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The speakers discuss the importance of finding answers to one's questions and bringing them back in order to deliver the message. They stress the need for clarity in feeling and the potential impact of entertainment on personal behavior. A chef hosting a live event discusses issues related to their work, including the importance of avoiding sexual behavior and staying healthy. The speakers also discuss the importance of praying and finding a way to avoid divorce, as well as finding a compromise on a relationship and finding a way to avoid divorce. They emphasize the importance of finding a way to pursue knowledge and learning rather than just trying to get a job.

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			having a view that
		
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			of course, because filter is constantly changing. But that necessarily means that always you'll find
the answers will always be different on fundamental issues. And that is not the case at all the
fundamental issues in our dean will always remain remain consistent, and they will always remain
correct. So
		
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			This is the first thing and the second thing I wanted to mention as well.
		
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			Is that the dilemma, or Bernie, you know, those two are, who are firmly grounded in knowledge
Subhanallah always you find that they draw the people towards the message itself,
		
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			not the messenger, because they themselves are messengers in the sense that they are, they are, they
are scholars, but it's not about them. It's not about them as individuals, but rather it is those
individuals, those are drawing people close to Allah subhanaw taala.
		
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			Through the message, and in this day and age, there seems to be
		
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			this seems to be lost, in that it is not necessarily the message that people are attached to, but
rather it is the person delivering, we would call it the messenger, I don't want to confuse people
saying, Am I calling people messengers? No, of course not. But it is the individual the personality,
let's say the personality that the people are attached to? Not necessarily understanding, or what is
the message in the first place? When this is it's not shouldn't be like that at all. It is the
message that raises the status of an individual, the individual, the personality does not make the
truth, the truth. If it was clear to you, right, I hope it's clear to the viewers so.
		
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			So I think this is something that we really need to
		
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			re instill into our Dawa. And that is that when we're teaching people that Alhamdulillah Allah
subhanaw taala blesses us from one year or one time to the next. There are always
		
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			individuals and speakers whom Allah subhanaw taala has given them Tofik no doubt as Allah Israel has
given them success from that what we can see, but it is of the utmost importance that the people
realize it is the message that you should love.
		
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			It is the message that you should follow. And in as much that I love that individual only because
that they are following the message. Okay, so this is something I just wanted to relay. And I'll
continue to speak about these things because I think it's very important. Because otherwise you may
find, you know, we're attaching ourselves to personalities, and when the palette of personalities
are no longer there. Then Muslims find themselves lost. Muslims find Mm hmm. Well, who should we
follow and, and who do I listen to? And what do I do now? And Abu Bakr Radi Allahu Allah and who, on
upon the death of the Prophet Muhammad Ali said to Salam said to everybody, whoever worships
		
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			Muhammad, Allah is deserved to know that Muhammad has passed away. And whoever worships Allah in
Allah, he only moved the last panel to address the Ever Living and never dies. So here Bobak
Rhodiola and who immediately reminded the people that rasool Allah Allah Salam is a hot bonus, Elena
is the most beloved person to us. But ultimately, it is the message that we are going to follow. And
we love the messenger Alice's Have and Have for many reasons, of course, but Allah subhanaw taala
chose him as an OB Rasul as the law final messenger, all of these reasons amongst others, but it is
the message that would remain amongst the people, which is what we need to attach ourselves to. So
		
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			whenever you find Fitton, whenever you find new programs are coming out, whenever you find whether
it's
		
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			Hollywood, Hollywood, Bollywood, whatever the case may be, okay, bringing new programs and Muslims
are raising their arms, how could they make such a program? There are far worse programs than that.
There are far worse programs than what these new programs are being brought out. And I'm sure you're
not talking about. And I guess if you know, you know, you don't believe you'll find out shortly.
Yeah, so Subhanallah, there are far worse programs than that, far worse, but yet Muslims are raising
their hands. And it means that there's confusion, it means they don't understand priorities and
their religion. And we ask Allah subhanaw taala to give us beneficial knowledge. And this is
		
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			just a reminder for everyone watching at home, or online. There. We're live right now. And we're
going to be hit up until 11 o'clock. So if you have any questions, take this chance to give us a
call or send your questions, our WhatsApp number, email address. Or if you're watching along online
on YouTube, or Facebook, then you're able to leave your questions at the comment section in Sharla.
The numbers call on if you'd like to give us a call is oh two or 35150769.
		
