		
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			empirical evidence to support that in its place,
		
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			we have also seen in our clinical experience,
		
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			that there are people who are experiencing the
		
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			symptoms that they are experiencing, or the challenges
		
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			that they are experiencing, precisely because they think
		
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			about these things differently from the rest.
		
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			That their way of looking at things, their
		
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			way of looking at society, is very different.
		
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			And if we look at it in a
		
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			different way, then the issues that exist in
		
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			society, to be completely normal in that would
		
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			be a problematic thing.
		
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			So, I see what you are saying, I
		
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			think I am doing just that right now
		
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			as I am speaking.
		
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			Promoting or in a sense glamorizing, the entire
		
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			problem of mental health.
		
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			So, why is this problematic?
		
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			If a person considers himself to be depressed,
		
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			and he is going to a psychologist or
		
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			a psychiatrist, then why is this problematic?
		
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			Isn't it a good thing that it is
		
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			possible that he is really depressed and he
		
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			gets some help?
		
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			So, why is it problematic?
		
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			It is possible that he is really depressed
		
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			and he gets some help.
		
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			But on multiple accounts, at one level, the
		
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			people who are genuinely experiencing problems, it is
		
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			an insult to their suffering.
		
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			If we develop as a self-fulfilling prophecy,
		
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			and this is something that I like to
		
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			call the Google Syndrome as well, I don't
		
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			know if that's a term or not, but
		
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			I am thinking it should be.
		
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			We googled or we saw online, that mental
		
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			health illnesses are being talked about.
		
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			And the symptoms that are elaborated about mental
		
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			health illnesses, most of the symptoms we all
		
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			have experienced at some level.
		
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			So, imagine all this from that, that I
		
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			have this too, and then praise that thing
		
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			on yourself.
		
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			And then create a self-fulfilling prophecy, create
		
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			a belief that yes, I am depressed.
		
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			And when this belief is created that I
		
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			am depressed, then the belief is then going
		
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			to give rise to the symptoms themselves.
		
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			However, that process works, but that leads for
		
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			a person to develop those symptoms, which weren't
		
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			there to begin with.
		
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			And then it is giving us as individuals,
		
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			a justification for being irresponsible, a justification for
		
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			not taking care of whatever social responsibilities, personal
		
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			responsibilities we may have in victimizing ourselves.
		
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			And then that will give rise to genuine
		
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			problems, which will then give rise to actual
		
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			psychological challenges.
		
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			So, those diseases are not there, they have
		
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			been iatrogenically, i.e. as a result of
		
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			the efforts of doctors, those diseases will be
		
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			created.
		
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			And that's problematic.
		
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			That is something that we don't want to
		
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			promote.
		
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			Like I said earlier, those who are genuinely
		
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			going through those issues, it's an insult to
		
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			them that their suffering, or, you know, for
		
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			somebody who took it, who learned to have
		
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			this from reading so much about it, or
		
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			hearing so much about it, or, you know,
		
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			it's by seeing how glamorized it is, takes
		
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			that upon themselves, then they can start having
		
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			genuine problems, their functionality can be impaired, and
		
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			so on.
		
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			So, but the other extreme of this, that
		
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			is just as drastic, that is just as
		
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			dangerous, that they don't have to pay any
		
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			attention to it, and where the suffering is
		
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			legitimate, just to brush it, to do that
		
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			kind of work.
		
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			So, then there is a problem with both
		
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			extremes.
		
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			So, then how to judge whether a person,
		
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			and how to judge in that as well,
		
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			that he is sad, or he really needs
		
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			professional help for depression, let's say.
		
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			I think that's a very valid question, and
		
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			there is no straightforward answer to that.
		
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			As psychiatrists, as people who live in a
		
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			society where mental health problems are made worse
		
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			by stigmatization, that such problems that didn't exist
		
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			before, get worse due to stigma.
		
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			So, as mental health professionals, it's a responsibility
		
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			that we raise awareness, and take a stand
		
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			against stigma, that this should not be stigmatized.
		
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			But at the same time, it is also
		
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			our responsibility that we don't go into it
		
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			so much, that we take the matter towards
		
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			glamorization, and start exacerbating the problems from there.
		
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			So, the first step that I would suggest
		
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			as a balance, and I would like your
		
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			thoughts on this as well, is that first
		
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			of all, we need to identify the presence
		
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			of these two phenomena.
		
