Yaser Birjas – Asr Khatirah – A Beautiful Duaa For Parents
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The speakers discuss the importance of honoring parents' rights and not mistaliating them. They stress that parenting is an act of caution and that children are not as important as adults. The speakers emphasize the need to be mindful of one's behavior and avoid negative consequences, and emphasize the importance of inspiring one's future and returning to parents. They also emphasize the need to be mindful of one's behavior and care for their future children.
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Today's
dua from the Quran is gonna be chapter
46,
ayah number 15.
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala says in this ayahu
wa sauna
We have commanded or commanded people to honor
their parents.
Their mothers bore them in hardship
and delivered them in hardship.
And
the period of bearing and winning is 30
months.
In time, when the child reaches their prime
at the age of 40,
they pray.
He then they would pray, my lord,
inspire me to always be thankful for your
favors,
which you blessed me and my parents with,
and to do good deeds that please you
and instill righteousness in my offspring.
I truly repent to you and I truly
submit to your will. Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
says about these people
It is from those people or from these
people that we will accept the the the
good they do
and overlook their their misdeeds
along with the residence of paradise and the
fulfillment of the true promise they have been
given.
So, the dua in this ayah over here
is Allah
and speaking to us about
our dutifulness
to our parents.
And, if you remember, we spoke about this
before, how many ayaq can you recall in
the Quran
where Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala orders the parents
to be good to their children.
How many ayaq could you think of?
Almost none.
There's a command to be, to make sure
to guard them against the fire of *
and this and that, but to be kind
to your children
besides
don't kill them in the womb before they're
born there isn't much.
Why is that?
Because it's fitra. It is natural.
You have that natural inclination
to care for your children.
You have so much hope for them in
the future. Right? So, this have the kind
of kindness and tenderness
to do that,
but
when it comes to parents,
there was a need for divine intervention
to take care of our parents
because it's not easy, it's not natural.
You know, you're busy with life, you would
like to advance, you have your own goals,
you have your own and your parents somehow,
you know, they have their own demands as
well too. And as they start getting older
and older and life shrinks around them, they
only see purpose for themselves within your life,
so they keep trying to find purpose.
And, sometimes, the way they find purpose in
this life
contradicts
yours,
and there'll be a lot of clash between
the elders and the children, so that's why
there was a need for a divine intervention
to make sure that children never ever mistreat
their parents.
Now, there's always exceptions in situations, there's no
doubt about it. But we're talking in general
that you're not supposed to to mistreat your
parents and that's why Allah gave us in
this aya the reasoning why. He says, and
we have commanded people to honor their parents.
There's a command from Allah
And what's the meaning to honor your parents?
He says
to do your best with them. The they
say the the obligation upon us is what?
To treat our parents kindly,
to honor our parents, be beautiful to them.
How
much? How is that should be done? Now,
that's when it comes to customs and traditions.
As long as it's not considered haram
and not abusing the rights of the children,
there is nothing wrong with with taking care
of this for their parents.
But sometimes, unfortunately, people, you know, overdo it.
So in order to please the parents, we
abuse our personal rights, our children rights, our
spouse's rights,
thinking that because they are a priority,
everybody has to suffer. It's not a matter
of suffering.
It's a matter of making sure to do
the right thing for them. And sometimes it's
the opposite. In order for me to care
for my children, for my spouse, and then
ignore and neglect my parents.
So here, we need to understand what is
considered what is considered reasonable,
what is considered acceptable in these circumstances becomes
our duty provide for our family and our
parents.
Speak about now the mother carrying that baby
and the condition
she had to go through. He said, subhanahu,
their mothers bore them in hardships and delivered
them in hardship.
I mean, ask any mother, we'll tell you
that. It wasn't fun being pregnant. Maybe
the idea of being pregnant is fun, cause
at least you become a mother, you can
have a baby and a child, but the
moment they become pregnant what happens?
It's so hard, so difficult. Right?
And then, somehow towards the end of their
term,
they just wanna deliver the baby.
So, one of the just let me get
to the let's deliver the baby.
And then, subhanAllah,
when the baby is delivered, of course, in
hardship as well too, what happens? You think,
oh my God, now we're done, alhamdulillah, we
deliver the baby. What happens next?
Oh, God. There's more care for that child
and that's what they say, you know, it
was easier when I was still pregnant than
that baby.
Like carrying around while pregnant was easier than
carrying him in with my arms and
struggling with the baby. So, there is always
hardships, subhanAllah, for caring for our children.
And obviously the guys don't see that very
often, they don't really feel it that much.
Because for the guys, you guys are just
Marshall, you're the fun part.
You only take the baby for a few
minutes to play with them and then when
they become difficult you send them back again
to their mothers.
