Tafseer Surah Talaaq – PT 1/4

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Part 1 of Class 4 of Summer Intensive Program at IIOC on July 14, 2010. Tafseer Surah At Talaaq by Shaikh Yassir Fazaga.

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shaytaan rajim Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah In the Name of Allah, the Compassionate, The Most Merciful, all praises due to him and his peace and blessings be upon our beloved prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the Solomonic warahmatullah wabarakatuh

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Jamal, okay for being here, just a quick reminder the Hadees of Abu huraira where the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says majelis account he became in beauty law that at any time a group of people gathered in a house of the houses of of law, four things happen to them they are

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okay so the angels surround them

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Sakina tranquility descends upon them.

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Yes, and they will be enveloped by the mercy of Allah and

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Allah will make a mention of them in a better assembly than the assembly that they are in. So the point Mashallah everybody is this is a win win situation. So May Allah subhanaw taala makers amongst those Europa lol I mean basedow surah that we have is sort of the polar surah number 65. And usually, the way that we do it was to feed the scholars usually, before talking about the surah immediately, they talk about the surah that was before it. And the reason why they do this, is they looking into relevancy. Why is Sora tala mentioned after Surah Taha one, and there is actually a specific book for this month or a guru. So we said that usually intercede, the way that it takes

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place is before talking about the surah that we are about an active seer of what the reader would do is they go to the previous surah and see what is the relevancy between this surah and that surah as far as order is concerned, because the Quran is organized in such a way that it makes sense, not only in the sutra itself, but also in the way the sutras are organized. So the scholars point out that the end of surah Allah when Allah Subhana Allah says on verse number 14, yeah Lavina Anna no 11 as well as you can without ECOMOG

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or you believe, indeed, among your wife and your children? Actually, it's not your wife's as word is what

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spouses amongst your, your spouse and your children are enemies to you. And usually, or potentially that animosity can lead into people profiting from one another. And in marriage, the way that you part is by divorce, so appropriately sort of talaq came to address that which was hinted at in Surah. taba. Does that make sense? So, they say that this is the relevancy between the between the sewers or part of the relevancies between the sewers, and then it speaks about being conscious of Allah subhanho wa Taala, about the idea of spending on your family and sort of the talaq came to somehow shed some light on this sort of Allah has an interesting beginning. It begins by what we

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call NIDA calling on Yeah, a Ewha. Unusually, in the Koran, there are different ways of making the data or calling. So it will say for example, yeah, you have Lavina Amman mentioned 91 times in the Quran, it may say, yeah, you have about 18 to 20 times in the Quran. It also says here, or you have maybe about 20 times in the Quran and yeah, you have prasun two times in the Quran or it will say attorney Adam, or children of Adam, or or you believe all mankind, or rarely, it may say in couple of places, yeah. And he said and nebby are wives of the profit, or it will say, yeah, you have Lavina hairdo, or addressing the Jewish people. So what happens is that the the point of NIDA is to

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get the attention of the person. So for example, when it says here you have Latina Ahmed or you who believe in about 91 times 91 places in the Quran.

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Yeah, Johan nasya levina ermanno. But isn't the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Rasool Allah, and prophet as well? Yeah, you have nebby your soul by means of observation. The scholars said that anytime Allah says yeah, you have nebby This is the command to the believers. Anytime it says here you have a soul. This is the command to mankind by means of observation. You are a soul. It's only mentioned

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By the way, in two places, and then says yeah, are you gonna be after every year? Are you gonna be the command that applies to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam also applies to his oma as well. For example, when we say Lavina Amery, that's a direct command to the believers here. yohannes is a command to all of humanity, the universal values in Islam. And then it says here, you'll never be and the purpose of the NIDA here is to Sharif. For the sake of honoring the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam I call him by this is all messenger of Allah. There is a lot of the srif Some people say that the purpose is to Sharif. Some people say that the purpose is to get the attention

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of people to the importance of the topic that is going to be discussed next. And that is the concept of Pollock. And as you know, surah tala is a madonie surah. A mother is Surah is any surah that was revealed after the hijra of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam from Mecca to Medina, regardless of where it was revealed, so a surah can be maddening, even though it was revealed in Makkah, for example. Surah is Agia Anna Sula, who will fit in Makkah, but it's considered to be Melanie because of the time so murky and Melanie is determined by time, not by place.

