Yasmin Mogahed – Serenity – 2 8 11 Making Life S Path Easy

Assalamu alaykum This is me Mujahid and you're listening to serenity streaming live on one legacy radio. I want to begin today's show by apologizing actually, for my voice. I'm a little bit sick, but inshallah we'll get through the show. And we are talking today about a question that a lot of people ask, we go through life. And you know, whether we're trying we're striving to be better Muslims, we're striving in our Deen, we're striving in our relationships, we usually spend a lot of our time struggling with, you know, where we're trying to do something and you know, we fall we fail, we, you know, when we get back up, and we keep going. And, and, and there's something I want

to talk about today, which is this concept, what I what I what I called it, what I titled it was the secret to making life's path easy. And it's really spinalis, something which we overlook, which is actually very, sort of ingrained within us already, but we overlook it. And that is this, when we, you know, I think a lot of times when we take the path, for example, we are trying to be better people we're trying to build on our character, we're trying to get closer to Allah subhanaw taala. And we end up getting on this path and we're, you know, we're struggling forward. But then what happens is, a lot of times we end up falling off, we end up getting weak, we end up making mistakes,

and and this is, of course, natural, we are human beings, and this is going to happen. But what happens usually is we end up getting tired. And I think what happens, you know is that we get worn out or we get tired, and sometimes we end up giving up. And I think the reason, a lot of times, the reason why this happens is because we are fighting so many battles, we are fighting so many internal battles, so many external battles. I mean, it's panela, we have so much thrown at us, you know, we have the battle with, you know, the media coming at us, we have the Battle of our you know, our relationships, we have the inner battles of our neffs, we have the outer battles of the shaytaan, we

have the, you know, the battles of you know, bad influences, the you know, everything is kind of like we're constantly battling, you know, and it's we're always on guard, and I think Subhanallah, it really makes us tired. And if you think about having to fight 50 100 1000 battles every single day, you'll eventually get worn out. And so what I want to suggest today is to actually consolidate all those battles into just one battle. And I'm going to explain what I mean by that. If we, I'm going to give actually an analogy to try to explain, if you have an enemy coming at you, okay, and this is any type of enemy, and it can be in different forms, you have an enemy coming at you, you

can go about sort of going against that enemy in one of two ways. You can either gather up your own resources, and go out that that enemy and it's just you and the enemy. And if you do that, you may win. Sometimes you may lose sometimes, but you're going to get very tired, you're going to get worn out. And imagine if that enemy is coming at you every single day, and it's always you against the enemy, you against enemy, eventually what's going to happen is you're going to get tired, eventually what's going to happen is, you know, sometimes you're actually going to just get wiped out, you're just going to get defeated. And even if you win, sometimes you'll you know, you'll lose the next

day. And so what that's one option, and I think this is the way that we usually go about our struggles is we go at it, you know, there's an enemy coming at us, we go at it with our own resources, there's a second way to handle this enemy, or this army basically, that's coming at you. And that is to appeal to a superpower. So you know, if you want, suppose you're not a very strong nation, right? And you have this other nation coming at you. The smart thing to do would be to to basically

seek refuge or appeal to the superpower and the superpower then takes care of the enemy. And why am I giving this analogy because I think what ends up happening is we try to go at all these different battles by ourselves, instead of appealing to Allah subhanaw taala instead of just making our battle one battle, and that is the battle to focus the heart, completely on Allah subhanho Medina to focus the efforts to focus the face to focus the, you know, the every you know, to focus our striving and our love and our fear and everything towards him. And then when you do that, Allah subhanaw taala takes care of all those other battles and battles. This is a very deep concept because really,

ultimately, it's towhead. It's that it's that concept at a very deep level of La ilaha illAllah You know, a lot of times we

