The conversation covers various topics related to the rights of men and women on romantic partnerships, including the importance of marriage, maintaining healthy behavior, and treating women similarly. The speakers stress the need for attendance at weddings, safe behavior, and protecting women from sexual assault. They also discuss the process of marriage and the importance of sharing good news. The speakers emphasize the need for men to be aware of potential diseases and risk avoidance, cultural customs, and avoiding sexual interactions. They stress the need for men to be cautious and not partner in the same way.
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Bismillah Alhamdulillah
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fusina
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Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah,
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Allah sharika was one of
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our topics that we start off with today is if you like the final piece of the puzzle, the puzzle
merges the puzzle, but the final piece of the picture of marriage and that is the matter,
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it will call it an overdose of the doc the doc which is what the man gives to the women. Okay, now,
before we start off, we have to point out that the scholars have agreed that every marriage must
have a merit to it, as the marriage must have a magnitude okay. So whether the bride or the groom,
they specify it or not, it is understood that isn't and it is not allowed for the groom to state
that they will not be unmarried in the marriage because this is something that Allah has made
obligatory in the Koran, okay, unless there's no chorus or any purpose for what are too nice to him
and get him investor because
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of the fever, okay, the amendments give it freely to them, there can be no conditions laid down,
there can be no harsh hardships or emotional blackmail. All of this is prohibited, the scholars have
agreed that every marriage must have a nod with it. Okay, so the parties cannot agree beforehand
that there is no need for this marriage. Even if the woman agrees before the marriage. No, the guide
of the green has to offer them that Okay, and then we're gonna come to whether she later on says you
don't have to give it that's different story, but the groom has to offer a man had a good time with
a match. Okay. Now, it is similar to stay the night at the time of marriage, but it is not a
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condition that is not a record or a shot that you stated. It is similar to stated because if you
stated then this will leave you with no problems if the if the groom says that I'm going to give the
bride let's say $10,000 Okay, then there is no difficulty later on. If there's any dispute or
disagreement, It is well known that the amount of dinner is that it is not a requirement, it is not
a requirement. This is because of the fact that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam allowed women
to get married without proof for this is that there is a hobby of m&m a very dense worship that she
got note during the life of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, and she did not specify or her husband
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did not specify a number at the time of the marriage. Okay, so they live their life and then they
were married, but the husband did not specify the secret of the prophets lifetime when the husband
died.
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Now she has to be given a man but no man was specified. Okay, so the Prophet we went up to the
facility with them to decide the dispute between the two parties, okay, how much money should she be
given? Now, the process of him did not get angry No, do you rectify or correct that you should have
had a man he allowed it and he gave was a matter of women in his similar social status. Whatever a
woman in a similar social status and a little background, we've had been given a credit across
customer culture, the process of engagement, that amount of money, but he didn't say you should have
had a man at the beginning of the match. So, this shows you that it is allowed to have a marriage
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contract where you don't visually specify the amount of demand and if this was to take place, that
you have the marriage contract and there is no method specified, what does this imply what is going
to be
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according to the social status and social customer of that time, in other words, that particular
goal, what is your background? What is your family status, what is your lineage and what are the
girls in her particular culture and custom given as if they need all of the similar characteristics
or criteria that would be okay. So, we say that it is allowing them to have the marriage contract
without specifying them, but is it allowed to have the match contract without them you know, whether
you specify it or not there is a not understood in the match contract, okay? This is because Allah
has clearly commanded so in the Quran.
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Now we'll get to the differences, if any, now this so far is pretty much agreed upon. Now we get to
the differences of opinion, firstly, the minimum lot of matter and secondly, the maximum amount of
money. Okay, now we're going to go into great detail. But all of the formats have different opinions
about the minimum amount of
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settlements attended homezone as a previous times, but the collective opinion is that anything of
value can be given as not. Minimum, anything's actually that has value to it can be valid.
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So it doesn't matter whether it's money, or jewelry, or property, anything that has material value
to it. This can be enough. So even a person can give as many services physical service physical
labor, for example. The woman has a garden, you can tell her as your mother is physically take care
of this garden manual labor in this garden for a year or two or whatever.
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So he will specify the model. And that number doesn't have to be many. But anything that is a value
and this is the correct opinion. Okay, there are a number of studies to support this other than the
Muslim that the President chosen and that was it.
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He says find the number four. So he could not find anything. He said, I only have two governments.
He said, Fine. Even if it's an IRA, an IRA is a ruthless object and is worthless. It's not
worthless, it has a very pitiful value. Okay? A few pennies million times. But he says fine, even if
it's an island rink, that the man could not even find an island rink. Okay, so the shoes you have
you found an eyelid rig, which is almost worthless, not totally worthless, but almost worth is how
do you found an IRA that would have been his mouth? But since he did not find that I remember in the
process of him said, Did you do anything? He said, Yes. So the person said, I marry you. Right?
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Because of what you have in the Quran, I will teach you the Quran. And that will be your man. Okay,
you will teach as a parent, and that will be your math center, just just as it is allowed, according
to the correct opinion, to pay someone to teach you that for us. Okay, because it is a value. You
can pay someone to teach you to hold on, you cannot pay someone to recite the Quran, but you can
take them to teach you the rescission. Okay, so basically, as a man as a metaphor, his wife would
teach her those certain suitors that he had memorized. Okay, now, is this something that has many
too attached to it? No, but it is something of value, manual services. And the process itself is
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structured and commanded the man to get married because of that. So to show you that the cholesky
opinion is that there is no minimum amount for the mass. There is no minimum for the mass, whatever
the reappointment overhead is in cinema, Cinema D, in which
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amount was going to do a pair of shoes to the women. Okay, so the process I'm asked you, are you
content and satisfied that the marriage on a pair of shoes, and she said yes, now there's a slight
weakness to it, okay, but the concept is still valid, that you can give anything, you can give
anything as matter that is a value. Now, this is the first
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animus or the first scenario. The second thing was calculating the maximum amount. And just
according to the vast majority of the matter, there's almost as not, that is not that there is no
maximum amount to the math. Okay, getting high tech,
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there is no maximum amount to the math. Okay, you can give as much as you want. And this is based on
reverse, which vs is based on everyone knows, most people know how to say what is useless
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if you did one of them a compound,
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okay, if you give one of them a treasure and bad news like a treasure chest or a huge amount of
glue, if you need to get relevant, even a competitor, don't take it back from them. Okay, so the
fact that Allah has has said in this ama was talking about the 90s, that even if you give a
compiler, a huge amount of treasure, huge, lots of good, don't take it back from them. This shows
you that there is no maximum amount also the minimum amount of anything of value, and the maximum is
the maximum whatever the two parties agree upon. This is the maximum amount of math however it is
strongly encouraged that the matter be a
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small amount, something that is easy for
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the women or the man excuse me, not on the not because the prophets of Salaam said in an authentic
hadith and the husband said is that the best or the marriages that have the most barraca the most
resting are the ones that have the least Maha Urbina. He didn't say this, he said the easiest man,
he said, the easiest man, okay. And this is a very sad fact that in our times, the man has become
something that is uncertain and special and Middle Eastern countries, something that is not even
affordable for the average man. Okay. 50 100 150,000. This is ridiculous. And it is not to be to be
frank, it is not really meant to be given to the woman, it's just a matter of showing off because
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they're not can afford this amount, especially in the Middle East. No man can afford this amount, it
is just as a matter of showing up my mother was 150,000, rails, bachelor's 25 years old, who can
afford this amount immediately. So it's not really meant it's just as a boosting thing. And this is
without any doubt, a very evil customer, very evil creation that has started that will make them so
high, because the presence of the best marriages and those that have the most better are the ones
that have the least are the easiest.
