Yasir Qadhi – Islamic Etiquettes on the Death of a Non-Muslim

			So I had a different topic prepared today. But something interesting happened today that I believe
we should derive some benefits from shallow to other. What happened today?
		

			The Queen died.
		

			I posted on Facebook and Twitter. And as I expected a whole slew of comments come forth. And I feel
that it is beneficial, especially for our youth to have some very frank discussions about awkward
topics. Honestly, I think that all too often, we have so much extremes in our home of both sides.
And we are unbuttoned. basato. And we have a lot of people who are trigger happy.
		

			It's as if they're sitting on edge to wait to say something nasty or harsh to other people. Any type
of deviation left to right, and Hollis immediately in any case, so what I'm going to do today Shala
it's not about the Queen, it's about something much broader. It is about how we deal with such
issues. And so it's not just about one specific incident because obviously that's not befitting of,
you know, a masjid talk one person? No, it's about overall. Is there some few key rulings,
theological issues that we need to be aware of? How do we navigate through these types of issues. So
I'm going to begin in sha Allah seven points within right either first point, simply on a note of
		

			history, and I am a minor student of history. I love history, you've heard so many horror stories of
history, I just find it very interesting that this particular Monarch was the longest running
monarch of that dynasty over 70 years. And when she took, you know, the office when she became the
queen until when she passed away, 70 plus years. What that means is that there's really nobody
sitting here in this entire audience, who remembers a world pre Queen Elizabeth. I mean, that is to
me, that's just amazing. pre World War Two, she was born, obviously, she became the queen after
World War Two. But Winston Churchill was in office, Winston Churchill. I mean, to me, it's just
		

			bizarre that you know, somebody like this. And of course, her dynasty, her clan, her family, I mean,
her grandfather, is the grandson of Queen Victoria, every Indian, Pakistani Bengali, Nepali, every
one of you, your heritage is directly linked to Queen Victoria, whether you know it or not, the
Empress of India, the Raj of India, Victoria was the one in whose reign India was conquered. And our
history from that region is intertwined with the history of that country of that of that region. And
Victoria herself, by the way, was the granddaughter of King George the Third, from whom this country
broke away. I mean, that's the same dynasty. It's just to me very historic, whether you like it,
		

			whether you hate it, whether you just learn history, and learn what's going on this dynasty in
particular, and this region in this country has had the most impact. I don't mean that in a positive
way. I don't mean that in a negative way, probably more negative than positive. But in terms of
recent dynasties, no dynasty for the last two or 300 years has had a more impact on our Ummah, than
this one, in terms of what Queen Victoria has done, and India and in terms of the division of the
snowman, World War One and the Sykes picot agreement and the Balfour Declaration and on and on, it's
happened during the reign of this particular dynasty. So we should be aware and it is beneficial to
		

			learn history and we learned the good and the bad and the ugly, and England especially that country
UK, under this dynasty, it achieved its superpower status. I mean when Victoria when India was
conquered when the British I should say entered India was under the Shah Jahan Jehan Geeta forgot
when the British first entered India and the East Trading Company was first founded,
		

			was under who are exempt. So, when when the East India Trading Company first opened up its office in
India, India was meaning the Mughal Indian when we say India, women Mughal India was the number one
GDP superpower in the globe. The Mughal dynasty in particular, was the most powerful dynasty. And on
top of that, you had the Nova hubs as well then the Bobs of Lucknow and other places and Bhopal and
other places. All of these were powerful, rich kingdoms. England was not even in the top 20. UK was
not even in the top 20 And subhanAllah. What happened in 200 years. The Indian dynasties declined,
because England and the East India trade company took it all. And from the riches of the Mughal
		

			dynasty, the United Kingdom and England rose up and even this country America, the riches of this
country were founded on India, you know, the Boston Tea Party, not the modern tea
		

