Yousef Bakeer – Don’t Be Sad Indeed Allah Is With Us
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is a sad and sad journey, but the journey is not sad. The journey is a sad journey, and individual actions can have a different impact. Control and feelings are important in one's actions, and emotional support and acknowledgment of one's actions can help avoid negative consequences. The journey is real and real issues for their community, and individuals can seek help for their mental health.
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what ash had to anna muhammadan Abu do who are Sulu Allah subhanaw
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He says all believers have taqwa and ALLAH SubhanA wa taala, which
means that we should be conscious of Allah of our Lord, we should be
aware of him, and we should protect ourselves from his
punishment and his wrath. And we should not let ourselves go
without being in a state of la ilaha illAllah Muhammad Rasulullah
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I begin my hook by by asking Allah
subhanaw taala first and foremost, to send blessings and prayers upon
our beloved prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
Allahumma salli wa sallim wa barik ala Nabina Wahhabi bynner Muhammad
wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa salim to Sleeman Kathira My Dear
Brothers and Sisters in Islam As salam o aleikum wa rahmatullah wa
barakatu.
I ask Allah subhanaw taala in this blessed day of Ashura to bring
nothing but goodness prosperities and blessings and serene and
tranquility, to ourselves and to our homes and to our communities.
I mean, yadda blah Alameen. My dear brothers and sisters,
this month is the month of Muharram
which is the first month in the lunar calendar, the month that
reminds us by the migration of our beloved prophet muhammad
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam went in a journey with Abu Bakr
Siddiq migrating from Makkah, all the way to El Medina. And just to
give you a little background, about this migration, this hijra,
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, along with his companions,
were going through series of difficulties, hardships, they were
actually getting tortured. The Dawa was suffering badly. The
Prophet sallallahu Sallam himself was tortured, was humiliated, the
prophets of Allah Allah Islam himself was losing some family
members, you name it, you know, going through, you know, that
painful journey of even seeking help from within his people. They
refused. He went outside of Maccha seeking help outside, he got
rejected, you name it. Series painful journey that the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam went through at the beginning stage of
Dawa along with his Sahaba.
Now, Allah subhanaw taala said, describing part of the journey of
the migration, he said in Latin Zulu who forgot NESARA hula is a
Raja who Lavina Cafaro Xerneas. Nene is Umatilla is your kulula
sahibi. He led Zen in Allah hermana. Allah is talking about
the Hijra here. Now he was saying that Prophet sallallahu Sallam
along with the muslimeen were forced to leave Mecca. And then it
happened in a situation where the Prophet sallallahu sallam was in
the company of Abu Bakr svic. And then Abu Bakr Siddiq or the Allah
Allah who was going through a phase of sadness. And the Prophet
sallallahu Sallam looked at, looked at Abu Bakr and told Abu
Bakr
let us and in Allah hermana
don't be sad, because indeed, Allah is with us.
That's what Allah He beautiful statements. And if we think about
it, if we dig a little bit deeper in this statement, if you want to
look at it from the angle of the, if the angle of Abu Bakr Siddiq or
the ALLAH and he was going through phase of sadness, along with
Sahaba they're all in a very bad situation. And Wallahi we can
relate to this. Either we're going through you know, some, you know,
phase of depression phase of an anxiety, by the way.
depression and anxiety is something that at some point,
every human being will experience. This is just nature of the human
being. Allah has created us, and he knew that human humans will at
some point experience
sadness, at some point will experience an anxiety or some
point will experience depression. It's, it's a fact. If the Prophet
sallallahu Sallam went through it, you know, sadness, and that's
showing in the spirit of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam, when
he lost family members and whatnot, then the rest of the
creation of Allah subhanaw taala, the rest of the human beings will
experience at some point, these kinds of feelings. And so when Abu
Bakr Siddiq or the Allah and who was experiencing sadness, and it
was very, and I'm very picky with the words I use, because I cannot
really say that Abu Bakr Siddiq was in a state of depression,
because I have to be very careful with my terminology. But for sure,
he was sad. And that's because that's showing in the ayah, Allah
subhanaw taala said that the Prophet told him, don't be sad,
let us and it means that he was sad. And by the way, this is
beautiful, because the prophets came with human characteristics,
the feel what what we feel, and Allah was able to send angels as
prophets. But if he were to send angels, then we cannot really
relate to those profits. Because those profits now are humans, they
experience all of what we experience, so we can relate to
them, we can learn from them, we can actually navigate how they
used to navigate these kinds of feelings. So let's see how
aboubaker is dealt with. With this with his sadness. Again, we're
going to look at it from two different angles. Abu Bakr is
angle and the Prophet sallallahu wasallam is angle Abu Bakr Siddiq
of the Allah and who did something very needed very crucial when
somebody goes through any of those, you know, ill feelings.