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So far, so good. Now, the matter like we said, has to be given by the man to the woman.
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It has to be given by the man to the women. The women, however, has the option of refusing the man.
The woman has the option of refusing dinner, it is not up to the man to face or even to try to
pursue
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emotional blackmail, any type of blackmail or hardships on it. But it's the human justice really,
then in this case, the knot doesn't have to give the knot if the woman does so freely. This is
clearly stated in the Koran in which verses are stated. What is the verse in Arabic
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Again, who knows?
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The beginning versus with Anita What are they I can remember the Eric
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is in a coma
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aku honey and Maria timetable Ella Comanche it means that if the women they get back to you, they
may have a part of it or all of it doesn't matter suppose Mr. Silva, the wife sister has
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shown him to give me 5000 Okay. The Quran says as long as the woman does, so, freely, the Quran
specifically mentions freely she wants to do so, there are no hardships put upon her then it is
allowed for the man to take them out back she said the woman has the right of taking refusing to
accept any man or a portion of a mouse you can take that out of your mouth or half of your mouth or
two thirds of your mouth or 90% whatever it is up to the woman, but with the condition that there
are no hardship or pressures put on her from her garden or from the husband from any factors she has
to fulfill and ensure that there is a root for her in doing so, because the person has said that
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this is the best type of marriage when it is the easiest Okay. Now, we get to the second section and
that is when is the Mahajan when is the marriage we talked about the concept now when it comes to
have you
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you stand up no the man and the wife Goodnight, okay. So then the guy is no valid and in place and
in effect
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this the man has * with her.
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The wife and the husband they die there are three scenarios. Firstly the man has had *
with
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the wife dies
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before the * obviously after * and obviously the condition has been met, or the
husband dies in any of these three scenarios and the full amount of matter must be given.
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In any of these three scenarios. The free amount of matter must be given. Okay, now you might ask
the woman dies, who's gonna take them out? She's dead
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inheritors. Exactly. You still give it to her and then this removes her inheritors. Okay, so in any
of these two situations that Elena has said all of them, that the matter be in its full entirety due
upon the women from the husband. Now the difference of opinion arises, what if he did something
other than *? Okay, so he was alone with her, or he kissed or class or anything more than
this, and there was a be split up here. To make a long story short, as we usually do the correct
opinion, insha Allah is that if the man is alone with the women, as the info has arisen opportunity
for them to have *, then it is irrelevant whether they had it or not, the full amount of
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math is going to be due to the woman.
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Okay, so there is the nikka has been done.
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And the man was alone with a woman
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in a place and in a certain amount of time where * was possible, then you don't have to go
and ask
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what occurred in that meeting, or in that private meeting, but the place is in a place where it was
not possible to please their parents left them alone in the room for a few minutes, and then they
came back, this would not qualify as a format
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event and there is a possibility that they could have been intimate. As long as the possibility is
there that we don't have to ask, we don't have to, you know, question, we failed to satisfy you.
Okay, and the full amount is not is due from the husband to the wife. So then we talked about three
scenarios, the first year pretty much agreed upon. And the last one is really just for that, instead
of the strongest opinion is Chaga is that whether it was acredita, as long as the husband was alone
with a woman
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and it was possible for them to have *, then
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the woman gets the full amount of math, okay. There are certain situations or scenarios where the
woman gets nothing of the math.
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So, we talked about where the where she gets the full bar, now we get to the other extreme, where
she gets nothing. And this is when
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No, this is when the marriage is unknown, because of a problem with the women. So before the house
enters it, because obviously when that had been entered or anything happened after that, that she
has the man okay, but the marriage contract has been done. And then the women, for example, it is
discovered that, like we said we talked about last week, one of the reasons why you can another
marriage is what one of the examples of a physical defect that prevents *, okay, here it
is discovered that a woman has this defect.
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For example, that is found out that a woman is a patient, for example, and I wish to bring him to
something. So this was not known, or it was hidden at a time. Later on, it comes to light that
there's a defect or a problem with the woman. It was either a physical or spiritual, basically any
problem coming from the woman's side. In this case, the husband does not have to give me that even
though the matchmaker has been done.
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crucifer very simple. Any announcement of the marriage due to a factor caused by the woman
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automatically makes the math
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not obligatory upon her. It goes
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Back to the husband. So we talked about when she gets to Finland, we talked about when she gets none
of them. Is there a situation that is
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a person of the most interesting, when does she get a patient of the month?
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Yes, you're correct. There is a third scenario when she gets half of the month. Okay. The third
scenario is once you get half of the map, okay, when does she get half What about who knows the
clearest, easy
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exactly when the man versus the woman after the marriage contract, but before
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consummation before *, okay. So, is there any problem that comes from the man side, okay,
for any reason universes or is described as a defect, and is something that comes from the man side,
it is discovered that, you know, he was recognized, for example, with *, for example, is
that a Muslim, then in this case, has as the man he himself divorces the wife, which is the most
common scenario, that before the after retirement account, but before the calculation, he has to
divorce her, so he divorces her. So if they had decided what the number was, then she would be given
half the amount of the math. So, the condition in this case is what the two conditions the first
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condition is that the problem comes from demand side the dissolution of the marriage comes from
demand side. And the second condition is that the amount of law was agreed upon, the amount of law
was agreed upon. So the amount of law had been specified in the marriage contract, let's say $10,000
then if the non divorce the women for the * have referred their intimate, then he must
give her how much $5,000 Now suppose no matter was decided, in the marriage contract, where should
she what should be done now?
