Ramadan 2022 – The Manners of The Believers #25 – Being Dignified & Respectable

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Spill Al hamdu lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah early he will behave woman who Allahabad. Today's holder of the characteristics of the believers is one that is easy to understand but difficult to give examples for. And it is a whole lot that the Quran praises and in fact says is from Allah subhanho wa taala. It is the whole of of being dignified. It's a difficult concept to give examples for but the Arabic word is haber or Waqar or Sakeena or Morula. All of these concepts the believer exudes a sense of dignity, a sense of respectability. Allah subhana wa Taala commands us in the Quran. Wala attempt she fell out of the Mara ha. In Nicola and Rachael out of the world

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and Tableau elgiva Allah Tala don't walk pompously on Earth, don't walk in a manner that's not befitting. Then Allah azza wa jal says if you walk in this manner, it's not as if you're going to carve a hole into the ground or going to compete with the stars or the skies. In other words, put yourself in your place. Don't be pompous and arrogant, walk in a respectable manner. And Allah says in the Quran, speaking from the tug of war command, that Allah says that Waldmann soltec That Lokmanya tells his son, that Don't lower your voice when you speak, in Ankara, Swati la Sotol hmil. The most obnoxious type of speech is the speech of the donkeys. So when you speak, don't raise or

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lower your voice too much speak in a dignified manner. Don't speak like the donkey. What is the point here? The point here is that the movement or the believer exudes a self of respectability, dignity, the believer does not act in a manner that is unbecoming. And in fact, even during the rituals, especially doing the rituals, we do not do things that go against Sakina and wakad. Once the Prophet system was praying, and some of the Sahaba Kemmel came late, and when he went to to the core, there was a commotion in the background. People were running quickly to get to the salah. When the Prophet says and finished the salah. He said Hadith in Bukhari Muslim, and we should all know

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this hadith. He said, Oh people are they can be Sakina tea well Waqar, I command you to have peace and dignity wakad You must have dignity when you are coming to the salah if the Imam has already started, then walk with dignity I they can be Sakina will walk or Don't run. Don't rush as if you're doing a marathon run. It's not befitting and what you catch pray with the Imam and what you have missed make up afterwards. And still to this day, when we go into court we hear people rushing from the back this is not from the Sunnah. It goes against the Sunnah of dignity even for the salah you don't run no there's a dignity that you come to in Hajj as well. One of the prophets Assam was on

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his camel from out of fat tune was deliver and people began rushing to Mr. Oliver our profit system said a Yohannes a Sakina Sakina he made a motion with his hand oh people tranquility This is not the way we act. This is not the way we have even in a Baghdad we don't go crazy, right? There's the respectability a Sakina a Sakina by the way, if you've ever done hedge from out of fat tumors that if Allah protect us Allah and was done, that is the most chaotic time. It's literally like a mad rush a sprint as if people don't follow this hadith uh Sakina Sakina. And the Allah azza wa jal criticizes the opposite is in the Quran multiple times the concept of Safa or acting foolishly or

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the concept of being arrogant. All of this goes against the etiquette of the Shediac. Now the question arises, oh, I can also add here very quickly, the concept of Sakina it is a very common Quranic motif, and Allah links it to his blessing. Allah says that I sent down Sakina to the believers

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It's a blessing from Allah to act in a dignified manner, especially during times of chaos, especially when people are losing their minds and you show respectability, you show tranquility, Allah says this is my Sakina coming down. So for example, even in Hatha Hara when Abu Bakr and the Prophet system were there, Allah Allah azza wa jal says for Anza Allah who said ki Netta, who Allah sent His Sakina down and combo Buchan and the Prophet system down when it came to the Bay of Ridhwan. When it came to the oath of allegiance, Allah azza wa jal says in the Quran, that Allah knows what was in the global movement in Allah has seen if you buy your own data sheduled it for it

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Mr. Matthew autobill Momineen for unzila Sakina to Allah him, Allah sent this Akina when people were getting worried people were becoming chaotic. Allah sent tranquillity down upon all of you. It's a blessing from Allah, the Sahaba acted in a Sakina manner in the conquest of Makkah, when once again, it was razor sharp, what would have happened? There might have been a massacre in Makkah, there might have been the Muslims might have killed a lot of people legitimately so but Allah didn't want that they had the right to do so. Allah did not want that. So Allah says in the Quran is a Jalaluddin, a Kaffir Rufio Ruby who will heavy yet heavy yet tell Jaya Helia when the people of

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gopher when they were becoming even more riling up the anger and they had the old Hemi Yeah, Hermia here means the riling up the antagonism based on tribalism homea we can call it racism that we are this we are correct we are this and that this is me. Yeah. So Allah says when the Quraysh were getting more and more worked up, What did Allah do to the Muslims for unzer Allahu Sakeena, to who Allah Rasool the wild, meaning Allah brought you calm. Otherwise, Allah said, you could have caused a lot of innocent people being killed and we didn't want that in Makkah, so Allah protected the Muslims by granting them Sakina point being we aim for that Sakina we strive to be dignified, we

