Yassir Fazaga – Jumaah Khutbah 06-12-2024
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The Prophet's visit to Umm pencil school and a truce between the M Mmines and the Prophet's wife led to a truce between them. The speaker discusses the importance of respecting and forgive people, especially those who are marginalized or criticized. They stress the need to be mindful of others' feelings and apologize sincerely. The speaker also warns against harming others' emotions and false demands, and advises parents to let people know that they want to respect and forgive others' feelings. The importance of avoiding harms and showing respect and grace to others, especially when dealing with family members who are going through difficult situations. The speaker also emphasizes the need for everyone to show their capacity to manage their behavior and avoid mistakes.
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As-salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.
Allah is the Greatest, Allah is the Greatest.
Allah is the Greatest, Allah is the Greatest.
I bear witness that there is no god
but Allah.
I bear witness that there is no god
but Allah.
I bear witness that Muhammad is the Messenger
of Allah.
I bear witness that Muhammad is the Messenger
of Allah.
Come to prayer.
Come to success.
Come to success.
Allah is the Greatest, Allah is the Greatest.
There is no god but Allah.
I bear witness that there is no god
but Allah.
All praise is due to Allah, the Most
Compassionate, the Most Merciful.
We seek His guidance, His forgiveness, and we
ask Allah to shower us all with mercy.
We bear witness that there is no god
worthy to be worshipped except Allah, and that
Prophet Muhammad ﷺ is His servant and His
final messenger.
Dear brothers and sisters, I remind you and
myself to have taqwa of Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala, be mindful of Him, for it
is the key to all success in this
life and in the next.
And remember Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala's command
to all of us to be mindful of
Him and fear Him as He should be
feared.
And remember also that Allah azza wa jal
commanded us, all you who believe, fear Allah
and speak words of appropriate justice.
Today, I want to talk about a very
important aspect of our religion, and I want
everyone's attention inshallah ta'ala, but I want
you to know that I am actually addressing
myself first with this.
And I ask Allah azza wa jal that
my words find their way to your hearts.
And I ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
to make this khutba something that will bring
me closer to Him and be more transformative
inshallah ta'ala for all of us.
Before I begin talking, I just want to
remind you, some of you may be familiar
with this story.
You see, there is a story in the
seerah of the Prophet ﷺ mentioned in the
books of sunnah.
It's a pathetic story, and there are different
variations of this story.
And I don't think we, I don't remember
hearing really a lot of people talk about
this particular story and analyze it.
So, during the, after the treaty of al
-Hudaybiyah, Abu Sufyan came to Madinah to visit
the Prophet ﷺ.
And you may know that Abu Sufyan was
the father of Umm al-Mu'mineen.
He was the father of Umm al-Mu'mineen,
Umm Habibah, Ramla bint Abu Sufyan.
So Abu Sufyan, after the treaty of al
-Hudaybiyah, now there's a truce between the Meccans,
the Quraysh, and the Muslims in Madinah.
During this period, Abu Sufyan came to Madinah.
He's not Muslim yet.
He came to Madinah to visit, and one
of the stops that he made was to
visit his daughter, his own daughter.
His daughter was Umm Habibah, the mother of
the believers, the wife, one of the wives
of the Prophet ﷺ.
So he was the Prophet's ﷺ father-in
-law.
And Umm Habibah asked the Prophet ﷺ for
permission.
She said, can I host him?
My father wants to come.
Can I give him permission?
He said, obviously yes.
And then, you know, just a side note
here, when he went to visit, she actually
rolled her, the mat or the mattress the
Prophet ﷺ used to sit on.
She wouldn't allow him to sit on it.
So anyways, so he came to Madinah to
visit.
During this visit in Madinah, Abu
Sufyan was sighted, he was seen by some
of the companions of the Prophet ﷺ, like
Bilal and Suhaib.
Some of those people were amongst the people
that he participated, or he was part of
that group of people that persecuted them in
Mecca.
