Shaykh Yasir Qadhi elaborates on the dangers of idle talk and how to protect one’s tongue as referenced in verse 63 of Surah Al-Furqan.
The importance of guiding the tongue against vain talk is illustrated in the fact that it is a sign of believers. The Prophet ﷺ warned against the dangers of vain talk. When the tongue is involved in sin, it demonstrates the filth of the heart.
Things to avoid with your tongue:
- We should leave anything that is not our business – gossiping
- To mention something negative about a person in his absence – backbiting
- Slander
- Lying
- Vulgarities and curse words
The Bible and media contain negative language, causing embarrassment and distraction. The speakers stress the importance of avoiding negative language and keeping track of calendars, as well as controlling one's penchant for evil language. The use of the tongue in media and behavior is emphasized, along with the goal of improving character and reducing mistakes. The importance of keeping one's penchant in check is also emphasized.
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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah Allah Allah He Asahi woman voila my bed.
Today we began our cetacean with the beautiful vs. At the end of sorbitol four on the describes the
believers were about the Romani lady named shoedazzle out of the hohner the servants of a man or
those who walk humbly on this earth, and then the second characteristic what either half of whom
will die He Luna callooh Salama, when the ignorant people address them, their speech in return is to
say send them peace. And in the same series of verses a few verses later, Allah azza wa jal says of
the characteristics way the Maru biLlahi Maru kerama when they pass by vain talk, idle talk, they
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pass by indignity, they do not get involved in idle talk. Yesterday we recited the beginning of me
noon, or the after the helmet me noon, alladhina homefield salata him harsh your own. And the second
characteristic will levena whom I didn't know who the more you learn, the believers are successful,
those who are humble and and who assure in their prayers, and those who turn away from vain talk. So
notice turning away from idle talk turning away from vain talk is a key characteristic of the
righteous and the believers and Allah subhana wa tada mentions in the Quran and our prophets of
Allahu Allah He was setting them stresses the importance of guarding the tongue from vain talk from
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idle talk level is a term that means that which is of no use that which is of no value. So Allah
subhana wa tada says, the believers are those who do not engage in low, their tongues do not get
involved in that which will bring them harm, or even that which is of no use to them. Our Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Whoever guarantees me two things, I guarantee him paradise. They
said, what he said, what is between his cheeks, and what is between his legs, meaning the private
organ and the tongue. These two organs are the main cause of destruction amongst people. And that is
what they say, and the desires that they follow. Whoever guarantees me these two organs that they
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are within their Sharia, I guarantee him in response that they will go to Paradise and our Prophet
salallahu it he was seldom warned about the dangers of the tongue. why they've been Jebel said, O
Messenger of Allah. Will Allah give us a hisab of what we speak, even our speech will be accounted
for on Judgement Day, and our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam responded, whoa to you, oh, my
God, and what other reason is there that people will be dragged on their faces into jahannam, except
for what their tongues have harvested for what their tongues have sown, and they will then face the
repercussions of their tongues. Brothers and sisters, our scholars have said the tongue is a direct
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window to the heart, when the tongue is bad, when the tongue is filthy. When the tongue is involved
in sin, it is automatically demonstrating that the heart is a heart of sin. And when the tongue is
good, and the tongue is pure, and the tongue avoids the level, then the heart as well will avoid the
level what are some of the main things we should avoid? Some things we should avoid? Number one is
that which is of no concern to us, our Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, of the perfection of one's
man, is that you leave that which is not your business. So the first thing we avoid with our tongues
is to talk about the gossip and the rumors and the innuendos that unfortunately, some segments of
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society love to thrive on none of your business, don't get involved, and keep up your tongue. Number
two, and gossip always leads to number two. Number two, is to mention something negative about
another person, when he's not there, ie backbiting, to talk about other people. So when you're
sitting in a gathering, make sure the topic of conversation never wanders to a person who's an
acquaintance or friend whom you know, but it's not sitting in that gathering. Unless you praise the
person, you may praise somebody behind their back, but you may not mention anything negative that
the person would not like to be told in his absence. And by the way, as it is well known. backbiting
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means you are telling the truth, but behind the person's back, you're not lying, because if you're
lying, this is the third sin and that is slander and lying, which is a separate category than
backbiting. backbiting, is to mention something that is meant to make fun of to ridicule to put
somebody down to embarrass somebody that is backbiting you're mentioning a tidbit of gossip. That
might be true.
