Yasmin Mogahed – Keep Three Different Parts Afresh To Avoid Depression

			I have just a few brief moments with you. And so what I want to do is my best to touch upon what
what I believe are some prescriptions, so that you can be happy and healthy. And I'm going to look
at three different parts of the human being.
		

			The first is the mind, and the way in which we think the second is the heart. And the third is the
body the way in which we act. So I'm going to take these three parts, and I'm going to talk about
how we can be healthy in, in each of these three elements of the human body of the human self. The
first is the mind,
		

			a person cannot be healthy, and happy, unless they manage the way in which they think one of the
most important things to the happiness of a human being is it has to do with what a person focuses
on. So there is this concept that I focus on. And I'm repeat many times because it's very, very
powerful. And that is that whatever you focus on, it will grow. What you focus on grows. And that's
why you find that there are people and there are some types of people, they are problem focused.
What does that mean? It means that in any given situation, they will pick out the problem, and that
will become their focal point. guys know anyone like that.
		

			Now, what happens when you become a problem focused person is what that leads to is something called
anxiety. People who are problem focused also tend to have very high levels of anxiety. These are
people have trouble sleeping at night, trouble shutting off their mind trouble shutting off their
worry. And the reason for that is that when you focus on problems, problems grow, they start to
become bigger and bigger. And so any problem that you sit and think about, and talk about, and write
about, and post about, guess what happens to that problem, it starts to become bigger and bigger.
And so what happens is, when you are a person who focuses on problems, you also start to become
		

			surrounded by those problems. And they can become very debilitating. They can feel paralyzing.
Another type of focus that sometimes people have, you guys have heard this glass half empty half
full analogy, right? What is that talking about? what it's talking about is that if you take a glass
of water and you fill it 50% with water, there are going to be some people who will describe that
cup as half full. And there are going to be others who describe it as half empty. That's referring
to focus. So another way to explain this is that analogy of the boy right with a cake. There's one
picture, there's this, there's this meme I read very powerful.
		

			At the top, there's a picture of a little boy holding one slice of cake. And he is beaming, he's so
happy because he's holding a piece of cake.
		

			Then below him is another picture of another boy.
		

			And he's holding an entire cake with one piece missing. And he's sad.
		

			Now, the boy on the top is happy. Why? Because what's he focused on what he has, which is a slice of
cake. The one on the bottom is sad because why? He's focused on what he doesn't have, which is only
one piece. Now let me ask you this question, who has more cake?
		

			The guy in the bottom who sat
		

			the guy on the bottom who's sad actually has more cake, but it's his focus that's different. And
because His focus is on what's missing. He's actually he's sad. The one on the top is focused on
what he has, and so he's happy. And this brings me to the concept that I'm talking about. And that
is that what you focus on grows. That's why Allah subhanaw taala tells us well, if the as hon Kuma
in Shackleton as he then netcom Allah is telling us that if you are grateful, if you are thankful we
he will increase us. How does that increase happen? Well, there's a lot of ways that increase
happens. You'll actually get more by showing gratitude, but something else happens and that is that
		

			you feel
		

			Rich when you're grateful, you actually feel abundance and you attract abundance when you are
grateful. So when you focus on what you have, it grows, that once you have looks bigger and bigger,
you will feel rich. You know one of the attributes of a person who is only concerned about this
life, very profound Hadith in which the prophet SAW Selim says there's two types of people.
		

			There are the people whose greatest concern is this life. And then there's another group of people
whose greatest concern is the next life, a butter hammer. It's like your biggest and greatest and
deepest concern. And he tells us that there are certain consequences of making this life your
primary concern. Now, when I say primary concern, I don't mean that we can't be concerned about
things in this life. Right? The prophets I send them got married, he had children, he had friends,
he was the leader. He was a father, he was all of these roles. But what was his primary concern? His
primary concern was not this life. So a person whose primary concern is this life, something very
		

			interesting happens.
		

			One of the consequences of making this life your primary concern is that Alyssa, the prophecy says,
it sort of Sam says something very interesting, he says, john alphacool beignet, that poverty is put
between their eyes.
		

			Poverty is put between their eyes. What does that mean? Well, I want you guys to imagine if I had
something hanging between my eyes just now, and I look forward, what do I see?
		

			That thing that's hanging there, right? If I have a stone hanging there, I'm going to see it. If I
look to the right, what do I see? I see this stone. If I look to the left, what do I see? I see this
stone. If I look up, if I look down, everywhere I look, I just see that thing that stuck between my
eyes. And that's what happens to people who make this life their primary concern. No matter what
they have, they always feel poor.
		

			To understand, that's deep, no matter how much they have, no matter what happens, no matter what
they're given. They always feel like they don't have enough. That is poverty, true poverty, because
they could be the richest person in the world. And it still doesn't feel like enough. Because true
contentment, true richness, the prophets I seldom said is richness of the contentment, it is in what
you have in the bank. And so when a person actually makes this life, their primary concern, they
will always feel like they don't have enough poverty is put between their eyes.
		

			So this concept of focus is very, very important. focusing on what you have, not being a people who
focus on negativity, but rather focusing on positivity being you because because your thinking
changes you.
		

			And when you focus on the light, it grows. When you focus on darkness, it also grows. One thing I
found is that when you look at social media,
		

			you can tell a lot about yourself by looking at your newsfeed. You know why? Because your newsfeed
is like your fridge, it's what you're going to eat that day. You open up your news feeds like
opening your fridge. That's what you're going to eat that day. That's what you're going to look at.
That's what you're going to read. That's what you're going to be exposed to. And there's no such
thing as passive exposure. Everything you look at everything you read, everything you listen to, is
like eating it, you're ingesting it, it's going straight to your heart.
		

