Yousef Bakeer – Don’t Be Sad Indeed Allah Is With Us

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The journey of Prophet sall immightaens'
is a sad and sad journey, but the journey is not sad. The journey is a sad journey, and individual actions can have a different impact. Control and feelings are important in one's actions, and emotional support and acknowledgment of one's actions can help avoid negative consequences. The journey is real and real issues for their community, and individuals can seek help for their mental health.

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Fela medulla, woman mute lil fella
		
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			had yella why shadow Allah ilaha
illallah wa who Lashley Keller
		
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			what ash had to anna muhammadan
Abu do who are Sulu Allah subhanaw
		
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			taala says in the Quran Yeah.
		
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			The
		
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			telco more it duckula Haha cartoon
called he moved to
		
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			Walla to move to LA to Muslim.
		
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			He says all believers have taqwa
and ALLAH SubhanA wa taala, which
		
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			means that we should be conscious
of Allah of our Lord, we should be
		
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			aware of him, and we should
protect ourselves from his
		
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			punishment and his wrath. And we
should not let ourselves go
		
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			without being in a state of la
ilaha illAllah Muhammad Rasulullah
		
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			sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I
begin my hook by by asking Allah
		
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			subhanaw taala first and foremost,
to send blessings and prayers upon
		
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			our beloved prophet muhammad
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
		
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			Allahumma salli wa sallim wa barik
ala Nabina Wahhabi bynner Muhammad
		
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			wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa salim
to Sleeman Kathira My Dear
		
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			Brothers and Sisters in Islam As
salam o aleikum wa rahmatullah wa
		
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			barakatu.
		
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			I ask Allah subhanaw taala in this
blessed day of Ashura to bring
		
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			nothing but goodness prosperities
and blessings and serene and
		
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			tranquility, to ourselves and to
our homes and to our communities.
		
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			I mean, yadda blah Alameen. My
dear brothers and sisters,
		
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			this month is the month of
Muharram
		
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			which is the first month in the
lunar calendar, the month that
		
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			reminds us by the migration of our
beloved prophet muhammad
		
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			sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
		
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			and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam
went in a journey with Abu Bakr
		
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			Siddiq migrating from Makkah, all
the way to El Medina. And just to
		
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			give you a little background,
about this migration, this hijra,
		
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			the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam, along with his companions,
		
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			were going through series of
difficulties, hardships, they were
		
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			actually getting tortured. The
Dawa was suffering badly. The
		
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			Prophet sallallahu Sallam himself
was tortured, was humiliated, the
		
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			prophets of Allah Allah Islam
himself was losing some family
		
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			members, you name it, you know,
going through, you know, that
		
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			painful journey of even seeking
help from within his people. They
		
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			refused. He went outside of Maccha
seeking help outside, he got
		
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			rejected, you name it. Series
painful journey that the Prophet
		
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			sallallahu alayhi wa sallam went
through at the beginning stage of
		
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			Dawa along with his Sahaba.
		
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			Now, Allah subhanaw taala said,
describing part of the journey of
		
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			the migration, he said in Latin
Zulu who forgot NESARA hula is a
		
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			Raja who Lavina Cafaro Xerneas.
Nene is Umatilla is your kulula
		
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			sahibi. He led Zen in Allah
hermana. Allah is talking about
		
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			the Hijra here. Now he was saying
that Prophet sallallahu Sallam
		
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			along with the muslimeen were
forced to leave Mecca. And then it
		
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			happened in a situation where the
Prophet sallallahu sallam was in
		
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			the company of Abu Bakr svic. And
then Abu Bakr Siddiq or the Allah
		
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			Allah who was going through a
phase of sadness. And the Prophet
		
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			sallallahu Sallam looked at,
looked at Abu Bakr and told Abu
		
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			Bakr
		
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			let us and in Allah hermana
		
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			don't be sad, because indeed,
Allah is with us.
		
