Yousuf Raza – How to convince a loved one to seek professional help

I can talk to a friend.

I can talk to my mother.

I can talk to a stranger.

You know, you have different support groups online.

So, if you want to talk to someone,

I can give you 10,000 or 5

,000 or 2,000 PQs.

How does talking actually help me?

So, what would you like to say about

that?

I mean, how do you think talking to

a psychologist or talking to a random friend

is different?

See, you can either get professional help or

you can get random help.

One of the examples that you gave, I

can talk to a stranger.

Fair enough.

You go to a stranger, a young girl,

17 years of age, has issues with depression,

family conflicts, bullying at school, etc.

She meets a stranger on social media, she

starts talking to him, she opens up her

heart to him.

I can't sleep at night, I cry, I

think I should end my life.

She shared this with a random stranger.

What do you expect the random stranger to

do?

You know, looking at the society, he might

start flirting.

He's going to take full advantage of her.

In the beginning, he's going to give her

a shoulder to lean on.

And then that's his foot in the door.

And once he has his foot in the

door, the exploitation and all that is going

to start.

See, teenagers, how do they get into drugs?

How do they get into exploitative company?

People who are going to take advantage of

them is because they choose to open up

to strangers, choose to talk to strangers.

Second thing, why don't I just talk to

a good friend, a trustworthy friend?

Why don't I just talk to a parent

or a sibling?

Why don't I just do that?

See, for the most part, if healthy support

was available from family and friends, that situation

may not have arisen to begin with.

In some cases, not in all cases.

If you had such therapeutic relationships with your

family and friends, if you had such healthy

interactions, then maybe it wouldn't have come to

that point.

For the most part, in a lot of

people, that you would have felt so much

distress.

Second thing, it is very likely that when

you go to your family and friends to

talk to them, there's some kind of help

that they can definitely give.

There's the kind of help that family can

give that a psychiatrist can never give.

There's the kind of help that a friend

can give that a psychiatrist or a psychologist

can never give.

Similarly, there is some psychological complexes.

There are some mental patterns, some thought patterns,

some cognitive patterns.

There are some ways of thinking.

There are some attitudes that your family or

friends are not trained to pick up on.