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Nice gets to know. In this case, Allah says no Koran that they should be given a gift according to
his needs. Okay. According to him, if he's rich, he should give a good gift, if he's not that rich,
whatever you can afford to give as a gift. Okay, so if my money was decided upon beforehand, then
obviously there is no half of that amount because it doesn't exist. So he gives her a gift. So we
talked about now 300, right. When she gets the full amount when she gets none of it, not when she
gets half the amount, where there are three scenarios and that when she gets the full amount is less
when she can pull them out
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when she dies or he buys or they have consumer demand, okay, once you get none of the amount when
not.
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When is the problem coming from her side? Okay, for example, it was discovered that she is a Muslim
or discovered that she was a slave with any problem coming from her side. Okay, the third, the third
scenario is when she gets half of the mat and when is that?
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When he is the one that dissolves the night when there's a problem on his side.
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Before that is obviously after *, that automatically goes to the first scenario. Okay.
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So now I finished my first simple chapter. And now we move on to the Redeemer.
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The chapter concerning the believer. Now the vast majority of the AMA has stated that volume is
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a strongly encouraged sinner. But it seems to be the correct opinion or the stronger opinion that
the will EMA is an obligatory act, that it is an obligation for the man to have a redeemer for his
wife.
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And this is because the prophets have a lot to sell him when he met Abdullah now
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he saw that he had become married, then he commanded him agent performer reliever. Well be sure even
if it's one small group, that time if you're having a big party, one group, isn't it's not it's not
a big amount, it's a small amount. Okay. So he said he would prefer one unit, even if it's with one
goat. So, he commanded him to perform the walima. So, it seems that the correct opinion or the
strongest opinion is that it is obligatory to do a Rhema if the man can afford to do so, as long as
the man can afford to have a redeemer then it is obligatory for him to have the William likewise and
this is now quality, the majority is obligatory to spam the to the relevant invitation. So, once a
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person has invited you to his volume, then it becomes mandatory to respond and you are sinful if you
do not respond unless you have an excuse. Unless you have a valid excuse. For example, you are sick,
okay or he is too far when you cannot afford the journey there. Okay, well, more commonly our times,
there is something haram going on at the wedding feast, okay, it is not allowed to attend a wedding
where there is music, you know, you know, blaring in the speakers of microphones or there isn't, you
know, exorbitant amounts of intermixing or hijab is not the type of benefits it is not allowed for
us to go through. Okay. Well, for example, the man be a person of innovation, a great piece of
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innovation.
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Okay, is it most likely all of this issue where you have a valid excuse for not attending, then you
should not attend. Otherwise it becomes obligatory for you to attend the wedding feast.
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Most marriages
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in this country does is the fact you know, that's why we rarely go to marriages. It's very difficult
to find a marriage You can go to, but it is definitely not alone especially when for example wine is
being served and music is being put in this original content image piece and there was this type of
karate he was going, he stood up and he laughed and he said the process and do not commanded to
attend this type of match. Whether or not going on in this boys club is not allowed for you to
attend. This match martial law tells you when when the man has his earnings from heroin, for
example, he has all of his earnings from the liquor shop, okay? And he is inviting you to a feast
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all the lessons in his in his house or the hotel, it doesn't matter if most of his earnings are from
Harlem, then you should not go and attend because you are eating from that album and you're steadily
approving of that funnel. So unless you have a salary excuse or reason for not attending the
marriage ceremony, you should attend and the person said even if you didn't attend, even if a person
has the fact that he should go and attend and then pray for the person asked for him to be blessed
in his marriage. Okay. Funny thing the humble is in the scope of this particularly they said
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put this in your brains very, very important point they said the need for attending should not be
because it was
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specifically mentioned this, the need for attendance should not be because of the food to eat and
the good food, it should be to follow the center the purpose of the Law Center and to pray for the
bride and groom. Okay, unfortunately at all times, we all have that kind of resistors Okay, so we
should collect earlier doesn't mean that we shouldn't go for the freedom is our primary intention
should be to follow the sin of Apostasy and to pray for the bride and groom. And we know that it is
similar to pray for them. When is the drop of the that we make for the bride and groom. barakallahu
dakka dakka dakka Nabina Kumar, Kumasi Hi, that you know May Allah shower his blessings upon you to
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summarize it briefly. Okay.
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The question arises when in the William it performed now there have been a number of different
opinions.
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There have been a number of different mlmrc at the time of nikka mlmrc, the first night after the
cast some animosity after the consummation whenever that occurs on the last day, the second or third
night.
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But it seems as if the correct opinion is all of the above, because of the status of Redeemer has
not been specified in this area when it should occur. It is open
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the processing and did not stick with us example. He came to the process and after he had been
married as to the consummation and maybe after a few days after his marriage he came the Falcons and
did not recommend him we should have had with him before he said December William. So the correct
opinion is that the winner can be performed at any time. At the marriage ceremony This is allowed
after the marriage ceremony This is allowed. After the first urbanised This is allowed after the
consummation anytime This is allowed, okay, even if it's a if the person had a valid excuse
originally because it should be performed early. But if the person for example could not afford a
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redeemer, then the winner is delayed until he can afford it. Okay, let's keep those questions at the
end because we should want to finish up inshallah we started a bit late, because in the end because
of you
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blame both parties. But
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the correct opinion is that it can be performed at any time.
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Now move on to a chapter that will briefly zoom over and that is the relationship between the men
and the women, how it should be performed. And
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the treatment between the spouses, and most of us already know this in great detail. So we don't
have to go into great detail now. But as everyone knows, it is obligatory upon the men to treat
their wives nicely in the literature for women to treat their husbands nicely. Allah says nikolova
should
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treat them with kindness with equity. Likewise, the law says
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that the women have rights similar to those that are against them. In other words, the treatment is
virtuous, there is mutual support and mutual love and tenderness and mutual affection that the
spouses must show to each other. But Elena has specified certain things that are obligatory for the
woman in more than others and likewise for the man asked to leave and then obviously the greatest
obligation that the man has upon her is what the right is *, okay. So the sports, the
major rights that the man has upon his wife is the right to have * at any time of the day
or night, as long as she is not menstruating or performing a watch of acts such as the prayer or the
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the wajib fasting. Otherwise, anytime the novice dive into course that it is the right of the minute
to offer herself to him. Like the process of that even if she is on a saddle and
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this means that if she's riding on a camel, okay, then it is a great hardship to come down as
everyone who's written the camel but it is a bit harsh in Britain with the pesticides even if you're
only Campbell then do that Hydra didn't stop the camel come down if you went through it to respond
to your husband or or the buses also issues at this stage.
