Yasir Qadhi – Rapid Fire Q&A How can I go to Jannat ul Firdous
AI: Summary ©
The speakers discuss the use of email addresses for Q at Epic messages, the holy spirit in acceptance, and shamanism in shamanism. They emphasize the importance of acceptance of one's parents and fulfilling home girlfriend, and the use of "has been" in the language. They also mention the need for acceptance of their own brand and people, and the integration of their own company into the Sprint network. They are confident in their success in bringing in their own brand and people and working with a partner to ensure that they can provide the best service possible.
AI: Summary ©
Well none all
those saw the how
many Mina most Nene
hamdu lillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah. While early he was so happy woman while I have my bad salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakatu. It's been a while since we've been doing our q&a. We're now back and because we've been absent for a while, I thought today Inshallah, let's just do one of those Rapid Round fires, let's try to squeeze in as much as possible. So it's going to be one of those quick ones without going into a lot of detail. And also, by the way, just a lot of people are asking about where they can send their questions. The email address is ask why Q at Epic messages dot O R G, ask ye QASKYQ at Epic Masjid one word, dot o RG and also by the way, I'm not able to
respond directly to the emails I literally get hundreds no exaggeration of emails, and I'm not able to respond to them individually rather I choose from them that which will benefit the most of the people and so please understand if the email has not answered that I have to deal with a lot of volume and also, I am simply unable to cater to any questions of a specific divorce nature. The majority of questions that come to this account discuss personal issues about divorce and I've already explained in multiple in previous lectures that divorce questions are never answered via one party via email it is simply another Islamic to answer any divorce question without hearing the
other side or any specific issue between two people How can an email you know answer that is not fair. So it's actually you should not be emailing anybody about a divorce situation the both of you should always go to a person a share in front of you speak to them one on him one on one so that in Sharla Tyler you can get your situation solved with that introduction. Let's jump in. First question we have is Brother Tenzin, brother Tenzin from Bangladesh she emails and he asks that can he prays Salah in his own language. And the response to this is that if by Salah You mean our daily Salawat our five prayers lower Fajr motivation and Fajr then in those in those Salawat must be performed the
Archon the YG but the Dhikr the do as well the do as we're going to come to them as the controversy with the dual eyes, but the Quranic recitation and the tech Bureau to the Haram and the Subhan Robben Island, so harebell Aleem and the hayyat and the salah Ibrahim iya these must be done in Arabic. And if somebody does not speak Arabic, they are required to learn those phrases. And that is why across the globe, every single practicing Muslim memorizes the Quran enough for them to read in the prayers and every single Muslim memorizes these basic are the gar Subhanallah Bill Allah Subhanallah bill them you know semi Allah Hanuman Hamidah adhere to the law and all of these Escada
are part and parcel of our Salawat. So they must be done in Arabic if they are done in other than Arabic, the Salah is belted it is not to be accepted. Now the only area where there's a bit of a gray area and a bit of leniency is with regards to dua to Allah dua to Allah. Can it be done in another language now if the DUA is outside of Salah, so if you're asking, do as outside of Salah, then by unanimous consensus, all such Diaz can be done in any language, you may raise your hands up to Allah outside of Salah and make dua pray to Allah azza wa jal for your needs of this world and your needs of the next world in any language that you speak. It is all permissible, no problem. The
only area that there's a controversy is making do as inside of Salah as we said outside of Salah there is no controversy inside of Salah once you finish the QA. So for example, in the sujood you said Subhan Allah, Allah, now you're in such the can you then say, Oh Allah grant me the good of this world. Oh Allah, allow me to ace my exam. Oh Allah grant me a righteous spouse, oh Allah give me that job that I want. Can you make that dua in other than Arabic and this is where you have two opinions. And the opinion that I strongly endorse is that it is of course allowed to make dua in any language. What is required in Arabic is the God that are linked to the salah. The words you bought
and your candor are linked to the salah. Those cannot be done in any other language therefore, it is permissible to pray to Allah dua in any language at any time.
You don't have to restrict it to Arabic even within the salah because there's no evidence to do so. And Allah subhanho wa Taala knows best. Our next question, brother iden from Kenya, mashallah Tabata kala he emails and he says that he has a Christian friend who inshallah will be converting to Islam soon. He's hopeful for that. And he is asking that will his good deeds that he did as a Christian also be rewarded? So the question is, is that a convert? Will they still get their good deeds from the past or not? So, this question is a very good one. First and foremost, I encourage the brother I didn't to, you know, welcome this convert to help him out to facilitate him. And I'm assuming that
he's also played a role in this conversion. So this is hamdulillah something we're all happy about, as our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, if Allah azza wa jal uses you to guide another person, it is better for you then basically a million dollars, then a whole herd of camels that a lot of money is better for you that you guide one person. So this is good that you're working on this brother, in sha Allah to Allah that when he converts, you know, welcome him, help him, you know, facilitate his his conversion to Islam, and also inform him of the good news that Hakeem had been his arm one of the Sahaba embraced Islam at the time of the prophets of the Lord while He was
selling them after the conquest of Makkah. And he said, O Messenger of Allah, I want to ask you about the good deeds that are used to do in the days of Jaya Helia pre Islam, I used to give charity and I used to free slaves, and I used to be good to a family, will I be rewarded for those good deeds, and our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, a slum to ilm, a slifka Min clay, you have accepted Islam, along with all of the deeds that you have done in good they are with with you and this hadith in Sahih, Muslim from this a number of Allah ma have derived that the Convert has a double blessing. The first blessing is that his sins are all wiped off Killeen, he has no sin, that
is live with him when he converts. And the second blessing is that the good deeds that he has done because every human does good deeds, every human, you know, gives charity and Charlo to Allah helps people out I mean, there's good deeds. So anybody who did a deed that was good for the sake of his Lord, even if he was a non Muslim, there's going to be some reward in this world. Even as a non Muslim, we believe this because the Quran tells us this, of course, the hereafter, that reward is only for those who believe in the hereafter and in Allah and in heaven and *, but in this world, any good deed is going to be rewarded. Now, if the person converts to Islam, in this case, this
hadith tells us that in sha Allah, Allah, they shall get the rewards of their good deeds. Now, of course, as you can understand, there's always going to be a dissenting voice. And some scholars interpreted this hadith in other ways, because they say that the one who rejects Allah, none of his good deeds are going to be accepted and the responses you are correct, the one who rejects Allah and dies in that state, Allah will not accept his deeds in the hereafter. But this is a person who has accepted Allah subhanho wa taala. And he has good deeds pre acceptance, so as a gift to him, as the Prophet of Islam said, Islam to ILM has left them in fire, you have accepted Islam, along with all
of the good that you have done the good only because the evil has been wiped away. And therefore, you may tell this Christian friend of yours, that he should not delay an embracing and embrace and give him the glad tidings that not only are his sins forgiven, but also that all of the good deeds that he has done have been rewarded.