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			These two things are in the society, these
		
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			two are extremes, there is stigmatization, and there
		
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			is glamorization as well.
		
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			And both of these are the losses, and
		
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			they are exactly the losses, that have to
		
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			be taken into consideration.
		
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			Now, for a layperson, who is experiencing life,
		
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			and comes across these awareness campaigns, or what
		
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			mental illness looks like, on the internet, on
		
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			social media, for them to come to a
		
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			decision, or for them to come to a
		
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			conclusion, that do they have it or not?
		
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			Do they need professional help?
		
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			Are they just victimizing themselves?
		
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			Are they shying away from an actual problem?
		
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			It is always important to get another person's
		
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			opinion.
		
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			It is always important that in the family,
		
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			in the friends, it doesn't even have to
		
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			be professional help to start off.
		
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			Initially, trustworthy members within the community, within the
		
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			social circle, if in the conversation with them,
		
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			you get a feel of things, that there
		
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			is my opinion, which after reading all these
		
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			things, obviously, I don't become a professional by
		
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			reading stuff written by professionals.
		
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			But still, it is a concept.
		
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			So, bounce it off of other people that
		
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			you can trust.
		
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			Get their input.
		
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			Get their input.
		
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			And if your personal opinion, their response or
		
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			feedback, if that is taking you in that
		
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			direction, then getting a professional opinion, getting a
		
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			responsible professional opinion, may not be a bad
		
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			idea to begin with.
		
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			One thing that, one other thing that I
		
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			would suggest is that before you found out
		
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			about depression, anxiety and all of that, you
		
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			should look at your life before that.
		
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			What was the level of functionality in that?
		
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			What was the level of your relationships in
		
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			that?
		
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			What was the level of your personal sense
		
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			of distress in that?
		
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			So, get a good gauge of that.
		
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			And compare that, when you start to know
		
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			about all these things, when you start to
		
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			know about all these things, when you start
		
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			to see all these things on the internet,
		
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			when you start to see all these awareness
		
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			things, did that impact my functionality?
		
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			Have I started to mess up more now?
		
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			So, that comparison will also be a helpful
		
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			indicator.
		
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			What do you think?
		
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			I don't think I can say anything more
		
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			than that.
		
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			Because you have said enough for us.
		
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			But I would definitely say that, as a
		
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			psychiatrist or a psychologist, if a person comes
		
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			to you with an issue, it is okay
		
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			if you tell them that you don't have
		
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			an issue, and you don't need to do
		
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			anything.
		
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			It will take some time.
		
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			I have, in my experience, 2-3 people,
		
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			I can remember right now, that I don't
		
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			have an issue.
		
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			I am doing alright.
		
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			I am doing this, I am doing that.
		
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			But I just thought that I should get
		
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			a check-up, to see if I am
		
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			okay.
		
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			Just like, I have to go to the
		
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			northern areas, to get a check-up, to
		
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			see if everything is working properly.
		
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			So, this over-consciousness, that I don't have
		
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			an issue, this too, and in this over
		
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			-consciousness, the role of self-help books, that
		
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			there are so many self-help books in
		
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			the market, that if someone has read 7
		
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			-8 of them, and you don't have an
		
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			issue, then you can always find 5-7
		
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			issues in yourself, that I have this issue,
		
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			I have that issue, I have that issue.
		
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			It's like, you can make the whole world
		
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			a homogenous solution, where everyone is the same,
		
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			where everyone is the same.
		
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			So, this over-consciousness, this too, we get
		
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			to see this too, especially, in this over
		
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			-consciousness.
		
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			I remember, Azam, from what you said, I
		
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			remember, that we had a morning meeting, in
		
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			the Institute of Psychiatry, and a patient was
		
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			presented in an emergency, and I presented him
		
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			in the morning meeting, and after the presentation,
		
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			when it was time to give the diagnosis,
		
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			after giving the presentation case, we used to
		
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			give our assessment and diagnosis, so I said
		
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			in my diagnosis, that the patient has no
		
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			mental illness, or there is no diagnosis for
		
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			this patient, he does not have any, he
		
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			does not fulfill any criteria.
		
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			So, the appreciation I got from Mr. Fareed,
		
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			and the praise he gave, that we have
		
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			such a tendency, that if someone comes to
		
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			us, we have to leave them after diagnosing.
		
