Yahya Rhodus – Futuwwa Having Tact
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The speakers discuss the importance of effort and dedication to achieving success and growth in achieving success and growth. The fruit of appointed faith is the fruit of effort and dedication to one's values to achieve success and growth. The speaker emphasizes the importance of effort and dedication to one's values to achieve success and growth. The speaker provides examples of how people deal with people in their homes and create conflict, and how it is important to learn about the trait of tact, which is the ability to defuse a situation and defuse it. The importance of effort and dedication to one's values to achieve success and growth.
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Sir Lemoore Allah because he nyalam via
Salah more Allah. Allah He Rahman Rahim
Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen of lado sada to attend moto Sneem
Allah so you dinner on Mowlana Muhammadan while early he was
Sotheby he was self image marine Subhan Allah al manana lemma Alam
Tana And I can tell it more Hakeem wala hola wala Quwata illa biLlah
he earlier Alim Alhamdulillah, Allah subhana wa Tada has enabled
us to hear his remembrance and to hear the blessing praise of the
Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu IDIQ Savio Salam. And this is something
that brings the heart to life. And what a blessing from ALLAH SubhanA
wa Tada 1400 plus years after the time of our Prophet Muhammad
sallallahu alayhi salam and his sunnah his way, his well
established way, is still here among us. And it is readily
accessible for any one of us who wants to learn it, and to put into
practice, and then to experience its fruits. And when you
experience its fruits, and you feel the sweetness of faith that
arises in the heart after putting the blessed way of our Prophet
sallallahu Sallam into practice, then and only then do we truly
start in have the first taste of what it really means to experience
the blessing of Islam. What a blessing from Allah subhanho wa
Taala and there's something about this Deen when Allah subhanaw
taala removes all of the veils of the heart, and all of the clutter,
the dust, those things that are veiling the heart and preventing
it from seeing and accepting the truth. It actually is incredibly
simple. And it actually is very easy. Because when someone is
shown by his lord or her Lord, the reality of la ilaha illAllah
Muhammadan rasul Allah belief in one God in belief in the Prophet
Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam as the final prophet, and messenger sent
to humankind, you start to understand what it means that this
is a manifestation of the Name of Allah al Haq, the truth, because
Islam is truth. And this is why it can happen instantaneously in the
heart of anybody, where all of a sudden, it just becomes clear to
them. This is truth. And there's something about this blessed Dean,
and learning the way of the prophesy centum, that when you put
a little bit of effort in, this is the result, the what you could
call the Sultan of the Hawk, right, the this authority, this
overwhelming authority of the truth, become so apparent that
then faith takes root in the heart as a result. And then the more
that you learn, the deeper that you go, the deeper that the roots
of that seed of faith that was planted go. And the further those
roots of faith are in your heart, the more then someone is able to
withstand the more than that it is that they are able to bear. And if
someone embraces this Dean, and does their best to keep watering
that seed that is a divine gift from Allah subhanaw taala doing
what it is that that can placing a little bit of effort in this
matter, that surely that those roots will continue to grow. And
then ultimately, I bless a tree will form within the heart of that
individual. And that ultimately that tree will have a strong trunk
and then strong branches, and then smaller branches, and then even
smaller branches and then leaves and then fruits that appear on it.
And this is what you and I want is that we want to experience the
reality of faith and the reality of faith as it rises in the heart
with its sweetness that it is accompanied with and all of the
different individual manifestations of the Sunnah of
the Prophet sallallahu sallam, or our means for us to further our
iman, our faith, our means for us to further experience those
blessed fruits every single one as a door, as her mama was it says,
every righteous trait of character is a door between you and your
Lord. The more character traits that you have, the more that you
experience, the sweetness of faith. And so if you think of it
like that, let alone of course all of the different forms of worship
all of the different things that we
Do but in particular, the traits of virtue, the character traits
that you and I can struggle with ourselves to adopt. Every single
one of them is a door, whereby we draw near to Allah subhana wa
Tada, where our relationship with our Lord strengthens SubhanaHu wa
Tada. And when we think of it in that way, then it allows us to
roll up our sleeves to be able to learn about these vested character
traits to learn about these virtues, which are not easy.
And the word for character trait is actually very closely related
to the word for creation in general, but in specific the
creation of the human being. So you have Halak, which is your
physical creation. And you have your whole look, which is your
character. And there are those that have said that your character
can't be changed. But this opinion can't be correct. Because as the
model was, it points out, he says, You could have a wild horse that
is tamed, you could have a wild Falcon that is ultimately tamed,
you can do amazing things with the animal kingdom. Previously, they
weren't able to do that through training, they're able to do
amazing things. He says, if this can happen in the animal kingdom,
how then can this not happen within among human beings, he says
this is something that is possible. But that linguistic
relationship points to its difficulty.
