Waleed Basyouni – Obedience To Parents By
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The importance of the fruit of Islam, which is the fruit of prophets and actions, is highlighted, along with the importance of balancing rights and duties for children, particularly those who have loss. The lack of respect for children due to the lack of respect for their parents and siblings is also highlighted.
The importance of the fruit of Islam, which is the fruit of prophets and actions, is highlighted, along with the importance of balancing rights and duties for children, particularly those who have loss. The lack of respect for children due to the lack of respect for their parents and siblings is also highlighted.
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hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Salatu was salam, wa salam ala MV mursaleen Amina Muhammad Anwar Ali he will be here tonight.
All Praise to Allah and His praise and blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his family and his companions and his followers until the Day of Judgment are the brothers and sisters, a Solomonic Mashallah to law here of Allah cattle. The title of my speech today is the middle gate of
the middle gate of paradise. And this title was taken from the statement of the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam in a narration, which is reported by imaginary tirmidhi that the prophets of Salaam said parents are the middle gate of paradise. As you might know, the paradise has several gates, eight gates, each one of these gates was named after one of the great act of foreshadowing Islam. And the middle gate of Jenna was made specifically for those who are good to their parents, for those who are beautiful to their parents. But I would like to say something in the beginning, that this topic is not meant only to be for your children. It's also applied to you. Because each
one of us, even if we have children, even we have daughters and sons, we were also children, and we have parents, and we need to ask ourselves, if we are good with our parents, as well, as we want now our kids to be good to us.
My brothers and sisters, this topic is a very important topic in Islam. Because Allah Subhana Allah, Allah Almighty in his book, whenever he
mentioned, the order of being beautiful and good to your parents, immediate comes directly after ordering us to worship Him alone. For instance, Allah said, waka Barbuda, Allah or Buddha,
or beloved in Santa, a lot decreed upon you that you worship Him alone, and not to worship other than Him. And to be good and beautiful to your parents. Then a Lost Planet Allah said, in my corner in DeKalb, Kiba huduma, Oklahoma, if one of them or both of them, attain an old age,
treat them with respect and don't say any thing to them, which is show any kind of disrespect or frustration that they extend Allah forbid that the person say to his parents,
while at Taco lahoma, in Walla, Walla, Walla, Houma, Poland, Kareem don't say to them of which is an expression of frustration or anger at them, because maybe they are old, and you getting tired and frustrated from their requirements, their requests and the service that you offer them. My brothers and sisters,
Allah said to us, of hula, hula Colin, Carrie, you should address them in honor and respect. And you should say, Oh Allah put your mercy upon them as they brought me up when I was a child. While feed lahoma Jenna has the limit of what are called Durham, Houma, Canada.
I'm delighted minister once asked the Prophet sallallahu sallam, what is the most beloved deed to Allah. The prophet SAW solemn said,
to pray on time. Then he said, then what sort of law he said to be good and beautiful to your parents during the day. That's the second thing that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam mentioned the most, the second most beloved act of worship to the Almighty Allah subhanho wa Taala
in the term of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, no doubt that every believer in that time
was looking forward to be with the Prophet Mohammed and Medina. Any believer will not hesitate to
you anything, whatever it takes him or her, to move to Medina to be in the company of the prophets of Allah to be a companion. And he asked you today, if you believe in the Prophet sallallahu Sallam and you love the prophets of Salaam wouldn't
You want to be there with him in Medina, and to live with him, and to protect him and to support him, and to offer all kinds of service to this prophet than the messenger, that we brought this message to you, and this guidance to you, every believer wish to do that. And the term of the prophet SAW Selim and men came to him, this man was driven by this feeling, the love for the Prophet sallallahu sallam. So when he came to the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, he said, I came to give you my pledge, that I will migrate to Medina, and I will be one of your followers, and one of your soldiers. And I left my home, just to be with you. The prophets of Salaam asked him. He said,
You have parents, and in another nation, he said, what I've made you do that, he said, I did that, because I'm seeking the reward from Allah. I want to be rewarded a greater reward from Allah by serving you and being with you. Then the process of an ask him, you have parents, he said, Yes, I have parents, and I left them crying back home, because I left them than the profits or sell themselves. If you seek in the world, if that's what really you after, then go back to them, and make them laugh as you made them cry.