We have a question from Sister Hannah from New Jersey sister Hannah from New Jersey says that we often hear the phrase that God loves us in this culture that we live in that God loves all of us, as Muslims, should we use this phrase is something that is an Islamic phrase that we always say that God loves us.
The response is that indeed Allah subhanho wa Taala is the ever loving of his name's is Allah dude and Allah do it means the one who has a merciful love and if his names is Rahman and Rahim, and our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that indeed, Allah is more merciful to His servant than a mother is to her child. So notice the example of mother to child and our prophets of Allah Wiley who said themselves that Allah is more merciful than a mother is to her child. And so there are a lot of Yatta and a lot of, you know, concepts that Allah azza wa jal is the loving and Allah is the merciful and Allah azza wa jal loves to forgive and ALLAH loves to have mercy and everything is
encompassed in his mercy. However, however, to say that God loves everybody unconditionally, is not the same as saying that of the names of Allah is that he is the one who loves there's a difference between the two because you
See this actual point of saying that we are God's beloved, and God loves us and we are God's children. Actually, the Quran literally quotes the ALI kitab. And he challenges the Christians for saying this phrase. It is in surah Tenma ADA verse 18. Please look this up. It's very important. Allah says, we'll call it Cydia, who do want Nosara? Now who Avena Allah he will Heba who who they are, who then the Nosara they said, We are the children of God, and we are the beloved to God. God loves all of us. This is in the Quran. Then Allah says, Fatima, you are the Boo Boo with an Obi come say, Why then are we are you being punished for your sins? Why is there pain in this world? Why are
you not living in eternal bliss? You see, Allah's love once it is bestowed, unconditionally, then this means that you're living in a blissful you know, peace, which is going to be in Jannah. The ultimate love will be manifested, when we worship Allah subhanho wa taala. In this world, we shall attain internal blessings. And when we pass away, we will attain the blessings of Jannah however, we do not unconditionally state God loves all of us, rather Allah is loving, but Allah azza wa jal only loves those who are worthy of that love. There is a difference between the two. We describe Allah as the merciful and the loving and the forgiving, no problem, but then to say, imagine saying Allah has
forgiven me. Can anybody say this? You cannot say this, you do not know. You can say I wish Allah forgives me. Yes. I hope Allah forgives me. Yes. So I hope Allah loves me. I'm optimistic. Insha Allah that Allah loves me, I want Allah to love me, but to categorically claim, Allah loves all of us. The Quran itself says How is that possible when you are being punished right now? How is that possible? When you have painful lives? How is that possible? When Allah azza wa jal is going to call you to task for the sins that you are doing? So the Quran actually clearly mentions that Allah loves categories of people. Allah loves categories of people The Quran mentions eight categories. Allah
loves the Mercy Nene the Mercy no Allahu Akbar, mercy in in those who do good. Allah loves them with to clean those who have consciousness and Taqwa of Allah. Allah loves the terroir being those who repent to Allah Subhana Allah to Allah, Allah loves them with Allah hate in those who are purifying themselves in their body and in their souls. Allah azza wa jal loves those Sabeti and those that are patient, Allah subhanho wa Taala loves them. Otowa Killeen those who put their trust in Allah and Allah azza wa jal loves those who are doing pretty well in his way. So these are eight categories that Allah azza wa jal has mentioned that he loves them. And on contrast to this, Allah azza wa jal
explicitly says he does not love many categories for people. Well, Allahu Allah, your hibel mistake biddin Allah does not love those who are arrogant, Allah azza wa jal does not love them more to Dean those that go beyond the bounds, Allah azza wa jal does not love the hawan the one who is a Treacher, the theme the sinner, the most sildenafil are those that are causing evil and corruption in the earth. So Allah mentions almost a dozen categories of those whom He does not love. And therefore, dear Muslim, dear sister, and all of you, this is a very beautiful question. And in fact, it's a very theological and a very deep one. And we say, Allah azza wa jal is loving and ALLAH is
forgiving, and Allah is merciful, no problem. But then to extrapolate that and categorically then assign it to yourself. It is a sign of arrogance, we do not say categorically, Allah has forgiven me and Allah has shown me His love that's not acceptable. You do not know that. Rather you say that Allah azza wa jal that I want Allah's love and I want to be amongst those whom Allah loves, so are prophets of Allah, who are they, he was said would make dua to Allah, Allahu Allah. And so Luca, her book would have been on your head book, Oh Allah, I asked you of your love. So this is the dua, O Allah, we want you to love us we want to be of the beloved to Allah, and as for the claim of the
holy Kitab, that we are the children of God and we are the beloved of God. Allah himself says in the Quran, you should not say it categorically like that. That does not make sense. And it is a sign of arrogance and it brings a level of complacency to one's faith that contradicts the humility. That is the essence of Islam. The essence of Islam is submission and lowering our head to Allah. When you go about boastfully claiming we are God's people, we are God's chosen we are Gods. You know, God loves us, you know that type of statement. You know, it justifies our evils. And that is why this phrase this motto, the slogan has been adopted by people whose lifestyles are clearly against the ethical
teachings of the release of all divinely revealed religions. And they say, Oh, God loves us despite the fact that they openly flout the lifestyles and the commandments of Allah subhanho wa taala. This is clearly not something that should be done. We rather say we want Allah's law
Have we want to be of those whom Allah loves and we will try our best by doing what Allah loves. So those eight categories, read them up and go over them one by one and be amongst them attain be amongst the sub 18 be amongst the martini and inshallah Allah will love you and avoid those whom Allah azza wa jal has said, Allah does not love them, Allah does not love the arrogant, and to say God loves me is a sign of arrogance. So may Allah make us amongst those whom he loves.