Number one, first and foremost, he decided not to stay alone.
Abu Bakr severe, was in a desperate state waiting for the
Prophet sallallahu Sallam to migrate to travel so he can be in
his company. In the Sierra, we learned that he was sitting
waiting for the Prophet, he wanted to hear the good news that the
prophets Allah Sam will decide to take Abu Bakr with him. He was he
wanted the companionship of the Prophet salaallah alayhi salam
because he knows for a fact that being alone is not going to help,
you know to help him and he needs the guidance and the companionship
of our beloved prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So
number one, first and foremost when we go through any kind of
feelings that's actually affecting our daily activities. Number one,
first and foremost, never stay alone. Seek people around you seek
support system, talk to somebody who you like or who you love, talk
to a family member, talk to a therapist seek help.
So the Prophet sallallahu sallam was with Abu Bakr Siddiq, Abu Bakr
said, You know what, I'm gonna go with the Prophet sallallahu
sallam, and I will express my emotions to the prophets, Allah
Allahu Allah yourself. How did the Prophet know that he said, at some
point, Abu Bakr Siddiq showed something that made the Prophet
Salah Salem realizes that Abu Bakr is going through you know, phase
phase of sadness.
Now,
number two, we learned from Abu Bakr so vehicle, the Allah.
experts talk about this many times, they say there are three
things that we really need to think deeply about their emotions
slash feelings, and their actions. And their our thoughts. Everyone
has these three things. All of us here in this room, we actually
have these three things. I'll say it again, emotions slash feelings,
actions and thoughts.
Now, experts say you and me have no control over our feelings. We
don't decide how how we feel.
But they say we decide how we think.
And then eventually, we decide we determine our own actions. I'll
say it again. This is very crucial. Experts will say when you
wake up in the morning, the first thing when you actually wake up
and you're feeling a little depressed, feeling a little, you
know, sort of, you know, the motivation. You don't want to do
anything you just want to stay in the bed.
Experts say you actually cannot change this temporary feeling that
what you feel you cannot change it, but there is a solution. They
say you can control your own thoughts. So maybe you can
actually force yourself to say Alhamdulillah
A lady here any bad man, a man attorney, what you lay in the
shoe, yeah, Allah, I thank you, I acknowledge your blessings upon
me. And I know for a fact that I will be restricted to you, your
Allah, Ya Allah and refreshing my faith, and acknowledging all the
blessings that you have bestowed upon me.
You start your day with this.
Now you're actually controlling your thoughts. Now you're thinking
positively about Allah, you're thinking, thinking positively
about your day, you're thinking positively about your affairs,
you're just acknowledging everything, all the blessings that
Allah has bestowed upon me, the fact that I wake up, my wife is
next to me, you know, next to me, or my spouse, and my husband is
next to me, or my kids aren't hamdulillah safe and sound
Alhamdulillah I have food on a you know, on the table. Alhamdulillah
I have health and Hamdulillah I can actually walk Alhamdulillah I
can get out of my house and take my kids to school Alhamdulillah
able to function all of this, you're actually thinking about all
of that. The first thing that you think in the morning thinking
positively about Allah subhanaw taala that's what thoughts
and then you get up and you and now it will have an impact on your
actions. You also get to control your actions you get up and you go
to select the treasurer and you pray selected fish fetcher, and
then you start off your day.