Because there are certain things about human beings that are might
be easy to change. But then there's other things that are
harder to change. And then there's things that are really hard to
change. And then there might be other things about yourself that
relate to your temperament and so forth, that are extremely
difficult to change, and maybe you can't change. And those things
that get on the verge of being extremely difficult to change. The
blessing in the whole matter is, the closer you are to the mercy of
Allah to Allah in relation to those things, the closer you are
to who's pardoning you, and forgiving you for those things
when they manifest, even though you're trying to work on yourself.
And so the next great character trait that we wanted to speak
about was the great character trait of Medora in Arabic, which
you can translate in English as tact. And we'll explain shortly
what that is. But it comes in the context of actually avoiding its
opposite, because it is from a spiritual chivalry to do what is
called tautoko Madana. Avoid flattery, frequently alcohol at
all times. Flattery is not something that is praiseworthy,
and the word Mukdahan and Arabic relates to done, which is like
butter, or that some type of paste that you put on top of something.
So you're like buttering people up.
And Madonna, in its technical definition means is that you are
willing to even compromise your religion, in order for some type
of worldly benefit. And there's people that are like this. And you
see people often times that are on their best behavior when they're
around certain people. And it's really sad, especially when you
attend conferences and forget people that are beyond the pale of
Assam from within the ranks of Islam. And you see people treating
people according to how many likes that they have on Facebook. And I
was actually shocked to know that this is one of the criterion for
even inviting people to these things is how many likes do they
have on Facebook? How many, all these types of very ridiculous
things, as if that that is some type of proof for of that person's
teachings. And this is fluff. The true people of Allah subhanaw
taala, many of them if you saw them, you wouldn't even know that
they were true people of Allah, because they're so unassuming.
What we need and only the way that Islam is going to take root in
this country is on the day to day, you and I are doing the things
that no one wants to do. Waking up praying our prayers on time
working on ourselves, that weeping in the wee hours of the night,
doing the things when no one is there to see being sincere with
Allah subhanaw taala finding intimacy and solitude, doing the
things that no one wants to do. This is the way some is going to
be established in this country, or in any place at any time. And it's
the efforts of those who came before us most of whom we don't
know that are enabling you and I to experience this very moment as
we speak. So flattery is not something that we want. And yes
there are certain times it is okay to mention good things about
people and to even praise them. However, that has to be done in
a measured way, and has to be done responsibly, but just to overly
flatter people. And this is something that you see when you
enter into some of the circles where they're within the ranks of
the Muslims or beyond. And oftentimes you see this, there's a
lot of people scratching each other's backs. And everyone is
just flattering one another in their various networks. And it
feels very good for the ego. The ego likes to hear people clap for
the eagle, the likes to hear people praise it. And to that
pointed out and for to feel some type of distinction. But this will
blind you spiritually. So what we want to do, though, is to be
people have metadata, and there's a difference between flattery and
tact. And the fundamental difference is,
is that you're now willing to sacrifice some worldly things for
the sake of the religion. And that's how they point to the
difference. And what tact really is. And there's a hadith that EBIT
Abbey Jr. mentions in one of his collections, that states are
artsyl Actually, but it Imani Billa Mudaraba, Nas,
the apex of intellect, after belief and Allah is showing tact
with people. And so the greatest thing that your intellect can
point to is belief in Allah.
That intellect gets you to the door, only no pot, no human being
can possibly say that this world originated from nothing.
Unless they are a CAFO. According to the meaning of the word AI
either covering up the truth, we are biologically wired to believe
that it is impossible for there to be effect without a cause.
One level, it is that simple.
And this is the greatest thing that the intellect can teach you
and point you to his belief in Allah. But after that, according
to this hadith, it's modal rottenness. Now, every single one
of us is going to interact with people in our lives.
And oftentimes it is other people. It is the opinions of other
people, it is living up to the expectations of the people that
derail us from the spiritual path. And this is why it's so important
to learn this trait. Because when you believe in Allah, and you're
trying to live the right way, there's going to be challenges you
will you want might have people around you, or close to you, or
people that you're forced to interact with, that aren't
necessarily helping you in the spiritual path. How do you deal
with those people? This is of the utmost importance. And this is why
what tact really is. It is that understanding when it comes to
people that they have a particular nature. And there's relative
degrees to which that you can actually change people's nature
and their behavior and the things that it is that they do. And so as
a result is that you deal with them softly and gently. And you
have realistic expectations with the people that you're interacting
with.