			So a lot of people when they open their news feed, it's all just really negative. guys know what I'm
talking about. It's like a lot of darkness upon darkness upon dark negativity, negativity,
negativity, and then a few burgers in between, right? And then maybe a couple selfies.
		

			Now that type of
		

			fridge isn't going to make you very healthy mentally, or spiritually or psychologically or anything.
So you have to be mindful of what you're focused on and what you're taking in. That's how you keep a
healthy mind. You have to think you have to be conscious of your thoughts. One of the mistakes that
we make when it comes to mental health, when it comes to being healthy, in our in our thinking
		

			is that we don't guard our thoughts.
		

			We don't guard our thoughts. We think that
		

			Our mind is just we kind of leave our mind as a place where anything goes.
		

			So if we get a negative thought, we let it stay, we invite it for dinner, we give it you know, even
we even let it stay for tea, these negative thoughts are given a place to stay.
		

			And some of these negative thoughts are actually
		

			like really, really, really bad self talk. Sometimes we're beating ourselves up. Do you guys know
what I'm talking about? Anyone? If you took that negative talk, that negative self talk, for
example, oh my god, I'm so worthless, or I'm so stupid, or I'm so ugly, or I'm so fat, or I'm so
useless. Or I'm whatever words you say to yourself.
		

			Or I'm a failure, or whatever it is. Whatever those words, you say to yourself, can you imagine if
you took those same words, and you set it to your best friend, you talk to your best friend that
way, or to your spouse, or to your mom, or your dad or your kid, God forbid,
		

			what would happen to that relationship?
		

			Anyone, it would destroy the relationship.
		

			And this is what's happening with our own relationship with ourselves with our own self worth, and
our own self esteem. Because we are allowing these awful thoughts, we are allowing this awful self
talk that we would never speak that way to someone else. But we do it on a daily basis. Sometimes,
we have to guard our thoughts, your thoughts become who you are. All right, but realize that your
thoughts are not always from you. Sometimes a thought is from shaitan. Don't let it stay there. And
definitely don't invite it for dinner, and then dessert and then tea, like you just feed it, you
allow it to stay there. When you have a negative thought.
		

			Don't allow it to stay in your mind. Negative thoughts should be replaced with positive ones. And
when you have a fear, one of the best ways to deal with a fear of fearful thought is to make dua
about that which you're afraid of, and then let it go.
		

			So that's the mind. Next is the heart to keep the heart healthy. How many of you guys heard my
prescription I gave earlier the wicked challenge. So I'm just going to repeat it for those who
didn't hear it. The first part of this prescription to keep the heart healthy is the salon. The
salon is the oxygen of the heart.
		

			The second is the god I advise everyone to download an app called my da MYDU a double A at the end,
it's a collection of supplications. And the shift touched upon some of these supplications in his
talk, morning, supplications evening, supplications supplications before you sleep, every kind of
supplication, but at least do your morning evening. And before you sleep, it's all in the app. And
you can star certain ones because maybe you can't do all of them. That's okay. But just star a
collection that you can be consistent about.
		

			Third part to the health of the heart is the core and stay connected to the Quran, and to the Sierra
and the son of the Prophet seisen.
		

			Now, the body, and I'm going to end with that.
		

			What you do has a very profound effect on your happiness, and your mind and your heart. They did
some research recently, like in psychology, there's a lot of research about happiness, there's a lot
of research about increasing your well being and living a meaningful life they call it flourishing.
		

			What they found in this research is that there's a portion of happiness, which is inherited,
probably I think that around 40%. So that's your parents, you have to thank for that.
		

			But then there's another portion of happiness, about 10% is having safety and basic needs met. But
that leaves you about half that you can have control over. And so what they did is they researched
all these ways that people can increase their own happiness. And here is the summary. You guys ready
for this? It's very interesting. They find that
		

			this culture that we have of indulge yourself, right, live it up. It doesn't make people happier.
And they've done studies on this, for example, spending money on yourself. It doesn't make you
happier.
		

			indulging yourself it doesn't make you happier. They did a study where they had four groups of
people, one group they told them, You know what indulge, indulge yourself. The second group, they
told them go and do service for another person, the third group go and do service for your
community. And the fourth group was just a
		

			control group, they just kept track of what they did. And in this study, they found that only the
two groups that did service had any increase in their happiness. Now, that's a powerful finding.
What is it telling you?
		

			You know, they tell you money doesn't buy happiness. Right?
		

			This is a test, it's actually not true. Money does buy happiness, and it's been shown in studies.
But it only buys happiness when it's spread on when it's spent on others.
		

			Money actually buys me happiness when I spend it on others. But when I spend it on me, it doesn't.
And this is just secular psychology. So one of the ways they found to increase happiness is to be in
the service of others, go and help another person, go and help your community. And our Dean is a
dean of service. Our Dean is a dean of generosity of sadaqa and this is actually ingrained in the
psychology the human being that this is what makes a person happier. Lastly, they found that one of
the most effective ways to increase happiness is the regular practice of gratitude. That just
keeping a gratitude journal for example, writing down on your phone, three to five things every day
		

			that you're grateful for. It's been shown to have a very, very profound effect, even in treating
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