We have next question, brother, Hashem from Virginia, he says that he has a home mortgage that he has to pay off. And he's asking for the sake of the cut that should he deduct the debt from the amount of his savings to calculate the cap. So with regards to the issue of a home mortgage, I have given a much longer lecture with a conversation that I had with myself and Dr. Hatem and how you can look this up is an hour long conversation. And we concluded that really, mortgages really should be avoided unless there is some, you know, some type of need, or strong need or necessity, and there is no Islamic alternative. Nonetheless, the brother is not asking about that. He's basically saying
that he has already have a mortgage. And he's asking, does he deduct the debt of the mortgage? So suppose the house costs, you know, he still has $250,000 left on it? And of course, he might have savings and cash and whatnot come time of Zika should he deduct $250,000 from his total quantity that he has in the bank and then give zakat on that? And the response is that no, you do not deduct what is called a long term debt. You see, the debts that are owed are of two types. Its immediate, short term and long term. And long term is a debt that it is understood that you can pay it off in a very lengthy period of time, and those types of debts. And the classic example is, in fact, the
house mortgage, that if we were to consider this when we calculate zakat, then for most of us, there would be those of us that have a house mortgage, there would never be an easy guide for 30 years. And that goes against the goals of the Sharia, we know that we have to pay 1500 to 1000 per month for the the mortgage whatever it might be, and we are earning, you know a good amount more than this. And therefore by the time the year finishes, we have a savings amount that we have had for a year that we can give the cat on and therefore, to answer your question simply No, you do not deduct the value of the remaining mortgage in order to calculate sicker and Allah subhanho wa Taala knows
best. Our next question and again for those of you who are joining late who are having rapid fire today, we're simply quickly asking and answering without going into a lot of detail. I have both of my styles that I do sometimes they do sometimes they do that. We have the next question brother Imtiaz from India or Shala, Tabata Allah, the land of my ancestors brother Imtiaz from India, he emails and he asks that is it permissible to practice family planning in Islam and the extent of family planning? Is it allowed to space children out and what methods of contraception can be used? So again, I have given a longer lecture but again, just to summarize in a brief answer here, that it
is permissible to practice family planning and to use and avail yourself to any type of contraceptive that does not in and of itself harm the body permanently or long term any type of contraceptive that is deemed to be safe is permissible, and family planning is permissible, except in one scenario, in one scenario, it becomes theologically problematic, and therefore it should not be done. And that is that if the reason that you are spacing children out if the reason that you are delaying or even stopping to have children is because you feel that you cannot afford to have children. In this case, you have contradicted the Quran that Allah says nah, nosocomial, er home,
we're going to take care of your children and feed them and we shall feed you as well. And therefore, if you space your children out, because it is easier, you know, for maintenance of the time, because again, a child takes up a lot of time and your wife, she might be partially working or may be tired, or maybe even just not possible for her to take care of multiple youngsters at a time. So she says, you know, I'll wait two, three years until this, this toddler is able to take care a little bit of him so then I can move on to the next child and you plan in this manner, no problem or she has a degree she's doing or for whatever reason, basically, any reason that doesn't infringe on
the rights of Allah subhanaw taala because when you say that who's going to take care of the child, it's as if your salary is taking care of the child, as long as the NEA is not to challenge the mother of Allah and that you just want for logistical purposes for logistical purposes. Having said this, of course, we as Muslims, we love to have children because our Prophet system asked us to have children and he said I want to have you know, the largest OMA so it is something that is allowed, but it is Makrooh it should. It's better to avoid but it is not haram
On and there's evidence Jabari and Abdullah explicitly mentioned that you know, we used to withdraw from, you know, our spouses or concerts, before the *. So, this was their type of, you know, a family planning right. So, in those days, obviously, they did not have the types of family planning that we that we have, they do not have prophylactics, they do not have pills, they do not have any of these things. So, what would they do is that the man would pull his organs out before *. And this would basically prevent pregnancy. But of course, there is no foolproof mechanism because obviously it is possible to get pregnant. And in fact, in one such scenario in the
time of the Prophet system, it in fact did happen that the man thought that he had pulled up but in fact, obviously, it wasn't done in time. So the point being in the process and said you can change the color of Allah, you cannot And if Allah has ruled that you can practice all the family planning you want and pregnancy will still occur. However, he allowed them to do this and therefore, it is permissible. It is John is but it is you know, my crew, it's something that should be avoided. Simply because we are in OMA that we are commanded to have more and more children, unless you only reason that would be sinful and how long is if you think you cannot take care of your child from a
financial perspective, in which case you are sinful for practicing family planning Other than this, you are not sinful and Allah subhanaw taala knows best.
