Yaser Birjas – TaSeel #38

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The speakers emphasize the importance of avoiding silent behavior and socializing healthy eating, avoiding embarrassment, and bringing family together. They also emphasize the need to practice good habits and avoid wasteful behavior. The "hamma" symbol for strength and satisfaction is emphasized, and the importance of learning to be a minimalist to avoid false expectations. Additionally, the speakers emphasize the importance of practicing good habits and avoiding wasteful behavior in sharia law, and mention a quiz for viewers to participate in.

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			Salam Alaikum rahmatullah wa barakato
		
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			Alhamdulillah blood Amin Salallahu Salam Baraka via Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa salam to
Sleeman Kathira to my my bad so tonight inshallah will continue from the second book of Imam Imam
Kodama Rahim Allah matassa Nigel Casa de in the etiquette of the role of Allah that the quarter or
the second part of the etiquette which refinement of character we began with the first part which is
about food, about aroma and we started with talking about Why kill the etiquette when you start
eating and now inshallah we're going to begin with more of that of that etiquette regarding
gathering around food, what should be the etiquette for the community, for the family, for friends
		
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			for people when they get together for food inshallah data? Let's see what we have from this
attribution similar
		
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			to salam ala Rasulillah Salam, Salam Rahim Allah says the first rule of conduct is one should not
begin eating if he is with someone who deserves to commence because of his age of virtue. If
however, he he himself is the role model, he should be the one who begins by Bismillah Alhamdulillah
wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah first and he says that the first thing we should should observe
is, don't start eating. Unless you know that somebody in the gathering or around the food, someone
who's more
		
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			befitting to begin and commenced the meal obviously, and what would give a person a priority when it
comes to eating the food number one age, so become being the elderly of the of the family, or the
gathering, you have an uncle, you have grandparents or grandmother grandfather, it's always better
to start with the elders to eat and also serving, even serving, even if the food was not necessarily
on the on one place. When it comes to asking the people Bismillah to go ahead and start serving, or
was it's good to start with the elderly. And if they can, of course come to the food, otherwise
better to bring the food to them, if you can bring the food to them. The second reason why given
		
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			people priority, if the person was of course, specific virtue or status, let's say you have some of
the dignitaries that have been invited to come whether maybe a leader in the community or something
like that, or someone else and knowledge for instance, half of the Quran for example, someone who's
specific virtue, we give them priority to begin and start of course, the main inshallah Tada which
means, which means we need to teach our children to wait until you know the elderly. Sir first,
given that advocate that other people want to innovate SallAllahu wasallam and the Hadith,
		
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			when, when there was there was milk that was served. And then it was about to be given to the
younger one. And another narration was a miswak to give to them one so the professor said cab cab,
which means give the older one, start with the older one. So that's part of the etiquette and the
other. Now, he said here in LA and he Hakuna who will mudbone He says except he should be the one
who has to begins. That translation said he himself is the role model. Now I don't know if it's
actually a role model because the Arabic text says Elana Hakuna, who Wilmette Booher which means he
is the one that is the whole gathering is about them. Like what for example, if you have, let's say,
		
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			Africa, or Africa, for somebody, maybe already past the age, let's say five years old, for example,
or maybe someone memorize the Quran headlock. So this example was Embera, a seven year old child
memorize the Quran, for example. And that's how the whole gathering is about celebrating there have
right now. So when it comes to start the food, who should be started first,
		
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			the seven year old Chun
		
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			as given the honor to commence the meal, because the whole party is about them. So he this person
becomes before the elderly, and before the people specific virtue and so on. So that's the meaning
of it. So I'm not really sure what the translation is right here. So saying he himself is the role
model. And this is the role model. But I don't know how you're going to translate that whole
metaphor, which means the one for whom the party or the gathering actually has been initiated in the
first place. So you can, you can choose a translation for that inshallah toward a coda. And I hope
that one of us here at least, if we can have somebody of those who take notes, always make notes of
		
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			these mistakes and translations. So towards the end of the book, and shallow data, we can send it to
the publisher. Hopefully, they will fix this translation shallow data now.
		
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			The second rule of conduct is that they should not eat in silence, but should instead converse about
good things. For example, they can relate the stories of the pious regarding food. We've learned in
some cultures that when you eat, you're supposed to do it quiet.
		
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			Don't talk while you're eating. So you don't spit out the food. I will be speaking right. But in our
tradition, x is the opposite. It's the place where you gather around food. So you start socializing
and talking and chit chatting at tonight on basically, so you're gonna help me get around that for
another meal. Now, he's a mentioned something specific like you should not be silent. There is no
mandatory rule Islamically on this matter, I guess though
		
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			What if I'm not in a mood to talk? Can I just eat while I'm silent? Shoot,
		
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			what I'm too hungry to talk so I'm just gonna keep digging into the food until I finish and then I
can talk. That's fine. So there's not a mandatory rule, but part of the other is not to remain
silent all the time. So you can converse you are allowed to talk and so on. Even there's something
in the Arab culture when someone comes in and they say Salaam Alaikum they say hola salam ala Tom.
There should be no salaam when people eating I mean, if they mean by that not saying salam alaikum
that's wrong, but with me is not to shake hands with the people that are eating then yeah, that's
right. Don't go and shake hands up while they're eating and don't mess up their hands and your
		
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			handle their food. So there's this guy that should be okay. But again, it's okay to talk while
you're on as long as you keep the Edit obviously, he suggests some of those examples he was like
reading stories of the past regarding food. Do you have to can we talk about gas prices? Yes, you
can talk about a situation and the world obviously you can do that. So it doesn't have to be around
what the pious people say about food, it can be general inshallah conversation now. The third rule
of conduct is each person should prefer the other over himself and should not let his companion feel
the need to say eat. When should eat cheerfully and act pretend, pretend to pretend to be asleep by
		
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			holding balance. Yes. Okay, by holding a bias. So the third note over here says that each person
should should prefer the other over over himself. We call this a thought. What does that mean? What
does that mean? And I honestly I've seen that in some gatherings. And really, it bothered me a lot.
But what can we do? Allama Stan, let's say you were invited to a dinner. You invited to dinner. So
you go and Marsha you see more people than what you know the food is going to be enough for them.
You say mashallah tray of kebabs, for example, right? And there's about maybe 50 pieces of cover up.
And you look around, there's about 50 men on it. Which means there's maybe another 50 Ladies and
		
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			children as well. And then as we collect the food, I see some brothers about a koala, they put two
three pieces on their plate.
		
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			Like, be considerate, that's what it means to be considered have ethos. I don't have to take
chicken, meat, and kebab and whatever. Now if you know that you have a lot of people mashallah
coming behind you, then maybe I should just stick to the chicken and take one piece and that's it,
I'll leave the cabana for somebody else, I'm gonna have to fill so much of this. That is the meaning
of it. So Aletha is when you find that you can prefer somebody over you. Sometimes you're eating
from the same plate. And you can tell that Marshall everybody's digging Tabarka ramen, and now
there's one piece left. And then about three, four people, everybody is leaving it for the other
		
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			person etha. The preferring you know, the others over themselves. That is the whole nuclear is the
other that's the etiquette. It's not about competing, who's gonna get to it first. It's supposed to
be the other way around. And subhanAllah if you do that, what happens is, Am I what do you think is
going to happen if everybody prefer other people over themselves,
		
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			there'll be a lot of a lot of leftovers.
		
