Yasir Qadhi – The Ties of Kinship – The Story of Aishah R.A & Her Nephew Ibn Zubayr R.A

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			a lot of us have a perception of the time of the Sahaba that they were absolutely 100% perfect like
Jenna on earth. And this is actually not the case, the Sahaba were the best of generation. But the
best does not mean they were angels. The Sahaba radi Allahu anhu, whom we speak nothing about their
character. But if we have an illusion that the Sahaba never had issues between them, they never had
arguments between them. The Sahaba never committed any sins amongst themselves, then how are we
going to relate to the best of generations, if you study the books of history, any book, any book,
you will realize the Sahaba are human but they're the best of human beings. Today's brief hot era,
		

			an anecdote reported in body and all the books have had it all you got to do is read and you
understand they were amazing human beings, but even in their mistakes and slip ups there's so much
to benefit from beautiful anecdote emotional anecdote that took place after the death of the Prophet
system around 30 years or so 20 years or so that Abdullah bin disobeyed was in Makkah and he had
taken charge of Mecca. And he was the Khalifa at that time, the donors would have revolted against
you see if you know your history, and so he was now a separate, if you like entity, and his aunt,
Arusha, rhodiola Juana Carla because of the Masood, who's his mother,
		

			a smart minty abubaker asthma is the oldest sister of Asia. So Abdullah bin is obeyed his holla is
Asia. Now, back then the Islamic State would give stipends to the senior Sahaba okay abubaker lawhon
began this Omar then gave a salary based upon when you converted, there was a ranking based upon
when you converted there was a stipend given to the senior Sahaba and the highest stipend was given
to our mothers. The highest salary if you're like this, the steak once a year, it was a large amount
of money. It's a gift that because of your services, right? This is your gift. So the highest
category was to Omaha didn't want money.
		

			So, Mr. Bear, he's taking the head off. He is now sending the money to his aunt, Chateau de la
Juana. Isha rhodiola, who I know her, she is generous. And she gives and she gives and she gives,
and she doesn't keep the money to herself. So once I've done them, the absorber sent a large amount
of money. And he hears now he's in Makkah, Ayesha is a medical biller, when he hears that she has
given all of that money to the full crop.
		

			And he feels I'm giving it to her not so that you can give to the vocoder. I'm giving it to her.
It's her money. Why is she giving it to others? Why should I give to her? So he said in public, she
is going to stop giving this money this way, or else I will stop the stipends Hmm, you see what's
happening now? If she doesn't control because I'm not giving to the football I'm giving to her. Now
by the way, it's not his right to say that. Once he has given a tie show the alarms his his hers,
now she can do whatever she wants with it. Right now, news reaches Arusha in Medina, or the Allahu
Ana that Abdullah Zubair said
		

			he said if you don't stop, I'm gonna stop. I should read the law one has said Did he really say like
that Did he really threatened to cut off my stipend? While law he has a law is my witness Assam
Billa. This is your speaking, I shall never speak to him until
		

			I die or he dies. She gave a some using Allah's Name. so angry. My nephew, they were very close by
the way. Nobody was more beloved to Russia after the process and then her nephew
		

			or the living is obeyed. She was called Omar Abdullah by that Abdullah almost a son, her kunia Omar
Abdullah her quote unquote nephew son hurt unit so nephew saying this about me. No way. I'm going to
speak to him until one of us two dies. Okay. By the way, so much here, human psychology. Firstly, no
Mima and spreading back what somebody said you don't do that. You don't do that. Yes, even as Uber
said it was something you shouldn't have said. But it's also a mistake to
		

			Hurry that all the way back to Medina and then tell our mother out why. Why be quiet? If you hear
somebody speaking about somebody else, why are you going to the other person's, Hey, you know what
he said about you, you're going to cause problems and Misha kill. And that's why it is not allowed
in our religion, even to spread the truth about LIBOR. LIBOR is a sin Nomi Mei is also sent to
separate sins, right? If somebody says something bad about a third party, you should not go to the
third party to say, Hey, you know what that guy said about why? Why be quiet? It's not your
business, leave it between them and Allah azza wa jal, nonetheless, this happen. So I Isha says,
		

