Yahya Ibrahim – Live Islamic Q and A

			With some Allahu Allah He rather early he was happy he was sending to Sleeman kathira Allahumma
salli wa sallim wa barik ala c et now what have you been known to be? You know Mohammed Impaler,
William Saliba. Selim was very sad now, Habibi. Now whenever you know Mohammed Enigma Illa Allah
have come about him. It's a pleasure hamdulillah to rejoin once again with Islamic q&a. I pray that
Allah Subhana Allah continues to favour us with His love and His mercy to make us from those who
follow the best of examples, the example of our interview, Mohammed sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he
was sending to Sleeman kathira, we have a caller on the line said I'm Anakin caller, how can I help?
		

			It's my good brother.
		

			Again,
		

			brother I like to do on your show. And
		

			you know, it's very simple and very easy to handle
		

			questions about something related to your topic, which is about how we keep our identity,
		

			how we show our, our identity
		

			as a father, as
		

			a father, as a man with people, you know,
		

			this is the first question probably
		

			related to the topic right now. And then second, about the email over the messaging
		

			community
		

			has to go through
		

			some
		

			skills or something that
		

			you have to pass a test to become an Imam, or anybody.
		

			I think this is a problem because some some imams are not qualified to
		

			teach somebody is
		

			somebody else is better than them to be any man in the masjid. And he's
		

			better than him. That's this question and a lot of questions
		

			about, you know, like, when you want to
		

			do model or any lecture, is it hard on the email when he said, when he spots for that lecture about
the topic that then he knows that there is another topic, supposed to be in that time to solve a
problem, or, you know, for the community? So I wanted to lead on this.
		

			They gave you the opportunity
		

			for you guys
		

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			all the people that from the person that to answer the phone, the first person, or the last person?
		

			Just wanted to bring it in? or answer what they
		

			thank you for your question. So I'll rephrase them just in case they may have been missed by some of
our audience. The first question you're asking, my dear brother is how do we maintain our Islamic
identity as Muslims, especially if we're living in most in non Muslim pluralist societies that may
not have an Islamic viewpoint on some of the issues that are important to us, and how, as parents,
we can maintain this with our children and encourage them towards it? Well, it's three different
levels. So the first level, of course, is in the home. The second level is in the community events
that we have. And the third is in building institutions, things that represent us as Muslims having
		

			people who are trained in being able to advocate and lobby for, for things that are important to us
as Muslims and also as human beings. So when when it comes to the home level, it becomes very
important to be a person who is a part of the family, not just with the family, and a lot of parents
of hamdullah. myself, I'm sure included in some points in my life, where I felt that I'm always with
the family, but actually I was with the family, meaning next to the family, but not involved with
the family. And these are things of course, that become very detrimental for our children. Because
if our children are not speaking to us as they get older, they're speaking and confiding in somebody
		

			else. So the best and most important thing is to have open direct channels of communication, have an
absolute level and level of love that is interchange between us and our children. And that we
understand that some of our children may not always achieve what we had in mind for them. Some of
them may go beyond it and some may fall short and some may have other ideas of what it is that they
want to do with their lives. All of it. We seek to support them through the model of love and
through the model of obedience to the weight of a lot and as soon as
		

			Prophets I send them, we have a saying in, in Arabic that you know that the peacock, it teaches its
younger peacock its children how to striped and how to display its feathers. So if we put on solar
in our home, if we are seeing reading the horror, and if we are seeing, being careful with our
fidget, if we are seeing being generous, and this isn't just in certain periods of time, but it is a
lifestyle, then it's something that our children can become hooked on to. And attached to. The
second one is with regards to community centers, masajid, our moms, and that's part of your second
and third question. So I'll leave it to the two there where I discuss it in sha Allah. And the third
		

			is as a community coming together and building institutions, we need to build our own schools, we
need to have our own, not just restaurants and hello butchers. But we need to begin thinking about
strategic roles that our community can play in influencing the broader community that is around us
in a positive way that we are positive contributors to the upkeep of America, I know you said New
York or myself here in Australia, we need to be part of the Volunteer Fire Brigade, we need to be
part of all of the different things that make us the love to our greater community, and build
institutions that are favoring other people within our tradition and faith and outside it. You know,
		

			it's important for us to take a strategic advantage in that sense, with the second question with
regards to moms and their training. Obviously, there are different levels of emotions. And I think
one of the problems, of course, is in communities. We use the word Eman as to mean more than one
thing when at times, it's not really fair on the person who's being asked to be in demand. In some
cases, the person is asked to leave the salon to fulfill the rituals to read Salatu tarawih. But
then all of a sudden, we're asking them to sit in between husband and wife issues and to become
qualified counselors and to handle youth matters and to provide us support services and to be you
		

			know, positive Arabic language teachers and, and all of a sudden, the role of the Imam actually now
has had things added to it that maybe the person who is recruited and who started fulfilling the job
of Imam did not see that this would be asked of them. And therefore it shows that there are certain
things that are lacking, then there's the opposite is also true. You will have somebody who may be
educated in business studies, or knows a little bit about public relations and public speaking and
so on. And they get an Islamic flavor and vibe, and they put themselves in the place of any man
while they lack the training. So when it comes to speaking about the word of Allah, they do it
		