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			So we're gonna go to our next question, Chuck. So I'd like to open the topic solution because you
ended with, you know, programs and stuff. Generally, on this show, we deal with things which are
more based around desires, because genuinely This is the area where we're very prone to both sin and
through that losing our iman and maybe ultimately certain things to be so bad that they can affect
your faith associated around this programs and all of this and you've got the rise of some massive
corporations now which are around entertainment, and it brings it right into your home and makes it
so accessible. How does it
		
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			entertainment affects our lives.
		
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			Not in general, but maybe in general, but specifically, our minds and our connection with Allah and
our worship.
		
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			Because maybe even our identity shifts. So it's a very good question.
		
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			In that, what are the boundaries concerning entertainment
		
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			you know, you don't have to have, you don't have to subscribe to anything you're your own social
media feed can be entertainment for you and isn't, is entertainment for people on a daily basis. But
on a more serious kind of approach, what people are watching and this and that and the other
		
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			whether we're talking about things which are is a you know, * and swearing and all the topics
in it, which are completely against Islam.
		
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			You know, those those things are quite clear. For us, at least they should be clear. But
		
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			this whole
		
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			media drive or film, or,
		
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			you know, terms that used to binge binge watching a set of programs or something like this, they
push you towards this
		
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			you know, all of this, no doubt will impact your mind.
		
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			And within all of these programs and series, they will affect the way that you emotionally feel,
they will affect you the way that you think they will impact you very, very deeply. To stop you
there. We've just come to our break now. So do you mind if we continue the topic after the break?
Just like I think it's something we used to go into a bit more, so maybe we should continue to sort
of break Thank you, Chef. Thanks to everyone who's tuned in so far. We're gonna be back after a few
minutes after our short break to continue the show and continue taking your questions brothers and
sisters so do stay tuned for now As salam o alaikum.
		
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			bla Mati Kumar how to lie he will work out. So Well welcome back to today's Ask him in late night
with your brothers and sisters to take your questions and get them answered for you. Just a reminder
that the ask him a late night show on Saturday is here to deal with questions which are more of an
adult nature.
		
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			Things we may deal with more later in our adult life in marriage, things that might be a struggle
for us, for example, drugs or alcohol or, or haram relationships.
		
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			Things along these lines. So if you have any troubles with these areas, brothers and sisters, then
the show's here to give you a chance to call anonymously if you'd like to ask questions and benefit
yourself to solve your problems, and also those that are watching as well and all of us. So if you
have any questions, give us a call or two or 35150769. You'll also be able to leave your questions
at the comment section in our YouTube and Facebook live streams. And you also have our WhatsApp
number where you can send your questions straight to our WhatsApp and we can put them forward to the
chef in sha Allah Salam Alikum chef, welcome back often bring to them. So they could look at you. So
		
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			we're gonna go to our next corner. And then come back to our question about entertainment chef, if
that's okay with you.
		
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			To the mountain, none and then also the Kool Aid. Oh, cool. Yeah. So Salam aleykum. To our cooler,
welcome to the show, what's your name? And where you calling from? I'm calling from London and I
don't want to turn my name over. No, just stay anonymous. That's completely fine. You can go ahead
with your questions really personal. So that's why it's regarding oral *. Basically, my husband
just found out that it's not haram to have oral *. And he wanted to know, but basically, after
that he's been, you know, wanting to have it more often. And he's saying that I'm very frustrated
and stuff. So thing is, I'm pregnant with my second baby, and I find it very disgusting. And I find
		
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			I feel that it's not right to have oral *. And he really demands for it. And but I feel bad. I
just wanted to know if it's wrong for me to tell him that I don't want to do it, or is it still,
		
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			you know, because, you know, you can't say no to your husband. If they want to have *.
		
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			You know, if I don't want to have oral * with him, is it wrong for me? Or will it be?
		
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			You know, you get the point, right? Yeah, yeah. Understood. Understood. Thank you, sir. Do you have
any other questions? Yes. Regarding this, thank you so much. If you'd like to stay on the line, if
your question is not maybe clear, you can ask a follow up question. But it's up to you. Yep.
		
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			Okay, so on this issue.
		
