Waleed Basyouni – Misunderstood- 4 Common Issues & Hadith Regarding Women

Waleed Basyouni
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Today's session, so if you are curious, thank

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you.

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I see someone has dropped already into the

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chat the link to the registration for this

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class.

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It's at amaghrib.online. So please do make

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sure that you take time to register for

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the class.

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I cannot stress for you enough as a

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woman or as a human, as a Muslim

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active within the community, you need to be

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able to have this knowledge and you need

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to have this clarity on the important topics

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that we cover in this seminar.

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Alhamdulillah.

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Now I just want to confirm for those

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who are coming in on YouTube and Facebook,

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hopefully you guys are now able to see

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us.

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Let us know in the chat.

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I'll check in with you guys as we

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kick off the session.

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But without further ado, I know Sheikh Waleed

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is with us now.

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So I want us to jump into the

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session.

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And yes, it's being recorded, all that fun

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stuff.

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Anyway, just to go questions, drop them into

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the chat.

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We will, we'll answer them as they come

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along.

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Without further ado, welcome Sheikh Waleed Basiyouni.

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Assalamualaikum warahmatullah.

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How are you doing today?

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Oh, hold on Sheikh Waleed, I didn't give

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you access to unmute yourself.

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There you go.

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Second time's a charm.

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Okay.

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Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu.

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Welcome you all.

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Thank you for your kind words.

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And I would like to welcome everyone in

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this webinar today or session, the online session

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tonight.

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And may Allah subhana wa ta'ala guide

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us to say what is right and to

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make us among those who hear the speech

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and follow the best of it and forgive

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whatever wrong or mistakes that we might say.

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There's no doubt this is one of the

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important course I believe that I am teaching

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at Al-Maghreb Institute.

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And Al-'Ulama Rahimahullah have spoken a lot about

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the concept of Ahkam-ul-Nisa, the rules

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related to women, because of the importance of

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it, because sometimes the complicity of it, because

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of the misunderstanding in regard to it as

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well.

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And it is quite a big topic, quite,

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you know, there is a lot of sophistication

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in it.

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And it is absolutely a joy for Institute

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of Knowledge to study these issues.

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And also there is a nuance to it.

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And when it comes to women issues and

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modern women issues, you will find always there

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is extremes and reactions to the extreme.

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People who became in the very strict side

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and people who will be extreme on the

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other side, who is too liberal.

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People who would like to understand the text

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in the light of the modern context.

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And people who would like to understand the

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modern content in the light of the text.

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In another word, they will look at, some

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people look at the text and try to

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make them, bend them in a way that

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fits what is happening.

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Instead of us changing and try to change,

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you know what, we're trying, it's much easier

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to change the ruling and bend it and

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to play around it, so it will fit

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our desires.

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Also, some other people would like to ignore

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completely the role that the culture or the

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context play when it comes to defining some

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of the rulings.

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And that's required from the person to be

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a person of knowledge, a person of understanding

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of fiqh and how it works.

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What leads me in the end of the

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days to say that's allowed or not allowed

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is not how popular this opinion is.

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No, it is how strong the evidence are

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when it comes to the halal and haram.

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It comes with what Allah subhanahu wa ta

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'ala have mentioned in his book or Muhammad

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salallahu alayhi wa sallam have mentioned to us

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and reported in the sunnah of the Prophet

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salallahu alayhi wa alayhi wa sallam.

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And I'm saying this because we cannot do

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things because this will please certain people, regardless

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of what people.

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Let's say unique here, some people try to

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take a certain position to please, for example,

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those who are ultra-liberal, okay, or very

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liberal minds when it comes, or a very

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liberal approach to the issue, or some, you

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know, liberal feminist type of movement members in

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our community.

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Other people also try to take strict position

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so they will not be called liberal and

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afraid if I say this, oh, I will

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be like, you know, seen as part of

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this camp or part of the liberal camp

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or part of the strict camp.

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You know what, that's not how the deen

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of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, it's not

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a politics, you know, it's not about popularity,

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it's not about winning your approval, it's about

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what Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, I believe

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is the strongest opinion and the strongest, you

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know, position regarding to what I see from

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the evidence.

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And when a person do this and they

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are sincere in this work, I think their

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work will be appreciated, Allah subhanahu wa ta

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'ala will give to their work.

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And over the years, we'll find among the

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scholars, there are different positions been taken, some

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of them strict, some of them are moderate,

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some of them are very lenient.

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That exists, and I think it is exist

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in our life today.

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And alhamdulillah, as long as we deal with

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these differences of opinion, and we motivate it

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by looking for what pleases Allah subhanahu wa

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ta'ala the most, and what we believe

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that it is closer to the haqq, not

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closer to what I desire, not closer to

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what I feel, you know, it is the

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most, you know, suitable opinion to my desire,

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that's not how we should be motivated.

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And that's not the foundation and the principle

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that we base our position on.

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I want to remind each and every one

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of us, as we start talking about these

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issues, our fundamental issues, which is Allah subhanahu

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wa ta'ala says, Ya ayyuhan nas, O

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mankind, inna khalaqnakum min dhakari wa untha.

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We have made you, or created you, from

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male and female.

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So we are all sons and daughters of

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a male and a female, Adam and Eve.

