Yaser Birjas – Why Are Young Muslims So Unhappy?

Yaser Birjas

Why are young Muslims so unhappy today, and how can they be happy again with all that’s going on in the world? Shaykh Yaser Birjas explains.

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The challenges of living in a culture that prioritizes the body over culture and fear lead to dissatisfaction and sadness. The high rate of mortality in Syria and the importance of martial law are also discussed. The speaker emphasizes the need for training for men and women to become successful in their roles and advises parents to give children a plan to grow up in their community. The importance of healthy children is also emphasized, along with the need for a plan for children to help them grow up and develop their spirituality. The speaker encourages young people to take advantage of " handy guy" habit and not worry too much about it.

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			Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.
		
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			$100 Bill alameen wa sallahu wa salam Baraka novena Muhammad Ali was salam, ala Sleeman, kathira.
Ahmad. How can we as Muslims survived the hardships of our time, it's as simple as that. Whenever
you look around, whenever you check the news, there is something depressing that happens. And
everything is always geared towards Muslims. Muslims just being a Muslim by itself is, it's a big
challenge this day, at a generation, a time a culture that praises the body culture, it praises,
materialism, praise, of course, liberal values, and so forth. All of this thing is, by itself is a
huge pressure on you being a Muslim. Now living this in the American context, as we see today in the
		
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			news, what's going on in Iraq, in Syria, with Islamophobia, and so on, it's even much more getting
even harder and harder on us, especially for the young ones, the hopeful ones, those who would like
to start off their life in sha Allah with the best in the best way, the best discourse is prepared
for them. How can we? How can we survive the hardship of our times? How can I live as Muslims in
this society, without having to look behind my back over my shoulder? without having to worry about
what I say? And what I do? How can I even enjoy my data as Muslims? I don't have to have a clash of
identity or culture, being a Muslim and big American? How can I do this? Now, why do we even have
		
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			this kind of increase of dissatisfaction with life with life, even though we almost have all
supposedly we have everything, especially in the Muslim community, in the Americans, the Muslim
Muslim Americans are critical of the most affluent, perhaps minorities in America, and some of the
richest most wealthiest people in the world, we are lucky to be part of the one or 2% of the most
affluent people in the world. However, you see that the quality of life is not as great as it's as
it should be. And we have so much dissatisfaction among the Muslim community, particularly the young
ones. So parents, Mashallah May Allah bless them, those who migrated from different countries, or
		
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			maybe they weren't born over here as a second generation, or even the converted. So these now they
did everything possible to prepare the next the next episode of the life of their children for them.
So they don't want them to worry about school. They don't want to worry about about marriage, they
don't want him to worry about anything in their life. So they prepared everything for them, smaller
thinking that is going to bring a quality of life. But there is a huge increase of dissatisfaction
in the life of the young ones. As a result, they have this kind of clash, or an emotional clash
between who they are and what they want in this life, they will not train to even to think for
		
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			themselves, because their parents are thought about everything for them. So for that reason, they
don't even know what they want to live anymore. We have, we are raising a generation of frustrated
and angry young men and women are into that dilemma and marriages.
		
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			When we tell them that marriage is important for you, it's half of your dean, and you have to do
this not to fall into the harem, and so on. And then we put all these obstacles on the way for them
to deal with the Halloween.
		
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			And now we make it even harder and harder when it becomes cultural, which is defined what they grow
up to become American Muslims. So some more more pressure, and I was falling on these young men and
women, they're supposed to have it all. But they're not happy what they have, there is very
dissatisfied. And the dissatisfaction as much as we try to convince them to enjoy life. They're not
enjoying it anymore. So part of one of the reasons I will share with you that
		
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			many of these young men and women today, as we have seen on the news, and we read on also on the
internet, they have tried to take shortcuts to gender.
		
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			They want to take shortcuts to gender. They want to quit life. Some of them want to go to Syria to
fight, some of them want to go to Iraq, some they want to do other things, and so on thinking that
this is a smart thing to do. And they defy now defy the authority of the leaders of the Imams of the
Obama of their scholars, because they think that they know better. They're building out their way.
They can't stand the harshness of life. So they want to take shortcuts. How can we make sure that
these young men and women they grew up in Charlotte in a southern environment and what can we do
about this but I want to first First of all, I would like to understand the reason why we're going
		
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			through this now, feeling of dissatisfaction.
		