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			It's important for us to realize when talking about Islamic rulings, there is an Islamic ruling. And
that sets boundaries for us, which stops us falling into haram and allows us to do things which is
		
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			not disobeying Allah subhanaw taala and that is not haram. Okay. Now, that doesn't necessarily mean
that we always need to go to the very edge. Meaning that there are certain times when we have
especially we have relationships with with another person that we need to understand the other
person's feelings. Now from an Islamic point of view, there isn't any
		
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			x explicit text, which prohibits
		
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			either the spouses engaging in oral stimulation, there's nothing prohibiting that
		
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			Okay. So based upon this issue based upon this point because the origin is that everything is
permissible between the two spouses except that toto is very very clearly haram and an example of
that is having
		
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			sexual * through the back passage that's how about there are many narrations concerning
that
		
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			as for oral stimulation buy from the two spouses nothing saying that that is haram
		
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			bearing that in mind, these are the boundaries okay, it is not haram there are some of the LMFT
mentioned it that they they give some
		
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			evidences or some kind of heckum or wisdoms to say that it shouldn't be done. But this doesn't mean
that these whatever is used to say it is haram, because it doesn't you can't lead something to harm
unless you have a clear evidence for that.
		
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			So some of that might have led to saying it is disliked however, it is not haram and Allah azza wa
jal knows based on that, so, this is the ruling concerning okay. Now, the relationship between the
two spouses this is something that they will have to come to
		
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			an answer between themselves it is not for me here to to tell
		
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			the spouses what they should do you have to say yes, or you have to say no, this is something that
you have to work out between yourselves, okay.
		
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			You are aware of the Islamic ruling, okay, that it is not haram some of the elements that it is
disliked, and they have given some reasons behind that. However, the ruling is that it is
permissible what I would suggest is that
		
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			if you can,
		
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			you are unable to arrange or come to a conclusion or compromise amongst yourselves, then maybe you
can, you can speak with somebody or them is a bit difficult, you know, I understand it might be
quite sensitive to talk to somebody, you know, face to face with regarding these issues. And this is
why this platform has been opened
		
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			to allow people to call it and remain anonymous, no problem and answer, have their questions
answered best they can, okay. So if you feel that
		
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			there's, you're able to come to a compromise, maybe you can not necessarily go speak to a chef or
imam or person has knowledge on the suit, but maybe call them and you can speak about the issue,
maybe in more detail, maybe with your husband present, so that you can get some further advice on
the issue.
		
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			And may Allah Subhana Allah make it easy for us? I mean,
		
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			I mean, exactly like it's your sister, you sit on the line.
		
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			Okay, sisters gone. So thank you so much for your calling your questions for everyone else watching
at home, you can reach us on otoa 35150769 to ask your questions. Inshallah. Sasha, back to the
question that we had about entertainment, we were speaking about the about you were giving us an
answer about the boundaries of kind of all this entertainment we consume. Yeah. Yeah. So, what I was
saying, the impact that it has on us, just as the food and drink has an impact on our physical body,
and we are careful as to what we eat and what we drink, try to remain healthy, try to stay away from
not indulging in too much, you know, sweet food or food, which you know, is known to be
		
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			taken in large quantities or amounts is something too will harm our bodies, we try to do what is
best for our bodies. Similarly, we should also know that what we are looking at, okay, and what we
are absorbing will impact us as well. And over a period of time, if you're looking to things which
are not good will numb you, you become numb to which is haram, if you're watching haram, you become
numb to it, and it won't bother you. And if it doesn't bother, you then may fall into it. And this
is the cycle. This is the journey that a person may go into okay. Now,
		
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			a person said Do you have statistics? Do you have research to prove that, that if you watch haram,
you're gonna fall into haram, okay. And there's common sense if you expose yourself to haram, okay?
Then ultimately, that will affect you in different ways, it might affect everybody in the same way.
But there is it is more likely that if people exposed him so selves to haram, a larger and larger
amount of people will fall into it. So we have to be very, very careful. And that what we
		
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			what we look at and what we listen to, because it will impact you, they will start to maybe control
the way that you think and the way, the way that your emotions are,
		
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			what you feel sad for or what you feel happy for. And this is this is extremely, very deep, that
what do you what makes you happy? And what makes you sad? What makes your emotions like this, you
may find that what you're watching will mold what you see and see as acceptable and happy. You know,
so certain people who are being oppressed, that you're happy for that. Or you seeing haram and that
makes you satisfied. This is could be very, very dangerous. So this is something that we really need
to
		
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			constantly look over and ensure that we don't expose ourselves to things which can potentially harm
us. Allah said Lakeisha thank you so much for your answer. We're going to go now to our next caller,
who is Brother Yusuf from Morocco as salaam alaikum. Brother Yousef, welcome to the show. How are
you today?
		
