Yahya Rhodus – Futuwwa Having Tact

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Tana And I can tell it more Hakeem wala hola wala Quwata illa biLlah

he earlier Alim Alhamdulillah, Allah subhana wa Tada has enabled

us to hear his remembrance and to hear the blessing praise of the

Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu IDIQ Savio Salam. And this is something

that brings the heart to life. And what a blessing from ALLAH SubhanA

wa Tada 1400 plus years after the time of our Prophet Muhammad

sallallahu alayhi salam and his sunnah his way, his well

established way, is still here among us. And it is readily

accessible for any one of us who wants to learn it, and to put into

practice, and then to experience its fruits. And when you

experience its fruits, and you feel the sweetness of faith that

arises in the heart after putting the blessed way of our Prophet

sallallahu Sallam into practice, then and only then do we truly

start in have the first taste of what it really means to experience

the blessing of Islam. What a blessing from Allah subhanho wa

Taala and there's something about this Deen when Allah subhanaw

taala removes all of the veils of the heart, and all of the clutter,

the dust, those things that are veiling the heart and preventing

it from seeing and accepting the truth. It actually is incredibly

simple. And it actually is very easy. Because when someone is

shown by his lord or her Lord, the reality of la ilaha illAllah

Muhammadan rasul Allah belief in one God in belief in the Prophet

Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam as the final prophet, and messenger sent

to humankind, you start to understand what it means that this

is a manifestation of the Name of Allah al Haq, the truth, because

Islam is truth. And this is why it can happen instantaneously in the

heart of anybody, where all of a sudden, it just becomes clear to

them. This is truth. And there's something about this blessed Dean,

and learning the way of the prophesy centum, that when you put

a little bit of effort in, this is the result, the what you could

call the Sultan of the Hawk, right, the this authority, this

overwhelming authority of the truth, become so apparent that

then faith takes root in the heart as a result. And then the more

that you learn, the deeper that you go, the deeper that the roots

of that seed of faith that was planted go. And the further those

roots of faith are in your heart, the more then someone is able to

withstand the more than that it is that they are able to bear. And if

someone embraces this Dean, and does their best to keep watering

that seed that is a divine gift from Allah subhanaw taala doing

what it is that that can placing a little bit of effort in this

matter, that surely that those roots will continue to grow. And

then ultimately, I bless a tree will form within the heart of that

individual. And that ultimately that tree will have a strong trunk

and then strong branches, and then smaller branches, and then even

smaller branches and then leaves and then fruits that appear on it.

And this is what you and I want is that we want to experience the

reality of faith and the reality of faith as it rises in the heart

with its sweetness that it is accompanied with and all of the

different individual manifestations of the Sunnah of

the Prophet sallallahu sallam, or our means for us to further our

iman, our faith, our means for us to further experience those

blessed fruits every single one as a door, as her mama was it says,

every righteous trait of character is a door between you and your

Lord. The more character traits that you have, the more that you

experience, the sweetness of faith. And so if you think of it

like that, let alone of course all of the different forms of worship

all of the different things that we

Do but in particular, the traits of virtue, the character traits

that you and I can struggle with ourselves to adopt. Every single

one of them is a door, whereby we draw near to Allah subhana wa

Tada, where our relationship with our Lord strengthens SubhanaHu wa

Tada. And when we think of it in that way, then it allows us to

roll up our sleeves to be able to learn about these vested character

traits to learn about these virtues, which are not easy.

And the word for character trait is actually very closely related

to the word for creation in general, but in specific the

creation of the human being. So you have Halak, which is your

physical creation. And you have your whole look, which is your

character. And there are those that have said that your character

can't be changed. But this opinion can't be correct. Because as the

model was, it points out, he says, You could have a wild horse that

is tamed, you could have a wild Falcon that is ultimately tamed,

you can do amazing things with the animal kingdom. Previously, they

weren't able to do that through training, they're able to do

amazing things. He says, if this can happen in the animal kingdom,

how then can this not happen within among human beings, he says

this is something that is possible. But that linguistic

relationship points to its difficulty.

Because there are certain things about human beings that are might

be easy to change. But then there's other things that are

harder to change. And then there's things that are really hard to

change. And then there might be other things about yourself that

relate to your temperament and so forth, that are extremely

difficult to change, and maybe you can't change. And those things

that get on the verge of being extremely difficult to change. The

blessing in the whole matter is, the closer you are to the mercy of

Allah to Allah in relation to those things, the closer you are

to who's pardoning you, and forgiving you for those things

when they manifest, even though you're trying to work on yourself.