			without an educated perspective. And that's probably more dangerous than the first. It's important,
of course, that we treat our masajid as places of serenity, of dignity, where we seek the best
person for the role. There's a Hadith of the Prophet Mohammed Salah iclm, where people asked who
should lead them in prayer? And he said, Follow him, the one who is most versed, not the one who's
memorized the most, but the one who understands the poor and the best. And then they said, Well, how
do we know that he said, the one you know, I follow Him will assume that the one who's more guarding
of my practice who's seen me and lived with me for longer periods of time, or is more familiar with
		

			my modality of life, are all of those are and then the one who's married and on and on. And so the
Prophet gives a list of things that shows it's not just a simple decision, and no one should be at
the center let him and no one should put their chest forward and say, I'll do it. Other people
didn't, I'm going to be the one I want it. It's my place. It really isn't the way it should be. And
we pray that Allah Subhana Allah gives ease and healing and comfort to all communities. And may
Allah subhanho wa Taala grant success we have another caller on the line Santa Monica. Caller
		

			Why do you call Sam How can I help?
		

			Yes,
		

			it is written it is beneficial to me We'll do before we recite the whole and for a bad day and
before we sleep, but it is not it is not a requirement that makes your reading invalid. So your
reading is valid, and it's accepted and you will be protected. But to complete the favor to do it.
The
		

			best you can, I would recommend you make your will and then also recite your poem. And
		

			did you have another question sister? Yeah, another question. Can you make?
		

			Yes.
		

			Isha the daughter the wife of the prophets, I send them the daughter of a robot Casa de La
		

			Habra rain, she said can interview so I send them via the Quran, Allah, Allah the profit of make
mention of a lot equally However, in all of the conditions of his day and night meaning when he was
in will do and when he wasn't. So it is better to be in will do but it is not a requirement. And
yes, you can make your victory in that state. I will also say to you, sister, if a person does make
will do at a time, for example, that they're not in their prayer cycles, some of our sisters with
the menstruation and height, they're not able to pray at some of that would have said in honoring
the time of Salah they should make or two and they should sit in the place that they make prayer and
		

			make the mention of Allah Subhana Allah when Allah Allah, Allah Allahu Akbar.
		

			Was there another question that you had?
		

			Yes, sir. You can ask one more question.
		

			Yes, sister, did you have one more question?
		

			Yes, sister,
		

			Santa Monica.
		

			Okay, we have another caller with us and I want a cold caller How can I help?
		

			It's good to hear from you, my brother, how can I help?
		

			relevant questions, we live in a community interacting
		

			with the
		

			everybody
		

			relates to
		

			our what we tell our children about a lot
		

			of things a lot.
		

			Not simply saying, Oh, we are not allowed. even adults do not know the hate mob behind it. And I'll
be grateful if you can shed some light on it. So that we can also kindly
		

			when we are exchanging notes, we can tell them and ourselves.
		

			Yes,
		

			very important question, observation.
		

			In the local community,
		

			the youngsters
		

			have very eminent attitude.
		

			I'm talking about the agenda
		

			of behaving like boys, and boys, really old feminine attitude, and some unfortunately, slipping
through that road weathers
		

			the way we have this important about
		

			sexuality, etc. And we just know, one side, we how do we approach and conduct conduct ourselves with
them out of the
		

			community?
		

			How do the general
		

			approach with them?
		

			practical, sensible, educated with just a call off head? So with regard to the first question with
regards to the eating of swine or the flesh of the pig are poor, and the byproducts that come of it
as Muslims, Allah subhana wa tada has provided us this guidance in the Koran. And it was provided to
the nations that came before us from the Israelites, Benny Assad, Ealing, you know that our cousins
in faith in that sense,
		

			the Jews that they maintain very strict kosher laws as it relates to pork and byproducts that relate
from the flesh of swine with regards to the reason for it. Two things become really important in our
perspective as Muslims. So the first one is we should not educate our children to only accept what
they can understand and rationalize. And one of the things that a law has shown to us in the plan is
that not everything in the end was meant to be understood with transparency and clarity. In fact,
the very first letters of the second chapter of the Quran and if LAN meme, or Kath ha yeah, I
		

			saw the beginning of sort of medium, and many others sort of they begin with these disjointed
letters. Nobody alive today can tell you definitively This is what each of those letters symbolizes
or means. And the blessing of that is that you and I come to agree that there are and will always be
things in the plan that we we know we recite, but may not understand with their complete meaning.
Because the completion of knowledge is only with Allah, and what he has left behind with us through
the teaching of the Prophet Mohammed cisilion.
		