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			Well
		
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			Welcome to the show. How are you today?
		
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			Thank you.
		
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			Okay, what's your question for us?
		
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			I told you my question. My question is about faith. How to increase the some tips from and some
advices from she has to be in high spiritual state. And to get rid of
		
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			that, um
		
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			I think if Sarah Clark so we can hear you.
		
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			Okay, that's your question is about how to increase Eman.
		
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			Yeah, how to increase
		
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			because I was suffering from social anxiety. Okay.
		
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			And I am hamdulillah I'm praying every day and
		
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			I want from she has to give me some advices How to Get Rid of
		
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			get rid of this illness spiritual illness. Okay.
		
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			Okay, then just stay on the line. So then if she would like to ask you any questions, or you'd like
to elaborate on your question, then you can
		
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			Okay, so the brothers asked a very quick very important question is something which
		
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			we should all ask ourselves really Subhanallah the how can how can we raise our iman and our Eman is
something which is is constantly fluctuating whether it's going up and going down depending on our
behavior depending on how obedient we are and how close we are to Allah subhanaw taala maybe if
somebody is far away from Allah subhanaw taala that can also affect the level of your Eman. Now,
this is my answers basically from two sides. The first side is that if somebody feels that they have
a mental health issue, okay, that they need to seek professional help on that, then by all means, go
ahead and do that. You shouldn't feel embarrassed, you shouldn't feel ashamed that I can't go Why
		
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			should I go to a doctor? If I feel I've got a mental health issue? No problem, you're going to a
doctor to seek some professional advice on that, and in line with doing the many things which the
Prophet RSSL told us making sending lots of salutations upon the Prophet so I said, making a stick
for making dua to Allah Subhana Allah to make it easy for you all of these things in line with all
the obligations the obligations will go one long way trying to trying to help you situation may
Allah pattern and make it easy for you, brother, Allah Khomeini, Omi Lakeisha for your answer. That
brings us to the second break of the show now for everyone watching at home. We're going to take a
		
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			break for a few minutes as usual and then we're going to back going to be back to continue with our
show and welcome your calls. So do stay tuned now, for now as salaam alaikum wa Rahmatullah
		
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			Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh Welcome back everyone to today's Ask him in late night show.
		
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			Thank you so much to all of our callers so far that have joined the show and asked some great
questions. These are the questions that are going to educate all of us watching, and myself, and
Sharla. So we'd love to hear more of them. They are the reality of what we deal with as people as
families as communities. So please, you know, if you have any troubles or questions, then we do
welcome you to give us a call. This is why the shows here. The numbers are two or 35150769 to reach
us on the show, otherwise, you can send your written questions, we'll type that questions. It's our
WhatsApp number, email address. And both our Facebook Live and YouTube Live platforms. So chef
		
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			cinema alikhan Welcome back after the break.
		
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			We're going to continue share with our questions.
		
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			Our next question shift is from YouTube. The question is, if a person only prays when he has time,
for example, after work or school, missing for Salah does this make a person a
		
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			hypocrite?
		
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			So you can watch this on the you can watch the show on YouTube, right? Yes, yeah, I'm not sure. So I
think it's better to watch on YouTube. Really? Yeah, I think so. Because if you're on face book,
you're more likely to start scrolling, because that's the way as you scroll, and then you're not
going to watch the program. So I think if you watch it on YouTube, then you're more likely to stick
to it. Oh, yeah, I think so. Yeah. So what I would say is that
		
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			the Prophet Ira said Salam described
		
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			the monarchy to the hypocrites,
		
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			how they and even Allah Jalla wa Allah describes the hypocrites when they offer their Salah
		
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			that when they they stand for the prayer comical Salah that they stand in laziness, careless, they
don't really are not interested in offering their Salah
		
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			that they will offer their solo artists found in the sooner they will offer their Salawat if it is
necessary, at the very last time, okay, like they will offer their Salah to Lhasa just before the
sun sets Tilka so a lot of them what I feel, that is the prayer of the hypocrite because the Salah
is not very important to them.
		