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So many sources have a tendency to address social issues within the Muslim community.

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Unlike mK consolas my consoles in style, they happen to be very short. They rhyme and they are very poetic. Almost having the same ending. Allahu Allahu Ahad Allahu psalmody lemmie le D let me use Lamia Kula Hakuna had very poetic short verses, and it rhymes with Bill Fela, Mishima and so on. So there is that poetic style in the meccan surah. And usually the makansutra are concerned about three topics number one Prophethood mad resurrection, and why Danny auto heed the oneness of Allah subhanho wa Taala Madani Sutras, the focus is on social issues.

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makansutra stay focused on social justice

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machens Madani surah stay focused on social issues, such as divorce, marriage, alimony, and what have you. So it begins by this idea of either Pollak to Melissa, either is a proposition, that means in the case of sometimes it means if sometimes we call it sharp clear that there is it's a conditional statement that is about to be made. And it speaks about pull up. The word polyp and its derivatives are mentioned 22 times in the Quran, mostly in madonie sutras. In fact, all Madani sutras that the concept of Pollock is mentioned, Pollock is divorce simply means to let go. For example, a person who, in the Hadees it says, Do not undermine any act of charity, even if it be

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meeting your brother or sister be with him.

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And the same root verb is there a follow up and polyak which means to expand, to spread, to be cheerful, or to let go. So a person who has done that to their faces because when you are all upset and frowning, your facial muscles come together, so when you do Pilates to them is that you relax them out, you let you let them go? Okay, so the same way is thought up is to let go with a of a relationship. Just very quickly, in order for the soldier to make sense. Just let's just take a quick historical background of what is happening. Tama is almost a universal concept, meaning that all cultures have some sort of an understanding of Pollak marriage and divorce. And what the Arabs

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had what they did have a concept of divorce, people would get married and people would get a divorce. But the way that they would practice their divorce was really interesting. They had a concept of Edom as an appointed term before the marriage is absolutely null. And the marriage is void and over, there is an appointed term that people would wait to see if this relationship is salvageable. You can reconcile. So what the Arabs would do is that a man would divorce a woman and then he would wait until about the time that our editor is about to expire. He said, By the way, I want this marriage back so he takes it back in. And the next day you will say By the way, we're

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divorce and then he would wait until the term is about

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to expire and say, by the way, I'm taking you back as my wife, then the next day he will divorce her. And then he will wait until your turn is about to expire. And you will say, by the way, I take you back as my wife, the next day he will divorce it. And the point was to do nothing but give that woman a lot of misery. Or it's very mean, by the way, there is just absolutely very mean. So they would do this. And they would do it for nothing. But just to give that person misery. So Islam comes in because yeah, divorce is allowed. But we're going to put a limit on the number of times that a person can divorce their wives and we will talk more about why there is three. Okay, so also, in

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some cultures, divorce is not allowed at all.

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Anybody knows what was the last country to legalize? Divorce?

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No. Does anybody know where divorce is still illegal nowadays in the world. Like there is a country where you cannot get a divorce, like marriage is a lifetime sentence. Once you're in, you're in Virgo, and you can get out of that.

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There are actually two countries in the world where divorce is not allowed. Malta and the Philippines. You cannot get a divorce.

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in Malta and the Philippines you cannot get a divorce.

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Malta

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Malta is an island. You cannot get a divorce in the Philippines and in Malta, Spain, Ireland, and I think it was Portugal. These countries they allowed divorce between 1971 and 1996. Prior to this, you couldn't get a divorce in these places. It was absolutely forbidden to get a divorce.