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			Not doing that, is such a big deal,
		
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			especially, and obviously, I was presenting somebody, who
		
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			had come to me in the ER, through
		
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			an emergency.
		
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			So, to get that, and now that we've
		
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			entered into practice ourselves, we come to this
		
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			recognition and realization, that those self-help books,
		
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			and they are going to sell, if they
		
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			make you believe, that you have problems, that
		
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			they can solve.
		
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			So, the first part of their job, is
		
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			to make you believe, that you have problems,
		
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			and because they are very effective, in communication
		
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			and in marketing, they can make you believe
		
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			that, even if it's not true.
		
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			But our DSM mentality, as mental health professionals,
		
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			in which we put all humanity, and all
		
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			people, in some or the other diagnostic box,
		
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			has developed a tendency, that even within psychiatrists,
		
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			and clinical psychologists, in our practice, we're waiting
		
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			for catchphrases.
		
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			If someone says, if a person is sad
		
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			in front of us, and says, there was
		
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			a time, I was very happy, oh, I
		
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			was very happy, mania.
		
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			What happened?
		
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			This is not mania.
		
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			That's not what it is.
		
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			I mean, in the limited interaction, that we're
		
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			going to have with people, we're going to
		
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			look for, just these catchphrases.
		
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			With some or the other diagnostic criteria, their
		
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			dots can be connected, and then put the
		
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			person into that box, and start them on,
		
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			whatever pharmacotherapy, that we have to do.
		
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			So, this diagnostic labeling, even therapeutically, we know,
		
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			it's not, until and unless, we're dealing with
		
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			very severe cases, until and unless, it's paranoid
		
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			schizophrenia, well established, bipolar affective disorder, you know,
		
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			severe depression, okay.
		
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			There, diagnostic labels make sense.
		
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			But short of that, most of the people,
		
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			that we work with, clinically and professionally, they
		
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			can just as easily, go without a diagnostic
		
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			label.
		
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			But, self-help books, phenomena, DSM mentality, or
		
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			pharmaceutical companies, that, you know, the way they
		
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			market themselves, to doctors and to patients, that
		
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			has, led to the glamorization, or, you know,
		
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			the, you know, making this undesirable.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			We all do that, in our daily lives.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			Just, two weeks back, I saw someone, came,
		
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			engaged, made an engagement, uh, to me, or,
		
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			maybe, we'll see that, session book, maybe, we'll
		
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			see that, session book, maybe, we'll
		
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			see that, session book, But,
		
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			he was anticipating, you know, that's, that's very
		
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			true.
		
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			See, um, there are certain normal reactions, to,
		
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			such experiences that we will have in our
		
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			life.
		
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			Again, But if we lose a loved one,
		
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			whether that's a breakup or an engagement breaks
		
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			off or divorce or separation or the death
		
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			of a loved one or a serious illness
		
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			that comes in the family or the person
		
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			is inflicted, there will be a normal reaction
		
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			of sadness and it should be there.
		
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			That's a sign of good health.
		
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			If we have experienced a loss in our
		
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			life and we are saddened by that loss,
		
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			then that's good.
		
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			Not being sad where there is sadness, that's
		
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			problematic, there's something wrong going on.
		
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			Right?
		
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			We don't have to put a number to
		
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			it, we know how long it takes people
		
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			to recover from this level of life change
		
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			or loss in life, depending on whatever it
		
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			is.
		
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			We all have an idea.
		
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			If it's happening more than that, that it's
		
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			been a long time since the loss, still
		
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			that sadness is not going away, still that
		
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			sadness is not going away and now that
		
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			our, and we've been saying this from the
		
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			very beginning, the line that you brought up
		
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			with reference to Freud, the loss of ability
		
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			to work and to love, right?
		
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			So when that starts happening, then we should
		
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			probably take it to a professional help to
		
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			get that addressed.
		
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			Otherwise, there is no need.
		
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			These are challenges that are a part of
		
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			life.
		
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			We are all sad, we all know how
		
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			to cry, we are all afraid, we all
		
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			sometimes don't feel hungry.
		
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			It's okay.
		
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			That's fine.
		
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			If the duration is too long and we
		
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			start getting impairment on the functionality, that's when
		
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			we should probably consider, you know, seeking out
		
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			professional help.
		
