Yaser Birjas – Asr Khatirah – A Beautiful Duaa For Parents

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The speakers discuss the importance of honoring parents' rights and not mistaliating them. They stress that parenting is an act of caution and that children are not as important as adults. The speakers emphasize the need to be mindful of one's behavior and avoid negative consequences, and emphasize the importance of inspiring one's future and returning to parents. They also emphasize the need to be mindful of one's behavior and care for their future children.

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			Today's
		
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			dua from the Quran is gonna be chapter
		
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			46,
		
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			ayah number 15.
		
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			Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala says in this ayahu
		
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			wa sauna
		
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			We have commanded or commanded people to honor
		
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			their parents.
		
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			Their mothers bore them in hardship
		
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			and delivered them in hardship.
		
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			And
		
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			the period of bearing and winning is 30
		
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			months.
		
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			In time, when the child reaches their prime
		
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			at the age of 40,
		
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			they pray.
		
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			He then they would pray, my lord,
		
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			inspire me to always be thankful for your
		
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			favors,
		
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			which you blessed me and my parents with,
		
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			and to do good deeds that please you
		
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			and instill righteousness in my offspring.
		
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			I truly repent to you and I truly
		
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			submit to your will. Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
		
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			says about these people
		
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			It is from those people or from these
		
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			people that we will accept the the the
		
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			good they do
		
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			and overlook their their misdeeds
		
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			along with the residence of paradise and the
		
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			fulfillment of the true promise they have been
		
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			given.
		
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			So, the dua in this ayah over here
		
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			is Allah
		
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			and speaking to us about
		
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			our dutifulness
		
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			to our parents.
		
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			And, if you remember, we spoke about this
		
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			before, how many ayaq can you recall in
		
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			the Quran
		
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			where Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala orders the parents
		
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			to be good to their children.
		
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			How many ayaq could you think of?
		
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			Almost none.
		
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			There's a command to be, to make sure
		
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			to guard them against the fire of *
		
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			and this and that, but to be kind
		
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			to your children
		
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			besides
		
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			don't kill them in the womb before they're
		
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			born there isn't much.
		
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			Why is that?
		
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			Because it's fitra. It is natural.
		
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			You have that natural inclination
		
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			to care for your children.
		
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			You have so much hope for them in
		
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			the future. Right? So, this have the kind
		
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			of kindness and tenderness
		
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			to do that,
		
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			but
		
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			when it comes to parents,
		
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			there was a need for divine intervention
		
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			to take care of our parents
		
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			because it's not easy, it's not natural.
		
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			You know, you're busy with life, you would
		
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			like to advance, you have your own goals,
		
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			you have your own and your parents somehow,
		
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			you know, they have their own demands as
		
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			well too. And as they start getting older
		
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			and older and life shrinks around them, they
		
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			only see purpose for themselves within your life,
		
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			so they keep trying to find purpose.
		
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			And, sometimes, the way they find purpose in
		
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			this life
		
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			contradicts
		
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			yours,
		
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			and there'll be a lot of clash between
		
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			the elders and the children, so that's why
		
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			there was a need for a divine intervention
		
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			to make sure that children never ever mistreat
		
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			their parents.
		
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			Now, there's always exceptions in situations, there's no
		
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			doubt about it. But we're talking in general
		
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			that you're not supposed to to mistreat your
		
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			parents and that's why Allah gave us in
		
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			this aya the reasoning why. He says, and
		
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			we have commanded people to honor their parents.
		
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			There's a command from Allah
		
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			And what's the meaning to honor your parents?
		
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			He says
		
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			to do your best with them. The they
		
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			say the the obligation upon us is what?
		
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			To treat our parents kindly,
		
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			to honor our parents, be beautiful to them.
		
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			How
		
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			much? How is that should be done? Now,
		
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			that's when it comes to customs and traditions.
		
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			As long as it's not considered haram
		
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			and not abusing the rights of the children,
		
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			there is nothing wrong with with taking care
		
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			of this for their parents.
		
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			But sometimes, unfortunately, people, you know, overdo it.
		
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			So in order to please the parents, we
		
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			abuse our personal rights, our children rights, our
		
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			spouse's rights,
		
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			thinking that because they are a priority,
		
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			everybody has to suffer. It's not a matter
		
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			of suffering.
		