So, for you, when your wife complains, she's
like, why are you complaining? The kids are
fun. To you,
because you're the one having the fun with
them and I'm happy to deal with all
the discipline and all the and feeding and
send them to sleep and cleaning and all
these hardships. And Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says
Like not just
carrying the baby and delivering the baby,
that's hard enough. He says, no.
The carrying of the baby
and nursing the baby, the full term,
combined, he says,
30 months.
Okay, now let's talk about the salar bin
al jamaa. What does that mean, 30 months?
How many months,
you know, the regular pregnancy is?
9 months, right?
If you take 9 months
from this study,
what does that mean right now?
So that's less than 2 years for the
full term,
the nursing term.
But now, if you say no nursing term
is 2 years, that's 24 months.
How many months left for the pregnancy then?
6 months.
And that's what some of the they say,
says
that the minimum for a child to survive
is actually to be 6 months old
before they're born.
And, he was born during that time. There
are a lot of legal
rules on that, like basically can become, yeah,
that's your child.
Yeah. But it was 6 months only. Yeah.
Well, it's within the term that is considered
an acceptable pregnancy.
So eventually,
Allah says
that's gonna be of course struggling with nursing
the baby and all that stuff. Like, Allah
is telling us, look, your mom, she had
to do a lot of hardship just to
raise you where where you are right now.
And then he says,
and when this child then becomes
the age, of
the prime age,
which means when you reach your strength and
your power, your prime age right now,
then you become 4 years.
4 years, that's considered the the age of
in the Arabic language.
This is when you're supposed to be no
more childish, foolish behavior.
I wish they can come to this age
to see those people in the past
because right now no one wants to age,
no one wants to mature anymore.
I remember growing up in a in a
generation
when we were kids, we would observe the
adults and we wished to become adults, we
imitate the adults.
Even sometimes in the bad habits, I don't
mention what the habit we're talking about.
But just you wanna be an adult.
Today, no one wants to be an adult
anymore. Even the adults, the way they behave
on social media and the Internet is just
ridiculous.
Like, they just wanna be teenagers, that's all.
No one wants to age because for them
aging, meaning you're dying
and you're losing the fun, and losing an
opportunity.
Unfortunately, a lot of this happens because people
don't have don't understand that there's a hereafter,
there's an akhira, there
in every moment, and they want to always
be young at heart because I want to
enjoy this life.
No one says you're not allowed to enjoy
this life, you are allowed to enjoy this
life, but what? Also keep it again within
reason,
reasonable because again there's the akhirah that is
coming up and that's the true enjoyment,
that's eternity right now versus something that is
completely
temporary.
So, what should you
be saying when you really reach that age?
And, by the way, when you become 40,
what is the most likely thing that will
prompt you to make this dua?
The cycle of life goes on. You're probably
married by then, and you have your own
kids who drive you crazy like you did
to your parents.
So that's why if someone make a dua
to your parents
reward them for, you know, for taking care
of me.
At least they raised me, Alhamdulillah, I can't
handle my kids.
So, you remind yourself with the nema that
you've been raised where you are today. So
they say,
You Allah,
give me give me the ability. You Allah,
make me thankful and
The blessing that you have bestowed upon me.
What blessing are we talking about?
Life,
having alhamdulillah your family, your parents, probably having
your children.
That you made us a family
for one another.
And
You Rabbi inspire me to make good that
you'll be pleased with. Now, some of the
Allema, they say, inspire me. That goodness is
actually
in regards to caring for my parents.
And some say no, it's actually general,
including the good deeds of taking care of
your parents and around your parents. But overall,
say, you Allah,
alhamdulillah, that I've reached that level of my
life,
inspire me to do good.
Why is it so important to make this
du'a at that age jama'ah?
Inspire me to do good in my life.
Because of what we see today. Right? Many
people, they become at this age, they go
in what we call what? Midlife crisis.
They want to become teenagers again.
So what do they do? They misbehave,
and they become completely ridiculous in the way
that they live their lives. But you instead
you say,
in this age,
I want to make sure that I do
the right thing, the one that you're most
pleased with.
You Allah, he says, make and instill righteousness
in my offspring
because my time is gonna come next,
and I hope that my kids will be
better than me the way I'm treating my
parents.
So you're making dua for your future
through your children.
Make them righteous kids,
you Allah so that they naturally will be
inclined
to care for me.
I
delegate my efforts to you, I return back
to you in repentance
and I submit
my will and myself to you my Lord.
So, that's a beautiful dua that you make
and
Allah gave them the reward instantly.
Those are the ones
that we accept from them the best of
their deeds, what they've done.
Overlook their mistakes and their errors.
They will be among the residents of Jannah.
This is the promise that Allah Subhanahu Wa'hi
gave them, and it's a true promise from
Allah
that they have been given. May Allah make
us among them.
So, let's read the du'a
together.