Wasim Kempson – Islami QA 15 Part 2 (01082022)
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The speakers discuss the importance of showing weakness towards neighbors and avoiding harm in Islam. They stress the need for actions and behavior in non Islam and advise seeking professional guidance before experiencing legal issues. The importance of protecting individuals' privacy and rewarding experiences is emphasized. The speakers stress the need for patience and acceptance of one's experiences and suggest educating people before becoming the ones who can benefit from their memory.
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Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim Al hamdu lillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah. Well bad as Salaam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh Welcome back My dear brothers and sisters to the second part of Islamic.
Just before the break, we were going through a number of questions that I'm dealing with a couple of cores and quite a few WhatsApp questions. And we also have at the moment another call on the line which we'll take straight away inshallah Taylor. So salaam alaikum.
Salam Alaikum.
Yes. Yes.
Two questions. One is, in relation to I've heard from the scholars that
your Christian neighbors on the day of the judgement, they will ask you, when you knew about the word induced, bother to use simple language to inform us or tell us at least now we are at the bottom of scale of performance and obedience to Allah in the sense that, despite knowing it, we think we are struggling. And we does one has to wait to have a lot of knowledge to discuss it. And how do you go about that? Give them a decent leaflet, or etc, etc.
So what can we do to resolve this?
situation where paused my heart wants to get them involved with this the realistic position? Okay. Second, second one is that I heard on the
on the Islamic last week.
A lady was rightly complaining that
her brother who's married
for whatever reason, and then she got into the car with him. He completely ignored her. And after a few weeks, you know, when the wife found out the first one, he had to leave. So end of the day, the bottom line is the bottom line is that
of course in this country, you have a strict law. One has to follow it that you but where does the where does the crowd stands? In a situation where you don't have a good first marriage? And if you do it in good faith AI your life to tell the person might be if not, you know, all this complication? How do you resolve this? Or if it's not going to be resolved with the first one, what do you do you hang in the middle because of the kids?
etc. So, where do you stand? Are you obliged to inform or not? And or not?
Not consider this at home. Okay, there's my two questions. Thank you. Okay, sure. Medical I forget the two very good questions actually Masha Allah, may Allah bless you, brother. Okay.
So concerning
neighbors, and these, this the stance or the situation
of neighbors in Al Islam,
that the Prophet alayhi salatu salam mentioned and gave great emphasis, along with the many eight that I mentioned in talking about the the neighbor, or the rights of the neighbor.
The Prophet Solo said that the angel Jibreel, or SLM
would advise me and told me to be good to the neighbor, until I thought that the neighbor would inherit from me. So this goes to show the great status or the high status of the neighbor, in Al Islam. Now, as neighbor as Muslims, we have different types of neighbors, we have the Muslim neighbor, we have the family, neighbor, and also maybe the non Muslim, who's a neighbor as well. All of them have rights. All of them have rights.
All of them, the three types of neighbor, family, Muslim, and then a Muslim, and then a non Muslim, they all agree on the level that you have a concern towards them, that you show goodness and righteousness towards them, that you do not cause them any harm. Okay, maybe some Muslims have the interpretation understanding that me not causing anybody any harm or not bothering them, not speaking to them, okay.
That's going too far. Not causing somebody harm means not having, you know, making loud noises that wakes to people or banging and crashing and anything that may cause an encroach on the rights of your neighbor all of that is prohibited
Okay, like times you find sometimes in certain places where music is being bled out, and the whole neighborhood is hearing, this is very selfish
in terms of laws, whether it's, you know, breaking environmental kind of sound laws, this is an issue, but in itself, you know, you're causing other, you're causing harm to your neighbor, as most of them are not permitted to do such things, put aside the music issue, but they will have any now loud noises and things like that. Okay. So does it mean I need to be knocking at their door with the translation of the Quran saying, I'm a Muslim? I want you to become a Muslim? No, not necessarily No. But maybe at the times of Eid, okay, or times of you can give them give them food and show them goodness and show them righteousness, okay? These are these are, you know, subtle forms of Dawa.
Okay. And that may know is all within your intention of showing them the beautiful side of Islam. And actions are the one of the most important things that we should show in non Muslims.