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			Which means the food will have so much baraka and blessing in it. By having left over, you can have
another meal on the left over because everybody's now preferring others over themselves. And he said
also should not let his companion feel the need to say eat. What does that mean? Sometimes people
they come they have this kind of like fake piety. And we sit down just like no, I don't want to eat
stuff
		
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			while you're invited to food to eat, all right, unless you have a condition you have something in a
specific health issue, that's different story. But just to show that, you know, I don't want them to
say that I'm greedy. Or I'm, you know, just coming here for food. Yes, you came for food, we know
that. So let's not pretend the other way around. So it's okay for you to go ahead and enjoy what had
been made halal for you and you've been permitted to participate in a meeting basically. So just to
kind of sit there and just force the people to force you to eat or impose upon them to make sure
that you eat Why don't you eat? This is not supposed to be the other like you should want to eat
		
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			this Malay. Obviously,
		
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			knowing that the people will invite you for food mashallah they love for you to participate and eat
with them. They're not just inviting you just for formalities, and now they really literally want
you to participate and enjoy the meal with them. That's what he says. I said that one should eat
cheerfully which means imbeciles, just one said, I don't know about the word cheerfully. He said,
belly and bustle, which means be comfortable. That's what it means not cheerfully, being
comfortable. If you're being permitted to eat, just be comfortable with the Eat with eating shallow
water Kotara now, the fourth rule of conduct is I want you to now look directly at his companions as
		
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			they eat so that they do not become embarrassed, who likes to be you know, stared at when they're
eating.
		
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			Anyone likes the people that look at them just like watch you how you eat us.
		
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			Sandwich, or maybe how you put the food in your mouth now like that, right? So make sure don't stare
at the people in our eating, especially the guests if you invite people over, and then I sit down
there watching watching them on their eating. That doesn't look great, right? Some Hannah, although,
although we have to take into consideration some different standards of cultural standards really
like what in some, I'm familiar with out of culturally, because I'm out of myself got it. So in some
out of culture, what they do, they actually they don't eat with the guest. They don't eat with the
guest. Rather, they put the food for the guests, and they sit down chit chatting with him, they keep
		
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			talking about the guest.
		
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			And the one that gets to enjoy the food until they're done, and then they start eating. That's one
way of looking at, that's a cultural thing. Some other Caribbean have a different way as well, not
just they don't just don't eat with the guest. They don't even sit with the guest. So they leave
them they put the food for them in the room and everything mashallah is presented on the table or
whatever to the floor spread. And then they tell them enjoy, and they close the door behind them.
And they leave for some time and then they come back in to check on them within anything else. Why
they want to make sure that the guests are being well entertained, and they're enjoying their main
		
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			without any
		
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			restrictions. Because you know, sometimes the guests when you're sitting around, kind of feeling a
little bit shy to oh, this is so good about I don't they're asking for a second, for example, or I
wish I can have more of this, you feel embarrassed. Unless of course you're too close or handed to
each other that you don't care about these these formalities. So they said the whole idea. From
this, what we learn is that don't create any, any circumstances that would cause your guests to feel
embarrassed or shy or not enjoy the meal, like make it as easy as possible, and as enjoyable as
possible and shallow to botica Ouattara so don't look at the model.
		
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			The fifth rule of conduct is that he should refrain from anything he himself would find repulsive,
such as shaking what is on his hand into the vessel and putting his head above it when putting a
morsel in his mouth. Do you guys have seen this before, like when people they eat or their hand, and
they just like to delay this?
		
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			Law Hello. I mean, if it was your own plate that's different. If you need to inform your own plate,
it's okay to do that. But if you're eating from a big dish, when many hands are sharing the same
plate or the same dish together, you don't do this. You don't put your hand in and just kind of like
shake your hands with whatever's left over in your hand, after you've been eating these in your
hand. And then just kind of like shaking it like that you shouldn't be doing this at all completely.
Similarly, we talked about this, if you remember last time in regards to what is your ma something
similar to that, what is it
		
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			the date, when you eat the dates and what you do with that, don't put it back into the same plate
where the date is use your left hand and throw it on the side. So that you don't actually put that
foot back in there. And don't use your use handle on you eat the dates and put again, your right
hand one more time into the date. So that's something to also be careful with. And the other
example, which is very common, something that happens when people want to eat. So in order not to
spell on the floor, what do they do, they they push the head forward, so that when they eat whatever
falls, it falls into the plate again, and their bid fall with it and their hair falls with it as
		
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			well too. So they have quite a big mess and the plate, making sure that you keep actually the food
completely clean and shallow down. Now, if he needs to take something from his mouth and throw it
away, he should turn his face elsewhere and take it with his left hand. What does that mean? Let's
say you had a bone in your mouth and your mouth right? You have to take it out. So if you want to
spit it out, you don't just do it while you're speaking to the people just like start pulling the
bone and from your mouth completely and the whole lampstands saliva follows through with it. Don't
create any repulsive image where people eat in with you rather than go to the side and just kind of
		
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			like sometimes part of the other by the way part of the other, use your right hand by covering your
mouth like this and then pull with your left hand whatever that is. So use your right hand to cover
and as pulled from the left hand. Similarly if somebody would like for example, use floss. So using
floss some people just gonna be sitting there in public place with a floss and their hand and just
gonna like open their mouth and flossing all over. That's not the etiquette also part of the adult
is basically with your right hand you cover and will the left hand you floss if you had if you
wanted to do that so part of the other so you don't show anything again becomes repulsive to other
		
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			people when they're eating with you now he does not get a greasy morsel into the vinegar no pour
vinegar on something greasy as others may not like that. Allah on what he means by that that depends
on the cuisine back then. I don't know if you guys have anything that you know grease you put it in
vinegar or vinegar into the grease system. I don't know what that is. But it's probably some of
there may be dishes back then or meals that maybe it's kind of mixture of that nature. Meaning what
he says that just don't mess up the meal for other people. Like what like sometimes sometimes you go
to some of these martial public, any meals and you have somebody is using the same spatula or spoon
		
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			today
		
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			Throw the hummus and then Harry.
		
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			Can you imagine how many had it looks like after they've been in that thing and the homeless first.
So you're gonna mess up the whole food. So don't make these meals like this. Otherwise people might
say just I'm not going to touch this, and a lot of food will go to waste, obviously. And the last
one says he must learn never more so he's already eaten from into the rock. What does that mean? And
what do we call this double, double dipping, right?
		
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			You take you take a bite on the samosa and then you put it back into the don't do this.
		
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			Make sure not to do the double dipping as part of the etiquettes and the other as well too. So keep
that in mind no
		
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			manners manners to be adopted when presenting food to one's brothers. It is recommended to offer
food to one's brothers it has been narrated that it Rhodiola one who said gathering my brothers to
eat a flock of food is more beloved to me than previously. That doesn't mean that the sister don't
have don't deserve that same treatment
		
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			is our message Amma because I thought it says what to one's brothers. Now it's actually a literal
translation to what was mentioned in the book of the the Arabic text says first don't fit up Lima
pyramidal f1 which means basically managed to adapt to when presented food to your brothers means
your friends that's what it means actually. So that plus also the systems as well too if you
presented the food to the sisters too. So it says over here one that is what is recommended is that
to make sure that you invite your friends your invite your brothers, you invite your sisters to
meals to food. Why is that so important as your mom why that this is so important, as part of the
		
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			beautiful etiquette in among the ummah to band together around meals. And he said Rahim Allah Allah
and he says pal in the Arabic texts is Kala and asthma f1 Allah so I'm in a Tom I have Bulla human
on Earth for acaba. If I gather my friends, you know my brothers are on a meal even it was just Sam
and Tom which is just a little food that I have just to gather around food together, that's more
beloved to me than freeing a slave which means this kind of gatherings are so beautiful, you become
you become less formal, it helps a handler remove all these barriers you become easygoing with each
other and that helps bond as one community as one family inshallah
		
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			so you can mentally prepare for this and find food actually it's called hobbies.
		