			Probably the original Boston Tea Party, the tea that they overthrew in the ports of Boston was from
India and had on an Indian tea. Our was slim, Yanni and Indian Overall this is our heritage is
linked directly here. So again, whether you like it or hate it, you want to learn history and learn
how we are standing where we're standing today. And as a part of that history, I mean, again, to me,
it's just fascinating, the legacy of this particular model. And again, by fascinating, I don't mean
positive, I simply mean, it's interesting, we learn and we benefit from history. And as with all
powerful dynasties, as with all powerful, you know, entities. The problem comes when you live within
		

			that powerful dynasty you benefit. And when you live outside of it, you don't benefit. So obviously
those that lived within the United Kingdom and those that still live there, those that live within
the borders of this country, which is now the modern superpower. And by the way, again, America, we
should think of it as the I don't like using that harsh term, let's just say the broken away child
of England, right? In reality, it is a continuation of England. What language do we speak it is the
language of the Brits English, right? We broke away from them our heritage and by our I mean us
Americans now because when I say our sometimes I mean US bases. And sometimes when I say I'm both
		

			I'm a Muslim on American, Indian origin, all of this these are all are multiple identities. As
Americans, our heritage is uniquely British. We broke away from this dynasty literally, right. So
anyway, all of this is to underscore the simple reality. There's nothing wrong with learning from
history. That's point number one. Point number two, another thing that I think is worthy of benefit.
And again, this is quite simple, we all know it, but Subhanallah, all the power and the wealth and
the prestige and the money in the world is not going to save you from death or sickness or illness.
You can be the king or the queen. And the angel of death has equal access to you. It doesn't matter
		

			who you are, you shall fall sick, and you shall die. And we know this, but it is able for all of us
Kowloon of sin that cultural moats, and she lived to 90 What six, seven years old, her husband lived
to 99, almost 100 Her husband almost 100 years because they have the best though, but they cannot
escape death. So again, simple lesson number two, nobody can escape death regardless of who they
are, and everyone shall return to their Lord. Point number three. This leads us to the more
interesting and the controversial stuff. Again, we really do have, as I said, some emotional
extremes when it comes to that every single time every time a non Muslim dies, a politician, an
		

			actor, actress and influential person whom the people overall loved. Every time we see the same, you
know, spectrum of reactions, one group of people of our community, they don't care at all about the
religion and they make dua and they consider Oh, he made people laugh. He's gonna go to Janna. Oh,
she did this and that, you know, built a hospital and you know, may Allah forgive her and they make
these types of dramas and whatnot. And then you have the exact opposite extreme in which you dare
say anything of sadness or regret or remorse. You simply say, oh, is going to be a different world
without this person, just something generic, you know, oh, I wrote on Facebook today. It's the
		

			nostalgic era I mean, the entire life that we've all lived has been under this queen we've known
this one queen, whatever you think we're not it's the end of an era and you see some of the comments
you know that come after this stuff but Allah How dare you say that? I didn't say anything except
that it's nostalgia, the end of an era. So we have to think speak very frankly over here that what
exactly should we do when it comes to the death of a non Muslim well against so this is point number
three is going to be divided into subcategories. The first point three a if you like, very clearly
we believe that only Allah decides individuals Heaven and *, this is a matter of our Abida okay,
		

			no one has the right even if a Muslim dies, you say so and so is in Jannah unless Allah has told
you, we can say the Sahaba Walker is a difference in gender the process we can say that but if I'm a
dies, if Zainab dies, if Mustafa dies, our friends and family died, we say in sha Allah, they're
going to gender, we cannot say they are in Jannah. It's not allowed to. Similarly, the worst Kapha
dies in our lifetime. We cannot categorically state he is in jahannam. We can say this evil tyrant
has died. May he be punished the way he deserves? Okay, no problem. You're making dua against him no
problem. But we do not state an individual is going to heaven or *, unless Allah has told us we
		

			may state flounders in jahannam. The Quran says so we may say Abuja *. Abu Lahab isn't Jahannam
Tabata Billa have been water we
		

			They say Abu Lahab and his wife are in jahannam. No problem, but any evil person dies in our times
you may make you know, but do as we say you may make dua against you may wish that evil tyrant is in
jahannam. But you cannot say categorically, this is three a three b You cannot say categorically,
however, you may speak in generalities and you should speak in generalities. This is where a lot of
our youth get confused. If we say evil people are going to jahannam some of our youth say, oh, we
should not be judging. I am not judging individuals. I am speaking in generic truths. I'm not
judging individuals are speaking and generic truths, righteous people will go to Jannah. That's
		

