The conversation covers the negative impacts of marriage on society, including physical and mental trauma, lack of desire for a union, and negative emotions. The speakers emphasize the importance of privacy and the need for a reason for union, while also acknowledging the negative impacts of marriage on society, including anxiety and negative emotions. They also mention hedging and the use of soda in the Middle East and the legal system used in the United States. The conversation ends with a brief advertisement for a photo of a child.
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hamdulillah Isla is niram
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Al Hamdulillah Al Hamdulillah Camden Kathy
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de la salatu salam ala rasulillah Allah He will be one word I am about certain inshallah tada we
will be doing the next in our series of our mothers. And we are now on soda Binti xmr. So they've
been de xmr with the sukoon on the meme, and some of the earlier authority said with a Fatah on the
meme. So we have so the Binti xmr versus soda, Binti Zima are both of these have been narrated, and
she is our mother who has married right after her death so that she is number two. And that's what
we're doing in this order. So So that'll be a lot more on how she was one of the early oroshi
converts to Islam. And as I had already mentioned, the majority of our mothers, they were from the
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Arabs, as we know. And there were a number of them amongst the whorish. And so there was amongst the
orange, and of her tribe, she's from the tribe of Bananarama, who ate one of the smaller tribes and
from that tribe as well, there are a number of prominent companions. So though the law one ha, she
was married to one of the earliest converts as well because again, they're both early converts. And
her husband's name is a sucker on an amateur. You would not know of him because he died early in
this era. But you know his brothers So hey, live an amateur the famous Sohail that did the Treaty of
her day be the one who in the process of said, Oh, this is Sohail Salam Alaikum. This was so high in
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so so hails brother was a Quran. And this was the husband of Saudi Arabia, la Juana and the both of
them a saccharin and soda had migrated to Abyssinia. They had at least one son there, Abdullah,
there's not much mentioned about him in the Sierra books, whether he lived or died. We don't know
much about him, maybe even she had other children, but most likely that was the only son from that
union and a soccer on passed away, either in Habesha or according to him inside he returned back to
Medina and passed away right after Habesha. So essentially, his date of death is at the end of the
habit period either in Habesha or as soon as they return to MCC. And so so that all the lohana was
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left as a widow with no one to care for her. It is also mentioned by avonside that in Abyssinia, so
that had seen a dream that her husband interpreted that this is going to mean that the Prophet says
will eventually marry her and that he is going to die. So there are these narrations but these are
broken chains. So Allah azza wa jal knows best. When did this marriage take place between so the and
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the more common narration mentions that it took place in
Ramadan of the 10th year, which basically means after the death of Khadija by a few days, okay, so
that's one opinion and it is the more common one that is mentioned in the books. Now, if this is
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true, then we must then read in that the circumstances of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam dictated
that he married somebody immediately and we can understand why he has three daughters at home, there
is no one to take care and there is an urgent need for he cannot remain home all day and not do the
affairs that he needs to do. So if that is the case, then it makes complete sense that within a week
or two after the death of Khadija rhodiola, Juana that he married soda, however, there is another
opinion that I find more reasonable because there are narrations that support it. And that is that
the marriage takes place in the ledger of the 10th year. So that's three, three and a half months.
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And this is more reasonable because generally speaking, and in knowing what we know about the status
of Khadija, and anytime a loved one dies, it's not easy to recover immediately, it takes a while
anybody you don't just immediately go and get married, even though if he had done it, it makes
complete sense. So there's no problem per se with this. But there are reports as I'm going to
mention that seem to indicate the marriage takes place in the ledger of the 10th year, and that
would give three three and a half months before the death of Khadija, between the death of Khadija
and the marriage of soda. How did this take place the marriage, the marriage was suggested by
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another famous Sahabi whose name comes up in the theater over and over again.
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And maybe even I'll give a lecture about her because she was a very, she had she comes up all the
time. She was the matchmaker in this case, and that is how well I've been to Hakeem how well I've
been to Hakeem, and how Allah was married to another famous companion, who again is mentioned many
times
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In this era, but I didn't mention his story, because he also died in early Islam. So there's not
much we have about him even though his name is very famous. And that is earthman. Eben mother own
sort of mind Eben Muldoon was the one of the earliest converts. He was famous in early Islam for his
asceticism is always a bother His job is his head Jude, so much so Earth might have been magoun has
the famous Hadith where he asked the Prophet system to castrate himself. He didn't want he wanted to
leave marriage he wanted to leave, and he wanted to live like a hermit and the process of said there
is no castration in Islam. This is recommended bin Muldoon, his wife is how I've been to Hakeem. And
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she also has mentioned in the serum many, many times, many ahaadeeth are about however, from how
Allah and she's plays a prominent role in Makkah and Medina, according to the reports, how Allah
visited the house of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam after the death of Khadija, and she
said the out of solo law, you appear to be withdrawn all alone, you appear to be basically grieving
the death of Khadija. And he said, Yes, she was the mother of my children. She was the caretaker of
my house, meaning I don't have a companion Yes. What how Allah is doing is she's testing the waters,
she's seeing that is it too early to bring up another wife or not? So she's kind of testing the
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waters. So she's saying, Yeah, Rasulullah you seem at a loss, you seem alone, you seem in grief,
what is the response going to be? And he opens up? He says, Yes, I am. Basically, I'm lonely. So
then how well it says, So should I not offer you a proposal? Shouldn't I give somebody for you? that
I have in mind. So he said, Who do you have in mind? So she said, Well, if you want an unmarried
lady, are you sure is ideal? And if you want a widowed lady then so that is ideal. Okay, so how it
brings up two names. Now as for Ayesha, we're going to come to her inshallah next lecture. So we're
going to start the story of that and how well it might have been a catalyst, but Ayesha had already
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been decreed by Allah in a dream, the process of salsa, that's something we'll talk about, as well.
So once Howard mentions these two names, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam allows her to go to
Saudi Ayesha at this stage is too young. And even if the niqab takes place around this timeframe, he
did not live with OSHA until many years later in Medina. So he says to Howard, go to soda and see if
sodas interested, go to soda and see if she is interested. So how Allah goes to soda, and she rushes
into her house, and she says, see what Allah has given you have blessings. In other words, let me
give you glad tidings, Allah has blessed you. And so this says, how what happened, and she said, The
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Prophet sallallahu Sallam has sent me to ask for your hand clicks, but he has sent me to ask for
your hand. So so the said, and again, you have both of these narrations. They're very similar, but
one only one can be true. The first one says go to my father and see what he says. So according to
this report, the father is alive. And the next report the Father has died. So and again, the point
being realized these stories are being narrated by the next generation, the minor details you kind
of mess up it's understand it's human nature, you don't remember either her father or another
relative as we will see, but the point is the same that she says go to my father and mentioned to
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him and this version is in a bin size was one of the earliest books and it seems that at this case,
therefore, if this is true, the marriage takes place. And he as I said, inside mentions the narrator
of inside mentions, and it was during the time of Hajj, and her father was elderly and he hadn't
gone for the hygiene was at home. So now we see is the time of Hajj. Okay, so her father's at home
because in MK everybody goes and does Hajj. So maka, you know, even today in this day, most of the
people of MCI just go to autopilot and come back and that's basically it for them, you know, so they
go and do hij but her father had not gone because he was elderly. So he, however, enters in and says
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that I greeted him with the greetings of Jamelia. He wasn't a Muslim. And I said that Mohammed
Abdullah Hebner Abdulmutallab. They have to mention the nessa because that's the main point of the
Arab and it is a high NASA has asked for your daughter's hand. So he responded that he is a noble
match. What did my daughter say means I know you're coming from a room. What did my daughter say?