And amongst them were people like Salman al
-Farisi and others, who engaged in battle and
warfare with armies led by Abu Sufyan.
So they have a long history.
And mind you, he wasn't Muslim yet.
So they said, when they saw him, they
said something to the effect that, they said,
I mean, this is a rough translation, the
swords of Allah did not yet take their
full due from the neck of the enemy
of Allah.
It's a metaphor to say that we really
didn't get back at this person.
This person, you know, deserves.
Now, Abu Bakr r.a overhears this.
Upon hearing this, Abu Bakr r.a, he
said to them, أَتَقُولُونَ هَذَا لِسَيِّدِ قُرَيْشِ وَشَيْخِهَا
How dare you say something like this to
the leader of Quraysh, to the chief of
Quraysh?
How could you say that?
This means, first of all, he is the
father-in-law of the Prophet ﷺ, there
is a truce between us, he may accept
Islam soon, right?
This is not something nice to say.
So he said that to them, that that
wasn't appropriate.
So he scolded them.
They were quiet.
And then he went to the Prophet ﷺ,
and in his conversation with the Prophet ﷺ,
he informed him of what happened.
فَأَخْبَرَ النَّبِيَ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ بِمَا كَانَ
مِن شَأْنِهِ وَشَأْنِهِمْ أَتَدُرُونَ مَا قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ
صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ لَهِ Do you know
what the Prophet ﷺ said to him?
What do you think the Prophet ﷺ said
to him?
He said, يَا أَبَا بَكْرِ لَعَلَّكَ أَغْضَبْتَهُمْ He
said, Abu Bakr, watch out.
You may have offended them with that comment
of yours.
And then he said to him, إِن كُنْتَ
قَدْ أَغْضَبْتَهُمْ فَقَدْ أَغْضَبْتَ رَبَّكَ He said to
him, Abu Bakr, Indeed, if they are offended,
then your Lord would be offended.
What do you think Abu Bakr did?
رَجَعَ إِلَيْهِمْ أَبَا بَكْرِ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنَهُ Abu
Bakr went back to them.
And he said, my brothers, I hope you
did not find my comment to be offensive.
I did not intend to offend you or
disrespect you.
So they said to him, يَغْفِرُ اللَّهُ لَكَ
May Allah forgive you.
No, we did not find offense in what
you said.
Apology accepted.
Nothing.
No, we didn't find it offensive.
Where is the lesson here, my dear brothers
and sisters?
For us.
You see, the Prophet ﷺ and the Qur
'an teaches us.
They teach us to be mindful of other
people's feelings, especially Muslims.
And the more right a person has over
you, the more careful you need to be
not to hurt their feelings.
We're not even talking here about harming someone
physically or abusing them verbally.
We're talking about here hurting their feelings unintentionally.
Be careful.
We want to talk today about respecting the
feelings of others, especially those who are vulnerable
or marginalized.
You see, Allah عز و جل tells us
in the Qur'an, وَقُولُوا لِلنَّاسِ حُسْنًا One
of the ways that people do this is
through their horrible choice of words or sometimes
comments.
Allah عز و جل says, وَقُولُوا لِلنَّاسِ حُسْنًا
And speak kindly to people.
Sometimes it's not what you say, it's how
you say it.
It's not what you say, but how you
say it, or when you say it.
So you have to be very careful.
Now, no matter how careful one might be,
there will be times where people may find
offense in what you say.
And the remedy for that is simple and
easy.
Get over your ego and apologize.
Discover the power of apology.
Apologize sincerely to the people.
I'm sorry, I didn't mean it that way.
There's nothing wrong with that.
Do not deny people the right to really
be offended by something that they find offensive.
Especially if it's within their right, by the
way.
Side note here.
Some of us, sometimes we get offended when
our rights were not even violated.
This is a subject for another khutbah, inshallah.
I intend to address this issue.
Because sometimes we claim rights that don't belong
to us.