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			I wasn't sure about this. So it's hobbyists which is basically it's a mixture of date and and wheat
flour. Together they make a meal out of it now and find food and then invite Ibrahim and Elena Allah
Hamish and ensay II for for I only prepared it for you. I brought him in Nephi an AMA for him Allah
telephone Kabara atabrine the early actually the duration of the set of a solid hammer Allah Allah
and very well known Hadith in great detail Rahmatullah lane. He said so phytomer Rahim Allah Allah
Allah, he would invite some of the people of his friends obviously and he just make some simple food
not big thing and sometimes he says when he has the ability to make Alhamdulillah a better fine food
		
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			he will do it. So basically whether it's something little as hobbies, or something grand mashallah
as fancy dish either way, the whole purpose is bringing family together bringing the people together
over the food that's what matters here Paul, he says eat for I have only prepared it for you. What
does that mean? What do you understand from that sentence?
		
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			Besides the social part what is it when it comes to inviting people for food?
		
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			Sincerity but I really am really interested in bringing the new overhead for the food so we can eat
together it's not about doing you know social obligation because he invited me you know, last
Ramadan I have to invite you this Ramadan you guys invited me for this party I have to invite you
over for this party. If we didn't make our social invitations over food for the for that you know
take for tat you did the term one time I have to do it for you well it was the purpose it was the
value of it when we do it we should do it for the right reason inshallah Tabata Kota now regarding
the manners of presenting food he should present the food that is available without going overboard
		
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			and should not ask for their permission to do so. What does that mean over here? So basically when
you present the food yours should be no typical of I know that even the order actually they have the
same water color right? What does the color mean to you guys?
		
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			Too much formalities right it's the same thing that's the exact meaning for it in Arabic like they
shouldn't be with absolutely no to cattle have no formalities. What does that mean? It's okay for
example, you can call a friend at the Southern Methodist Church said hey, come with me and it's
gone. It's something something at home and you go home ask you I've heard you have food. I have
guests with me. What do you have is going to do to you?
		
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			I have to mention here, but Alhamdulillah this in our time you can do over eats and other things and
so on. But at that time, they didn't really care much about this. What they care
		
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			But is the actual company itself that's to be together? Whether it's a cup of tea, a simple dish of
cubbies, whatever that is. Simple thing. So he says, You need to present whatever is available
without can live without the color. Unless, of course, that was a special invitation. In this case,
you go with the fine food as he demanded earlier. And don't go overboard. And you don't even have to
ask them to permission to present the food. Like nowadays, in American culture, what do you do?
Gemma, you ask the guests. Are you hungry? The guests will tell you of course. No, sir. All right.
		
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			And then they go hungry for the night. Right? But in the Muslim culture, you don't take no for an
answer do if the guest tells you if you tell the guests actually, I'm gonna get you for the good.
No, I'm not hungry. You said you're gonna eat.
		
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			It doesn't matter if it's benign. Again, you're gonna have to eat whether you like it or not.
Because for them, it's a big deal. Yeah. And it's an honor thing to feed the guests. It's an honor
thing. And some some some panels, some culture they have Eric Davis and others and some people that
take it really, really seriously. Like we heard so many stories about the Bedouin culture and the
Arab culture. The Bedouin culture that was the most serious when it comes to food was comfortable.
They're very serious with that. I was told Allah one of the truth for the story, that there was one
bed when it was Ramadan. So Gemma tablets, they came actually visiting him during the day. So he
		
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			allowed them in to come in. And then he brought them food and Ramadan during the day. And for them
just like Zach Aloka Thank you. But you know, we fast we cannot eat because though Allah will eat.
		
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			Yeah, hallelujah, Habib, some of them we can't it's you're going to have to eat and when they insist
they're not eating, he went in and he bought his gun.
		
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			He says you eating I was going to shoot you basically like they take their hospitality seriously. So
I don't know about the truthfulness of that story. But yeah, some people that take hospitality
extremely, extremely serious. And you should really honor you know that sometimes the culture of
your host as well too. Now, when we're going overboard is to offer everything that one has. And
sometimes you know, like Ibrahim Ali said I'm did when he had three guests coming over what did he
offer them?
		
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			An entire cow. All roasted calf, you know how much time it takes to roast a calf Gemma takes
forever.
		
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			It takes forever like he had the guests sitting there he was entertaining them with this speech for
all this time until the meal was ready. And then as Allah says for Karabo em, he brought it to them
He didn't ask them to go and cut from the meat. Now he brought the whole thing to them. And then he
says call Allah Quran this Mala eat
		
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			and what happened there? They didn't touch it. And he saw there has not ever eaten the food. But I
will just summon him fever he that's what he just like started becoming suspicious about these three
people. Like who are you? Because don't worry, we're the Messenger of Allah spawn to have come
loose. So what happened to that cafe Gemma, I always wonder what happened to the girl
		
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			who ate it afterwards? Right? So the idea is that the owner they say when it comes to hospitality,
sometimes it's okay to go a little bit overboard when you have special guests. As long as nothing go
to waste. If you guarantee that the food that you cater the food that you cook is not going to go to
waste and you're going to still maybe box it and give it to people afterwards. Or maybe give it with
your guests as they go out depends on the culture obviously in some culture that's offensive to give
the guests on the way out some of the food that's offensive here in America no thank you I'll take
that and shallow Tara that says me the meal tomorrow. It's alright depends on the coalition be okay
		
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			Inshallah, what are
		
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			the good conduct the visitor includes ation neither suggest nor demand any specific food If,
however, he is given a choice of two dishes, let him choose the easiest of the two to prepare.
Unless he knows that his host is pleased with his suggestion. We'll gladly prepare it like if the
guest is asking you is biryani. Okay? You can I haven't heard replace the Hilton, you're not a
restaurant.
		
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			But if they say absolutely, we have a handle of and then that's fine. That's what he means by that.
Don't try to demand something that might not be available for them. manner they might not be
actually able to purchase it. They don't even have to cook it or to make it basically take into
consideration you know the culture of your place and ask them something reasonable. For example, you
go to eat
		
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			in someone's house and it happened to be mashallah Indian family or Pakistani family. What do you
expect the biryani to taste?
		
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			Spicy right? Don't say can I have a hummus and falafel?
		
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			Come on, be reasonable. Eat as much as you can without the Caliph now. Indeed, a chef very once went
to Elsa for one who used to write in this every day of the different varieties to be cooked that day
and then give it to the servant girl, a chef or he took the list and added a new variety to it. And
when and when Elsa
		
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			When he found out about this he Rejoice greatly Masha Allah this is not when you when the friends
they become Yanni so close to each other without to kill off
		
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			actually not to kill a bill between Imam Azhar Ferranti, Imam Chevra mo Allah Tala Zafrani. Every
day, he writes on a piece of paper, you know, that's just like the shopping list for the girl to go
and collect that stuff for the food that we're going to be cooking today. So you get to the shopping
list. So on the way out a chef mo laterra, you grab a grab that piece of paper looked at it, he
found something that he wanted isn't wasn't there, he just wanted something extra to it. And he gave
it back to her. When she told us after I remember, at some point, he was so happy.
		
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			So happy that my guests, he treats me like his close brother with no tequila and he knows that I'm
not going to be upset with that. Can you imagine you reach out to that level with your friends
panela and that was some drama they say would come to the time. If the food is there, and you're
allowed to come in. That means everything on the table is for you to use. Let's say there's much a
nice chocolate over here or some nice drink over there. You feel shy because it's too far from you.
Well, am I allowed to go around and grab it from the other side? Because it's on the table?
Actually, yes, you can. And even some they say to the extent if you became too close to this friend
		
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			became very close to them. And that sense that like the vlogbrothers truly Are you allowed to go and
eat you know without permission like for example, you want to sleep overnight in someone's house.
You wake up at night? Are you allowed to open the fridge and eat?
		