We have a question from Brother Mohammed from Senegal mashallah, I think this is our first question from Senegal mashallah is about Aquila. And will lay the question was so beautiful, so sweet. It was literally one line. And it was so beautiful. I could not possibly turn down my brother Mohamed from Senegal, my brother Mohammed emails, it was literally a few words. That's all the whole email and he says how chef How can I go to Jana to the third dose? That was his question. Subhan Allah Subhan Allah when I read this question, Allah in my heart jumped for joy. And it showed me the sincerity it showed me that Iman will lie that's the most important question. Every other question becomes
trivial compared to the simple one. How can I get to feel those? That was his question? And you know, dear brother, Mohammed from Senegal, Subhan Allah Allah subhanho wa Taala has listed for us how we can get to for those It is literally listed for us in the Quran. So I asked you to open up the Quran Surah Al Amin Woon and read the first verses are the IFLA Helmy known Verily the those who have Iman and Allah they have strong faith they have achieved success Alladhina homefield Salah to him harsher on those that are humble and thoughtful in their prayers will Ladino Manila Whom were you doing those that turn away from uselessness, useful useless stuff. They turn away from nonsense
they turn away from idle talk they don't waste their time. Well, Medina who is the catify rune, they're constantly giving charity point number four. Number five, they're guarding their private parts except for their spouses. They don't go beyond this. Number six, that they are faithful to their trust and their pledges. What are the denominator man and what are they brought on? If they make a promise or if somebody trusts them, they are faithful to that. Number seven will Ladino Marla Saraswati him you have to learn they protect their prayers, they make sure that they pray very well. Then Allah says, Would I go home and watch the throne a lady in a year the throne L for those these
are the people that shall inherit, inherit what l for those homefree ha ha they don't Simple Seven points are listed here. Along with this we can add a few more things of them is to love the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to a man who came to him and said O Messenger of Allah, I don't have too many good deeds. I'm not able to compete with the rest of your companions, but I love Allah and His messenger. So the Prophet sallallahu sallam said, You are with those whom you love. So if you have a genuine love for Allah and His Messenger, this is one of the ways to get to for those and other ways as well. Is to make dua to Allah Subhana
Allah to Allah to make dua to Allah to be granted for those our Prophet sallallahu it he was selling themselves when you ask Allah azza wa jal then ask him for oil filled those either sell to Mala when you ask Allah for sulfur those ask Allah for fuel to dose because it is the highest of Jannah and it is the middle part of Jana. So raise your hands up to Allah and see Allahumma India so local for those Allah Allah O Allah I asked you for the highest level of for those make dua to Allah sincerely from your heart, make dua in the last third of the night make dua in such the make do I constantly throughout your life and follow the beginning verses of certain Minoan and insha Allah Allah to
Allah you are working your way to get to that highest place of for those May Allah subhanho wa Taala make me and you and all of us from the people have filled
Beautiful question dear Mohammed from Senegal. We have next question sister Aman from Austria mashallah Tabata Kala, she emails and she says that she is confused that why do we not take into account the Ethical Treatment of Animals in declaring something to be haram and Hala she writes a lengthy email and then she says basically summarizing it that she doesn't understand why haram and halal is only linked to the last two minutes of how the animal is slaughtered. And she is asking what if it was not treated humanely? You know, what if it was, you know, cramped and put in a cage and all of these things happen in a very negative way? Why can't we say that meat is haram? Why
should we say it is halal, just because it was slaughtered properly?
This is a very good question. And again, this is the rapid q&a So I have to answer quickly we're not doing the long one but I have given a lengthier answer to the issue of halal meat by the way you can listen to that but to a simple responses that dear dear sister, I feel your your email is very, you know, let's say passionate and I feel you have some legitimate points and I understand you want to you want to make this meat haram because you want to raise the standard of how animals are treated. And you want the Muslims to basically have a higher bar. But you see, dear sister, we follow the Sharia of ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada it is a law who sets the bar is It is Allah azza wa jal who defines
haram and halal it is Allah who defines ethics and what is something that is discouraged, and what is something that is forbidden. And when it comes to animals, you see, dear sister, I understand your point. But you know, you have to also flip it around and see, if you raise the bar so high, that 90% of animals would not be allowed to eat, for example, I'm just giving an example here. It's not fair for the poor person who cannot afford, you know, the type of meat you're asking for the most ethical humane, you know, it would be impossible for the average person to then attain, obtain meat, and therefore what the Sharia has done is absolutely amazing. It's beautiful. And that is
listen to this carefully. The farmer is responsible to Allah for the treatment of the animals, and the one who purchases is responsible to Allah for the mechanism of slaughtering, so the two of them are put together will bring about an ethical treatment of the animal. However, we do not put the onus of purchase completely sorry, the onus of ethical treatment completely on the purchaser, rather, the purchaser listen to this sister has the option, you have the prerogative, you have the right to say, I'm not going to buy from that farm because it mistreats animals and I'm going to buy from that farm because it is humane treatment that is your prerogative. But to declare the meat out
on on the rest of mankind is simply not fair, because you are raising your standards too high. And not everybody can afford or be able to do that. Rather what you can say, which is what the shady AI says that the farmer who mistreats the animal and acts in an inhumane manner is liable in front of Allah subhanho wa taala. And if you're involved in the industry, and you're an inspector or you have the option to complain or something, and the government does not allow this you have every right to complain and take legitimate means to put punitive measures on the farmer but you cannot penalize the person who wants to buy that's not fair. You can penalize the farmer and in the eyes of Allah