She said she approves of it. So once he confirmed what so did the Father xmr confirm with soda. He
then invited the processor to his house and then the guy takes place right then and there. And the
Mahood was 400 Durham's 400 did hums. And by the way, I was asked this is a famous had eaten body,
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how much was the amount of the profits of Allahu Allah he was selling them and she said
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said the famous Hadith his body and Muslim, she said his manhood was always she uses a term that you
know they had 12 or a year and a half 12.5 or a year 12.5 oltenia and 12.5 or pa is basically around
500 data humps, they have their calculations in the past. Now we don't even know how much is it did
hum in our time did hum is basically a certain quantity of grams of of silver did Hamza silver
denote as gold, and dyrham is basically in the silver. And if you calculate it out, which I did,
too, according to today's prices,
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12.5 oltenia works out to be less than $300 that's a very, very modest amount, okay, because
remember, silver is very cheap compared to gold. Now, most likely 12.5 opia in their time was
probably more than what we consider $300 but not like 3000 The point is, it's like a maybe maybe I'm
just saying maybe like $1,000 800 or something like we would consider an hour You know, timeframe
that it's
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a decent gift but it is not a fortune. Okay, it's a good amount but it is not by any stretch a large
amount you can't you know, pay your monthly years or you know rent from from that amount. It's a
decent amount, but it is not extravagant, so he gifted. So the 400 Durham's, and then he said it was
increased to 500 from the later wise This is his first wife after Khadija so maybe was a little bit
lower after that. The general rule was that it was 500 did hums. And according to insides report,
once the nikka took takes place, then so does brother have been Zuma returned from hedge. And he was
at that time a pagan. And when he found out that his sister had married the Prophet sallallahu
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alayhi wa sallam, he took sand on his head and threw it that's what the outer was used to do, as a
sign of distress. And Woe to me, Woe to me, like now my brother in law is the Prophet hirsutum.
Later on at the conquest of Makkah, he accepted Islam, have they been Zuma? And he said, How foolish
was I? The day that I threw sand on myself. When the Prophet says I'm married my sister soda, how
foolish how stupid I was, that I'm getting irritated that my brother in law is the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Now, this narration seems very clear, therefore that the niqab takes
place, basically, the season of Hajj, so Abbot is doing Hajj the Father has is not doing Hajj. Now,
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as I said, there is another report as well that the father had passed away and another you know,
distant relative health it had been our did the Nika on her behalf and the point is minor The point
is that there must be a Willie and so somebody was the Wali. Now how old was soda, all the books
that I have read have not even mentioned even in passing all the classics that I was able to read,
maybe there are some that haven't gotten access to, but they could not find I could not find
anything about her age at all. However, we do know that she is the eldest wife of the Prophet system
in Medina. She is the eldest in terms of age in Medina, and we're going to come back to this point,
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you know, later on. So we can assume that her ages roughly similar to the process of maybe a little
bit younger, a little bit older, but she's not somebody in her 30s or 20s. Okay, at this stage, the
process is 50 years old. And so so there is going to be around that maybe late 40s or something of
this age. So she is of the eldest in terms of age, actually, she is the oldest wife of the process
in terms of age, and we're going to see this in Medina. Also, she is the only way that the
processing lived within MK after hadiza. There is no other wife Ayesha, as we know, he lived with
her only in Medina, even though the nikka takes place in Makkah, but the marriage only actually
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begins formerly in Medina, she lives with her only in Medina, so it is only soda that the Prophet
sallallahu wasallam lives with for another year and a half to two years before the hedgerow between
the death of Khadija and between the hedgerow. At the hegira time before the process of migrated, he
commanded zedi been had etha and one of his servants abort off on Sati. And this abort off here was
one of the earliest servants of the process. And in fact, he wasn't belonging to the Profit System.
He was actually belonging to Hamza or another of the uncles of the process him and when he accepted
Islam, he was freed. And so he volunteered to be a servant to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam and his
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name comes up in a number of a hadith as a freed slave. So Zaid, and we all know Zayed and abort off
here. were put in charge of taking the family of the process of them on the hijra before the
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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So, a few weeks before or a week before the process of
migrates, he sends his family and obviously in the family is who it is Sodor. Who else is going to
be in this batch? Quickly, guys very quickly Who else? All of the daughters that are not married.
Very good. Okay, so Fatima Makoto, who else is going to be in this batch of the family.
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No, Ali, no Ali stays in the bed. It stays in the bed. No, who else?
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You know the name you all know the name.
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Osama very good, but for some reason, alone, the baby is going to be alone.
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Oh man, amen. Amen. Amen. Right. So all of these are basically the entourage that is now going to
Medina before the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. So, so the amico film Fatima. Amen. Zainab.
Basically, the women of the household there are being protected by zayde, obviously, and abordar
fair. And they go to Medina before the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Now begins the Medina and
phase. And we really only have a few tidbits, as we will see throughout all of the wives of the
process and stories. And this is a private house, you know, what are we going to who's going to tell
us what's going on? We just have vague things here and there. And we extrapolate from this inside
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reports that soda would make the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam laugh with her speech, she was
a jokester, she was somebody who was had a sense of humor, okay, so she would say things to make the
profitsystem laugh. And he gives one example. And that is that once she had maybe like a runny nose
or something, you know, some type of fever or whatever, not fever, but you know, some nasal issue.
And so they were praying and she was behind the profitsystem. And then she kind of like jokingly
complains about how long the process is on record. You know, it's like she were in record so long, I
had to put my hands on my nose to prevent it from bleeding your record too long. So the inside says
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to the process and laughed at that. So she has that streak of you know, humor, and you know,
playfulness and just fullness that you know, is something that is healthy in any relationship. And
she is mentioned in a future edition throughout the Sierra. And so her name comes up throughout the
series. Some of these are fixed. Some of these are interesting theological issues and some of these
are basic incidents from the era of the more famous incidents and I mentioned this in passing when
we did the bottle of butter is that so that is narrating in the first person. She says that one out
came back home after the Battle of butter. The prisoners had already been distributed. And Suhail,
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Eben amor was brought to my house, and the profitsystem was in my house. Now who is Sohail? So Haley
is her brother in law ex back in the day, not ex I mean, her previous husband's brother, right?
Okay, so this is a Sakura, we said stick around even Ammar his brother is suhaila. Bynum. Remember,
we said the Quran was his first was her first husband. And second brother is so Haley been hammered.
So she has a lot of history with so he knows to hail, you know, from at least 1520 years and they're
part of the household back then it was not. So she said I came home. And I saw so Haley and Amber in
my house, meaning the processor in his house, tied up with his hands at his neck as a prisoner of
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war. Okay. And she says that
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this was before the rules of hijab, so she's not wearing hijab, and they recognize each other and
he's talking to her This is Oh, no, remember, this is brother who job comes in the fourth and fifth
year of the hedgerow. And she says, As soon as I saw him, I swear, I didn't even realize what I'm
saying. And I just blurted out, yeah, about your seat. That's the cornea there. They know each other
very well. Their brother in law. Yeah, by your seat. You surrendered yourself like this. Why didn't
you die a noble death rather than ended up like this.