			Well lie, Allah is awesome. I will never speak to him until I die, or he dies. This came back to
him. Okay. And now he became worried. My color Omen meaning I should know the Allahu Allah. So he
sent one message, silence another message, sigh the message after message, and she's living up to
her custom. I'm not going to even respond back. Nothing. He began shafa with other people, can you
go and speak to Arusha? They tried. She refused. I'm not going to speak to him. Okay. Now, years
have gone by. We don't know how many books don't mention. But looking at the historical Yani, my
estimate would be my estimate would be at least seven years minimum have gone by, there's an
		

			estimate, not in the books, but just as long term as seven years have gone by and nephew and Aunt
have not seen each other, or even spoken via message or letter to each other. Nothing because of
that custom SubhanAllah. By the way, how can I actually have made this custom?
		

			scholars differ maybe she didn't know the Hadith that beyond three days, or maybe she had an
interpretation that for some reason, yeah, I need whatever we really don't know. Because, generally
speaking, generally, if anybody other than I should have the alarm sheet is, you know, the most
knowledgeable Lady of our entire oma, right? Even hedger says fucky. How to hide the Roma. She is
the fakir she is the scholar of the female scholar, the entire oma, how did she reach this? He had
the only people have their interpretations. But for all of us here, whatever her interpretation,
none of us should ever make a custom to not speak to somebody for more than three days. Okay, that's
		

			our ruling. Whatever I chose ruling what maybe she knew someday when we we don't talk about that.
Allah knows why. In any case, she said I'm going to live up to my custom. Now, Abdullah bin Zubaydah
is getting very worried. What am I going to do? And he hatched a plan.
		

			And he approached two of the senior members of the coresh, who were also students of our mother
Arusha there in Medina. He sent them a message. And he said, I'm asking you for the sake of Allah to
help me he's begging them, he is now worried he is the rewards mentioned he became you know, very
worried, what am I going to do if I should speak to you till I die? How am I going to meet Allah
what I need to mend this, whatever happened? I need to mend it. So he sends a message to a mishap.
democra an abdominal sweat. There are both from the elite of the kurush they are respected people.
And they are both of those who would regularly sit in the gathering of eyeshadow, the Allahu Ayesha
		

			had a gathering. How did you have a gathering? She had a gathering in the house of the Prophet
salallahu alayhi wasallam. And she would speak from behind the curtain and she would give what we
will call it halaqaat. Yeah, she would give it in knowledge, a hadith. And so select group very
select, you had to be very select to get to that audience, right? Our mother, our Isha has a curtain
the hijab, right for a hijab. Nobody enters behind the hijab. She's speaking and teaching them from
behind this hijab. I'll miss her and Abdurrahman, one of those students, okay, that can come to this
gathering, and Asha knows them and they are respected and they are both Sahaba miners, meaning they
		

			were children when the process was live now they are adults, you know, for 40 or 50 years have gone
we're talking about 50 hedgerow. 30 years of constant data processing, Ignazio bear begs them and
even they are bulking This is a show you know what's happened you know, she's not speaking we've
tried. He says by Allah you know that she is my Honda. I have to have relationship hit my heart. I'm
gonna meet Allah with what I beg you by Allah facilitar Rahim helped me he's literally begging the
two. So the plan is hatched. What is the plan? Just get me into the room had let me speak to her one
on one. That's the plan. So they agree. Even as obey travels all the way to Medina. He is the
		

			halifa. He is in charge of the affairs of the oma in his world. Right. But this is more important to
him than the affairs of the oma his own personal relationship with his aunt his Hala Arusha he
travels all the way to Medina and after Miss imahara
		

			Remember, that's what they meet up. And the two of them with him go to the door of Arusha. And they
say, yeah, oma, that's how they would address her. Yeah. Omar, may we come in?
		

			She recognizes the voices. She says yes. They say, COO, Luna, all of us, she thought is only those
two.
		