Our behavior is a reflection of, of what we believe. So therefore, the Muslims should not
put this on a very, very low on the scale of importance. You know, being good to our neighbors, doesn't mean being quiet and ignoring them. But rather, you know, give it out to them in very subtle ways. No.
The next issue, which are the question I wasn't privy to, I don't I don't know what the question.
If they answered it in the way that he saw fit. I'm not to comment on that. It's not fair for me to comment on that.
I can answer and in general,
that this law that we follow here in the United Kingdom that it is, in terms of legal marriage, illegal imagine the civil marriage that one undertakes, you can only take one wife,
and no one's allowed to break that law. Because, you know, you you fall into, you know, into bigamy, which is, you know, against the law.
What I would say is that finding solutions for such issues is that there are solutions in sha Allah Tala, I think are ways of doing in resolving situations, which absolutely, you fall within the law itself, and you don't break the law. Okay. And I would advise a person who's in such a situation is to get advice, okay, get advice from an Imam, or share somebody who's respected who will give you some wise advice in dealing with such a sensitive matter, okay.
It's a sensitive matter, because there is a bit of a opposing approach, if you like, between an Islamic issue and a non Islamic issue and is there a resolution? Is there a middle path? Yes, there is a middle path, there is a solution for that. And I would advise you to go to a person of knowledge to get advice before you do these things. Okay. And then you can find a solution inshallah. Tada, okay. It doesn't involve, you know, diluting and dissolving pots of Islam. And it doesn't involve you encroaching on the rights of people or disrespecting people, there is a solution inshallah. Tada, okay. But it's important that before you do things that you seek advice, okay,
don't just go ahead and do things, you cause problems. And you've got, you know, people calling onto the show, possibly, who are very, very upset. And, you know, we have very few minutes in trying to deal with the situation, we don't know 98% 99% of what's happened to how it's happened. The person has possibly put on the spot here. How do they answer such a question? Very sensitive question. Therefore, I would advise you to go and speak to somebody, okay. In a private setting, an imam of the masjid or respected chef on elder to say, What's the best way about going to salt river resolving this situation? And then inshallah Tada.
You know, we will protect the rights of our sisters and protect the rights of our brothers. And Allah subhanaw taala and his best.
Okay, we have some WhatsApp questions here inshallah Tada.
If a person suffers from sleep paralysis, does it mean they're being possessed? Or is it just an attack? Well, it could be a third one is that you may have a physical issue, okay, it doesn't mean that you're being possessed or it's just an attack from a devil. It may not be those at all, and the vast majority of situations may not be that at all. Okay? If a person does suffer from sleep paralysis, the first thing I would do
is a couple of things. Number one is seek
professional guidance from medical practitioner, okay, maybe you have an issue.
So get that resolved and looked at in Charlottesville. Or maybe go to speak to somebody who is can give you good advice on this and maybe you know, before you sleep, there are certain things that we can do to protect us from things that because we don't deny that as well. It could happen on our lives. We didn't we ask a lot, a lot to protect us. You know, say a telco see before you sleep. This will serve as a protection for you. But isn't it later I'll recite the two verses the last two verses from sort of Takara
your sleeping estate
We'll do okay these kinds of things but isn't it later either asking for allegedly wireless protection will go a long, long way in protecting you from such things if that is the case, okay? But we don't take away the medical side. It can happen. We asked Allah subhanaw taala was salam ala Afia we asked Allah Subhan for protection and forgiveness on this matter Allahumma Hamid
okay.
So I'm gonna go on to ask is it okay for someone to be overwhelmed to have anxiety and to be sad when going through a tough time? And how can one deal with this situation? Please make dua for me and my family as well just like a little while back. Okay, so, is it okay for somebody to feel overwhelmed
and to feel a high level of anxiety? It's not a matter of easy, okay. Okay. It is just a natural phenomena, it happens brother and sisters. Okay. Not everybody is created the same with the emotions with their faith with many, many things with the strength of the calamity, how big that loss or that trial that you're going through, not everybody is the same. Okay? One trial for one person, maybe easier for another person to get through. So there's many factors to take into consideration.