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But you are saying it so that people can gossip and tattletale behind somebody's back that is
backbiting, if you add to this lying about the person, this leads us to category four, and that is
slander and lying and our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, I warn you about lying for lying
leads to food to blatant evil. And somebody asked the Prophet sallallahu I sent him Can Can a
believer be this can a believer be that and they mentioned many things. Can I believe you'd be a
coward? And the process of Yes, it's possible maybe the moment is a coward? Can the believer utter a
lie? Can the believer be a kozub? And the prophets have said no, the movement is not a cadaver.
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Perhaps some believers are cowards. Perhaps some believers are weak, but the Mothman cannot be a
cadet. So he negated a man from the one who is the habitual liar and the last point will mention and
again much more can be said but time is limited. The last point will mention that we should purify
our tongues from his vulgarities and curse words via language using language that is considered to
be filthy or demeaning. Our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that Allah does not love the
the Fidesz and the bezzie the one who uses vulgarities The one who is busy crude terminologies, our
prophets SLM said of the signs of a hypocrite is that when he gets angry, he uses vulgar language,
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it is not befitting that the believer altar obscenities unfortunately it has become common in our
younger generation. They think it is cool to be using these words. But the fact of the matter is it
is not befitting the dignity of a believer that such vulgarities come from our mouths. Brothers and
sisters, I want to link this topic directly to this month. One of the main goals of fasting is to
control the tongue. And we learned this explicitly from the Hadith that our Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam said that when one of you is fasting, and then somebody comes and irritates him,
curses him, slanders him, gets him angry, do not respond back except by saying Aloma in the saw him
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Alabama in the sign. In other words, one of the main goals of this month is to control our tongues.
And that's why we're all monitoring our tongues, throwing throughout these 30 days. So the point is,
when this month finishes, we should then maintain, we should sustain the purity of the tongue, we
have to develop a better character about our tongue. A man came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam, and said O Messenger of Allah, what do you fear the most he held on to his tongue? And he
said had this is what I fear the most. If this is our Prophet system, how about us? Another man came
and said, O Messenger of Allah, what is the way to be saved my sibulan a job How do I save myself?
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The Prophet sallallahu I sent him said, I'm sick Allah Kali Sonic Hold your tongue. Keep your tongue
in check, and be happy with your house. Meaning Don't be greedy for more and more. Be content with
what you have and cry over your sins. That is the way you will be saved. So number one, he said keep
your tongue in check. And then be content with what you have and then be regretful for your sins,
you will be safe and indeed brothers and sisters, if you think about it, how much volume is done by
the tongue? How much Riba how much Mima how much gossip how much problems come when we say things
and our scholars have said that the tongue damage is more than an instrument than even the knife
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because the wound of the knife heals. But the wound that comes from the tongue sometimes never
heals, how many relationships have been broken, how many marriages have been destroyed because of
the stupidity and the foolishness that the tongue alters and then it regrets but once it comes out,
it can never come back again. Brothers and sisters, the way to be saved when it comes to the the
dangers of the tongue. Number one, remember my yellow field human colon Illa de hiraki bonati. Not a
single word comes from his mouth, except that there are angels that are ever vigilant and they are
ever monitoring. Remember this be conscious of it. Number two, our scholars have said is that one of
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the ways you can prevent problems of the tongue is to not speak when you're angry. Our Prophet
system told us when you're angry, be quiet, do not speak. Don't speak when you're angry. Wait till
you calm down so that you can think before you speak. And then number three, and the final thing
we'll mention of the ways we can control our tongue is to increase the use of the tongue in good.
Our scholars have said the one who constantly does the good, automatically protects his tongue. The
one who's always remembering Allah subhana wa Taala automatically protects the tongue from falling
into evil May Allah subhana wa tada guide us all to say only that which is good and to utilize our
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tongue and that which is beneficial, was said on Monday. Kumara masala he will barakato