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So she sees a nobleman. Sohail is a nobleman. So he is a diplomat. So it is an MP. He's in the
Congress, right? He's in dato najwa. And he plays a prominent role, as we know, throughout the
Sierra, and the Battle of the Treaty of Arabia, we know and in the conquest of Makkah, as well. So
suhaila is a very prominent person. And when so the sees this famous politician, a noble politician,
basically humiliated, right? Things stir in her She doesn't even realize this is her people now,
right? She goes back to a phase that accidentally not intentionally, she says, I didn't even realize
I just saw him like this. And without even realizing what I'm saying, because rather than become a
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prisoner, you would have died on the battle and you have a glorious death. Okay, so she just blurts
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Rather than surrender like this, why didn't you die like men on the battlefield? And I only came to
my senses. When I heard the prophecies from from the other corner of the room. She didn't even
notice that the process was sitting there. Like she just sees the prisoner. And that's it. And I
heard the profitsystem say, from the other side of the room, yes, soda. And then the Arabic is very
cryptic and it basically missile expanded that you're saying this taking sides against Allah and His
Messenger, like what you are saying is on the wrong side. Okay, this is Iman and Cofer. This isn't
yahaya. Now, this is Eman and Cofer. And she realized what she had said. So she said Dr. rasulillah,
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I swear by the one who has sent you with the truth. I wasn't thinking and I didn't control my I
wasn't able to control myself when I saw him in this state. And I said what I said, in other words,
she excused and this shows us that when statements of you know, even statements of blasphemy, by the
way, even statements of Cofer when they are uttered unintentionally not that this is itself a
Schofield but obviously the meaning is not positive, obviously. Right. But not that this in and of
itself a schoolroom saying, even when statements of gopher are uttered, unintentionally, then they
will not be counted as gopher, when you don't intend to say them. And they simply are blurted out,
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and this is proven. And the famous headhunted me and others were the profitsystem gave the famous
example of the man about to die, and he thinks he's gonna starve and die when his camel gets lost.
And then, when he's about to die of starvation and thirst, he sees his camel with all of his water.
And he jumps up, and he just blurts out that, oh, Allah, I am your Rob, and you are my Abbot. And
even the prophets are sort of said that he became delirious because of his happiness. Because he was
so happy. He just blurted it out, even the process of made an excuse for him, that he's not thinking
he's just like saying things, he doesn't actually mean to say that. So this incident shows us that
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or not, I mean, it's a very profound incident that so that is our mother, she is married to the
process of them. But still, sometimes you slip into a phase that is not something you're thinking
consciously about. And you might do or say something. And that's why we have so many instances that,
for example, it'd been Massoud said that if you see a bad omen, okay, if you see a bad omen, and
they had their bad omens, who amongst us can protect our hearts from that, but don't act on it. So
even Massoud is saying, you see something that your culture has ingrained in you is bad. So then
when you see it immediately, your heart is gonna think something that is wrong. And we don't believe
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in omens, we don't believe in superstitions, but don't act upon it, just ignore it and go on. So
these statements are not counted and they are forgiven. And that's why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam did not call her to task for that. And of the famous incidents of soda as well. And this
is something again mentioned in many books of Tafseer and Hadith.
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It is that Allah subhana wa, tada revealed the verses of hijab because of her. And this is something
that Omar rhodiola, one would always take pride in, because Omar was the one who prompted this rumor
of the Allahu and would tell the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam that you're rasulillah Why don't
you tell your wives to take a veil.
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Because evil people and good people, they both come in, they should be covered. But nothing
happened. So one day the report goes. So they exited at night, to go relieve herself. And we learned
from other reports that in those days, there were no restrooms inside the house. And so women would
wait until the evening. And then they would go in groups. And there was a particular place that was
known basically to be the public restroom area. And so they would go and they will relieve and then
come back. And we learned this as well in the incident of Arusha and the slander that she was
walking with a minister and then coming back so the women would do that, that they would go and come
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back together. And they would typically try to go at night as well to cover themselves even more.
So. So that was walking outside at night. And
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the narrations mentioned, she was a tall and large lady. And this is mentioned in other reports as
we're going to come to as well. So she was basically bulky, and omorrow. The Allahu anhu said when
he saw her, he sold the cutout of Nike. I have recognized you even if you want to come out at night
I can recognize you, meaning you should not be outside
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So they became very flustered and angry. She rushed back to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
and complained that Omar is basically interfering and add this Allah subhana wa tada revealed in the
Quran Surah Al Azhar verse 53, and of them is that phrase way that sell to more hoonah Metatron
first aluna min wore a hijab, when you're going to ask them anything then ask them from behind the
hijab. And then the Prophet sallallahu I said, I'm also said that Allah has allowed you to leave
your houses for a need, Allah has allowed you to leave your houses for a need. Now, this incident
has many people confused in later on, and that is because this ayah is not talking about the hijab
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meaning the covering of the hair, because I have said multiple times for those that are attending
the other classes that I give. The Quranic hijab is not our modern hijab.
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Our modern hijab does ladies that were quote, unquote, hijab.
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This is not the organic terminology. The Quranic terminology.
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Really that a lot of the lie xojo says, Yeah, even though we'll call it as logic of unethical what
does that mean to you the Nina la hinnom Angela bebe hin, okay, that they should draw their veils
over there themselves. And Allah says, well, y'all the dooby dooby homodyne Hina either drew up him
and let them draw their way Mars over their chests. So the Quran uses the term kaymar and jilbab and
kaymar is the headcovering and this is what we now call hijab. The Quran did not call it hijab, the
quran quran called him out. So the timeout is what we call the headscarf. This I had already come
down and so there was already wearing the headscarf. She's already covered, but her shape betrays
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her.
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And that's why Omar says because of her shape, Omar says, we recognize you Oh soda, or Omar wanted
her to literally not even have a shape in public, let's say. And so Allah subhanho wa Taala
partially agreed not fully, because the process that I'm said to so that you may go if you need to
leave the house, you can leave the house, but Allah did reveal an extra layer of protection only for
our mothers. And this the Koran calls hijab. Okay, so the Quranic term hijab, is essentially a veil,
a curtain that is above and beyond the hijab that we were the women of our times were the a mode
that they were, and the point being that
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the wives of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam should strive that even their outer bodies not be shown,
even the shape of their bodies not be shown as minimal as possible. That was the point of the verse
of a job. And therefore when you hear this phrase, his job was only for the wives of the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. This is Kadima to help the reader be harbottle it is a valid statement
which intends something invalid because the progressives and modernists who say it, they want to say
that the Quran does not mandate hijab on the ladies. And what they mean by hijab is the hammar. And
the response is, Allah did not mandate a curtain amongst regular ladies. But Allah did mandate the
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covering of the hair amongst the ladies and that's explicit in the Quran. So, Romano de la Juan
Peron prompted the revelation of this extra layer. Now, this incident will roundly be condemned by
many in our times, especially those that are on the feminist streak, as we know, and this is going
to be how dare a man tell a woman what she should be wearing or not wearing. And this is definitely
a very,
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very detailed and sensitive topic. And I don't have time to get into all of this now. But I want to
just point out here, so there was irritated.
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If our mother was irritated, and hurt human is where it is, then what do you think of the women of
our times? wouldn't they be irritated?
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Let's be fair and honest here. Okay. also realize that aroma is Romer, who amongst us is like Roma.
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also realize that time and place is very different.