			true, evil people will go to jahannam. That is true. So we speak in generalities. And this is what
the Quran says in the Latina Ahmed huamu, in the Latina Cafaro is speaking in generalities. And we
say the same thing. And one of the problems that we have in our times is that belief and emaan in
theology has become something that people don't care about. And they say, a good person should only
be defined by how he treated other people. And this is where we need to teach our community, our
youth that a good person has two characteristics, good belief and good deeds in Alladhina amanu what
I mean or saw their hat, a good person from our definition, is somebody who first and foremost
		

			corrects his attitude with Allah, and then secondly corrects his attitude with the people and
correcting one's attitude with Allah is believing in Allah submitting to the prophets, this Adam, if
somebody doesn't care about why they were created, if somebody lives an entire life, not thinking
about what they're doing here, then they have wasted, the most important they have neglected the
most important question of their existence, and they shall be held accountable, and they shall be
held liable. How could you not think about why you're here? Why did you should research and think
about who created you? What is the purpose of life? Now we all know, if somebody's never heard of
		

			the faith, if somebody's never exposed the message we all know there might be an excuse on that day
of judgment, yes, but the obligation to search is upon every individual, every human being, must
think about these questions. We as Muslims, we think about them. And from there we know the answers.
The Quran is our hedaya. The process is our Prophet, Allah is our Rob, we believe in heaven and
*, but we're still thinking of the questions. What is the purpose of life, the worship of Allah,
what's going to happen after death, Allah is going to judge us, et cetera, et cetera. If we don't
have the answers outside of Islam, we must search for them. And we firmly believe every sincere
		

			person, sincere person who hears of Islam will be guided to the truth. Now, what if they're not
sincere? What if they don't hear of Islam? All of these things? We're not going to open their
hearts. But we do speak in generics Do we not? We do say those who are sincere shall eventually be
guided. Now, what if they never heard of Islam, perhaps in a pre modern world 100 years ago? What if
we say Allah will judge them on the Day of Judgment we leave with we still don't make dua for or
against them. So this is within point number three, we're talking about this rule as well. Now, we
also talked about this, the issue? Well, let's move on to point number four. Okay, point number
		

			four. So we talked about the theology, that righteous people means those who believe and do good
deeds. Point number four, the Quran is very clear. Those who die without believing in their Creator,
without accepting their prophet, we are not allowed to specifically and by name, make dua for them.
This is very clear. And there is actually no ambiguity from the Quran. And there's also no
difference of opinion amongst all of the mainstream modahaus There is no afterlife in this issue
because the Quran is so clear. In one verse McConnell in Nibi, will Latina Amanu it is not allowed
for the Prophet system or for the believers, and yet so few ruling Mushrikeen that they ask Allah to
		

			forgive them, we should, even if they be close family members, it's very clear, even if it's your
close family members don't say May Allah forgive you after they die. So this is very clear, and
there is no controversy over this issue. Now this does raise questions amongst our youth but why why
can we ask for forgiveness? And we say a number of points firstly, not asking for forgiveness
doesn't mean that perhaps they might not have an excuse on the day of judgment that's between them
and Allah Allah knows their situation. Allah knows whether they never heard of Islam, Allah knows if
they were truly sincere and for example, no Joshi and a simple example now Joshi converted secretly
		

			and nobody knew. And that's why the Prophet system had to make the announcement your brother and the
Joshy has died. Let's pray janazah for him, nobody pray Janaza over the Nigerian his palace, but in
the Joshua was a secret Muslim, right. So what
		

			We say we don't make us the fall. Now, of course, in the Josh use case exception because the process
of new God came and told him, when we say we don't make us therefore, this is not a ruling that he's
going to join them. We already said rule number one who judge rule number two judges, Allah judges,
we don't judge. So not making it. Step four is a FICKY. ruling, not a theological verdict, okay.
Also, we need to understand this point as well, that when we say we're not going to ask forgiveness
for them. This means after they pass away, in this lifetime, when they're alive, one may make dua
for non Muslims who are still alive. May Allah bless you May Allah guide you, may Allah give you all
		

			of this is permissible. So we're only saying once they pass away, we cannot make it still far. And
also, by the way, again, I don't understand personally, why some of our youth are troubled by this,
this person did not believe in Allah. So why would you ask the God he didn't believe him to forgive
him? It doesn't make sense to me. This person didn't believe in the God that you believe in. So why
do you want to ask the God he didn't believe in to forgive him? Let it be. And if he truly believed
in that, God, he shall be forgiven, simple as that. And if he didn't believe well, then that's
between the heat. That's, that's the choice that he made. Now, next point, point number five, this
		