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			If we talk a little more about what
		
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			we talked about in the beginning, we see
		
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			that a lot of people, especially those who
		
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			are related to literature, poets, scientists, those who
		
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			are related to any creative field, it looks
		
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			like they have a higher frequency of mental
		
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			illness.
		
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			So do they have any connection to this?
		
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			I do feel that there is, and we've
		
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			seen evidence of this as well.
		
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			There are multiple researches, although there can be
		
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			contradictory results, but we do find evidence that
		
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			a lot of creative people will have a
		
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			greater vulnerability, a greater tendency towards mental illnesses
		
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			as well.
		
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			The other side of the story is true
		
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			as well.
		
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			In experience of mental illness or a mental
		
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			health challenge, it sets the stage for you
		
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			to look at the world in a different
		
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			way or look at that side of the
		
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			world that other people will not notice.
		
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			And that adds to the creativity and that
		
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			contributes to how creatively or how much novelty
		
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			you can bring into the world.
		
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			So I conform to that.
		
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			I do feel that that does happen.
		
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			So, Yusuf, does everyone who is depressed or
		
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			sad, should they also start writing poetry when
		
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			they are sad?
		
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			Creativity is not just poetry, but I will
		
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			say this much.
		
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			There is an expression that poetry allows, that
		
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			art allows, that music allows, that language in
		
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			prose does not allow.
		
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			And if the expression of our emotions can
		
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			engender a level of satisfaction or a level
		
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			of growth in our mental health, then it
		
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			is a very good idea to have that
		
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			aesthetic side of ourselves, which is our aesthetic
		
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			dimension as human beings.
		
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			To make some arrangement for that is a
		
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			very good idea.
		
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			Even in the routine, we don't have to
		
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			wait for us to have a neurotic break
		
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			or a breakdown for us to come to
		
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			that realization.
		
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			In a lot of people, a breakdown such
		
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			as that is a sign that you have
		
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			this ability and it is necessary to bring
		
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			it forward.
		
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			In a lot of people, it doesn't have
		
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			to be all cases of depression, but in
		
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			some people that is true.
		
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			So why not?
		
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			There is a link there.
		
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			But that's not all curative.
		
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			If you start writing poetry, depression will be
		
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			fine.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			So, Yusuf, the title you gave was glamorization
		
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			and stigmatization.
		
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			Isn't it that the
		
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			cause of both of these is a very
		
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			big self-awareness or
		
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			self-criticism?
		
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			That's a wonderful point.
		
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			Thank you.
		
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			We know for a fact that, for example,
		
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			Frankel gives this example that a patient came
		
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			to him who was a very wonderful violinist.
		
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			He used to play the violin very well.
		
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			And one day he thought, why don't I
		
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			take one step at a time while playing
		
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			the violin, what is the first step?
		
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			What is the second step?
		
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			How do I keep my hand first?
		
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			And he's like, he had decided not to
		
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			play the violin.
		
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			He became so hyper-focused.
		
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			One such thing that was on the periphery
		
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			of his focus, let's say, he came to
		
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			the center of that focus in such a
		
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			way that he couldn't work at all.
		
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			And those of us who have learned how
		
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			to drive or any of those motor skills
		
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			that we have adopted, if we start thinking
		
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			so much about them, that anxiety, that tension,
		
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			this is what happens in stage fright as
		
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			well.
		
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			This is what happens in public presentations.
		
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			This is in most public performances.
		
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			If we start doing this, then precisely what
		
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			we want to do will not be possible
		
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			due to this hyper-focus.
		
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			And that's one of the ways that emotions
		
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			work.
		
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			Especially if we keep this concept in mind,
		
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			the way happiness, how Frankl defines happiness, that
		
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			it is a by-product of genuine pursuit
		
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			of meaning.
		
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			That in your social life, in your personal
		
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			life, if there are any meaningful activities happening,
		
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			if there are any genuine achievements happening, then
		
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			as a by-product, happiness will come.
		
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			If we make that by-product a focal
		
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			goal, then it becomes more elusive and more
		
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			evasive.
		
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			And that is true not just for happiness,
		
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			that is true for depression.
		
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			If a person starts doing his self-diagnosis
		
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			daily, that I was sad today, I was
		
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			sad today.
		
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			Now that sadness, just putting yourself under the
		
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			microscope, has magnified it more than what the
		
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			experience actually was.
		
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			And we have to, in a lot of
		
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			ways, when we are addressing mental health challenges,
		
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			identify how mental health improvement comes from a
		
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			lot of indirect channels.
		