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It's not only male, it's not only a

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man who had favor upon, it's a man

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and a woman.

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And that's how this life started, and that's

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how this life will continue to be.

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Between these two creation of Allah subhanahu wa

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ta'ala, the male and the female, these

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two humans, who are the beginning, and it

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will continue to be the case until the

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day of judgment.

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You cannot have a society with one of

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them only.

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You cannot have a community or a party

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where you cannot have one of them.

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The relationship between men and women, always viewed

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in the Qur'an and the Sunnah of

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the Prophet ﷺ, is not a relationship of

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competition.

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And that's a very different lens that we

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have and we put when we look at

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the relationship between men and women.

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They're not in a competition, which one is

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better, which one is dominated.

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That's not how it works.

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The relationship between men and women is that

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Adam was not complete without Hawa, and Hawa

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is not complete without Adam.

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And you're not complete without your mother, and

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you cannot complete without your father.

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The perfect model is when they complete and

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complement one another.

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The believing men and women, Allah says, ba'duhum

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awliya'u ba'd.

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Ya'muruna bil ma'ruf wa yanhawuna alimunkar.

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Allahu akbar.

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They are awliya'.

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They are supporters for one another.

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They support one another.

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They advise one another.

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And both are responsible for spreading goodness in

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society, and forbidding evil.

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The responsibility falls on the shoulder of both

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of them.

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Both of them.

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When we look at the role of women

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in the Prophet's ﷺ society, in a society

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that women was sometimes, by some tribes, not

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all the tribes in Mecca, some tribes like

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Bani Asad and others, used to bury a

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woman, a girl, a female.

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When he get a female, he will put

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her in the ground and would rather to

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have her dead than to raise a female.

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From the beginning.

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Because shameful, because she will not make money,

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she cannot work, and she cannot produce and

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contribute to the economy, so they get rid

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of her.

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And we see this today in some countries

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and, you know, where they get rid and

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you will see something similar to that existing

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today in China and India, unfortunately, you know,

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as you all may be aware of.

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But even this is in the time of

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the Prophet ﷺ.

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That's why Allah said, وَلَا تَقْتُلُوا أَوْلَادِكُمْ خَشْشَةِ

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اِمْلَقٍ Don't kill your children, fear of poverty,

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because they think women bring poverty, because they

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don't work, they don't make money.

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And if they want to work, they think

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of, she work in prostitution, or work in

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things of that nature, or she can, you

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know, bring shame to her family.

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So that's why they used to get rid

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of her.

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That's how, from day one, some Arabs deal

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with her.

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I'm not going to even talk about other

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than Arabs.

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You know, come to a society where a

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woman is inherited, the actual woman, when her

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husband died, she would be inherited by his

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children, like a piece of furniture, or a

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camel.

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A society where, in many times, women are

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not respected, not, you know, appreciated.

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And again, not all of them, but in

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general, abused, because of the nature of her

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creation, that she is not necessarily masculine, she's

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not masculine like men, strong like men.

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So what happens?

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Men take advantage of that, and start abusing.

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Islam came to defend her from the day

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that she was born, by saying, يَهَبُ لِمَن

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يَشَعُوا إِنَاثًا وَيَهَبُ لِمَن يَشَعُوا الذُّكُورُ Allah blessed

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you with children who are female and male,

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started with the female, honoring the female, with

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the Prophet ﷺ saying, whoever Allah bless them

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with, these female daughters, three or two, and

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non-racial, one, even if he was Asr

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Salih al-Sadiq.

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And take good care of them, will enter

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Jannah.

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And another hadith, or their sisters, take care

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of their sisters, he will enter Jannah.

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Was not mentioned in regard to boys, for

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daughters only.

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All this to appreciate her, okay, appreciate her

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from the beginning.

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Then it continued to see her in the

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time of the Prophet ﷺ in every step

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in the way.

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You will cite women among those who were

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tortured in Makkah, and some of them were

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murdered, like Sumayyah, رضي الله عنها وارضاها.

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They were there in the company of the

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Prophet ﷺ on his journey.

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They were seen learning in the masjid, buying

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and selling in the market, helping their families

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in their farms, or in their own farms,

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tending sheep, celebrating Eid and victories in public,

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participating in every area of public life in

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Madinah.

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They were not isolated.

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From the beginning, when the Prophet ﷺ built

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the masjid, he made sure that they have

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their own place, they have their own entrance,

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they have their own place, respected.

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And he said, you're not allowed to stop

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women from going to the masjid anytime they

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want to go.

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We see them become scholars, learned, writing and

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documenting.

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As a matter of fact, one of the

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most trusted documentation ever in history of Islam,

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which is the Mus'haf, the original copy

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of the Mus'haf, was in the hand

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of a woman, Hafsah رضي الله عنها وارضاه.

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One of the greatest women in Islam was

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Aisha رضي الله عنها وارضاه.

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And I can keep going on and on

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in so many examples of how women contributed

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in many different areas.

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In da'wah, in education, in spreading knowledge,

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in society at large, basically in workforce.

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Umm Sulayq رضي الله عنها وارضاه, one of

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the companions, used to make qirab, which is

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the water skin, and sell it.

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As Ibn al-Bukhari رضي الله عنه reported.