Learn about toe hate what is toe hate though hate? You know, we say it's monotheism, right? We say there's no God but Allah, right? This is how we translate these concepts. But this concept of tohave is so much deeper than just saying that. So if you can focus your effort on seeking Allah subhanaw taala and and then asking Allah subhanaw taala to help you, or rather Allah subhanaw taala to take care of all the other affairs, you then don't get to that point where you're worn out, right, you're you're you're, you know, you just you just want to stop because you're so tired of fighting all these different battles, because your your your only focus should be to constantly bring the heart

back to constantly reorient the heart on one purpose, just one focus, Allah subhanaw taala. And if you keep bringing it back to that, Allah subhanaw taala takes care of your matters. And there's such a beautiful Hadith to this effect where a loss or the Prophet sallallahu wasallam says that the one who makes this dunya his primary concern. So this is a person who the focus is on this life, the focus is on all these battles that we're fighting, that what happens in that case, is, is a few things happen as a consequence of making this dunya your focus and your primary concern. One is that poverty is put between your eyes, poverty is put between the eyes. And when you think about the

depth of this statement, what does it mean to have poverty between your eyes? Well, it what it means is that you will always feel like you don't have enough, you will always feel like you like you don't like you need more this this, this constant dissatisfaction with whatever you have, you could have all the money in the world, you could have all the power in the world, but you still feel like it's not enough. You feel poverty no matter what. And the other consequence that we're told in this hadith of making this life, these worldly battles, our primary concern, and our focus is that actually the bat the the worldly affair itself becomes scattered. The Hadith says Fatah cologne

Umbra, that his armor, his his matters become become scattered. So this is actually counter. it's counterintuitive, in a sense, because we think that the more we focus on our jobs, the more we focus on our, you know, relationships themselves, the more we focus on making money, the more we focus on school, the more we focus on these things in dunya, the the more successful will be, we think that the more we focus on them, the better they will be, the more the more will, we'll achieve. And it's actually the opposite. So panela, the more you focus on it, the more it breaks, the more you run after it, the more it runs away. And that's the that's the characteristic of dunya, that the more

that you make it your primary focus, the more you're, you know, you're trying to

do trying so hard to run after it, it actually does the opposite, it actually makes that those matters, scattered, and they run in the dunya spatola runs away from you, the more you run after it, and and then the opposite happens. And the Hadith tells us that the one who makes Acura or las panatela, ultimately, right, the one who makes athleta, his primary concern, two things are the opposite. Two things happen. One is that contentment is put in that person's heart. So see how this is opposite to the poverty, right, the feeling of always not having enough. And you can see that, you know that this, I mean, we live in that society, right? It's a society that is focused on

materialism, a society that's running, always running after having more of dunia, more status, more beauty, more wealth, more, you know, just more and more and more, it's this, this running after it. And you find that you're never satisfied, it's like you always have to upgrade you always have to, you know, if you have the latest model will soon you're not going to be happy with it, you want the newer model and you're always trading in for the newer model. And that's the idea of, of this running after the dunya. Whereas the opposite happens, where contentment is put in the heart, and that's one of the consequences of actually making acida your focus your primary concern. And the

second thing that the prophets lie, Selim says, Is Gema low Umbra. So look at you know, how we just talked about how the matters become scattered when you focus on them, when that's what you're running after. And it's the opposite. When you make your focus Allah subhanaw taala you make your battle, you know, having to do with with pleasing Him, and focusing on him and focusing on acida that actually your matters, themselves become, become joined that Allah subhanaw taala takes care of your matters, meaning that when you focus on acida, you have both dunya and akhira. When you focus on the Hereafter, you have this

world and the next, you know, we say, this is a die of a believer, Rebecca attina dunya has enough or feel affinity has enough or cannot have and not that Oh Allah give us grant us good in this life and in the next life and protect us from the punishment of the hellfire. So this, this is the the reward for a believer, because the believer This is actually the consequence of making asset of the primary concern is you get dunya as well. And ironically, the one who makes this life all it's about that all their focus the entire their entire universe revolves around what am I doing here? What do I have here? What do I want? What do I still not have, that that person actually doesn't ever get?

The dunya itself, that the dunya itself becomes scattered? And you never, even if you have all of dunya? You still don't feel contentment? So you don't actually have dunya? You know, that's the irony of it. So the the, the the message is this is this concept of focus, that when you set your focus, right, everything falls into place. This doesn't mean and you know, some people will then say, Well, okay, does that mean that I don't do anything for dunya? I'm not, you know, I'm not going to go to work anymore. I'm not going to study, I'm not going to go to school, I'm not going to have relationships. No, that's not what it means. This is talking about focus of heart. This is talking

about primary concern. This is talking about goals. This is talking about ultimate purpose, basically, that when I'm acting, and I'm, I'm working or I'm I'm working on my my occupation, or my career, or I'm doing my education, or I'm getting married, or I'm having children, and we're doing all of these things, and they're they're part of dunya, which we are involved in and we need to be involved in because that's the Sunnah the prophets I send them never told us to leave all these things, but rather it's his son that to be to get married and to and to break our fast and to fast and to pray and to sleep and all these things. And being part of this, this life is the Sunnah of

the prophets lie Selim. But this is talking about a focus of the heart, that while I'm involved in all of these things, that my, my heart is facing Allah subhanaw taala, and my eyes are looking at Al Qaeda. And that's why I'm doing everything that I'm doing. So inshallah, I will take a short break, and go ahead and you know, write your questions, comments in the chat box, and we'll return shortly.

