Yaser Birjas – Reward Of Holding Your Anger
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Which one is easier? Which one is easier?
To release your anger or control it?
Which one is easier? To control your anger?
Or to release it? Release it. Release it
is easier. Right? So if someone provokes you
and makes you angry, what is the most
common thing we do? Release it. We listen
to them. We get angry.
Right? Like, we fall for it.
Someone's provoking you,
and they want you to be angry so
they can control you, obviously. Because when you're
angry, you lost you lost control.
So it's easy for us to release anger.
So what is the reward then for not
doing that?
How much reward can you get
for being able for being able to let
go of your anger, but you control yourself?
Let's hear from the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa
sallam in this hadith. Hadith number 47,
in the book of, the chapter on patience.
In this hadith, said
the prophet
said,
one who suppresses anger, is you control your
anger,
and has the power to give effect to
it. Meaning you are able and capable of
letting go and
and and and take effect to their anger.
This
person will be called out by Allah
on the day of judgment.
This person will be called by Allah, the
exalted,
to the forefront
of the of a creation on the day
of resurrection,
and he will be asked to choose
any of the maidens of Jannah as
he likes.
Let's talk about this a little bit right
now.
First of all, manqaba Magaydan. What is? The
word
in the Arabic language. Can you can you
try to even to pronounce the word?
Like, even the pronunciation is just like like,
there's so much I can't like, just one
the the sound of it, It shows how,
like like, roaring, like someone wants to wants
to do something serious here. So
similar, just like looks how it sounds, like
roaring.
Right?
And same thing, like you suppress that.
Before you start roaring with with anger, now
you actually are like you you gonna squash
this
right away.
Can you imagine what does that mean right
now?
So I'll cut them. It's basically like even
though it's something out of control. Imagine a
lion,
out of control.
But you're able to bring that lion to
come down.
This is what it means over here. Like
you control it to this level. You suppress
that anger, that lion that about to be
released from inside
you, you actually you bring it down again
to stay calm.
So as a result, of course, the prophet
said, if you're able
to let go of that anger, that's what
it means.
That you have the capability
and the ability
to release that and retaliate.
What does that mean? If you're unable, what
does it mean then? Doesn't matter. If you're
unable to release that anger, that's no longer
an anger anymore.
That's only gonna be sadness. You know when
someone wrongs you
and you you have no way of retaliating,
you can't be angry. Even if you begin
you're angry, you can do nothing about it.
What is that inside you? It's just sadness.
You're angry with yourself that you're not able
to do anything about that. Now that's weakness.
That is weakness.
But what the prophet is talking about over
here is that you're able and capable of
retaliating and take action,
but what do you do? You don't. You
don't actually do you're not gonna, let it
go. You control yourself.
And the prophet says,
you're doing it and the law will call
on the day of judgment. What does that
mean?
This person
control their anger for the sake of Allah
That's what it means.
Like I'm able to take that route of
fighting them and and and talk back. And
they said something I said 10 times, you
know, worse than what they said. I can
do this,
but I choose what to do, to listen
to Allah subhanahu's command.
Be patient
and calm down
and not retaliate and not respond to them.
The prophet
says Allah will call this individual on the
day of judgment.
Like this is basically like Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala is highlighting
the reward
for their patience.
And he says I'm gonna bring them in
front of everybody.
What what does that mean? That's like
celebration. So what does it mean?
Your gratification
your gratification
for being patient,
that has been delayed on the to the
day of judgment.
You know, when we when we control ourselves,
we expect an immediate reward. Right? Again, it's
I wanna get something right now.
And if I don't get it, it's just
kinda like
you get frustrated.
But if you trust Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala,
he's gonna be the one to to reward
you. You realize that this now gratification
has been pushed and deferred and delayed to
the day of judgment.
Right. I believe in Allah's reward,
and I know that I'm gonna be rewarded.
So I trust his judgment, so I'll wait
until then.
So
Allah will call these people to celebrate their,
you know, their patience. Your now moment of
gratification is happening right now,
and they will be called among them by
name.
Now don't tell me you don't get angry
at Jema.
If you don't get angry, there's nothing wrong
with there's something wrong with you because anger
is a natural instinct, a self defense mechanism.
And if someone provokes you to be angry,
you should be angry. But how you respond
to it, that's what the * is talking
about. You control your behavior.