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Umm Shariq رضي الله عنها وارضاه, she basically

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used to own and run a guest house,

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as Ibn Abdulbar mentioned in Kitab al-Isti

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'at.

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The Prophet ﷺ, when he stood up, it

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was built by a woman, a carpentry business.

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She had someone work for her as a

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carpenter, and she said, Ya Rasulullah, I will

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make it for you.

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Ibn Mas'ud رضي الله عنه, his wife

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came to the Prophet ﷺ and said, Ya

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Rasulullah, I work, I make money, and my

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husband is not working.

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Can I spend on him?

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Can I give him from my money?

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You know in Sahih al-Bukhari رضي الله

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عنه, it was mentioned that Al-Zubayr رضي

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الله عنه, his wife used to work with

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him, Isma' ibn Abi Bakr رضي الله عنه,

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used to work with him in his farm.

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She will carry the stone dates, and she

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will feed the animals and the cattle, and

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she will take care of the business work

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with her husband.

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And the Prophet ﷺ, he saw her one

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day, on a very hot day, and she

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was walking and carrying all the stone dates,

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or the seeds to feed the animals.

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And the Prophet ﷺ put down his camel,

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he said, Do you want a ride?

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She said, Give you a ride.

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And she said, I remember how jealous my

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husband is.

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He said, No.

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And he said, Wallahi, Al-Zubayr رضي الله

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عنه, when he heard about that, he said,

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Wallahi, carrying this on your shoulder was harder

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to me than you riding with him.

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Because people see you like working hard like

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that.

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He doesn't feel, he wished that he can

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save her the trouble.

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She feels that he needs help, and she

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is there to help.

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Until Abu Bakr رضي الله عنه, gave her

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a servant to help.

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I mean, I can go, one of the

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Sahaba said, I love Friday, because on Friday

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they used to go to a place for

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one of the Sahabiyat, she used to make

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for them food.

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It's like a restaurant, what we call it

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today.

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And they said, I love Friday for that.

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Every Friday when we go to the Prophet's

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Masjid, we go eat at this outside her

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house after Salah.

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Jabir رضي الله عنه, his aunt had a

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farm, used to grow things in Shari'ah

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رضي الله عنه.

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Can I attend my farms on my waiting

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period after my husband died?

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Can I go and attend my farm and

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look after my business?

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He said, Yes.

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My point is, this image of women playing

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this major role in the time of the

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Prophet صلى الله عنه, should be something that

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we understand something from it, which is the

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importance of the role that she played.

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In the house, in the Masjid, in the

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society at large, in her role with her

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children, her role with her husband, her role

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with her family members, her role with the

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sisters and the women in society, her role

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with the society at large.

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Each one of these levels, there is a

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level of participation and contribution.

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And there is no contradiction.

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And the Shari'ah have given a lot

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of guidelines.

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And sometimes I feel people mix between cultures

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and religion.

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Certain things that's culturally not acceptable.

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Sometimes cultures is recognized in Shari'ah.

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But there is a difference between the recognition

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of a thing that's not appropriate, not right,

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and something to such haram.

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Haram, it means everywhere all the time.

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But that's not appropriate in certain in certain

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time and certain place.

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I will, I know I talk too much,

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but I hope you know, I found it

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interesting that how the women understood their, it

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comes from you understanding your value.

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And I don't want you to have this

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empty words.

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No, I want this to be translated to

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action, translated to reality.

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And I'll tell you sisters, I will end

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with this.

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It is so important for our Muslim sister

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today to learn piety, to learn taqwa, to

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have fear of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala,

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to have an absolute absolute love for Allah

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subhanahu wa ta'ala, to be among those

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who pray on time, to pray the volunteer

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prayer, to be among those who fast.

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Before we talk about workforce and participating in

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politics and stuff like that, you know what?

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The foundations for all this is a good

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iman, is a strong submission to Allah subhanahu

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wa ta'ala.

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I want us to, as the Prophet ﷺ,

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build these foundations in women.

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As they grow, they keep these foundations strong,

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because that will carry you as we go

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and face all these fitna and all these

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challenges in life.

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That will be the light for all of

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us and the guidance for all of us.

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You're welcome.

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Let's go into, I know I'm trying to,

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I'm trying to avoid your hard question.

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I heard a lot.

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I know there's, so I was going to

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say Sheikh, it's very important to set the

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stage because we want to know the context

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that we're coming in from.

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And especially nowadays, I feel like, and we

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don't have time for all the topics and

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all the things.

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Sure, but that's basically why I think this

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course is important, because that's when I go

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into details over all these things related to

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women.

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To build this foundation, to deal with these

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challenges today, hopefully shallot will benefit my sisters

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and my brothers as well.

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And we need to know what framework that

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we're coming in from and how we're understanding

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it, because I think nowadays we're losing a

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little bit of that essence, especially with the

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prevalence of things like for the, on the

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male side, the red pill kind of theology

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and that bandwagon.

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And on the woman's side, modern feminism, I

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find there's a lot of this like war

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of the sexes that comes into some of

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these discussions around the topics of women.

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And more so, I feel like even, you

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know, you've taught this course multiple times over

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the years and Hamza, it's been a lifetime

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access course.

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So I think students have seen the discussion

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evolve over the last 2020, 2021 to 22,

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et cetera.

