Yaser Birjas – Seeking Protection From The Shaytan
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The use of the prophet sallali alaihi wa sallam in various situations is discussed, including angry or excessive emotions. It is important to not try to make decisions based on personal or political reasons and to be mindful of one's emotions and actions. The speaker warns against seeking a settlement and suggests that everyone is focused on their ego to make themselves feel better. The use of ego in situations where a man tries to reach a settlement is also discussed, with cautionary advice given. The advice advises saving oneself by saying and guarding their individuality.
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So if somebody provokes you to get angry,
what would you say?
Someone upset you. What would you say, Ajima?
Get out of my face. Right?
Before that, what would you say to them?
Let's hear from the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa
sallam.
In hadith number 46,
Ansuleiman
ibn Surat
salallahu alaihi wasalam, I was sitting with the
prophet salallahu alaihi wasalam.
And when 2 men began to quarrel and
curse each other.
What do you guys learn from this
so far?
The prophet was there.
He was right there. They could probably see
that he was there.
But they were normal community, normal people, normal
society.
There's the good and the bad and the
ugly.
There's those who are, alhamdulillah,
very, very conservative, very adherent to the principles,
and they're
the the easy ones. Barely.
There are those when the prophet
says something, they would say,
will you send we obey?
And, those who say just like, really? Is
it because of your cousin?
So they were just still human beings.
They were like everybody else. So it happened
that these 2 people, they were kinda, like,
having an argument and then start yelling at
each other and then start cursing at each
other.
So he's one of them,
one of these people, he says, he start
turning red
and the veins of his neck were swollen
from rage, obviously. Like you can tell, he's
getting really, really angry. So
Khalaf Akbar
he said to the people around him, he
says
The prophet said, you know,
I know of a word if he were
to utter that, his rage would vanish and
go away.
Like, that state of rage will just disappear.
So the pro the companions told the prophet
So when they inquire, they said,
if he says,
I'll say kufr with Allah from the shaitan,
the curse.
So
they immediately
they immediately
ran to the man.
And so how about they like to benefit
everybody. Right?
So that's an opportunity to benefit someone like
this.
If you say that,
this state of rage will disappear.
So the prophet, that they they they won't
turn to him, and they said the prophet
is saying that if you say that,
you will be you will be good. So
seek refuge with Allah
from the shaitan that first.
Muslim. So next time someone tries to upset
you, what should you say, jamaa,
How dare you. Right?
You stop by saying,
and then let's see what happens after that.
But the hadith, by the way, has a
continuation.
It wasn't mentioned in this narration.
So when the sahaba went to this man,
said, hey, the prophet
this will go away. Now if it was
you, if that would you were you in
that position, what would you tell them? How
what would you respond to their saying, hey,
if you say, this
will go away.
What would you say to them?
Of course, that's from the prophet. Absolutely.
That's what we expect. Right?
But the man was in a state of
rage.
He was in a state of rage that
his rationale was gone.
Like, he's not listening anymore. He's just in
a completely different world. So when they told
him, the prophet is saying, if you say,
you will be fine. This will go away.
He responded by saying,
like I'm crazy or something.
It's just like basically saying saying what to
them?
Get out of my face. Don't talk to
me now.
Obviously, if this man was in the in
a in a in his full faculty of
the mind,
those statements will be what? Kufr.
Because you're rejecting the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa
sallam advice now in this moment,
but he wasn't there.
So he kinda technically excused
because he wasn't really there altogether when he
was when he said what he said. And
that tells us as human beings whenever we
are in a state of, rage
or any kind of excessive emotions,
our rationale is not functioning anymore.
So never ever try to make any decision
about your marriage,
about your children,
about your job,
about your friendship, about your parents, whatever that
is. Do not try to make decision when
you are in such an excessive
emotional state.
Like, people get angry
and then, you know, they're provoked. Well, divorce
me. If you're a man, divorce me right
now. What would you say? I divorced you
a 1000 times.
And he calls him up. Oh, she she
made me angry and I said that. I
said, no. She made you angry, but you
decided to say that.
So you're gonna have to understand you have
to take responsibility.
Right?
Same thing with the kids or the job.
Someone gets you upset at at work, what
do you say? You know what? I quit.
And then after that, just like,
can I can I go back to my
position?
Be careful, Jamal. When you're in a very
state of rage like this, you're not listening,
you're not saying, you're not thinking straight. So
it's better for you to say, Audubilayam al
Shaitan al Jib. Why do I say Audubilayam
Shaitan al Jib? Now here's the thing. If
you're in a state of argument like these
people where we're arguing in front of the
prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, when they were
arguing now,
why
nobody was listening in that moment? What What
do you think the reason why people don't
listen in argument? Why is that?
Come on, Ajima. Remember the last time you
were talking to your spouse?
I never whenever whatever you were saying, she
still says something different.
When whatever she says, you still respond to
something different.
Why in a state of rage, in moment
of arguments, no one is listening? Why is
that?
Because everybody is focusing on their own pain.
