Yasir Khan – Weekly Seerah Session The Year of Grief
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The speaker discusses the struggles of the prophet salallahu alaihi wa sallam, who lost his wife and two children. He emphasizes the importance of faith and optimism in addressing suffering and loss, and the need to consider the full story of what helped people to Islam. The history of Islam, including Omar Radiallahu's stance against Islam and his desire to take care of his hometown, is also discussed, along with the importance of following Sunitz Ray and focusing on strength and intentions to achieve goals.
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All of these things are related. When we
look at the Prophet
there isn't any type of pain that he
has gone through.
And scholars say that if the Prophet
was so beloved to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala,
then why would he make him go through
so much pain?
Because the prophet is
a and a for us.
He's an example for us.
So this way whenever we are going through
anything in life,
immediately we think about it and we say
that, okay, the prophet
has gone through the same thing. When I
was going
to the burial,
I was talking to my sister and she
was saying that, you know, it's so hard
when you think about leaving your children behind.
It's so everybody's looking at it from a
different perspective. Some people are like, you know,
it's so hard
to have your wife pass away. Some people
are looking at it so hard to leave
your children behind. It's so hard to be
alone. It's so When you look at it,
every one of these, the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wa sallam has gone through. He was born
without the parents,
then taken away from his foster mother,
then his
the one person who was taking care of
him like a father,
Abdul Muttalib, he passes away, and then continuously
he's going through these pains.
But not just this type of pain, one
is the pain of childhood in which you
lose your beloved,
but then the other is when you become
the adult and you lose someone.
So he lost his children as well.
And not just that, at the time of
death when the prophet is
going through the pain and the agony, subhanallah,
I never thought about this until my sister
just brought it up. She said, you know,
the biggest thing that worries me is leaving
my children.
I'm thinking always about what's gonna happen to
my children.
So I thought about the pain of leaving
some the pain of losing someone,
but not the pain of leaving someone.
And so my sister brought this up. I
I thought
maybe this is why Allah
made one of his daughters, just one of
his daughters, Fatima radhiallahu anha,
stay back.
Other than that, every single person was passed
away in his life. And as we went
when I when I was just witnessing right
now in the Kaaba,
Sheikh Mohammed al Hawizi, he's crying,
picking up
his wife
and putting her in the grave.
And his son is right next to him
crying and picking up his mother
and putting her in the grave. And Sheikh
Ramadan al Sabav
is crying and picking up his sister and
putting her in the grave.
And I said, we need to start to
reflect
that one day
we will have to put or either other
people will have to put us.
Have to put whether it's our mother or
father,
it's our sister, it's our brother, it's our
children,
whatever it may be, or one day is
gonna come where other people will be putting
us over here.
And this is what we need to recognize.
Sheikh Mohammed Al Haveliz,
he was crying so much
because he said, this lady helped me when
I was coming to America. I had no
wealth. She sold her jewelry so that I
come here today.
In a little bit, we're gonna reach to
the year of Amul Husal.
The year of sorrow, the grief of the
year of grief in which the prophet sallallahu
alaihi wa sallam lost lost
his wife.
And he said,
she believed in me when everybody rejected me.
She supported me when everybody neglected me.
So this all that we see in our
life,
when we have the seerah of the prophet
salallahu alaihi wa sallam in our life, it
becomes easy
because you know that he's there with you.
And as Sheikh Mohammed was hugging every single
person, he continues to say, Alhamdulillah.
Alhamdulillah.
Alhamdulillah.
Where does he get this energy from?
Where does he get this iman from? Where
does he get the strength that today he's
burying?
The most beloved person to him, and he's
saying, Alhamdulillah.
Whereas on the opposite side, you will see.
We had one student.
When I asked him, I said,
Tell me the story of your family.
He was a convert.
And he said that, When my father passed
away,
my mother committed suicide.
You can't take that pain when you don't
have iman, when you don't have faith, when
you don't have an example,
when you don't have somebody, when you don't
have that hope that we are going to
see each other in jannah.
But when you have that faith,
that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is giving me
reward for this,
then you have that example of the prophet
salallahu alaihi wa sallam. Continuously, Sheikh Mohammed is
saying, alhamdulillah, and referring to the seerah even
when the prophet salallahu alaihi wa sallam lost
his son.