Someone will come and set very clear boundaries
for us, and we get offended by the
fact that they set clear boundaries.
We ask someone for a favor, and that
person politely declines, and we find offense in
that.
That's foolish.
To have that kind of sense of entitlement
is problematic.
And I see this problem also amongst our
children.
Many of us parents, we raise children that
are very entitled to the point where when
they're denied something that doesn't even belong to
them, something that they have no right for,
they get hurt and offended and upset.
Like as if they're being abused or neglected.
And unfortunately we have some adults that run
around acting like those babies who get offended.
I'll just give you this.
This is because every time we talk about
this or it's mentioned, some people say, how
come?
Well, how come in your culture?
There are some cases where in some cultures
people expect certain things from other people.
And if people who don't even belong to
that culture don't offer it to them, they
find offense in that.
Well, your culture is not Qur'an and
Sunnah with due respect.
So please, give people some rooms.
Give people slack.
So just because someone didn't do what you
consider to be in your culture an act
of respect, not knowing that that's your culture,
you shouldn't find offense in that.
And if you do, then you've got a
problem.
You have an ego problem.
You have a pride problem.
The Prophet ﷺ in a hadith says, this
is just an example.
مَنْ أَحَبَّ أَن يَمْتَثِلَ النَّاسُ لَهُ قِيَامًا فَلَيَ
تَبَوَّى مَقَعَدَهُ مِنَ النَّارِ Any person that demands
and wishes or wants people to stand up
to him or for him, anytime he walks
in or comes, let him expect his place
in hellfire.
Let him know that his place in hellfire
is reserved.
That's a sign of arrogance.
Even Rasulullah ﷺ did not demand or ask.
As a matter of fact, he used to
forbid the sahabah from doing something like that.
If people do it out of love and
out of respect, that's their choice.
But you shouldn't expect or demand that from
people.
And again, I'm not talking about raising your
children to show respect for elders and people
of knowledge.
No, I'm saying you yourself demanding that from
everyone and anyone.
Be careful.
So going back to this whole issue of
being mindful of what we say or do
to other people.
So sometimes it's not about how you say
The Prophet ﷺ once called a man by
a nickname that he heard the sahabah call
him with.
He didn't know any better.
So they said, يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنَّهُ يَكْرَهُ
ذَلِكَ Messenger of Allah, he's really bothered by
it.
A nickname.
He heard other people call him that name.
He didn't know the history or the background
behind that nickname.
And you know this.
We're all maybe, we're guilty of it and
sometimes we ourselves were subjected to something like
this.
Someone calls you, gives you a nickname, a
funny nickname.
Some of us can tolerate this and we're
okay with it.
Some people are maybe a little more sensitive
or they don't like to be called that
name.
Sometimes you may be okay with some people
calling you that name but not everyone else.
We have to be sensitive to that.
So when they said to the Prophet ﷺ,
يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ This man does not really
like to be called this name.
The Prophet ﷺ stopped.
And he apologized to the man.
He said, I didn't know that.
I heard people call you this name.
I thought this was your nickname or your
name.
Now you have people sometimes who call people
names and they make fun of them and
they don't care.
They know that the person is bothered.
They know that this may ruin this person's
day.
They know this may alienate this individual or
this group of people.
They still insist on doing it.
Now at this point this is not a
minor sin.
This is a major sin.
This is abusive.
This is unacceptable.
This is unacceptable behavior.
And you must stop doing that or Allah
عز و جل will send your way someone
who is going to punish you for it.
And if you're lucky enough you'll get your
lesson in this life.
The Sahabah رضوان الله عليهم the Prophet ﷺ
saw them once giggling.
Because they saw Abdullah ibn Mas'ud climb
a tree and then they saw how thin
his legs were.
ضحك أصحاب النبي بعض أصحاب النبي I don't
want you to think this is all the
companions of the Prophet ﷺ or people like
Abu Bakr.