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With the oven, okay, even though she should, you know, turn off the thermometer and respond to her
husband. This is the greatest rice that the man has upon the woman. And this is the greatest cause
of another marriage if the woman does not respond or listen to the man, as we know that the practice
of him said that any woman that does not respond to her husband and her husband is angry with her,
but what happens? The angels Crusher, the angels cursor, okay. So, this is the greatest right that
the man has upon the women. Likewise, he has the right that she does not leave the house except with
His permission, okay, the woman is not allowed to leave the house unless it is absolutely essential,
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for example, a matter of life and death, for example, you know, she has to go out for dinner. You
know, like, in the old days, the restroom was outside the house, okay, these type of factors, as
well as it is not allowed to.
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It is not allowed for the woman to leave the house of her husband, except with His permission. These
are the two main vices are the most specified that the woman or the man has upon the woman, the two
main obligations that the man has upon the woman that she is always open and ready to have
* with him, and that she does not leave the house except with His permission. Now the vice
versa, the rights that the woman has upon the net, the greatest rights that the woman has upon the
man is the right to take care of her financially, okay, to provide for her clothing, for her food,
for her bedding, and for her house and property. Okay, so the man is obligated by the Sharia to
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provide these factors to his wife. If he does not do so, then he is sinful. He must provide the
necessities of life to his wife, and he cannot force his wife to give business entities. Okay, he is
not allowed to force his wife to get these necessities whether he is obligated to provide these
necessities to his wife.
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Apart from that the scholars also mentioned that he should be how do you translate jealous is not
really a good word. But
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he has he should have this sense of pride and jealousy and protectiveness and honor for her. Okay,
because this is also part of being a man that he should have the sense of of protectiveness for her
that.
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Surely
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that is not a proper word to use in this context. It is not just doesn't jive.
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He must he must have this sense of protectiveness. So example. You know, if he sees a reasonable
man, what is that thing that's going to happen to him? Okay. That type of protectiveness that he
has, okay, for example, he's not going to allow her to leave her house without wearing the proper
procedure. Okay. And this is unfortunately most men of all times are not who they couldn't they in
the disgusting thing is unfortunate people go to the opposite extreme, where they actually vote in
the fact that other men find their wives beautiful. And this is so disgusting, like the performance
of executives, because when you compliment the left, they take it as a personal compliment. Okay,
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instead of zero.
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You know, there's the proper attitude that a Muslim should have, you know, having this sense of
protectiveness, and security, that new manager is going to, you know, similar. It's not just, it's
not just in terms of men and women relationships, in terms of everything that a man is the woman
took care of his wife is the feeling that is in his heart that he was responsible for his wife,
okay, so he's going to protect you and care for her and be jealous about you. All of this is common,
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because he's a scholar said that this is also the rights that women has upon demand that the man
should be like this. And this is why the prosecutor says that the US will never enter agenda, and
the US is another doesn't have this view that the US is gonna have this sense that he allows them to
comment upon his wife and look at her and he doesn't care. You know, he doesn't like different cards
that they use. So this is another process that we will never antigen. So this is how important it is
to have this type of feeling.
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Okay, these are the primary rights that the men and the women have upon each other. And like we
said, everything apart from this is strongly enclosure committed for the man to treat his wife
nicely and vice versa. Now the question that arises vs productive as we get close to the women to
cook and care for her husband,
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is it obligatory for the women to cook and care for her husband? kaminey not emotionally good, but I
mean, take care of his daily needs, okay, I own the clothes washed, you know, wash the clothes, wash
the dishes, all of that type of stuff and cook for him confirm there is a big difference about this
issue. And I think she eternia has the best response and if any of this goes back to the question
and culture of the woman or first status, okay, because we know for a fact that the prophets wives
would,
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you know, treat or care for the positive even though he being the man that he was also the perfect
man that will take care of himself. So that was over the incidence of Fatima and it Okay, we're
talking about with you
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Grind the dirt or grind the wheat barley so much so that her chest would be marked with the the
grinding instruments. Okay, so they went to the Pacific to ask for a servant to help them a slave to
help them in their daily affairs with the process and did not give her service. So he didn't object
to the fact that his daughter, his daughter was thrilling husband to such an extent that there was
physically she was getting physical bruises because of that work. Likewise,
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my sister is your sister Esma as Minister of religion has been saved with SMS has been a Zubaydah,
one who she would serve her so much that she would serve him so much that she would, you know, take
the girl and walk to get the water and the wheat and the flour. And she would also take care of the
horse and everything while he will be taken care of getting the money, but the physical labor, she
will be doing it, okay. And the processor saw her in this state. And he offered her a ride on his
horse that she refused, because she thought that was a bit of an odd one would get jealous and
angry. So when he when he as she was carrying a big basket of flour on her head. So when she turns
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around, he says early, the fact that the process of him saw you in this state is more hurtful to me
than the fact that you would have written on his horse, I wouldn't. I mean, obviously, our mind when
the process if the Profit System was the one who was taking his wife, you know, to her home and
hunting his wife off. But the fact is that he saw her in the state and he didn't object. Okay, so it
seems as if the correct opinion is that it is obligatory for the wife to serve her husband, to the
extent that I've even heard of her culture do. Okay, so she's a multi millionaire family, she's an
extremely rich family, then we say that if she is used to service over life, then we say that it is
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the husband's duty to provide it also with the service, you have just turned the lights off? or what
have you done, you've turned the lights off. And
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you can turn that back on. Thank you. Okay.
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Okay, anyway, so it is obligatory for
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the wife to serve her husband to the extent that other women of her culture and customs do So this
seems to be the strongest opinion, because of the fact that
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the woman has a perfect time to do that, and the process and allow this to be done without saying
anything like that. But also, this goes back to the fact that women should treat their husbands
kindly. And now his married life will be extremely difficult if the husband, you know, comes home
after returning to work and he has to cook and everyone is just sitting there. This is, is almost
inconceivable that the marriage is going to continue this fashion. Is there from an average family.
Okay, if you're from a rich family, and the husband can afford service and the wife is used to this,
then it becomes electric. But anyways, no, this seems to be the correct opinion. And that's
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okay.
