Yaser Birjas – Do Not Wish For Death
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The speakers discuss the importance of showing patience towards death and not wanting to die in a way that is too difficult for them. They stress the need for patience and not giving too much information to one's mind, as well as staying in a good situation and not giving too much information to one's mind. The legal consequence of killing oneself in a situation where one has already died is discussed, along with the importance of being joyful in a moment of death and pray for people who are inside.AI: Transcript ©
Is there a lot for a person to
wish for death?
I don't have to say, you know what?
I wish I'm dead
or this life is miserable.
That is better than this life. Are you
allowed to say that?
Okay. Are you allowed to say that you
you wish to die a shahid?
Yes. What's the difference?
No comparison. Right? There's no comparison.
Which is patience.
Let not one of you wish for death
because of a misfortune which befalls him, which
means wishing for shahada is different.
Alright? You're looking for virtue right now.
But because of a misfortune that that befalls
someone, you shouldn't be asking for that. If
he cannot help doing so,
like, If you had to wish for something,
you had to wish for death,
he should say the following.
So instead a person should say, oh Allah,
keep me alive as long as you know
that life is better for me and make
me die when death is better for me.
Now what does it mean here? Why you're
not allowed to wish for death anyway?
Why is that? Being ungrateful.
Being ungrateful.
What else? It shows what?
No result. There's no contentment.
If you remember,
we talked about how people,
face misfortune in life, right? So the first
category is what the saqot, whining about it,
complaining about it, and so on. And the
second was what? Patience. Sabar.
And when it come to sabr, we also
learned that sabr you are required to exercise
sabr in 3 territories, 3 areas.
Number 1,
as Sabrul Allah ta'ala,
showing patience
when it comes to fulfill Allah's obligations, like
coming to the Masjid, waking up,
for the Hajjid, fasting Ramadan. You need you
need to be patient with
that. The second category,
showing patience against,
the prohibitions,
like drinking and alcohol, for example, committing fornication,
watching something haram. You need to strain yourself,
so it requires a lot of patience from
you.
And the 3rd category,
showing patience against what?
Allah's qadr that you have no control over,
such as hurricanes, tornadoes,
misfortunes happen, illness happen to somebody. I have
no control over that stuff.
I need to show patience
towards these matters. This hadith,
let's talk about the last one particularly.
When someone before
when I'm most certain
before somebody and then they lose it, They
don't show patience. They start whining and complaining
and saying this and saying that, and then
eventually they wish for some for themselves
to be dead.
So the reason why it's prohibited because that
shows a person is not satisfied with Allah's
Qadr.
You don't show patience,
the way you should be as a believer.
We'll come to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala's judgment,
when he rules a matter over these matters
of Qadr. So that's actually is now it's
a sin, considered a sin.
Let alone
somebody chooses to end their own lives
because they don't own it in the 1st
place.
If you're not allowed even to wish for
it, can you imagine how prohibited it is
to do it and end it yourself?
This is how dangerous that matter is.
And then,
so you're not allowed to wish for that.
But the prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam,
gave us an alternative.
He didn't just leave you like this without
an alternative. So yeah, I understand, sometimes things
get hard and difficult.
The alternative is to do what?
To delegate
the matters of life and death to who?
The one who knows what is best for
you. You don't know the future. Subhanahu wa
ta'ala is the one who is known that
know the future.
Only Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala
knows,
Allah is the one who knows what's in
the future for you. So I don't know.
So therefore I'd rather delegate
this matter to him, subhanahu wa ta'ala, by
saying, you Allah.
If you know that life is better for
me,
then extend my life.
And if you know death is better for
me you Allah, make it happen.
The prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam even told
us another hadith,
No one dies but they will be regretful.
He
said, If you did well, you will regret
for what?
Not doing more,
not doing better.
When Karam Musi'an,
Nadima An Nahu lamiastatib,
did not repent before they die.
Everybody is gonna be remorseful because they wish
they would have more
of the good deed that they haven't done
or they could have done more.
Everybody.
So if this is the case,
then a dua to make your life short
like this
is not not believing Allah's Qadr,
and you would probably lose an opportunity that
would be way better for you if you
stayed a little bit longer.
And we know that Allah subhanahu wa'ala says
in the Ayah,
Since it's hard on you today,
you have opportunity for twice the fortune insha'a
that comes later. So you need to be
a little bit patient,
endure
that and go forward with your life. The
day of judgment the prophet Allah Subhanahu wa
sallam.
This is the day of deceit.
Why is that? Because everybody will feel this
they were they were deceived. They feel you
feel were deceived. How so? Because now that
you see what Jannah is, you realize, oh
my god, how much time I wasted. I
deceived myself
not paying enough for this.
I haven't done done enough for this. And
those who didn't well at all, they realized
that, oh my God, I fooled myself.
I missed this opportunity
in the dunya.
So no one should be wishing for themselves
to die.
But then
comes,
an issue that might be controversial for many
times. Wait a minute.
How about Maryam alaihi salaam?
When Maryam was giving birth to her isa
alaihis salam, what did she say?
I wish I was dead before this
and I was completely forgotten from this world.
So wait a minute, who is Mary Magimah?
You know who Mary Magimah is?
Who was she?
Who is she even?
She's the best of the best.
Like multiple purification, multiple
status after status, elevate your status to the
top.
She's the best vulnerable Jannah, right?
She's wishing for death. So the ulama, they
say, look, first of all, even if it
was a wish for death,
our has
negated that already.