But as a Muslim, it's very important for us to have certain principles and understandings that are set in stone. So that we can get through these situations inshallah to Allah. Number one is Allah subhanaw. Taala says lay you can live for long enough and in levels.
Allah subhanaw taala will never ever overburden any soul, any human being beyond their capability. Okay, so whatever trial comes your way, Allah subhanaw taala has not doomed you to be overwhelmed and fail or to fail. Allah subhanaw taala is testing you with something and we know that Allah will test us because this is an existence where we will be tested. Okay? Allah subhanaw taala tells us that he will test us in many, many different ways. The greater the test, the greater the reward, but isn't it later either if we interact or behave with that calamity in the correct way? Okay, not to question Allah, why did you? Why are you testing me with this? We accept best we can, that Allah
subhanaw taala is testing us with this, and that there is a great reward in me being patient and calling upon Allah subhanaw taala as the one he subhanaw taala the one who is testing you, is the one who can alleviate the situation, even though at a certain time. It may be you think there is no way out of here. There's absolutely no way there is always another way that Allah subhanaw taala can open away for you. If we have a consciousness of Allah subhanaw taala when he says, well my color, yah hoo Maharaja that Whoever fears Allah, Allah subhanaw taala will open away for them. Whereas that way, what is that way? Allah subhanaw taala knows, but in term in times of a calamity.
This is a reminder for us to go back to Allah subhanaw taala to ask him to help us to give us that inner strength, okay, to get over that situation. So when a Muslim is going through such a situation, there are a number of things that they can do they remember ALLAH subhanaw taala that he is the one who is ultimately going to help you. And there are many means as well that you can access may be accessing certain situations where you know, person has was in a state of depression. This is something don't deny that why because you deny that person's reality. And you may deny that person's possibility of some treatment, okay? Which isn't it later Allah can be a course of, of helping them.
So seeking whatever permissible means around you to get over that situation, okay. But first and foremost, as a Muslim, we ask Allah to help us and to use whatever means that is at our, in our hands to access, then you do that inshallah. Tada, okay, don't dismiss these things and say, Ah, it's a weakness of mine. If you do these things know, Allah subhanaw taala made these a source of, of means and ways to help the situation if Allah Allah Allah made that means and Hamdulillah you access that we ask Allah subhanaw taala to, to make it easy for you to allow you to overcome whatever difficulty mean, and this goes for any Muslim, whoever is going through such a difficult
situation. I ask Allah subhanaw taala to give you patience, and to give you the best of reward for your patience, I mean
is it a requirement for a born Muslim to say the shahada when he has grown up? No, no.
Absolutely, no. If you're born into a Muslim family, okay, and you're you're Muslim, you are considered as a Muslim with your family. Okay, so there is no
no absolutely no need when the person you know reaches the age of puberty is right now your adult you need to say the shahada
does absolutely zero basis for this no basis for this. The children 100 They're grown up as Muslims, there's no need for them, to say the shahada to become a Muslim. They are Muslim by default and hamdulillah
Now,
some people do gather in 40 days after someone has died, is there any significance of this? Does anything happen to the soul of the 40 days?
Okay.
This is very common practice in certain communities, where after a certain amount of time after a person has passed away, they gather, they will recite Quran, they will have food and things like this.
Now, the Prophet alayhi salatu salam suffered more loss than any one of us will ever face and can ever imagine.
That he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was an orphan, never met his father
that his mother died when he was six years old. His grandfather died when he was eight years old, and then was under the custodianship of his uncle, the Prophet alayhi salatu salam, then he had seven children. He buried how many of his children during his life sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and only one outlived him. Fatima Radi Allahu Allah. So the Prophet SAW Selim experienced the loss of his mother, and his father, and his close relatives, I will toilet as well of course died upon other than Islam, subhanAllah and his own children, and his own beloved companions. So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam experienced death, and the loss of family members like no other Subhanallah the
prophets, Eliza lemma showed us told us educated us that what is best that we can do for our beloved ones, okay. And nobody is denying the love and the attachment that we have for our loved ones. Whether they are mothers, our fathers, our brothers, our sisters, our children, our close friends, there is no denying that we have a love and attachment for them. But this love and this attachment should be then you want to use it in a profitable way. You want to use it in a good way. Meaning that
that attachment I have for that person, I want to do something for them.