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So we need to be cognizant that the times that we live in the people that we are the women that
we're talking to both the men and the women, the man has totally changed the culture has totally
changed. And really and honestly, it is simply not wise for a man to go around commenting on how
other women dress or don't dress. It's always going to backfire inevitably, mind your own business
and your family's business. This is the safest thing to do. And yes, you
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generic talks. People like myself have to give generic talks, we have to explain the truth. But even
I, myself if I see a particular Muslim on the street, it's not the best hikma and the time that we
live in to do what they love and who did. It's not wise, being very honest here. Because humans have
changed, my mind is different, their mind is different times have changed. So there is an element of
truth to the irritation, that is felt. And yes, to be brutally honest, there's an element that is
untrue, because in the end of the day, believing men and believing women are supposed to advise and
admonish one another. My only point is that all men advise other men just stick to amongst the same
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gender, don't worry about other gender. Okay, keep your advice to the same gender. let other women
who know that sister, especially when she comes to the Minister, or whatnot, the fact that she's
coming is a big deal at Hamdulillah, she doesn't have to come in this culture and environment. So
the point is, don't take this incident, I have to go into this disclaimer, because we do live in
very, very different times. And to be honest, here, I I'm trying to be in the middle here, there's
an element of truth, I understand the frustration. And I fully sympathize with that, because a lot
of times men don't mind their own business. At the same time, truth be told, the other side is also
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wrong, because there is an element of commanding good and forbidding evil. Nonetheless, as our
scholars said, When commanding the good or forbidding the evil will result in a worse harm than
don't do it. And I would venture that the society we live in, in the times we live in, for pretty
much any man to talk to any woman about how they dress is going to result in more harm, perhaps even
physical harm. So just yet, it may be not wise to do that anymore. Mind your own business and your
family's business. Yes, your family, of course you are responsible for and remember, so that goes
back to the Prophet system, she wants to validate with him. And he has the final authority. And he's
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the one that says, Allah has allowed you to go for your needs. So the validation came from him in
the end of the day, because she has to go back to him not only as your solar system, but in this
case as your husband as well. So there is that element there that you know the other name, you know,
more liberal camp cannot to get her on. But anyway, that is a side point altogether, the point being
as well that so there'll be a lot more and she's one of the you know, her story comes as being the
one who is involved in the legislation of a job, another very famous incident involving soda, and is
famous in the books of filter not famous in the book. So Sierra is mentioned in almost every book of
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lecture of hedge is that so that are the laquanda
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gives us the fifth of most Delica household are inherited many years later, how I wish that I had
asked the Prophet Sall Allahu Allah, he was sending them for permission, like soda had asked. She
was asked What do you mean? So she said, soda was a large and slow lady.
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Okay, and she was also elderly, by the way, so all of this put together. Okay, so she was stature
wise, large, and she was slow walking, and I should in this, it doesn't hit it. But we know she was
elderly as well. So she's walking very slow. So she asked permission from the Prophet salallahu
alayhi wasallam, to depart most Delica before everyone else. So the Prophet system gave her that
permission. And as for me, I stayed, and I left with the people. As for her, she prayed fidget in
Minar and she's stoned before everybody else don't.
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So this incident
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tells us a very important film a point that we mentioned every single year during the fifth of Hajj
and whatnot. And that is that the remaining the night in whose Delica
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it is permissible for a person who has any need whatsoever to leave before the middle of the night.
okay or not before they say that the the fixes basically half of the night, then they should leave.
Okay. So half the night they stand in was elfa. And then they can leave for a minute. Now. So does
excuse is not life threatening. It's not about ooda. It's not an emergency. It's in Arabic, we call
the hajer. It is a need. I walk slow. If I walk with the rest of the people, they're going to leave
me behind and I'm going to be in the back. I don't want to do that. I'm going to get into the rush
for the you know, Minar I don't want to have to have the the crowds. Let me get there before
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everybody else. And I'll just do the jumbotron. And I'll be done with it's not a life threatening,
you know, medical emergency it is
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a need. And the process of them said Go ahead, go and go. And so she went with her entourage. And
she did the Rami before anybody reached Mina. Now our scholars say in our times that the need for 3
million her judge is
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Essentially everybody has to take shifts to do Minar and so those that go early in the middle of the
night and sha Allah to Allah it is just for them is specially if they are sick, or an elderly person
or you know, fever or something, then there is no how to whatsoever. And even if they just want to
miss the crowd, well then soda as well wanted to miss the crowd. And that's one of the reasons as
well, so many of our scholars and I'm definitely one of them after having done so many hedge is very
easy to be strict when you read the books and you don't live the life, okay? It's very easy to have
hardcore opinions when you don't see the results of those hardcore opinions. When you've done Hajj
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as many times and whatnot. And you see the reality and you've almost been killed in stampedes. And
you've seen others being killed. And then you just realize you know what, Philip is not meant to
that you die and had you don't need to die as Joshua, he then had to make things easy for the
people. And this head this is simple Hadith that shows that so at the height of very small excuse,
and the President said Go for it. Well, we also have a very small excuse and that is to avoid the
the crowds and all that nonetheless, to be honest, no doubt the sooner is to spend the night and was
that if I'm not going to change that that is this one. But if anybody has the slightest excuse, I
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always tell my groups all the time that follow the son of soda that the processor himself gave to
soda if you have an elderly a child a sick anything Halas do what So did we learn it from soda? So
this is another very important benefit from soda rhodiola who also have the ahadith mentioning soda
rhodiola Juana is a very interesting hadith of Arusha.
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That will lead us to the very big discussion about so the that is one of the main things about her
rhodiola Juana and this hadith is a Muslim, that
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this hadith is as I say, Bahati excuse me This one is a type Bahati that our Isha said that some of
the whys of the process and were with him. And they said to him, one day old messenger Willow, which
one of us will be the first to meet you after you die? Who is going to die first after you?
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So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, the one that has the longest hand out while you
could not yet and so he said, we took a string. And we began measuring who has the longest hand.
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And remember, so there was the tallest and the biggest of them. So it turned out to be Sodor has the
longest hand amongst all of us. So that has the longest hand. So we so we thought it would be her
now follows here. The head Ethan Bahati. This is one of those heads that has been criticized, very
few people have been criticized is one of them. There seems to be an error in the narration. I don't
want to go into this whole detail. Just FYI. This version of Bahati seems to suggest that so that
died first.
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Even hedger comments on this, and he says that it is strange that Bahati chose this version when
there was an error by one of the narrators, because other versions mentioned that Zane that was the
one that died, not soda, soda has the longest hand. Who was the first to die? Xena after the
processor, right. So anyway, just FYI, advanced heady stuff. So if you go to the Hades and Mohali
realized that there is an error from one of the narrators. And it seems as if, in this version, it
seems as if I was saying, so this hands was the longest and she was the first to meet the process of
No, that's not what happened. So this hand was the longest but who was the first to meet the process
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of them?
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Zane up and then I should says, so then we realize the meaning of the longest hand was the most
sadhaka giving.