			She thought it's only those two. This is how their permission is. Okay. This is Jodi as * out in
the shed. Yeah, but don't use it too much. Okay.
		

			All of us come in. And I sure as all of you she didn't know that there's three she thought there's
two. So even as zubayr comes in years have gone by, they have not met now at Miss word, and Abdur
Rahman, are not allowed to go behind the hijab. But Abdullah Abu Zubaydah is one of the few people
in the world who can go behind the hedgehog. You understand why he is the nephew, okay? His Son, by
the way. rawa. Even a survey is the main narrator of Hadith from Arusha, or whatever zuba saw his
younger brother noticed. His younger brother is the main narrative headed earners. So Abdullah Abu
Zubaydah comes in and immediately jumps behind the curtain arches or who is this and then obviously
		

			recognizes it is it is her nephew, and he begins crying and begging and hugging her and the two of
them on the outside of the curtain. Both began crying and saying, Yeah, Omar forgive him. Yeah.
Omar, forgive him for the sake of Allah. He is your nephew. Yeah, Omar, he made a mistake. They're
both begging and she he's begging and the entire room is crying. Now they're saying all four of them
are sobbing tears, because she hasn't seen her nephew that she raised as a child. She hasn't seen it
for so long. And they're all he's begging forgiveness. And she is saying but I gave a custom. I gave
her a son with Allah azza wa jal, a son with a law is a big thing. I cannot break it. And of course,
		

			she's allowed to break it as you're aware. But she felt that our Prop, by the way, 50.0 profitsystem
said, If any one of you makes awesome to do worldly issue, and then he sees something that is better
than that custom. Go ahead and break the custom give the kuffar free a slave fast three days give
the kafala and then do what is better are shady I was easy with this called cofounder to you mean
are shady as easy if you gave a custom in this regard. By the way, that's the high level custom
generally speaking for us, we should never make a custom that we're not going to speak to somebody
for more than three days. That's technically for us not allowed. I show how to reach the HUD. She
		

			saying I gave a custom to Allah and even as obeyed is begging her break the custom give the kuffar
you know of the slave, you know, and forgive me, until finally the three of them convince her that
we should have sort of and reconcile and so she agrees to this. And Abdullah Abu Zubaydah sent 10
slaves for her to free, she freed all she has to do only one slave, she freed all 10 he sent another
10 she freed all 10 another 1040 slaves she freed, that is a fortune that's like the equivalent of
hundreds of millions 40 slaves, she prefer not 10s of millions 40 slaves out of the cathedra that
she had to do. And they had reconciliation after this. And this story shows us of how Allah so many
		

			things, but of the interesting things that shows us is that you know, it's human nature, that one
word is specially from a relative, especially from a close relative, it hurts much more than from a
stranger. One word from a close relative it pierces your heart, such that if a stranger said it to
us, yeah, whatever What a crazy guy, but I have nothing to do with him. But I relatives says it.
Even our mother ha he just had one law, he has some Billa I will never speak to him and seven years
or however many years went by and she lived up to that custom until finally, it Zubaydah understood,
you know what I need to do something drastic, all the way traveling. And this shows you the
		

			importance of soul arrived, Senator for him and the importance of solar that if a mistake has been
made, he realized I shouldn't have been that harsh or shouldn't have said this. If a mistake has
been made. You have to own up, apologize, and then work diligently to make sure that solar has
achieved in this beautiful anecdote. Lots of you just see the humanity of everybody involved. Right?
You see how great they were, despite these things back and forth. Still, it's human nature. You see
even the best of people even as obeyed and I surely allow being irritated at one another because
that's the way humanity is. Well, I every one of us has issues with our brother, our sibling, our
		

			aunt, our wife, but we have to overcome it like the two of them did. So my philosophy is very
simple. In studying the humanity of the Sahaba we find a role model in them we find so many stories
we can relate to and that's why they were the best of the oma not because they were angels without
anything but because we learn
		

			From their own slip ups or minor issues, whatever it might be, and we understand why Allah azza wa
jal said about the Allah who will do it. May Allah subhana wa tada resurrect us with the Sahaba with
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