Yaser Birjas – Patience On The Loss Of A Child

How do people,

react to the loss of their child? May

Allah subhanahu wa'ala preserve your family, your children.

You have different level of patience obviously.

But here's 1 of those unique examples.

Unique examples from the 1 who is least

expected to show patients,

but she, the mother, and she's showing the

greatest example for patience because she trusts Allah

Jazma Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.

This hadith is hadith number 44.

He says that 1 of the sons of

Abu Talha,

that's, of course his family.

He said that went out and the boy

died in his absence.

Like, this is Anas's brother, basically, you could

say.

So that child died in his absence. Abu

Talha went out doing what men usually do

and taking care of the family.

In his absence, the child died.

So

when Abu Talha came back,

how how was the boy doing? How is

the kid is doing?

And his mother, his wife, the wife of.

She said, Khaled,

He is as peaceful as he can be.

Now she didn't lie, did she?

He's dead, khalas. He's silent. He's quiet. He's

as quiet as he can be, she said.

Now what did Abu Talha think of that?

That he's what?

He's asleep. He's good. He's asleep right now,

and what did she really mean?

Khalas. He's now as peaceful as he can

be. He's gone.

He's with Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.

She brought him food and he ate

and they were intimate that night.

When he was done,

let's go and bury the child.

So when he came when he came to

the prophet the next day, he was very

upset. He goes, how did you do this

to how could you do this to me?

Like, you you let me go through this,

like,

eating and being intimate, like nothing had happened.

Allow me to be like this, rejoice rejoicing

actually and and being okay with everything when

my baby has just died. How dare you

do this basically? So he complained to the

prophet

sallallahu

alaihi wasallam.

Have you were you intimate last night?

He said, yes,

May Allah bless your bless that night for

you.

So she gave birth to a child afterwards.

So in this narration, it's Abu Talha who

called Anas and he gave him the baby.

He goes, go to the prophet sallallahu alaihi

wa sallam. Let him meet the prophet sallallahu

alaihi wa sallam first.

And he sent with him some dates.

In the other narration, it was Salama Salaim,

I mean, who told Abu our, her son,

Ana, say, look. Take the baby.

Don't let anyone touch the baby or feed

the baby until you meet the prophet sallallahu

alaihi wa sallam.

What was their purpose? They wanted the the

barakah

of the prophet, sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, to,

to be fed to this child before anything

else.

So when they send him to the prophet,

sallallahu alaihi wa sallam,

did you guys bring anything with him?

Some dates. He goes give me those dates.

He start chewing those dates.

So he took some of that juice from

his mouth

and he put it in the mouth of

that baby.

Rub it on the roof of his mouth.

They call this tahneek in the Arabic language.

Now is that sunnah? The prophet did that.

What's the purpose of this? There are many

interpretations from the contemporary scholars. They say probably

because in the past,

they didn't have what we have in terms

of technology, advancement of medicine, and and so

on. So that was their way of boosting

the immune system,

like allowing the child to start having that

foreign agent in his mouth to

boost the immune system because back then the

rate of mortality was very high.

Kids would die for any reason.

So now, boosting the immune system help them

to to,

become more resilient against these these elements.

So he did. So the prophet, sallallahu alaihi

wasallam,

he did that

was a Mahu Abdullah, and he named him

Abdullah.

And that kid became a Mubarak, a blessed

child,

Even

1 of the sub narrators of,

We talk about kids so it's okay,

Abin Aayna

who was 1 of the submarines of the

Hadid. He says,

I heard from Rajam Al Ansar, 1 of

the Ansaris

said,

Quran. He said, I've seen 9 kids from

this child.

I've seen 9 kids from this child, he

said, and they all memorized the Quran,

her father from this child. That's the blessing

that the prophet made du'a for that

family.

So yeah, I mean,

the story has more details in other narration,

but that's just the kind of like the

summary of it from 1 narration. So what

do we learn from this Ajamal?

When it comes to losing a child, it's

1 of the most difficult things for anybody.

Right?

Because,

you know, we're not supposed to outlive our

children.

We're not supposed to. I mean, usually, parents

expect to die before their kids

so that the kids have the opportunity to

grow older and live their lives. But to

have or witness a child

die in your lifetime, it's the most difficult

thing, subhanAllah.

And may Allah make it easy for the

people of Gaza.

Not just 1 child or 2 kids or

3 kids. Kids seeing their parents die, seeing

their siblings, their their their uncles, their cousins

there. Allah. Allah to reach fitna. May Allah

make it easy for them.

And here's Umsulayim, she lost this child,

and she knew that's aqadr of Allah subhanahu.

I couldn't do anything more.

So she endured that with patience, but she

knew it would be difficult on the father.

So to make it easy on him, she

didn't announce it right away.

Instead, she kinda

created a beautiful environment for the father.

They were intimate with each other and then

hoping for

a replacement for that child.

And

when when there's another narration in which when

the father asked about the child, she said

afterwards, of course, she said, if somebody

lend you something

and they they ask for that thing that

you borrowed back,

wouldn't you give it back to them?

And he goes, of course,

Because where Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala took his,

that loan back,

and that's where he got upset.

Because how could you do this to me?

We

all belong to Allah,

and our return shall be terms of Hanhua

Ta'ala.

So that's 1 of the beautiful examples of

how truly to endure,

the loss of a child with so much

grace. Just like,

Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala preserve your children and

protect your families.

Any questions, Ajmal?

Summer nights, I know that.