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			dissatisfaction in our lives. Number one,
		
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			the center of life moved from the human being into materialism and things like in our life today. If
you look at what
		
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			Exactly your value your self worth is what you have, not who you are. Some people that work around
the most expensive value they have is the clothes on their body.
		
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			borders represent as human beings, absolutely nothing the way behind.
		
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			So we move in right now that concept of value from the human being, to materialism to things. And as
a result, if you don't have it, then you don't, then you have there is no value for you in this
life. Many of these young men and women, they would like to have all these things that you tell them
that they have value. And as a result, they are not satisfied. Whatever they achieve, it's not
sufficient. And by the way, just to give parents a kind of perspective on things. So some children,
they grew up in the household, and they want to become imams. You see, I come from Dallas, that was
a handler, well known right now for having many of these National Speakers live in the same city, we
		
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			have a billion Institute, you have Calum Institute, so many people, they migrate from other states
to come to Dallas. So they can study Arabic language, Islamic Studies, and so on. They have all
these exams and shoes and so on. But then you have many of these people, they come and they have
they defied their parents and come into the city. So why? Well, I would like to study Arabic
language, but my parents want me to go overseas to study so on, so to speak to the Caribbean to
become a doctor. So the huge challenge right now, the value, the value, the standard value is
shifting and changing. And even some other some other students, they come to Dallas to study Arabic
		
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			language, Islamic says for another year and column Institute. Why is that? Because they've already
achieved what their parents want them to do, like finishing their bachelor's degree, or medical
degree, being an engineer, a graduate of such and such school. And now at 2526, young, younger or
older, they want to take one or two years off to study Islamic Studies. Why is that?
		
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			Because they're not satisfied with what they have achieved already. They've done it for other
people, they want something valuable for themselves, we are removing the value the value from what
our children want, and what they would value in this world. And we are dictating what is most
valuable to them. The second thing,
		
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			many of our younger children today, they lack the basic training of surviving in this life. What I
mean by basic training, take the example of marriage example marriage. In the case of marriage,
let's go to education first, when it comes to education, I mean, we assume I don't know how many of
you have seen this picture these images, when they show your students going to different schools
around different parts of the world. Some kids, some kids who are in elementary level, they cross
rivers, they cross mountains, they're right on the back of cows and bulls and camels and whatever,
just to go and study. Have you seen these pictures, and you admire them for that, like, wow, this
		
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			was spending in the air Cipolla and just you know, if that bridge is cut off, they're done. But they
still go everyday to go and study. So these kids, these kids, they learn that the value of learning
is not just sitting there and take the information. No, the effort is done into it also matters. For
us. We don't give our children any any sense of challenge when it comes to education. No, we want
them to be the most comfortable.
		
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			Because we think when they're the most comfortable, they'll study better.
		
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			They might actually do so. And they might excel in terms of grades. But in terms of social skills,
life skills, they become very poor. So that's why when they go to college, some of them don't even
know how to handle college, because they don't even know what how to make decisions on what they
want, what they want to study. And I have so many young men and women, they come to me and they say,
Now that I'm done with my first year in school, what do you think I should do? And so what do you
want to do? So I don't know, what do you think I should do? Or what do you want to do?
		
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			I mean, I can answer this question for you. But I know where it's coming from. They've never been
given the skill of making these decisions, these choices. Similarly, when it comes to marriage, when
it comes to marriage, we don't prepare our kids to get to get married. We want them to get married
when we decide they're ready for marriage. So these kids don't make any effort to prepare
themselves. It seems that we're associating we are associating the maturity level with the education
level when my child finishes school, they're ready for marriage.
		
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			So therefore just finished school. Okay, while I'm finishing school, how am I gonna live my life
Your parents will take care of you. I remember one occasions I used to when I used to, I travel
silver for another Institute, one of those occasions. When I arrived in the city, the young man came
		
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			testing under
		
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			some people perhaps maybe they know what it is that they want.
		
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			The name of the city I'm not going to mention the city and don't worry about it. So when I arrived
in that city, a young man came and picked me up. He was maybe around 1920 years old Mashallah. And
he was driving the latest BMW edition. I got into the car and a Mashallah. Mashallah. You don't want
to live.
		
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			So I said, martial law, and I know he's still in college. Basically, I said, martial law, who's this
car? He goes, it's, it's mine. I'm like, martial law says, What do you got it from? He goes, my dad
borrowed from me.
		
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			I said, Can you adopt me?
		