azza wa jal you know the I'm saying farmer here obviously, I mean livestock owner obviously, right so you can in the light in the eyes of Allah subhanaw taala, the one who is taking care of the animals, if he mistreats the animals, then he shall be accountable to Allah. We all know of the case of the lady who entered the fire of * because she starved her cat to debt, she starved her cat to death. And Allah azza wa jal caused her to enter the fire of * because of that one misdeed against an animal. So that person who keeps animals locked up who doesn't feed the animals properly, who might be cruel to the animals, that person is answerable to Allah, Allah azza wa jal might
punish him or might forgiven depending on the person and what he has done and what not. And that is between him and ALLAH SubhanA wa taala. But for us, as the consumers, you have the right to demand, but you cannot forbid upon other people what you personally you know, what is basically the responsibility of the farmer. So I hope that in shallow target that is clear that I'm not dismissing your concerns, but I'm saying the answer to this is not to penalize the average person who might be struggling to afford you know, the basic food items and meat and then say oh, no, because you will all y'all understand your sister. Here's the point here. The type of meat that you want will cost
double or triple that big
cuz he you know why why do they you know cramp animals up like this? Why do they do is it's a vicious loop here I'm not justifying, I'm simply telling it like it is it is the reality right? So you can lobby for legislation, you can have the government get involved you can use the monitor and do whatever but in the end of the day, it's not fair to penalize the average consumer and say to him in the eyes of Allah, you're guilty for purchasing from a person or even to oblige the person to do more homework because again, the shady is meant to be easy for everybody. The only thing you should be obliged to do is to ask, is the meat halal and was just slaughtered properly I cannot eat pork.
And if I eat a cow or eat a goat or something I have to ask this Halal chocolate is done. If it's clear, it's from a hardware shop and I'm assuming that should be fine here. So as long as it is a halal animal and it has been slaughtered properly, that is the bare minimum and you cannot obligate more than what Allah has obligated. Indeed whatever Allah has made halal is halal. Whatever Allah has made Haram is haram. We do not base halal and haram on our own whims and desires. And Allah subhanho wa Taala knows best.
We had an anonymous email, I mean, the name is there. But he asked me to not mention it, you will see why when I read the question
that a brother emails and says that his parents have put him into an arranged marriage situation, after a long time of saying no to a lot of people he eventually caved in. But he is now saying that he is actually not attracted to the opposite gender, he is battling with same * attraction. And he has resigned himself to living a celibate life to not acting on his impulses, he is fine with all of this, that he is not expecting to, you know, he's not asking for any type of justification for anything. But all he is saying now is that he does not know what to do, because his parents have now for a long time been pressuring him. Now finally, he has acquiesced. He wants to make his parents
happy. But he feels that he cannot fulfill the rights of his wife or be a husband in the intimate sense to his wife.
The response to this dear brother in Islam, you cannot, you cannot allow this marriage to take place. And the situation is as you have described, you are sinful to Allah in this case, because this is not a personal issue that you're battling with, what you're battling with, once you get married will affect your wife as well. Because you see, in this case, the brother is saying, and he actually explicitly explicitly said this, that he has no attraction to the opposite gender, he is only attracted to the same gender. And we already spoke about this topic in a number of other previous lectures, we're not you know, he's not asking about that ruling, he knows it is not
allowed, he's not going to act upon it. But he was wanting to live a single life. That's it, he's not going to get married. But now his parents are pressuring him. And he doesn't know what to say. He's basically confused. He doesn't want to obviously mentioned the reason why. So dear brother in Islam, listen to me, I cannot tell you how to back out how or what to say to your parents and to your family. And friends, that's something you need to think about, whether you want to I understand, you know, in the culture that we are in, you probably cannot say this to them. But just because you cannot say this, there are other excuses that can be given. That might be you know, more
easier for them to understand or deal with of them. By the way, I'm just giving you some ideas here. There's something called a sexual desire, ie, people have no desire whatsoever, they are a sexual, they simply have no desire whatsoever. And they are a small percentage of humanity, but they are there, they simply cannot, you know, people are created differently. And so it's not, you know, their fault or anyways, just the way they are just like it's not your fault, that you're attracted to the same gender. But just because you have a desire, or lack of desire doesn't mean that you have to, you know, act upon it. So you can say that you are not interested, you know, intimacy at all and
the thought, you know, you find it repulsive, and it's not going to work for you and you're going to do injustice to the lady. And other things can also be said, I mean, again, speak to your close friends that might be able to help you out in your particular culture. I cannot tell you how to back out, but I am telling you, you must back out, you cannot begin a relationship with another human being and she is walking in completely innocent not knowing anything about you in this regard, and expecting to have a normal family life and a normal marital relations. And obviously, you know, she will want to have children, etc, etc. And you're saying that's not going to happen at all. Dear
brother, if you do this you are sinful in the eyes of Allah. You are not sinful for telling your parents the truth and making them hurt and irritated because of the truth. That's something that's their fault.