Assalamu alaikum, this is your Seema jarhead. And you're listening to serenity streaming live on one legacy radio. We are speaking today about how to get through life without it being such a struggle. What are What is the secret to basically making this path life's path easy. And what I'm proposing in this in this talk, is that we we we get tired on the path, because we have so many different battles that we're fighting every single day. And what I'm what I'm proposing is that we consolidate all of those battles into just one and there's such a profound Hajji where the prophets lie, Selim talks about him, that that there when the person has just one hammer this, this just this one

concern, this one, striving, basically this one thing, that that Allah subhanaw taala will take care of all the other matters and everything else again, that same concept of it being joined and taken care of, and Allah subhanaw taala will suffice you with everything else that you're doing, and make everything else easy. And again, I want to clarify, it doesn't mean that making Allah subhanaw taala in the hereafter your one him your one primary concern doesn't mean you become monks. It doesn't mean you go and live in the mountains and you know, you don't get married and you don't you know, do anything of the dunya that's not what it means. This is an internal state. This is me This means

that you're still involved in everything that you're doing that as long as it's pleasing to Allah subhanaw taala you're still getting married, you're still having children, you're still getting going to school, you're still working, but in everything that you're doing your hardest facing him, your heart does not face the money heart does not face the status your heart does not face, the the career or the or the degree or all of these things that that's not actually what you're running after. Although you're doing it, you realize that those things are just means those things are just tools and that your ultimate hem your ultimate concern your ultimate focus.

striving is just one, it's not so many anymore. It's not so many different battles, but rather just one, and that constant bringing the heart back. And this is something, you know, we also have to realize, it's never going to be consistent and constant in the sense that, that it doesn't shift. We go through this life, and we are bombarded by distraction after distraction after distraction. So the real battle, and that's why I call it a battle is that in your heart, once you focus it on a law, say for a split second, you have your full focus, if that's even possible, your full focus on Allah subhanaw taala, meaning the focus of the heart is on Allah, you know what, it doesn't just

stay there, you know, something will happen, you know, somebody will come into your life or, or there'll be some problem, things get thrown at you. And then all of a sudden, your, your heart shifts, right, your heart shifts and looks at that thing. It's kind of like, if you imagine a person just looking forward, and they keep hearing sounds, and every time they hear a sound, their face moves towards the sound, that's kind of what happens with our heart is our heart, it shifts and it moves towards these different things that we then start to chase after and we get distracted. So the battle here, the struggle here is about bringing it back, constantly bringing it back, it's not

going to stay there, you have to constantly be bringing it back. And so every time What does this mean? You know, and I'll give you some some examples. But practically, what does that mean? It means that whenever I'm doing something, you know, I'm a student, or I'm a wife, or I'm a husband, or I'm, you know, whatever it is that you're doing in your life, that you're always bringing it back to Allah subhanaw taala, you're always bringing it back to what is this mean for my relationship with Him. And it also means that whenever something happens in your life, you're going to be hit by a lot of things in life, you're going to be hit by a lot of blessings, you're going to be hit by a lot of

tests. And in fact, the blessings themselves are also tests everything is. So whenever those things happen, we have to also look at them in the very same way. What does this have to do with my relationship with him? You asked this question about everything, everything you have everything you don't have, everything you've done, everything you haven't done, everything you've lost, everything you've gained, every single thing in life is intended to bring you back to Allah subhanaw taala. But you have to see it that way. So even if it means that you're really sad right now, or, you know, if you're if something happens that made you really sad, or you lost something very important, or

something didn't work out the way you want it, you need to be able to look at that in with the same lens, this focus of the heart, what does this have to do with Allah subhanaw taala and my relationship with him, because that's all it's about everything in this life is all a creation. Everything in this life is all a test unless panel data has created every single thing in this life, including your life experiences, this is this is really deep. You think about it, you know, even the scenarios that happen in your life, even your sadness, even your your joy, all of it is created. But you have to ask why you have to ask why did these things happen in the sense of not as a complaint,

