Yousef Bakeer – Can Porn and Masturbation Shake Up Your Marriage Let’s Explore

dopamine, so depression could be one of them, but many won't. But

they'll partake in these in these really risky behaviors.

I still want to spend a little bit of time about the danger of

addiction and the causes.

Before speaking about solutions, and if I'm going through an

addiction, what should I do? Right. But I want to I want to

focus more on * and *, which were your main

focus and your thesis, right, and your papers that you have read?

Now, what is the effect on somebody who is addicted to

* from a very young age? The physical effect, and also

the relationship, the marriage relationship that eventually you

will have he should he? Or she'd be concerned about their potential

marriage relationship? If somebody's addicted? Young age?

Yeah. So I think some of the discussion around like, it can

cause you know, impotence or something, maybe that's a little

exaggerated.

What, there's other things. So firstly, what should not be

ignored, particularly for young Muslims? is a psychological

factor. That might be the biggest thing. The guilt and the shame of

the cycle. Make is the far go a couple of days, watch something.

*, extreme guilt, how could I do this, I'm worthless.

This continues and continues and continues for years, and they

don't have any place to go. That might be the single greatest

challenge when it comes to this. Because they know they don't need,

you know, URI to give them a football about how this is, you

know, watching * is haram, they don't need that. But

they just don't know how to get out of it. So if somebody hears

this shift, maybe he will say to himself, will, then I should not

feel guilty. If I don't feel guilty, then the problem is

solved. And I can just, you know, be still involved in this in this

addiction. Is it only about feeling shame and feeling guilty?

Well, this is for the general Muslim who does care, you know,

people that don't care, they're gonna do whatever they want,

right? We're assuming that these are people who have lead, and

we're all on our different journeys, at least have some level

of care and commitment about Islam and about doing the right thing,

those that don't, then they're going to do whatever they want.

So that the psychological aspect, the second is, the real concern, I

think as it moves along is then that becomes the primary means of

sort of satisfying yourself. And, again, because you get what you

know, you get whatever you want, whenever you want. When the time

comes for a halal outlet, it may not spark the same excitement or

joy that you would have under normal circumstances, because

you're just like, well, I can just get whatever I want, right? I just

swiped my screen, and I get whatever I want. So this, this,

you know, and I'm not saying it's the only reason but we see a lot

of divorce rate amongst really, all ages of Muslims now,

especially younger Muslims. And you see this stuff in there,

right. It's like, if you're just detached from the person you're

married to, and you're doing this on electronically.

This started because your brain is used to it for the past 15 years,

it didn't just start right now. So this can have consequences in the

intimacy now for some, they actually will have actual issues

and intimacy, like performance and that, but it just causes it can

potentially cause this distance between the spouses because you

just pull away and you go satisfy yourself. So in other words, it

will make the intimate relationship less of a value. It

certainly has the potential to do that. Yes. Okay. Does does this

addiction have an impact on the performance when it comes to

intimate relationship? So I think there's there's debate around

that. It, it certainly varies. I think some some may say there's

nothing at all, that's probably incorrect. Some will say yes,

every single person that does it, it's going to and that's probably

not correct either. But it it can have it potentially can have an

effect as well. Yes. So now Schiff, * is the same is

same effect as well, right. It has an impact on looking at the

intimate relationship in a different way. It makes it less of

a value for somebody who's fully addicted to *.