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			But then I told him, I said, seriously, I said, you really think your dad bought it for you? It was
What do you mean? He did? It's mine. I said, No, you need to understand your dad bought it for
himself. So how come so because your dad which I know who that was that I said, Your dad doesn't
want the people in the community say that the son of XYZ is driving a crappy car. That's why he's
buying your fancy car right now. When you buy these cars for your children who are still freshmen in
college, and they're driving, they're old, or they're driving their dream cars today, what
motivation you left for them to finish school.
		
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			What else that they're gonna need to be challenged for. No wonder they get lost. They don't know how
direction and then they start going to all these, these websites and start, you know, looking for
meaning for themselves, something that is meaningful to them outside of this material world. And
when they have somebody telling them the agenda is there for you. And they just follow this because
I think this is the right direction. They make bad decisions, wrong decisions. It's extremely
dangerous. Living that comfortable life Cipolla can be that dangerous specifically for us over here.
I remember reading that I am aloha Pablo de la hora Randhawa he so he saw that the heels of his son,
		
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			they were very soft.
		
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			He looked at him and he goes, Kalia buena Shoshana for in the near metadata. Doom says roughing up a
little bit, son. Because this nirma this blessing don't last forever.
		
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			Which means sometimes you have to go through the process in order for you to enjoy life and and
handle up do the right thing. Training, our children don't have the basic training, even when it
comes to the subject of marriage. We have we have them take all these exams and all these trainings
and all this education for them. So they can be certified in a certain profession. But when it comes
to the profession for life, like marriage, the skill to be a successful husband and wife. We don't
invest that much.
		
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			I run I run actually a counseling services as well. People, people, they say that it's expensive. I
said you wait for the voltage, easy divorce, how much expensive is going to be because without
training, without training for marriage, there is a high rate of divorce, I have statistics. And I
deal with these cases, regardless of what background they are, how wealthy or poor they are, it
doesn't matter. It has to be skills. Our kids don't have the skills to learn how to live this life.
We're not equipping them with these things. We're given them life so comfortable, so easy. You don't
have to worry about anything, just finished school, finish education do this don't do that will take
		
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			care of everything for you. As a result, they feel lost. And when they start looking for meaning
they might go to the wrong direction. Another thing that causes them to be so depressed and
dissatisfied with this life, look into the affairs of this world. I mean, Subhanallah obviously,
when you look into what's going on in Syria, and you see that people are even willing to die,
they're writing what I call the arch, the arcs of death, these arcs of death and the ships and the
boats of death. They know that's not even a 50 chance anymore. With the high, high rate of mortality
and that during that during the season, when the weather is changing, the climate is changing.
		
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			People know it's perhaps maybe it's it's 30% survived 70% death, they're still taking chances.
Whenever we see what's going on the Muslims in Iraq or in Bangladesh or or ro hinga. Or even
anywhere in the world. When you look at that many Muslims, the fields, Allah, helpless and hopeless,
especially living here in America. I know a brother, who came as a refugee over here, a lot less
than with with this status, he came to this country. He got married, he sought asylum and he got it
and he just lived his life over here. But until now he's still struggling with his marriage and his
life. Why is that? Because he's feeling guilty that he's having it comfortably here. What his
		
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			family's still suffering there.
		
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			So they'll have this now that they're feeling guilty, being alive, feeling guilty, that having
everything and handler given to them, you know, on a golden plate. They're just guilty of it.
		
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			Why do you have to feel guilty if Allah bless you, we'll just use it for the rest for the best you
can and shallow, who doesn't have to feel guilty that you're humble, you're wealthy, you don't have
to feel guilty because you have education because you have a community, you have a house, you have a
roof over your head, you don't have to feel guilty for that. Instead, use this nirma and be grateful
for the cinema, and then take it to the next level with the people that you try to help them in a
way that is shallow that you can be an ally as the result. So these young men and women, when they
see the condition of the world, and they see that political leaders, religious leaders are not
		
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			moving anywhere not doing anything about it. They start kind of feeling that they've been betrayed,
they get upset, they get angry, and eventually some of them they might decide to leave Islam and
others perhaps would go and make that radical decision and make the wrong wrong actually choice.
		
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			Many of our brothers and sisters the young ones today, what they do they they romanticize the past.
So every time we see here a situation that is happening, they always bring you examples like
Salahuddin up honorable hopper or the law of attraction. Like Where are you guys from these people?
While I would answer this question like I live in, I will Talabani answer some people who came to
him after the Battle of Safin, a man came to leave and he said, Why did the people like disagree on
you when they have agreed on men like overclass a decent armor? like telling, like telling it, you
are the problem?
		