			is technical, I need you to pay attention. Some people who have converted to Islam, they feel that
this is a very callous rule. And they say it's not fair. My mother passed away. And I didn't give
her Dawa. You're saying I can't ask Allah to forgive her. My grandmother raised me and she was a
loving woman and she died in the village back home. She never heard of Islam. You're saying I can't
ask Allah to forgive her. So listen to me carefully. Now. Indeed, you cannot ask Allah to forgive.
That's asking Allah to forgive. But if your relative who was a non Muslim and was righteous and
never heard of Islam passes away. The Quran has a number of verses that indicate listen to this
		

			carefully. You may wish in your heart, Allah forgives, but you cannot ask from the tongue. Very
technical point here. You may hope you may have good assumptions, but you are not allowed to
verbalize. Now what is the evidence for this? A number of verses of them.
		

			Ibrahim alayhis salam.
		

			When he makes dua to Allah to protect the people from worshipping idols, he says, Rob be in Hoonah
Abuelita Kathira minuteness idols have misguided many people. Oh my lord, from Entebbe I need for
inner harmony. Whoever follows me he's from me. Woman now Sani and whoever rejects me or rob
		

			what should you do? What did Ibrahim say? What's the ending of diverse for in Africa for all Raheem?
Woman now Sani whoever disobeyed and does not follow me. If you don't follow Ibrahim in the life of
Ibrahim, you're a Kaffir if you don't follow O'Brien malusare The lifetime Ibrahim you are a Kaffir
Ibrahim did not say Oh ALLAH forgive them. What did he say? For in Nikka la foto Rahim you are afore
and Rahim is this true?
		

			Yes. Did Ibrahim Ali Salam ask Allah to forgive them?
		

			No. So this is the technicality. Another example your isa either his Salam recited his Salam on the
Day of Judgment. When Allah says Teresa, did you tell your followers to worship you on your mother?
This is the ending of my ADA. He says says Subhanak I could never say this. Then he concludes by
saying long paragraph read the end of the paragraph. Listen to this at the ending into a deep home
for in the homoeopathic if you decide to punish these misguided people who worship me. This is shit.
If you punish them, you're Rob they are you're out there or you're created servants. You have the
right. And then what did he say?
		

			What Intel ferula home for Inaka Intel as he's attacking? And if you forgive, then you are the one
full of power and the one full of wisdom. If you forgive, did he ask for forgiveness?
		

			But others did he ask? No. But did he hope that's the difference here? That is the difference here.
Okay. You cannot ask. That's very clear, but a non Muslim, rather I mean a Muslim is non Muslim
relatives or you give them a convert his not his his non Muslim brother, his mother his father would
not we say to this person, take comfort in these verses.
		

			Take comfort in these verses and you may hope and you may aspire. And you may say Allah is lafora
and Rahim Yes, but you cannot say yeah rob my grant
		

			Mother who passed away as a non Muslim, forgive her. No, that's a technical fifth key point. Don't
do that. But theologically, after the wise in your heart, you can be generic sejarah por la foreign
Rahim. And leave it at that. So there is a technical point over this point number five here, point
number six. The other issue that came up again, and all the comments and whatnot. Again, we have
these trigger happy youth that they just I mean, they live in a very difficult, I think cognitive
dissonance, I don't know what to say they're full of anger. They're full of hate of everybody out
there. Somebody who is beloved to millions of people passes away. And it is as if you cannot even
		

			express any generic sadness to do so. According to them, You have betrayed Allah and His Messenger
SubhanAllah. To feel sad at a generic tragedy has nothing to do with al Qaeda. To feel sad, even at
the death of a loved one who's a non Muslim has nothing to you. It's human emotion. Now, I'm not
saying we must feel sad at the death of the individual who died today. No, I'm speaking generics
here. I'm speaking generics to feel sad or happy is a human emotion. It has nothing to do with you
loved, a non Muslim passes away. It's going to hurt you. There's nothing wrong with that you're not
an evil, you know, deviant or somebody if a generic love of somebody makes you feel hurt. On the
		

