Yaser Birjas – Do Not Get Angry
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The importance of not getting angry in the context of advice given by the prophet sallali Alaihi wa Sallam is discussed. The speaker emphasizes that anger is a choice made by the individual and can lead to behavior and behavior patterns. The advice should be used for individuals, not for everyone, and should be used as a har laundry act. The speaker advises the audience to let go of anger and control oneself, and to be angry as a natural reaction to certain triggers and events and act angrily as a behavior.
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Hadith tonight is a very short hadith,
very powerful in its meaning,
and we need it a lot these days.
Hadeah number
48. In the other side, in the book
of the chapter of patience.
A man came to the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wa sallam and he asked him for an
advice.
He said, you Rasool Allah, give me an
advice.
So what did the prophet choose to give
him? Out of all
the the advices you can give, out of
all the statements, all
the the, I could say,
the most important valuable thing you can give
anybody. He said to him,
He said, don't get angry.
So,
And the man asked again,
give me advice.
The prophet says don't get angry.
And the man asked again,
advise, please.
He goes, don't
get angry. No matter how many times the
man asked the prophet, sallallahu alaihi wa sallam,
again, the prophet kept telling him what?
Do not get angry.
What does that mean Ajamal?
I mean, here the prophet, sallallahu alaihi wasallam,
is telling the man don't get angry. Right?
But the man, he felt that that was
very short. Imagine
you have someone that you admire so much,
and you come to them for advice. What
do you expect they're gonna give you?
A manifesto, masha'Allah.
Don't do this, do this, don't do this,
do this. Like, you give them a long,
long advice. You cherish, and you see, alhamdulillah,
I get so much value from my visit
to this measure of this sheikh. So you
expect something big. This man is the same
thing. He came to the prophet, he said,
can I have an advice from you?
Like he has seen probably many people asking
for the prophet, for special advice. So now
he's coming to him. He said, give me
an advice. And the prophet said, don't get
angry.
And the man is probably waiting and just
like,
advice, please.
Can I have something else? Like, can you
make it longer? And the prophet said, don't
get angry.
Again, the man just like,
oh, okay. I got that one. And
the prophet said, don't get angry.
Probably by now the man is getting angry.
Right?
Because he wants something different. And the prophet
keeps saying, don't get angry, don't get angry,
don't get angry.
What does that mean to us, Ajamal, when
the prophet starts insisting and saying, do not
get angry? What does that mean?
What do you understand from this Ajamal?
Don't get angry.
It's one of the most valuable advice that
someone can give you today. Why is that?
How many people lost their marriages because of
their anger?
They broke their family and their kids because
of their anger.
They lost privileges at work because of their
anger.
They lost these because of their anger.
They lost their lives because of their anger,
and maybe hurt somebody else because of their
anger. Can you imagine the dangers?
The dangers are just associated with just being
angry.
How many people come and they say, well,
you know, I got angry and I said
this, I got angry, did that.
We need to differentiate between 2 things. Because
when it comes to being angry, we have
to understand
being angry is natural thing. It's an instinct.
It's
which means
if someone provokes you or if you see
something that really is upsetting,
like what happened to the people of Gaza
make it easier for them.
If you see something like this and you
don't get angry, there is something wrong with
you.
There's really something wrong with you. You see
the bloodshed. You see the genocide. You see
all this,
the behavior of these
hypocritical
politicians,
all that stuff. And you don't get angry,
there's something wrong with you.
So why the prophet said I'm telling this
man don't get angry?
Well, he's there are 2 different things over
here.
Number 1, being angry as an emotion,
that's natural.
But acting angrily as a behavior, that's a
choice you make, a decision you take. And
you're gonna be held accountable for what you
say and what you do, not what you
feel.
Where do we learn that from? Because even
the man who's telling this man,
don't get angry, sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, he
himself got angry.
The Umani al hadith describing the prophet being
angry. His first ten read and the prophet
salallahu alaihi wa sallam, he would be actually
very upset. You can tell in his face
that he's getting angry salallahu alaihi wa sallam.
So there's many hadith.
So he gets angry himself salallahu alaihi wa
sallam. But find me one hadith.
Find me one hadith where he misspoke,
where he said something bad. We did something
bad because he was angry.
You won't see that.
Ibn Aisha, they
reported the prophet, salallahu alayhi
wa sallam,
The prophet never got upset for something personal.
Allah and taka ma haramullah.
Unless the limits of Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala,
have been violated.
Like his anger is legit.
He gets angry because
something is wrong is happening and he cannot
stand just sat standing there without, you know,
being angry about it, salallahu alayhi wa sallam.
But when he when he gets angry,
he waits to cool down
and then he takes the action.
And then he says what he wanted to
say. So, yeah,
you have to differentiate between being angry as
a natural reaction to certain triggers and events
that happens around you and as a natural
reaction to certain triggers and events that happens
around you and acting angrily as a behavior.
2 separate things,
2 different things.
You need to make sure that you understand
this harit from that perspective. When the prophet
said to him, don't get angry, don't get
angry, don't get angry.
That's basically that's what it means. Now
why did the prophet
insist on repeating this advice for this particular
man? Because we have seen the prophet being
asked different times by other sahaba, and he
would give them something different.
Why? How come he's insistent telling this man?
So some of the Ulema they say, perhaps
it's an inspiration from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
to the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam. That
this man is always angry. That's his biggest
problem. So advise him not to be angry.
That's why. That's one interpretation.
The other interpretation, the prophet himself, he had
farasa.
Rasam, he had insight,
basira.
He could see and he could interpret people.
He'd read people
So
perhaps when this man came asking him,
maybe
this man, he had the sign of God
already on him. Like, you can tell. He's
upset. He's angry. He wanted to do something.
And the prophet he read that on him,
and he realized, okay. This man has asked
for advice because probably he's gonna go kill
somebody right now.
So the prophet
said, calm down. Don't get angry.
Okay. I get it also. Give me something
else. Like, he wants some he want an
advice that would make him maybe cool down
completely.
And the prophet kept insisting, saying to him,
don't get angry. Don't don't look angry. So
the erelema they say that the prophet sallallahu
alaihi wa sallam, he had Joab al Hakim
usually, which is a wise answer. How so?
He knows what people really need.
He doesn't just give them what they want.
He gives them what they need. So this
man, maybe he wanted an advice like, you
know, if you make wudu, pray to rak'ah,
that would become nice for you. Maybe that's
what he wanted to hear from the prophet,
sallallahu alaihi wa sallam. But instead, the prophet,
sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, gave him what he
needed.
And what he needed in this moment is
to understand you shouldn't get angry.
Control yourself.
So you need to separate between being angry
as an emotion
and how you act how you react to
that. It's an energy.
You can choose to channel this energy in
a positive way. That'll be constructive and productive
in your life and the life of other
people around you.
Or you could just let it go and
release it
and becomes a, an unfortunate animalistic
behavior that leads to destruction of yourself
and the people around you. So choose for
yourself. If the prophet said,
then it's a very important advice. Now does
that apply to all of us
or just for this manager? What do you
guys think?
All of us. He might say just for
him. Right?
For me, that's different. Right? All of us.
All of us. We all get angry one
way or another.
Some of us, their anger
is shoots to the stars.
Others, you know, a little bit. But no
matter what the prophet says, do not get
angry.
May Allah give us that peace and tranquility
in our hearts and our lives.
Any questions,