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			Because the worker didn't have a problem? Or didn't have a problem? How come the people they fight
now over you? And they didn't do that with overcoming trauma? What was the answer to have earlier
the law of the land? He said to him because the people of romanova Casa de where people will live in
a better life and people like me, and my people are you and people like you.
		
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			So sometimes, the way the reason we're going through all this, all this, all this dilemma in our
lives is because of our actions. It's us, the choices we make as a community can lead to this
result.
		
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			There's not so many people in our Muslim communities as an Imam, I've been in demand in this country
for the past 15 years, I've seen almost everything was more massage at the big massage at the big
image a small community so panela when it comes to when it comes to given suggestions and feedback
about a color, we're all experts.
		
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			We're all experts, when it comes to give me your hand, so we can work this together while I am to
visit. But can we ask for volunteers, please. That's how we do it in our Muslim community.
		
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			There are a few people who take initiative and when they do, they get discouraged by the local
communities. And that's why these kids, they start making their own choices and taking their own
decision on their own. It's extremely dangerous, if we don't give them the opportunity, if we don't
provide these, these channels for them, where they can use their talents and skills and energy and
knowledge and so on, they are going to find their ways, if we don't give them the chance and lead
them through it, they're gonna find their ways.
		
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			And another thing also, it's a matter of, you know, neglect from the Muslim community, if you ask
any, any Muslim community, what they like the most. Usually, most parents complain about the lack of
youth programs, children programs, so they always wait for someone to do the job. They don't get
together to sacrifice their time and effort. So we can make it happen in shallow dialogue. But we
all agree on one thing, there is so much neglect in this area. And whenever we do something, it's
just it's chaotic, we don't have any organized system except for a fuel handler successful
community, for the law has the origin. But the thing is that because of all of this, our young men
		
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			and women, they lack that purpose in life.
		
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			They don't they don't see a meaning meaning to their lives anymore. And as a result, they will be
looking somewhere on the internet to find a special meaning for their lives. And if they go to the
wrong websites, definitely the results will be catastrophic. And here's my advice in Charlotte about
a quarter how can we make things easy for them number one,
		
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			as parents as well, that also applies to us as parents is that we need to get our kids ready from
very young age. You don't have to you don't have to tailor the life for them. Like many families are
Mashallah they're very actually cannot micromanage the life of their children everything even what
they need to have for breakfast for lunch for dinner, nothing what they were, what they drive, what
they do, how they everything. That's not right isn't what we need to do. We need to have our
children grow up in Charlotte to become healthy human beings. I mean, I was just asked before I came
over here by a sister, how can I raise my children give me a plan a program? What is it? Do I need
		
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			to make sure that my kids inshallah will grow up to become you know, good Muslims. I said, Why are
you so terrified right now? It's not because you have children. suddenly you realize, oh my god Now
I know that the world is not as rosy as I used to think it was. So I need a plan for this. I said
there is no plan. I can give you any plan. Just make sure
		
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			When you raise your children, you raise healthy human beings who have spirituality, you have fear of
Allah subhanho wa Taala. One of the Elena was asked, How can the Sahaba rhodiola run home? They did
little and they get so much reward. But as local we're doing, we're struggling every day we have a
whole schedule program for everything. When you wake up in the morning, what do you say of the
current and influential facade and failure after failure? What do you say until you go and you pray?
		
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			We have everything prepared for us. But then Allah, we can't even catch up. How come they they've
done little and they have so much greater of good deeds. Also, when it comes to how much the Sahaba
they had the head of them in terms of the quantity of it, versus us to this power that the tip of
your finger you have access to 1000s of libraries in the world, millions and billions of pages of
knowledge, but the quality of elements very, very low. He said because solid Kowloon these people,
they have good hearts, which means when their heart when their intentions when intentions are good.
Everything became perfect afterwards. We work so hard to make sure our kids know how to recite Olive
		
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			butter, the body and then Rania we make with so hard that they need to memorize the Quran from cover
to cover. And they can lead that away without mistakes. Sometimes, we make sure that kids are doing
all these religious duties. But how often do we sit down with our kids and talk about their good
intentions, whatever they do for the sake of Allah subhana wa Tada. So in order instead of us, kind
of dividing goals for our children for ourselves, I want you to follow the son of the Prophet
sallallahu Sallam on defining your goal in life in one thing, the Messenger of Allah sallallahu
Sallam says manjal Houma Hammond wa Haden Han malnad Kapha Hola, Jose, Rama. Whoever makes is him
		
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			his main concern hammelmann the concern for the hereafter? Allah azza wa jal will take care of all
their concerns in this dunya and voila, it is true. It is absolutely true. It's just like the
example I've been given for many, many times, you know, even just in the morning, the difference
between being happy and being content, we struggle so much doing many things so we can feel happy.
		