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And now I feel like these talk, this

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discussion is even more current.

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It's even more kind of like, I guess,

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highly charged.

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I remember when I was listening, someone was

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mentioning some of the topics that we mentioned

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for the webinar.

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I was feeling like personally, like my blood

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pressure was rising a little bit.

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This brings back a lot of really painful,

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you know, dialogues and conversations that we're used

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to hearing.

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I just, in general about women being, you

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know, incompetent to some degree, their level of

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intelligence, their weakness, their whatnot, all the things

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that make us less than men, as opposed

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to having it in the context of the

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situations that we're discussing and actually understanding the

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Hadith that are behind some of these, you

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know, lectures and conversations that we're hearing.

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So some of the hot button topics, I

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don't know how many we'll get a chance

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to cover, but I want to jump into

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it.

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And one thing that I want to maybe

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like just touch on, I don't, I won't

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speak about my personal kind of opinions on

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and I'll bite my tongue here, but you

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yourself in America, you guys are going through

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an election.

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And I know that, you know, you have

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the, for the first time for, I don't

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know, for a while, I don't, you have

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a female leader on the ballot and ignoring

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all the politics and the issues with her.

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It's interesting that some people have an opposition

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still to this point about a woman running

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for, you know, a role in office of

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that high degree.

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And I know there are Hadith kind of,

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you know, backing or giving that they're an

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impression that this is not acceptable in a

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nation that has a woman leader, I think

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will be unsuccessful, et cetera.

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Can you shed some more light?

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Can you give us some clarification on that?

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Okay.

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So the only good thing about this kind

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of question, whoever asked him this question, it

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means they want success for the society.

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So that's, that's a good thing at least,

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you know, that's why we care.

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But also it's ironic that this is the

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only thing you have a problem with, with

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this candidate is that her gender.

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But again, regardless of what is your position

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of her policies and stuff like that, that's

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interesting because I got, I got some little

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actually phone calls of people asking me, and

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is it allowed for me to vote for

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a female as a president?

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You know, and that's, there is two sides

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for this is talk about women.

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Is it true that Islam, women not allowed

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to have a leadership position, you know, over

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a group of men and women, you know,

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because over women, everybody agree.

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But the problem is, if she's in charge

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of men and women, group of men and

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women, that's where some of the debate can

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be, can come up.

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Then the other issue is related to America

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related to a non-Muslim country.

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So let's get the easy one part, the

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easy part out, which is in relation to

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the non-Muslim world.

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You know, our rules as Muslims, we don't

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enforce it over Muslims, over non-Muslims.

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So my rules is related to me, related

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to my community, my society, my country.

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I don't force that over other people.

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So it's not a sin.

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If you think, if you think this is

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the best candidate and she will do the

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best thing for the society, you're allowed to

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vote for her because she's not supposed to

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adhere to our rules.

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We're not supposed to, she wears hijab.

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She's not supposed to be, she's not a

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Muslim.

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She's not been asked to do all this.

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So for me, I'm voting.

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I want to interject on that point.

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One is that if, would it be different

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than if she was a Muslim running?

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Like you have some Muslims also in parliamentary

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or other positions, I guess.

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I will come to that.

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But we're not talking about a Muslim country

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here.

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So don't apply your rules, which is you

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have, you apply to a Muslim country, don't

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apply to a non-Muslim country.

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There is two different things.

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And so this situation, if you think that

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she really, this female who's running for president

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or prime minister or whatever, she will be

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the best choice for the country, the best

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choice for the society, and she will do

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a better job than the other candidate or

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that is more good or evil.

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That's what you conclude.

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Her gender is something relevant here in this

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discussion, because she is not, that's not a

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non-Muslim, that's not a Muslim country and

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a Muslim country that you apply our Islamic

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ruling to it.

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She's not going to rule Sharia anyway.

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You know, that's even a much bigger issue

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than, you know, she's a female or a

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male, you know, or anything of that nature.

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So that's, let's get this out of the

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way.

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The issue, the original issue is this.

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Is it true that Islam did not allow

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women to have a leadership position?

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So al-Ulama rahim Allah and al-Fuqaha

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rahim Allah, in the past, there is an

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agreement among them, okay, that women are not

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allowed to have wilaya amna, which it means

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to be the khalifa, the person who is

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in charge of the khilafah, in charge to

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be the khalifa of the Muslims.

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And there is ijma' among the ulama, I

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mentioned this ijma' by consensus among the scholars,

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by many scholars, one of the conditions that

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must exist in a khalifa, that has to

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be a male, okay.

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And the only, there is only maybe al

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-khawarij, some like deviant sects have said something

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different.

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I don't know even if they said that,

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but in their history, they have appointed a

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woman to lead them at one point, Ghazala.

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In any case, that's in relation to the

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why.

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There is, you know, there is a consistence

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in sharia, and that's something important to keep

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in mind.

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That's why I said Islamic ruling in a

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Muslim country is different than non-Muslim country,

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than non-Muslim, different situation.

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Why?

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Because Islam look at the khalifa to play

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different roles that when you think about president

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or prime minister today.

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A khalifa, it means the one who lead,

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when he is there, he lead the salah.

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It means he lead the hajj.

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It means he is the wali when a

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woman do not have a wali.