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Okay, because then that was the most sort of forgiving, that's what I'm gonna get. And then we
realized that so when we measured the hand, so does the longest, but then so that is not the first
to die. So when it turned out to be zeynab, we understood that the meaning of ultra lacunae, then
the one who gives the most solder cup, and Zane that was the one that gave the most sadaqa. And so
this is interesting. How do you think about the playfulness of the whys of the process and how they
understood his idea and what he actually meant. Another point about soda again narrated by I should
have the last one. How is that this Heidi has assigned Muslim that our issue said there was no lady
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whom I would rather be like? The Arabic says I'd rather be in her skin, which means I'd rather be
her then so they've been teasing, meaning in terms of maturity and wisdom, like our issue is
praising soda, like the lady that I admired for wisdom and maturity and
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The end of the day, she is the eldest of the senior most right. So there's no lady that I would
rather have been in terms of again, wisdom, then. So the Binti xmr. And then she has an interesting
phrase, and against the panel, this is human nature, even if she had a harsh nature. So I was saying
a time, she might have been a little bit strict, but again, realize there's a big age gap between
them. And a lot of times, you know, an elderly person might not have the patience with the younger.
So keep this in mind, this is your reporting. You know, we don't get this from any other narration,
and maybe any, so they might have had a little bit of harshness, maybe the age gap is, what, 40
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years, you know, what not, and so, yeah, and this is understandable as well, that Ayesha has this
interesting phrase here that she was a little bit strict, but maybe only without issue, she was
strict, and Allah knows best, you know, this is the case. And then when she became old, this is our
issue speaking, when she became old, she gifted her day, you know, to Russia to me, and she said,
You have a pseudo law, I will gift you my day, and give it to our Asia.
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So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would give our Isha two days, the one day that was hers.
And the other day that had been gifted by so the to her.
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Okay, so in the end of the life of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when he passed away,
there were nine wires as we know. And so I sure would have two days, and the others put together
would have seven days, so I should have the two days now, this issue of Sodor gifting her day to our
issue is mentioned, obviously, in every book of Hadith, and filth, and whatnot. But once again, the
details of why are mentioned in somewhat contradictory ways. And because I'm trying to be fully
transparent and tell you everything directly. So I'm going to mention basically all of these
versions, and then hamdulillah. In this particular case, Alhamdulillah. Looking from a Hadeeth
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perspective, the version that is more palatable is the more authentic one, okay, sometimes it's the
other way around, and it becomes awkward, in this case, Alhamdulillah. The more politically correct
version is actually the more authentic one. But I want to tell you, the more awkward versions, even
if they're weak, so that you know they exist, so that you are aware that these are found in our
traditions. So the most awkward version, the most bizarre version, to be honest, and it is a weak
version. So that allowed the chain is broken, and there's a weak guy in it. So double, two things
strike out. But it is the most bizarre and it's mentioned in by half day, which is a tertiary book,
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it's a classical book, but it's not one of the major ones. It mentions that the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam actually divorced soda. So the divorce has taken place. And soda, then waited for
the Prophet sallallahu. I sell them on the streets of Medina. And when she saw him pass, she held on
to him, and basically said Yasuda law, take me back, and I'll give my data Asia. So he took her
back. Okay, now that really is bizarre. And
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there are issues without even going into, it's pretty obvious there are issues with that one
hamdulillah we say two mistakes, there's firstly it is a broken chain. Secondly, there's a person in
there whose memory is really weak. So we can say this is a messed up garbled version of the
original. Now there is a another version a little bit more authentic, but still one missing link.
And that is that
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it is reported that the Profit System was thinking of divorcing soda.
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And so that then prompted this offer. And so there was no more thinking. So this version is there.
It is slightly better than the first one, but it is motorcyle. And morsel is the smallest form of
weakness, which basically means one missing link. Okay, but it is still missing hamdulillah there is
an authentic version that is the cleanest of all and the most politically correct hamdulillah that's
not always the case. And when that happens, I will mention those ones as well. And the most
authentic version is straight from urban Ibis. And it is in sunanda Timothy, so we have the highest
book so no Timothy, I mean, you know, the six books and whatnot. So if an Ibis said so I was worried
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that the process of would divorce her.
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And so she negotiated with him. So in this case, it is so the who is thinking, not the professor.
And in this case, she's the one making an assumption is not coming from the Prophet salallahu alayhi
wasallam. So she's the one worried that the process might divorce me. And so she's the one that says
Yasuda law. Don't divorce me keep me and I will give my day to Asia and
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This basically then means that for whatever reason, this is taking place, we don't know exactly
when. But this would roughly be between the fourth and the seventh year of the hedgerow. So we're
talking about a time when
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the process of is married Arusha and hafsa. And Zainab, and maybe even, you know, mamoon, and others
so, so the being an elderly lady, she's feeling that maybe the processor might be thinking, it's not
we don't have anything explicit from him. We don't have anything explicit that he actually is doing.
But maybe so that is feeling this. And so she becomes worried. And she basically, you know, jumps
the gun in this regard. In one version, it has an interesting phrase, which again, makes sense. She
said, the auto sort of law, I have no desire for a man, meaning I'm at an age now we're I don't need
companionship, but I desire to be resurrected with you as your wife. So take my day and take it with
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Ayesha. So this narration maybe clarifies as well, that she has reached an elderly age and she's
saying out of sutala, I don't need what your younger wives need. I don't need the companionship, you
take my day, and give it to Arusha. And this also shows and we're going to come to this next week,
the the the love that the President had for action, everybody knew this. And so so the realizes that
what is going to make the process of the happiest and that is to give that day to Arusha. And this
incident as well, is mentioned in the Tafseer of basically almost all the classical series when it
comes to the verse in the Quran. Surah Nisa, verse 128 where Allah subhana wa tada says, what and
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what Archon Horford mean badly hannu shoes and are all been Fela Juna, highly Hema and usili have
been a Houma. Sudha was so high. Okay, so this is sort of the Nisa, verse 128. look this up, it is
every Tafseer mentions so the doing this, in relation to this verse, some have said this verse was
revealed because of soda as well. Okay? And so what is the verse say, when in beratan, half admin
ballyhale new shoes and oh era robot, if a lady fears from her husband, a harshness or a turning
away, if a lady fears that her husband might let her go or something, then there is no problem on
the two of them to negotiate a treaty a solid,
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to negotiate a compromise was so high, and negotiating to remain in harmony is better than divorce
was so little higher. So this is mentioned in the context of soda and is obvious why that? soda felt
that now whether this was true or not, we do not know. It could be her imagination. Or To be honest,
I mean, to be fair, maybe Allah knows, maybe we don't know the truth, maybe there was something
Allah knows best. But so the felt that and it's explicit, I just want to be your wife at all. So
it'll be resurrected with to engender, that's what I need. So keep me with you. And take your day,
take the day and I'll gift it. This also shows that a wife has the right to
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concede her right, that she might otherwise have, okay. And this leads to the very, very awkward
issue of fear Coach Al Hamdulillah. We're not having a fifth class. But I need all of these
different types of marriages that are taking place in some lands called What is it misciagna and
these other marriages and whatnot. These are very, very emotional and difficult issues. But those
that justify those marriages, they use soda and others and the Koran here that basically, if the
wife agrees to give up her book, then that's her prerogative. And that's a very emotional issue. And
it's not ideal. There's no question at the same time. If a lady agrees, then a lady agrees, then
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what can you How can you get involved and of course, the problem comes and this is true, generally
speaking, is the lady who ends up compromising, not the man, generally speaking, is the lady who
ends up suffering more than the man. This is the reality and that's why it becomes emotional but
Hello, Mr. Nothing I can do about you know about that, making this how Tom basically then means that
the lady has nobody maybe in her life rather than So again, this is a very difficult issue, and
Allah knows best what is to be done about this, nonetheless, soda
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did something. And that sets a precedent for any lady in a similar situation that if she feels that
to remain in a marriage and give up some of her rights is better than the alternative. Then she has
the prerogative to do that. Okay.