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			But as much as we do we feel less happy, less satisfied in this life. Why is that because we don't
have the right intention, the right way of doing it. Instead, you need to be content. Once your
content if your goal is to be content with whatever Allah has given you, after you do your part, you
will always be happy. Similarly, what I want for my dear young young brothers and sisters is that
you are not required to solve the problem of the world. But you need to do what you can do in your
position in this life in sha Allah, Allah and whatever that you do you do it for the sake of Allah
azza wa jal make your biggest concern Your goal is to please Allah subhanho wa Taala. And if you do
		
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			so, you will realize anything that you do, whether it's activism in the method at home or outside in
the street, if you always have your concern to please Allah subhanho wa Taala it makes things easy
for you, whatever happens because you submit to the will of Allah you because you did your best,
you'll always be content, you always be happy, you want to be the satisfied with this life.
		
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			And you know, that you can do as much so whenever you do your part that 100 Allah, results are in
the hands of Allah azza wa jal. The next thing is whenever for the young men and women today,
instead of working on these big, big goals that we will try want to achieve. I want you to start
actually achieving little goals one at a time. Just little goals one at a time. So for example,
people they tell me after Ramadan, what should I do? Ramadan is over, I did all these great things.
What can I do to meant to keep momentum? I said, What is the best thing you would love you enjoyed
in the month of Ramadan? Just one thing. Someone says, You know what, I enjoy working out for fudger
		
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			every single day. So just don't worry about anything else. Just do this. How about fasting Mondays
and Thursdays? Just forget about that. Now. Just focus on this. Why is that support isn't there is
something in in the culture of habits. It's just like, this habit is like a like a master habit. If
you're gonna have this if you master this part. It has this domino effect and everything on you. So
if someone decides to do preamble, federal solar car, everything all together, you will fail. But if
you decide on one thing, just work on one thing, I want you just to work on one thing, this is to
pray everyday on time, that's it.
		
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			I guarantee you will change your lifestyle completely. You're going to become even active in other
areas in life, like exercising, even dieting, whatever, just start with one single thing is shallow
to Allah. I'm going to do your way when you do that activity work in a professional, shallow
dynamic, just make it for the sake of Allah zone. Now, on a personal level, a few things I want you
to take away today, Gordon, Sharlto number one, time management, the young ones they waste so much
time that no wonder the process
		
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			Assam says of the five things we're going to be asked about when we stand before Allah azza wa jal.
He said your lifetime. And then he said your youthful time. So your age, how long? How long you
lived and how much you spend is for the sake of Allah. And that youthful age. What did you do with
that? Today, we lose time in so many things. And the number one distraction, which is considered,
you know, a blessing and a curse. The mobile phones are smaller, it's a it's a, I don't know if you
can call quality on a blessing or a curse. For some it is. And when it comes to those who are
married, you know what I'm talking about, right? This sometimes becomes an alarmist and the worst
		
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			thing you brought you to life to your children and your family. It can be dangerous time management.
I'm not going to give you now the details of how to manage your time but this is something you're
going to have to look into it you have to make sure that you choose your time wisely in Charlotte,
America with Ireland. When it comes to patience, equality, our young brothers and sisters, they lost
actually because of the culture of the all based on instant gratification, drive thru culture,
always being going to do everything online. To get in line. It's very important that you provide
yourself with time in order to achieve things Rasulullah Salah Sam told me bla bla bla bla, he said
		
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			to him, when he had an alpha and unza Well, I also am in a southern, no one has ever been given a
thought which means a gift of a blessing from Allah azza wa jal better than patients. Our younger
generation, they grown up less patient every single day because they feel entitled to everything and
we don't if they don't get what they want. Unfortunately, they have adopted the habit of doing it on
their own. That's why you see many of them, you know, making these bad decisions may Allah subhanho
wa Taala give us all trophies and guidance. May Allah subhanaw taala get us in the hearts of our
young ones. And our older ones May Allah subhana wa COVID provide for them in this dunya and darco.
		
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			salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.