He's not, you know, if they were to get angry and yell and scream, you are not sinful, you are sinful for obeying your parents in this regard, one is going to harm an innocent soul, you cannot obey your parents, you are sinful, in this case for obeying your parents, because there's an innocent party involved. It's not just you and your parents, there's an innocent party involved. Also, I have heard of this happening. And
anecdotally, I know that this has happened, that, you know, this, this, this issue of being attracted to the same gender, it is a an issue that we are confronting as an ummah, now, and we're talking about this more and more, and more and more people want to live faithful lives to Islam, they don't want to practice this feeling, but at the same time, they cannot change who they are. And I am aware that at least in the Western world, there are email, you know, or Google Groups or something of this nature, where people are struggling with this desire and not wanting to act upon it. And a man and a woman who are both struggling with the same issue, they decide that you know,
what it's best for us to, to get married as Islamic Nikka, and just be companions to one another, even if it's platonic, but they both understand what is going on, so that it will help their families and they get along anyway, their friends anyway, they might not have to be intimate, because here's the point, if you were to find a lady, that doesn't mind not being intimate, or not having children, that's completely permissible. I mean, it's not obligatory, you know, to be to be intimate to have * is not obligatory, to have children, the problem comes that obviously, your wife, as you have described, is completely clueless about your issue. So you cannot just enter into
a contract in this manner, and then expect to tell her the day after the marriage, that's not fair, that's an injustice. But if you were to find a lady that is actually wanting the same type of scenario that you're describing, which is no intimacy, and no children, and just a partnership that you know, just taking care of one another, and friendship and whatnot, and this is something that these days because of the internet and because of you know what not insha Allah and it is possible so think about this. I mean, I cannot advise you to actually do this. It's not it's not something I know you that well that I can tell you, but I'm saying you know, your situation West think about
maybe this might be the best way that you can, you know, make your family and friends happy that you know you you are married, there is another lady that also needs to make her parents happy that she is married. And the both of you understand you know, that, you know, this is what it is, and there's no sin if that were to happen, and Allah azza wa jal knows best.
We have a next question, brother Shetty, foon. Or Sharif, surely full, I guess brother Sherry full from Pakistan, he emails and he asks, whether homeopathy or homeopathy, both pronunciations are there where whether homeopathy is halal or not? That is the question. Okay. Now, this is a question that requires a little bit more detail. I know this is rapid q&a, I know that I promised you but for this one, I need to go just a little bit. Even though I'm not going to go into the amount of detail I personally would like to you see, dear brother in Islam, brother shady foot, when you ask a share something you need to understand what is the role of the shear? What question are you asking? Is it
something that an Islamic scholar should be talking about or not? So there's two angles to look at this from. And I'm going to separate both of these angles, and I will comment on both of them. But on one of the angles, I will be commenting as a regular human being just like you were having a conversation and not coming from an Islamic background not coming from a shared paradigm. And the second response, it will be from the Islamic scholarly background. So the first angle, is that when you say, Is it permissible is homeopathy you know, something we should do? Right? Should we practice homeopathy or homeopathy? I mean, technically it's homeopathy, but everybody says homeopathy, so
again, just FYI. So you're asking now that she can we practice homeopathy? And I say, if you're asking whether Homi homeopathy is something that is effective, that answer is not something that an Islamic scholar is necessarily trained to give you. An Islamic scholar does not study the various types of medicines because there many different methods of medicines, you have your Vedic medicine you have the medicine is the common you know, Western medicine, you have nature, a natural nature of naturopathic, which is natural. You have herbal medicine, you have the ancient Greek medicine, the United medicine, which is in boxes, called the Hakim tradition, as well, you have you know, all of
these different types of types of metal hubs of how to cure diseases. So when you ask a chef about all of these different types of things, it's not
I got the job of a religiously trained person to discuss with you the pros and cons of Ayurvedic, you know, versus nature versus homeopathy versus herbal, you know, versus, you know, whatever else you mean acupuncture, let's say, right? It's not the job of a person trained in an Asana or Medina to comment on the pros and cons of the different med hubs of medicine. And if somebody does, that is his personal opinion. So you ask the question, I will tell you my personal opinion, first and foremost, as you know, your brother in Islam, Yasser, as somebody who is educated, who has degrees in engineering and studies and reads and what not that I think, personally, that homeopathy is not
an effective mechanism of curing any type of disease. And this is my personal opinion. And I have the right to my opinion, no study in the world, no double blind peer reviewed study in the entire world has demonstrated that homeopathy has any more than what is called a placebo effect. And in fact, there is the complete absence and I mean, complete absence of any sound, statistical evidence that homeopathy works in any form, shape, or fashion. The founder of this discipline, the founder of this type of med hub 250 years ago, is a German by the name of Samuel Huntington Hani handyman. And this particular doctor, he believed that and this is against ancient mythology, basically, he
believed that diluting a very small amount of a chemical to an infinitesimally small amount will actually have a profound impact on the body. And so he believed that there are certain things called the Theory of miasms. And there's things in the body of different types of fluids. And again, this is all outdated. This is something that the ancient Greeks believed it's not true. Biologically, it's not true. But there's this notion of different types of fluids and different types of interactions. And he believed that depending on the disease or whatnot, if you were to give an astronomically small tincture of a certain chemical that it would impact the body in a positive
manner. And the reality is that firstly, not only is there no correlation between the tincture and the Med and the in the chemical, and the body, but secondly, the astronomically infinitesimally small quantity is actually ludicrous. So one example to give you an indication 12 C solutions. So they have something called concentration, six, C 12, C 18, C, A 12. C solution, a 12. C solution is the equivalent of taking a pinch of salt, and dropping it into the Atlantic and the Pacific Oceans combined, right? Imagine if you had that quantity of water, non salty, and you added a pinch of salt
to that level of dilution, you expect something to have an impact on you. So me as an engineer, as a chemistry, chemistry and chemistry major, as somebody who understands, you know,