Some of the Sahabah were young.
Were young.
They're not at the same maturity level as
the elders.
So they found it funny when they saw
him climbing that tree real quick and with
his thin legs they started giggling.
The Prophet ﷺ said, أَتَضْحَكُونَ مِنْ دِقَةِ سَاقَيْهِ
Are you making fun of or are you
laughing because of how thin his legs are?
You know who this person is?
You know his status with Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ
تَعَالَى إِنَّهُمَا أَثْقَلُوا عِنْدَ اللَّهِ مِنْ جَبَلِ أُحُدٍ
They weigh heavier in the eyes of Allah
سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى than the Mount of Uhud.
You're dealing with Abdullah ibn As'ud, one
of the earliest people.
He was 25% of the Muslim population
at some point according to him.
He was one of the first four according
to him.
The first person to read the Qur'an
out loud in Mecca publicly for which he
paid hefty price.
He was beaten almost to death.
رضي الله عنه أرضاه Who are you talking
about here?
Be careful who you mess with.
Because sometimes you may be hurting or abusing
someone that has a very special status with
Allah.
And you should assume any Muslim out there
to have a special status with Allah.
Be careful.
Don't hurt the feelings of Muslims.
Be it old or young, men or women.
Be careful.
Be careful.
Sometimes we think we're clever.
Chicken legs.
MashaAllah.
Taqillah.
Fear Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala.
Especially if a person is bothered by it
and go and apologize.
The Prophet ﷺ used to pay special attention.
And in some cases the Prophet ﷺ unintentionally
he ignored a blind man in Mecca.
You know the story.
He ignored a blind man.
Someone with a special need.
And that person didn't even see the Prophet
ﷺ frown.
But guess who saw that on behalf of
that blind man?
Allah Azza wa Jal.
And Allah recorded in the Quran that the
Prophet ﷺ turned away from that man and
frowned.
And Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala held the
Prophet ﷺ accountable for that.
عَبَسَ وَتَوَلَّ أَنْ جَاءَهُ الْأَعْمَى And the Prophet
ﷺ used to recite that verse.
And that companion had a special status in
the heart of the Prophet ﷺ.
Before and even more after that incident.
The Prophet ﷺ did not hold that against
him.
Actually he gave him credit for it.
And he used to welcome him.
رضي الله عنه وأرضاه Sometimes we deal with
people who are weaker or have special needs.
Like there's something wrong with them.
Like we just have to tolerate them and
accommodate them.
Not like the special people they are.
The Prophet ﷺ put emphasis on the vulnerable
and the women.
He said, إِنَّمَا تُرْزَقُونَ بِضُعَفَئِكُمْ You know your
rizq, your provision, your protection, the barakah that
you're enjoying here as individuals, as families, and
as communities is due to the weak people
amongst you.
Or to the vulnerable people amongst you.
Your children, your women.
And people with special needs or challenges in
their lives.
These people ought to be welcomed and respected
and protected and taken care of.
And the worst thing or the last thing
you want to do is neglect them, abuse
them, or hurt them intentionally or unintentionally.
I ask Allah ﷻ to make you and
I of those who listen and follow the
best of what they listen and I say
this and ask Allah to forgive me and
you.
So ask His forgiveness and He will forgive
you.
Indeed, He is the Forgiving, the Merciful.
All praise is due to Allah.
And peace be upon His chosen servants.
My dear brothers and sisters, The Prophet ﷺ
instructed us to show strength and to show
self-restraint and self-control.
And the Prophet ﷺ said, The strong amongst
you is not the one who overpowers others
but the strong are those who control themselves
when angry.
Anger is never an excuse to hurting the
feelings of other people.
Let alone hurt them or abuse them verbally
or physically.
You can't even hurt the feelings of someone
else just because you're angry or you're frustrated.
And if you do, then again, what mature
righteous believers and wise people do is apologize
and ask the person for forgiveness.
