Yousef Bakeer – What Are Our Youth Prepared For
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The speaker discusses challenges in achieving goals for children, including negative consequences and negative consequences for parents. They emphasize the importance of understanding outcomes and pursuits, as it can help individuals thrive and achieve their goals. The speaker also mentions a woman named Missy who struggled with a task and felt like a failure, and emphasizes the need for more resources and guidance to help parents succeed in the future. Additionally, they discuss struggles with gels and parenting, as well as recurring themes of "over and over" and "over and over" causing feelings of guilt and fear.
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providing the right motives and removing any obstacles. These are
three things that me and you can strive for and have control over
when it comes to raising our children.
The problem is
the smallest circle we have control over the small circle,
which is the second circle, me and you have no control over
those outcomes the goal, you know, having a righteous child, this is
a goal me and you have no control over.
And so when we mix these two things up, and we don't get the
desired goals, we beat up ourselves we call it an r&b
language gelled with that, we beat up ourselves we held ourselves
accountable for for the for the end results. Even though if we
look at the sunnah of Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam and in
the Quran, Allah Allah Allah has addressed this issue with the
prophets, Allah Who Salah Prophet Muhammad Salim
Allah has defined his role as a parent, before his role as a
prophet. He said, You role Allah subhanaw taala as the prophets you
roles are to deliver this message of me
in alayka, in little Bella you deliver that message that could
end or that Bible you deliver that message, you deliver that message,
but you have no control over the outcomes, the end results even the
prophets have no control over those results. So Allah subhanaw
taala spoke to Prophet no Hallo salaam when Prophet Noah had that
also this the sense of burden on his shoulder. He said to Allah Oh
Allah 950 years in the TAO to call me Leyland when a harder day or
night. I'm asking my people to worship you and preaching to my
people. While I'm yet home die Illa fissara. And and I don't get
the desired goals.
And I kept preaching and kept preaching, and they're putting
even their fingers in their ears. They don't want to listen to me.
So he said, What should I do?
And more importantly, even my own son, Prophet Nora has speaking to
Allah, even my own son. He doesn't want to listen to my message.
And Allah has defined the last scene of you know, no Halleen
salaam son,
Allah, you know, spoke about this in very powerful words in the
Quran. Prophet knew he said to his son, yeah buena Yeah, Erica mana.
Walter Kemal Catherine. When that's it, that was the last
scene. They're gonna die. They're gonna, you know, sink in the
water. The people of Prophet Muhammad Salam and Prophet Nuh
looked at his son, and he told him, I'm gonna save you.
I've been giving you this message for so many years, and you're not
listening to my message. And now it's your last opportunity. Come
with me. I'm gonna save you. Later Kemal Catherine, don't be among
those who disbelieve in Allah subhanho wa taala. And then
Prophet no Hassan said, Carla, sir, we illegible in Yasukuni
middle math, which is going to find a mountain that can save me
from this flood. Call Allah Our single young man and Emery Lai
Illa Mara, there is no way you can be saved, unless you join my ship.
And then Prophet Noah has son, you know, lost his life.
Prophet knew himself his own wife didn't believe with Him. If we
look at the Prophet know his life, 950 years and there is no growth
in the ground, no results, because us as human beings judge each
other based on results. What are what are the results? I don't see
numbers, then, you know, this is something that's completely your
own fault. But with Allah subhanaw taala is different. Prophet Nuh
has ranked in the highest highest level of Jannah because he was so
tough and he went through it. He went through that journey of
struggle. So Allah will count his side his pursuit, his efforts. He
said in the Quran, was a lazily insanely inland Messiah. The only
thing that will be counted in the Day of Judgment is your pursuits,
your journey, not the ultimate results. One Messiah who suffer
euro and my pursuit and you will pursue will be presented to Allah
subhanaw taala on the day
If judgments, we need to understand the difference between
the outcomes and delivering the delivering and providing that can
be at the proper tarbiyah that can help my son and your son to thrive
in sha Allah Allah, this is very, very sensitive difference. It's a
very tiny difference that we need to understand.
Subhan Allah is speaking about the outcomes and the effort and the
pursuits when it comes to tarbiyah. This is not only for
parents, there are so many people are struggling with this idea of
gels with that beating up yourself, even in the personal
life, in the workplace, even in the workplace. Sometimes I will
share with you something that I've struggled with, you know, and it
was something sort of, you know, something funny that happened to
me. When I first started my career. It was it was Salah to
tarawih. The I'm leading salata, we had Matthew, the courser in
Egypt. When I was in high school, I was seeing I was a senior. And I
was asked to lead a tele, we're Hannah in magic, because one of
the biggest massages, huge community, and I was so nervous. I
was so nervous. I didn't know how I'm going to navigate this. And
then I just I've done my part memorized my you know, word, my
part that I'm gonna recite and I'm comfortable with my memorization.
And now it's time to actually start, you know, the work the
task.
And before even, you know, starting the task, it was solid to
sunnah. And then solid, Alicia,
you know, the very beginning. And because I'm so nervous, I started
reciting Salah to sunnah out loud in the microphone. And people were
behind me, you know, getting so confused what's going on here? And
navigated through it, I prayed a lot sooner. And then I went back
to my chef and told him, I am not going to lead salads anymore. I
just feel like I'm a failure. I am a failure. I can't I can't do this
anymore. I pointed you know, that, you know, I pointed the finger
towards myself and said, You know what? I'm guilt. I feel this
guilt. How can I you know, I confuse so many people I'm not
even worth to becoming imam or are there you're a scholar.
And somehow, so many people get the same feeling with the first
task, and then they just feel like, okay, now, I just feel like
I can't do it anymore. I'm a failure. And that stops you and me
from growing and working on our weaknesses. The second point, when
it comes to parenting, I'll go back to parenting Subhanallah
it happened to me
when I first when I first
learned about my child's diagnose, you know, Doctor told me your
child is diagnosed with autism. And right away, same mistake, it's
recurring theme brothers and sisters. It's the same mistake
over and over and over as parents we make in a daily basis. I
started thinking about what wrong did I do that caused my daughter
to you know, for to go through this now journey of you know,
disability What did I do wrong? Maybe I give her you give her you
know, screen Meantime, screening time or maybe you know, I didn't
invest too much in her character development at the first year or
the second year. And then just your mind is gonna fly towards
those you know, you know, dark destinations where you feel that
Hollis, it's over. There is nothing for you. As you know left.
There is nothing for you as a parent to do. You have failed as a
parent. You have failed as a parent, and Subhanallah that will
distract you from thinking positively about what you will
need to do in the future. Which route you should take which
therapy you should seek.
which resources you should look at.
It's an over and over recurring theme. My dear brothers and sister
I beg you to understand that you as a parent is responsible for the
site for providing this knowledge, right knowledge, right motives and
removing any obstacles. Leave the results in Allah subhanaw taala is
hands and don't even worry about it. Akula Cody had our stuff for
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