compounds and molecules and whatnot, this is ludicrous to think that something of that nature is going to impact the body, it is simply not the case. And as I said, there is not a single, actual medical document that proves the efficacy of homeopathy. However, all of this having been said, Guess what, this is my personal opinion, you can throw it out the window, no problem. It's my personal opinion as the asset quality. Now, as the person of Islamic knowledge, you're asking as a share, I will say, You know what, I have to look at it from an Islamic perspective. And by the way, I am saying it doesn't work. And there are members of my own family that are irritated at my
position, and they swear, and they give us some that it works and what not. And of course, this is a placebo effect. And whether they took it or not, if they think it works is good for them. It doesn't actually work. Placebos also work as we know, but my point being so what that's my opinion, I can say something you have the right to disagree with it from an Islamic perspective, from a surety perspective, any medication that is based upon what the person believes is physical science and not metaphysical, what the person believes to be a cause and effect and not something that is supernatural, that that would be the default would be that it is permissible, unless something is
done within it that is haram. So if you go to any one of these medicine types of like, what did they do, whether it's acupuncture or whether it is allopathy whether it is homeopathy, or whether it is herbal and you think that there's a cause and effect? That's your way of looking at it, that when you do this, this happens, then guess what, from an Islamic perspective, the default is that you are that is permissible unless something Haram is done. However, if you're going to somebody that is invoking the spirits, you go to a shaman, you know in the deserts or the you know, the Maasai tribe, and you go to some shaman, witch doctor or
Were there who was invoking the dead spirits and whatnot. Now, this isn't actually the issue is a no, no, no, you cannot do that you cannot go to supernatural causes or powers that would now be something that is haram, if not even a type of shit. Now that perhaps you're also asking about homeopathy because there's a an amount of alcohol that is used? If that is the reason why you're asking it wasn't in the question. This is the reason if that is the reason why you're asking. So realize I have given a much longer lecture about alcohol being present in medicines. And I have said that, if the alcohol is not something that is intended in and of itself, that for it to be to be
medicinal, but rather it is something that is a solvent, and if it is not enough to make you intoxicated, it's a very small amount, then in sha Allah, Allah, it is permissible. And this is, for example, cough syrup and whatnot comes under this thing as well. Therefore, these are the two main conditions that you do not take alcohol for the sake of alcohol, rather, the alcohol or the ethanol is there because that's the technical thing is ethanol is there to preserve the substance that you want to get to. And the quantity that you would consume in a regular timeframe is not enough to make you drunk. In this case, it is overlooked, and you are forgiven for this amount. And so if that is
why you're asking, then that is not an issue in and of itself. And therefore technically speaking, from a showery perspective, even if I think from a chemical perspective, it is ineffective. That's my opinion. From a Sheree perspective. Homeopathy is halal. And Allah subhanho wa Taala knows best
brother always see ya see emails from South Africa Mashallah. Tabata Glen, by the way, I love to read where your emails are coming from. So when you email me, please email me a state or a location. And it's something that it helps me to contextualize and perhaps even fine tune the answer for you. So Brother OAC, from South Africa, beautiful lander had been there many times and I look forward to visiting soon again insha, Allah to Allah, He says that he made an oath in the name of Allah subhanho wa taala. He made a custom, that if he did such and such a deed, he doesn't he didn't tell me what it is in the oath, that he would pay such and such amount of Sadako charity. Then he says
that I have done this deed, but I am unable to pay that quantity of charity. I have done the deed, but I am unable to pay that quantity of charity. So what should I do? So the response is that this is something that is called a Yameen and you have not been able to fulfill your yemenia means an oath. Allah says in the Quran law you are Hudak Mala who will love with a mannequin Wallah? Can you hook me via cotton with a man? Allah will not call you to task for your frivolous oats. But Allah will call you to task for that which you were solemn about. So a frivolous oath you understand by context No, Hola, I'm not hungry now. No, Hola, I'm not gonna eat right now you just say it like
this, you know, everybody understands that the food is printed in front of you, you eat from it. You're just saying like that. But when you say a solemn oath, and you say, well, law, he, I swear by Allah that such and such, you know, I'm not going to do that. And it's very clear from the seriousness and from the context, you make custom by Allah subhanho wa taala. This is now an oath, and you are obliged to fulfill it unless, unless you see something that is better for you. Or you are unable to like in this case, perhaps you put an exorbitant sum of money and then you're not able to do that. In which case you must make a Farah, you must make a explanation of your oath and Allah.
And the Prophet system said, By the way, that whoever gives an oath and a custom, and then he sees that there's something better than his oath, then let him break the oath and give the kuffar for the oath Allah has made a way out for us the process and has made a way out for it's a beautiful thing. So for example, suppose you were very angry at your friend, very angry at your friend, that whatever he did, and you got very angry, and you said to him, I swear by Allah, I will never visit your house again. And I'm never going to step foot in your house and I'm never going to have food with you again, sprouted, this is not a good oath. It's not a good oath at all. You should not do it. You
should not have done it, but you did it. Now what are you going to do? You're supposed to break the oath and give the Cathar of the oath and then mend your way with your brother again. How does one mend How does one do the FARA it is in the Quran very clearly. Allah says in the Quran, that if you if you're going to break an oath for cathedra to who are more Ashura tema Sakina mean oh salty mouthwatering Alikum okay swear to whom out the hydrocarbon thermal imaging for cm with the aim that he could have filed and work with the head often wife although a mannequin feed 10 people feed 10 Poor people
The average amount of food that you feed your own families to or give them clothing how you give your own you know family or free a slave. And if you cannot do any of these three things, then you fast three days. So Allah mentions four things the third of them is not possible not because there are no more milk you mean anymore. So you either feed 10 people so whatever is your meal. So you have rice and meat as your average meal okay. Or in America you have your burger and fries as your average meal or in certainly you have a shawarma and whatever is your average meal, you take that average meal and 10 people 10 Poor people, you feed them and you make the knee this is for Kasara or
you buy 10 outfits so 10 average clothes, pants and shirt or throw over shoulder kameez and you distribute to the poor. Or if you're not able to do these to not able to afford to do that, then you fast three days if you cannot afford you have the money to buy then you fast three days and then you may break your oath and then do what needs to be done. So this is how one abstain or how one breaks the oath if need to be and Allah then says Why follow a man can guard your or don't just break it for no reason. And Allah subhanho wa Taala knows best.
