Yassir Fazaga – Jumuah 27-09-2024
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The importance of good family and healthy lifestyles is discussed in the segment, including the need for family time and learning about the Prophet sallal, god's peace, god's love, and god's love for the family. The importance of dinner time for healthy lifestyles is emphasized, along with the need for family time to get to know one another and avoid social anxiety. The success of a woman named sallahu alayhi who was recently married and married to a man is also highlighted, along with the importance of fulfilling obligations and being kind towards others. The segment ends with a brief advertisement for a book and a car rally.
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May Yahdihillāhu falā mudhillalahu, wa-may yudhill falā
hādiyalahu, wa-sharū'an lā ilāha illāllāh wahdahu
lā sharīka lah, wa-anna muḥammadan sallallāhu ʿalayhi
wa-sallamu ʿabduhu wa-rasūluhu.
Ammā baʿd fa-inna asdaqa al-ḥadīthi kitābullāhu,
wa-khayra al-hādi muḥammadin sallallāhu ʿalayhi wa
-sallam.
In the name of Allah, the compassionate, the
most merciful, all praise is due to Allah.
We bear witness that no one is worthy
of worship but Allah and we bear witness
that Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is indeed
his final messenger.
The best of speech is the book of
Allah.
The best of guidance is the guidance of
Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala make us
amongst those who listen to the best of
speech the book of Allah and follow its
commandments and may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
make us amongst those who come to know
the best of ways the way of Muhammad
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and make us amongst
his followers Allahumma ameen Allahumma ameen Allahumma ameen
Allahumma ja'alna wa iyaakum minhum.
Ask any parent, father, mother, ask what is
it what is it that you desire most
and most if not all are all going
to say we want to see our families
good, we want to see our children happy,
we want to see our children successful and
to us believers we want to see our
families happy and we want to see our
children successful both in this life as well
as in the hereafter and may Allah grant
us this ya rabbal alameen.
However good families, awesome families don't accidentally happen.
Average families accidentally happen but good families, awesome
families, happy families and that requires work, that
requires sacrifice, it requires things to be done
and as they say having a good family
is like cultivating a garden.
A beautiful garden don't just, it just does
not happen.
You've got to weed it, you've got to
nurture it, you've got to nurture it, you've
got to water it, you've got to clean
it, you've got to plant it, you've got
to take care of it so that you
have a good beautiful garden.
As the story goes this man buys a
house and in front of his house he
has this big front yard and he calls
in a landscape engineer and he tells him
I want you to get me this very
special kind of grass that will not allow
weeds to grow and I want you to
get me special kind of trees that will
grow but will not crack you know the
the sidewalk and I want you to get
me sprinkler systems that operate in this way
and I want you so the engineer looked
at him and he said sir let me
tell you this if you want a beautiful
garden you have to be willing to do
some gardening you can't just wait for it
to happen you will have to do some
gardening and now what we see here is
I work very hard I get my children
everything that they want but it's not exemplifying
itself imbibing itself in them being happy we
just don't experience that anymore what is what
is going on so inshallah today we'll be
sharing five suggestions to help us achieve potentially
that awesome good happy family what they found
out number one is that good awesome families
spend time together Ata narrates a story he
said Zortu Ana wa Ibn Umayr Aisha ta
Umm al-Mu'mineen radiallahu anha Ibn Hibban narrates
this hadith where he said that Ata and
Ibn Umayr they visited Aisha the wife of
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam by then she
is the widow of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi
wasallam so they visited her and then they
said Ya Umm al-Mu'mineen akhbirina an a
'jaba ma they said wife of the Prophet
of Allah mother of the believers you have
been with the Prophet peace be upon him
we want you to tell us as to
the most amazing the most wondrous the most
interesting thing that you have seen from the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam Fasakatat hunayha said that
Aisha paused and then she said Kana kullu
amruhu a'jaba she said to begin with
all of his affairs were amazing interesting and