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Scholars have also discussed
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the,
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what do you call it? If you need more than one wife? How do you treat all of them equally, because
that doesn't really exist anymore. In general, we can just gloss over it, that she has to treat his
wives equally and time and money, but not in love and *, okay, he has to treat all of his
wives equally in time and money. So if you spend $100 on a gift for one of them, you have to spend
out of over the other one. Okay? backwards in time, if you spend two nights with one of them, you
have to spend two nights with the other three nights with one parents with the other, but not in
love or in *. These are two things that he doesn't have to be equal love. Obviously, this
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is a human emotion, he cannot physically control. Okay, likewise have *, he doesn't have
to be equal to them. But the scholars do say that the woman has the right to have *
occasionally. And they differ about the timing. But the question is that it goes back to her because
just like it is the right of the man to have * with his wife, vice versa. The unit also
has an obligation that once in a certain period where they have different over what this period is,
this goes back to the women, okay, what is the minimum amount that is needed for her so that she
does not seek extramarital relationships, okay? Because just like the wife protects the husband from
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Xena, by services, the husband should also protect his wife from dinner. Okay. So if, for example,
the husband does not have a request for his wife for a long time. And this college has different
levels of Adventure Time, the woman has the right to go to a judge and another match.
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The judge can first and not to have * with his wife. Okay. But if the rights are not being
met, either way, more women can go to the to the judge and another marriage.
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As for the etiquettes of actual *, and we don't have to go into great detail but as
everyone knows, it is how I'm getting menstruation and during
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post
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childbirth meeting. At all other times it is allowed.
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And as long as there's no foreign minister from house to house, unless you approach your child as
and when you will. So all forms of or all
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forms of * are allowed except for * because the process of them said that Allah
is not embarrassed of telling the truth, rarely unless curses upon the man who approaches his wife
from her *. Okay, and this is a hadith reported by 10 or 20 different chains and it is without
any doubt authentic.
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It is without any
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authentically the process instead allas Chris is on demand who has no * with his wife
likewise he also Chris the man who has * with his wife while she is in her restoration and
describes the the different person and to have * with Redbull while she's administration
than he should give charity, either one or the other will have either rendered him or half a didn't
disclose that he had * at the beginning, then he should give one didn't and if he had to
at the end of her cycle, then she get half of that, does anyone know why?
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What is the reason behind that?
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exactly easy for him to control at the beginning. So excuse me, yeah, it's easier for me to call the
controller as the beginning. So, therefore, the penalty is more severe whereas at the end, it is a
bit more difficult for him. So the penalty is less severe okay, but if he does have * with
her while she is menstruating, then he must repent to Allah. Likewise, if your answer was you must
repent to Allah and if and if if he had it for the ministration or was taking place and he was also
giving charity either one day or half a day, depending on when this occurred.
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Apart from that, most of the scholars say that it is not allowed to look at the private parts of the
2000s where we stated before that this is not an authentic This is not authentic, it is allowed for
the spouses to look at their private parts of each other.
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Now, we went to the last session last section of * and that is
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in treatment on issues in treatment on issues in Arabic from either the wife or from the husband
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treatment from the husband
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towards his wife
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comprises of not giving her rights to her
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or being physically abusive or harsh with her overly physically abusive or harsh with her and if it
is of the first category that he is not giving her her rights then the women will allow us to take
from his money secretly. So if the husband is not giving her enough money to provide for her clothes
or her property or her children's clothes or property or medical expenses, it is generally
acceptable Okay, he is not providing the bare minimum then the wife is allowed to take from the
husband's money and this this authentic Heidi's that Sahaja came to the processor and said that
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my husband is not giving me enough money that I can take care of myself is allowed for me to take
his money then he said yes you are as long as you do so with my roof in other words you don't become
overly greedy you take what you need to take nothing more than that okay, it is a second category
that is physically abusive or something you know something that she cannot deal with him then she
must go to a judge you must go to
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a court of law and get it fixed either the husband forces demand to treat her properly they can no
longer match the wife's machines to the husband primarily is when she did not fulfill her like to
him which is what we just said
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primarily * okay. This court is also state and this is very important by the way
especially for the sisters that this is also a part of your shoes is that they will have *
that
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in a very if you like ill tempered manner is that they're not going to do so freely yet it is the
right of the husband that they have * freely Now when I say that the woman has to
necessarily be happy or rigid because we know that women are different from men okay many times they
are not always quote unquote in the mood but she should not display an attitude against it okay. So
the scholar if she does so, so even if she has * but she has an attitude of she has a very
you know angry temperament she doesn't have to necessarily go and enjoy the the very you know
cooperative, but she is uncooperative okay she is very you know in an either mood or something this
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is also a part of misuse because it is the rights of the husband that they will freely give herself
freely meaning without any attitude, okay. So, if the wife displays this type of attitude, this is
also called as the shoes in this case the husband has right firstly there are three steps firstly
visit he do he advises her, okay, he tells her that what she is doing is wrong. And that if you
continue to do that, he will get more harsh with her. Okay, so we talked to her I will dribble Okay,
if this test fails, this this test continues to perform issues and issues like we said as a mini
test, but these are the two primary one. If she continues to perform issues, then she moves to step
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two and that is that she lives in her bet that he does not sleep with you anymore. Okay, he does not
sleep with her he needs her alone in the bed.
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Okay, so this is the second step. And then if she still refuses, if she stayed with space matures,
then in this case and only after the first two actions have been have been met, he is allowed to
physically
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hit her. Okay, because the Quran clearly says that there is women whose new shoes you feel arrival
when once you reveal nothing about a reputable one, that gives them advice. And then these are in
the bed and then hit them. Okay, but the process will clarify this, that this type of hitting is not
the one that isn't on the face, nor does it break a bone or leave a bruise is heavy, nor does it
take a break or leave a bruise. Okay. So it means that the type of healing is not in physical abuse
that is done
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Good times, but it is a type of gentle heating that does not allow for information. So it is hard to
hit any person unless in real life, it is hard to hit any person on the face. Or to the extent that
you are damaging him by leaving a bruise or breaking a bone unless he's attacked you or something,
for example, your child, you're allowed to discipline him islamically, right. But that discipline
should not be on the face of it is haram to slap slapping his head on, because you're not allowed to
hit on the face. Likewise, if you do need your child for valid reason, or your wife, you're not
allowed to hit so hard that you leave a mark, you leave a bruise or you break a bone. This is how
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long the type of healing is meant to basically wake you up. And you don't mean it is not meant to
cause a physical harm permanent harm.
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If this tip is not wisdom, you have the right obviously to go to a judge or a divorce or whatever.
But the point is that this is from either quality issues can come from the wife and it can also come
from the husband issues comes from the husband, then if it's physical, then the wife has to take
care of it without doing anything. But if there's more than that, then she must go to the court of
law and the judge will have to see into their case and decide the heat between the finishers his
friend's wife, then the husband has two or three steps that he goes to firstly advises her then he
leaves her bed, and it still is not effective. So this must be at least a few days of taking the
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bare minimum because the advisor Okay, so let's call it easy to start talking with her part of the
budget is to stop talking with her. Stop talking with her. If she still refuses you leave the bed.