but as a way to point you to take you to where you're supposed to be. Because all of these things are signs. And what's the purpose of a sign. The purpose of a sign is to direct you towards a certain direction to redirect you. Oftentimes, we have to see everything in our life as a sign everything. Allah subhanaw taala created this, this this scenario in your life, Allah subhana wa tada created this loss or created this game or created this test, or created this emotion for one purpose to bring you back to him. So you have to use it in that way. The only way that's going to happen is if you're able to look at everything in your life with that type of lens. Now, I'm going

to ensure that like I just want to give some some practical examples of what I mean by having this one focus and how that affects practically your ability to to easily be successful in this life. One example is the example of forgiveness. One of the things that we often struggle with in life is that when we feel that we've been wronged, it's very difficult to forgive. And one of the reasons why it becomes very difficult to forgive is because our the focus of our heart is wrong. What happens is that we when we get hurt by somebody so remember we said that the hardest focused if even if it's focused on Allah subhanaw taala but then there's a sound and you know, it moves towards there. So in

this case, somebody comes in hurts me. Okay. So what happens is the heart Now that was focused on Allah subhanaw taala perhaps now shifts and focuses on that person or the wrong that happen.

And or the pain that it caused, or the sadness that it caused. And now the heart is focused on that instead of Allah, as a result, you can't let it go, it becomes this, it becomes a form of an attachment and you can't let it go. And, and the idea is, you know, so that's why you can't forgive. But if you reoriented the heart, and you brought it back to focus on Allah, subhanaw, taala, and the hereafter, all of a sudden, it will become much easier to forgive. And I'll tell you, I'll tell you why. There's a Hadith of the prophets of the law to send them, which I think illustrates this point so beautifully. And that is that the prophet SAW Selim told us that on the Day of Judgment, there

will be two people standing in front of Allah. And they're both, you know, brothers in Islam, right. And one of them has wronged the other person. So the one who's been wronged says to Allah subhanaw, taala, because we know on the Day of Judgment, all justice will be served, right? So the one who's been wronged says to Allah, subhanaw, taala, I want my right from from this guy, right? This person who hurt me, I want it down to the, you know, down to the drop. And he's, he's refusing basically to forgive, right? He wants his right. And this is his right to take his right. And so what Allah subhanaw taala does, is he shows him something in Jenna. He shows him this amazing, like vision of

gender. And that that person says, what, like, he's wondering what you know, who is this for? Like, he's thinking, you know, some prophet or someone amazing, like, Who's that genda for? And he's told by Allah subhanaw taala that that Jenna that what he saw in Jenna, will be for him, if he forgives his brother.

And so at that point, all of a sudden, as you can imagine, that person readily forgives. So now all of a sudden, he's cool, right? He's like, nope, no problem, I'll forgive, because he wants that agenda. So then Allah subhanaw taala, the prophet I sent him says that the two of them end up going to that, you know, going together holding hands and going together to that gentleness panela. But what can we learn from the story? The idea is that he, so long as he didn't see that gender, right, his he wasn't looking at it. That wasn't his focus, his focus was the wrong that this person did. And he wants his right. But as soon as he was able to see Jenna, right, he was able to have that

focus, it became easy for him to forgive. It wasn't like a struggle anymore. And this is exactly the case with us in this life as well, that if we can see our place in genda, for forgiving, it doesn't even become a struggle anymore, because now we are focused on the right thing. Our vision is on here, the Hereafter, it's no longer looking at this small thing that this person did. Because that small thing is nothing compared to what you have as a result of forgiving. And you know, how to low you know, this is the way that the companions saw it, right? If you take the example of abubaker Sadiq and you look at

it on the line when you look at the story of what happened with his daughter Ayesha, that when she was accused, and this is something that you know, no one, this is like one of the most horrible things that could happen that someone can accuse a woman of his daughter was accused of committing adultery, and it was this rumor that had been spread. And he found out that that the one of the people who had started the rumor was a relative of his. And not only was it was he a relative, he was a relative that Abu Bakr Siddiq used to support financially. So you can imagine how he would feel when he found that out. And so naturally, what he did was he just withheld the financial