			contrary, on the contrary, if a person's relationship with a non Muslim is one that is positive,
that is overall good, and that non Muslim dies, what else do you expect, except that there's going
to be pain, there's going to be an emptiness, this person out me this person did this. They're no
longer there. Now, again, I'm not speaking of this particular individual. But some people's
perceptions of this individual might be different than yours. For some people, this individual might
personify certain positive characteristics, certain good qualities, and that person then feel sad,
oh, she has died. Their sadness, don't bring in religion, say you're an evil Muslim. Let them feel
		

			sad. And for other people, this person might personify the evil empire, colonialism, imperialism,
and so they're happy. Okay? Let them be. Don't bring religion into every single issue. A human
emotion is a human emotion. So if somebody feels sad for a worldly reason, no problem. And if
somebody feels happy for a worldly reason, no problem. Don't criminalize or heritor sighs, a Muslim
for an average emotion, no problem in this. So my point being here that to feel happiness or sadness
because of a worldly issue, it is human nature, nothing. And by the way from the Syrah, we learned
that if lamb him honey butter room,
		

			the Romans and the Persians were fighting. They're both Kaffir countries. They're both Kaffir
nations. And the Muslims at the time have nothing to do directly with either superpower, the
Sassanids right and the Byzantines, the Byzantium, the must Muslims and Maccha have no direct
contact with either the Byzantium Empire or the assassin the Empire. Yet that battle became a proxy
war for the Quraysh and the Muslims, and the Quraysh considered the Sassanids to be their team.
Because the Sassanids work fire worshippers or Austrians, so the Quraysh felt more sympathy to them.
And the Muslims automatically took the Byzantium Empire The Byzantines to be their team, because the
		

			Byzantines were Christians and Christians are Allah kitab. And so when and these are both Catholic
countries, when the Byzantium Empire the Byzantine Empire was defeated in that particular battle,
was it 620 Something Heraclius was the emperor.
		

			The Quraysh gloated ah, your team lost I mean, we all know the cricket teams and the weather we all
know how it feels we all know how it feels Been there done that. Well, not me personally, I don't
watch the sports but you all you guys all know I'm talking about right? We all know how we feel when
our team especially when the other team has a country we don't like right. Let's not get into too
specifics here. But y'all get the point here. Okay, very recently as well. Anyway, so I do follow
the news. I don't watch but I follow the news is better suited to the two. So we feel a sense of how
Hamada TMG is going okay. Is that an Islamic guys please mate don't make the religion so difficult
		

			that you turn the average person away from being religious will lie this is my main problem with
fanaticism. I'll be blunt here. It's not the fanatics themselves, let them do what they're doing.
It's the bad name they give to the dean. It's that they make the Dean's so obscure, so impossible
that the average Muslim says man if that's how religious folks are I don't want to be like that.
This is the problem of fanaticism. It's nothing wrong somebody died that person was beloved your
team one whatever you feel a generic happiness don't bring an Akita don't bring in Islam is just a
generic happiness, no big deal or a generic sadness. So it
		

			If a famous person dies, who who impacted you? Right? And you feel a sadness, okay? That's it. Don't
ask for instant fog. Don't bring in Allah Azza wa just say, May Allah forgive, but at the same time,
don't let other people make you feel guilty if there's a generic sadness going on here and again,
		

			so many things can be said here.
		

			For example, the Hadith in Sahih Muslim, when the process was sitting and the famous as you all
know, when did janazah of a Jewish person passed by now in those days, Jews dressed differently than
the unsought and they had their clothes and whatnot, everybody could see is the janazah of a Jewish
person. They're all dressed in their specific for uniforms and whatnot, and the profits are some
stood up.
		

			Because that was the custom of the time just like in our culture, when the Hirth is driving by you
pull your car aside and you let the earth go, is that not the case? Right? There is an adapt that is
given to the deceased in their culture. In the time of Medina, the people would stand up and just
you know, watch the person go by, okay, the prophet that hadith is anti Muslim, the process of them
stood up, and the Sahaba were shocked yada suit Allah Can't you see it's your hoodie? Can't you see
janazah? I mean, you could see but they're trying to make sense of this ya rasool Allah, this
janazah of the Yahudi. And do you know what his response was? Was he not a human?
		