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			The more we catch depression directly, and start
		
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			fixing it with both our hands, that's precisely
		
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			what is going to increase the depression.
		
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			And we know that for obsessions as well.
		
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			Even in OCD, if we catch the obsessive
		
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			symptoms and start going into it, and start
		
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			making it more of a focus of attention,
		
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			the obsession needs this to get worsened, to
		
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			get exacerbated.
		
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			And the greater focus in a lot of
		
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			our therapeutic strategies as well, the people who
		
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			are coming to us with these emotional challenges
		
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			having become the center of attention, is to
		
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			try to bring the other dimensions of their
		
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			life into focus, bring the rest of their
		
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			family into focus, bring society into focus, bring
		
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			a higher purpose or cause into focus.
		
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			And we find that when those things do
		
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			become a focus, as a byproduct, as a
		
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			side effect, mental health challenges or mental health
		
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			problems or symptoms also start improving.
		
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			So, as campaigners for mental health, we need
		
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			to also know when not to focus on
		
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			mental health and when to focus on the
		
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			other dimensions of the human being, all of
		
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			whom, there's a confluence within our emotional experience
		
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			from all of these different dimensions.
		
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			So, Yusuf, a very obvious question that you're
		
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			seeing will arise, what should we do and
		
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			what not to do?
		
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			If you can, the many vague things you've
		
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			said, if you can put them into bullet
		
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			points, what to do and what not to
		
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			do, so that we can move towards the
		
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			questions.
		
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			Okay, before I go into this, before I
		
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			answer your question, I do feel that whenever
		
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			we talk about stigmatization, we need to balance
		
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			that out with identifying the phenomenon of glamorization
		
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			as well.
		
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			But when we talk about glamorization, we also
		
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			have to come back and refocus and identify
		
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			stigmatization as an issue as well.
		
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			I don't know if we've been able to
		
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			speak about this in the past or not,
		
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			but stigmatization, especially in our society, exaggerates and
		
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			exacerbates many psychological problems so much that for
		
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			an individual, manifesting with physical symptoms, that their
		
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			depression is manifesting as physical symptoms, is more
		
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			acceptable, is more acceptable as compared to coming
		
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			in the form of overt sadness or crying
		
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			or, you know, psychological symptoms.
		
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			So, to put it another way, that in
		
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			Pakistani society, psychological problems are more likely to
		
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			come in the form of physical symptoms.
		
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			More pains, more digestive problems, more loss of
		
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			functioning in a particular part of their body,
		
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			and what is its root?
		
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			What is its origin?
		
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			Psychological problems.
		
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			Why is this more in our society?
		
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			Because no one will lift psychological problems, no
		
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			one will appreciate them, no one will pay
		
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			attention to them, the solution to the problem
		
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			will not be that way.
		
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			It is more likely that physical symptoms will
		
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			be addressed.
		
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			Not that anyone does that deliberately.
		
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			This is a way of our psyche, that
		
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			I need help, and I need problems to
		
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			be solved.
		
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			So that's how much of a role stigmatization
		
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			plays in the worsening of psychological problems.
		
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			So, this I wanted to say before we
		
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			move on.
		
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			Now, to answer your question, see, first up,
		
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			we need to know that there is stigmatization
		
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			which leads to mental health challenges.
		
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			The second thing we need to know is
		
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			that there is glamorization as well, in identifying
		
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			how much attention is being given to this,
		
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			and that this may be a way out.
		
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			We have the tendency to victimize ourselves, and
		
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			we may resort to a diagnostic label.
		
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			And I have actually gotten this from one
		
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			of my collaborators.
		
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			He said that he had ADHD.
		
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			After a lot of back and forth, when
		
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			I convinced him that he didn't have ADHD,
		
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			he said, okay, then I'll have to work.
		
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			So that in itself is betraying a tendency
		
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			within us that how these diagnostic labels give
		
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			us a clean chit.
		
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			So awareness of both these phenomena is important.
		
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			Both these tendencies are present in our society,
		
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			in our individual selves.
		
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			In the third step, self-diagnosis, that's
		
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			how the process will start, understandably.
		
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			We start with ourselves about what we think
		
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			about it, what our opinion is, what our
		
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			conclusion is.
		
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			But it shouldn't end with that.
		