wonderful but then she decided to tell a
story she said fi laylat minal layali Ata
nabiyu sallallahu alayhi wasallam wattaja bi janibi hatta
masta jilduhu jildi she said one night the
Prophet peace be upon him came and he
was lying next to me and he sallallahu
alayhi wasallam was so close that I can
feel his skin on my skin summa kala
ya Aisha zareeni ataabadu rabbi and then all
of the sudden the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam
said oh Aisha excuse me I want to
worship my Lord faqalat ya rasulallah wallahi inni
uhibbu qurbak she said Prophet of Allah by
Allah I enjoy your company wa inni uhibbu
ma tuhibb and by Allah Prophet of Allah
I love that which you love faqama nabiyu
sallallahu alayhi wasallam so the Prophet of Allah
got up fatawadda and he made wudu ablution
purified himself summa jaala yusalli wa yabki and
then the Prophet of Allah she said he
started praying and he started crying hatta btallat
khududuhu until his cheeks were wet hatta btallat
lihyatuhu until his beard now is wet until
his clothes are now dripping his tears are
dripping into what he is wearing sallallahu alayhi
wasallam qalat hatta atal fajr and he was
doing this sallallahu alayhi wasallam until it was
fajr time when Bilal came to wake him
up yuridu an yuqidahu bilal faqala ya rasulallah
kullu hadha wa qad ghafar allahu laka ma
taqaddamin min dhanbika wa ma taakhar said brother
of Allah all of this even though Allah
has promised to forgive you your past future
present since you do this faqala nabiyu sallallahu
alayhi wasallam afala akunu abdan shakoora should I
not be a grateful servant to Allah subhanahu
wa'ta'ala wallahi laqad unzila alayya alyawma ayat
wailun liman qara'aha walam yatafakkar feeha it
has been revealed to me tonight verses woe
to those who recited and do not reflect
upon it and then he started reciting towards
the end of surat Ali Imran surah number
three a sual way the question is now
that Aisha tells the story we want to
know where is the amazing part where is
the amazing part he sallallahu alayhi wasallam crying
we've seen that before he sallallahu alayhi wasallam
praying at night we've seen that before he
sallallahu alayhi wasallam being grateful we've seen that
before so where is the amazing part some
people say that the amazing part is where
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam said very near
to Abba do Robbie some people say that
the amazing part is the Prophet sallallahu alayhi
wasallam asking or excusing himself by asking Aisha
because see this is her time this is
her time and he's saying that this is
your time but with your permission I would
like to worship my Lord so they said
the amazing part the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam
didn't say I'm about to go and pray
so you know what this time is me
time I said that this was your time
but I need permission to do so no
families nowadays too exhausted too tired too busy
too serious there isn't really much time taking
place they had a study and they asked
parents how many of you believe that dinner
time is important to be eaten together 84
% of the parents said we believe that
dinner to be eaten with the family is
important and what they found out is that
only 50% of families eat dinner together
they had a comparison how it was back
in the 1960s that families spend dinner time
was a thing that people did seven days
a week even with the 50% of
the parents who eat dinner together it found
out that only three times a week that
people were doing this the most important thing
to give our families is time time to
talk time to get to know one another
time to teach you're saying that even when
when parents nowadays when we talk to our
children even the conversations that we have revolve
around schedules most of it we need to
leave by this time because we need to
get there by this time we need to
get this done and we get to get
that done if it's not about scheduling it's
about the homework and how are you doing
at school and how are you not doing
at school and you need to study for
this and you need to study for that
and by then we were already too exhausted
too tired and too so and so number
two so the first one is spend time
they also found out research they said that
awesome families happy families tend to have fun
and play with one another in other words
don't just endure life enjoy life there is
so much hard work that's going on and
the question is towards what end when do
you take a vacation when do you spend
time together when do you play with one
another when do you be silly with one
another when do you do this finding out
that one common denominator amongst families that are
experiencing more happiness than others said that a
common denominator amongst them that families have fun