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			It's a matter of making sure to do
		
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			the right thing for them. And sometimes it's
		
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			the opposite. In order for me to care
		
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			for my children, for my spouse, and then
		
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			ignore and neglect my parents.
		
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			So here, we need to understand what is
		
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			considered what is considered reasonable,
		
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			what is considered acceptable in these circumstances becomes
		
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			our duty provide for our family and our
		
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			parents.
		
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			Speak about now the mother carrying that baby
		
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			and the condition
		
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			she had to go through. He said, subhanahu,
		
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			their mothers bore them in hardships and delivered
		
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			them in hardship.
		
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			I mean, ask any mother, we'll tell you
		
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			that. It wasn't fun being pregnant. Maybe
		
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			the idea of being pregnant is fun, cause
		
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			at least you become a mother, you can
		
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			have a baby and a child, but the
		
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			moment they become pregnant what happens?
		
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			It's so hard, so difficult. Right?
		
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			And then, somehow towards the end of their
		
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			term,
		
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			they just wanna deliver the baby.
		
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			So, one of the just let me get
		
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			to the let's deliver the baby.
		
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			And then, subhanAllah,
		
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			when the baby is delivered, of course, in
		
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			hardship as well too, what happens? You think,
		
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			oh my God, now we're done, alhamdulillah, we
		
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			deliver the baby. What happens next?
		
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			Oh, God. There's more care for that child
		
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			and that's what they say, you know, it
		
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			was easier when I was still pregnant than
		
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			that baby.
		
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			Like carrying around while pregnant was easier than
		
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			carrying him in with my arms and
		
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			struggling with the baby. So, there is always
		
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			hardships, subhanAllah, for caring for our children.
		
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			And obviously the guys don't see that very
		
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			often, they don't really feel it that much.
		
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			Because for the guys, you guys are just
		
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			Marshall, you're the fun part.
		
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			You only take the baby for a few
		
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			minutes to play with them and then when
		
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			they become difficult you send them back again
		
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			to their mothers.
		
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			So, for you, when your wife complains, she's
		
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			like, why are you complaining? The kids are
		
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			fun. To you,
		
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			because you're the one having the fun with
		
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			them and I'm happy to deal with all
		
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			the discipline and all the and feeding and
		
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			send them to sleep and cleaning and all
		
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			these hardships. And Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says
		
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			Like not just
		
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			carrying the baby and delivering the baby,
		
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			that's hard enough. He says, no.
		
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			The carrying of the baby
		
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			and nursing the baby, the full term,
		
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			combined, he says,
		
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			30 months.
		
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			Okay, now let's talk about the salar bin
		
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			al jamaa. What does that mean, 30 months?
		
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			How many months,
		
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			you know, the regular pregnancy is?
		
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			9 months, right?
		
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			If you take 9 months
		
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			from this study,
		
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			what does that mean right now?
		
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			So that's less than 2 years for the
		
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			full term,
		
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			the nursing term.
		
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			But now, if you say no nursing term
		
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			is 2 years, that's 24 months.
		
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			How many months left for the pregnancy then?
		
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			6 months.
		
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			And that's what some of the they say,
		
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			says
		
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			that the minimum for a child to survive
		
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			is actually to be 6 months old
		
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			before they're born.
		
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			And, he was born during that time. There
		
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			are a lot of legal
		
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			rules on that, like basically can become, yeah,
		
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			that's your child.
		
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			Yeah. But it was 6 months only. Yeah.
		
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			Well, it's within the term that is considered
		
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			an acceptable pregnancy.
		
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			So eventually,
		
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			Allah says
		
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			that's gonna be of course struggling with nursing
		
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			the baby and all that stuff. Like, Allah
		
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			is telling us, look, your mom, she had
		
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			to do a lot of hardship just to
		
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			raise you where where you are right now.
		
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			And then he says,
		
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			and when this child then becomes
		
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			the age, of
		
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			the prime age,
		
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			which means when you reach your strength and
		
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			your power, your prime age right now,
		
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			then you become 4 years.
		
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			4 years, that's considered the the age of
		
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			in the Arabic language.
		
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			This is when you're supposed to be no
		
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			more childish, foolish behavior.
		
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			I wish they can come to this age
		
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			to see those people in the past
		
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			because right now no one wants to age,
		
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			no one wants to mature anymore.
		