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			Now for the Muslim for the believer, they realize that this is the link, this is the one thing that
every will five times a day that they will attach themselves and link themselves to Allah subhanaw
taala and it's not possible for them to cut the link with Elijah and because they realize the
importance of it. The thing is, first matter will be asked on Yom will Chioma is mentioned
extensively in the in the Quran, it is mentioned it is one of the pillars of Islam. It's that
important they understand its value.
		
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			So if somebody is offering it kind of on and off maybe due to laziness okay this is
		
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			surely you speak to somebody this can be remedied
		
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			if it's other than that, that you know the doing only because they have to in front of other people
this is maybe more severe because this is more like how the hypocrites would offer their prayers.
		
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			They don't offer their prayers around people, or when they felt it was necessary for them.
		
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			So there are many reasons why a person may be lacks with their prayer.
		
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			Who's to say why the person is like this is is our them on our fifth Allah knows best I mean, we ask
Allah Israel to save us from the fog was to protect us from from hypocrisy. But no doubt the
offering of the five daily prayers should be the
		
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			oxygen that your soul needs to survive every single day. And that you should feel that if you're not
offering your prayers on time, you should feel almost like a form of like suffocation that I'm
cutting my link with with my lord who, who gives me everything and sustains, sustains me from every
aspect in my life.
		
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			So I would, you know, maybe sit with somebody, if you think you need further advice, and it's good
that you've asked,
		
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			albeit maybe on behalf of another person, not necessarily need to go back to that person's car, you
might be falling into the bucket, that person needs help. Okay, if the person has their pregnant
situation, they need help. Just as a person has physical illness, they go to the doctor because they
they need some help and the last part doesn't kill them.
		
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			Similarly, if a person has an illness in their Deen, they need help, and they should find and as any
alleged for that there is a cure for that. Ultimately, this from Allah subhanaw taala. We ask Allah
azza wa jal to guide us all to allow us to be those who establish the obligation, the follow up to
the obligations in our lives. But be
		
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			be helped that person got, you know, advise them in the very best way. And if it's yourself maybe
further, seek advice from somebody who can help you be around good people who can give you good
advice for low item.
		
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			Just like lockwasher
		
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			we're gonna go to our cooler now. Brother Joe Ward from London As salam o alaikum. Welcome to the
show. How are you today? Finally commercialism? I'm good dessert. Masala? And what's your question
for us today?
		
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			shares? My question is, in regard to interest, have put myself in a situation where I'm paying
interest on a monthly basis for my car. And I'm trying to get out of this situation. But I can't
seem to sell the car to a point where I can at least pay off my settlement figure. So here's my
question is what can I do in this situation? And
		
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			where can I go from here basically?
		
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			May Allah subhanaw taala make it easy for you, brother. The fact you've called shows that you you
want to rectify the situation.
		
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			It's difficult for me to give you a probably a detailed and tailored answer to your situation,
because I don't know anything about your situation or your financial situation or what options you
have. Maybe it's best you can speak to somebody in person, so that the whole situation can be
explained. But no doubt that you need to try and rid yourself of this toxic debt as soon as
possible, which is the interest. May Allah forgive us all?
		
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			Yeah, I mean, this is really pretty much as much as I can see on the issue, maybe if you're able to
take a loan from
		
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			from somebody, of course interest free, you want to jump out of the fire out of panning into the
fire, don't do something like that.
		
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			If you can borrow some money, which is a higher loan to pay it off, and then that's one option. Or
if it's a possibility for I don't know, maybe you can find
		
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			more work, do extra work to find so you can pay off the debt. even quicker.
		
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			These are some, you know, some general options that you know, some people have mail off path and
make it easy for you make it easy for us all. I mean, I mean, thank you so much. Brother, he's still
on the line. Yes, sir.
		
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			Would you like to ask any other questions?
		
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			No, that's about it. But in regard to the interest, is it enough for me to make the intention to
come, you know, get rid of this, but knowingly that it's going to take me at least six months? Or
you know, maybe even a year?
		