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			Yeah, Gemma, you're allowed to go to whether you have to spend the night Arreola to go and open the
fridge and eat from them. They say the answer is actually yes. If they allowed you to stay that
means they allow you to hospitality as well too. So the expectation obviously that you are allowed
to do that now once again we always go back what's considered standard cultural standard actually.
So if that's not normal to them, maybe you should seek permission before you go to sleep saying if I
wake up at night Am I okay? Is it okay for me to go to the kitchen? They say everything is yours. If
everything is yours then basically which is considered the unreasonable to consume whatever they're
		
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			in shallow to Anna so that's for tonight inshallah from this book Bonilla, Azerbaijan next week
we'll come back we'll continue with chapter or section three inshallah.
		
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			Now we move to a hadith number 20 What's very, very actually interesting and important Hadith insha
Allah to Allah about shame and modesty.
		
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			Smilla hamdulillah Bellarmine sola salon Baraka Vienna, Muhammad and voila, early was salam. Ala
Sleeman. Kathira mama bad. So Inshallah, from Hadith from the book of Imam Raja Rahim Allah we're
going to be studying Hadith number 20 and number 20 In the Arabic texts and administer Odin al Bedri
Radi Allahu Anhu Allah Caracalla Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in remember adrak unassuming
Colombian Naboo Lula either lammeter Stay first na Masha throughout Buhari so this hadith almost
road already probably a lot and Ebola in Africa nurserymen Colombian Naboo Lula either Alam Testa
Hey, first night mash it rod hi in translation, Mala Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala
		
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			Rasulillah. We're in page 339.
		
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			In the translation is the messenger of allah sallallahu sallam said, a part of that which people
understood from the speech of the first prophethood is if you have no shame, do what you want. Can
you repeat that again? That
		
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			almost all the better it said I will muscle and battery are the other one said the messenger of
allah sallallahu wasallam said a part of that which people understood from the speech of the first
prophethood is if you have no shame, do what you want. So this hadith al Bukhari and Charlotte are
going to be speaking about the meaning of those two statements because the book was the remember
Roger divided into two parts. The first statement which is a part of that which people understood
from the speech of the first prophethood that's one part of the Hadith and then the actual statement
itself is a lamp test is not measured, if you have no shame, which means higher in this translation
		
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			here. Do what you want about Buhari, so we can explain that in certain details. But before that, who
reported the Hadith if you look if you look at it, this is what are reported by an Imam Al Bukhari
and it was not reported by Imam Muslim imam Abdullah
		
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			Rahim Allah explains in the next paragraph within a skip that but we're going to say that it was
also reported from Hadith today for some days it was for the first Hadith. Some of the settlements
are the most rude and Bedri, but the majority say it was reported by Abu Massoud el Bedri. And
there's another narration of Torani by Apple to find out the Allahu Anhu Wallah. Now let's go to the
main Inshallah, part of the Hadith and the meaning of those two statements. The first statement,
he's saying some hola hola Sanam, a part of that which people understood from the speech of the
first prophethood indicates that this is transmitted from the ancient prophets, and that people
		
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			passed it back and forward between them, and other generations inherited it from them, generations,
generation by generation, this shows the preceding
		
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			this shows that the preceding Prophet Woods brought these words, and that they were famous and well
known to people until they came to the first of this community. In one of the versions there is that
he said, people did not grasp anything of the first prophethood except for this, who might have been
Zen, Zen Jerry, and others. narrativity so the first statement from the hadith is called unavista
Lhasa mmm Andraka nurserymen Kelemen obovata Lulu, that part of which people understood from the
speech are the first prophethood what does that mean? That tells us what have what we have been
hearing in the Quran and Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam and that that the MBR they all
		
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			brought with them what the exact same message then be brought with them the exact same message, the
exact same message in terms of what in terms of the Qaeda, in terms of the code of ethics, in terms
of al Qaeda and a flood manners is the same from the Prophet Adam Alayhis Salam under the Prophet
Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam, even Sra. Salaam, what he was ordered to convey to his people
to worship Allah azza wa jal. So in terms of al Qaeda, all the MDR came to call the people to do it,
worship Allah, one God, only Allah subhana wa Tada. All of them, regardless of what time they lived,
in which culture they lived, what culture they had, they all order the people to worship Allah
		
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			subhanho wa taala. They all order people to do to have to observe Taqwa. As Allah says in the Quran,
we're not going to assign Ladino to Kral notably Kuma, Jacobina Takala. We have made it we have made
a command to those who before you and from the people before you that they should observe that will
be mindful of ALLAH SubhanA Mata so all the people were being called for towhead Oneness of Allah
subhana wa Dara, RT, the taqwa and so on in terms of codes of ethics, the same thing. You won't find
any prophet and the prophet ever tell telling people that is permissible, that it was permissible to
commit Zina that it's permissible to lie, it's permissible to steal, never in the history of the
		
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			Gambia that anyone would come to change the code of ethics, the standard code of ethics, that's
divine, there is no doubt about it. So what does that tell us right now that there was a standard
rule of love and manners and etiquette and they've been conveyed to us from generation to generation
and older MBR convey the same message as well to but then we have some differences in terms of
Sharia, a Sharia the application of faith in our lives, like what is considered permissible what is
not in terms of the halal food, the Haram food, these things and so on. There were differences of
course, based on the circumstances or even in the law itself, there are specific circumstances that
		
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			were different. So for example, the law of Musa alayhis salaam was water Gemma, and I know benign
was sin the sin that an eye for an eye a tooth for tooth, that was the law of Musa But why so
because Musa CERAM he was with Benny SR in unique circumstances, what were their circumstances
		
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			roaming the desert, they will not stay in an urban area because they left Egypt and when they cross
the river or the sea, actually
		
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			unfortunate this the rest of it Allah subhanho wa Taala to which they banned from being in the Holy
Land, until that generation purchase and nutrition comes out. So they were roaming in the desert. So
they didn't have really that same urban areas that we you live in into to have jails and courts and
this and that. They don't have time for this. So the punishment was simple. Someone hit you hit them
back, someone pokes your eye poke right back. There was a lot of work done at the time of SRA CERAM.
The land was under occupation. So they didn't even have the law in their hands. It's in the end of
the Romans at that time. So what was the law of HLSL and someone slaps you in the right cheek, what
		
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			do you do? You turn the left cheek, right? If someone asked you to go one mile, you go to Mars with
them. in that fashion, came the time of Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam It was both
		
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			that if you want to return it, you are allowed to do that one Typhoo Acropolis taco, but if you
forgive, that's better for you. There
		
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			is more righteous have you? Alright, so we have now the balance of this. So in terms of the matters
of our data and manners of US law and codes of ethics, these are standards that didn't change.
Similarly, over here, this statement is actually in reference to the prophetic legacy.
		
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			Like it says it never mattered recognize Mikela Minobu Talulah some of the thing that they were said
before us by the MBR thing before is this statement, it Alam Testa, Hey, first night machette is
Olympus divers Manager, which means if you don't have any modesty, then you can do whatever you
want. We're going to see what the meaning of that same and the next shallow data
		
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			concerning his saying salAllahu alayhi, salam, if you have no shame, do what you want. There are two
interpretations. I want to just market it for you. So if you have the book with you, that's what he
said in terms of the meaning of that statement. If you have no shame it LM tester, if you have no
modesty, do what you want. He said, there are two interpretations. The first interpretation is here,
number one, and I made that the title for it is that this is a statement of prohibition being a
statement of prohibition. And we're going to see what does that mean exactly next, the second
meaning, the second, meaning, we're going to have to skip five pages, until you get to page 343,
		
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			that's when you find the second activity, so it was way out there. So you don't feel lost? Where was
the second minute, it's actually on page 343, we're going to come to additional data, so that when
we when we get to that point, I'm gonna reference you back to that page of shallow data. So the
first meaning of the statement, if you have no shame, or no malice, they do what you want. He says,
this is a statement, although it's an imperative verb, do what you will, what you wish, but it
actually comes in the format of what prohibition and warning, like it's a warning for you. It's a
form of prohibition. Now, what does that mean it
		
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			first that it does not mean the command to do what
		
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			what, whatever one wants, but that rather it is the sense of censure and of prohibition of it, the
people who take this position, have arrived at it by ways First,
		
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			by the way, so So first, again, now, this is a subdivision from the first point and he has is going
to mention to you the I mentioned first and second. First is this one, which is I put it on blue
actually, somehow not not actually highlight the first word blue, but it's in blue, which means it
is a threat. So the meaning of the imperative do, okay?
		