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			I remember growing up in a in a
		
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			generation
		
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			when we were kids, we would observe the
		
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			adults and we wished to become adults, we
		
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			imitate the adults.
		
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			Even sometimes in the bad habits, I don't
		
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			mention what the habit we're talking about.
		
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			But just you wanna be an adult.
		
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			Today, no one wants to be an adult
		
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			anymore. Even the adults, the way they behave
		
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			on social media and the Internet is just
		
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			ridiculous.
		
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			Like, they just wanna be teenagers, that's all.
		
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			No one wants to age because for them
		
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			aging, meaning you're dying
		
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			and you're losing the fun, and losing an
		
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			opportunity.
		
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			Unfortunately, a lot of this happens because people
		
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			don't have don't understand that there's a hereafter,
		
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			there's an akhira, there
		
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			in every moment, and they want to always
		
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			be young at heart because I want to
		
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			enjoy this life.
		
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			No one says you're not allowed to enjoy
		
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			this life, you are allowed to enjoy this
		
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			life, but what? Also keep it again within
		
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			reason,
		
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			reasonable because again there's the akhirah that is
		
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			coming up and that's the true enjoyment,
		
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			that's eternity right now versus something that is
		
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			completely
		
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			temporary.
		
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			So, what should you
		
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			be saying when you really reach that age?
		
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			And, by the way, when you become 40,
		
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			what is the most likely thing that will
		
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			prompt you to make this dua?
		
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			The cycle of life goes on. You're probably
		
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			married by then, and you have your own
		
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			kids who drive you crazy like you did
		
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			to your parents.
		
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			So that's why if someone make a dua
		
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			to your parents
		
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			reward them for, you know, for taking care
		
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			of me.
		
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			At least they raised me, Alhamdulillah, I can't
		
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			handle my kids.
		
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			So, you remind yourself with the nema that
		
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			you've been raised where you are today. So
		
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			they say,
		
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			You Allah,
		
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			give me give me the ability. You Allah,
		
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			make me thankful and
		
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			The blessing that you have bestowed upon me.
		
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			What blessing are we talking about?
		
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			Life,
		
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			having alhamdulillah your family, your parents, probably having
		
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			your children.
		
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			That you made us a family
		
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			for one another.
		
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			And
		
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			You Rabbi inspire me to make good that
		
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			you'll be pleased with. Now, some of the
		
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			Allema, they say, inspire me. That goodness is
		
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			actually
		
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			in regards to caring for my parents.
		
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			And some say no, it's actually general,
		
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			including the good deeds of taking care of
		
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			your parents and around your parents. But overall,
		
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			say, you Allah,
		
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			alhamdulillah, that I've reached that level of my
		
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			life,
		
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			inspire me to do good.
		
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			Why is it so important to make this
		
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			du'a at that age jama'ah?
		
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			Inspire me to do good in my life.
		
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			Because of what we see today. Right? Many
		
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			people, they become at this age, they go
		
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			in what we call what? Midlife crisis.
		
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			They want to become teenagers again.
		
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			So what do they do? They misbehave,
		
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			and they become completely ridiculous in the way
		
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			that they live their lives. But you instead
		
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			you say,
		
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			in this age,
		
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			I want to make sure that I do
		
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			the right thing, the one that you're most
		
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			pleased with.
		
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			You Allah, he says, make and instill righteousness
		
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			in my offspring
		
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			because my time is gonna come next,
		
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			and I hope that my kids will be
		
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			better than me the way I'm treating my
		
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			parents.
		
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			So you're making dua for your future
		
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			through your children.
		
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			Make them righteous kids,
		
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			you Allah so that they naturally will be
		
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			inclined
		
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			to care for me.
		
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			I
		
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			delegate my efforts to you, I return back
		
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			to you in repentance
		
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			and I submit
		
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			my will and myself to you my Lord.
		
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			So, that's a beautiful dua that you make
		
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			and
		
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			Allah gave them the reward instantly.
		
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			Those are the ones
		
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			that we accept from them the best of
		
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			their deeds, what they've done.
		
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			Overlook their mistakes and their errors.
		
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			They will be among the residents of Jannah.
		
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			This is the promise that Allah Subhanahu Wa'hi
		
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			gave them, and it's a true promise from
		
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			Allah
		
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			that they have been given. May Allah make
		
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			us among them.
		
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			So, let's read the du'a
		
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			together.