Yousef Bakeer – A Duaa When Dealing With Anxiety
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The importance of being aware of negative emotions and feelings in order to build connections with the Prophet is emphasized. It is crucial to practice small talk to stay connected and avoid anxiety, as it can lead to feelings of sadness and anxiety. The speaker emphasizes the need for practice and personal development to manage mental health and avoid past experiences. It is also important to avoid thinking of depression and anxiety when dealing with various stressors, and to focus on the current and past experiences to avoid future mistakes and issues.
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إِنَّهُ مَنْ يَهْدِهِ اللَّهِ فَلَا مُضِلَّ لَهُ وَمَنْ
يُضْلِلْ فَلَا هَادِيَ لَهُ وَأَشْهَدُ أَنْ لَا إِلَهَ
إِلَّا اللَّهُ وَحدَهُ لَا شَرِيكَ لَهُ وَأَشْهَدُ أَنَّ
مُحَمَّدًا عَبْدُهُ وَرَسُولُهُ Allah SWT says in the
Qur'an يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اتَّقُوا اللَّهَ
حَقَّ تُقَاتِهِ وَلَا تَمُوتُنَّ إِلَّا وَأَنْتُمْ مُسْلِمُونَ He
says, O believers have taqwa in Allah عز
و جل which means that we should be
conscious of Him, we should be aware of
Him and we should protect ourselves from His
punishment and His wrath and we should never
die except in a state of لا إله
إلا الله محمد رسول الله صلى الله عليه
وسلم I begin my khutbah by asking Allah
عز و جل first and foremost to send
blessings and prayers upon our Prophet Muhammad صلى
الله عليه وسلم اللهم صلي وسلم وأنعم وبارك
على نبينا وحبيبنا محمد وعلى آله وصحبه وسلم
تسليما كثيرا أما بعد My dear brothers and
sisters in Islam السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته
One time a man came to the masjid
of Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم in a
time where there was no prayer and obviously
as you know the Prophet صلى الله عليه
وسلم used to live in the masjid His
house was placed in the masjid So when
he saw that sahabi coming in that time
the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم felt that
there is something up with that man So
he came and approached the man and asked
him So what are you doing here in
this time?
Do you need help?
Now the sahabi told the Prophet صلى الله
عليه وسلم I have two things that I'm
struggling with in my life He said number
one يا رسول الله غلبت عليّ ديوني وكثرت
عليّ همومي He said I'm struggling with two
things Number one, I'm just overwhelmed with all
of these negative thoughts and feelings that's taking
over me And number two, I have a
lot of debts that I need to pay
off So I'm just overwhelmed and I found
the masjid a way out for me And
I came here to speak to you, O
Rasulallah صلى الله عليه وسلم And before diving
into the advice which is this advice in
the shape of a dua very powerful dua
that we really need to internalize But just
see how the community of the Prophet صلى
الله عليه وسلم built a massive connection to
the Prophet They just felt very comfortable coming
to the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم and
just opening up to the Prophet And that
indicates a deep relationship that the Prophet صلى
الله عليه وسلم had with his companions You
see what I'm saying?
So subhanAllah, the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم
was just easy to talk to He had
that care towards his ummah, towards his sahaba
And so the sahabi didn't take him that
long to just open up to the Prophet
صلى الله عليه وسلم Anyhow, the Prophet صلى
الله عليه وسلم gave him the advice He
told him, I will teach you this dua
that I want you to say three times
in the morning and three times in the
evening Now if you think about it, why
is it the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم
giving that sahabi the frequency of saying this
dua in a daily basis?
Maybe you wonder, maybe you ask why And
subhanAllah, if you look at adhkar al-sabah
and adhkar al-masah the morning dua and
the evening dua that we recite in a
daily basis And if we're not reciting these
duas in a daily basis we really need
to engage in these duas Because these duas
are very powerful, beautiful It actually sets you
up for the day If you say it
at the beginning of your day It sets
you up for the day It has beautiful
meanings behind it If you truly just dive
deep into the dua and understand what this
dua is all about It really sets you
up for the entire day So subhanAllah, the
Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم This dua that
he gave to the sahabi is actually also
part of the morning dua and the evening
dua Three times because you just need to
internalize it When you say something more frequently
you start to build that connection to the
dua or build this connection to a statement
In corporate sometimes they just let the employees
repeat the vision and mission of the company
Why?
Because it's a reminder You say it more
often It just builds sort of attachment in
the back of your head And here is
a beautiful dua The more you say it
the more connection you get to that to
build towards that dua Anyhow, the Prophet told
him Say this dua You're ready to hear
it?