I'm angry inside, but I'm controlling my behavior.
So that's why I hope that all of
you will be calling day of judgment
among everybody to celebrate inshallah.
So what's now the reward? The prophet
that this person will be told to choose
from the merits of Jannah as he wishes,
which means to be their bride.
Now first of all, we know that's in
Jannah,
and that means there are brides in Jannah,
which means there are carnal delights in Jannah.
That's something we know from the Quran was
mentioned.
And I know that people today, they keep
saying, you know, why? I mean, come on.
This is an all man thing and so
on. Look. Let's talk about these things. First
of all, Allah
says,
You can't question Allah, but he's gonna be
questioning everybody else.
So if Allah
chose this to be the reward, that's his
hikmah, his wisdom
My job is
I will literally obey because that's Allah
command right now.
The second,
why men are given this reward in Jannah
anyway? Why? Well, there are many reasons for
that.
Islam is the deal of al fitra.
Islam is the natural to the fitra. That
really connects with your natural inclination and this
position in it as a human being.
And the difference between men and women is
that if you ask a man, what is
the highest reward they get in this dunya?
The highest reward. The highest reward they could
get actually in this dunya when it comes
to pleasure of this dunya. What would it
be? Intimacy.
I mean, ask husbands. If your wife, she
promised you with a beautiful evening versus a
nice meal, what would you choose?
You're all laughing. What does that mean in
your mouth?
Most of you I know they're going to
say a beautiful evening after a nice meal.
Right?
But let's be real.
For men, that's the highest reward. That's in
the dunya.
And Islam is.
So if that is the the the thing
that they desire the most in this dunya,
Allah made it also one of their rewards
the highlights of their reward in the.
And to be faithful and not to commit
and even if you're able of doing that,
you protect yourself from the fitnah, and you
just do it in a halal way. Allah
will reward you immensely for that as well
too.
The other thing,
if if you ask men versus women, it
will come to the reward over here. If
you ask most husbands, say, would you like
to be with your wife in Jannah? Most
likely, they would say yes, I hope. Right?
But if you ask most women, they would
say no thank you.
Like, I want reward in Jannah, not work
with them.
Right?
But may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, you unite
you unite you with your spouse in goodness
and general.
Other thing about men and women who come
to their reward.
Men, when it comes to their ward, really,
they're very focused.
What does that mean? If you ask all
men or almost most men to write down
the top three things they would like to
see in paradise, or the top 40 they
would like to see in paradise, they're probably
going to say the same thing.
Ladies, on the other hand, they actually desire
different things,
and they're not necessarily the same thing, Which
is why Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, gave the
reward of the men as they desire the
most and gave the women
general reward. What does that mean? In the
Quran, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says,
Whoever do good in this dunya.
Whoever do good in this dunya.
Male or female.
Male or female.
We shall give them goodly life in this
dunya.
They shall get the reward with for the
best of what they've done in this dunya.
Did he mention what kind of reward? No.
He said both will be in Jannah. Both
will get their reward. Both will be pleased.
And everybody will be pleased in a way
that is pleasing to them.
What pleases men? Different than what pleases women.
But Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says everybody's gonna
be pleased.
However, there are specific rewards for men that
men don't necessarily take as reward for themselves.
So Allah subhanahu wa'anhu says
Okay. What do women get on the on
Jannah then, for example, if they control their
anger?
If men gonna get this as a reward
for them to control their anger. What about
women? What are they gonna get when they,
control their anger? They're gonna also have total
for men?
I don't know that there's actually male who
are in, especially for those who were married
in the zenia.
But I know that they will have a
reward that'll be pleasing for them or to
them.
Allah promised
that nobody
will have will will have any grief or
sorrow or sadness in Jannah.
And everybody
will be pleased as Allah says in the
Quran,
They will be pleased with Allah
and Allah will be pleased with them.
So if that's the case,
then really there is no,
any concern about, so why this is mentioned
to the men, this is not mentioned to
the women. Again, their reward is different.
And because is saying the prophet says this
in the hadith over here, is only highlighting
what Allah subhanahu wa'ala already promised in the
Quran as well. May Allah's fine, make those
who listen to the speech and follow the
best of it, You Rabbil Alamin. Wallahi. Any
questions,
Alright.