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And the same can be said the other way around. By the way, the husband can also negotiate. And if
the both of them agree, then they agree. Okay, that's the reality of our religion that we are
allowed to make these agreements. And if they don't agree, then they go their separate ways. So, so
do laquanda at some point in the Medina and phase most likely in the fourth year or fifth year of
the Hydra, she basically gave her Knights to Asia of the lohana. And so the profitsystem would spend
more time with I shouldn't with the other wives. There is no direct story about soda
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that I could find other than a few incidents that's related overall to her and her family of them is
the Hadith in Sahih body that deals with her family, not her but it is interesting, I will mention
it. And that is that this is a very bizarre story. So bear with me. So I mentioned
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that robot even Abby will cost this hadith is insoluble hottie, the brother of Saudi Navy will cause
and rutabaga died pagan and non Muslim. So what was the non Muslim side is, you know, one of the 10
side that maybe will cost right, so Raja had told his brother, sad, even Abby will cos that the
child born to Zuma,
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or sorry, Zuma, the father of the father of so they've been through Zuma. The child born to Zuma
from his slave girl is actually my child.
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Meaning
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something illegitimate has happened. Okay, so that child is our blood, so you take care of it.
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So far, so clear. Are you ready to go over that again?
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So does father Zima had a slave girl?
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Okay. And rutabaga. These are this is in the days of Julia. Rosa is saying, that child that she gave
birth to doesn't belong to Him. It belongs to me. This is something illegal taking place immoral.
And he is saying it's my blood. So I want you all brother to take that child and raise it is my
blood. Okay. So in the conquest of Makkah,
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roozbeh, sorry, side, side, side, saw the child and hugged the child and said, This is my blood
means my brother's son. Okay, my brother's son.
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And my brother told me that I have to take the child and raise it. So he took the child.
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I've even Zima so this brother then went and took the child and said, No, this is my father's
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boy. And so He is my brother. And he was born in my house.
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So they had a dispute between them. And so they came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Now
they're all Muslims. Zuma has accepted Islam side to side. Okay, they're almost the conquest of
Mecca. And so sides riada Sula, LA, this is the son of my brother. And my brother told me that it is
his son.
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And I've been zoom said that your rasulillah This is my brother. And he was born to my father and
his Born on his bed, meaning in my household. And so I tried to renegotiate said jasola look at the
boy and they said the boy look just like the Father. So the physically the boy exactly looks like
sides family. Okay, so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam said that Hadith is in Bahati. It's a
very famous Hadith It is one of the most famous ideas about the chapter of marriage that he said
that. Yeah, I
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have this the brother of is the son of Mr.
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Ahluwalia. doolin frosh. Wala Harry alhaja This is a very famous Hadith alajuela Doolittle feroce
this is every book of every chapter of marriage. This is the number one Hadith that starts with
Allah Wallah. dulal feroce and it deals not with soda but with your family. Okay, so this father and
whatnot. So it deals with this incident Allahu Allah doolin Siraj, what does it mean and what a
doodle for Rosh, the baby will be ascribed to the bed. The bed here means the marriage or the house
means that if a child was born
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in a marital situation, we don't look at rumors. We don't look at what others are saying. The child
belongs to the house. The bed means the marriage and what a doodle Ferrara
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We don't look at any other rumors here. Now there's only one exception will protect all of us. And
that is one, the Father Himself negates. And then there's the Leon has the only exception. Nobody
else has that right. Now, please don't ask me about DNA and whatnot. These are modern fatawa. And I
alone cannot give this photo we need counsels to do that and whatnot. And I know many scholars who
are very,
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they're worried about the rise of these DNA tests and whatnot, because it does change the dynamics
and whatnot is a very difficult situation. And so don't ask me any photos about that. But from a
filter perspective, the child is ascribed to the marriage it was born in what he called hedger. And
the one who commits Zina shall be stoned to death meaning the married person who shall be stoned to
death. So this hadith is a famous Hadith that and what a doodle feroce. And it was said, in the
context of sodas Father, what happened in his situation? So he said, Yeah, the child is yours,
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meaning you raise the child as your brother, and we're going to see and one had the soda herself
mentioned the story as well, when we get to the end of our lecture today, inshallah Tada. So finish
up very quickly here. So of the things mentioned, is that after the death of the Prophet sallallahu,
Alayhi, wasallam. So they lived a very, very simple and frugal life. And she would always distribute
her money that Omar would gift her It is said that the first time the money came, she said, What is
this, because I might have put it in a nice pouch, and you know, presented it in that. So what is
this, so it was said, this is your share of you know, the, the you know, because armor was giving
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salaries, as you know, are endowments to all of the Sahaba. And the highest rank was the debate. So
she gets a large amount. And so, so that told her slave girl to go distribute it immediately. So
right then and there, all the money was distributed to the football. So she lived a very simple
life. And so there was one of the two of our mothers who, when permission was given for them to do
Hajj. During the life of Earth mando de la one permission was given Finally, were a number of them
were saying less wanted to do how's your wants to hedge eventually, in one particular year, all of
the wise who that were alive at the time, were given permission to go on to special entourage for
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hedge. And this was basically the year of our issues that before the actual incident as well, it
took place, because from there, she never returned. And she then went on. So in that year, most of
the wives that were alive, went and performed Hajj, other than to two wives refuse to do that. And
so the and Xena were those two, they refuse to do that. Why? Because there's a hadith reported in
son, Timothy and Buddha and others, that the Prophet system said to his wife when they did the
hedge, because obviously, so they did hedge this weather editor Mozilla, when they did hide the
profits of them said, how the hill hedges this hedge. And then after this, you will stay on the rug
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as of the houses.
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This phrase was interpreted by soda and Zainab to mean that after this time, you shall never leave
the house. And so they never left the house, literally. And the other mothers of ours, they
interpreted and other way and they went and did hedge so so the decided not to do hedge even when
the opportunity was given to her and she remained in her house. And she did not get involved in any
of the political affairs and the issues of the later times and the incidence of Malia and Ali and
earthman. She remained completely aloof from all of them. She was just engaged in worship and the
legendary Bada, and she passed away, according to the correct opinion in the philosophy of Moscow.
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We're in the year 54 hedger, one of the late wife. So she lived a very long life may be 90 years
old, we don't know the date. Remember, we don't know when she was born. But she was one of the last
not the last one of the last two to die. And she was buried in a lot of code. And one opinion says
that she died early on in the life of Omar. And this opinion is based on the misunderstanding of the
hadith of Ayesha and Bahati when she said the long hand and the first to die was so that I said
that's a mistake from one of the narrators that's not the correct version. So the correct version is
so that did not die first. In fact, she lived all the way till the time of muawiya rhodiola one and
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so that has one Hadith in Sahih, Bahati and two or three other ideas in the book so and Muslim Imam
Ahmed, I will quickly do for you there three hadith of so that there's only three hadith of soda,
and this is in volume number 45, which is the very last volume of the actual Muslim even though I
met the next five volumes, by the ways 50 volumes, this book. The next five volumes are indexes and
references, so five volumes of indexes. This is the last volume of the book of Hadith and the way
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Women's heaviest are in this volume. Okay and that is why so there is in this volume. So all of the
women's are had the other in the last volume basically. And so there is in this volume and she has
three Hadith reported, one of them is inside a body and that one I will mention as well. So the
first Hadith so they've been the Zoomer I said a man came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam, and said that all messenger of Allah, my father is old and cannot do the Hajj.