None other scenario, you sit down demotivated, you don't want to
think positively. You pull up your phone, you go from an app to an
app, you go, you know, have this unit, watch these short clips, and
then you stay for one hour, two hours, just demotivated, you don't
want to do anything. Now, you're actually give up giving up one of
your rights, one of your ability, the ability to control your
thoughts, and therefore will have an impact on your actions. Here's
the beautiful part. Once you control these two things, guess
what? That will have an impact on your feelings now
that you don't get to control. Remember, we said at the
beginning, I don't get to control my feelings. Yes. But now you got
to control your thoughts. You got to control your actions, therefore
it will have a direct impact on your feelings.
My dear brothers and sisters, the second part for the sake of the
time, because that's a subject that needs multiple hookups in sha
Allah Allah, but just for the sake of the time, if we look now from
the angle of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam, during
casual, you remember, angle of Abu Bakr angle of the Prophet
sallallahu sallam, how did the prophets deal with somebody who's
going through difficult time? We have to experience this at some
point. Some some family members going through difficult time
ourselves or other people around us, our beloved ones, it's going
to happen. How do we deal with this? Number one, first and
foremost, Prophet sallallahu Sallam did something amazing. And
that's he acknowledged what Abu Bakr Siddiq is going through.
He did not say,
Come on, man up, you know, all of your Sahaba if your companions you
know, we're going through this, we're going through this together.
He did not underestimate the feelings of Abu Bakr, Slavic Radi
Allahu Allah.
He actually acknowledged it.
And how did he acknowledge it by saying, Let us and I feel you, I
understand what you're going through. I'm giving you this
emotional support that you need now.
And one, one another beautiful thing that the Prophet sallahu wa
salam said, after letters, and what did he say, in Allaha manner?
First, he's saying we're, we're going through this together, we're
here for you, man and not Mac. If it's smack then that's your
business. Sometimes we're very dismissive. Somebody is coming to
us with a with a real issue. And what we get to do very dismissive
is like, okay, man, you know,
best of luck. What I'm going to do, I can't do anything. Right,
very dismissive. But the Prophet sallallahu sallam said, I feel you
were here together. Allah mana Allah is with me and with you.
Subhanallah and then the prophets, Allah Salam did not accuse
Abu Bakr Siddiq by having low faith the Lord, Amen. That's very
important. Sometimes as parents, we make this mistake, man. We talk
to our kids. And we see that our kids sometimes are going through a
difficult time and we look at them say, well, because you're not
praying.
I mean, is there anything wrong with saying to your child that he
should pray? Absolutely not. Is it appropriate in this context
at all,
Only not it's not appropriate in this context. Why because you're
associating two things now you're associating his what he's going
through whatever whatever he's going through to the prayer to the
bad
a you're accusing him by have low faith even though all the prophets
went through a difficult time painful journeys Prophet Musa
prophets use a few names. So if it's about faith, then this then
MBA should never felt anything like that. Any sadness, anything
like that, but that's not the case. Number two, your what you're
doing now is that you're building resentment around salah. Because
you always think about salah negatively just because you
associated his depression or his anxiety to the prayer
and He will grow up hearing, you know, hearing the word Salah why
because you're always he's always constantly thinking about it in a
negative manner. So don't associate associate these two
things. My dear brothers and sisters, the last message in sha
Allah Tala
is that there is some level of depression and an anxiety that
actually can cripple you that can actually make you not able to
function.
Now able to actually go on your day, and do your normal daily
activities. At this point, my dear brothers and sisters, you
definitely, definitely need to seek help.
You definitely need to seek help.
I'm not sure if it's something very common for a chef to actually
ask people to go on to seek help medical help, but Allah he this is
our reality. I'm dealing with youth on a daily basis. And I'm
telling you, depression and anxiety are real.
These are real issues that we actually face in our community.
And oh, my sounds difficult to process. I know my sounds harsh,
but Wallahi This is our reality. The fact that depression and and
anxiety are invisible does not mean that they don't exist, no
they do exist. And it is an issue. So please, just the Prophet
salallahu Salam did check on Abu Bakr Siddiq Radi Allahu Anhu
please let's make sure that we check on our spouses our children
and we make sure that we provide to them any help needed in the
light Allah Cody had our stuff for Allah honey welcome.
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