Last question we'll do today. Last question brother Adil emails. And he asks and he doesn't tell me where he's emailing from by the way. He asks is sarcasm halal or not? Is sarcasm, halal or not? And I was thinking of some sarcastic jokes to make and I decided let me be serious. Today. Insha Allah to Allah. In contrast to most of my other lectures, were to try to squeeze in some humor here and there. nonetheless.
To answer the question, technically,
sorry, sarcasm is of two types.
There is a type that is done, where it's done amongst friends in a manner that everybody is laughing together with everybody else. It elicits a laughter and doesn't hurt anybody's feeling. There is no denigration nobody's feelings are hurt. Nobody feels that I had been targeted. This is laughing together with everybody. Okay? And you just make a sarcastic comment or a laugh or a joke. This would be something that is permissible. It's permissible. There is no sin over there. Once a man came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and he wanted to go on an expedition and he saw a messenger Allah want to join your expedition. There was an expedition going, but I don't have but I
don't have a camel. So do you have a camel that I can, you know, borrow or I can take so the Prophet system used a phrase in Arabic. So a baby camel in Arabic is called what I do now. Okay, well, I do not have a baby camel is what I do not which literally means the child of a camel. So the provinces some said I only have a baby camel what to do. He said sorry. He said, Well, I don't know what to do NACA. The man said O Messenger of Allah. How will a baby camel help me as a newly born I need a full camel. And then the process has said and what is enough? Except the wallet of another Naka what is the camel except born from another camel? In other words, it's a pun on words here. I mean, it's not
quite sarcasm, but it's upon words here right? In other words, yes, they have a camel. And you know, I'm calling it the word do not cut the child of a camel because it is like I am the child of my father. I'm not a child anymore. But I am still the child of my father. So the process of use that phrase, another lady came to the Prophet system, a very elderly lady and she's you know, saying oh Messenger of Allah, I'm very old. Make dua that Allah azza wa jal causes me to enter Jen. So the Prophet system said that Oh, Aunt Oh, dear mother, don't you know that old ladies do not enter Jannah and she said what old lady is not antigen now what am I going to do now? So the person said,
rather young ladies antigen, and Allah will transform you to when you were younger, and then cause you to enter Jannah right now, again, this is not quite sarcasm, per se, but it is still a double intended entendre it's a double meaning. And the point that we can extract from this is that obviously she was so happy. Nobody was insulted ever at a joke of the professor. So we're all they're all it brought a smile to their faces. It made them happy in a double manner, right? So the man is initially disappointed Oh, I don't have a camera. Then he gets extra happy. The same with the lady. What am I gonna do? Oh, then he gets double happy. So here we have examples where the Prophet
sallallahu wasallam is basically acting in a manner that will bring a smile and everybody will be laughing. He never targeted somebody. So this is in contrast to being sarcastic against somebody to make your point or as a means of denigrating that is not something that is praiseworthy in our religion. In fact, throughout the Quran, Allah subhanaw taala mentioned the enemy
is of the prophets. It is the Mona Lisa goon, who are described as mocking, belittling, making sarcastic comments, winking, secretly gesturing, making fun of the righteous. And that is why Allah says in the Quran that almost injure of Allah We shall deal with those who are mocking and sarcastic in that cafe Nico Musa as in and the angels remark that How pitiful it is for the creation, never does a prophet come except that they make fun of him. And Allah says in the Quran are you believe, let not one group of people make fun of another group, let not some women make fun of other women. So when the sarcasm is meant to denigrate when the sarcasm is meant to put somebody down to hurt
somebody's feelings, then it is not befitting and it goes against the perfection of the manners that are prophets Assam commanded us our Prophet sallallahu sallam said, the believer is the brother of another believer, he does not belittle him, he does not put him down. He does not make fun of him. So the believer does not do this to another believer when it is meant to hurt somebody. And fact never once did the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam crack a joke at the expense of somebody make fun of somebody to make them feel bad never once did he do a hidden gesture or a wink of the eye that was meant to poke you know somebody else's feelings as we said, there's a big difference
between laughing with people and laughing at people and if the sarcasm is self deprecating, or with somebody whom you know, we're gonna laugh back at you and whatnot, inshallah Tada this is permissible and if it is done to hurt somebody's feelings or to make them you know, on the spot, then it goes against the prophetic example and it betrays a sense of our own superiority, it indicates that we feel we have an ego what not and therefore, it is not something that should be done and ALLAH SubhanA wa Taala knows best and with that we come to the conclusion of today's q&a and inshallah we will continue back to our regular lengthy q&a shallow toilet next week is our
common locker. Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.
Mean.
A levena woofie sala de him for Sharon. What levena umani love we weren't born when Lavina Zeca differ I do. Wallasey now, only 4g him have you hone in
Why do you
get a man?
Now homeboy, you Malou me