When they are with us, maybe you hire you help them financially you support them, you give them advice, there's many things that you can do for them when they're alive. When they pass away, does it end? No, it doesn't end Alhamdulillah Allah subhanaw taala gave us the prophet has taught us many ways that we can help the deceased.
So for example, and one of the very best ways is to make dua for them. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam told us that when you make you can make dua for the deceased when we pray, Janessa we pray the funeral prayer. All of us are in the prayer and at the end of the Janaza prayer, Aloha Moffitt Allahu wa Hello everyone who Aloha Monica are criminals honorable or semi, the Hola. There's so many supplications you make for them.
And when you're in your sujood, for example, you ask Allah subhanaw taala to forgive them to bless them, to give them the name, to give them the reward of the cover of the grave to protect them from the punishment of the grave. This is always ongoing. And imagine many people doing that for the deceased Allahu Akbar. So the deceased but even later Allah will benefit from all the hours that you are making from them. Similarly
that you can perform Hajj Andromeda on their behalf, you can set up a Sadako to injuria you can set up you know, a continuous charity, whether it's building maybe a masjid in their name, or having some beneficial material, some bronze printed in their name and distributed Okay, so all those people reciting the Quran, the person mashallah will get the reward for the Quran as they were printed in their name, okay, or maybe to have a well
as dog for people to benefit from water, and so on. So there's so many things that we can do for the deceased and Hamdulillah. But it's very important for us not to invent things, not to make up things because this is not from the deen of Islam. Did the professors teach us to do these things? No. Did the companions did they understand to do such things, then those things which we have no basis for, we should avoid? Because the religion of Islam is perfect and hamdulillah there's no need for us to add things to it. Okay. So that what the Prophet SAW Selim taught us is the very best thing that you can ever achieve for the deceased. And these are the things that we should stick to. And going
beyond that, then forms are full of falls into the realms of things which may be within the prohibited haram. It's not allowed for us to invent things, okay. So certain days and, and things like that. This is not from the deen of Islam, therefore, we should stay away from that and do things which will really inshallah Tada benefit the deceased and those who have passed on, and the best way of moving forward is to educate one another. Okay. On the day, I turn up at this particular gathering, and I tell everybody, this is wrong. This is this is not the time to do it. Okay. The time to do that is to educate, educate people before that, so that inshallah we can benefit the
deceased in the very best way. And we ask Allah subhanaw taala to guide us to that what is correct Allahumma Amin
Okay,
My children did not get hidayah yet in their late 30s What else can I do? So that my children get he Dyer, kindly advice, I was not really practicing religion but now I fast 15 days every month Melis panda and accept all of your fasting mean, with regards to hidayah Subhanallah Yes, it is in the hands of Allah subhanaw taala We ask Allah Allah to guide us all.
But it's never, you know, a lost situation. It's never a situation where it's, you know, unrecoverable.
If you yourself, you don't find, you know,
I have enough knowledge to help them then access people of knowledge or spaces of knowledge. You know, there are many martial law
situations where I can access people of knowledge to help, you know, the doubts that maybe people have my own family members. But you know, now that you're practicing Alhamdulillah, try your very best to, to guide them to do what is best making the art or logical Rather, He guides you. I mean, it's a long answer, but our time is very short. And I hope that suffices with no data. And the last one we're going to answer now Shannon Taylor, because of the time is kind of gives her care to my family member.
If that family member is not somebody whom you're financially responsible for, okay?
Like maybe a distant member or something like that, then yes, you can give them soccer. Okay.
That's a very short answer, general answer, maybe some more specifics. But if it's somebody whom you're not responsible for financially, then yes, you can give them the soccer. If they are.
They come under the eight categories. If they're, you know, poor or destitute or maybe have some debts, then you can give that them to them. And in fact, some of the elements say that maybe they are the closest people for you to give because of their situation. That's the end of the show. For today, brothers and sisters, I hope to see you in the next year, just last month or bless you all. Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh Yeah, you have
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