together common thing that we see nowadays kids
come from school eat or don't eat they
go upstairs everybody is either on their laptop
or everybody is on their phone or somebody
turned off the TV and people are just
no longer talking talking to one another there
isn't really much fun and sadly most of
the fun that is taking place it's taking
place outside the family not within the not
within the family part of it is you've
got to have fun with your family third
point mind your words if one is upon
a lot of Kalima what law he in
manner at the bottom of the road oh
and not a total wards have power they
can either lift our spirits or they can
crush our spirits that is the power of
a ward said this before you know we
human beings it is impossible to recall physical
pain you get up and you bump your
knee on the table you had the surgery
you broke a bone you can speak about
your pain all you want it is humanly
impossible to recall physical pain you can talk
about how Covid was bad for you you
can talk about how bad this happened you
can never humanly impossible to recall physical pain
but we can recall emotional pain inflicted on
us by the words that the people around
us used I mean he meant the family
though that the words that are exchanged between
a wife and a husband and the type
of insults and the verbal abuse that takes
place I would be love me something like
you're a bit off you know yeah why
you're a bit off you know yeah now
we are invited as believers to celebrate the
gift of speech yeah when you're a bit
alarming I could meet that alabany Israel well
and the cool will in Nancy who's now
part of the covenant that Allah subhanahu wa'ta
'ala took with Benny Israel is that when
you speak to people you speak with splendid
words with good words with beautiful words and
it seems that this is an art that
is missing nowadays we no longer mind our
words especially with our loved ones especially with
our families insulting demeaning devaluing I can't do
that prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam taught us when
I'll kill him at to play Yuba Sadako
a good word uttered by you is an
act of charity people feel good when we
say good things to them people feel good
when our words are encouraging people feel better
when our words are loving people feel better
when our words are positive when our words
are forgiving when our words are kind it
makes those around us feel better subhanallah as
long as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam lived
nobody ever came and complained that Muhammad sallallahu
alayhi wasallam said something to me that was
not nice certainly absolutely not his not his
family very important is we've got to mind
our words we've got to mind our sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam a
believer
is not one who uses profanity a believer
is not one who curses and insults this
is not the behavior of a believer not
with our children and not with our spouses
fourth it the hobby with the Robbie you
know there is an art in the in
the Arab culture and they refer to it
as this idea of being agreeability and the
ability to overlook or pretend that you did
not see what they're talking about is this
notion of be wise about picking your battles
you can take a look at America let
it to hold not everything needs to become
a battle and when you look and hear
what people fight over sadly it is insignificant
it is very similar why are you making
a big deal of this why are you
making a battle out of this the other
day brother said man my wife and I
we got into this very heated debate we
argued over two hours and we almost got
divorced I said brother what was your fight
over and said now I don't remember but
I know it was a big fight you
really mean to tell me two hours that
almost ended in divorce you don't remember what
it was over what happens that everything is
becoming a battle so what do you do
it the hobby intentionally overlooking not because you
don't see it not because you're silly to
the contrary man that is how life just
keeps going you see what you see but
you just smile and just let it go
not everything needs to turn into a big
into a big deal nabiya sallallahu alayhi wasallam
ummu anas atta to nabiya sallallahu alayhi wasallam
umma salama came with her son anas ten
years old qalat ya rasulallah hadha unaise jaa
liya khdimuk she said prophet of allah this
is my son anas and she called him
unaise this is my baby and hereby prophet
of allah he is being designated to serve
you prophet of allah now this kid is
here to serve the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam
his mother is taking joy in my child
is going to be the servant of the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam then anas ibn malik
tells the story and what does he say