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			Yeah, so throughout the time that you know, because if you if you realize you've done something
wrong, you know, make a stick for Ask Allah, Allah Allah to forgive you to overlook your mistake.
And you're you are now striving to do the right thing. And if that's the case, then Allah subhanaw
taala will make it easy for you. And Allah forgives all sins, but will remember the mistakes that we
made and we don't fall into them again shall Natalia and they asked allows you to allow you to get
through this situation as quick as possible and do exactly like her show. Thank you so much to our
brother Joe at for for your for his call Miller or do for everyone watching at home. You're also
		
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			able to give us a call to ask questions, any questions you may have on otoa 35150769.
		
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			So, Chef, we're going to continue back to one of our callers from earlier who sent a follow up
question. Did you say you know
		
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			Around the question, which was around intimacy a little bit young, did you say anything about being
able to say no? Yeah, it's just because there's a question. That's a follow up. Okay. Is me the
question is is me
		
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			telling him? No. For the action on me?
		
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			Or is it specific specifically for just or coughing?
		
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			So concerning oral *, oral stimulation between the two spouses, okay, I'll give the Islamic
ruling. Ie that is not haram. Okay. me giving you a ruling now to say you have the right to say he
has to you have to say yes. Okay. Or you have the right to say no, believe me is not a solution for
any of you. Because this will pause this may cause more discord between you. There is no solution
for you, or your husband, for me to say yes. Because it puts you in a very difficult situation. Use
strong words, this is disgusting. For me, it's not something I'm used to culturally or whatever, I
don't know anything like this. Whereas the husband is something is that it may be something
		
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			acceptable to him. Okay. So, my answer here is that, you know, whether it's yes or no is not a
solution for you.
		
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			What I would suggest is that if you're unable to come to a compromise on the issue, then you I would
suggest that you speak to somebody
		
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			over the phone, if it means you speak to them on the phone, and that you can be both spoken to, to
get further advice to come to some form of understanding okay? Because the relationship between the
husband and wife, okay, is something which you know, you constantly need to work out, okay. And if
something comes up, that you need to discuss maybe some compromise from one side or the other, okay,
then there may need to be some form of compromise, but okay, bearing in mind that you need to both
feel comfortable with the situation, especially in matters like this, nobody should be forced, okay
to do something that they are not happy with. And we asked Eliza to make it easy. Thank you, Chef.
		
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			Our next question is from Brother Abdullah in London. The question is, I'd like to know if a husband
were to pronounce the words for hola to his wife, ie, for up to key without her requesting for a
whole lot at the time of him pronouncing it to her is this valid? Date? Okay, so
		
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			in principle, we need to understand what is Hola. Okay, now, if you say Farakka Dookie, which is an
Arabic word, and what does that mean as I've separated from you? Okay, now this is really depends. I
mean, does it have the potential having more than one meaning?
		
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			Possibly, but more likely that if if the husband or the wife did not ask for hola then how are you
giving her hola in the first place? The hola is request from the from the wife to get out of the
marriage. Okay, she will maybe she will return some of the MaHA so if you say to her she didn't say
to you, you know I shouldn't request from you Hola. And you say to her for a rock to keep it this is
maybe divorce. In principle, I would suggest you go to a chef to discuss this further on the white
circle aka chef everyone watching at home. We're going to take our next break now for a few minutes.
So do stay tuned. We'll be back for our last segment in just a few minutes in sha Allah.
		
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			Allah
		
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			Allah
		
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			Salam more like much later on about our classroom.
		
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			Hola
		
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			Hola
		
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			salaam Aleykum to live to everyone watching at home Welcome back to today's Oski man late night show
we're going to be here now for our last segment for the next 10 minutes to 15 minutes inshallah so
if you have any questions, then do give us a call or send your questions our WhatsApp number, email
address and if you're watching along on Facebook or YouTube, then you can send your question you can
put your questions at the comment section inshallah.
		
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			So, Microsoft Welcome back after the break while you
		
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			have been drinking some fizzy water sugar is not helping.
		