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			To corroborate it, to get feedback on it,
		
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			to acknowledge it, to confirm it, or to
		
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			reject it, we should be open to other
		
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			people's input.
		
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			And that input can come from reliable and
		
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			trustworthy sources within our families and friends.
		
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			If the level of distress or problem is
		
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			even higher, then we should look towards responsible
		
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			mental health professionals.
		
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			And responsible mental health professionals should recognize that
		
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			our job is not only to diagnose, but
		
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			where diagnosis is not possible, it is also
		
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			important to explicitly state that there is no
		
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			diagnosis.
		
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			Okay?
		
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			So now we're ready to move on to
		
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			questions, Azam?
		
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			Yes.
		
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			So I'm going to take the seat of
		
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			the journalist and now you can become the
		
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			one answering the questions.
		
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			Very funny.
		
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			So I was asking, what are some of
		
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			the traits, you tried doing that again, didn't
		
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			you?
		
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			What are some of the traits to identify
		
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			if someone has victimized themselves?
		
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			So, well, I think you've already given the
		
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			answer.
		
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			It's not going to be a straightforward answer,
		
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			but you would have to look at whether
		
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			the judgment you have on yourself is warranted
		
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			or not.
		
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			The second thing is, is the person evading
		
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			any responsibility?
		
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			And then, what are the effects of that
		
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			victimization on their life?
		
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			If you think he's gaining something, but not
		
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			losing anything, then you should be suspicious that
		
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			his victimization is not deliberate.
		
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			As far as the matter of victimization is
		
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			concerned, which is not deliberate and is unconscious,
		
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			then the question becomes more important as to
		
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			why this is happening.
		
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			Because there might be something that is really
		
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			his right and he's not getting it.
		
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			And here, what I mean by right is
		
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			what we call private gains.
		
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			They are mostly of those categories.
		
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			They have respect, affection, love, which they should
		
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			get from others.
		
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			They should get it from their relationships or
		
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			people around them, but they're not getting it.
		
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			So, there cannot be one straightforward answer that
		
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			this will happen, and that will happen.
		
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			You have to look at all these domains.
		
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			Most likely, I think it's important that if
		
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			we do this conversation with ourselves, that I'm
		
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			not victimizing myself, and for its corroboration, I
		
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			should talk to others.
		
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			But we should refrain from passing these judgments
		
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			about other people.
		
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			Look, he's victimizing himself.
		
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			I don't think that's appropriate.
		
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			Even if that victimization is coming from someone,
		
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			then as you said, a genuine need that
		
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			is being denied to them, that may be
		
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			the reason.
		
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			So, before passing this judgment on someone else,
		
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			you have to do FCPS psychiatry.
		
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			And for that too, they should give you
		
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			this right.
		
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			Even FCPS psychiatrists go to society randomly and
		
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			say, oh, look, victimizer, oh, look, borderline.
		
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			No, this is a right that you have
		
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			only if somebody gives it to you.
		
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			And for that, they have to pay you.
		
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			And they have to sign up for that.
		
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			Okay, now I'm opening myself up to your
		
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			clinical judgment.
		
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			Go ahead and make it.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			All right.
		
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			Anaya is asking, Azam, what is the difference
		
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			between grief and depression?
		
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			Is it just a level of functionality?
		
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			So, yes, functionality is very important.
		
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			But functionality, in itself, does not affect.
		
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			It affects the severity.
		
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			So, grief is a normal, expression of any
		
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			loss.
		
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			And it should be.
		
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			If it's not there, then it's abnormal.
		
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			And I said, any loss.
		
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			So, any loss.
		
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			It could be the phone call or grief.
		
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			It's very cheap, but still.
		
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			So, but, but, but, but, and still depression
		
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			at least in its initial
		
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			stages where it is at its peak can
		
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			mimic depression but grief subsides and the person
		
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			returns to his functionality but in depression it
		
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			will not be like that, it will be
		
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			persistent and severe but
		
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			in depression we may not be able to
		
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			make that connection but Yusuf, after the death
		
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			of a loved one, it can also be
		
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			depression even if that is visible, but we
		
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			cannot diagnose it as depression without giving it
		
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			2 weeks of normal grief
		
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			we
		
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			cannot diagnose it as depression but loss of
		
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			ability to express love and care is normal?
		
