Yousef Bakeer – Can Porn and Masturbation Shake Up Your Marriage Let’s Explore

			dopamine, so depression could be
one of them, but many won't. But
		

			they'll partake in these in these
really risky behaviors.
		

			I still want to spend a little bit
of time about the danger of
		

			addiction and the causes.
		

			Before speaking about solutions,
and if I'm going through an
		

			addiction, what should I do?
Right. But I want to I want to
		

			focus more on * and
*, which were your main
		

			focus and your thesis, right, and
your papers that you have read?
		

			Now, what is the effect on
somebody who is addicted to
		

			* from a very young
age? The physical effect, and also
		

			the relationship, the marriage
relationship that eventually you
		

			will have he should he? Or she'd
be concerned about their potential
		

			marriage relationship? If
somebody's addicted? Young age?
		

			Yeah. So I think some of the
discussion around like, it can
		

			cause you know, impotence or
something, maybe that's a little
		

			exaggerated.
		

			What, there's other things. So
firstly, what should not be
		

			ignored, particularly for young
Muslims? is a psychological
		

			factor. That might be the biggest
thing. The guilt and the shame of
		

			the cycle. Make is the far go a
couple of days, watch something.
		

			*, extreme guilt, how
could I do this, I'm worthless.
		

			This continues and continues and
continues for years, and they
		

			don't have any place to go. That
might be the single greatest
		

			challenge when it comes to this.
Because they know they don't need,
		

			you know, URI to give them a
football about how this is, you
		

			know, watching * is
haram, they don't need that. But
		

			they just don't know how to get
out of it. So if somebody hears
		

			this shift, maybe he will say to
himself, will, then I should not
		

			feel guilty. If I don't feel
guilty, then the problem is
		

			solved. And I can just, you know,
be still involved in this in this
		

			addiction. Is it only about
feeling shame and feeling guilty?
		

			Well, this is for the general
Muslim who does care, you know,
		

			people that don't care, they're
gonna do whatever they want,
		

			right? We're assuming that these
are people who have lead, and
		

			we're all on our different
journeys, at least have some level
		

			of care and commitment about Islam
and about doing the right thing,
		

			those that don't, then they're
going to do whatever they want.
		

			So that the psychological aspect,
the second is, the real concern, I
		

			think as it moves along is then
that becomes the primary means of
		

			sort of satisfying yourself. And,
again, because you get what you
		

			know, you get whatever you want,
whenever you want. When the time
		

			comes for a halal outlet, it may
not spark the same excitement or
		

			joy that you would have under
normal circumstances, because
		

			you're just like, well, I can just
get whatever I want, right? I just
		

			swiped my screen, and I get
whatever I want. So this, this,
		

			you know, and I'm not saying it's
the only reason but we see a lot
		

			of divorce rate amongst really,
all ages of Muslims now,
		

			especially younger Muslims. And
you see this stuff in there,
		

			right. It's like, if you're just
detached from the person you're
		

			married to, and you're doing this
on electronically.
		

			This started because your brain is
used to it for the past 15 years,
		

			it didn't just start right now. So
this can have consequences in the
		

			intimacy now for some, they
actually will have actual issues
		

			and intimacy, like performance and
that, but it just causes it can
		

			potentially cause this distance
between the spouses because you
		

			just pull away and you go satisfy
yourself. So in other words, it
		

			will make the intimate
relationship less of a value. It
		

			certainly has the potential to do
that. Yes. Okay. Does does this
		

			addiction have an impact on the
performance when it comes to
		

			intimate relationship? So I think
there's there's debate around
		

			that. It, it certainly varies. I
think some some may say there's
		

			nothing at all, that's probably
incorrect. Some will say yes,
		

			every single person that does it,
it's going to and that's probably
		

			not correct either. But it it can
have it potentially can have an
		

			effect as well. Yes. So now
Schiff, * is the same is
		

			same effect as well, right. It has
an impact on looking at the
		

			intimate relationship in a
different way. It makes it less of
		

			a value for somebody who's fully
addicted to *.