The province of solemn order him to go back and to serve. In another nation the prophets of Salaam said, Do you have parents who said yes, I have a mother. And it could be a different incident. The prophets are seldom said, go serve your mother, go look after your mother. By doing that you will receive very word of Paradise, or the paradise will be your reward. And another relation He said, The next to her feet. By doing that, you will go to Paradise, which it means the always there for her to serve her and to help her next to her. Once the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, He's a great loser, he's a great loser is a great loser. Listen, who is this person he also a lot. He said the
one who one of his parents attained an old age, and that person will not enter Paradise reported by Muslim. You know why? Because serving them and taking care of them. Especially after they became all where they cannot help themselves anymore as they used to be in their early age will cause you to go to Paradise. It's such a hassle. It's a such reward. Is it such a great reward that it will lead you to paradise. My brothers and sisters, once a man came to the prophet of Solomon, he said Yasser Allah, I have committed a great sin. And the prophets of Salaam said, Do you have a parents? why he's asking him that? Because if he has parents, and he will take care of them, they are good deeds
will erase the bad deeds that he made are committed. Then he said no, both of my parents passed away. Then the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said, Do you have an end Karla? He said yes. He said, take care of her and that will take care of your son.
I'll holla your end is like your mother. That's why some of the scholars said that. Being beautiful to your parents, looking after your parents, serving your parents. That's a good deed can erase the major sins that the person might committed and has lived on in her life. Let's have a quick break. Then we'll come back to see some practical example of the early Muslim generations, how they used to take care of their parents. So stay tuned.
Welcome back. We're talking about the virtues of being good and beautiful to your parents. And we said that the prophets of Salaam said that being beautiful to your parents and good to your parents. That will lead you to the middle gate of gender, which is the widest, the most beautiful, where there is a reward will not be seen in any other gates. This gate will be entered only by those who are so good and beautiful to their parents. My brothers and sisters. Before I talk about some examples of how the early Muslim, righteous Muslim generations they used to treat their parents. Just a quick reminder that being good to your parents will lead to paradise.
being beautiful to your parents will lead that Allah Subhana Allah Allah will bless your life, which means that Allah Subhana Allah bless you to provision your income and bless your life. The prophets of Salaam said, whomever wish that Allah will increase his provision and increases lifespan in this life. He or she should be beautiful to their parents. It is one of the way that Allah subhanaw taala will be pleased with you. The prophets of Salaam said Allah will be angry at you when your father or your mother is angry at you, and alone will be pleased with you when your parents are pleased with you. So it's one of the way to gain a loss of Hannah with the Alice lessons and to gain a loss of
Hannah Dallas acceptance. My deep brothers and sisters above
us used to pass by his mother's house every day. Whenever he leaves the house in the morning, it will pass by his mother and say a Salaam mahalo aka
a Samadhi. My mother, as you have to take care of me when I was young. Then she replied by saying, Wiley, who said and my son, as you've been taking care of me, when it became all my brothers and sisters, we all know that
one of the companions of the Prophet SAW Selim, who all Salaam, who always was with the Prophet sallallahu Sallam documenting the profits of someone's life. A Buddha never narrated or never described to us, that had the profits of Salah how the process of performing had the skill or said the reason for that, that Abu huraira did not go with the process of selling too hard, because his mother was not feeling good. And he rather to stay with his mother, looking after her taking care of her, then going with the prophets of Salaam to perform hajj, even though he knows that he might not ever get this chance again in his life. But his mother is more important than that. There is a man
his name always so funny. The prophets are seldom said to Omar, whenever you see this man asked him to pray for you. Ask him to ask Allah Subhana Allah to forgive your sins, asked him to ask Allah subhanaw taala for you the paradise who's also currently What is so special about this man, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam
mentioned him, even though always never saw the prophet SAW Selim, he believed in Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, but he never met the profits or loss on them. You know why my brothers and sisters because his mother was sick in Yemen, and he couldn't travel to Medina to see the profits or sell them and to leave and leave his mother behind him sick and nobody taking care of her. He stayed with her until she passed away. Then after that, he came to Medina, but it was late because the prophets of Salaam passed away already. When Omar met him, he asked him to pray for him as the prophets of Salaam asked me to do.