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He basically in charge of that.

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He is the one who lead the war,

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you know.

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And all of these roles, as you know,

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will not fit a female in an Islamic,

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you know, based on Islamic ruling.

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She cannot lead the salah, she cannot lead

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the hajj, she cannot be the wali because

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she herself need the wali.

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Also, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala said, Allah

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subhanahu wa ta'ala when he said that

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there is in the household, that the women,

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when they're home, they must be recognize the

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authority of the husband as well.

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So if she is the ultimate authority on

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the country, that means she is in charge

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of her husband, which is he has to

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obey and to listen to her.

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And that's different than the way envisioned, the

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way the house works.

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One thing I do want to clarify, just

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before the chat goes wild, is that this

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is in no way an endorsement of anybody

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based on their gender.

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Not at all.

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Especially because, you know, we don't want to

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speak about this openly or we don't want

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to deal with any cancel culture issues.

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But this is not a candidate or we're

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not speaking about the specifics of US politics

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right now.

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We're just giving the example of people having

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an issue with someone running for a political

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role solely because of their gender, solely because

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she's a woman.

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Yeah, yeah.

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Like what I said, it's talking about, is

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it allowed in Islam to vote for, let's

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say, prime minister running or a minister, like

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a president running for a country, you know,

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a non-Muslim country.

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Gender is a relevant discussion in this case.

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The case has to be based on, is

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this the right person or not?

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It doesn't matter what this person's gender is.

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And again, it's not an endorsement for her

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or against her.

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That's something you can discuss outside this format.

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And also, we're a non-profit organization, so

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we're not supposed to endorse any candidate per

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se or any candidate in particular.

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But again, going back to my discussion, going

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back to the issue of that in Islam,

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is it allowed for just hypothetically, just looking

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at it from an Islamic, pure Islamic perspective,

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is she allowed to be the khalifa, to

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be the imam for the Muslim?

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As I said, there's a consensus and that

00:29:20 --> 00:29:24

comes from established based on looking at how

00:29:24 --> 00:29:26

things are consistent in Sharia.

00:29:26 --> 00:29:26

Okay.

00:29:27 --> 00:29:32

Also, so there is an agreement among the

00:29:32 --> 00:29:34

early scholars on this issue.

00:29:34 --> 00:29:34

Okay.

00:29:34 --> 00:29:37

Some of them even said that would be

00:29:37 --> 00:29:41

expanded to any kind of, you know, governor,

00:29:41 --> 00:29:43

like the governor of Egypt.

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Even if it's not the khalifa for the

00:29:44 --> 00:29:46

whole Muslim world, it's the khalifa for one

00:29:46 --> 00:29:48

particular country or region.

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Because still he played that role as the

00:29:51 --> 00:29:56

ultimate authority figure in that the country or

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that region.

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In modern days, in modern days, this issue

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is not something of consistency.

00:30:07 --> 00:30:08

Okay.

00:30:08 --> 00:30:11

There is some scholars have challenged that position.

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And they said, that position is based on

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a certain view of how society is built.

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But in modern society today, they said, these

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things that you mentioned are not necessarily in

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the hand of the president.

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In some country, the president is even not

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the one who makes decisions.

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It's the prime minister.

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Okay.

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And even if the president or the prime

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minister, they don't make one, like the final

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decision.

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So for example, not necessarily the khalifa of

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the Muslimin has to lead the hajj.

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Today we have a mufti, a grand mufti

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who can lead the hajj.

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The khalifa can assign or the governor or

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the emir of this region can assign someone

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to be the judge, the chief judge, supreme

00:31:02 --> 00:31:02

court.

00:31:04 --> 00:31:06

You know, he doesn't need to lead that

00:31:06 --> 00:31:06

army.

00:31:07 --> 00:31:09

There is a defense minister who can be

00:31:09 --> 00:31:10

the person in charge of that.

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So it doesn't mean that the woman has

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to be in charge of leading the army

00:31:15 --> 00:31:20

and wearing the uniform and having the mixing

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and the khalwa and all this.

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You can get, you can avoid all this

00:31:26 --> 00:31:30

by dividing these responsibilities to different sections today.

00:31:30 --> 00:31:33

So they came and they argued back saying

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this, and they said that the reason that

00:31:35 --> 00:31:39

when it comes to the issue of husband

00:31:39 --> 00:31:42

and country, she said, yes, she is in

00:31:42 --> 00:31:43

charge of the country.

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But when it comes to her inside her

00:31:46 --> 00:31:49

house, in a personal life, it's still al

00:31:49 --> 00:31:51

-qawamah to her husband in charge.

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You know, and if there is a conflict,

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it can be somehow sorted out.

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They tried to twist that.

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And they said in regard to hadith of

00:32:01 --> 00:32:04

the Prophet ﷺ, there is, people will not,

00:32:04 --> 00:32:07

when he heard about the purging, when the

00:32:07 --> 00:32:09

Kisra died and his daughter became in charge,

00:32:10 --> 00:32:14

they said that the Prophet ﷺ said, people

00:32:14 --> 00:32:17

will not achieve success if a woman lead

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them.

00:32:18 --> 00:32:20

They said that has to do with this

00:32:20 --> 00:32:27

particular incident, with this particular woman and those

00:32:27 --> 00:32:28

particular people.