When he lost his son,
he's crying
and his heart is aching,
and he says,
He said that today the eyes are tearing
and the heart is aching.
He said, we are not going to say
anything except what Allah
is pleased with.
We are pleased with Allah
Sheikh was saying today, going back to the
seerah continuously going back to the seerah, that
today when he's putting his wife into the
grave, he said, you Allah, we are pleased
with you. You Allah, you took her away.
You took her away suddenly. We weren't prepared
for this. You took her away, but we
are happy with this.
All of this goes back to show us
that when you have a connection with the
seerah,
when you have a connection
with the life of the prophet salallahu alaihi
wa sallam, it will come wallahi.
I tell you this from experience.
I tell you this from my own pains
that it will come to you and rescue
you and give you the strength when you
are going to need it the most.
Otherwise, you see
people who lose their strong people who lose
their their their beloveds,
they lose their hope.
They have nothing to hold on to. Either
they go on to commit suicide,
they go on to depression,
they go on to all types of
alcohol,
drugs.
Trust me, the root cause when you look
at society of all evil is the lack
of faith,
the lack of role model, the lack of
having an example.
Because when you look
at being alone, being empty, losing someone,
you need to take care of that pain.
You need to redirect that pain. But the
only way you will redirect it is when
you have iman, when you have faith, when
you have something to look forward to.
You have something to have hope in,
and that all is developed
from learning about the sirrah, from learning about
the life of the prophet salallahu alaihi wa
sallam because
his whole life could have been a luxury,
could have been a ease,
But Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala made him go
through all of that. So you and I,
when we go through the struggles, when we
go through the pain, when we go through
the difficulties,
we will say this is how the prophet
salallahu alaihi wa sallam went through it. This
is how he handled it and this is
how we are going to handle it.
So when we look at this,
realize
that Sira is a means of hope for
us. It's a means of optimism for us.
It's a means of iman for us. It's
a mean of yaqeen for us.
You see, continuously
up and down happening.
Last time we discussed that the prophet salallahu
alaihi wa sallam
was going through so much torture, seeing his
companions going through so much tortures.
Today, Sheikh Mohammed's wife,
they saw that she passed away. But when
you look at the seerah of the prophet
salallahu alaihi wa sallam, what did we discuss?
We discussed that Ammar ibn Yasir radiAllahu anhu
had to look at his mother
being whipped and tortured to death.
So whenever we are going through pain, whenever
we are going through grief, through difficulty,
we look at the seerah and we see
somebody who's gone through more.
He's seeing his father being killed right in
front of him. He's seeing his mother screaming
and being killed right in front of him.
When the prophet
saw no escape for them, he said, go
to Habasha.
Now only 30 to 40 people are left,
and they're continuously torturing the prophet
to the point where the person who is
even torturing
the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, the prophet
of Allah makes dua for him. The 2
people who are very strong in torturing the
Muslims
was Abu Jahl,
Amrud Al Hakam.
Right?
Abu Jahl.
And then who was the second one? The
second one was Omar radiAllahu anhu.
And a prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam made
dua you Allah.
You assist
Islam with 1 of the Ummars.
He's making that dua. We mentioned the story
of Hamzah radhiallahu onwu last time. Hamzah radhiallahu
onwu how he accepted. When the prophet salallahu
alaihi wa sallam was getting beaten and tortured
and a lady sees it, a slave girl
sees it, and goes to Hamzah radiAllahu and
says, look at your nephew. He's getting tortured.
What's wrong with you,
You can't go and defend him?
And she go he goes and defends and
he accepts Islam and then his Islam becomes
properly established. We talked about that. Now the
story of the Islam of Umar radhiallahu anhu,
a lot of us know one story.
That story of him going to his sister's
house.
But that's not the only time.
That's not the only thing that made him
accept Islam. And we need to keep that
in mind because sometimes
we see the people who come to the
masjid,
and they take shahada and we say
and go hug them, but we don't look
at the full story of what helped them,
what brought them to Islam.
Umar radiAllahu anhu while he was torturing,
he had small small
droplets on his heart of hidayah.
Small small drops that were going in there
that was removing the rust.
And one day he went out
at nighttime, and the prophet salallahu alaihi wasalam
was by the matath, by the Kaaba, and
he was praying his salah.
And he was praying his salah, Umar radhiallahu
alaihi was hiding.