And so the next great character trait that we wanted to speak

about was the great character trait of Medora in Arabic, which

you can translate in English as tact. And we'll explain shortly

what that is. But it comes in the context of actually avoiding its

opposite, because it is from a spiritual chivalry to do what is

called tautoko Madana. Avoid flattery, frequently alcohol at

all times. Flattery is not something that is praiseworthy,

and the word Mukdahan and Arabic relates to done, which is like

butter, or that some type of paste that you put on top of something.

So you're like buttering people up.

And Madonna, in its technical definition means is that you are

willing to even compromise your religion, in order for some type

of worldly benefit. And there's people that are like this. And you

see people often times that are on their best behavior when they're

around certain people. And it's really sad, especially when you

attend conferences and forget people that are beyond the pale of

Assam from within the ranks of Islam. And you see people treating

people according to how many likes that they have on Facebook. And I

was actually shocked to know that this is one of the criterion for

even inviting people to these things is how many likes do they

have on Facebook? How many, all these types of very ridiculous

things, as if that that is some type of proof for of that person's

teachings. And this is fluff. The true people of Allah subhanaw

taala, many of them if you saw them, you wouldn't even know that

they were true people of Allah, because they're so unassuming.

What we need and only the way that Islam is going to take root in

this country is on the day to day, you and I are doing the things

that no one wants to do. Waking up praying our prayers on time

working on ourselves, that weeping in the wee hours of the night,

doing the things when no one is there to see being sincere with

Allah subhanaw taala finding intimacy and solitude, doing the

things that no one wants to do. This is the way some is going to

be established in this country, or in any place at any time. And it's

the efforts of those who came before us most of whom we don't

know that are enabling you and I to experience this very moment as

we speak. So flattery is not something that we want. And yes

there are certain times it is okay to mention good things about

people and to even praise them. However, that has to be done in

a measured way, and has to be done responsibly, but just to overly

flatter people. And this is something that you see when you

enter into some of the circles where they're within the ranks of

the Muslims or beyond. And oftentimes you see this, there's a

lot of people scratching each other's backs. And everyone is

just flattering one another in their various networks. And it

feels very good for the ego. The ego likes to hear people clap for

the eagle, the likes to hear people praise it. And to that

pointed out and for to feel some type of distinction. But this will

blind you spiritually. So what we want to do, though, is to be

people have metadata, and there's a difference between flattery and

tact. And the fundamental difference is,

is that you're now willing to sacrifice some worldly things for

the sake of the religion. And that's how they point to the

difference. And what tact really is. And there's a hadith that EBIT

Abbey Jr. mentions in one of his collections, that states are

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the apex of intellect, after belief and Allah is showing tact

with people. And so the greatest thing that your intellect can

point to is belief in Allah.

That intellect gets you to the door, only no pot, no human being

can possibly say that this world originated from nothing.

Unless they are a CAFO. According to the meaning of the word AI

either covering up the truth, we are biologically wired to believe

that it is impossible for there to be effect without a cause.

One level, it is that simple.

And this is the greatest thing that the intellect can teach you

and point you to his belief in Allah. But after that, according

to this hadith, it's modal rottenness. Now, every single one

of us is going to interact with people in our lives.

And oftentimes it is other people. It is the opinions of other

people, it is living up to the expectations of the people that

derail us from the spiritual path. And this is why it's so important

to learn this trait. Because when you believe in Allah, and you're

trying to live the right way, there's going to be challenges you

will you want might have people around you, or close to you, or

people that you're forced to interact with, that aren't

necessarily helping you in the spiritual path. How do you deal

with those people? This is of the utmost importance. And this is why

what tact really is. It is that understanding when it comes to

people that they have a particular nature. And there's relative

degrees to which that you can actually change people's nature

and their behavior and the things that it is that they do. And so as

a result is that you deal with them softly and gently. And you

have realistic expectations with the people that you're interacting

with.

And so as it says here, well I automatic fetal here to shame in

gelatinous is that you don't have even a desire to change those

things about people that are extremely difficult or impossible

to change. Except that which can be changed with education and

speaking to people gently. And this is the way of our teachers,

this is how they are. They're very gentle. And going along with that

is another amazing trait of what is called to Hoffa the Arabic

language is amazing. And some you have to quote the Arabic because

it's very hard to pin down one word as a translation for this to

awful is to act like you're in a state of Buffalo, which is

heedlessness, like you're unaware of something. And it's actually

part of faith is that there's certain things you know, they're

happening, but you act like you don't know they're happening. You

let it go. You know what to address and you know what to

leave, you know what to let pass and you know what to make a point

of, and if you with any person, try to make a point of everything

that you see about that.