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			Alright then so our first we're gonna go through our YouTube questions now channel servicemen less
than or equal to our brothers and sisters watching on YouTube. Thank you so much for sending your
questions. We're gonna get into your questions now and try and cover most of them in Sharla. So our
first question from Paul is is
		
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			remember me in your prayers, So may Allah bless God bless and make it easy for him and his family.
And I mean, I mean our next question is from Brother Hamza, he says As salam o Allah continue pray
Aisha immediately after from praying Maghrib
		
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			Asha immediately after maghrib Well, if you're a resident, then then no, you should pray you for
your action. It's time. Margaret has his time with the Nisha has it's time so once the sun has gone
down once the redness has disappeared from the sky, then you can press a lot in Asia and it's time a
time after that in shorter cycle, aka shift. Our next question is my second question which is from
Brother Hamza as well, may Allah bless him. I don't pray the hood and intended to pray it during us.
And unfortunately, I got to pray again. So am I asking? So what I'm asking is which time Can I pray
that prayer? Right so what I'd say to the Hamza May Allah subhanho SMS to to offer the Salawat in
		
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			their times. Okay, so forget has this time the harasser, Macaronesia all have their own specific
time, and really try your very best to offer this Lucilla at the Salawat
		
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			in their time, and not to pray them together. Okay, don't do that. If you're traveling, it's
different. You're permitted to join of the hotter with acid and Margarita with Asia. I do realize
that it's winter time now here in the UK in the northern hemisphere, and the slower times may be
quite close together. But nonetheless, you really make an effort
		
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			To ensure that you are praying your Salawat
		
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			in their time, and also the prayers are in order. You don't pray them out of order. You pray like
pray acid. Oh, now I'm going to pray the whole. Okay, if you forgot the let's say you prayed us out
and then you realized I didn't pray the heart, then you pray to her. And the acid is valid. Okay
wouldn't need you, you would need to repeat acid that's in a situation where you maybe you forgot.
Otherwise the Salawat they will be prayed in, in the order o'clock. Our next question is from
		
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			from Brother MJ and I Bersih he says hello shake was seen. That's all it is. While he comes, you
know, brother? I don't know. I don't know him. So he's our brother. Our next question is Mr. Adam,
he's asking Salam Alikum How are you both and have very well just like luck and how are you? I'm
very well handled. Yeah.
		
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			So I've been meaning to ask actually, it's been raining quite heavily. So I've been meaning to ask
you is that you know, I know there's a DA Yeah, generally, how should we How should we receive the
rain?
		
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			So the Prophet Addison taught us that Allah Messiah ye been nerfed which means Oh Allah allow this
rain to be a bit beneficial rain to us. Now Allahumma Sabir Natha
		
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			Our next question is
		
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			from Brother Junaid Ahmed he asks if a person only prays when he has time for example off to work or
school missing fourth salah? Does this make the person a hypocrite? I think we covered this already.
Like maybe we answered just move on again.
		
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			Reebok cracy is something that is known between new and old generally maybe hiding it but offer your
Salawat on that time. Yeah, isn't it? So our next question is from Forever 6221 You gotta love those
names.
		
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			I don't have the these names that people actually choose. You put your name in and it's like well,
somebody's already got that name and then they make up a name for you and then you just accept it
		
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			again forever forever 6221 It's really creative at at 162 at one maybe it is is a secret code oh
yeah yeah, that's mashallah very creative. So the question is yeah, I'm being told in my against a
question. If food is served but you fear if you eat you'll miss your Salah should you eat or go to
pray? For example, ASA is in 10 minutes but you need to pray door just like a locker
		
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			right okay so a situation like this where you haven't prayed afraid but yeah,
		
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			there's two situations we know that the sound the sound Hadith less salata beheld body to to that
there is no prayer if the food has been brought there. Now for presented now the right amount of
explained this in a number of different ways. If by you praying and not eating the food is not you
know you're not starving. You're not starving, you're not thinking if I'm in the prayer, and I'm
thinking about the food and things like that. If that's not the situation then offer your Salah
first, especially with the Time Lord, maybe he's going to you're going to miss the time you should
offer the salah first before the time goes out because that will be awkward. That would be more of
		
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			an obligation for you to offer the Salah in its time as opposed to you eating the food here. Allah
thank you our next question is from Hassan.
		
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			Brother Hassan says
		
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			lol pray then food isn't running away. Just a bit of banter. Yeah he answers straight away yeah
Masha Allah Allah the Hasson is funny masala. Okay, so our next question is from brother Adam.
Question is I want to study in Medina university. But the application process is very long. How can
I prepare what's my application is pending.
		
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			So may Allah Subhana Allah give them what is best for you.
		
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			In the meantime, you know, try to memorize Quran if you're you know, you see yourself as wanting to
be a student of knowledge. If it happens for you, 100 if it doesn't happen, then it doesn't mean
that you can't be a student of knowledge not at all.
		