Like if it was allowed in their time,
in their sharia, it's no longer allowed in
our sharia. And our sharia surpasses that, so
it cancels whatever was before. Just like we
we did in the Quran, that for for
Suleiman alaihis salam, the jinn did what to
him?
They built a Matin, statues and so on,
which is for us in our din is
concerned what now? Forever.
Completely. So that's your Ramadan Qablana, it's over.
The second interpretation they say,
Maryam when she asked, for this, she didn't
she wasn't wishing for death because of giving
the birth for the child.
No. So so was wishing for death for
what? Like I wish I died
in the state when I had no fitna,
no trials.
Like she's in retrospect,
like is it permissible for someone to die
on a state of Iman that once they
had before? Like I was more spiritual so
he started to say I wish I could
die in that state of Iman,
you know, that I had before.
Which is what which is what she said
over here, kabbalahada.
I wish I died in the time before
when I was actually had no,
misfortune or nothing to worry about. She wasn't
saying I wish I die,
When she said, I wish I was dead
before this happened to me.
So for us to wish to, you know,
we've been dead in a better time, in
a better situation in our lives, part of
this is jazz.
But you cannot wish to die
because of what's happened to you right now.
That would be the the the prohibited. So
Maryam didn't ask Allah to die because of
she was giving birth to this child. No.
She was hoping that she was already dead
before this test came to her because she
didn't know what the test was about.
She knew that she's gonna be given a
special gift
and that child is gonna be someone special.
And even when she gave birth to her,
she didn't know to what extent that was.
But when the child spoke in her arms
as a baby, that was it, it was
very clear.
His mission was very clear from the very
beginning. So, yeah, no one can use the
example of Maryam to say look Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala said in the Quran, it's okay
because Maryam did that. No, she didn't, she
didn't ask for that. She wished that she
would she was dead before
in a good state without any trials, any
fitter and son. So may Allah subhanahu wa'ala
protect us.
But subhanAllah, finally,
if we think about this hadith,
I mean
who probably in our time today
would, if you give justification to anybody, to
wish to be dead, who could that be
today in our time?
Our brothers and sisters in Gaza.
But what do you hear from them?
They come out from from under the rubble
doing what? Resilience.
Resilience.
Wallahi, we're staying.
We are staying.
We're gonna continue to resist. We're gonna do
this. We're gonna continue that like they would
never wish death because they know wishing death
would give their enemy what?
Pleasure.
So, no, we're not gonna give them pleasure.
We're gonna live, and we're gonna stay in
our land because it's our home, it's our
place, and we are the indigenous people of
that land.
And subhanallah their iman is making them strong
enough not to wish death in the most
crucial
circumstances.
But we're fragile in this society.
You lost your job? A lot of times
people that take a machine gun, shoot everybody
there and they shoot themselves.
Because they lost their job.
Their bitcoins are gone.
All my savings are gone. Oh my god.
I wish I'm dead now. Right? Why Ajima?
Easy. Life is better than this. There is
so much higher you can
if you put your trust in Allah Subhanahu
wa ta'ala. So you make dua, make sure
to make to dua to Allah Subhanahu wa
ta'ala
to make your life long with khair and
with barakah. Which is why when you make
dua for somebody for a long life, what
do you say?
Don't say may Allah
give you life. No. May Allah give you
life with good deeds.
Otherwise, good life just like that, God knows
what happens to it. So may Allah Subhanahu
wa ta'ala give you all good healthy life
with good deeds
Any questions in your mind?
Yes.
No.
No.
No.
Another question for example, somebody in a situation
where they know if they stay alive,
they'll be captured, tortured, maybe raped, this and
that. Is it okay to kill themselves in
a situation like this? Honestly,
I can't give FEDO on this
because we're just speaking from theory.
People on the ground, they know their circumstance
better than anybody else. So they better ask
their over
there really because they know the circumstance. But
generally speaking, killing yourselves is not
allowed. And may Allah make it easier for
them.
But definitely enduring the the hardship of going
through a trial,
or at least defend yourself.
Maybe during that time, you know, you get
the shahada.
But to,
to kill themselves just fear of of being
captured because of that, it
doesn't look like it says permissible.
Now.
Yes.
So So is it is it is it
okay to be happy when you're dying? Allah,
I hope you're dying in goodness inshallah to
a'la. You you should be happy.
Yeah. Like the Sahaba used to say, you
know, I'm going to the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wasallam. I'm gonna be with my friend in
Jen now. This and that being very hopeful
in that moment. Absolutely. Of course. You're not
gonna be dying and just keep regretting, you
know, my car. Don't forget to wash it
before, you know, you sell it.
I mean, who's gonna think about these things
in a moment of death, Ajamal? That's miserable.
So, yeah, being joyful in a moment of
death because, alhamdulillah,
I I think I did well,
But at the same time feeling guilty for
the mistakes I've done in my life. Those
are 2 beautiful things to have in your
heart in a moment like that. But being
hopeful is more important.
Yes? Let's say like, can you pray for
somebody who is inside?
Can you help? Like can you pray for
somebody like Oh, can you pray for somebody
who,
you know, they kill themselves?
Well, I mean, depends on the circumstances. If
they are Muslims, meaning they believed in Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, but unfortunately went through some
miserable circumstance that caused them to do that,
we still make du'a for them. We pray
janazah for them. But if people did that
to be glorified for that action,
and they did that as a statement so
people, you know, they remember them because of
what they have done. Some of the Aleman,
they say, you know, the leader of the
community shouldn't be actually doing janaza for them,
that somebody else will do janaza for them.
Because now they didn't just end their lives
because of their circumstances.
Now they're making some sort of statement for
it, and they're not supposed to be glorified
for that.
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