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But the vast majority of the scholars, even

00:32:32 --> 00:32:34

in modern days, they said, no, the hadith

00:32:34 --> 00:32:34

is general.

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And the hadith talk about, again, this woman

00:32:37 --> 00:32:39

became the ultimate authority in the country.

00:32:39 --> 00:32:43

And they said, you can't just say that

00:32:43 --> 00:32:47

because of the change of the situation, yes,

00:32:47 --> 00:32:48

but in the end of the day, that

00:32:48 --> 00:32:50

person will be in charge of making the

00:32:50 --> 00:32:54

ultimate decision, the war, the expecting from him.

00:32:55 --> 00:32:57

A woman can be, they said, if she

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became in charge and the ultimate authority, how

00:33:00 --> 00:33:03

can you combine this between this and a

00:33:03 --> 00:33:05

woman to play as a role as a

00:33:05 --> 00:33:05

mother?

00:33:05 --> 00:33:06

She has to take care of her children,

00:33:07 --> 00:33:08

she has to take care of her pregnancy

00:33:08 --> 00:33:09

and delivery.

00:33:09 --> 00:33:14

And they said, this particular position, in particular,

00:33:14 --> 00:33:18

does not fit the nature of, that's the

00:33:18 --> 00:33:19

argument, okay?

00:33:20 --> 00:33:23

They said it doesn't go alongside with the

00:33:23 --> 00:33:27

consistent position for a woman and does not

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mean in any case or any form that

00:33:30 --> 00:33:34

she's less or in the sense she is

00:33:34 --> 00:33:39

bad or disqualified or anything like that.

00:33:39 --> 00:33:41

But it's because of the nature of her

00:33:41 --> 00:33:44

position, the nature of her role.

00:33:45 --> 00:33:47

It's like when I say a woman cannot

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lead the prayer, cannot lead Jumu'ah prayer,

00:33:50 --> 00:33:52

not because she doesn't have knowledge, not because

00:33:52 --> 00:33:53

she doesn't know how to recite Qur'an,

00:33:53 --> 00:33:55

not because she doesn't know how to pray,

00:33:56 --> 00:33:58

but that's not a position for a woman

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to do.

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Simple.

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That mind, that infusing mind, that background that

00:34:07 --> 00:34:09

it is so clouded with the issue of

00:34:09 --> 00:34:13

everything, if we say no, it means because

00:34:13 --> 00:34:14

you are bad or because you're not good

00:34:14 --> 00:34:17

or because you're not qualified, that's not something

00:34:17 --> 00:34:20

that was in the back end or in

00:34:20 --> 00:34:23

the head necessarily of the Sharia or at

00:34:23 --> 00:34:26

least in Nabi ﷺ and the Sahaba, not

00:34:26 --> 00:34:28

because they look down upon women and they're

00:34:28 --> 00:34:31

not qualified, no, because it does not fit

00:34:31 --> 00:34:34

the role, this role does not fit the

00:34:34 --> 00:34:37

way that women play a role in society

00:34:37 --> 00:34:37

at large.

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Jazakallah khair, Sheikh.

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Sorry.

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No, no, no, no, no, this, importantly.

00:34:41 --> 00:34:42

Last part?

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Okay.

00:34:42 --> 00:34:43

No, no, this is important.

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Can we say that this applies to every

00:34:48 --> 00:34:48

leadership position?

00:34:50 --> 00:34:53

First of all, I lean towards the majority's

00:34:53 --> 00:34:56

opinion, just to tell you what's my position,

00:34:56 --> 00:34:58

and I lean towards the majority opinion in

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this issue.

00:35:01 --> 00:35:04

But part of what we learn is to

00:35:04 --> 00:35:07

learn the argument on both sides, you know,

00:35:07 --> 00:35:09

so you have a respect.

00:35:09 --> 00:35:11

Don't think that those people who allowed women

00:35:11 --> 00:35:13

to do this just because they feel, you

00:35:13 --> 00:35:15

know, they just want the woman to be

00:35:15 --> 00:35:17

out, and they have also their argument, their

00:35:17 --> 00:35:19

evidence that they use.

00:35:19 --> 00:35:21

And there's more evidence you will learn in

00:35:21 --> 00:35:24

the class that they have from the Salaf,

00:35:24 --> 00:35:25

from the early generations as well.

00:35:26 --> 00:35:28

You can look it up in the modules,

00:35:28 --> 00:35:29

inshallah ta'ala.

00:35:29 --> 00:35:32

They used some of them, Aisha radiallahu anha,

00:35:32 --> 00:35:34

Umar al-Khattab, he appointed women to be

00:35:34 --> 00:35:34

in charge of the market.

00:35:35 --> 00:35:37

But I think most of the evidence that

00:35:37 --> 00:35:39

was used and the incident was used is

00:35:39 --> 00:35:41

to lead me to the important following point.

00:35:41 --> 00:35:44

There is no consensus or agreement when it

00:35:44 --> 00:35:47

comes to women have a leadership over a

00:35:47 --> 00:35:57

particular department or business or entity, because the

00:35:57 --> 00:36:00

reasons behind the khilafah does not apply here.