Okay, and if she still refuses, then and only then you're allowed to hit her. Occasionally what
happens is many hundreds of they jump to step three without firstly doing step one or two. And this
is not allowed. You must go in this order.
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David is now eight o'clock if you want to reconstruct the type of product if you want, you can open
the floor for questions tomorrow. Because this is really the end of
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the Dominica
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questions. Okay. There's an article punishable as a stockbroker today. I do apologize a bit for my
tiredness. But I just came back from a trip from Washington called Austin and I'm still a bit tired
from that.
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You have suppose
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suppose Ibrahim, his daughter is three years old is my infant is five years old. Ibrahim says it's
nice that I gave my daughter to her son and marriage is nice as Yes, the witnesses were present with
the marriage take place. But if they were all joking around?
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Because we covered all of this? Yes, it does take place.
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Doesn't have to be most specified? No. Okay. So yes, the marriage has taken place. The marriage has
taken place.
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What was the next question? What if there is a physical defect and he cannot have * with
her? We know he doesn't have to give her mind. But what if he still wants to keep her in marriage,
she still gets denied or has no right to it.
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Remember the physical defect in him? Okay, if it's in him, and she does not want to remain married
to him, then then he must give her the format. Okay, but if she agreed to him, if she agrees to
manage this type of physical defect,
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then
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we said the way the reason that I mentioned before is that when they have been alone together, so if
he's married, if she's married him, obviously they're alone together. Together. So she deserves the
film now. Okay, so she gets the film, right, anyway. Okay. If you have more than one wife, why can't
catch you spend more time with one of them if you ever gives up for days? Very good question.
Because of the fact that I don't know when he was sitting in this matter to us. We didn't go into
great detail. And likewise, most of the people or the western socially or not, I have an incidence.
Okay.
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Then we didn't go to great detail. But yes, it is allied with the condition that the woman gives up
right. But the scholars have given a number of preconditions Firstly, that the woman does so freely
the man does not force her to do it. Okay, so tonight is nice with a woman, he is pressuring the
older woman, either mentally or physically or psychological. It doesn't matter that she gives that
that her date to the younger one. This is not about she must do so freely. of her free will. Okay,
and this is what so that is so that was one of the ways of the process and one of the members of the
believers, she was a very old one and in her we under the age of think, no, we do not. Do you think
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it was the late 50s, early 60s. Okay, so she was an old woman. So she was scared that the process of
divorce would because of her age. So and the person didn't obviously course or anything, but as her
own free will. She said you can have. She said I only want to meet your wife I don't need with
younger women need. I just want to meet your wife. So you can have my day and you can give it to
Ayesha. So the process that was said today
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Without OSHA, and when they put all of his otherwise except sued, because she had given her a
freebie to Arusha. So the condition for this is that the women just so freely, it is her option to
do not the right of the husband, it is her option to do. So is that good is the option of mandatory
but Likewise, if you really want to
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get specific, the man cannot have * with his wife, except on the day that it is.
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Okay, if a man has two wives, and he has arranged a window with the first one, the second day was
the second one, then when is the first day and he's supposed to be the first wife, he's allowed to
visit shortly The second way? Because the processor would visit all of his wives every single day.
And he was allowed to hug her and kiss her, but he is not allowed to be intimate or have *
with her. Okay, so what if you did that? What is the penalty? Just as a?
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What is the penalty?
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Okay.
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Haven't progressed with the one who's right, it was. Okay. So if you hadn't proposed with the first
wife and it wasn't her turn, then he may have got to have * with the second one. Okay.
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So the question is this issue versus the bonus?
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Very good question about the announcing of the marriage. The clip also discussed this, we glossed
over it, the prophet commanded that the marriage center be announced,
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announced the marriage ceremony. And this is why it is allowed for the death to be played in the
marriage ceremony. Otherwise, musical instruments as we know are not allowed in general, but during
the marriage ceremony, when it is the death, okay, which is like a drum which doesn't have the other
side to it. Okay, it's like a ring, a brass ring that has leather or something attached on one side,
and no jingles. This is what the death is. So the process of alive the death during the marriage
ceremony, in fact, encourage it. And he also allowed the women to sing
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poetry that doesn't have any rudeness or without any musical instruments. Okay, so all this is
encouraging the most and we definitely, but he's not mandatory is not logic. So we didn't discuss
it, but it is strongly encouraged that this type of event takes place that the best is used or some
type of great ceremony that everyone knows that the marriage has taken place. This is because we
want to remove any doubt that might exist in the minds of people suppose with the amount of elements
together, if
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somebody hadn't taken place, they might think that they shouldn't be together. But if the
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marriage also Okay, so it is strongly strongly strongly encouraged that the nursery be proclaimed in
this fashion. Okay. Yes.
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Exactly. Most of the elements say this is a horse for the process of Eliza. This is special only for
him. Okay, most of the elements of this special only for him. As for a physical belief in the Quran
and Sunnah. I haven't found one, even though I do look up the stuff that I have encountered. But
most of the reason I say that this is the whole point of sharing Knights is like the whole point of
sharing Nice's what I mean, if you had all day long, you had * with the first half and
then as a second wife, it's as if you're going against the first rest, right? Okay. And they also
interpret that hubbies as being special for the prophets of Allah has given cause for him. There's
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like a majority of them I say the vast majority of the animosity, no,
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that is not example of beating the pockets of have never ever beat any of his wife's never. In fact,
he said that those those amongst you who beat their wives, they are not the best of us. The process
of never beat any of his wife as for the incident that you are referring that you will you do not
call this beating, he just pushed her on the chest. Okay. And this was because Ayesha, and this
divider, as you remember, this is one of the evidences they use also, but it is a weak evidence.
Okay. That's very jealous that the trust is messed up at night. Okay. What did she think? She
thought that she was going to another white house. Okay, so she secretly put on her coat and
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followed her allergen. Okay. But the process of Where did he go? Instead, he went to
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get out of pocket to pray for the people that were there. He said, God commanded me. When he came
back. He felt I should hunting. So he figured out that he asked the figure that I saw reading in
front of me, because she was really inventive. Okay. So she said, Yes. So the person who became you
know, angry, because, because he knew why it was falling, because she did. She didn't trust him. And
this is a
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very evil thing, because how can you not trust the Prophet of Allah that He would do this? So they
say this is an implicit belief. They say that the very fact that the person that angry that this was
against her trust, okay, so she trusted him, or she didn't trust him that he wouldn't go to any of
his other ones. So she should, he shouldn't have gone to any of his work. And so to explain that one
is having occurred in the olden days, and this was isolated. I don't know this is a good point,
actually.