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			The meaning of the imperative do have is of the nature of a threat, meaning, if you have no shame,
then do what you want for Allah will pay you back for it. So what does that mean? Exactly? This is
just like Daring you. Like the professor saying that if you have no modesty, I dare you.
		
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			I dare you go and do what you what you wish to do, though, what you want to do, but I dare you,
which means to go ahead and do it, but you see what's going to happen to you. So that's the meaning
of the statement right now. Like go ahead, do it. So it's not really a literal command to open the
door for you to do what you wish to do. Right? It's a threat. Like, if you have no modesty then I
dare you.
		
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			Go ahead, do what you want to do you see what's gonna happen to you, as Allah says in this, these
examples. So in facilita, la Santella says, A man who mushy tune in who will be Manta, Malou number,
see, do what you like, he sees whatever you do. This is the 40th of Surah facilite. And then in
Surah, Azumah masala mentions Ferragudo, mushy tomb in Dooney. So worship anything you will apart
from Him,
		
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			that Allah has asked them to go and worship somebody else. No, he's, he's daring them. Like I dare
you to go and try to worship somebody else and see what happens to you now.
		
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			And then seeing of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Whoever sells wine, they let him be a
butcher of pigs. Well, I don't know how that transition looks like over here the Arabic text
actually manga alhfam or Photoshop because of fantasy, which means if you sell wine, then go ahead
and do it. Java says the show arm of the finance area and enjoy a slice of the HANA database. That's
what it means then, obviously, it doesn't mean go out and do it stop for Allah, but it's just like a
threat once again, it's just a threat of it's an expression of our threat now,
		
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			okay.
		
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			So, the likes of this type of expression are very numerous. This is the interpretation chosen by a
large group of group among whom is
		
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			abuzz tharla. Now, the second now the second minute of the sub actually meanings, so we say
		
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			So the first thing, it's a warning, it's a threat. And obvious from the first example, the second
example right now, the second way, interprets it as being a command, with the meaning of informing,
ie informing us that someone who is not ashamed will do whatever they want. Because the thing that
prevents the perception of ugly acts.
		
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			perpetration of
		
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			perpetration ugly acts, is the sense of shame or modesty. So what does that mean? A very so the
second meaning right now, is the statement is an informative statement, which means the Prophet SAW
same as saying, what actually really happens if someone doesn't have higher.
		
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			Like, if you don't have modesty, you will end up doing whatever you want, doesn't mean it's actually
endorsing what they do. No necessity, but it's informing us that the barrier that prevents people
from doing the ugly stuff, is at least they have a shame, they have a sense of shame and sense of
modesty. So when that's not there anymore, what happens to people do whatever they want, and
frankly, in that meaning, that meaning itself is what we see today.
		
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			What we see today in this culture, and the society that we live in right now, why do you think
people do what they do outdoors and publicly and exposing themselves and doing so Ferla thing that
will continue the villa and abhorrent and our faith in our lives? Why do these things fall, because
they don't have shame.
		
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			The whole concept of shame was completely removed from the culture, spotlighted, actually an a
massive degree in history at some point, and one of the classes we took was all on shame, the
culture of shame Subhanallah, if you study that, and how the society have shifted and change, when
it comes to the culture of shame, it's unbelievable. Like they consider this to be one of those
deficiencies of the society because it holds people back from being authentic to themselves, and so
on. So therefore, the state tell them you can do whatever you want. Take that concept of shame away
from them, then they whatever they want. And that's exactly what the professor was telling us about
		
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			it LM tester, hey, you will end up doing whatever you want. That doesn't mean what you're doing is
going to be good. But definitely the better is gone. So people do whatever they want. Now,
		
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			someone who does not have a sense of modesty will abandon himself to every indecent and repugnant
behavior, and the likes of things. Those who have modesty, modesty refrain from it is in the manner
of his saying some of them are Khalid Salam, whoever delivered the lies about me, let him take his
seat in the fire.
		
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			Since the expression is in the imperative form, but it's meant as a notification that whoever
deliberately tells a lie about him, will we take his seat in the fire? So when the province says,
Let them take their seats in the fire? Of course, no one's gonna do doing that.
		
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			And if you know that you don't dare to take your seats in the fire. Similarly, when the Prophet
says, If you don't have shame, then do whatever you want to do, then don't you ever dare do what you
think you want to do? Or you can do? Just because you can, it doesn't mean you should. That's the
statement that actually we understand from this hadith, just because you can, it doesn't mean that
you should. Let's go down Michelada to the statement of Salman and Pharisee, at the end of the page
340 Salman Farsi said, someone in Farsi said when Allah intends the destruction of a slave, he
strips him off shame, I was a slave means what? A person. That's what it means that step of Allah
		
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			now. When he strips of shame, he will only receive him as someone who is hateful, and full of self
loathing lungs.
		
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			When he is someone who is hateful and full of self loathing. He strips him of trust. And then he
will only receive him as someone who is mistrusted and treacherous.
		
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			So what he's saying here are the law and order is that when someone is removed from the higher, what
happens to them, they start doing things at some point, they get really any become nasty within
themselves, and people just see the nasty. And as a result, people did stop, you know, trusting
them. They don't know what they could do, because now they don't know the limits anymore. They have
no limits. They have no standards. So we become very suspicious of them. And that's why it becomes
kind of Mahana like they become treacherous and people they don't like to deal with them as a result
of that. And then what happens
		
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			if he is someone who is mistrusted and treacherous, then he strips him of mercy. And so he only
receives him as someone who is harsh and coarse
		
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			Other say when people don't, you know, trust other people, what do they do, they have no empathy for
them. So there's no Rama, they're willing to steal and do stuff alongside how many videos you have
been seeing lately coming from California, particularly about these people coming, dashing through
stores, and stealing whatever they can, and they just get out of it and
		
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			like nothing. They have no empathy in order to even the owners, to the people, you know, who have on
this car or that they break in cars, taking valuables from them, because they have no shame. They
have. They became, of course, you know, mistrusted by the community, by the society. So they
venture, they allow themselves to do whatever they want to do. As a result of this. This is how
valuable how important higher and modesty is now, if he's someone who is harsh and coarse, then he
strips the halter of iman from his neck. When he strips the halter rope of iman from his neck, he
only receives him as an occurrence to shaitan. Basically what Emma was a manifest of the law and he
		
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			says, it starts with the removal of modesty and higher and ends up with what would call for
		
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			as simple as that. If people stop having modesty, they don't understand the concept of shame
anymore, then there is no boundaries, no limits for them, most likely they're going to end up
becoming the Underland of Cofer Allama Stan, and we have seen that like this from people that are
breaking certain rules of hire, slowly and gradually they remove all the barriers, even the barriers
of faith and Iman, which is why hire is important. So if we read the statement the professors and
regarded modesty from the professor Islam regarding regarded modesty as part of iman, as is, as is
in the two Saheeh books from Ebina Amara, that the prophets of Allah Allah Islam passed by a man
		
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			while he was
		
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			remonstrating with his brother, about his bashfulness. See, really, you are too bashful as if he was
saying, it is causing you harm. So the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi salam said, Leave him
alone, for modesty is part of iman. So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam he saw a man was advised and
another one said, Come on, man, stop being so modest like this or being so shy like this. And the
Prophet says, I'm told I'm leaving that shyness, that higher modesty is part of faith, we're going
to come to talk about later and shallow that there's difference between higher and fragile. The
transition is bashfulness over here, but the statement here is about actually modesty, about
		
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			shyness, and shyness as a positive quality bashfulness as a negative one.
		