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Should I do Hajj for him?
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So the famous Hadith My father is old and cannot do Hajj. So the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam
said, let me ask you, if your father had a debt,
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and you paid his debt on his behalf, would anybody accepted from you would people accept it? He
said, Yes. If I gave it on his behalf, yes. So the Prophet system said, Then Allah azza wa jal is
even more merciful, you do Hajj on behalf of your father. So if the people will accept you giving
your father's debt, definitely Allah will accept it as well go and do Hajj on your father's behalf.
Okay. This is a famous Hadith that all of you have heard in various forms, and it is so de who is
hearing this and hedge that a man comes and says my father's too old to do Hajj. The next Hadith
which is reported inside Bahati, and sorry, Muslim, it is a very famous simple Hadith that, again,
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is used in the books of Philip, that so the said that a sheep of ours died in the time of the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And so we took its skin, and we basically tanned the skin, and
then we continue to use that skin until it withered away until it was basically beyond use. Now,
what is the point of this Hadith, it goes back to the issue of filk. And that is the tanning of
skins that are not just
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because she said, the animal died, not that it was slaughtered, the animal died when the animal
dies, then it is presumed to be nudges.
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But the Hadeeth is very clear. And that is why
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the majority of scholars not all of them, actually there's a healthy controversy and some of them I
say that you have to slaughter the animal to use its skin. And if you don't slaughter the animal,
then this skin is is how long that's the minority opinion. The three months I have not for the three
months, and the vast majority of scholars and definitely the correct opinion is that the skin of the
animal does not have to be thought here before you get it you can take the skin of a dead animal and
then use that to tan it and then use it but then the controversy then occurs what animals can be
done. And that is Mashallah sabbatical of opinion that we don't have time to get into there are nine
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opinions about this literally no exaggeration, and no need to get into all those various opinions.
Can you use pigs can can use crocodiles and alligators Can you can you although these are various
things, but without a doubt, inshallah, tada, you can use cow and sheep and camel and any types of
domesticated animals that you purchase in the marketplace. It doesn't have to be Zabihullah to use
the leather, the leather can be anything. And this hadith proves it. She said we had a sheep that
died. And we took the skin and the time of the process. And we turned it and we used it until it was
beyond use. So this clearly indicates therefore this is the heavy that is used the famous books a
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fifth, that tanning the skin of a pure animal versus tiny the skin of an impure animal like a pig.
That's where the controversy occurs. Pure animal, pretty much the vast majority of focal hop. In our
times there is no difference of opinion once upon a time there was everybody says it is the
controversy only occurs when it comes to animals like the pig and crocodile and others and that's
beyond the scope of our class right now. The final 100 that we're going to do, goes back to the
incident I just mentioned, there's only three Hadith and that is that is that. So the said that I
came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and said that
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my father has died xmr Matt and he has left a slave girl whom we would accuse of Xena with another
man, you guys following whom we would accuse with Xena with another man. And when the child came
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when the child came
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he looked like the man that we would accuse him of. We would accuse her of
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We accused her of her. Okay, so we asked the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam. about that.
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He said, As for you also the wear the hijab in front of him, for he is not your brother,
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but he shall inherit from your father.
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Go figure.
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Can anybody explain this?
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It's actually pretty straightforward.
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Anybody?
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Yes.
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Xena does not break the ties of kinship.
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This is would be the opposite. She is not your brother.
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And that sense
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kanji for the father but then the point is, sister.
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Yeah, this is the same person, the same story. The slave girl gave birth to the kid. So the process
of says to soda, as for you wear the hijab in front of me, he's not your brother, but he's going to
inherit from your father.
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Okay.
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How is the non Mahara? One? So?
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No, no, this was the this was a lady clearly. The the father was supposed to be summer. The father
was supposed to be summer. That's the whole point. This isn't a previous No, this is?
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Well, no, if you if you legally say the child is not the father's, then the child is not going to
take the Father, you are getting the holder held at hammer to shake on typography.
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Very, very good. Basically, that's where we're heading with this.
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But
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so, so go ahead what it was
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that
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he deserved to be.
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I like that good attempt is good.
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Excellent point. I'll add this to the next lecture. It was a good one. But I want to say the main
thing was is basically as follows the law is the law. But you have the right to take reasonable
precautions that are not legal.
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In other words, here's the point.
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Is it? Is it wajib that the lady has to uncover her hair in front of her brother? Or is it her
prerogative? His her choice? Right? If she wants to mean she can be very awkward and wear hijab
front of her brother, right? She can.
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But legally, is the child going to be considered legally to be the father his son? Yes, he's gonna
get inheritance. But you're my wife so that I don't want you to appear in front of him. We all know.
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And I know he might be saying, as every one of you mentioned, he might be saying as well, maybe
that's very valid, as there are soon he might say, I know he's not your brother. Right. But I cannot
judge outwardly on this. Because the law is the law.
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So that's why it's a very interesting phrase. And I really think we should explain this. And that's
why I went over this in detail that asked for you also the you wear the hijab, he's not your
brother, but he's going to inherit from your father.
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So this shows is that at times, you know, there's something called the law and then there's
something called taqwa and what are and just being extra pious. Okay, you following the law is one
thing, but you're allowed to be a little bit stricter if you want to be for yourself. And that's, by
the way, there's many instruments, many of the famous odema would give fatwas that they themselves
would think is mcru, who are very bad to do but they'd given for the people go ahead and do it. And
one famous narration about hanifa when he was much stricter than a fatwa he gave he said, that is
the first word. This is my duck, wah, famous thing that he would say that that's the first word for
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the people. This is my duck quad that I have. So this is basically the concept here, that the law
will not change. And this is, by the way, an important point.
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In books of Phil mentioned this, and that is that suppose the judge knows by other reasons that the
client is guilty. But the evidence that he has in front of him, doesn't show that is he allowed to
act upon his knowledge? And by and large, they say no, because you're going to open up a very big
deal. And this hadith proves it. This Hadith proves it. The Prophet system knows. Now how does he
know most likely it is ye from Allah, he knows that this child is not your brother. But he doesn't.
The verdict is clear on whether to rush, he has to set the law here. So it's a very deep principle
that the law is going to be upheld. And the spirit of the law is different than the letter of the
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law. The letter says he is the child go ahead. But in this case, this child is we know not to be
your biological brother. So you're not going to treat him like one even if he has the rights of the
Father. Okay, so this is an interesting Hadith. And with this, we conclude with the story of so
they've been through summer, and the shallows are the next lesson, we will begin with the multiple
lectures and I shall have the lohana that's going to be our longest in a series are the mothers
because obviously the most information is about how I should have the love on any quick questions
about so though we are Bismillah.
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So the day here means the night and day, the day here means the night and day. And
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that is that the profitsystem would visit all of the wires during the day as our issue said
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that he would go to all of the wives visiting them without touching them until he would go to the
wife whose night it was to spend. And that will be the last one he would visit in that round. So
daily, he would visit his wives. So in that daily, he would visit soda as well. But the spending of
the night that so they had gifted that was something that then Arusha took over. Okay, this is what
it means. Okay, yes, good.
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What letters can be used?
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What did they use them for?