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The one that you've read that I wouldn't say as was getting wrong, it's just that she just hit her
in the chest.
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Baba needs to hit the crunchiness as you hit them, they wouldn't headquarters know that the ribbon
thing but the level of the beating should be should be such that there are no bruises or scars or
marks or no burn is broken. Okay.
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The general
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the general rule is that
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the beating of the wife is not a normal characteristic amongst men. This is the general rule. This
is because of the fact that Ayesha Curry said the process of never had any women in his life. Okay,
there's the general equivalent specifically for every single couples this will be the case because
sometimes the man will want something good for his wife but the wife is refusing Okay, so in this
case it is it is not unusual for him to hit her if he has done it the proper with everything in
general the general rule is that it is not normal that the man has his wife. Okay, so what you're
referring to is also clear but the general rule is that it is not enable catchers to control the
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demands of life and this is why the fastest have never been any of his wives. Even though for
example, the incident occurred where they demanded so much money or they demanded that he never beat
any of his wife. Okay.
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You tell me I have no idea. You tell me I don't think differently right now.
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I don't recall this as a hobby for the purposes of his thing as a student. I don't recall the
process and also the beating
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like we said when it is used and if it is used
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it can be a physical beating, which is a physical pain. That is the whole point. Okay, it is allowed
I'm not saying it's encouraged or as
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the Quran clearly says this and the actions of the finance officer I'm sure and this is what the
people have said that they have made it we're not saying it's enclosure is good, but it is a lot.
Okay. Also the point is after think if it's just a symbolic gesture, why would it go so far? Why
would it be effective after after you've, you know, given her advice and stop sleeping with her stop
talking with her? Okay, now symbologist to the stickiness walk and temper it's not gonna really
affect anything
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I can use it was
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okay, so then don't lose that's what that's what's clear is that don't bruise okay. No button. I
mean, not every hit bit abuse. Not every distro bruise. So any hidden deliverable just go back to
some of the questions that Sisters now
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can't win an equal woman as a witness. We talked about this when we talked about witnesses, what do
we say?
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In business transaction yet in marriage? No. in marriage, you need two male witnesses without any
doubt.
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I will sure this question will be asked today
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about a special certain type of * which everyone knows what I'm talking about. So, I'm not going
to mention it.
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This this phenomenon has not been discussed in the books that I have come across, because the simple
fact that this is something that we have taken from the non Muslims, okay, this type of act is not
discussed in the books of second gen, because this type of custom did not exist, this was taken from
the non Muslims. However, I have heard that some of the AMA and I have not asked any I don't know
that
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I have heard that some of them have allowed it because of the fact that everything is allowed, but
we have to think of one factor and that is that we said the truth no fluid is what
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will be there in the six classes it measures the precision of food is measured, okay, is it lawfully
allowed to intake and adjust the least we can say about it is that it is mukou that it is disliked
okay. So because of this fact not because of the act itself, not because of the act itself, okay?
Because in reality, they do have a strong point that everything is out everything as long as you
know, intellectual voice in the head is avoided, but because of this fact, then the route that we
can say about this is that it is not encouraged to do okay, because you are willfully in taking the
adjuster into your body. Okay, but to say that is how long was a bit extreme, and I need to see
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proof for that and have it. Some of you have said it is how long there isn't a split up and they
have used a verse in the Quran. But I think that it is a weak evidence It is okay. Yes.
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Yes, that's the rest of us. That's the verse that prohibited
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that prohibit that type of * to use that verse. But that seems like a very weak evidence
to me. Okay, for reasons that we don't have to get it. Yes.
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Yes, if you if you go to a Wm and you see that the Wm is being conducted according to an Islamic
ticket, then you should leave. You should not listen if there's music blaring or if there's now the
point is this was a question he was asking to set up for this to to rent levels you go to in these
type of things.
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There's nothing in our times you will 99.99999% of the time, okay? You will not find perfect
segregation, the way that it should be where there is a barrier. The women are one side, the men on
Panetta and there is no intermixing whatsoever. Okay, most of the time you find that the woman on
one side of the hall and then or the other side of the hall, okay.
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So
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now that you ask that, how can I know?
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Okay, the question was that if you go to a marriage ceremony, and you find that the rellena is being
conducted according to an Islamic practices, for example, there's intermingling or there's music
blaring, or there's wire being said, what should you do? Then? I said this the infamous, who did you
stand up and you leave? Then practically speaking to what level? Are you going to take? For example,
if the women on one side of the hall and the men on the other side, okay, there is no politician,
but there is a separation? Okay. Are you going to attend this or not?
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What is what do you say? Would?
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Depends on the food?
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After because
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there's no purchases? Also, it depends on the dress of the woman, okay. But I mean, Realistically
speaking, 90% of the job and especially for getting the 10% is what happens when they leave it in
the wedding. Okay, then how to get a good just a flat and it goes to interfere with
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the more you avoid the better.
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But it is very difficult. And in many times No, I personally attend weddings where there is
separation but not segregation. Okay.
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The fact that you don't want evil doesn't justify the other evil. Okay? They said there's a physical
defect, what if the husband finds out the women was not a virgin is the content valid, unless, you
know, if the woman was married on the basis that she is a virgin, and the husband discovers that she
was not a vision, you have the right to know the marriage contract and notice melody. So the matter
goes back to him and invent a product that is not assessed. It is not a code annotated amendment,
okay. Because this was a part of the condition that was understood. This is considered a major
defect that if the woman was considered to be a virgin, this was the way that he was told, okay, it
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was understood because our culture is documented because understood you didn't grow and as in it was
in the American countries is not the case. Okay, so in other countries, it's understood that she's a
virgin and it comes to life that she is not then the husband has to lead to another marriage
contract. And to obtain all of them, I heard back from her and the marriage is null and void. Okay.
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Now, that is a very good point, practical point, that many of the brothers think that
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the only thing that removes the hymen is *, and it's not correct. It is possible that a
cell or a natural problem or heaviness robot can also remove diamonds. So just because I'm in Israel
doesn't mean she's not a virgin. If she says she is a virgin, and there is no proof to the contrary.