00:36:00 --> 00:36:03

She's not doing hajj, not the ultimate authority,

00:36:03 --> 00:36:04

you know, blah, blah.

00:36:04 --> 00:36:06

All the reasoning that they brought does not

00:36:06 --> 00:36:08

apply if she's in the principal of the

00:36:08 --> 00:36:10

school, or she is the head of the

00:36:10 --> 00:36:13

education department or ministry, or she is the

00:36:13 --> 00:36:16

head of the company, or she is whatever

00:36:16 --> 00:36:17

position in society.

00:36:18 --> 00:36:20

So I do believe that this is only

00:36:20 --> 00:36:23

restricted to one position only in the state,

00:36:24 --> 00:36:28

which is the khalifah, the khilafah.

00:36:28 --> 00:36:33

Even I have my own, you know, not

00:36:33 --> 00:36:38

strict about it when it comes to an

00:36:38 --> 00:36:42

individual country, you know, as a governor of

00:36:42 --> 00:36:45

a country or a state or something of

00:36:45 --> 00:36:45

that nature.

00:36:46 --> 00:36:48

The only thing I'm 100% positive about,

00:36:49 --> 00:36:51

it is the khilafah, the khalifah, the role

00:36:51 --> 00:36:52

of the khalifah.

00:36:52 --> 00:36:54

This has to be, you know, for a

00:36:54 --> 00:36:56

male, as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

00:36:56 --> 00:36:58

said, the khilafah of the Quraysh, and many

00:36:58 --> 00:37:00

ahadith from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,

00:37:01 --> 00:37:03

and the ijma' of ahl al-ilm, that

00:37:03 --> 00:37:04

this has to be a male when it

00:37:04 --> 00:37:06

comes to that position as the khalifah, which

00:37:06 --> 00:37:08

is the head of the whole entire Muslim

00:37:08 --> 00:37:09

world.

00:37:11 --> 00:37:14

This is basically important to understand, because some

00:37:14 --> 00:37:15

people said, oh, she's not allowed to be

00:37:15 --> 00:37:16

a principal.

00:37:16 --> 00:37:17

No, she's allowed, and there is no proof

00:37:17 --> 00:37:19

to prevent her from doing that, or in

00:37:19 --> 00:37:22

charge of the business, or in charge of

00:37:22 --> 00:37:26

a community, or a head of a board,

00:37:26 --> 00:37:28

or something of that nature.

00:37:28 --> 00:37:31

There is nothing at all to prevent her

00:37:31 --> 00:37:32

from such a thing.

00:37:35 --> 00:37:37

I hope that clarified this position a little

00:37:37 --> 00:37:39

bit more, and may Allah subhanahu wa ta

00:37:39 --> 00:37:42

'ala make it easier for all of us,

00:37:42 --> 00:37:44

and give us success.

00:37:44 --> 00:37:45

Jazakumullah khair, Sheikh.

00:37:45 --> 00:37:47

I know that's a heavy one to tackle,

00:37:47 --> 00:37:50

and to do justice to, without getting flamed

00:37:50 --> 00:37:53

online, and also with being able to give

00:37:53 --> 00:37:55

all the nuance, and all the explanation of

00:37:55 --> 00:37:56

what the scholarly discussion is behind it.

00:37:56 --> 00:37:57

So, jazakumullah khair for giving a lot of

00:37:57 --> 00:38:00

time to that discussion, and not brushing past

00:38:00 --> 00:38:00

it.

00:38:01 --> 00:38:03

I know we had some other intense topics

00:38:03 --> 00:38:05

and questions that we wanted to discuss for

00:38:05 --> 00:38:06

today.

00:38:06 --> 00:38:08

One thing that has come up, that causes

00:38:08 --> 00:38:11

a lot of confusion and frustration sometimes with

00:38:11 --> 00:38:12

women is that, I believe it's a hadith

00:38:12 --> 00:38:14

or something, that is that the majority of

00:38:14 --> 00:38:16

people that are in hellfire are women.

00:38:17 --> 00:38:19

And that's something that can be very kind

00:38:19 --> 00:38:21

of, not just scary, but really kind of

00:38:21 --> 00:38:22

sad to hear as a woman, that we're

00:38:22 --> 00:38:24

more predisposed to going to hellfire.

00:38:25 --> 00:38:27

And I'd love to hear your clarification, and

00:38:27 --> 00:38:30

your explanation of that hadith, and of that

00:38:30 --> 00:38:31

understanding, inshallah.

00:38:32 --> 00:38:34

I have a question for you.

00:38:35 --> 00:38:35

For me.

00:38:35 --> 00:38:38

If I tell you, okay, the majority of

00:38:38 --> 00:38:45

people who get in a car accident, or

00:38:45 --> 00:38:49

end up dying with this cause, are youth

00:38:49 --> 00:38:50

between this age and that age.

00:38:50 --> 00:38:52

What do you understand from a statement like

00:38:52 --> 00:38:52

that?

00:38:54 --> 00:38:57

There's some kind of factual, or some kind

00:38:57 --> 00:38:59

of statistical connection between the way that youth

00:38:59 --> 00:39:00

from that age to that age.

00:39:00 --> 00:39:03

So, what do you think the purpose of

00:39:03 --> 00:39:03

me saying that?