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			You know, so try to find teachers who can help you whether they're local or whether it is online,
but pursue your knowledge. Okay, pursue your knowledge and a few. If you do that Allah subhanaw
taala make it easy for you.
		
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			Make lots of dua to Allah subhanaw taala that he opens a way for you. Whether it is Medina
university or somewhere else, I want to give you TOEFL climate.
		
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			My next question is,
		
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			is there any benefit to reciting the Quran for a deceased loved one? Do they get any reward from
this? So this is a practice of some of dedicating recitation
		
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			of the Quran to the deceased, as we may perform Hajj or Umrah for the deceased which is evidence for
that,
		
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			but what seems to be more correct and Allah's pattern as Mr. Has no delille there's no proof that
you can dedicate the rest
		
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			cetacean of the Quran to the deceased you can make their Alpha assist, no doubt. You ask Allah's
mercy upon them, make it easy for them, give them know that their grave
		
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			and whatnot, you can do that for our setup continuous charity for them. But the recitation is only
for the one who is reciting Allah. Secular Hashem Onyx question is Can one perform event at the
graveyard?
		
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			There is no specific reason for you to make a turn
		
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			at the graveyard.
		
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			We will you know, if you go to the grave, you go to the graveyard to remind yourself of of death, as
the Prophet alayhi wa sallam told us for you to go there specifically, I want to make that this is
this is there's no purpose and you doing that you shouldn't do that because you're specifying
specifying something that was not told to us by the profit organization. Thank you, sir. Our next
question. And then after this, we'll go to our quarter that's on the line. The question is a for
free married sister. If her husband practices a different Ficker to her to her, should she follow
the same school or stick to the one she practiced before marriage?
		
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			So this is a very general question, what I would say is that
		
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			you may find there's a lot of things which overlap. Okay. If there are individual things, which you
may slightly different speak with your husband. And, you know,
		
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			if they're if you're, you're happy to do your own thing, Alhamdulillah if you are
		
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			you different issue that you see this way, and you see it that way, sit down together and come to an
understanding each other Tanya?
		
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			Is that a very important shift? Generally that advice you give when it comes to spouses when it
comes to marriage? sitting down talking? Yeah, definitely. And like having that? Yeah, I've even
compromise and communication is ever important between everybody? Yes, the spouse but everybody.
Okay. And there are certain questions, which you have to be very clear on that on this platform,
especially between husband wife, for me to say that, yes, you lie, you have to listen to your
husband at nursery, this will cause problems. What understanding is what, why do you have to do
that? Or, for example, like one of the earlier questions, you know, the husband wants to practice in
		
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			the home and the sister doesn't want it may give you an answer yes or no, it's just, it's not a
solution for you, you need to sit down and the both of you need to have a compromise and
understanding. If, however, you've explained your situation in great detail, okay. And then in front
of a person of knowledge, or somebody is qualified to give you an answer. And they both prefer to
say whatever you say to us as an Islamic ruling. We'll take that, then. Okay. Fair enough. Okay. But
before that, it is not right for me just to say that, yeah, yes or no, you have to follow the fit of
so and so and so and so. But in general, so you have to compromise. And you have to have an
		
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			understanding between the two.
		
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			Just like Lokesh. If we're gonna go to our next question from YouTube, just to get through our
YouTube questions we have recorded in a year, we don't have enough time for the call it so apologies
for that. We only have about a minute left of the show. By the time we finished the call, there'll
be 40 minutes and so that minute, you know what, 40 seconds 40 seconds.
		
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			Is your listening time. Okay, go ahead. Next question is what is 40 seconds now? Okay, what should
the dynamic be between spouse and their stepchildren be when the age gap between them isn't a lot?
For example, one to three seconds, three seconds, three years?
		
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			I don't know how I'm supposed to answer that in 20 seconds. But
		
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			you know, maybe about eight years ago to a person knowledge. Some are gonna advise you.
		
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			May Allah do in your hearts. I mean, it's exactly like to share stories put pressure on you with
that last question. No pressure you to Allah bless you, Chef, thank you for joining us today, but I
cannot be thank you to everyone who's joined us today on the show. We'll be back on Monday at 730
Tuesday at 730 in sha Allah for now. I said I'm alikoum bla
		
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