There is elegance and beauty in it.
Mature and righteous believers also, they accept apologies
and they extend their forgiveness to others.
Because Allah ﷻ says, You see, if you're
only kind to those who are kind to
you, then you're really not a kind person.
You're just someone who reciprocates.
What makes you kind, what makes you graceful,
what makes you gracious, what makes you incredibly
special is your capacity to show respect to
others and your capacity to forgive others when
they disrespect you.
Especially when they show remorse and sorrow.
Once again, the same thing can be said
about any family or any group of people
or any community.
What makes a community special is not necessarily
its capacity to make things happen.
It's not its resources, but its capacity to
accommodate everyone and extend their grace to everyone
starting with and especially its own members.
My dear brothers and sisters, let's expand our
hearts and open our hearts to one another.
And I hate to use the word, be
tolerant.
No, be graceful.
وَلَا تَنْسَوْا الْفَضْلَ بَيْنَكُمْ Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta
'ala tells disputing couples when they're in dispute,
when they're going through divorce, Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala says, وَلَا تَنْسَوْا الْفَضْلَ بَيْنَكُمْ Do
not forget, do not neglect to show grace.
Grace.
When you're going to court, when you're in
a dispute as believers, as believers, show grace.
Be kind.
Even while you're trying to settle your conflict.
This is a high level.
This is what Allah, this is what the
Quran expects of righteous believers.
This is what is expected of again mature
righteous believers to show grace.
And if you're struggling with that, then there's
a lot for you to work on.
If you can't, because, I'll conclude with this.
Someone once came to me and said, I'm
finding it very hard.
I'm very bitter and angry.
He said, you have a disease that you
need to take care of.
This is a horrible spiritual disease.
May Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala give us
the capacity and the ability to rid ourselves
from our shortcomings and our mistakes.
And may Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala bless
each and every single one of you.
May Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala protect our
community.
May Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala spread love
and peace within our families and within our
community members.
May Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala restore peace
in the countries of Muslims.
We have plenty of space in the back.
Please make your way.
People are standing to the left side of
the masjid.
Make your way to the right side please.
Allah Alhamdulillah
Rabbul Alamin Al Rahman Al Rahim Malik Yawm
Al Deen Iyyaka Naabudu Wa Iyyaka Nasta'ai
The path of those upon whom You have
bestowed favor, not of those who have incurred
Your wrath, nor of those who have gone
astray.
So remind of the benefit of remembrance.
He who fears and avoids the worst of
things will be reminded.
He who draws the fire and the dust.
Then he will not die therein, nor will
he live.
He who draws the fire and the dust
will be successful, and he who draws his
Lord will pray.
Nay, but you deny the life of this
world.
And the Hereafter is better and more lasting.
Verily, it is the beginning of the first
ranks.
The ranks of Abraham and Moses.
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious,
the Most Merciful.
Amen.
Allah is the Greatest.
Allah listens to those who praise Him.
Peace and mercy of Allah be upon you.
Peace and mercy of Allah be upon you.
We launched a foundation to serve primarily West
Africa, but we now have projects in different
places, to serve the most vulnerable, one of
the most vulnerable in our Ummah.
In Niger, and we have projects in other
places, average life expectancy is 49.
That means the men die in their early
40s, women may make it into 50s.
Middle class people are the ones who have
food security.
So like if you have food that you
can eat, that's middle class in Niger.
But yet, I attest with my own eyes,
like they pray their Fajr like we pray
Jummah.
Like you go to Masjid at Fajr, the
Masjid is full.
These are some of the richest people on
the planet because their hearts are so full.
Like the whole time you visit there, nobody
harasses you, asks anything from you, you are
in complete sakinah.
And they are willing to share what very
little they have with you.
So we're appealing to you on their behalf.
This organization is 501C3, it's been established for
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I think Brother Leith, if he's not put
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So we basically build sustainable projects.
We have built several Masjids because people don't
have a place to pray.