My brothers and sisters are we willing to give up something that we love, because we want to serve and to take care of our parents. Another example of a great Imam is named Abu hanifa by Hina. Hello, Jana. This email used to respect and to love his mother so much. His mother used to ask him to take care to a man his name. Without this amueblado is an old man and a man in that community. But the mother always known as the Imam as the sheriff of the city or the community, even though her son Abu hanifa is the greatest commandment his time. Anyway, about hanifa will carry his mother and will go to Amazon and have to ask him questions. And after she asked him the questions, I will look at Abu
hanifa and say, she's asking me and this is a newer person. Everybody traveled from all over the world to come to study under you. And now she's asking me, he said yes, because she trusts you. Then he would ask him what any? What's the answers for these questions? I never will tell the answer secretly, then you will to an infamous mother the answer because he doesn't want to embarrass his mother. He never ever told his mother. That's enough mother, I can answer you are the one who always give the answer's no. He keeps taking her every time she asked to go to that man. He kept taking care of her all his life by him a long time when he was forced to be a judge and he said no, I can
be a judge. I don't want to be a judge. He was actually
beaten and humiliated by the ruler in that time. And it happened that he was wounded in his forehead and he started bleeding. So he was seeing crying
He told him, why are you crying? He said, because I know if my mother will see this one in my forehead, she will cry and she will be sad. And this is the last thing I want to happen in this world to make my mother sad, or to see her crying. My brothers and sisters, those people even there are great imams great scholars very famous, but still the mothers and their fathers means a lot to them. When Abu hanifa his father passed away, he said, I used to give charity every month on his behalf. And it kept for a whole year, making only two out for him and my sheer hand man that Allah forgive them. There is a scholar has named Bobby Lee. He said once I had an argument with my mother,
and she went to sleep while she has something in her heart against me. He said I couldn't go to sleep. I stood up the whole entire night next to her bed. When she woke up for federal and she saw me next door. She said Why are you standing here for our UK. He said Mother, I couldn't go to sleep. And I know there is something in your heart against me. I couldn't go to sleep. How many times you have made your parents angry and mad at you. And you left the home and you left the house. And you didn't even bother so apologize or to even ever care how the feeling. Another example. Most people treated their mothers and their father different than the way today. So many of us treat their
parents
Mohammed bin Salman Kadir, another great Imam. He said, my brother wants to spend the whole night praying. And I spent the night massaging my mother's feet. He said I think that what I've been doing the whole night, much better analyze eyes than what my brother was doing. Another example of another great Imam. His name is
Hayward eventually, one of the greatest Muslim jurists and Medina, once was teaching his students. And he can imagine a teacher and a great teacher sitting in a chair on a great teacher sitting in the master the prophets of Allah teaching his students and all of a sudden his mother comes with a bag full of seeds. And she tells him go ahead and feed the chicken and he leaves the class to feed the chicken, then he comes back to continue his class. He didn't feel that this is insulting, or this is wrong, or this is not right. Because he knows that his mother she has right on him.
Also, it will own once his mother called him, he replied with a louder voice. He said I considered that a sin and a free slave for that. I consider that a sin. And I repented to Allah Subhana Allah from it. He said, I will never walk over a roof. And I know my mother is underneath of me, out of respect to her and to his father, my brothers and sisters. There's so many examples like this, from the history and the life of the scholars, no matter how old they are, how famous they are, how rich they are, but they still have this great respect to their parents. It is so sad. When you hear today about children that they never called their parents. They never bothered to pick up the phone at
least to call them in a weekly basis or on a monthly basis, which is not acceptable even monthly basis in a weekly basis in a daily basis.
It is sad to see children living a luxurious life. Enjoying Mashallah, what Allah has bestowed upon them, and their parents are poor, they don't have enough money to live a comfortable life. It is sad that you know, that there is some children raise their voice over their parents stare at their parents looking straight to their eyes and challenge them and I will do Billa even worse, some might use physical force against their parents as cannot come out of a Muslim that he or she will use such attitude with his or her parents, my brothers and sisters. One of the things I would like to mention in related to the subject that there is so many children cut their ties with their parents, and
sadly because of their spouse.