support when she found that out. And Subhan Allah, and Allah was revealed at that time, that said, that, that basically that told, you know, it was it was revealed in relation to this, that if you forgive and it's saying Do you not want that Allah subhanaw taala will forgive you that yes, it was his right to withhold that right. He didn't do anything hot um, but here Allah subhanaw taala is putting something higher, because this is the higher thing is that do you? Do you not want that Allah subhanaw taala would forgive you imagine that, you know, and and, and, and so, you know, we have so much that we need a lot of forgive. here Allah is saying if you can forgive this person, you

know, do you not want that Allah subhanaw taala would forgive you this is the question that's being posed by Allah. And at that at hearing that Abu Bakr Siddiq, he can he he reinstituted the the financial support and in fact started to give him more. Just reflect on this. What is Abu Bakr Siddiq? What, you know, wrote the line What is he looking at here?

Is he looking at the wrong that this person did? Is he looking at getting his right from this person? he's not. He's looking at a loss of panatela. He's looking at his reward with Allah subhanaw taala. And he's saying, Yes, like, I want Allah subhanaw taala to forgive me. So of course, I'm gonna, I'm gonna forgive this person. And this is the mindset that we have. And if we have this mindset, in fact, it becomes very easy to forgive, it doesn't become dislike, you know, sometimes it's a struggle, like we're pulling, you know, like pulling teeth, right? But it's no longer like that it becomes easy, as easy as it was for that man who saw his place in genda. And this is what

we're talking about, that when you see that, you know, when you have the correct focus, and you're, you're looking beyond this life to the next, dealing with these things, no longer is a struggle. It's no longer a battle, but rather it becomes easy. So I'm going to take another short break, and I want you inshallah, to go ahead, write your comments, write your questions in the chat box.

Assalamu alaikum This is yes, Mujahid and you're listening to serenity streaming live on one legacy radio. So we are looking at the questions on the chat box, I'm gonna take a couple inshallah and sort of try to address them. One person asks that sentence Sister, sister, my parents are intent on me finishing University and becoming a lawyer. I was into this dream, but I've changed and I now want to devote my life to God and studying Islam is the goal of my parents and the goals I have of being a better Muslim incompatible. This really, okay, Nebraska cut off. So this is a pretty typical question actually, a lot of people fall into, you know, get into the situation where maybe they want

to do something, perhaps, you know, for the sake of Allah span of time, and their parents want them to do something different. I would say, you know, each case is different. But but but one universal advice that I can give, anytime you're in a situation like this is praying estacada and making a lot of drop, asking Allah subhanaw taala to guide you, to what is best and what is most pleasing to Him. Because it may be an each situation is different, it may be to take one certain path it may be to take another and sometimes what we think is best for us is not best for us. And sometimes what we think is not best for us is, so it's very important to just put our full trust in Allah subhanaw

taala and not to get attached to one outcome or another, but rather just to ask Allah to really guide our, you know, our, our steps to guide our heart to guide us to what is best, and what is most pleasing to Him. And, you know, that's the really, I think, the absolute best advice that we can use in in that kind of situation. And it comes in different forms. Of course, you know, whether it's marriage, you want to marry someone, and so many different times we get into into a point in our life where we have to make a decision, and we're pulled in different directions and Subhanallah it really is exactly what we're talking about today. Focusing the heart to hate that you focus you say

okay, yes, there's this pulling me in this direction. There's this pulling me in this direction. My mind thinks this, my, you know, my parents think this, my friends think this and you're just, you're scattered, right? And so what you need to do is just collect the heart and focus it on a law, ask Allah subhanaw taala make a lot of da really sincerely truth with with truthfulness with so turn to Allah make praise to him, and ask Allah and this is the thing that Allah subhanaw taala promises that when somebody

you know, seeks his, you know, when whenever you seek Allah subhanaw taala whenever you're struggling towards Allah, He says that He will guide you. So that this is this is a promise, if you really are truthful with a law, he'll guide you and he'll make your matters easy inshallah. So just, you know, make sure that you're doing that inshallah, whatever the outcome is, it will be best for you. Another question people asked, this was generally more than one person kind of asked a similar type question about how do you deal with

it when you're not in the right state of mind? How do you get into the right state of mind or how do you you know, you're being pulled towards sin or you're, you're not in the correct How do you basically keep this focus? Practically? And, and I think that you know, it's important for us to understand the concept right, and some practical ways