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We said there's nine opinions about this one. There's a you're asking me, what is the opinion? I
follow? Is that what you're asking?
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I don't think there is a default.
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I don't think there is a default in this country. They use all kinds of leather.
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So there is no default. You need to look yourself which one it is.
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And the luxury items always mentioned the type of leather, because they consider it a mark of
luxury. And generally speaking, cow leather is considered to be the most luxurious, generally
speaking, especially you know, they they get it from new countries here and there. So you will
always be able to get the source of the leather, you can ask. In any case, you see my humble
position is that
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I don't want to say this too much any longer. mustad you get it? This is the problem. Let's just
leave that aside. Let's leave it aside that you follow whichever method you you're interested in. No
problem is shuttler. But there is no default in terms of whether there is no default. Yes.
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I didn't find much at all about him. Again, these are things and I scratch my head, but then not
everybody played a prominent role. Those that are just living
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under the radar life, we just don't have reports about them. So mama stat, so Yeah, go ahead.
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So the slave was owned by Zuma. So legally, Zuma is the one that can cohabit with her. So legally,
every child born to the slave is going to be some as but there was something going on that a lot of
people knew about. Even so that says we knew we had rumors that, you know, there's another man that
she's seeing. And this is sads. Brother, Rosa, this is in the days of Jamelia, right. This is pre
Islam.
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So when the child comes out, it doesn't look like them. It looks like Rotorua and so so that says,
we used to accuser and the child ends up looking like the guy as well.
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That's the point.
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From soda from sodas father's ama,
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yo means that means that the child shall be considered a part of the marital bed. Because the child
is born in a marital situ, of course, it's a concubine situation, but it's a marital situation.
That's what I mean, and what to do that Farage feroce literally means bed. But the point here is the
marital bed. The point is that there is a marriage, there is a official, you know, relationship. So
any child born in an official relationship is ascribed to that official relationship. Nobody
external has the right to test out only basically, you know, the the Father, you know, has that
prerogative, and that's the Leon issue, which is separate and inshallah Sharla would go ahead. Okay.
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Final question. They're getting late.
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This is the whole controversial issue, would hate divorce without a reason.
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We would like to think no.
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But fix says,
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There doesn't have to be what is a reason? A reason is,
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I mean, in a filthy sense of reason is the marriage isn't working. That's a reason.
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Right? That's the point. So this is where again, we need to be very frank in this regard. But the
good news is, and so this case, there are no such narrations.
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But speaking from a fifth grade perspective, what does it mean? I mean, nobody divorces without no
reason. The reason is, the marriage isn't working. The reason is, I don't want to be in this
relationship. That is the reason that's the least the reason could be much more than this. You know,
it could be physical or emotional trauma, that's much worse, but at the very least is I have no
desire to remain. And that is a reason, isn't it? Right? So from a technical perspective, that is a
legitimate reason and it's a two way street to any the other the masumi, the, the lady from the
unsought she said that out of school of law I have, I have no complaint against my husband, but I
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just can't be his wife and literally this way she's saying he I have no problems with his o'clock
and his Deen the Hadith in Bukhari says this, Yasser Allah I have nothing to, to list against him in
his or his Deen. But, I mean, she basically said, I just can't, you know, be a wife to him, you get
the point. He just can't do it, whatever the reason might be, and sadly enough, one was that it was
like he wasn't a handsome looking man. That's what it was, you know? And so she's saying I am
embarrassed to be with him, basically, right? I don't like it. I want to give my manhood back and
get out. So the President said, Okay, are you going to give them a head back? She goes, I'll give
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more than the matter back. Okay, just let me
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Okay, so the president said no, give them out back and then you get a totally what is the reason
here? She literally says, I don't have a single fault. not worry what Abraham Lincoln, what are the
literally I can't think of a single fault in his HELOC or in his religion.
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Now, what are you going to do? See, here's the point. Marriage is not like I know some of you think
it is not a prison sentence, guys. Okay, some of you might want to think it is it's not any. You
can. No, see careful, okay. We don't want things just read what you're saying here. Okay. You You
can leave. It's not a prison sentence is not a life sentence. Okay. I know, some of you might think
it is not. And it's a two way street. Even if a lady insists on leaving, she's not in jail. So if
she insists on leaving, but the point is, there should be some reason now what is that reason, like
I said, a reason can be I don't want to stay in this relationship, it's giving me anxiety, etc, etc.
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So here's we have to again, be a little bit any
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you have known by now, the, from my lectures that I don't romanticize, you know, the classical
stories, because it's a problem to do that, we actually end up harming ourselves more, you know, the
Sahaba viewed marriage as something very pragmatic, not the way we view it. Not every marriage has
to be the Bollywood, hollywood, hollywood, Nollywood, romance and whatnot. You know, not every
marriage has to be the violins playing and flowers giving, sometimes marriages basically,
convenience is just comes in handy. And if you look at it, that's why the majority of Sahaba were
not single, because they understood marriage to be a utility. It's better to be married than single.
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That's the way they looked at it. Right. And so marriage and divorce was very common.
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And it was better for them. One of our problems is that we look at marriage and divorce in a very
different light. And divorce takes on a stigma and a divorce. He takes on a stigma. And so when that
happens, then hollows go suffer, what can we do? spinsterhood Single Ladies, you know, men marrying
non Muslims or going by Hamas that's going to happen if you're going to raise the bar, you're going
to have a false understanding of marriage right? Then suffer the consequences. What can we do? So I
am very much against this notion of looking at the past and, and cutting off the the politically
incorrect issues and presenting an amount on a silver platter. it harms us. And especially when it
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comes to the Sierra, I've said this many times, if you're not going to hear from me some of the more
controversial stories and you hear them from some guy who wants you to leave the faith, some moated,
who's going to tell you stories, look him in his Hawk says this, and you haven't read it because
I've hidden it from you. Because I think going to show you the more proper version, then you're not
only going to blame me, you're going to blame Islam. You're going to say I can't believe in a
prophet that does this, for example. And I have met Muslims I have met ex Muslims that have told me
point blank, this this this this issue, one of them, some of them being stories from the zero.
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So I have said this many times in my Sierra, maybe if we're living 100 years ago, I would have cut
off here and remove this and presented a rosy picture and make you all feel good and happy. But
because of the internet because of this because of that we don't have that luxury. I would much
rather you hear from me. You know we're gonna get to the story of Zane up and I'm still feeling
awkward right now, how am I going to present to that story, I felt it before it was the most
difficult episode of this year I did in this in this message. And I'm gonna do it again in more
detail with a little bit laugh, but I have to do it. Because if I don't do it, Zainab, if I don't do
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it, you're going to read the other sources.
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And then you're not only going to blame me, shaitaan is going to put doubts in your head. I would
rather hear it from me, and I explained to the best of my ability. And here's the point me
personally, I don't have a problem with this story at all. But the problem comes from the minds of
innocent Muslims who have a perception of the past that is not true. I have never had a problem with
these stories never makes complete sense to me. If anything, it makes me admire and respect the
process of even more as we're going to come to the story. But when people have an incorrect or so
one of the processes, they have an incorrect image. Then they read the story and it doesn't match up
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to their image. They ended up rejecting Islam, and that's a bit dangerous thing. Okay, so your
question wasn't necessarily prompting all of this here. All of this came out but it's always his
fault, isn't it?
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But this needed to be said and inshallah we'll continue shall or the next Wednesday.