Okay, even though I'm in a group broken, then she has taken out her face value. When we say when it
is known, or when it comes to life that she It is clear that she's not a virgin. Okay, in this case,
a good question. Can the husband suppose? When is the husband supposed to give the wife and with the
active version of the marriage? Can the wife tell her husband that she doesn't want them with the
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doctor to relieve him from his oath in the marriage contract? I didn't mention with a cousin with
acid Why didn't I mention it?
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No, I'm not gonna say there's no such thing but it is not necessary okay. This custom that that has
been you know, is common, it is not any problem that the husband gives something of the marriage
contract of the marriage beforehand and sinful nature on the beginning person is called at the end
the person is called with the asset
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then in this case, the misapplication is used in everyday life demand goods whenever one of the two
dies or you know anytime both
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demand the same documents that you have in the document asset is not mandatory it goes back to your
country because if you want to do so, if you want to do so, then you
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then you can do so. So when asked Can I can I tell my husband not to do them with after Of course,
just like you can tell him you don't have any bad luck because you can forgive him the darker
portion of the map, but it is not necessarily recommended noise in this case, it's neutral. Okay,
just neutral. If you want to have a this is very common. You're going to give
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a portion of the night and then give the rest later on. That's fine. That's fine. It's not anything
against it or third enclosure to discourage it just goes back to you. You want to give it a miss
Thomas and Tom is fine. Okay. from your paycheck into that a little bit every month. Okay. If you're
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curious, your mortgage
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Which is the case in many Middle Eastern countries that allow you to live in an apartment. It's all
up to the husband and the wife. Okay? Let me ask you this thing is very common. And I'm not going to
order one unfortunately sometimes questions are not given to me in order it is very common in some
customs where they have Mandy if women are alone or separated from men as a reference, whatever by
singing and dancing, yes, it is for men but I would avoid the Hindu names and the Hindu practices,
okay, that take place here. But if the sisters the girls want to get together when one of their
friends is getting married, and they're alone segregated from the men and they want to sing and
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dance and you know as long as it's halal, yes, no problem whatsoever, I don't see any problem in
this whatsoever and in fact, it might be encouraged but to have these Hindu and pagan rituals and
customs This is where I would draw the line and say this is not allowed, okay.
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Man has to provide to the wife shelter, food and bedding etc what is the minimum if she is used to
bed etc does he have to provide her with this are really strong us do? No, it goes back to the
cultural status of the husband and the wife both of them okay. So, the wife if she is married to a
family, okay, then she must take this into account, obviously, because as they cannot provide a more
than he can, what he can possibly afford. So it goes back to the financial status of the husband,
where he can provide and what is expected for him to provide. So you think this is your financial
situation backwards into account and you judge accordingly? Okay, which is why we said that in in
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the marriage, you should take into account the financial backer of the person because there's a
multimillionaire now he's a person who's living off of you know, foodstuffs or something, it's not
going to be very good for the marriage in general. So, you should is a lot of things to take into
account financial situation, okay. So, reading aloud she said Can she have a soulmate or not? If
that is his financial ability and that is what she is used to then yes, that is what is the literary
point, but if he is worse than that, and it is expected for a person earning let's say $30,000 to
provide a bed then yes, he must provide a back whatever is the bare minimum of his social level and
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status, it is a part of the wisdom of the Sharia law has not specified this because we can now base
it on our culture and customs wherever it is culturally suitable for that person to do is inherited
from the wife's *.
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Where did we say about what do we say about
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what did he say about
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foster mother when is when is it considered foster mother?
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Before two years, let's hope the husband is
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okay.
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And in that case, it is allowed Yes. Okay.
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Can you please explain explain your proof
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I have read this in the books have
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you ever noticed how long he was doing his proof? Because in general, okay is the neurologists
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is the mechanism
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of craziness, okay. So, is there is the husband visiting from the foster center of the wife when he
does this? No, because it's After three years of age.
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So, what is your proof? What is your proof that it is haram
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this type of * I was asked about is also not natural, this varies from culture and
customs. Many of the practices are done in a sexual nature.
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Any other person that prohibits it has to bring his book without any doubt, he has to bring his
essence of truth okay.
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We will cover this in the beginning but he has to be below two years of age. Can you please explain
your proof for saying that it is not allowed to go to or to eat from someone whose major income is
held on because upon asking a student of knowledge, I was turned to the progress of these to accept
gifts and food from using Christians and most of them use to deal with.
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The proof was this is that
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they have implicit proofs. They say that, for example, Allah says that, in the law for human life,
the person said that was pure he only accepts what is pure, also the man, the Hadith of the man who
ate from impure, it is okay, that his job was not answered in the process of instead, how can God be
answered when? Hmm, how long it took his clothes, and he drank from heroin. How is this possible?
The answer to this is the very fact that you see the person's house and you know, for a fact that
his income is heroin, and you're eating from the income is as if you're eating from heroin, but the
scholars say this is the humble position, that it depends on the amount of money that is apprehended
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many, many stories, and many and one of those was alcohol. Okay, so the majority of his money is
heroin. So therefore, the prohibition is not that great. Whereas if income is from heroin sources,
then they say that the religion becomes more and more so the mayor has many coats on heroin, the
more on the becomes, but it is not obligatory for you to ask what a source of income is. If you
happen to know that's a different story, but you don't have to go to Muslim
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source of income. What did you do
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Get your money this is not proper. This is not proper for person to do you have to address
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Yeah, so he doesn't have to ask like I said here, but if he knows for a fact that his money is from
Harlem then how do you go about finding if your future spouse is a virgin or not? Is there a lot for
you to ask him or her Also, do you have to tell the truth if you're not a virgin because of the fact
that you may make repentance and you want to conceal your false
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the marriage contract one of the important factors to take into account is virginity. Therefore,
like we said, if it is discovered that the woman was not a virgin, then the man has the right to say
he must do it, but the man has the right to an organized contract. Therefore, it is obligatory upon
the women to inform the man and vice versa if they are not virgins. Okay. It is obligatory upon the
sponsor to inform them of any type of diseases that they have they're going to be affected any type
of this acid out of metal with this question, okay. Because someone asked me this about you know,
these renewals of using this type of stuff, it is obligatory logic upon base classes to inform the
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future spouses of these types of diseases and also of this rigidity, because when you know, when you
stretch into a region, then you have every right to choose a version and vice versa. Okay, but it is
expected that If so, you have a right to ask By the way, in our times, especially you have a lot to
ask that this you have any disease or this you have any you know, as your servers you have the right
to ask, okay, this type of stuff.
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This is, I mean physical defects in her. He can't have * with her due to her problems, but
he still keeps you as a wife. She can demand her mad or not. A lot of us she can't because they have
been in 100 together they have been
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Okay, last question quickly.
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We talked about this before.