So the husband doesn't want his wife to call her mother or to call her father and the wife tried to get her husband away from his parents. She will not let him support his parents and he will not let her support her parents and the husband or the wife
Be the reasons for his wife or her husband, for their spouse to commit one of the worst sins. The prophets of Salaam said that the worst sins is to commit yourself to worship other than Allah, then to treat your parents that are not to be beautiful and good to your parents Rococo, every day. And in the end, my brothers or sisters, I would like to say that in Islam, there is something it's called rights and duties. And Islam as much as he gives people rights, as much as also put duties on them. And Islam. Yes, have given the parents so much rights. But he puts so much duties on them. So this issue should not be taken from perspective. Because I have seen also some parents or what they
care about their rights. And what about the children's rights, Islam always balanced this, as much as it asked you to be good to your parents, also asked the parents to be good to their children. And it's not give rights to the rulers, but also at the same time and give rights to their public to the common people and Assam, give rights to the scholars, but in the same times have given rights to the public over the scholars. So it's balanced in a snap. It's not right. And it's not acceptable for some parents to misuse this rights or positions that Allah has given them, to use it for personal reasons. That's why when a man came to him or her law, and said my father ordered me to divorce my
wife, and my wife is a such good righteous woman, should they obey my father? And he said, No. So the man said, but even Omar, his father asked him to divorce his wife, and he divorced her. And even Rahim, Allah said, if your father like Omar, divorce her a saying that today, people will start misusing the rights, and anybody will misuse his rights, he lose it. That's why if a father, for example, refused to give his daughter to marriage, for no good reason, the judge has the right to take this from him.
My brothers and sisters, I think we should balance this so that children should be good to their parents, and parents should take care of their children's with this outcome to the conclusion of my episode today. Or Salalah was Salam ala nabina, Muhammad.
I came to give you my pledge that I will migrate to Medina, and I will be one of your followers and one of your soldiers. And I left my home just to be with you. The prophets of Salaam asked him. He said, You have parents and in another nation. He said, What have made you do that? He said I did that. Because I'm seeking the reward from Allah. I want to be rewarded a greater reward from Allah by serving you and being with you. Then the process of asking, you have parents, he said, Yes, I have parents, and I left them crying back home, because I left them, then the profits or sell themselves. If you seek in the world, if that's what really you after, then go back to them and make
them laugh as you made them cry.
The profits of solemn order him to go back and to serve. In another nation the prophets of Salaam said, Do you have parents who said yes, I have a mother. And it could be a different incident. The prophets of Salaam said go serve your mother, go look after your mother. By doing that you will receive the reward of Paradise or the paradise will be a reward. And another relation he said, be next to her feet. By doing that you will go to Paradise, which it means we always there for her to serve her and to help her next to her. Once the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, He's a great loser. He's a great loser. He's a great loser. This dude's this person y'all saw a lot. He said the one who
one of his parents attained an old age and that person will not enter Paradise reported by a Muslim. You know why? Because serving them and taking care of them. Especially after they became all where they cannot help themselves anymore as they used to be
Their early age will cause you to go to Paradise. It's such a hassle. It's a such reward. Is it such a great reward that it will lead you to paradise? My brothers and sisters? Once a man came to the prophet of Solomon, he said yeah, Rasul Allah, I have committed a great sin that the prophets of Salaam said, Do you have a parents? why he's asking him that because if he has parents, and he would take care of them, they are good deeds will erase the bad deeds that he made are committed. Then he said, No, both of my parents passed away. Then the Prophet sallahu wa sallam said, Do you have an end collar? He said, Yes. He said, take care of her, and that will take care of your sin.
I'll holla your end is like your mother. That's why some of the scholar said that being beautiful to your parents, looking after your parents, serving your parents, that's a good deed can erase the major sins that the person might committed and has lived on in her life? Let's have a quick break. Then we'll come back to see some practical example of the early Muslim generations, how they used to take care of their parents. So stay tuned.