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			That's what Allah He beautiful
statements. And if we think about
		
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			it, if we dig a little bit deeper
in this statement, if you want to
		
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			look at it from the angle of the,
if the angle of Abu Bakr Siddiq or
		
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			the ALLAH and he was going through
phase of sadness, along with
		
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			Sahaba they're all in a very bad
situation. And Wallahi we can
		
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			relate to this. Either we're going
through you know, some, you know,
		
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			phase of depression phase of an
anxiety, by the way.
		
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			depression and anxiety is
something that at some point,
		
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			every human being will experience.
This is just nature of the human
		
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			being. Allah has created us, and
he knew that human humans will at
		
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			some point experience
		
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			sadness, at some point will
experience an anxiety or some
		
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			point will experience depression.
It's, it's a fact. If the Prophet
		
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			sallallahu Sallam went through it,
you know, sadness, and that's
		
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			showing in the spirit of the
Prophet sallallahu wasallam, when
		
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			he lost family members and
whatnot, then the rest of the
		
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			creation of Allah subhanaw taala,
the rest of the human beings will
		
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			experience at some point, these
kinds of feelings. And so when Abu
		
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			Bakr Siddiq or the Allah and who
was experiencing sadness, and it
		
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			was very, and I'm very picky with
the words I use, because I cannot
		
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			really say that Abu Bakr Siddiq
was in a state of depression,
		
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			because I have to be very careful
with my terminology. But for sure,
		
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			he was sad. And that's because
that's showing in the ayah, Allah
		
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			subhanaw taala said that the
Prophet told him, don't be sad,
		
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			let us and it means that he was
sad. And by the way, this is
		
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			beautiful, because the prophets
came with human characteristics,
		
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			the feel what what we feel, and
Allah was able to send angels as
		
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			prophets. But if he were to send
angels, then we cannot really
		
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			relate to those profits. Because
those profits now are humans, they
		
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			experience all of what we
experience, so we can relate to
		
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			them, we can learn from them, we
can actually navigate how they
		
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			used to navigate these kinds of
feelings. So let's see how
		
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			aboubaker is dealt with. With this
with his sadness. Again, we're
		
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			going to look at it from two
different angles. Abu Bakr is
		
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			angle and the Prophet sallallahu
wasallam is angle Abu Bakr Siddiq
		
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			of the Allah and who did something
very needed very crucial when
		
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			somebody goes through any of
those, you know, ill feelings.
		
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			Number one, first and foremost, he
decided not to stay alone.
		
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			Abu Bakr severe, was in a
desperate state waiting for the
		
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			Prophet sallallahu Sallam to
migrate to travel so he can be in
		
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			his company. In the Sierra, we
learned that he was sitting
		
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			waiting for the Prophet, he wanted
to hear the good news that the
		
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			prophets Allah Sam will decide to
take Abu Bakr with him. He was he
		
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			wanted the companionship of the
Prophet salaallah alayhi salam
		
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			because he knows for a fact that
being alone is not going to help,
		
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			you know to help him and he needs
the guidance and the companionship
		
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			of our beloved prophet muhammad
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So
		
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			number one, first and foremost
when we go through any kind of
		
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			feelings that's actually affecting
our daily activities. Number one,
		
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			first and foremost, never stay
alone. Seek people around you seek
		
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			support system, talk to somebody
who you like or who you love, talk
		
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			to a family member, talk to a
therapist seek help.
		
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			So the Prophet sallallahu sallam
was with Abu Bakr Siddiq, Abu Bakr
		
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			said, You know what, I'm gonna go
with the Prophet sallallahu
		
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			sallam, and I will express my
emotions to the prophets, Allah
		
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			Allahu Allah yourself. How did the
Prophet know that he said, at some
		
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			point, Abu Bakr Siddiq showed
something that made the Prophet
		
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			Salah Salem realizes that Abu Bakr
is going through you know, phase
		
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			phase of sadness.
		
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			Now,
		
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			number two, we learned from Abu
Bakr so vehicle, the Allah.
		
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			experts talk about this many
times, they say there are three
		
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			things that we really need to
think deeply about their emotions
		
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			slash feelings, and their actions.
And their our thoughts. Everyone
		
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			has these three things. All of us
here in this room, we actually
		
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			have these three things. I'll say
it again, emotions slash feelings,
		
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			actions and thoughts.
		