And the when Umar radhiallahu alaihi was like,
man, these words that he's saying,
he must be a shire.
And Allah
makes the prophet
in the Quran say
Then maybe he's a soothsayer.
He's not that. Maybe it's magician. Maybe it's
this. Maybe it's that. And Allah
is making the prophet recite
ayaats that refused the thoughts of Omar Radiallahu
Anhu. Omar Radiallahu is in shock. He's like,
what's happening?
That was the first time small small droplets
of hidayah is going into Omar radiallahu anhu's
heart. Even to the extent that when the
Muslims were going
when the Muslims were going to Habasha and
Omar radiallahu anhu passed by the house
of Hud, passed by the house of Layla,
and he said, where are you guys going?
And she said that you guys have tortured
us so much that we have to leave
our hometown. And Omar is like, really?
We've we've gone that far? And
he kind of showed a little bit of
sympathy. He's like,
Allah take care of you guys.
And then when her husband comes,
he said, this is what he said. He
said, wallahi, the donkey of nil khatab
will accept Islam before Omar Khattab.
That's how staunch he was against Islam that
people thought that the donkey of Khattab,
the donkey of the family of Omar Radiallahu
and who will accept Islam before Omar Radiallahu
one.
And subhanAllah,
how Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala does. When the
prophet salallahu alaihi wa sallam makes this du'a,
the next day,
the Umar radiAllahu and who in the the
kuffar, they're frustrated because of the Islam of
Hamza.
They're like, man, this is gaining momentum.
Omar Radi'ahu is like, that's it. I'm done
with this. Where's my sword? Grab the sword.
Put a sword around. Now when you put
your sword in a regular town like that,
that means you're up to no good. That
means you have something planned. And he's going.
Nuaem radiAllahu anhu sees him. He's like, where
are you headed, Omer? He said, I'm gonna
go today. Get rid of Muhammad. He said,
go first take care of your own house.
Nuaem was very smart. He's trying to buy
time.
He's trying to redirect him, trying to distract
him. He's like, what do you mean? He
said, you don't know about your sister and
your brother-in-law?
And he went straight to their house.
When he goes to their house,
Khabab Abdul Arat, one of the companions of
the prophet, sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, he was
there.
And Fatima, the sister of Omar Radiallahu, one
who was there. And Saeed al Muzaid, the
the husband of,
Fatima, he was there. And they're doing taleem
in the house.
They're reciting the ayats of the Quran.
They're teaching each other the Quran,
and Omar
is hearing some, you know, whispers coming out
of the house. So he knocks
and when he knocks,
he goes and hides in one of the
rooms in the back.
He goes in and he's like, what is
this whisper that I hear?
He said that
it was just us talking.
He's like, no. It's not just us talking.
It's something more than that. And he attacks.
He starts to beat them. And so he
starts to beat
Saeed ibn Zayed, the husband of Fatima, his
sister, beat him to the point where she
goes and tries to, you know, save him
from him and he slaps his sister.
When he slaps his sister, he feels
so
much he feels something. I didn't do a
right thing.
And his heart softens up.
He sees at that point some of the
writings of the Quran,
Surataha.
He's like, what is this? They're like, oh
this is this is not for you. Well,
what is it? He's like, this is the
Quran. He's like, let me see it. Like
his sisters, no. You have to be tahir.
You are nudges. You cannot touch this. Go
wash yourself then you can see it. He
washed himself. He calms down. He goes. He
recites.
Like, wow. This is beautiful.
What are these words? This is beautiful.
Where is this from?
Said this is Islam.
And so when Khabab hears this from the
back room, he comes out and he's like,
oh, Omar, I think the dua of the
prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam has been accepted
for you. He's like, what dua? What are
you talking about? He said the prophet made
dua that, you Allah, you help Islam through
one of the Ummars.
And so Umar radhiallahu anhu's like, tell me
where the prophet is. He goes to the
prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam there in, Darabn
Al Arakam.
They go over there
and
they see in the small crack when somebody's
knocking that Umar is here and he's here
with his sword. The Muslim starts to distract.
What's going on? What's going on? Hamza said,
if he's here for good, great. Otherwise, I'm
gonna I'm gonna gonna kill him with his
own sword today.
And the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam goes
to Umar and he said, You, Umar, when
are you gonna accept Islam
before the punishment of Allah comes on you?