How does, you're going to create conflict, you're going to push

people away. You're have unrealistic expectations. And so

this amazing trait of tact takes many forms, but they used to say

it does add data menu daddy, well Dakka Dakka men humanity is that

someone who deals with people tactfully is that their home

literally their home will feel expansive the place they are with

people, but someone who

does not act with this trait is that they'll feel suffocated in

their home, if there are people that just constantly argue, and

they're in a state of conflict with those that are around them.

And so this is trait is of the utmost importance, and there's a

lot that can be said of it. And there's many manifestations of it.

But it's something that you and I need to read about, and to learn,

and to know how it is to deal with people have realistic expectations

of them. And one of the great fruits of this trait is the

ability to defuse a situation.

And a practical example, to help us understand a manifestation of

this trait is the following. There was one time there was someone who

was going to the airport, and this particular person liked to be at

the airport really early. So they wanted to be at the airport, like

three hours before the flight.

And there was someone else, that they were supposed to be given a

ride to the airport.

And they said to this person be ready at this particular time. And

this person was really, that set on being there three hours. So

they go to pick up this other person, the other person is not

there. They're calling the other person, they can't find the

person. They don't know what. And now this person's distraught

because he wanted to be at the airport three hours ahead of time,

and he's getting upset, he's getting unsettled. And so finally,

they just leave her. And then they start heading to the airport. And

then she finally calls. And at that point, they're not turning

around. So they made her get like another car and to like, meet them

somewhere. And so then that, now that they are on the way to the

airport, and they meet at this particular location, but now this

person has made them late, when he wanted to be at the airport at a

certain time. So you can just imagine what's going to happen

when that person is about to get in the car, there's going to be an

eruption.

So tact is there was someone in the car that saw that there was

about to be an eruption. And so what that person did was as soon

as that other person got in the car, as he said to her before, the

other man could get angry because he was angry. He says, oh, please

forgive us is that we should have let you know, we should have been

in contact with you and let you know that he went out of his way

to say that, Oh, it's our fault that we didn't coordinate properly

with you before that other person could say anything.

Because then it would have been hard to have said anything he was

still upset. But it diffused the situation.

And it was a means for everything.

to deflate. And especially when people get angry, especially when

they're responding with ego, we need to use tact, tact, it's like

a Kurama it's almost like a breaking of the norm of how

amazing it is to defuse a situation. And that this is one of

the core traits that needs to be there at the level of the family,

at the level of at the workplace, at the level of that a community

and at the level of the OMA of our Prophet salaallah alayhi salam,

the more that we embody this blessed trait, the more that you

and I will rise up in the ranks. And one of the great examples of

that in the book of ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada is it when Allah subhanaw

taala commands Musa Ali salatu salam, and Harun Moses and Aaron,

to speak to Pharaoh, gently Pharaoh, one of the worst people

ever lived on the face of this earth that said that I am your

Lord Most High. Allah commands Moses and Aaron to say, fell Kula

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say to him, a gentle word, perhaps is a he'll be reminded, and that

he will have fear of Allah.

This so that we're not better than Moses, and the people that we're

dealing with are not worse than Pharaoh. So this is a trait that

you and I should strive to bring into our life. And that to learn

all of the different facets because it really is a very, very

important trait. And it is definitely of the traits of

spiritual Shiva and it's one of the great traits of our Prophet

Muhammad Sallallahu ideologist of your surname and that when that

trait is implemented, there is healing and there is beauty and

that there is true growth and ascension in the means of drawing

near to Allah subhanaw taala May Allah Allah give us Tofik and

bless us and all of our different affairs and to adorn ourselves

with the virtues of Satan and Muhammad Sallallahu sent him in

law to strengthen our faith in this deen and buses with firm

footing and may we never waver and when we live and die upon this

truth and every day that we strengthen a man, in the very best

day of all be the day that we take our last breath and meet our

Lord's Supper.

no autonomy a lotta prepares for that moment. And May these

gatherings be provision for those moments may be these gatherings be

connected to the gatherings of our teachers in sha Allah to Allah and

what descends upon their gatherings we ask Allah to honor

for a great portion of all of that good to descend upon these

gatherings and to benefit not only us, but those are around us those

that are in this regions those that live in these lands in which

we live. And may the light of Islam shine and spread amongst our

people will sell a lot as you know, Muhammad and why don't you

save you send them well? hamdulillah here