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			Now, experts say you and me have
no control over our feelings. We
		
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			don't decide how how we feel.
		
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			But they say we decide how we
think.
		
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			And then eventually, we decide we
determine our own actions. I'll
		
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			say it again. This is very
crucial. Experts will say when you
		
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			wake up in the morning, the first
thing when you actually wake up
		
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			and you're feeling a little
depressed, feeling a little, you
		
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			know, sort of, you know, the
motivation. You don't want to do
		
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			anything you just want to stay in
the bed.
		
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			Experts say you actually cannot
change this temporary feeling that
		
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			what you feel you cannot change
it, but there is a solution. They
		
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			say you can control your own
thoughts. So maybe you can
		
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			actually force yourself to say
Alhamdulillah
		
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			A lady here any bad man, a man
attorney, what you lay in the
		
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			shoe, yeah, Allah, I thank you, I
acknowledge your blessings upon
		
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			me. And I know for a fact that I
will be restricted to you, your
		
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			Allah, Ya Allah and refreshing my
faith, and acknowledging all the
		
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			blessings that you have bestowed
upon me.
		
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			You start your day with this.
		
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			Now you're actually controlling
your thoughts. Now you're thinking
		
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			positively about Allah, you're
thinking, thinking positively
		
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			about your day, you're thinking
positively about your affairs,
		
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			you're just acknowledging
everything, all the blessings that
		
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			Allah has bestowed upon me, the
fact that I wake up, my wife is
		
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			next to me, you know, next to me,
or my spouse, and my husband is
		
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			next to me, or my kids aren't
hamdulillah safe and sound
		
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			Alhamdulillah I have food on a you
know, on the table. Alhamdulillah
		
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			I have health and Hamdulillah I
can actually walk Alhamdulillah I
		
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			can get out of my house and take
my kids to school Alhamdulillah
		
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			able to function all of this,
you're actually thinking about all
		
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			of that. The first thing that you
think in the morning thinking
		
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			positively about Allah subhanaw
taala that's what thoughts
		
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			and then you get up and you and
now it will have an impact on your
		
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			actions. You also get to control
your actions you get up and you go
		
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			to select the treasurer and you
pray selected fish fetcher, and
		
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			then you start off your day.
		
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			None other scenario, you sit down
demotivated, you don't want to
		
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			think positively. You pull up your
phone, you go from an app to an
		
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			app, you go, you know, have this
unit, watch these short clips, and
		
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			then you stay for one hour, two
hours, just demotivated, you don't
		
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			want to do anything. Now, you're
actually give up giving up one of
		
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			your rights, one of your ability,
the ability to control your
		
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			thoughts, and therefore will have
an impact on your actions. Here's
		
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			the beautiful part. Once you
control these two things, guess
		
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			what? That will have an impact on
your feelings now
		
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			that you don't get to control.
Remember, we said at the
		
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			beginning, I don't get to control
my feelings. Yes. But now you got
		
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			to control your thoughts. You got
to control your actions, therefore
		
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			it will have a direct impact on
your feelings.
		
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			My dear brothers and sisters, the
second part for the sake of the
		
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			time, because that's a subject
that needs multiple hookups in sha
		
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			Allah Allah, but just for the sake
of the time, if we look now from
		
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			the angle of the Prophet
sallallahu wasallam, during
		
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			casual, you remember, angle of Abu
Bakr angle of the Prophet
		
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			sallallahu sallam, how did the
prophets deal with somebody who's
		
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			going through difficult time? We
have to experience this at some
		
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			point. Some some family members
going through difficult time
		
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			ourselves or other people around
us, our beloved ones, it's going
		
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			to happen. How do we deal with
this? Number one, first and
		
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			foremost, Prophet sallallahu
Sallam did something amazing. And
		
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			that's he acknowledged what Abu
Bakr Siddiq is going through.
		
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			He did not say,
		
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			Come on, man up, you know, all of
your Sahaba if your companions you
		
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			know, we're going through this,
we're going through this together.
		
