Yousuf Raza – How to convince a loved one to seek professional help
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The speaker discusses the benefits of talking to strangers and friends, including getting professional help and getting random help. They also mention that some people may not have experienced the benefits of talking to strangers and that there is potential for psychological complexes and attitudes to help people feel better.
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I can talk to a friend.
I can talk to my mother.
I can talk to a stranger.
You know, you have different support groups online.
So, if you want to talk to someone,
I can give you 10,000 or 5
,000 or 2,000 PQs.
How does talking actually help me?
So, what would you like to say about
that?
I mean, how do you think talking to
a psychologist or talking to a random friend
is different?
See, you can either get professional help or
you can get random help.
One of the examples that you gave, I
can talk to a stranger.
Fair enough.
You go to a stranger, a young girl,
17 years of age, has issues with depression,
family conflicts, bullying at school, etc.
She meets a stranger on social media, she
starts talking to him, she opens up her
heart to him.
I can't sleep at night, I cry, I
think I should end my life.
She shared this with a random stranger.
What do you expect the random stranger to
do?
You know, looking at the society, he might
start flirting.
He's going to take full advantage of her.
In the beginning, he's going to give her
a shoulder to lean on.
And then that's his foot in the door.
And once he has his foot in the
door, the exploitation and all that is going
to start.
See, teenagers, how do they get into drugs?
How do they get into exploitative company?
People who are going to take advantage of
them is because they choose to open up
to strangers, choose to talk to strangers.
Second thing, why don't I just talk to
a good friend, a trustworthy friend?
Why don't I just talk to a parent
or a sibling?
Why don't I just do that?
See, for the most part, if healthy support
was available from family and friends, that situation
may not have arisen to begin with.
In some cases, not in all cases.
If you had such therapeutic relationships with your
family and friends, if you had such healthy
interactions, then maybe it wouldn't have come to
that point.
For the most part, in a lot of
people, that you would have felt so much
distress.
Second thing, it is very likely that when
you go to your family and friends to
talk to them, there's some kind of help
that they can definitely give.
There's the kind of help that family can
give that a psychiatrist can never give.
There's the kind of help that a friend
can give that a psychiatrist or a psychologist
can never give.
Similarly, there is some psychological complexes.
There are some mental patterns, some thought patterns,
some cognitive patterns.
There are some ways of thinking.
There are some attitudes that your family or
friends are not trained to pick up on.