Bismillah The Prophet told him Say Let's
translate this dua Beautiful dua He told him
First and foremost I want you to seek
refuge in Allah from ham wa hazan Now
what is the difference between ham wa hazan?
Alham is basically things that relate to the
future Hazan is mainly things that's actually connected
to your past Sadness, depression that has to
do with your past Ham is some sort
of anxiety that you have of the future
You have that anxiety towards the future of
your children You have that anxiety towards the
future of your health Things that you have
no control over and you're worried about Because
it's gonna come up and you don't get
to control these results So you're panicking You're
just overwhelmed I don't know what's gonna happen
to my child I don't know my health
condition What's gonna happen next month My parents
are sick I don't know what's gonna happen
to them My children, the future of my
children I don't know what's gonna happen to
my children here I'm worried Or you're even
worried about your financial situation About the future
How I'm gonna be dealing with all of
my bills How I'm gonna be navigating these
difficulties with my partner Many many things that
we're worried about in a daily basis So
anything that you're worried about When it comes
to the future It's called Hem Just a
thought that comes to mind And you're just
feeling This thought is making yourself kind of
just worried Worried about the future Now Hazan
Things that happened in the past And certain
events that may occurred in your past And
still have an impact on your present So
we're recalling these incidents to your present And
as a result you feel this sense of
sadness Sense of depression Demotivation You just feel
like you don't wanna get up Okay So
these are two things that the Prophet Sallallahu
Alaihi Wasallam Has told the Sahabi In order
for you To actually be able to navigate
these ill thoughts that come to your mind
Or ill feelings that you feel And you're
able to actually pay off your debts You
need to be in control of these two
things Hem and Hazan You don't let your
past Has control over your present And you
don't get to worry too much about the
future Especially if these things are Basically you
have absolutely no control over So the Prophet
Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam is very very precise On
the words he uses to this brother Why?
Because subhanallah When you're worried about results That's
what experts say There are two big circles
and a smaller circle I always give this
analogy It's a beautiful analogy That I want
you to internalize inshallah ta'ala Big circles
are the things that we want in our
lives I want my child to be a
righteous I want to have good health I
want my parents to be healthy I want
to be able to pay off my debts
These are all things that we aim, that
we desire That's basically in the big circle
Now the smaller circle Are the things within
our means I want my child to be
righteous Therefore I'm taking my child To actually
study Quran and Islamic sciences And then I'm
actually going to make sure That my child
is going to be in a good environment
Around good people, good individuals That will actually
help him grow spiritually And emotionally I'm taking
steps, practical steps These practical steps fall under
this smaller circle Now experts say If you
were to be very overwhelmed With the big
circle And you're not giving the same attention
to the smaller circle Then eventually you will
not Most likely you will not be able
to accomplish these big goals But if you
flip the coin If you actually focus on
the smaller circle Which are the means, the
things within our control And then you convince
yourself And I convinced myself That eventually the
results are in the hands of Allah azza
wa jal I don't get to control the
results Then they say more likely you will
be able to accomplish these goals You see
the point?
It's a mindset We only worry about the
things within our means I know my parents
for instance are sick Okay, what can I
do?
Within my means I can provide Sort of
resources to my father, to my mother I
will consult with doctors within my network I
will do a research about how can I
get my father Even do better psychologically I
provide to him that support system around him
These are things within our means Now if
I don't get very overwhelmed about the results
I want my father to be cured Well
you don't get to control these results It
doesn't work this way And as a result
you will feel very overwhelmed And this sense
of anxiety over your father's health condition And
as a result you don't do anything You
don't get to actually do the things that
really going to actually help him Which are
the means that within our control You see
the difference?
And when it comes to sadness It's the
same thing Why are we recalling things from
the past?