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And they say that is that is biblically based. In the Old Testament. In the book of Molokai, it said that under God, the Lord of Israel hates divorce. So that is on the basis of that some deemed that divorce was not possible. Also in Christianity until today in some Christian denominations divorce is not allowed, on the basis of what is said in the book of Matthew, verse, chapter number five, verse number 24. It says that, and Jesus said that divorce is only allowed, except in unfaithfulness. So people view divorce as an exception, only in the case of being unfaithful until the 1960s. In the US, if you wanted to get a divorce, you had to explain why you are getting a

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divorce. And there were only two good reasons why the state would grant you a divorce. What were they

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infidelity and

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abuse is not one of them.

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That is infidelity and faithfulness. The second one is what Huh, Masha Allah wrong.

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She said finances? No, was actually insanity.

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So if you had proof for either one of these two, then you were granted a divorce, either insanity or unfaithfulness. So anyways, so Islam came to address these issues. And it begins by saying, All messenger of Allah here nabby either. Now not to make a big deal of language, but if you're addressing only the messenger, you're supposed to say is a Lakota because you're addressing a singular but this is addressing the oma through Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam. So a messenger of Allah, Allah, in case you divorce women for Talia

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it says divorce them for the commencement of their editor at the is the waiting period. The different reasons or circumstances during which this verse was revealed. Some people say that it was revealed when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam divorced his wife half saw the daughter of Rama the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he wants to divorce hopslam so he received a command from Allah subhanho wa Taala Raja India has a warmer a warmer take her about for she is a woman that is in constant prayer and in constant fasting. And other people say that it was actually in the case of Eben aroma and the number of the son of Rama wants to divorce his wife and Omar came to report to

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam saying or prophet of Allah. My son Abdullah has divorced his wife and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to him more hopefully Raja commanded him to take her back again in marriage for urban Rama did not do with his divorce the proper way. And that is why when Omar was dying, somebody came to him and he said you're about to die. You know, why don't you make the next Holly for your son Abdullah and

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Said Abdullah becomes the next halifa demand doesn't even know how to divorce properly and expect me to make a mahali for for the believers said in relation to polop he can even do Pollock properly how they expect me to make a halifa out of this out of this man. So anyways, so what has happened now is we have got these commands for Toluca wanna read that to him. And they basically means this. Once a person divorces his wife, the clock starts ticking, that the end of this relationship has been initiated, depending let's just say for right now, three months. So you say today, the clock starts ticking. And the closer you are to three months, this is the time that you're supposed to reevaluate

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to see if you can reconcile this marriage or not. If this marriage is salvageable, then during that time you say, you know what, by the way, I take back what I said that a lot is no longer going on. Bella is counted, but what you're saying is, would bring it to an end. So we don't want to end the marriage The clock is valid, but we wanted to, we don't want to end the marriage.

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So, what happens is, these are the conditions during which there is what we call Talat Sunni.

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And, you know, Subhan Allah, it is it is really interesting that people get married and they get divorce. And they don't know the technicality of how to have a proper divorce and how to also properly get married. So for example, proper divorce will take place. Under this, this will be like the ideal situations between one cycle meaning between one menses and the next menses, this period is referred to as period of bahara. A woman is ritually pure is ritually clean, it's referred to as the hora. So they said that a man who intends to divorce his wife cannot be intimate with her during this time, because intimacy is a reflection of what

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desire, right? If you're an intimate with that person, it means that there is desire for that person. So rule number one, you've got to divorce her in a period over in lemmya Saffy, in a period of purity where no intimacy has taken place. Once you do that, then you pronounce the divorce. And that is when the clock starts ticking. So that's where it says football, loco hoonah, let that hinder divorce them for the commencement of their waiting period. So you start now, and the follow up is going on until the end of that period once it ended, and you have not reconciled the relationship than that marriage is over.

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And count that time.

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And, you know, and count or keep count of the waiting period?

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Why do we have a waiting period? By the way?

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For the sake of reconciliation? What if you are absolutely sure why you really don't want this man? I can't really stand her. I am so positive. I am just very sure.

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her

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pregnancy, that doesn't really take three months to to find out does it?

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You can have a pregnancy test right now and find out she's pregnant or not right?

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evaluate what? Just in case what?