Welcome back. We're talking about the virtues of being good and beautiful to your parents. And we said that the prophets of Salaam said that being beautiful to your parents and good to your parents, that will lead you to the middle gate of gentleness, which is the widest, the most beautiful, where there is a reward will not be seen in any other gates. This gate will be entered only by those who are so good and beautiful to their parents, my brothers and sisters. Before I talk about some examples of how the early Muslim, righteous Muslim generations, they used to treat their parents, just a quick reminder that being good to your parents will lead to paradise. Being beautiful to your
parents, will lead that Allah Subhana Allah will bless your life, which it means that Allah Subhana Allah bless you to provision your income and bless your life. The prophets of Salaam said whomever wish that Allah will increase his provision and increases lifespan in this life. He or she should be beautiful to their parents. It is one of the way that Allah subhanaw taala will be pleased with you. The prophets of Salaam said Allah will be angry at you when your father or your mother is angry at you. And allow will be pleased with you when your parents are pleased with you. So it's one of the way to gain a loss of Hana with the Alice lessons and to gain a loss of Hannah Dallas acceptance. My
dear brothers and sisters
used to pass by his mother's house every day. Whenever he leaves the house in the morning, it will pass by his mother and say a Sarah maharlika
A Sarah Marie, my mother, as you have to care of me when I was young. Then she replied by saying, Daddy whose son and my son as you've been taking care of me, when I became all my brothers and sisters, we all know that.
One of the companions of the Prophet SAW Selim, who all Salim, who always was with the Prophet sallallahu Sallam documenting the profits of Psalms life. A Buddha never narrated or never described to us, that had of the prophets of Salah how the process of performing had the skill or said the reason for that, that Abu huraira did not go with the prophets of Salaam because his mother was not feeling good. And he rather to stay with his mother, looking after her taking care of her then going with the prophets of Salaam to perform hajj, even though he knows that he might not ever get this chance again in his life. But his mother is more important than that. There is a man whose name away
so badly. The prophets are seldom said to Roma. Whenever you see this man asked him to pray for you. Ask him to ask Allah Subhana Allah to forgive your sins, asked him to ask Allah Subhana Allah for you the paradise who's always Academy What is so special about this man, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam
mentioned him even though always never saw the Prophet
Salim he believed in Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, but he never met the Prophet sallallahu sallam. You know why my brothers and sisters because his mother was sick in Yemen. And he couldn't travel to Medina to see the prophets of Salaam and to leave and leave his mother behind him sick and nobody taking care of her. He stayed with her until she passed away. Then after that, he came to Medina, but it was late because the prophets of Salaam passed away already. When I met him, he asked him to pray for him as the prophets of Salaam asked me to do.
My brothers and sisters, are we willing to give up something that we love, because we want to serve and to take care of our parents. Another example of a great Imam is named Abu hanifa. By Hina. Hello Jana, this Imam used to respect and to love his mother so much. His mother used to ask him to take care to a man his name.
This amueblado is an old man and a man in that community. But the mother always known as the Imam as the sheriff of the city of the community, even though her son Abu hanifa is the greatest commandment his time anyway, but hanifa will carry his mother. And we'll go to Alameda to ask him questions. And after she asked him the questions out of the dark, we'll look at Abu hanifa and say, she's asking me and this is a new our her son, everybody traveled from all over the world to come to study under you. And now she's asking me, he said, Yes, because she trusts you. Then he would ask him, Oh, honey, what's the answers for these questions? Will Tell me the answer secretly, then you will do an
infant's mother the answer? Because he doesn't want to embarrass his mother. He never ever told his mother. That's enough mother, I can answer you. I'm the one who always give the answers. No. He kept taking her every time she asked to go to that man. He kept taking care of her all his life by him a long time when he was forced to be a judge. And he said, No, I can't be a judge. I don't want to be a judge. He was actually
beaten and humiliated by the ruler in that time. And it happened that he was wounded in his forehead, and he started bleeding. So he was seeing crying. He told him, why are you crying? He said, because I know if my mother will see this bone in my forehead, she will cry and she will be sad. And this is the last thing I want to happen in this world, to make my mother sad, or to see her crying. My brothers and sisters, those people even there are great imams great scholars very famous, but still the mothers and their fathers means a lot to them. When Abu hanifa his father passed away, he said, I used to give charity every month on his behalf. And it kept for a whole year making only