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			bashfulness is preventing you from doing that, which is right because you're afraid of what people
might say about you.
		
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			The higher it prevents you from doing something bad and wrong, because you're afraid what Allah
subhanaw taala is going to say about you. That's a big difference over here, obviously. So that's
the wider forbidden higher and bashfulness. So the second statement there is in the tussah theories
in the two Sahib books from Abu Hurayrah that he said from a Marvin Husain
		
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			Imran Okay, sorry. So there is in the two Sahai books from Imran even Hussein that the prophets of
Allah al Islam said, modesty only produces good. So what does that mean? The Prophet says Sam says
I'll hire Kulu Hi. There's nothing wrong of having shyness and having modesty. It's all good. But
what is not good? Is hudgell. Again, that's what we call bashfulness in translation now, you know,
Muhammad, Imam Ahmed and an SAE native, the hadith of
		
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			John Ashbery that, he said, the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to me, you have
two qualities of character, which Allah loves. I said, What are they? He said,
		
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			equanimity and modesty. So in the Arabic tracks, actually the Al Hellmuth it says hola salam to him,
Paul Wilhelm will hire and Hillman higher, which means forbearance, patience and modesty. There's
another narration that's more popular than this narration of the purposes of symptoms called, he
says kind of a hellhole Anna, which is basically forbearance and also patience. They're the same,
the same concept, but from this narration, he used a higher, so what he's asked him after that.
		
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			So I said, are these ancient having been decreed by Allah? Or are the recent, something learned?
		
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			He said, No, they are ancient, which means they're actually considered a natural, innate, innate
disposition from Allah subhanaw
		
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			I will tell you now.
		
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			And I said, praise belongs to Allah, Who created me with two qualities of character which Allah
loves. So what we'll learn from this hadith right now is that when it comes to these qualities or
higher and modesty, is it something created gifted in you? Or is it something that you acquire, and
you learn? Let's see. So he says it down there, there are two types of hire. Now that there are two
types of modesty.
		
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			The first, that which is a quality of character, and an innate disposition, which has not been
acquired, so it's gifted, some people are born, to have Subhanallah, this demeanor that they're
actually they're always calm, it was always quiet, you know, they don't rush in many different ways.
So Allah has blessed him with that kind of quality. Other people, their type A personality, they're
hyper, they're always loud, they're always this or that different, different qualities. So some
people are gifted with that. But unfortunately, no matter what gift you've been given, some people
don't use it properly. Don't use it, you know, for further advance in terms of you know, becoming a
		
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			better person, it might be actually against them. Unfortunately, now, it is one of the most noble
quality of character, which Allah bestows on the slave and upon which he forms him. For this reason,
he said Salallahu Alaihe, salam, modesty only produces good because it restrains the person from
committing ugly acts, and from showing mean qualities of character. Now, let's go to the second one,
on the next page, what it said the second type somewhere in the middle. The second type is that
which is acquired from knowledge of Allah, and of His greatness, and of His nearness to his slave,
and his knowledge of them, and of the deceptions of the eyes, and that which the * conceal. So
		
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			what does that mean? He says, I look. And that's an AMA for all of us as a man, if Allah Subhana
Allah did not bless you with that as a gift to always be shy, be modest watch, you know your eyes
and so on. So Hamdulillah, you still have the chance and also to acquire that, but requires
training. It requires to learn likewise to focus on Allah's beautiful names and attributes. If of
course, you know, coming, become closer to Allah subhanho wa taala, knowing what are considered you
know, the Haram manners and so on, and stay away from them and know the etiquette of shyness and
modesty, like you can acquire it, if you put the effort in learning it. So even if you were not born
		
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			with it, you still have a chance to shallow Tana. To acquire that I want us to skip to the Hadith
LMS route LMS Oh domain down there in the second paragraph.
		
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			In the eyes of the minister or, you know,
		
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			in the hadith of Ibn Massoud, there is that modesty before Allah is that you heard the the head and
what it contains, which means your thoughts, your thoughts and what you think about now and guard
the belly, and what it encloses, which means you food, you eat halal, that's what it means. And that
you remember that. And decomposition, obviously focus on the alcohol, not just the dunya
		
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			whoever wants the Astra gives up the ornamentation of the world, which means to go and become a
minimalist really was because the word minimalist in this life now, whoever does that is certainly
modest before Allah. That's how you get modesty before Allah subhanho wa taala. Watch what you think
about what you consume what you eat, making sure that you always think of the Afra and do everything
in your in your power to be minimalist, you know, focus on that. Now. Next, let's move on to shallow
to Allah to what he says about bashfulness. Actually the second position I'm sorry, the second this
is in page 343. Now, so So we're moving on to the second Yes, yes. Now, this is the second point
		
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			from the first definition. If you guys remember the first one that we talked about, it was more
about warning and now the second one is the literal meaning of the command itself. Now, the second
position on the meaning of the office words, if you have no shame higher, do what you want is that
it is a command to do what one wants as is the literal meaning of the words. And that it means that
if the thing which you want to do is something for which you need you need have no shame of doing
not in front of Allah nor in front
		
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			Have people because it is one of the acts of obedience, or because it is one of the beautiful
qualities of character and courtesy, then at that time, do whatever of it you want. As an example,
let's say you're traveling, you're at the airport right now. And it's time for Salah. You want to
pray, you look around, if you look at anxious, if he's shy, you know from praying in public because
I don't want people to look at me, oh my god, that is gonna be look at me and so on. So, so shyness,
or maybe it's a good bashfulness, I could say that China's bashfulness plus, you know, anxiousness
over orange and anxiety. So in this case, what do you do? You say, No, I'm not going to frame
		
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			this statement. That second meaning says no, no, either alum test day, if you know that this matter,
really needs no higher formula. You need to be brave. And you need to remove the higher from it
completely. Just do it. That's what it means. Yeah. So you go ahead and just smile I pray in public
and doesn't matter.
		
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			That's when that's the second meaning for it. If you know that somebody is saying something wrong,
and this person is maybe an elderly person, or someone of a specific status in the community, you
feel now bashful, and you have some sense of higher from kind of like objecting to what they're
saying and maybe correct. And then if they said something that you believe is wrong. So now this
hadith says no, hire should not prevent you from saying the truth in that moment. You say,
Zachariah, you know, I chef, or maybe I heard something that you said, and I remember hearing it
from Chef Milan, or I read in a different book that said so and so I wonder if you can maybe, you
		
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			know, refer us to this statement, for example. Now, you're correct and that person, even though it's
in public, but HIA did not stop you from doing that. Maybe asking a question some of the sisters
they feel shy from asking a question that is very sensitive, or a guy would like to ask the chef a
question is very sensitive is very personal matter, right? So you feel so bashful and shy from
asking the question should you don't do it? This statement tells you know, don't let this
bashfulness prevent you from doing that which is right and go new ask and retire so Delana she said
Correct. I've never seen women like that and Saudi women how brave they were when it comes to asking
		