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What if you're very sure, and there is really no room for just in case.

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If you say pregnancy, it really doesn't take that long change your mind, I'm really not going to change my mind.

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SubhanAllah they say that how we go about our divorce determines so much as far as what happens to us afterwards.

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You know, those who are in, in therapy this upon Allah, they say that the less baggage you take with you from that relationship that is going to determine how it's going to be later on. So not to leave a room for regrets not to leave a room for what if? Or a room for her return that a room for. So what you're doing is during that time, so the clock starts ticking. And then as the time goes by, there is more pressure on the couples you know, is this really over? Because you know what, we can't really afford to wait any longer because if this is over, then we're getting close to that day. So So Pamela they say that it is during that time, like every day that passes by I am so sure I just

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can't wait for them to get over it because I really can't stand this man or this woman. Or Oh my god, this is really getting serious. So as time is going by I think somebody said it. It's a time for people to reevaluate and people to reconsider. And then say what the outcome and be mindful of your Lord or of Allah

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Your Lord, why Be mindful, be mindful in what

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Be mindful of your duties to

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okay Be mindful of your duties and rights. Kate says Be mindful of a lot because what happens in divorce is what?

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Potentially there is room for abuse right? There is room for exploitation. There is room for wrongdoing the other person there is room for taking that which does not belong to you. So you're being reminded, by the way as you are embarking on this mission of divorce, be mindful of Allah subhanho wa Taala such as led to rejuvenate amin boo ki him, Do not this is the first command it says do not turn them out of their houses. Why does it say husband's houses?

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Because that's not in the eye of

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the ISS do not drive them out of their houses that is rejuven I mean bu t hin

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because a woman as long as she is married, that is really her house. So some says that initiating the divorce is different than the marriage is over. So during that time, people are not supposed to leave the family, you know what people say? Okay, fine, you don't like me unpacking and they leaving and they leave that night? That is not the proper way. The proper way is divorce is initiated. So what you do is during that time of the we will get into there and that during that waiting period, everybody stays at home. How can you reconsider? If people are not together? How can you reevaluate if people are not living together? Are there exceptions to this?

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Okay, so if it is the third, if it is the third divorce, what about practically speaking, abuse whatever, the guy's really, really abusive, he's a drug addict, and she just does not feel safe around him. Is it okay for her to leave at that point? What if she is abusive? What if somebody chose to apostate

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okay. So, they are not to be taken out of their houses. While

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and they also they themselves do not leave the if the point is to reconsider, then both parties must stay in a yachtie in a buffer Hachette in mobile

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except that they be or that they commit a clear immortality. And that is where it's open to discussion as far as what that clear immorality means. Some people say clear immorality means cheating on the on the husband, because as you know, a person who is involved in in an immoral behavior, it is actually haram to marry them. Beautiful incident, there was this man by the name of Muslim and Muslim was in Makkah, and he actually had a relationship with a prostitute by the name of Anna. So mostly it was a Muslim living in Mecca, but the people of Mecca don't know that he's a Muslim. So an ANA the prostitute because he was going over all the time, she knew that he was a

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Muslim, he confined to her. So one day she invited to come, why don't you come and spend the night with us? And mostly because you know, Anna, Allah has forbade us from getting involved in these things. And she said, by the way, if you don't come, I'm going to tell the to tell the people of Makkah about you. So mostly I came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam and said, yeah, that's the law. Adrianna on messenger of Allah, can I marry Anna? Then Allah Subhana Allah reveals as danila yenko Eliza as an Amish Erica was earlier to learn Kiawah Eliza in our machinic

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Mini fornicating man will only take another fornicating woman

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in marriage and a fornicating woman would only be accepted by a fornicating man in marriage and that is forbidden for the believer. So if somebody is guilty of these immoral acts, then they either have the chance they have the they have the right of saying this is really over we are absolutely going apart at this point. What is the law and these are the parameters or the boundaries or the rules that Allah Subhana Allah has said, Will may yet add to the law of advancement of Sir and who a whosoever transgresses the limits the boundaries that were set by Allah subhanho wa Taala. They have certainly wronged themselves. Let de Landa law you

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Umbra you know perhaps Allah will bring about after that a different method after what?