To keep this focus have to do with really, first and foremost sticking with the prescription given to us by Allah and His Messenger, if we are not, at the very, you know, from the very foundation, Salah, right? If we are not praying, and we're not praying on time, we know for sure that our heart is not going to be focused on the right thing. I mean, this is just a fact that we have that that part of, you know, Allah subhanaw taala, when he sent mankind to this world, he said it and he promised that there would that his guidance would come. And if and this isn't if, right, if we follow that guidance, then we will have a whole formula himolla homea saloon that only in that case,

if we follow the guidance, will there be no fear on them, and nor shall they grief. So the only way that we're going to be able to be successful in this world, is if we follow the prescription given by him and his mess by Allah and His Messenger, if we don't follow the prescription, I mean, a doctor gives you a prescription, you have a disease, you have a sickness, and the doctor gives you a prescription and you don't follow it. You can't complain that you're sick, you know, you can't, you can't then go and say, Well, why am I still sick? Right, because you didn't follow the prescription. And, and so Allah subhanaw taala and His Messenger have given us a very strict prescription of how

to be successful, and how to get through this maze of this dunya, right, how to get through this ocean of dunya without drowning, and one of those things and the first and most important, you know, the foundational things are, these are the five pillars and starting with the Salah. So praying, making sure that your soul is in order, making sure that you're praying all the all the prayers, and you're praying them on time, and that nothing is getting in the way of that, if there is something getting in the way, in the way of that, then that's a problem. And that that's something that's getting in the way, I don't care if it's school, or if it's you know, our relationship or whatever

it is, that needs to be addressed immediately. Because that's, that's your problem right there. That that thing that's getting in the way of your Salah is is where your heart is focused. And that's the wrong place for it to be focused, and you will never be able to be successful that way. So the Salah is the practical first way of making sure that it's an order. And then working on the horseshoe horseshoe is this concept of being focused in your prayer, having humility in the prayer. And that really comes also as a consequence of having this focus on the right stuff outside of your Salah. And this is what you know, really I like want to emphasize is that when we

when we are focused on Allah subhanaw taala the entire day, right? If we're thinking about Allah, we're focused on Allah. throughout our day, we're going to be focused on a lot in our Salah. But on the other hand, if we never think about Allah subhanaw taala we go through our day, and it's all what you know, what am I wearing? What am I doing? Where am I going? What's this person saying what you know, if that's all that's on our mind, that's the same exact stuff that's going to be on our mind when we say Allahu Akbar and start praying. So we have to really address the problem, right at its core, what is it that we are most concerned about in our, in our daily lives, that's going to be

the same thing that occupies our mind during our Salah. So whole show is that you know that that next step, but we have to really, really focus on this a lot. And as a practical way, and then there's other things that you can always add in your daily routine, of course, there's the fast of Ramadan, and, and those things have to be in order. But just on a daily routine, there's other things you can add, such as the extra prayers, such as pm praying in the last third of the night before fetchit that that is something which will practically and I'm this is a very, you know, practical type step that you can make, that that's practically going to make a huge difference in

your focus. And the focus of your heart is is praying at that time, in the last third of the night before fetchit also, making sure that you're connected to the code and that you're reading the code and that you're not only reading it in Arabic, but also understanding what it means and connecting to the meaning that's in the Koran, because this is from Allah subhanaw taala and this is his word. And so we want, if we want to connect to him, we need to be able to understand his words. And this is going to bring it back to the concept of the hereafter. Because, you know, this is the Quran is a reminder of our ultimate purpose, and are all in and in a reminder of the hereafter and of death,

though if you're, if you're connected to the end, and it's part of your daily routine, it's going to be you're going to be focusing the heart in that way. And then you have the earth God. The prophets I send them has taught us that there's a cloud that you say in the morning, there's what's called you say in the evening mountain of time, there's a thought before you sleep. There's a squat when you wake up so there's always a way to constantly be remembering Allah subhanaw taala and the purpose

have all of these prescriptions is to refocus the heart, and when the hardest focus, and this is why I want to really emphasize and you can try this, and you can understand this experientially, when the heart is focused on the right thing, which is a law and the hereafter, you'll find that everything else in your life becomes easier, becomes easier to do becomes everything kind of, it's no longer this weight, that you have to, oh, I got to do this. And then I got to do this, and I've got this battle and how a lot when your heart is focused correctly, everything else really becomes easier. And you and you find that even in your studying, even in your work, even in your

relationships, all of a sudden, there will be Baraka, there will be blessing in those things. But that only happens when your heart is focused correctly. And that heart is only going to be focused correctly, if you follow the prescription given by Allah and His messenger. So I'm going to take just one more question, and then inshallah we will wrap it up.

