Yousef Bakeer – What Are Our Youth Prepared For

providing the right motives and removing any obstacles. These are

three things that me and you can strive for and have control over

when it comes to raising our children.

The problem is

the smallest circle we have control over the small circle,

which is the second circle, me and you have no control over

those outcomes the goal, you know, having a righteous child, this is

a goal me and you have no control over.

And so when we mix these two things up, and we don't get the

desired goals, we beat up ourselves we call it an r&b

language gelled with that, we beat up ourselves we held ourselves

accountable for for the for the end results. Even though if we

look at the sunnah of Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam and in

the Quran, Allah Allah Allah has addressed this issue with the

prophets, Allah Who Salah Prophet Muhammad Salim

Allah has defined his role as a parent, before his role as a

prophet. He said, You role Allah subhanaw taala as the prophets you

roles are to deliver this message of me

in alayka, in little Bella you deliver that message that could

end or that Bible you deliver that message, you deliver that message,

but you have no control over the outcomes, the end results even the

prophets have no control over those results. So Allah subhanaw

taala spoke to Prophet no Hallo salaam when Prophet Noah had that

also this the sense of burden on his shoulder. He said to Allah Oh

Allah 950 years in the TAO to call me Leyland when a harder day or

night. I'm asking my people to worship you and preaching to my

people. While I'm yet home die Illa fissara. And and I don't get

the desired goals.

And I kept preaching and kept preaching, and they're putting

even their fingers in their ears. They don't want to listen to me.

So he said, What should I do?

And more importantly, even my own son, Prophet Nora has speaking to

Allah, even my own son. He doesn't want to listen to my message.

And Allah has defined the last scene of you know, no Halleen

salaam son,

Allah, you know, spoke about this in very powerful words in the

Quran. Prophet knew he said to his son, yeah buena Yeah, Erica mana.

Walter Kemal Catherine. When that's it, that was the last

scene. They're gonna die. They're gonna, you know, sink in the

water. The people of Prophet Muhammad Salam and Prophet Nuh

looked at his son, and he told him, I'm gonna save you.

I've been giving you this message for so many years, and you're not

listening to my message. And now it's your last opportunity. Come

with me. I'm gonna save you. Later Kemal Catherine, don't be among

those who disbelieve in Allah subhanho wa taala. And then

Prophet no Hassan said, Carla, sir, we illegible in Yasukuni

middle math, which is going to find a mountain that can save me

from this flood. Call Allah Our single young man and Emery Lai

Illa Mara, there is no way you can be saved, unless you join my ship.

And then Prophet Noah has son, you know, lost his life.

Prophet knew himself his own wife didn't believe with Him. If we

look at the Prophet know his life, 950 years and there is no growth

in the ground, no results, because us as human beings judge each

other based on results. What are what are the results? I don't see

numbers, then, you know, this is something that's completely your

own fault. But with Allah subhanaw taala is different. Prophet Nuh

has ranked in the highest highest level of Jannah because he was so

tough and he went through it. He went through that journey of

struggle. So Allah will count his side his pursuit, his efforts. He

said in the Quran, was a lazily insanely inland Messiah. The only

thing that will be counted in the Day of Judgment is your pursuits,

your journey, not the ultimate results. One Messiah who suffer

euro and my pursuit and you will pursue will be presented to Allah

subhanaw taala on the day

If judgments, we need to understand the difference between

the outcomes and delivering the delivering and providing that can

be at the proper tarbiyah that can help my son and your son to thrive

in sha Allah Allah, this is very, very sensitive difference. It's a

very tiny difference that we need to understand.

Subhan Allah is speaking about the outcomes and the effort and the

pursuits when it comes to tarbiyah. This is not only for

parents, there are so many people are struggling with this idea of

gels with that beating up yourself, even in the personal

life, in the workplace, even in the workplace. Sometimes I will

share with you something that I've struggled with, you know, and it

was something sort of, you know, something funny that happened to

me. When I first started my career. It was it was Salah to

tarawih. The I'm leading salata, we had Matthew, the courser in

Egypt. When I was in high school, I was seeing I was a senior. And I

was asked to lead a tele, we're Hannah in magic, because one of

the biggest massages, huge community, and I was so nervous. I

was so nervous. I didn't know how I'm going to navigate this. And

then I just I've done my part memorized my you know, word, my

part that I'm gonna recite and I'm comfortable with my memorization.

And now it's time to actually start, you know, the work the

task.

And before even, you know, starting the task, it was solid to

sunnah. And then solid, Alicia,

you know, the very beginning. And because I'm so nervous, I started

reciting Salah to sunnah out loud in the microphone. And people were

behind me, you know, getting so confused what's going on here? And

navigated through it, I prayed a lot sooner. And then I went back

to my chef and told him, I am not going to lead salads anymore. I

just feel like I'm a failure. I am a failure. I can't I can't do this

anymore. I pointed you know, that, you know, I pointed the finger

towards myself and said, You know what? I'm guilt. I feel this

guilt. How can I you know, I confuse so many people I'm not

even worth to becoming imam or are there you're a scholar.

And somehow, so many people get the same feeling with the first

task, and then they just feel like, okay, now, I just feel like

I can't do it anymore. I'm a failure. And that stops you and me

from growing and working on our weaknesses. The second point, when

it comes to parenting, I'll go back to parenting Subhanallah

it happened to me

when I first when I first

learned about my child's diagnose, you know, Doctor told me your

child is diagnosed with autism. And right away, same mistake, it's

recurring theme brothers and sisters. It's the same mistake

over and over and over as parents we make in a daily basis. I

started thinking about what wrong did I do that caused my daughter

to you know, for to go through this now journey of you know,

disability What did I do wrong? Maybe I give her you give her you

know, screen Meantime, screening time or maybe you know, I didn't

invest too much in her character development at the first year or

the second year. And then just your mind is gonna fly towards

those you know, you know, dark destinations where you feel that

Hollis, it's over. There is nothing for you. As you know left.

There is nothing for you as a parent to do. You have failed as a

parent. You have failed as a parent, and Subhanallah that will

distract you from thinking positively about what you will

need to do in the future. Which route you should take which

therapy you should seek.

which resources you should look at.

It's an over and over recurring theme. My dear brothers and sister

I beg you to understand that you as a parent is responsible for the

site for providing this knowledge, right knowledge, right motives and

removing any obstacles. Leave the results in Allah subhanaw taala is

hands and don't even worry about it. Akula Cody had our stuff for

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