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What is that in reference for

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After the Palau after the initiation of the divorce, you never know things may change, never know Allah subhanaw taala may open the hearts of people you never know. And that is why Subhana Allah, one thing is to keep in mind is fight to be a master of your emotion. Because sometimes we either it's very what we call very bipolar we either love, love, love, love Allah, or we either hate hate, hate hate it, there is really no room. So Allah Subhana Allah is inviting us You never know. That's why it says you know, leave a room for a user, do not over commit so that you're very, very hurt afterwards and do not despise and hate so that you look foolish after after that for 1111. So now

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the possibilities are divorces being initiated. Either we are going to reconcile the relationship before the appointed term is over, or divorce has been initiated. And the appointed term now is over it has expired, that waiting period that was given to us says for either Belladonna agilone. And when they have fulfilled their true, I don't know where he

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gets nearly from and when they have fulfilled their term. What are the options, either Oh, I see where he got it from. It's about to expire, either retain them

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according to acceptable terms. Some Hello sometimes English sounds very crude, says I can retain your wife.

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It does sound funny, doesn't it? What does it mean is take take her about it says either below Nigella Hoon, when that appointed term is nearly fulfilled, here are the options that we have mc cohoon

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either hold on to the relationship your wife in

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acceptable terms outside

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or

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pour with them again, according to acceptable terms. And by the way, this is this is really important to note. Anytime the word Palau is mentioned in the Quran, it's either with Exxon, or it's either with my roof. And that is really, really beautiful. Because supposedly a lot is the end of a relationship, yet a lot uses these beautiful words to say, look, if a relationship did not materialize with two people, it does not mean that they have to end it in a very rude in a very vicious way. If it did not work out, it did not work out. So ended in maruf. or hold on to that relationship in Marvel. And you truly get to see the character of people during these times, you

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know, say that these times are testing times where our characters are either defined or they are defined.

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So these are the options. What does he do the way you added the mean come

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and bring to witness to just men from among you. In Sunni Pollock, the Shahada on polyp is actually not a requirement. Abu hanifa does not require it. A chef very does require but only in taking the people back in sha Allah, you must have a witness. If there were no witnesses there. The talaq does not that block does not count. She has School of jurisprudence is more strict in validating palot than the Sunni school in the Sunni school that Judas would say, Well, you know, his Pollock was really not the best bollock, his divorce was not really the best. It was not really the most sooner following tala, but it is still valid. But here, it says, well actually do the way I really mean

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come and bring forth two witnesses. The reason why there is is because there is a principle and also law

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in jurisprudence that says

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that every time there is a command it entails or it means

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that it is an obligation. So people look into it and say, well, Allah has commanded us that when you are divorcing, you have got to have witnesses, when you take them back. You also have got to have witnesses will literally learn and establish the testimony for the sake or for the acceptance of a law because sometimes people may may misuse and they may fabricate and they give false testimony because somehow it benefits one party over the other. The liberal new I will be human Kearney will be liable to mill acid. These instructions are

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to whoever should believe in Allah and the Last Day. And again, you know, we speak about Islam being a way of life. We know we Muslims do this and we Muslims do that from the minute we wake up we have to live by Islam. Well, this is also part of living by Islam. Getting married is by Islam, but also if that relationship does not work out, it also has to be via the teachings of Islam. And that is why the invitation is this is this is for those who truly believe in Allah and the day of judgment or a day of accountability. Woman yet Ah, Allahu Maharaja, this is another principle and whomsoever

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is God conscious, it says fierce Allah And whosoever is God conscious Allahumma Raja, Allah will make for him away out. Why? Why would you end a verse of divorce in such a way?

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We will make some

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choice.

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Okay, what else?

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To check what your motive is.

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Okay? It doesn't handle long. Anytime the Quran talks about divorce. It speaks about it in optimistic terms.