And he said, Today I'm ready to accept
Islam.
And everybody says,
Now this is a big victory for Muslims.
2 of the strongest men in Makkah, they
just accepted Islam.
And Umar radhiallahu
subhanallah,
he had such guts that he was not
scared of anyone.
So he goes
and he said, who's the biggest, you know,
he who has the biggest mouth to go
and tell everybody?
So he finds out that there's this one
guy named Jamil.
If you tell him something and say, hey,
listen. I'm a tell you something. Don't tell
someone. He goes and tells everyone. Okay, Jamil.
I'm a tell you something. What is it?
I accepted Islam.
And so Jameel goes all throughout Makkah. Guys,
Umar has left the religion of forefather.
Umar has left the religion of his forefather.
And so he's now spreading the word spreading
the word and all of the people are
like, what's going on?
Umar radiAllahu anhu subhanahu, he knows which points
to hit. He goes to the house of
Abu Jahl. He knocks the door.
He's like,
oh, my nephew.
Welcome. They're from the same tribe. My nephew.
Welcome. What how can I help you? He's
like, I I was just here to tell
you that I'm Muslim now. And Wajahal just
slams the door on his face.
Now, Umar goes to the main thing that,
subhanallah, even Umar being a strong guy, being
from a very influential tribe, the people still
attacked him and they kept on fighting him
and fighting him and fighting him
until
then,
Al-'As
comes and he says that, you know what?
I take his guarantee. Nobody is allowed to
say anything to him. And so from there,
Omar radiAllahu alaihi wa sallam, who's now good.
Now from here, Omar radiya who goes back
to the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam says,
prophet of Allah,
is Islam haqq? He says, yes. Are we
on haqq? Yeah. So why are we hiding?
Let's go out and show the people.
And he says prophet is like, you know,
we have to be no prophet of Allah.
If we're on Haqq, we have to go
out. Hamza radiAllahu who gets in the front
and Omar radiAllahu gets in the front and
they have their first parade going in the
streets of Makkah and proclaiming their Islam.
That's why Umar is known as Al Farooq.
That's where his name Al Farooq comes. The
prophet salallahu alaihi wa sallam from that day
named him Al Farooq because he says,
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala separated. Farooq
is to separate.
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala separated
between
haqq and batil through Omar Radiallahu one who
since then he was known as Al Farooq.
SubhanAllah, Umar Radiallahu anhu is not the first
of the Muslims,
not second, not third, not 4th, not even
in the top 10 or 20 or 30,
he accepted much later.
But when he entered into Islam,
he entered with such passion,
such sincerity,
such drive, such strength that subhanallah he comes
right after Abu Bakr radiAllahu anhu.
It gives us something too. Doesn't matter where
we are in life. Umar radhiahu used to
drink.
He used to beat the Muslims. He used
to do all that but when Allah gave
him hidayah,
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
took the work of Islam from him in
such a level that the growth of the
Islamic empire that has happened in the time
of Umar Radiallahu anhu was unprecedented. Didn't happen
before.
Shows us too. Doesn't matter where we are.
Doesn't matter what our past was, doesn't matter
what we did. But when we say that
now I'm going to dedicate myself to Islam,
I'm going to dedicate myself to deen. You
go with the strength, you go with the
ikhlas, you go with the sincerity,
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will take it from
you. But you have to make that intention.
You have to go with that strength. So
we ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to allow
us to really follow the footsteps of these
Sahaba.
These are our forefathers.
These are the people we look at that
gives us strength.
These are the people when we look at
and we're going through pain, we said they
went through more pain.
These are the people that we look at
and we see that they have went through
the path that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala told
them.
Allah is happy with them. They're happy with
him. They took that path so we can
take that path as well. These are the
people. This is the point of Sira. The
point of Sira is to give us that
hope, to give us that strength, to give
us that motivation
that we
are the ambassadors of Islam.
We are the workers of Islam.
We can do for Islam
just like the sahaba radiAllahu anhu strove. We
can strive the same
way. It's not about who comes first, it's
not about who comes later but it's about
following the sunnah of the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wa sallam in times of ease, in times
of pain, in times of difficulty,
in times of happiness.
So we ask
Allah to give us the ability to understand
the seed of the prophet and
to follow every sunnah of the prophet