To our present To the point that actually
makes us sad The only exception to bring
something from your past To your present Is
when this thing is crucial in order for
you To avoid making similar mistakes or similar
issues in the future So I'm calling it
from the past Because I don't want to
repeat To repeat these issues in the future
So it's important to actually process what happened
to you in the past So you will
avoid it in the future But most of
the cases We're just bringing some events You
know from the past And as a result
we get just very sad And we stop
The Prophet ﷺ told him Say Allahumma inni
a'udhu bika minal hammi wal hazan Alhammi
wal hazan What is so beautiful And I
will end with this insha'Allah Hopefully in
future khutbas we can go Through the dua
'a biidhnillahi ta'ala But what is so
beautiful about salah Listen to this This is
mind blowing What is so beautiful About prayer
Is that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala Is
asking you Not to think about your past
And not to worry about the future Because
you have to be present in your moment
You have to be thinking about the moment
That you are praying to Allah azzawajal right
now You're not allowed to think about your
past in the prayer You're not You can't
That takes away from your khushu'a And
you're not allowed to think about the future
And oh my god what I'm going to
be doing No no no you can't It's
to live your moment with Allah azzawajal So
salah trains you To actually live your present
Right now me and you We have absolutely
no problems in our present Right now right
the second Think about it Right now I
have no issues Either my issues have to
do with our past Or our future But
right the second Right the moment We have
no issues And so subhanallah The prophet salallahu
alayhi wa sallam knew That maybe this brother
Is overwhelmed because he's just A prisoner of
his past And he has that like Massive
anxiety of the future That's not allowing him
to function And as a result he's not
able to pay off his debts And so
here's the thing Obviously We are human beings
We will have to Go through these phases
We will have to feel sort of anxiety
at some point You will have to feel
sort of sadness at some point Because the
prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam himself Felt some
sort of sadness at some point Of his
life When he lost his family members When
he lost his son Ibrahim alayhi wa sallam
And he was just standing on his grave
And he was crying, he was tearing He
was sad When he lost his wife And
so what is really important here Is to
know To what extent I can feel this
To what extent I can feel sadness And
to what extent I can feel this sort
of anxiety And to what extent I say
to myself Well I need help Well now
there is no way I can, I need
to seek Actually help, professional help And so
experts say yes When you feel that this
sort of depression Or this sort of anxiety
Are crippling you from doing your daily activities
Then at this point It's beyond your capacity
Then you need to actually seek help Professional
help But most of the cases Most of
the cases This minor depression, this minor anxiety
Everybody goes through this And so it's so
important to know how to navigate it By
the will of Allah I say this, and
I ask Allah's forgiveness for me and for
you In
the name of Allah, the most gracious, the
most merciful And peace and blessings be upon
the messenger of Allah And peace and blessings
be upon his family and companions Just to
recap Depression and anxiety are two things that
we will eventually experience And it's so crucial
To know how to navigate this How to
navigate these ill thoughts And these ill feelings
This dua that we discussed During this khutba
Is a mindset Is a mindset Imagine every
day in the morning You wake up And
the first thing you say to yourself Allahumma
inni a'udhu bika minal hammi wal hasan
Ya Allah, Ya Allah Today, I really seek
refuge in you From sadness and from anxiety
And then minal ajizi wal kasal That's for
another khutba Al ajizi is disability Wal kasal
is laziness Ya Allah, give me strength To
be able to actually start my day And
Ya Allah, give me the desire to actually
get out there And work and be productive
That's the opposite of kasal Al ajiz, when
you are crippled You don't have the strength
You're not able to actually function But then
kasal You have the strength for it But
you don't have the desire to do it
Al ajiz, you have the desire to do
something But you're not able to Kasal, you
don't have the desire Even though you actually
have the strength for it You have the
capacity for it So the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi
Wasallam was also telling him Say this at
the beginning of the day And towards the
end of your day Say, Ya Rabb, we
seek refuge in you From kasal and from
ajiz Because maybe you're not able to pay
off your debts Because you're lazy You're not
out there exploring more options Because you're not
putting the work You're not putting in the
work And so the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam
figured it He told him, these are the
things that you may want to consider Number
one, depression and anxiety You need to understand
how to navigate this Then after this, if
you're not able to do it Because you're
physically not able to do so Ask Allah
to give you strength And if you're not
able to do it Because you have no
desires, because you're lazy Even though you have
the strength Ask Allah to motivate yourself To
give you the strength and the desire to
do it So you wake up in the
morning and you say Ya Allah, we seek
refuge in you From al-ajiz and from
al-kasal Beautiful dua We want us to
memorize it inshallah Right after this khutbah Put
this as a dua in your routine In
your daily routine You say it in the
morning and you say it in the evening
You ask Allah to relieve the burden Of
our brothers and sisters In all over the
world And we ask Allah To make us
among those who will internalize These powerful, beautiful,
prophetic duas I ask Allah in this blessed
moment of Jum'ah To relieve the burden
of our brothers and sisters in Palestine Ya
Allah, we ask you to free Palestine Ya
Allah, we ask you in this blessed moment
of Jum'ah To free Palestine Ya Allah,
we ask you and we beg you To
bring immediate relief To our brothers and sisters
in Gaza And Lebanon And all over the
world Ya Allah, give our brothers and sisters
in Palestine Victory Ya Allah, we ask you
to bring victory To our brothers and sisters
in Palestine Translated
by Zainab salman