			Was he not a human? Now, our fuqaha say, the ruling of standing for the deceased is abrogated, okay,
fine, let it be abrogated. But the job of showing it to ROM is not abrogated the adab of having some
respect, that is not abrogated. That's an Akita issue here now. And actually, there's never
abrogated the fact that the prophets have said, was he not a human? Wasn't he an insane, okay, he's
not a Muslim, I'm not going to the cupboard and making dua for him. But there's an adage that is
shown when somebody has died in our community, the community is mourning, they would stand up and
show respect to that deceased person in our culture, we can do something similar. And we have
		

			examples when as I said, the earth is going by or you slow the car down or you allow the other cars
to go whatever it might be, there is a level and decorum of respect that is given and our Shediac is
not that, you know, mean or nasty or cruel that we are told to not even show the basics of humanity,
in contrast to some groups who believe this, I strongly disagree and the Sierra is the best example
for this. So point number six here nothing wrong with showing some sadness and giving the respect
that is due and point number seven final point. How about offering constellations, when a non Muslim
passes away? How about making statements of sympathy and what not? The majority of our fuqaha have
		

			said in an Islamic land, when we are the dominant and the 100 of them are the minority. The majority
of scholars said that it is permissible, permissible to give words of comfort to the the mean.
		

			This is when we are endowed with Islam. What do you think when we are not endowed with Islam? And
the mama know we says when the me his child dies or somebody dies of his, you should say to this
person, may Allah give you more wealth and more children? May Allah did not show you any more loss.
If no claim says this is the correct opinion. If no claim some people think these were the harsh but
no actual orlimar are full of humanity and sympathy urban Albanian says that if a non Muslim suffers
a tragedy, loses a child, you should give words of comfort and make generic dua generic da May Allah
give you more children? What's wrong with that? May Allah grant you patients now May Allah bless you
		

			at this time, you may make dua for the living we said this will you make make dua for the living and
even in one reporting my Muhammad was asked and he said this Mr. Oliver said this. So this is well
made establish this is endowed with Islam, how much more so when we are not endowed with Islam and
the world expects these words of sympathy and comfort and whatnot, we may make such generic, you
know, praises and even honor the deceased in a manner that doesn't involve is still far again, this
is a key point here. And the best example for this the best example, and I have given an entire
analysis of this in a longer lecture online. Is that of multiman ID, the noble Kaffir the noble
		

			mushrik matambi have an idea. His story is amazing. Amazing. I have a whole hour lecture. I don't
have time to summarize it. After the Battle of butter. When the Prophet system was surrounded by 70
prisoners of war
		

			70 of the Kurashiki were handcuffed I mean bound right. He stood up and he said a word.
		

			That word report in cyber hottie
		

			if most Ibn ID
		

			we're still alive right now, Paul
		

			As your multicam had just died one month ago, his death was fresh multicam had just died.
		

			If motorist even Addy were alive right now, and he said one word to me to release all of these 70
		

			I would have released it for release them for his sake.
		

			What is the process of doing here? By the way, what is moto Moto M do? Moto M has a whole long list
of things he did to benefit the ummah. He was the one who fed the Muslims when they were under the
boycott. He was the one who was instrumental in tearing the boycott up. He was the one who told his
people to be good to the Muslims to not expel them. He has a long list of good things that he did,
standing not for the sake of religion for the sake of justice. So what if they're worshipping
another god, so whatever they have another faith, they're your brothers. Do your kith and kin, why
are you mistreating them? He was an idol worshiper and he died an idol worshiper. And yet still, the
		

			prophet system bestowed upon him the Medal of Honor the equivalent, right there was no medal.
They're the equivalent of the Medal of Honor these days, you dare invite a non Muslim to an Islamic
conference and you say, Oh, we want to appreciate what you have done. You will find a whole bunch of
these, you know, especially these, again, I don't want to use harsh words, but they're all young and
under educated Allah has needs to be said Young and under educated, the harshness and the evil and
look at the sellouts. They invited a Kaffir to the convention, what are you going to say to the
prophets and praising multiman it after he was dead? This is the highest praise recorded inside
		