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strive to be tranquil to exude a sense of dignity, a sense of self respect. Now, I said it's easy to understand the concept is difficult to give examples. Why so because what constitutes respectability? What constitutes dignity, some of it is based in the Sharia. And some of it varies from culture to culture. This is why it becomes a little bit awkward. Some of it is Sharia based. So for example, you know, we are not allowed to use vulgar words we are honest, you know, we are contemplative, all of the Halacha gave in the last two or 27 days. That is the Sharia, but some of it is cultural. How we express dignity. It's not the same in every single culture. So are scholars

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say dignity Sakina wakad Haber, it is shown in number one, speech, number two demeanor and actions, how you act in public. And number three, even how you dress now, speech, demeanor and actions. These are culturally based, isn't it right? One word might be considered a curse word unwelcome culture, the exact same word is respectable than another culture. It's a culture of a sting. One word might be too harsh in one culture, and it is acceptable in another culture. I traveled from England to America all the time. And sometimes I say a word and my audience says no, that's considered too rude in British Standards, for example, it happens whereas in America, you can say it in front of

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children. They don't think it's a big deal. Slight differences happen between cultures in this regard, how much more so when we have a diverse world. Another example for example, Sakina comes and what color what color comes in how you dress, our profits are some were dressed in a respectable, dignified manner. He never addressed shabbily, he dressed in a dignified Now this does vary. What does it mean to dress in a dignified manner? It will change from culture to culture, isn't it right? It is not sooner if no claim says clearly, it is not sooner to dress like the seventh century outcomes. That's not sooner. The sooner he said is to dress according to the dignity of your

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culture. As long as the Shediac is met, this is the Sunnah and a man came to the Prophet system. And he had holes and patches and very shabbily dressed, the prophet system said to him, also and so do you have some money, some wealth? He said, Yes, I have gold and silver, and I have flocks of animals and I have this and that. The prophets have said listen to this. Allah loves to see the effects of his blessings on his servant. If Allah has blessed you don't dress like this. It's not from the sunnah to dress shabbily, but it is also not from the sunnah to dress exorbitantly, you see where it becomes cultural right? There is a fine line between dignity and between flashiness. We don't dress

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flashy, we dress with dignity. Now again, this is culturally sensitive, and it will vary from land to land. So for example, a shout to be the great scholar from Morocco or is in Morocco is in North Africa. Underoos

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He's not from Morocco. He's from Andalus, the grace color from North Africa and Underoos, sharp TV rights 700 something years ago, he says, He's talking about respectability. He's talking about dignity. And he says dress, and he says dress varies from east to west. So he gives the example I'm not making this up, by the way, in the east, he's talking from Spain, under us in the east, it is respectable for the Muslims to have their hair covered. So they should have their hair covered. Then he says here in the West, and he means underdose 700 years ago, here in the West, we don't cover our hair. So it is respectable to have the hair uncovered. He writes the 700 years ago Subhan Allah so

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we still have this tension to this day, we have audience from all over the world, they see me speak like this. They say, How can a person give a lecture in a masjid and the hair is uncovered right? Stop for Allah, how it opposite of Allah. This is a cultural thing. Frankly, I'm being honest, saying I have a whole lecture about this, by the way, as well. It's not sunnah, in my estimation, to dress according to seventh century out of dress. The Sunnah is to dress with dignity. Now we're going to have some tension who gets to define what is dignified, especially in the modern cultures of the Muslims of America where we have 50 Mashallah nation states coming together in this masjid,

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we have diversity that does not exist in any Muslim Masjid in the Middle East or Pakistan or India correct. The diversity we have here in this one Masjid does not exist in lands back home. So who's going to define what is respectable? We're gonna have to have a little bit of discussion back and forth. So when it comes to examples, I agree it's difficult to sometimes pinpoint, but the concept should be clear to all of us and that concept is the believer does not draw undue attention to oneself by acting in a manner that is unbefitting unbecoming by acting in a manner that is blameworthy or criticizing people are going to look at you and say, doesn't have any shame doesn't

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have any, you know, sense of dignity. We don't walk or talk or act or dress in that manner. Rather, we exude a sense of Sakina we exude a sense of Waqar of haber of dignity, such that when people see us interact with us, our a HELOC will speak volumes. And by the way, this is something every culture understands. So generally speaking, you know, respected elders respected politicians, the way they carry themselves, right. It is different than the way let's say actors or comedians carry themselves, isn't it right? This is the concept we're talking about. And in our Shediac This concept has been enshrined that the movement brings positive attention, not negative attention, walk us

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through the famous Shika Waldman soltec Walk in a good manner that is in the Quran, and speak in a way that is not very loud or harsh, because the worst speech is that of the donkey. So bottom line, Allah azza wa jal wants us to be dignified. And the prophets ism embodies that dignity. How do we learn and teach this and how do we embody it? Two simple points. Number one, study the Sierra the entire life is a life of dignity. And number two, interact with an associate with people of Allah and Iman, when you interact with them, it will rub off on you and when you interact with people that don't have any man the opposite will run off rub off on you so be with the people of Accra be with

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the people of dignity and Sakina and you will see how such people are May Allah subhana wa Tada make us amongst them and inshallah we'll continue tomorrow with Santa Monica

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