Yaser Birjas – Snooping Into Other PeopleS Personal Life

As-salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu.

الحمد لله رب العالمين صلى الله وسلم بارك

عن نبينا محمد وعلى آله وصحبه وسلم تسليما

كثيرا ثم ما بعد Tonight's hadith is very

short and it's despicable in terms of authenticity.

Hadith number 68 in Riyad al-Saliheen on

the Book of Al-Muraqaba, again being watchful

and examining yourself.

قال امام النبي رحمه الله عن عمر بخطاب

رضي الله عنه وارضاه عن النبي صلى الله

عليه وسلم انه قال لا يسأل الرجل فيما

ضرب امرأته.

Simple message.

In this hadith he says, the Prophet صلى

الله عليه وسلم said, No man shall be

asked for the reason why he disciplined his

wife.

No man shall be asked for the reason

why he disciplined his wife.

حديث رواه ابو داود ابن ماجه امام احمد

The majority of the imams of hadith, they

deem this hadith to be weak.

Like such as Imam al-Zahabi رحمه الله

تعالى There is one particular narrator or sub

-narrator, عبد الرحمن المسلمي In which they say

he is considered matruk, like no one takes

from his hadith.

So they deem the hadith to be weak.

Even contemporary scholars like Shaykh al-Albani رحمه

الله تعالى Ahmad Shaker They also say the

hadith is considered weak in terms of narration.

However, if they say even if it was

authentic, even if it was maqbool and acceptable,

there is a meaning for it.

So they say a man should not be

asked for the reason why he should discipline

his wife or his spouse.

Now, these things happen in our life.

We don't live a perfect world.

We don't live a martial idealistic society.

Unfortunately, disputes happen between husband and wife.

And sometimes, unfortunately, men can transgress and take

disciplinary actions that are not supposed to do

that.

So the idea is not if this is

right or wrong or halal or haram right

now, as much as two things.

Number one, everybody, especially these men, they should

watch what they do and what they say.

Because in the ayat, in surah an-Nisa,

in which Allah speaks about the order of

disciplining the household, at the end he said

to the men, He said, like, if they

obey you, don't transgress.

Do not be arrogant.

Don't go beyond what's reasonable.

And if you do so, he says, remember,

that Allah azawajal is aliyan kabira.

He is the most high and he is

the greatest.

Which means what?

Don't think yourself to be stronger than Allah

subhanahu wa ta'ala, more powerful than Allah

azawajal, or greater than Allah subhanahu wa ta

'ala.

Like, look, you're not going to get away

with it.

Allah the aliy, the most high, he is

seeing you.

And you're nothing in comparison to Allah azawajal.

And he is the greatest subhanahu wa ta

'ala.

No matter how powerful you think you are,

he is more powerful.

So be watchful of Allah al-aliy al

-kabir when it comes to dealing with that

matter.

The other meaning the ulema, they say, is

that for us, those who hear the news,

because unfortunately, small societies sometimes, you know, like

a small community, news spread, and it's easy

among the people to start hearing, oh, did

you hear what happened with this family, and

this family, and this family?

So here they say that, look, you need

to observe the privacy of households and the

community.

Meaning we don't know what happened between them.

If you are a person of authority, or

a person of khair, someone who can really

help you reconcile, or a therapist, or someone

who can really reach out to do something

to help them out, it's okay for you

to go and ask.

It's okay to go and ask.

He said, if a person is going there

to reconcile, to help them out, to fix

a situation for them, then it's okay to

go and ask.

Investigate and ask, and go to them and

say, hey, what happened?

But if someone is just for the sake

of just kind of like, what happened, what

happened, just for the sake of getting the

rumors and the news, and just curiosity, you

need to watch Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala,

you need to be careful, and mind your

own business.

In the previous hadith, if you remember, One

of the signs of someone's good Islam is

leave that which doesn't concern them.

So if that happens in someone's household, it's

not your business to be involved over there,

unless you're someone who can help, someone who

can help fix, and someone who can protect,

inshallah, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.

So that's the meaning of the hadith, even

if it was considered authentic.

Which means again, no one can think that

they can do whatever they want to do

and then get away with it.

Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is watching, Allah

subhanahu wa ta'ala is Aliyun Kabir.

And the same thing for us, just don't

spread rumors.

Don't talk about other people.

Keep their privacy for themselves.

Help them reconcile, inshallah wa ta'ala, and

that should be okay.

Wallahu ta'ala a'lam.

Any questions?