two out for him and my sheer hammer that Allah forgive them. There is a scholar has named Bobby Lee. He said once I had an argument with my mother, and she went to sleep while she has something in her heart against me. He said I couldn't go to sleep. I stood up the whole entire night next to her bed. When she walked up for federal and she saw me next door. She said Why are you standing here for our UK. He said Mother I couldn't go to sleep. And I know there is something in your heart against me. I couldn't go to sleep. How many times you have made your parents angry and mad at you. And you left the home and you left the house. And you didn't even bother so apologize or to even ever care how
the feeling. Another example. Most people treated their mothers and their father different than the way today. So many of us treat their parents. Mohammed bin Salman Kadir, another great Imam. He said, my brother wants to spend the whole night praying. And I spent the night massaging my mother's feet. He said I think that what I've been doing the whole night, much better in a lot more eyes than what my brother was doing. Another example of another great Imam. His name is
Hayward eventually, one of the greatest Muslim jurists and Medina, once was teaching his students. And you can imagine a teacher and a great teacher sitting in church on a great teacher sitting in the midst of the prophets of Allah teaching his students and all of a sudden his mother comes with a bag full of seeds, and she tells him go ahead and feed the chicken and he leaves the class to feed the chicken. Then he comes back to continue his class. He didn't feel that this is insulting or this is wrong. Or this is not right because he knows that his
Mother she has right on him.
Also, it will own. Once his mother called him, he replied with a louder voice. He said, I considered that a sin and a free slave for that, I consider that a sin. And I repented to Allah Subhana Allah from it, he said, I will never walk over a roof. And I know my mother is underneath of me, out of respect to her, and to his father, my brothers and sisters, there's so many examples like this, from the history and the life of the scholars, no matter how old they are, how famous they are, how rich they are, but they still have this great respect to their parents. It is so sad when you hear today about children that they never called their parents, they never bothered to pick up the phone at
least to call them in a weekly basis or on a monthly basis, which is not acceptable, even monthly basis in a weekly basis in a daily basis. Yeah.
It is sad to see children living a luxurious life, enjoying Mashallah, what Allah has bestowed upon them, and their parents are poor, they don't have enough money to live a comfortable life. It is sad that you know, that there is some children raise their voice over their parents stare at their parents looking straight to their eyes and challenge them. And I will do Billa even worse, some might use physical force against their parents, as cannot come out of a Muslim, that he or she will use such attitude with his or her parents, my brothers and sisters, one of the things that would like to mention, in related to the subject, that there is so many children, cut their ties with
their parents, and sadly because of their spouse.
So the husband doesn't want his wife to call her mother or to call her father, and the wife tried to get her husband away from his parents, she will not let him support his parents, and he will not let her support her parents. And the husband or the wife can be the reasons for his wife or her husband, for their spouse to commit one of the worst sins. The prophets of Salaam said that the worst sins is to commit to worship other than Allah, then to treat your parents that are not to be beautiful and good to your parents Rococo every day. And in the end, my brothers and sisters, I would like to say that in Islam, there is something called rights and duties. And Islam as much as he gives people
rights as much as also put duties on them. And Islam. Yes, I have given the parents so much rights. But he put so much duties on them. So this issue should not be taken from perspective. Because I have seen also some parents all what they care about their rights. And what about the children's rights, Islam always balanced this, as much as I ask you to be good to your parents also asked the parents to be good to their children. And it's not give rise to the rulers, but also in the same terms and give rights to their public to the common people. And Islam give rights to the scholars, but in the same times have given rights to the public over the scholars. So it's balanced in a snap.
It's not right. And it's not acceptable for some parents to misuse this rights or positions that Allah has given them to use it for personal reasons. That's why when a man came to him or her law, and said my father ordered me to divorce my wife, and my wife is a such good righteous woman. Should they obey my father? And he said no. So the man said, but even Omar, his father asked him to divorce his wife and he divorced her element. Rahim Allah said, if your father like Omar, divorce her a saying that today, people will start misusing the rights and anybody will misuse his rights. He lose it. That's why if a father for example, refused to give his daughter to marriage for no good reason,
the judge has the right to take this from him.
My brothers and sisters, I think we should balance this. So the children should be good to their parents and parents should take care of their children's this outcome to the conclusion of my episode today.
salam wa salam ala nabina Muhammad