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Anytime the Quran speaks about divorce, it speaks about it in optimistic terms, because culturally speaking, what has happened is that divorce is such a calamity. It's such a mostly, it's a catastrophe. And the case is, it may really not be so. But what we have done is that we have made a big catastrophe of divorce because of the consequences of what divorce means in our community. Especially if you are a woman, our community is not very kind to divorcees, especially if you're a man. In some cases, our community is not going to people who've gotten divorced. Interesting stuff. Asahi is is a is an aged Muslim jurists who lived in

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in the 1500s maybe earlier than that. And what he has done is that he has studied the marriage of 500 women. And actually it is reported as being the biggest study that was done regarding marriage at that time. And what how we found out that

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people argue that there was more divorce taking place back then than there is divorce taking place right now. So how we found out that three out of every 10 women in the 500 women that he has studied, were divorced, not once, but twice and some even three times. So they were divorced and remarried, divorced and remarried and divorced and remarried and they actually keep that as one of the earliest best documented studies regarding divorce and marriage during that time. Okay, so the Quran speaks about it in positive terms, omega tequila, Hajj, Allahu Maharaja, and whosoever is God conscious Allah will make him a way out out of what

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difficulties, what difficulties

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you know, the psychological difficulty of going through a divorce, psychological difficulties of divorce, everybody sees me they go about the psychological stuff right there.

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Okay, so it could be just generally just the difficulties of divorce because sometimes divorce can look very gloomy Oh my god, you know, this is the end of those losses. Look, if you are God conscious, Allah will make a way for you. Not only that, whereas a human Heisler does it and will provide for him or her from where he or she does not expect some people to refer to this as they say that there are different incidents. A man came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam says oh prophet of Allah, my son has been a captive, he's in captivity, and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to him a tequila, be mindful of Allah and the man and his wife went and they said that

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they were praying pm that night, and when they woke up in the morning, they hear a knock on the door and it was their son who was back the next day. So Allah revealed this verse. woman get tequila Hydra Allahu Maharajah were in high school, I have to say, but then again, just given in the context of where it is mentioned, it seems more appropriate that in case of divorce, people think that this is the end of the road, Allah says, Be mindful of Allah, Allah will make out a way out for you. People are very concerned at that point financially, what will happen to me what will happen to her What will happen to him? So Allah Subhana Allah says, and that also don't worry about it. Allah will

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provide

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vied for you or for her from places where he or she does not expect. Woman yet a local Allah who has and whoever relies upon a law that Allah will be sufficient for him Subhana Allah, He knows this idea of, you know, we are a culture of control freaks.

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Nowadays, we just love to control, there's so much desire to control, can you like, name some of the stuff that comes in control, like you bought the remote control. If you want to drive a man crazy hide the remote control will lie, I'm telling you, it will drive a man crazy, not knowing where the remote control is, it could be a show that is going to last for three hours and there is really no need to change the channel or raise the volume. But somehow we just want that remote next to us was we're just control freaks. We would like to control the climate around us we like to control the people who are around us. And so how long would they say is most of the things that we want to have

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control over are things it will actually be best for us if we were to just accept and say that I have no control over this. And the things that we truly need to get control over these are the things that we they don't pay as much attention or energy in gaining control of such as about anger control.

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People not willing to spend much energy in that. So it says that look man there are certain things if you just leave it up to Allah there is so much if it rains outside what is the best thing that you can do?

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Accept and submit when it comes to issues that you cannot change such as the death of a loved one, accept and submit you know disease during the time of healing, you can only do accept and submit that will bring so much peace into our lives in a la habana who angry Indeed Allah will accomplish His purpose What is his purpose?

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Okay, so um remains here his decree, whatever he is decreed, whatever his will is, that is going to take place whether you submit, whether you rely, it is going to happen. So if it is going to happen, then it will be best for you to just submit a gr Allah who will equally say in Audra, Indeed, Allah has already set for everything, a decree extent or other they say sometimes it's also its do measure or do time. Sometimes we have a tendency to,

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we ask a law for things, but we asked him

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in our own terms like this is when we want it. And sometimes a lot does not operate this way. We are on dangerous ground if we think that Allah owes us because we prayed and he did not grant us and sometimes Allah does not grant us what we asked for, for our own for our own good. So now going back to the issue of divorce again. So a woman once a woman is a man divorces a woman. It is haram to divorce a woman during her menses. It is haram to divorce a woman who is pregnant now, is it haram?