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			their questions. Let me I'm now not hire any the photography. denilla being bashful, being modest,
did not stop them from Lenin of Allah subhanaw Matata, they would have been asked the Prophet
Saracen their most sensitive questions, because they wanted to learn. So that is the second meaning.
So the first meaning that this this actually imperative verb is not literal. Rather, it means just a
threat or a dare. The second meaning no, that actually command is as it is, which means don't let
the higher Dollard modesty prevent you from doing that which is right. That's what it means go ahead
and do it. So that's actually the meaning of the statement. Go ahead. This is the position of a
		
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			substantial group of the Imams of whom are
		
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			Mawashi a Shafi and something similar is narrated of Imam Muhammad,
		
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			it occurs in that way in some copies of domicile or widowed in the abridged form of it. However,
what is in the complete copies, which are reliable,
		
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			which are reliable is as we have related from him before so like it's the referring to the amount
that was Rahim Allah Tala is position is what we mentioned earlier. The last admin shall talk about
we're not talking about moral because what this inshallah so go ahead, Owner, moreover, as he
answered
		
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			it is that you don't do anything in secret of which you would be ashamed. If you were to do it
publicly. Here speak about Morrow. What is Morrow? That's an Arabic word maybe heard many times
Morrow. And moreover, it says it's it's it is that you don't do anything and secret of which you
would not you will be ashamed if you were to do it publicly. What does that mean? moralize is really
a
		
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			it's a very unique quality. Surely you could say or trivially means that you have a specific sense
of dignity, a sense of standard of character and luck. Like if something you don't they're doing
publicly, you're not going to do it actually, privately.
		
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			You'd be ashamed of it, whether it's in front of the people or otherwise if you can hold yourself to
that standard. You're going to save yourself have done have troubles. You always become strong.
You're very confident because there is nothing break you from the inside. But if you go into it
privately and you do many, many wrong things. You don't dare to go out in public. How
		
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			out, do you think you're going to be in front of the people when it comes to speaking about hire
about modesty, about good character about being a good Muslim, you don't think you're there speaking
like this. Because you know that from the inside, I'm not there. I don't feel that I'm comfortable
to speak about these things. And that's what Sal Marula is to watch what you do in privacy. So you
can stay strong and public as well to ensure allow the barcode data. So, in summary,
		
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			the Hadith that was ordered by God Allah that Allah the Prophet sallallahu Sallam is, is given us
actually two things, number one, that this matter of luck and character is a prophetic legacy, which
means all the MBR we know for sure, thought the same standard of love and character before, that's
part of the flag of the MBR because it comes from the exact same source Allah subhanaw taala. So
when people come to you from other phases, you know, in our religion, we are allowed to lie, you're
allowed to cheat. So I don't know where you're getting that from, I don't think the Prophet self
taught this to the people, no matter what they justify it with, we know that the MBR would never do
		
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			that. That's number one. Number two, knowing that when it comes to modesty, having higher and
modesty, it's one of the most important of love and characters that we need to observe today as an
example of GEMA because the society is suffering because of the lack of higher and modesty. And I
mean by that truly for the brothers and sisters, unfortunately, it happens nowadays within the
Muslim community, you know, how much brothers interact with each other, the bearer of higher is
gone.
		
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			Many, many people specially on social media, they don't have that barrier of hire. Unfortunately,
it's gone completely because now you see people how they cross posting and against each other posts
and with emojis and laughing and joking with one another opposite gender, the hire is completely
gone. Men Women following you know each other and just kind of like having this private
conversation, on messages and so on. The higher is completely gone. And when the higher within the
Muslim community has gone slowly and gradually, you can imagine what that leads to. And we if we the
supposed to be the OMA Allah described us to say quantum chromatic origins as the best nation ever
		
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			produced to mankind, you can imagine what other people would do. If we like that, can you imagine
what other people would do so it's imperative upon us as a Muslim community to observe that so
whether you're in the masjid, how to interact with the opposite gender, your sisters, your brothers,
at what level you keep the modesty level, Ramadan has come in and you will see a lot of intermixing
basically between brothers and sisters outside of the masala area, you will see it in the parking
lot was in the star areas. As long as you keep that level of a flat and mass and character, you look
away you watch what you say and you observe you know, how you interact with them and so on. Keeping
		
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			the flat and the matter, you know, to the highest standard that's what we call mu aware that is
Marula and that's usually that we need to observe that's the meaning of this hadith May Allah
subhana wa Taala make some of those who listen to the speech and for the rest of your Bananaman wala
dharana will take few questions and shallow water Kotara before we close.
		
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			So question regarded them as work, is it permissible to do them to do the most work and public then
in front of the people it is actually goes back to the standard of character and standard of the
society and the community like at the time of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam it was was normal for
them to use them as word publicly. Even a Buddha he described the Prophet Salah Salem using them as
swag. And he was exaggerating in the way he used the miswak Salah said and he said I saw the Prophet
saw some use on the swag and he was rubbing them rubbing his tongue with them as Mark which is
something you know dental hygiene recommendation is became very popular these days. Now you see the
		
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			brush has rough surface on the bottom. So you can actually flip it and scrub your tongue with that.
So the problem was scrubbing his tongue with them as whack. And Buddha was saying, Well can I get
the * out of it? What does that mean? Like the professor was exaggerated and going all the way
back until he gags
		
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			this how far he would go with scrubbing his tongue to keep it clean and fresh Salah Salem
unterliegen So that's public and it was in front of the people wallarah However, nowadays since the
culture has shifted and changed, maybe using the miswak when you use it keep your mouth mouth closed
or use your other hand to cover if you had to.
		
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			Okay
		
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			think we have questions from last week as well too, so I'm going to try to inshallah skip them to
today's questions.
		
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			no further than right
		
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			okay
		
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			I heard that when you are invited for a download which means an invitation, you can eat your full
Bismil and take home with you if you want to learn when it comes to eating it's up to you you don't
have to eat your full but if your host keep insisting that you eat, measure of course again your
your eating habits you don't have to go to full but you are allowed and I don't know if you
mentioned the Hadith but Hadith Oboro Dellavedova. When the Prophet SAW Selim, he gave him the milk
to drink from and he kept drinking and drinking and drink until he said well Loyola I just love
almost like I don't I don't have any more space left for Danny. So that means you are allowed to eat
		
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			your fill, but not all the time
		
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			what is the penalty for wasting food? What if the food is very old? I mean the food is very old that
means we left it to until it became too old or resident from two weeks or so. May Allah forgive you
first of all, the penalty for wasting food Allama Stan Yanni
		
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			Allah Subhan says and then over dinner, kind of want to shelter them but they didn't. Those who are
wasteful just like the shelter. It's the stuff Allah it's a very bad habit. That's one thing second,
Allah knows this NEMA that you have in your hand Alhamdulillah Allah is testing you to be grateful.
What if Allah tested is not to be patient and may Allah subhana wa to make it easy for our brothers
and sisters because they are blind. I mean, what like to share with us to talk today about wasting
food when we see the videos and the pictures coming from us our brothers and sisters the young
people young boys are collecting whatever is left of the dust of the flower not even flour that dust
		
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			of it. They're collecting it with the sand they don't even have a bag to carry they put in their
pockets along with the how much they're going to collect from that but they're just anticipating to
get whatever they can so they can make a piece of bread over here that little girl crying because
she misses a test of bread along Stan how many bread do you keep it on the corner and on the
countertop becomes moldy and then you're going to throw it away
		
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			how many times we do these things alongside food stays in the fridge hopefully someone will eat it
and then we cook another fish mean and then we'll get another food from outside and then that food
eventually ends up in the trash.
		