			Bahati, I would have given 70 prisoners of war just because of one word. If he said release, I would
release for his sake. Why is he saying this? Why motorhomes dead? Why is he saying this? Because
there is a debt that needs to be repaid. That debt is a dunya we debt. I can't repent in the acronym
with me as a pagan. He's a he's an idol worshiper. But I need to repay that debt, I need to honor
somebody who did so much for the OMA. And the only way to honor is by legacy and by name. So if
somebody wants to praise a non Muslim for generic good, there is nothing wrong with this. If the
person is worthy of praise, obviously, if the person is worthy, there's nothing wrong with this. So
		

			given all that has happened, and it is a tragedy of the highest magnitude for that nation, even the
whole world is in sympathy and whatnot. If Muslim leaders were to make generic statements and follow
the protocols of the faith, this is what we expect from them to do. And honestly, this needs to be
said, I'm sorry, I get into a lot of trouble. Because sometimes I do get frustrated Subhanallah we
need to raise the level of maturity of our communities Wallahi we are still, some of us, we're still
not thinking 10 steps ahead. The amount the level of hatred that some of our community has against
the broader community they live in. I don't understand how they expect to live here for the rest of
		

			their lives in their children's lives. You cannot live in a community that you're full of hatred
for, it's not gonna it's not healthy for you, you can't be full of so much venom and so much hatred
of everybody around you. It's gonna not be conducive. And also you're feeding into their worries
that you guys are a fifth column. You guys, we cannot trust you. You guys. We've had a national
tragedy. Our queen mother has died 90 year old lady, and all you can do is give vile insults,
curses, you look at some of the stuff with a biller. I mean, even if you have nothing good to say,
Can't you stay quiet? I'm not saying you have to say good. If you read and I'm being very frank
		

			here, if you feel in her your analysis that she was evil, okay. It's not a matter of theology. It's
not a matter of theology to say she's good or bad. You have an analysis, she's bad, no problem be
that way. But be wise, be wise. Is it wise to provoke an entire nation against you? Is it wise to
you know, especially once sensitivities are so you know, right now emotional, and people are so sad.
Now you want to provoke and you want to pretend you are the hero here Subhan. Allah, again, the
Sierra, you know, one of the leaders of the Quraysh asked the Prophet system, is it really the
proper names? I think it's really I'm not sure. What do you think? Ask the Prophet system. He said,
		

			Let me reason with you. You're and he was older, and then the process and by like, 20 years, 1520
years. So he says to him, you've grown up in front of us, you're our nephew, what not? What are you
doing? You're breaking our community. Then he asked a series of questions. One of the questions he
asked him, yeah, Mohamed, obviously speaking to him with his first name. Yeah, Mohammed was salam.
Think what you are doing, who are you? You are going against your grandfather, Abdul Muttalib. Who
was better you are Abdul Muttalib.
		

			Now in this pagans mind who knew Abdulmutallab, he was a minister under other mortality, he was in
Dodona dua, right. In this senior members mind, this is a no brainer. Who's better you are
Abdulmutallab, you understand from his paradigm right? And of course, in our minds, it's a no
brainer who is better, there is no way to ask the question is go for you get my point here. The
problem
		

			So some was asked this question bluntly. What did he say?
		

			Nothing? He did not respond. Why? Because do you really think this pagan would understand if the
problem is that I am better? Do you think this is the Wisdom, the wise thing to do? You choose your
battles, and you choose which questions to answer and how to answer them. And you choose what to say
and when to say it. Don't act foolish and cause your own community to be hurt, which is what we see
amongst a large segment of you know, these, again, my anger gets the better of me, don't do this,
use your wisdom. And honestly, I keep on saying this. With age, and with experience, you learn what
you will not learn from books. And there is a reason why most of these youngsters are youngsters,
		

			you generally don't find somebody in their 50s 60s 70s acting in this foolish manner. And there's a
reason for this. It's not because they're sellouts or youngsters. It's not because they don't have
enough knowledge than you. It's because they have more knowledge than you not just book knowledge,
knowledge of life, knowledge of experiences, knowledge of living in communities knowledge of seeing
what happens when you're impetuous when you're rash when you're foolhardy. They've lived through
life, double triple your age, so give them some credit. And if you strongly disagree with one group
of elders, go to another group of elders and bounce your ideas off of them. See, maybe you might not
		

			have the best idea in any case, bottom line, brothers and sisters there's nothing wrong with generic
grief. There's nothing wrong with the generic aspects of expressing comfort and what not the
theology is very clear and there's no need to make dua there's no need to pronounce judgments, but
at the end of the day, there is much to benefit from historically and even insha Allah through this
lecture for future incidents as well as akmola who was set on what he can refer to Allah he'll
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