qal wallahi khadamtu nabiya sallallahu alayhi wasallam aashra
sini he said by Allah I was serving
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam for ten years
fama qala li qattu lishay in faaltuhu lima
faaltuhu aw lishay in lam afaalhu lima lam
tafaal he said in these ten years the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam never said to me
to something that I have done why did
you do it or something that I did
not do why did you not do it
of course in ten years he certainly made
mistakes in fact we are aware of the
mistakes that he radiallahu anhu made he tells
a story qal ba'athani nabiyu sallallahu alayhi
wasallam fi haja said the Prophet of Allah
sent me to do something for for him
fi ttariqi wajattu sibyatan yal'abun and on
my way to do what the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wasallam has asked for he said I
found some kids playing fal'ibtu ma'ahum
and I started playing with them qal faja
'ani nabiyu sallallahu alayhi wasallam said the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wasallam came to me as I
was playing now one is called the child
you want to rebuke the child you want
to be critical of him and the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wasallam is touching and rubbing his
ears and saying yeah the name is it
honest you've got two big ears I sent
it to do this and here you are
playing and he sallallahu alayhi wasallam was loving
and kind in the way that he did
it so what do you do not everything
needs to be a big deal ya khui
kabbir dimaagak wa arhi qalbak so what do
you do he said that practice some wisdom
and bring peace to your heart not everything
needs to become a big deal finally a
rizq ya akhwan being kind nabi sallallahu alayhi
wasallam yaqul etha ahabba allahu ahla baitin adkhala
fihumun rizq ya rabbi ja'alna wa iyaakum
minhum wa fee riwaya etha arada allahu khayran
bi ahli baitin adkhala fihumun rizq Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wasallam said when Allah loves a household
Allah brings kindness in their midst in another
narration it says that when Allah intends good
for a household Allah brings kindness in our
in their midst may Allah make us amongst
them so we can be very critical we
can be very cruel said actually life is
more beautiful when we are kind to those
who are around us shukriya akhwan subhanallah fee
lateefa fee al-deen indana al-deen ya
'arrifi al-insan bi huququ lakin al-deen
yusir ala innak inta tqum bi wajibatak there's
something beautiful in our deen the deen wants
you to be aware of your rights but
the emphasis is on you fulfilling your obligations
other people are not doing it be aware
of your rights but more important the deen
says is you fulfill your obligations what does
that mean being kind to those who are
kind to you does not make you kind
that's not a big deal of course it's
very easy to be kind to those who
are kind to you it's very easy to
be thoughtful towards those who are thoughtful towards
you it's very easy to be courteous towards
those who are courteous towards you but that
is not where our character shines our character
shines when despite the rudeness of the others
you remain to be a lady you remain
to be a gentleman you remain to be
good and that is when we say and
that is beautiful may Allah grant us all
this beauty of the Quran
is
that the do's and the don'ts legal aspects
and legal matters are very minimal ibn al
-qayyim believes it to be 150 verses out
of over 6,000 verses that comes to
about 2% of the Quran deals with
legal matters the way in Al-Ajeeb ruba
ayat al-ahkam fil-qur'an that I'll
look beautiful ruba ayat al-ahkam fil-qur
'an that I'll look beautiful you know these
legal verses in the Quran are minimal but
then what's really really amazing about it is
that 25% of it one-fourth of
it deals with the family related issues that's
just another way of expressing how important it
is this notion of a family in the
in the Quran but if we want a
happy family a good family an awesome family
and may Allah grant us all the other
but I mean happy and good and awesome
families there's got to be work done on
our on our part point is not just
to belong to a family but to actually
enjoy the belonging to that to that family
you know when you look into places like
Gaza looking places into like Lebanon now looking
to places like what is happening in Florida
what are people worried about people are not
worried about their buildings saddened by it but
they're not worried about their buildings they're not
worried about their properties what is their main
concern my family everybody's talking about their family
I don't want my family murdered as they
are doing in Gaza I don't my family
killed and murdered in Lebanon I don't want
my family to be you know to die
