Yaser Birjas – Do Not Get Angry

Hadith tonight is a very short hadith,

very powerful in its meaning,

and we need it a lot these days.

Hadeah number

48. In the other side, in the book

of the chapter of patience.

A man came to the prophet sallallahu alaihi

wa sallam and he asked him for an

advice.

He said, you Rasool Allah, give me an

advice.

So what did the prophet choose to give

him? Out of all

the the advices you can give, out of

all the statements, all

the the, I could say,

the most important valuable thing you can give

anybody. He said to him,

He said, don't get angry.

So,

And the man asked again,

give me advice.

The prophet says don't get angry.

And the man asked again,

advise, please.

He goes, don't

get angry. No matter how many times the

man asked the prophet, sallallahu alaihi wa sallam,

again, the prophet kept telling him what?

Do not get angry.

What does that mean Ajamal?

I mean, here the prophet, sallallahu alaihi wasallam,

is telling the man don't get angry. Right?

But the man, he felt that that was

very short. Imagine

you have someone that you admire so much,

and you come to them for advice. What

do you expect they're gonna give you?

A manifesto, masha'Allah.

Don't do this, do this, don't do this,

do this. Like, you give them a long,

long advice. You cherish, and you see, alhamdulillah,

I get so much value from my visit

to this measure of this sheikh. So you

expect something big. This man is the same

thing. He came to the prophet, he said,

can I have an advice from you?

Like he has seen probably many people asking

for the prophet, for special advice. So now

he's coming to him. He said, give me

an advice. And the prophet said, don't get

angry.

And the man is probably waiting and just

like,

advice, please.

Can I have something else? Like, can you

make it longer? And the prophet said, don't

get angry.

Again, the man just like,

oh, okay. I got that one. And

the prophet said, don't get angry.

Probably by now the man is getting angry.

Right?

Because he wants something different. And the prophet

keeps saying, don't get angry, don't get angry,

don't get angry.

What does that mean to us, Ajamal, when

the prophet starts insisting and saying, do not

get angry? What does that mean?

What do you understand from this Ajamal?

Don't get angry.

It's one of the most valuable advice that

someone can give you today. Why is that?

How many people lost their marriages because of

their anger?

They broke their family and their kids because

of their anger.

They lost privileges at work because of their

anger.

They lost these because of their anger.

They lost their lives because of their anger,

and maybe hurt somebody else because of their

anger. Can you imagine the dangers?

The dangers are just associated with just being

angry.

How many people come and they say, well,

you know, I got angry and I said

this, I got angry, did that.

We need to differentiate between 2 things. Because

when it comes to being angry, we have

to understand

being angry is natural thing. It's an instinct.

It's

which means

if someone provokes you or if you see

something that really is upsetting,

like what happened to the people of Gaza

make it easier for them.

If you see something like this and you

don't get angry, there is something wrong with

you.

There's really something wrong with you. You see

the bloodshed. You see the genocide. You see

all this,

the behavior of these

hypocritical

politicians,

all that stuff. And you don't get angry,

there's something wrong with you.

So why the prophet said I'm telling this

man don't get angry?

Well, he's there are 2 different things over

here.

Number 1, being angry as an emotion,

that's natural.

But acting angrily as a behavior, that's a

choice you make, a decision you take. And

you're gonna be held accountable for what you

say and what you do, not what you

feel.

Where do we learn that from? Because even

the man who's telling this man,

don't get angry, sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, he

himself got angry.

The Umani al hadith describing the prophet being

angry. His first ten read and the prophet

salallahu alaihi wa sallam, he would be actually

very upset. You can tell in his face

that he's getting angry salallahu alaihi wa sallam.

So there's many hadith.

So he gets angry himself salallahu alaihi wa

sallam. But find me one hadith.

Find me one hadith where he misspoke,

where he said something bad. We did something

bad because he was angry.

You won't see that.

Ibn Aisha, they

reported the prophet, salallahu alayhi

wa sallam,

The prophet never got upset for something personal.

Allah and taka ma haramullah.

Unless the limits of Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala,

have been violated.

Like his anger is legit.

He gets angry because

something is wrong is happening and he cannot

stand just sat standing there without, you know,

being angry about it, salallahu alayhi wa sallam.

But when he when he gets angry,

he waits to cool down

and then he takes the action.

And then he says what he wanted to

say. So, yeah,

you have to differentiate between being angry as

a natural reaction to certain triggers and events

that happens around you and as a natural

reaction to certain triggers and events that happens

around you and acting angrily as a behavior.

2 separate things,

2 different things.

You need to make sure that you understand

this harit from that perspective. When the prophet

said to him, don't get angry, don't get

angry, don't get angry.

That's basically that's what it means. Now

why did the prophet

insist on repeating this advice for this particular

man? Because we have seen the prophet being

asked different times by other sahaba, and he

would give them something different.

Why? How come he's insistent telling this man?

So some of the Ulema they say, perhaps

it's an inspiration from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala

to the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam. That

this man is always angry. That's his biggest

problem. So advise him not to be angry.

That's why. That's one interpretation.

The other interpretation, the prophet himself, he had

farasa.

Rasam, he had insight,

basira.

He could see and he could interpret people.

He'd read people

So

perhaps when this man came asking him,

maybe

this man, he had the sign of God

already on him. Like, you can tell. He's

upset. He's angry. He wanted to do something.

And the prophet he read that on him,

and he realized, okay. This man has asked

for advice because probably he's gonna go kill

somebody right now.

So the prophet

said, calm down. Don't get angry.

Okay. I get it also. Give me something

else. Like, he wants some he want an

advice that would make him maybe cool down

completely.

And the prophet kept insisting, saying to him,

don't get angry. Don't don't look angry. So

the erelema they say that the prophet sallallahu

alaihi wa sallam, he had Joab al Hakim

usually, which is a wise answer. How so?

He knows what people really need.

He doesn't just give them what they want.

He gives them what they need. So this

man, maybe he wanted an advice like, you

know, if you make wudu, pray to rak'ah,

that would become nice for you. Maybe that's

what he wanted to hear from the prophet,

sallallahu alaihi wa sallam. But instead, the prophet,

sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, gave him what he

needed.

And what he needed in this moment is

to understand you shouldn't get angry.

Control yourself.

So you need to separate between being angry

as an emotion

and how you act how you react to

that. It's an energy.

You can choose to channel this energy in

a positive way. That'll be constructive and productive

in your life and the life of other

people around you.

Or you could just let it go and

release it

and becomes a, an unfortunate animalistic

behavior that leads to destruction of yourself

and the people around you. So choose for

yourself. If the prophet said,

then it's a very important advice. Now does

that apply to all of us

or just for this manager? What do you

guys think?

All of us. He might say just for

him. Right?

For me, that's different. Right? All of us.

All of us. We all get angry one

way or another.

Some of us, their anger

is shoots to the stars.

Others, you know, a little bit. But no

matter what the prophet says, do not get

angry.

May Allah give us that peace and tranquility

in our hearts and our lives.

Any questions,