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			He did not underestimate the
feelings of Abu Bakr, Slavic Radi
		
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			Allahu Allah.
		
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			He actually acknowledged it.
		
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			And how did he acknowledge it by
saying, Let us and I feel you, I
		
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			understand what you're going
through. I'm giving you this
		
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			emotional support that you need
now.
		
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			And one, one another beautiful
thing that the Prophet sallahu wa
		
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			salam said, after letters, and
what did he say, in Allaha manner?
		
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			First, he's saying we're, we're
going through this together, we're
		
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			here for you, man and not Mac. If
it's smack then that's your
		
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			business. Sometimes we're very
dismissive. Somebody is coming to
		
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			us with a with a real issue. And
what we get to do very dismissive
		
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			is like, okay, man, you know,
		
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			best of luck. What I'm going to
do, I can't do anything. Right,
		
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			very dismissive. But the Prophet
sallallahu sallam said, I feel you
		
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			were here together. Allah mana
Allah is with me and with you.
		
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			Subhanallah and then the prophets,
Allah Salam did not accuse
		
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			Abu Bakr Siddiq by having low
faith the Lord, Amen. That's very
		
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			important. Sometimes as parents,
we make this mistake, man. We talk
		
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			to our kids. And we see that our
kids sometimes are going through a
		
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			difficult time and we look at them
say, well, because you're not
		
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			praying.
		
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			I mean, is there anything wrong
with saying to your child that he
		
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			should pray? Absolutely not. Is it
appropriate in this context
		
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			at all,
		
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			Only not it's not appropriate in
this context. Why because you're
		
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			associating two things now you're
associating his what he's going
		
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			through whatever whatever he's
going through to the prayer to the
		
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			bad
		
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			a you're accusing him by have low
faith even though all the prophets
		
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			went through a difficult time
painful journeys Prophet Musa
		
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			prophets use a few names. So if
it's about faith, then this then
		
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			MBA should never felt anything
like that. Any sadness, anything
		
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			like that, but that's not the
case. Number two, your what you're
		
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			doing now is that you're building
resentment around salah. Because
		
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			you always think about salah
negatively just because you
		
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			associated his depression or his
anxiety to the prayer
		
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			and He will grow up hearing, you
know, hearing the word Salah why
		
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			because you're always he's always
constantly thinking about it in a
		
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			negative manner. So don't
associate associate these two
		
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			things. My dear brothers and
sisters, the last message in sha
		
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			Allah Tala
		
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			is that there is some level of
depression and an anxiety that
		
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			actually can cripple you that can
actually make you not able to
		
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			function.
		
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			Now able to actually go on your
day, and do your normal daily
		
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			activities. At this point, my dear
brothers and sisters, you
		
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			definitely, definitely need to
seek help.
		
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			You definitely need to seek help.
		
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			I'm not sure if it's something
very common for a chef to actually
		
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			ask people to go on to seek help
medical help, but Allah he this is
		
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			our reality. I'm dealing with
youth on a daily basis. And I'm
		
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			telling you, depression and
anxiety are real.
		
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			These are real issues that we
actually face in our community.
		
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			And oh, my sounds difficult to
process. I know my sounds harsh,
		
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			but Wallahi This is our reality.
The fact that depression and and
		
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			anxiety are invisible does not
mean that they don't exist, no
		
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			they do exist. And it is an issue.
So please, just the Prophet
		
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			salallahu Salam did check on Abu
Bakr Siddiq Radi Allahu Anhu
		
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			please let's make sure that we
check on our spouses our children
		
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			and we make sure that we provide
to them any help needed in the
		
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			light Allah Cody had our stuff for
Allah honey welcome.
		
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			Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim o salat
wa salam ala Rasulillah sallAllahu
		
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			Sallam Allah McPhee Lana the new
bene way Serafina Fe M Brina. With
		
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			a bit of damage on Sunako
McCaffrey and along Marina
		
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			konasana Tobiah were in a battle
about the numbers looking at
		
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			stiniva Robinair haeberlin I mean
as well as you know what the
		
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			reaction authoritarian or Jiang
Tokina Imam what Alchemist salah.