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			No, it is not normal because love and
		
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			care are human functions it is just like
		
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			if my car is running on 3 gears
		
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			and 4th is not, is it normal?
		
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			No, it is not normal because for any
		
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			human, he cannot fully express his potential until
		
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			all his gears are working properly and love
		
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			and care is one of the most important
		
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			gears of any human like Azam said, it
		
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			is a joke but it is an accurate
		
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			depiction of what goes on in our society
		
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			there are certain professions that are designed to
		
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			take that away from us but on a
		
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			serious note, it is necessary for their profession
		
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			if a surgeon starts caring in the sense
		
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			that if he doesn't hurt anyone, he can't
		
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			work a certain type of ruthlessness is
		
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			necessary for you what
		
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			are a few things a person having a
		
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			fearful avoidant attachment style should work on to
		
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			improve?
		
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			the relationship is maybe between a mother and
		
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			daughter or anyone in a social space Hussna
		
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			just read Mary Ainsworth and asked you a
		
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			question I would be very cautious there Hussna
		
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			in being so definitive in saying that I
		
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			have a fearful avoidant attachment style even as
		
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			a specialist, as a psychiatrist or a clinical
		
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			psychologist I would not make that judgement for
		
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			myself or about myself I would take it
		
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			to another professional I would take a session
		
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			from Azam and talk to him and then
		
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			I would ask him to tell me is
		
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			my suspicion correct or not correct I wouldn't
		
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			self-diagnose even as a mental health professional
		
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			I would always fall back to another professional
		
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			and then once they confirm or disconfirm or
		
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			if it's a manifestation of another problem then
		
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			I will proceed from there make sense?
		
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			I hope that helps answer your question Yusuf,
		
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			just one thing how safe is it to
		
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			do a diagnosis?
		
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			I think I will say it as many
		
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			times as you'd want me to say it
		
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			do not put labels to yourself do not
		
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			attach labels to yourself even I would implore
		
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			mental health professionals most of the people that
		
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			you're dealing with probably don't require a label
		
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			or a diagnostic category either a very small
		
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			percentage does when we put someone in a
		
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			diagnostic box then we ignore their personality, their
		
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			life, their multiple dimensions of what has not
		
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			come in front of us we don't take
		
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			care of that when that label is attached
		
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			to someone we know that patients of schizophrenia
		
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			don't get physical or medical help adequately simply
		
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			because of the label when they go to
		
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			a physician whether they are in Europe or
		
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			America this is empirical evidence from across the
		
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			board just because of that label all their
		
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			symptoms are explained in that label even their
		
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			genuine physical problems are not adequately expressed so
		
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			just to use that as an example I'm
		
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			not saying that who has schizophrenia shouldn't be
		
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			called or shouldn't be given the diagnosis of
		
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			schizophrenia I'm saying that we should avoid the
		
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			possibility that if I give a diagnosis to
		
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			a person that person is depressed or this
		
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			is a borderline personality disorder then all my
		
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			subsequent interactions with that person they won't be
		
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			able to see anything beyond that and until
		
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			I can't see them I'm not going to
		
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			be able to help them become more than
		
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			that diagnostic label rather I'm facilitating in reducing
		
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			their life to that and just that and
		
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			we've seen the devastating consequences of that in
		
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			our practice we don't want to do that
		
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			all right so I think we're done for
		
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			today Azam, we call it a wrap thank
		
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			you for all the wonderful questions people and
		
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			if you I think there's a couple that
		
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			we did leave out but feel free to
		
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			reach out to us in our inboxes and
		
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			we will see how best we can help
		
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			you out with those questions and with this
		
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			our campaign for Mental Health Awareness concludes finally
		
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			now what we are going with this campaign
		
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			was an initiative of Telepsychiatry Pakistan which despite
		
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			my minimal involvement and Azam's minimal involvement our
		
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			team, our mental health coaches my media team
		
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			worked very hard to share content with you
		
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			all we had talks in different places with
		
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			different audiences spoke about mental health raised awareness
		
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			as best as we could so full credit
		
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			to the team for doing a wonderful job
		
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			I wouldn't there's so much that would not
		
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			have been practically we didn't even know what
		
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			was going on to be honest so much
		
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			was going on Dr. Samia Iqbal Dr. Omar
		
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			they've been going around giving talks Afifa, Fatima
		
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			Dr. Maryam Javed despite a lot of personal
		
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			okay thank you all Allah Hafiz