			It must be enough for us to be able to establish right and wrong from an objective morality based on
the statements of Allah God Almighty, and what we see as being alternatives provided that make us
I'm needing of what has been prohibited. And therefore Adam on SLM, what made him superior to a
police to the devil, although both made a mistake, is that Adam not rebel against God by asking why
not? Even though he committed the sin of eating of the tree, while it believes he did not obey God
by making up subjugation and prostration to Adam. And when God asked Allah Almighty, I said, Why did
you not make this sudo Carla And Pharaoh min, you Why didn't you order me to be mad? at me, it's
		

			your fault for allowing me the choice. And therefore as human beings, Adam immediately recognize he
sinned. And he says, It's not about well, what's the difference between this dream trip, he doesn't
see further other than to fulfill semirara. Now what I'll find that we hear the command of a law,
and we obey, that becomes a very important instructional point for our children. As for some of the
things that some of the scholars have said about for, there are certain certain things that are
related
		

			to organisms that occur, and that live within the flesh of swine that don't exist in other other
flesh. But also, more importantly, that the flesh of the pig is very close. And similar to some of
the genetic makeup that we have, in fact, the first heart operations where they would change a valve
in a human heart, they would take a valve from a stent from a pig's heart, because the pig
genetically was very similar to the human being very similar in size of the shape of the heart, and
so on. And with a concoction of drugs, you're the the body of a human being did not reject it as it
would with other beings, other animals and things like that. So perhaps there is a hikma in the
		

			sense that there is a very close genetic attachment between us as human beings and when is found
with the flesh of swine or lower down. And as with your second question about effeminacy. And, and
		

			the way some people have looked at themselves, or appreciated their gender, and issues that relate
to that those are really complex issues that I don't believe would be done justice by entering in
this two minute address, there are wonderful resources that can be found through your local masakan
and local community centers. And there is something that I believe can be contributed in this space
by Muslims who are learned in psychotherapy, in psychology, in medicine, as well as those who are
trained in the Islamic sciences that can bring healing to the home's healing to the heart. But to
just address one particular aspect is how do we deal with somebody who is presented in a way that
		

			we're not happy with, irrespective of what it is that we're not happy with? Well, I want you to know
that you and I must become a security blanket of love around them, we must be people that kind of
		

			embrace that, that which is good with them, and be able to assist them in that which is challenging
that. And it becomes very difficult when there is odds between us and them in a way that is material
and capital, where we are no longer heard by them, because they do not have respect for the approach
that we have. Now, I understand that this is a very difficult and sensitive perspective. And I pray
that whoever is dealing with this, these kinds of issues that Allah sends light to to the heart and
gives hope, into the homes in sha Allah. We have another caller on the line and said, I'm on a call
		

			Yes, my brother, how can I help?
		

			Yeah.
		

			Sorry, I couldn't hear you. Can you repeat the question?
		

			Why do you call Mr. Lamb? Can you repeat the question please? Yeah, my sister
		

			asked me a question.
		

			really
		

			know
		

			anything on anything what we can do because we
		

			thought we can do. Yeah. Just Just come up here for your for your question my brother, I can't speak
specifically about your case because I'm not aware of your local community but i what i what advice
I would give you and those who are in my local community as well, is that I would say, when you have
a respect for the Imam of your community and for the institution that you've been praying with for
many years, that you contribute to contribute to the law to and you contribute your Sunday on
toward, when you have a sense of belonging and a place that you have invested your time and energy
in and it's a place of trust in terms of the scholars that lead it, then I would say to you is
		

			follow their guidance and fast and break your fast with them, pray with them aid and break your aid
with them. Don't make it about the choice You mean that if you leave it between you and then and
Allah then your reward is always with Allah your reward is not with the action only your reward is
with your near and new and I our ninja was in the year of fasting the day of alpha of praying in the
day very of honoring the loss of panda once I left my recommendation with you is to stick with the
Gemma that you have built a trust with us trust you their scholarship and that you feel will have
been leading you correctly for these many years. Now if for example you find that there is an
		

			understanding that is correct and that you believe in it, then hold on to that as being the truth
insha Allah May Allah subhanho wa Taala make it a point of ease and remove the hardships and make
our family units together in sha Allah, that we are seeking the path of Allah and we are rewarded
for it the evening to Allah. We have just a last we have just the last minute together and I thought
I would end with one of the beautiful graphs of the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam oma selama his wife or their loved one and however by her,
she would say that when the Prophet was at home with being meaning this isn't his privacy, he would
		

			read regularly make this dry. I would hear him saying this often. He would say yummo sort of Apolo
boring rewire Yeah, more comfortable blue Sabbath kunbi Allah Dini, Oh Allah you were the one who is
the Turner of hearts, turn my heart and establish it firmly upon your upon this fate. To have love
the prophets. I said, continue to amaze you and pray to Allah Subhana Allah to Allah, that faith
would be maintained at his heart and the heart of the matter. May Allah put a man in our heart, keep
you firm and keep you healthy and safe. Also, Leila was selling was it robotic Allison Mohammed,
your brother your hair Brahim was Salam alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
		

			just come on Lafayette Santa Monica.