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Or is it haram and or haram but valid? That is where there is this big huge

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debate amongst the jurist? Can a person do? Can he divorce a woman or his wife during her menses and still have that divorce validated? That is where there is a debate. And it's referred to as Paula that is binary. That is not according in accordance to the sooner that is Sunni, not Sunni as versus Sherry, but sooner versus without kind of Allah. So a woman on remand says she is not to be divorced, a woman who is pregnant, she is not supposed to be divorced. But let's say that in the case that she was neither here nor there and the person is doing it, according to the sooner. So it says if she is a woman of age, and she is going through her regular cycle, then her at the her

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appointed term is three mensis after which the marriage has come to an end. What if she does not have romances? Because let's say she has reached that age where she is no longer going through that. So Allah says, and those who no longer expect ministration among your women.

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If you doubt, if you doubt what

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if you doubt, if you ask what is their appointed term, then Allah says to whom

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They did not

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tell us how to assure then their period, that appointed term is three months.

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Well, let me help you. And also for those who have not mistreated. Now, this is a very difficult verse to discuss. Because what is it saying?

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If a woman is too old to have her menses, then it is three months.

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And then what is the other possibility?

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If she's too young, to have Medicis, what does that mean?

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That marrying her is what

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is what

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are people you're not into this or you know, you are not into this.

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And I'm trying to provoke you, and I'm trying to do all that stuff. But it is just too many toilet people here. I'm just too boring. I think

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you seem to be in agreement with that. That's fine.

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And now you're trying to be nice. Okay.

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Okay. So some people take from this verse that it is possible that you may be a person who is too young to go through their menses. Others have said no, let me heaven. It could be due to a

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disease

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they have, or they no longer have their period. But that's not the point. What will lead to a genuine Giovanna homeloan and the women who are pregnant this term is until they give birth. Okay, so a man really mad at his wife, who's pregnant. He divorces her

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right? Now, so let's say that he divorces her, then finds out that she is pregnant. And then he dies.

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Kill the man. Okay. So what is what is her appointed term? he divorced before knowing that she's pregnant.

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So now she is divorced. But now she's pregnant, and now he's dead.

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What is her appointed term?

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Should

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we say that is let's say? Yes, you can do it. You can it's valid. It's not it's not Tom, but you still can. So let's say that you divorce her find out she's pregnant, and then you're dead.

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Okay, so let's say let's say divorce never took place. And a man died while his wife was pregnant. What is the appointed term for a woman whose her whose husband is that? Four months and 10 days right? Then, so now she's pregnant. And he dies, she gives birth or she's pregnant. So what is our appointed term?

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Till she gets birth? He died one week before she gave birth.

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Make up your mind people

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really seem to want to punish her now.

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Okay, let's say she gave birth a week after he's dead.

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As a good one, isn't it?

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That's a very good one.

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Okay, some people say that it is whatever is longer.

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And some people will say, Oh, it's whatever is shorter.

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Because she is both cases apply you to her. She is pregnant. And her husband is that. So let's say if it was at the very beginning of the pregnancy, then it's known, you know, she delivers, she's going to have to wait anyways until the the until she delivers. Now let's say that it was shorter than the period that she had to wait if her husband you know,

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then then waiting for the appointed term of her husband being dead. Okay, so four months and 10 days versus he gives birth the next week. so on. So some people say that it is the longer of the two Some people say is the shorter of the of the two

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what time

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Okay, so let's just finish the

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so a woman who is pregnant her term is when she delivers that baby woman tequila hedge Allah human Emery he use wrong and whosoever is God conscious Allah will make for him. His

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Allah will make for him of his matter is allowed to bring ease into his matter which matter.

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Okay, so inshallah we'll continue after hoping that people would be applied in sha Allah