And so as it says here, well I automatic fetal here to shame in
gelatinous is that you don't have even a desire to change those
things about people that are extremely difficult or impossible
to change. Except that which can be changed with education and
speaking to people gently. And this is the way of our teachers,
this is how they are. They're very gentle. And going along with that
is another amazing trait of what is called to Hoffa the Arabic
language is amazing. And some you have to quote the Arabic because
it's very hard to pin down one word as a translation for this to
awful is to act like you're in a state of Buffalo, which is
heedlessness, like you're unaware of something. And it's actually
part of faith is that there's certain things you know, they're
happening, but you act like you don't know they're happening. You
let it go. You know what to address and you know what to
leave, you know what to let pass and you know what to make a point
of, and if you with any person, try to make a point of everything
that you see about that.
How does, you're going to create conflict, you're going to push
people away. You're have unrealistic expectations. And so
this amazing trait of tact takes many forms, but they used to say
it does add data menu daddy, well Dakka Dakka men humanity is that
someone who deals with people tactfully is that their home
literally their home will feel expansive the place they are with
people, but someone who
does not act with this trait is that they'll feel suffocated in
their home, if there are people that just constantly argue, and
they're in a state of conflict with those that are around them.
And so this is trait is of the utmost importance, and there's a
lot that can be said of it. And there's many manifestations of it.
But it's something that you and I need to read about, and to learn,
and to know how it is to deal with people have realistic expectations
of them. And one of the great fruits of this trait is the
ability to defuse a situation.
And a practical example, to help us understand a manifestation of
this trait is the following. There was one time there was someone who
was going to the airport, and this particular person liked to be at
the airport really early. So they wanted to be at the airport, like
three hours before the flight.
And there was someone else, that they were supposed to be given a
ride to the airport.
And they said to this person be ready at this particular time. And
this person was really, that set on being there three hours. So
they go to pick up this other person, the other person is not
there. They're calling the other person, they can't find the
person. They don't know what. And now this person's distraught
because he wanted to be at the airport three hours ahead of time,
and he's getting upset, he's getting unsettled. And so finally,
they just leave her. And then they start heading to the airport. And
then she finally calls. And at that point, they're not turning
around. So they made her get like another car and to like, meet them
somewhere. And so then that, now that they are on the way to the
airport, and they meet at this particular location, but now this
person has made them late, when he wanted to be at the airport at a
certain time. So you can just imagine what's going to happen
when that person is about to get in the car, there's going to be an
eruption.
So tact is there was someone in the car that saw that there was
about to be an eruption. And so what that person did was as soon
as that other person got in the car, as he said to her before, the
other man could get angry because he was angry. He says, oh, please
forgive us is that we should have let you know, we should have been
in contact with you and let you know that he went out of his way
to say that, Oh, it's our fault that we didn't coordinate properly
with you before that other person could say anything.
Because then it would have been hard to have said anything he was
still upset. But it diffused the situation.
And it was a means for everything.
to deflate. And especially when people get angry, especially when
they're responding with ego, we need to use tact, tact, it's like
a Kurama it's almost like a breaking of the norm of how
amazing it is to defuse a situation. And that this is one of
the core traits that needs to be there at the level of the family,
at the level of at the workplace, at the level of that a community
and at the level of the OMA of our Prophet salaallah alayhi salam,
the more that we embody this blessed trait, the more that you
and I will rise up in the ranks. And one of the great examples of
that in the book of ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada is it when Allah subhanaw
taala commands Musa Ali salatu salam, and Harun Moses and Aaron,
to speak to Pharaoh, gently Pharaoh, one of the worst people
ever lived on the face of this earth that said that I am your
Lord Most High. Allah commands Moses and Aaron to say, fell Kula
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say to him, a gentle word, perhaps is a he'll be reminded, and that
he will have fear of Allah.
This so that we're not better than Moses, and the people that we're
dealing with are not worse than Pharaoh. So this is a trait that
you and I should strive to bring into our life. And that to learn
all of the different facets because it really is a very, very
important trait. And it is definitely of the traits of
spiritual Shiva and it's one of the great traits of our Prophet
Muhammad Sallallahu ideologist of your surname and that when that
trait is implemented, there is healing and there is beauty and
that there is true growth and ascension in the means of drawing
near to Allah subhanaw taala May Allah Allah give us Tofik and
bless us and all of our different affairs and to adorn ourselves
with the virtues of Satan and Muhammad Sallallahu sent him in
law to strengthen our faith in this deen and buses with firm
footing and may we never waver and when we live and die upon this
truth and every day that we strengthen a man, in the very best
day of all be the day that we take our last breath and meet our
Lord's Supper.
no autonomy a lotta prepares for that moment. And May these
gatherings be provision for those moments may be these gatherings be
connected to the gatherings of our teachers in sha Allah to Allah and
what descends upon their gatherings we ask Allah to honor
for a great portion of all of that good to descend upon these
gatherings and to benefit not only us, but those are around us those
that are in this regions those that live in these lands in which
we live. And may the light of Islam shine and spread amongst our
people will sell a lot as you know, Muhammad and why don't you
save you send them well? hamdulillah here