as it's happening in Florida and may Allah
keep them all safe ya rabbal alameen but
you know that everybody longs and everybody wants
their family to be to be around with
them so once again may Allah keep our
families strong may Allah keep our families together
may Allah bring kindness and love and respect
and courtesy in our midst ya rabbal alameen
if any of us or our loved ones
are going through difficult times may Allah ease
our pain if any of us or our
loved ones are not feeling well may Allah
grant us a full and a speedy recovery
if any of us or our loved ones
are going through difficult times may Allah ease
our difficulties any of our loved ones passed
away may Allah bless their souls Allahumma innaka
afuwwun kareemun tuhibbu al-afwa fa'afu anna
rabbana aatina fi al-dunya hasanatan wa fi
al-akhirati hasanatan wa qinaa athab al-naar
ibadallah inna Allah ya'mur bil-adl wal-ihsani
wa ita'idhi al-qurba wa inhaa al
-fahsha'i wal-munkari wal-baghyi ya'idhukum
la'allakum tathakkaroon fadhkuru Allah yadhkurukum washkuruha ala
ni'amihi yazidkum wala dhikru Allahi akbar Allah
y'alma tasna'oon wa aqim al-salaam
our brother Muhammad Zakaria just went through a
surgery please keep him in your du'a
may Allah grant him a full and speedy
recover ya rabbal alamin istawu wa istaqimu wa
i'tadilu allahu akbar bismillah
alhamdulillahi rabbil alamin ar-rahman ar-rahim maliki
yawm al-deen iyyaka na'budu wa iyyaka
nasta'een ihdina al-sirata al-mustaqeema sirata
al-lazeena an'amta alayhim ghayri al-maghdoobi
alayhim wala al-dalleen ameen
inna al-muttaqeena fee jannatin wa ayyun udkhuluha
bisalamin amineen wa naza'na ma fee sudurihim
min ghillin ikhwanan ala sururin mutaqabileen la yamasuhum
feeha nasabun wa ma hum minha bimukhrajeen nabbi'
ibadi anni ana al-ghafoorun raheem wa anna
azabi huwa al-azab al-aleem nabbi' ibadi
anni ana al-ghafoorun raheem alhamdulillahi
rabbil alameen ar-rahman ar-raheem maliki yawm
al-deen iyyaka na'budu wa iyyaka nasta
'een ihdina al-sirata al-mustaqeema sirata al
-lazeena an'amta alayhim ghayri al-maghdoobi alayhim
wala al-dalleen ameen wa al-lazeena la
yashahadoona al-zoora wa idha marroo bil-laghwi
marroo kirama wa al-lazeena idha dhukiroo bi
-ayati rabbihim lam yakhirroo alayhaa summaan wa umyana
wa al-lazeena yaqooloona rabbanaa hablanaa min azwajinaa
wa dhurriyatinaa qurrata a'ayun wa aj'alnaa
lil-muttaqeena imama coalition
with a couple of other groups.
They are organizing protests in Memphis downtown.
It's going to be Saturday, October 5th at
2 p.m. Saturday, October 5th at 2
p.m. Memphis downtown.
It's going to be by the city hall.
And it's going to be at 2 o
'clock.
That's Saturday, October 6th.
Then October 7th, Sunday, GMMC are organizing a
car rally, number three.
We did two car rallies.
Car rally number three is going to be
October 6th.
So the least we could do is attend,
protest, say something.
I have a little story.
A lot of people, they think, okay, well,
you know, Palestine, you know, I'm not from
there.
Well, my family are here.
They're safe.
It really matters.
There is a little story.
I have a farm here and I have
a barn.
So I read that story.
It really stuck to my head.
There was a farmer.
He had a farm.
He had a barn.
In the barn, he has cows, sheep, chicken.
He had also mice.
He put a trap for the mice.
The snake was passing by, got trapped by
the mice trap.
So at that time, the mice told the
cows and the rats and the chicken, hey,
there's a mice.
They said, we don't care.
That trap is for you.
It's not for us.
It's a mice trap.
So the next day, the farmer's wife was
going to collect the eggs.
She got bitten by the snake that was
trapped in the mice trap.
She got sick.
The farmer went to kill the chicken to
feed his wife.
So the chicken are gone.
She got really sick more than that.
A lot of people started coming.
So he went to kill the sheep to
feed the people.
Then she died.
He ended up killing the cows to feed
everyone else that came for the funeral.
That really stuck to my head.
Everyone here or in the world, they don't
care about Palestine too much.
They said, okay, it's not us.
It's not our kids.
We're fine.
It's really going to affect us.
It's going to affect every Muslim, every Arab.
It's a shame on us that we don't
really do what we really supposed to be
doing more.
At least let's do the dua.
Let's, you know, whenever there's a fundraising, let's
help out.
Third, when there's a protest, it's a peaceful
protest.
We're not going to be doing anything wrong.
It's a peaceful protest.
All we're doing is trying to remind everyone
that these people are getting killed, that over
here we are, the U.S. funding the
genocide for one year, funding the genocide.
So we need to say stop this.
So please join the two protests Saturday and
Sunday, October 5th and October 6th.
Thank you so much.