So one person had asked, you know, how do you when you're faced with hardship, or, you know, a very painful experience? How do you keep from doing things that are harmful to yourself, you know, or to sort of distract you from the pain? And I would say, I would answer this question, you know, the, the cure comes in, in the exact same way of these other examples that I gave. And that is, you know, why is it that people

end up hurting themselves, whether, you know, it's, it's in cutting or, you know, they, they want to hurt themselves physically, because of an emotional pain that they're going through. And basically, what psychologists say is, it has to do with

distracting oneself, that you don't want to feel the emotional pain. And so you distract yourself through physical pain. And by having that physical pain, you're so focused on that, that you won't have to feel the emotional pain. And I mean, this the same line of thinking, you know, it's this, it's this, this need to distract oneself away from the emotional pain. But that's exactly what I mean. That's the whole concept of when we're talking about focus, that, that the way that we can heal, and the way that we can distract ourselves from this emotional pain, the way that we can, the emotional pain can, you know, basically almost disappear and become negligible is by focusing on

something greater by focusing on Allah subhanaw taala, and the promise of Allah subhanaw taala and the hope in Allah subhanaw taala and the hereafter, and realizing that whatever pain we you know, we are going through emotional or whatever type of pain we are going through in this life, it's all temporary, every single thing in this life is temporary, whether it's pleasure, or it's pain, nothing lasts in this life. And so really just putting our, our full hope and our full focus on what's what is not temporary, what is lasting, that that will allow you to, to heal that that will allow you to look beyond whatever harm or whatever thing you lost, and find something better than I

love it when I give this example because it's something we can all really relate to, that when you see someone who's had their heart broken, right, they've been, you know, they had a breakup or whatever happened, you know, they have this saying that you never get over someone until you find someone else, right? You never you never get over a person until somebody comes to replace them kind of. And this is you know, there's some truth to this, right, that we always need to be filling this, this, this emptiness in us that if there's a slot opened up, you know, we need to, we need to fill it otherwise we're going to be feeling that emptiness and that's very painful. And Subhanallah this

is this is there is this thing that's better than all of this right? And that's Allah, if we are able to, to find something better find something better than this. Dunya find something better than running after money find something better than running after status, find something better than all of these things. And that is Allah and hereafter Allah subhanaw taala when he describes Jenna, he says Hiram, wha that bet you know Allah subhanaw taala says belt thirunal hyah to dunya well, Akira to hide

its highlights. It's it's almost like stat jab, like how can you it's it's this. It's, it's shocking, right? It doesn't make sense. How is it in this adolescent that is saying Belton road and Hyatt adonia that you that you prefer the life of this dunya the life of this world? Well, after two hideaway, Epcot. And the Hereafter is heightened, Epcot it's it's better and it's longer lasting. So that you know the hereafter the other life is better in both in both quality and quantity. It's better in in the quality of it. It's actually perfect. You know, it's like this perfect life and it's also better in quantity. No matter how wonderful things are in this life. It doesn't last so

it's it's both quality and quantity that that life is better in that it lasts as well. And so let's start with Allah here is it

Is is, you know, addressing this question to us, how is it that we prefer what we can have in this life when that life is better and, and more lasting. So if we really want to easily get over our heartbreaks, or easily get over our, you know, you know, if we fell in love with dunya, basically, and we want to easily get over it, you can find something better. And that's what will make it easier to get over. You know, when you see in, you know, I've given this example, that when you're a kid, and you're obsessed with toy cars, you know, it's like, you really, really want this toy Ferrari, you're gonna want that toy Ferrari until you grow up, and you realize that there's a real

Ferrari. And it actually, you know, it's like, if you can get in and you can drive it. And it's only when you see the real Ferrari that the toy Ferrari becomes nothing to you. You're not going to keep seeking a toy. When you have the real thing. You're not going to keep looking. You're not going to be running after a dollhouse when you see a mansion. And that's really what what this is about. It's about seeing the mansion it's about seeing the real car, seeing the real thing. So then all of a sudden, the you know, the, the, the false model basically becomes very easy to get over. Clinically. Heather was stuck for a lalibela come in number four Rahim. subhanak Hello, the hammock, the shadow

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