So no matter what you tell me,
I'm ready to say, well, that's nothing. Hear
me right now.
And when you start speaking, they will say,
well, that's nothing. Let me tell you now
next. The next level 2. And we start
escalating our pain to prove to you that
I deserve to be in pain more than
you are.
Now who's doing this to us?
No. Not shaitan. Not yet.
No. Shaitan is not there yet.
Before the shaitan, who's doing this to us?
Your
ego.
Your nafs. Azalah al Khal
in in the in the in the context
of, husband, wife,
yeah, in a state almost close to divorce,
but then Allah requests for them to to
to try to reach a settlement.
It's better for them to reach a settlement,
and reaching a settlement is still better than
divorce. Like, if you can't find peace
somehow, it's better than divorce. That's what Allah
said in the Quran.
But then he said, subhanahu wa ta'ala, as
they try to make that settlement
and their mean selves become present. Look, he
spoke about yourself
as a different entity. What does that mean?
When a husband and wife are talking,
they think there are just 2 of them
are talking. No, you're not. It's you, your
spouse, your ego, their ego, they're all getting
together right now in a conversation.
So whenever you say something,
their ego is saying to them, like, really?
Did you just hear what he said? Are
you gonna are you okay with with that?
So your ego is trying to inflame the
situation.
So you start not responding, and
their ego is saying, like, are you gonna
let them go away with that?
Are you okay with this? So, of course,
you know so therefore, unfortunately, we're not gonna
be able to make any settlement.
Okay. Now who's utilizing the ego in that
moment?
That's where the shaitan comes in. Your
ego is nothing but a Trojan horse for
the shaitan,
as Allah said in the
The shaitan in the argument in the in
jahannam,
they start telling him, it's you. It's because
of you. You did this to us. He
goes, no. Nothing.
I did absolutely nothing to you. I had
no control over you, no power over you,
except I just whispered,
and you listened to me. So don't blame
me. Blame
yourself, which means that ego of yours. See,
ego is biased.
Ego is always is designed to always make
you feel feel good. So you never take
responsibility,
never admit fault, nothing. So it can always
defend you at all cost, even if it
was wrong,
just to make you feel better. So the
shaitan comes and starts blowing blowing into this
ego
until it became so huge, overinflated
ego,
bigger than you deserve.
Anything the whole world
should you say behind your ego.
And unfortunately, it becomes so difficult that you
can't even recognize a'udibillah,
the command from Allah or from the prophet
sallallahu alaihi wa sallam. You come to somebody
and say,
What did they say? What did they tell
you?
You
first.
That's the best response you can get from
them. But sometimes they say something even worse,
because now they're not thinking that is blowing
to their ego and the ego blocking their
sight, and they can't see or hear anymore.
That's why we say,
to keep the shaitan away from our ego
so that we try to control our ego.
Allah says,
Those who are safe and protected from the
shuh,
the stinginess of their nafs, which means their
ego, that means self. If you are protected
from that, you are the most successful person
in the dunya
and in the akhir.
So what we learned from the sujama,
and don't let your ego get in between
you and listen to the advice from the
prophet, sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, from Allah ajazal.
A true believer, whenever they're told, listen, they'll
call Allah, call Allah, so what do they
say?
It was it was reported that, one of
the
from Banu Umayyah,
I think it was,
Abdul Malik with Marwan or his son. But
eventually, he was one of Abdul Malik, he
was one of the, stories of knowledge before
he became the the the Khalifa.
So one time, he was in a gathering,
and then someone came to him so furious
and upset, he goes,
Like, he was angry with him. So he
said.
So he immediately dropped into sajdah.
When he dropped into sajdah, everybody was looking
what's going on. He just went into sajdah
long enough to cool down, then he got
up. He says, yeah, Amir and Mommy, what
happened?
Because what he told me,
and I felt offended.
So to control my ego, he said, to
control myself,
I just dropped into sajdah
for the word.
Imagine if we always have that in our
conscious
that, you know what? I don't care what
people say. Would I care what Allah subhanahu
will be pleased with me or not? So
I'm always conscious of that. So
if someone if someone just gets upset or
provoked you or try to get you upset,
just say,
Because if you're going to respond to their
nonsense
all the time,
your chances to make mistake becomes higher and
higher and higher.
So save yourself by saying
and guard your iman and your sanctity as
well. May Allah protect us from the shaitanahu
alaymi.
And make us some of those who listen
to the speech and follow the best of
it. Wallahu alaihi. Any questions, Jamal?
Yes.
So when you say, the question, when you
say,
do you say it out loud or just
whisper it to yourself or make it just
silently?
Should I say it in the face of
that individual? Like, if it's if it's you
and your spouse,
You and your
wife. Right? She says something that she's and
you tell
her,
I don't think it's wise. Yeah.
So but it depends on the circumstances.
Definitely, definitely, saying ordo bin al shi'atar al
Hajim is needed.
To whisper it, to say it out loud,
maybe you say
on one side,
and then I say that stuff for Allah
Just reminding them that you're trying to control
yourself for the sake of Allah, Azza wa
Jal.