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			If you can not throw anything away then do it if you can make a compost in the backyard for example
use for
		
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			for gardening whatever that is just try your best to minimize waste in that food my last panel
Metallica tubeless for Dinamo Bananaman
		
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			now
		
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			So man has been chewing Are there specific manners when chewing the food I have a sound sensitivity
and dislike hearing crunches and slurps
		
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			we share the same problem then. I think no one likes to hear somebody mashallah and is slurping over
their drink or even chewing their food out loud? Like one time I asked in a class we were talking
about this habit so I said the lady was asking that you know that this doesn't like her husband you
know when he chooses food out loud. So the guy he said he said but chef, I mean the guy he just
wants to announce that he's like an Italian mashallah like it's an announcement of love Yanni is
just so saying it's I like it so he's showing it out loud it's an added it's an etiquette and I
think that we should really observe that meaning when you eat and drink be cognizant of those around
		
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			you and how your food sounds when you eat
		
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			or how basically when you drink and sometimes you'll be also be considered of the elderly because
they may not really know that is too loud they don't maybe necessarily see themselves doing anything
offensive to anybody take it easy on them when it comes to remind them of this matter
		
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			so somebody's asking about from the our online actually audience is that about the quiz high scores
so shout out or maybe next time we also allow them or put put them on the WhatsApp group so they can
see it. Will there be any Jazza for this for the class, we're going to be doing the Jasmine Shala
basically based on
		
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			studying the book and then go through to win these quizzes and there will be a paper requested from
you to write inshallah and specific subjects from the material that we studied. And if you pass all
this inshallah we'll give it that age as a beginner So John, so you can start using the book to
teach you how to teach it to other people within your own small circles insha Allah Allah Allah,
Allah azza wa jal
		
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			conversant with the Mahara and based on necessity, what is the rule in regard
		
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			occasional phone conversation text message with a non Muharram was much more than you based upon
assisity. I mean, the word necessity gives the answer. If it's a matter of necessity, then yeah,
it's okay. But if it's a matter of need, sometimes need can be observed and in the same level of
necessity. But if it just because, you know, objectively How are you guys doing blah, blah, blah?
Who is this person with?
		
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			A family friend, for example, or a neighbor, you shouldn't be conversing with someone so loosely
like this, if it wasn't there's any need for that now.
		
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			So this is basically an older lady who views me as her son. Now, I don't know about this particular
case, I need to know more details. But overall, she's an older much older lady, meaning as Allah
described in the Quran, alcova Vanessa, like the last, you know, kind of like the desire for, for
marriage or for that kind of life. That's a different story, like an older lady, maybe in her 70s or
60s or 80s. But if you're talking about all the lady major on her 40s and 50s, at your age, because
your 20s then you're, you're in trouble.
		
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			Can you bring it over on your own plate when eating a bowl and taking a bite? The answer is yes.
Yes, you can do that. If it's your own plate, that's fine.
		
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			So in the Hadith, if you're selling wine, then you can enjoy pork, does it indicate that one haram
Act may lead to another when we don't have modesty to a friend? For one? That's a possibility? Like
we said, it starts with the higher remover the higher from a certain area and then suddenly, you see
yourself crossing the line. So one act or another until Allah mustard is to cover all the villa.
		
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			So the question is for you right now they say, is it possible for to give more of a window to take
the quiz? Since I think we had less than 24 hour window, getting it after the class and doing it by
next class? We'll give a good time due to our busy schedule. I think you have until next Tuesday
right now, right? So the quizzes on Tuesday, next year.
		
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			Oh, you have to prepare the i here. But we have until Tuesday. So study the material until then, and
it should be financial.
		
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			Sitting with your right knee right the up might not look appropriate to sit in gathering is it fine
to sit otherwise or still prefer that? It really depends. Again, there are cultural standards. If
it's not haram, you should observe these these standards. But if the way they sit while they eating
is going to cause you to, you know, eat too much, then either that you will practice the Sunnah of
raising your unit
		
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			if HYAH is such a central part of the faith, why is it permissible for men to marry Christian women
who have no hire? I disagree with you. I know a lot of Muslim men who have no hair at all.
		
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			Just like there are so many Muslim men who don't have hair. So the higher has nothing to do with
being actually Muslim or Christians is being dedicated to your faith. And even remember when Timmy
Rahim Allah there was asked a question about the permissibility of a woman, a Muslim woman, removing
her hijab in front of a non Muslim woman. He said, It doesn't matter if it's Muslim or non Muslim,
what matters is that he hasn't had a level of higher. He says because sometimes you will have a non
Muslim woman. She is stronger in her faith and her character because of strength, Emma and her faith
than a Muslim woman.
		
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			Like she, she's Muslim, but unfortunate, she doesn't observe the etiquette of higher so even if you
remove your hijab, she probably interact in a worst way she might be describing out there without
any shame, versus someone who had observed the higher with you even though she's not Muslim. So it's
not really about being Muslim, Muslim or Christian. The higher is a different thing.
		
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			It's about the strength of a man or at least standard of their DNA.
		
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			So if one of the teachings of previous prophets do not contradict with our teaching, does it become
part of our Sharia? For example, scholars derive certain rulings on marriage and Mar from the story
of Prophet Musa in Midian. This is part of also one of the sources of law called the Shadowman
covenant the law that was prescribed to those who before us is it considered shadow Alana Allah, so
Allah there are differences of opinion. Some they say it is considered law for us as long as we
don't have anything contradicting it in our law and Sharia and other whatever they say, No, it's not
a standard as a Sharia for us unless there is something that indicates it should be taken as part of
		
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			the Sharia as well. I believe that is not considered as Sharia law for us. But it's something you
set in us to be which means you could actually take it as a
		
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			uh etiquette and a flat and manners that's all
		
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			so if I really feel hungry
		
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			which means once every couple of days So doesn't it consider being ungrateful to Allah's name?
Because I don't feel hungry now you don't feel hungry honestly I think you should see a doctor first
very serious because that might be have something to do with your with your with your liver. Really
because if the liver is filled with all these carbs and you don't feel hungry at all, so make sure
to check that but other than that how to see how to show and appreciate the name of Allah subhana wa
Tada even though you don't feel hungry just always sell him the lot of blind I mean so hamdulillah
and when it comes to come to eat Alhamdulillah its name and also hamdulillah did you not hungry?
		
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			That's another name as well too. Otherwise if you always feel hungry you don't know if you'll be
patient patient enough to be grateful to Allah is number one it comes your way
		
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			I don't know if the camera can show us actually over here as Mr. Cylinder
		
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			is istilah armor can you put the cap the camera on the red carpet please because we will be asking
about the position of food that we were talking about it
		
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			so we said of the prophets of Allah salaam Can you put the camera here?
		
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			Good
		
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			Okay, so the first position is that the knee the right knee is up. And when you eat it, can you guys
see it on the screen? Can you put on the screen now?
		
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			Okay.
		
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			So that's the first position basically, the right knee up. And you kind of like when you eat, you
support yourself pushing on the left knee or thigh and you eat Bismillah obviously, as you can see,
it's not very comfortable position to eat right?
		
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			In our tradition, when you eat you have to feel what so comfortable. But in the Sunnah. No you
shouldn't because you need to eat to move on instead of eating because you want to just have the
full enjoyment so eat and when you're done, the smaller you move on. The other position is usually
they do it when they are really in the field or traveling. So there is why we have time to sit like
this even though this is uncomfortable position to eat to use it when you eat. Still, they used to
they used to actually squat like this. And they eat like that Smilla
		
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			because they eat quickly and they just move on. So just few minutes. Now, should you eat like this
at home?
		
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			I don't think so. Just sit down and eat your food and shallow data but you can practice the other
one. If you're outdoors in a public placement for example, you don't have to sit down just eat
quickly and keep moving on it should be okay and shallow down. zircon will occur. Salam aleikum wa
rahmatullah it's all over Curtis monocle over 100 Estrada's