00:39:06 --> 00:39:09

Is to just statistically give you a warning,

00:39:09 --> 00:39:11

to be more careful with kids?

00:39:11 --> 00:39:11

Exactly.

00:39:12 --> 00:39:12

Okay.

00:39:12 --> 00:39:13

Exactly.

00:39:13 --> 00:39:14

You know what?

00:39:14 --> 00:39:15

Moral people, warning.

00:39:15 --> 00:39:17

So, in Nabi ﷺ, when he said that,

00:39:17 --> 00:39:19

or Islam told us that, it's not to

00:39:19 --> 00:39:21

condemn, it's to warn you.

00:39:23 --> 00:39:24

Don't take it in the wrong way.

00:39:25 --> 00:39:26

When Islam told you, be careful, a lot

00:39:26 --> 00:39:27

of women go to hellfire.

00:39:29 --> 00:39:30

So, be careful.

00:39:30 --> 00:39:31

Don't be among those.

00:39:32 --> 00:39:34

It's not saying, you guys doomed them bad.

00:39:34 --> 00:39:35

No.

00:39:35 --> 00:39:36

You're not saying all women are going to

00:39:36 --> 00:39:36

hellfire.

00:39:37 --> 00:39:38

A lot of women will be in hellfire.

00:39:39 --> 00:39:41

So, that's the first step, that when you

00:39:41 --> 00:39:44

hear that, because Allah ﷻ and his Messenger

00:39:44 --> 00:39:48

ﷺ, first question, is this hadith authentic?

00:39:48 --> 00:39:49

Yes, it's authentic.

00:39:49 --> 00:39:50

Okay.

00:39:50 --> 00:39:51

Is this something the Prophet ﷺ said?

00:39:51 --> 00:39:52

Yes, yeah.

00:39:52 --> 00:39:52

Right.

00:39:53 --> 00:39:55

Second thing, we have to understand Allah ﷻ

00:39:55 --> 00:39:58

loves us, and Muhammad ﷺ loves us, and

00:39:58 --> 00:39:59

he cares about us.

00:39:59 --> 00:40:01

So, he said this out of love and

00:40:01 --> 00:40:04

care, to warn you, be careful.

00:40:05 --> 00:40:06

And he said, why?

00:40:06 --> 00:40:08

And he said, because a lot of women

00:40:08 --> 00:40:11

curse, a lot of women are ungrateful.

00:40:11 --> 00:40:12

So, be careful.

00:40:13 --> 00:40:14

Don't be like that, and you will not

00:40:14 --> 00:40:16

end up there.

00:40:16 --> 00:40:18

So, this hadith came from a position of

00:40:18 --> 00:40:20

love and care and warning.

00:40:21 --> 00:40:23

This is the first thing I should care

00:40:23 --> 00:40:25

about, and that should be my focus.

00:40:25 --> 00:40:27

How can I avoid being among the people

00:40:27 --> 00:40:28

of hellfire?

00:40:28 --> 00:40:30

Not to say, oh Allah, why are you

00:40:30 --> 00:40:31

saying this about us?

00:40:31 --> 00:40:32

What should we do?

00:40:32 --> 00:40:34

Yeah, he told you, but nobody's going to

00:40:34 --> 00:40:36

enter hellfire because of their gender.

00:40:38 --> 00:40:40

You enter hellfire because of your action.

00:40:40 --> 00:40:42

So, and the Prophet ﷺ warning us.

00:40:43 --> 00:40:45

I want to raise a point, something that's

00:40:45 --> 00:40:46

mentioned in the chat a few times.

00:40:46 --> 00:40:48

I think the issue is not often just

00:40:48 --> 00:40:50

with the hadith itself, or like our perception

00:40:50 --> 00:40:51

or understanding of it.

00:40:51 --> 00:40:53

It's the fact that it's used often to

00:40:53 --> 00:40:55

weaponize against women.

00:40:55 --> 00:40:57

You know, men, specifically Muslim men, will then

00:40:57 --> 00:40:58

make that as a critique of like, see,

00:40:58 --> 00:41:00

look at you, Pete, you know, you women

00:41:00 --> 00:41:01

are like this, or you women are like

00:41:01 --> 00:41:02

this.

00:41:02 --> 00:41:02

It's because of this.

00:41:03 --> 00:41:04

Absolutely.

00:41:04 --> 00:41:11

Once in a conference, you know, it is

00:41:13 --> 00:41:15

one in a conference once, a brother was

00:41:15 --> 00:41:17

like, you know, there's multiple speaker, and the

00:41:17 --> 00:41:18

emcee was a sister.

00:41:19 --> 00:41:20

So, she did not manage the time well,

00:41:21 --> 00:41:22

you know, like many other people.

00:41:22 --> 00:41:24

So, he got like less time than we're

00:41:24 --> 00:41:25

supposed to.

00:41:25 --> 00:41:28

And starts his speech with the Prophet ﷺ

00:41:28 --> 00:41:28

said the truth.

00:41:29 --> 00:41:32

Any people let their affair led by a

00:41:32 --> 00:41:33

woman, it will be corrupted.

00:41:36 --> 00:41:38

He is angry at her.

00:41:39 --> 00:41:42

He is mad at her management.

00:41:42 --> 00:41:43

It's not her fault.

00:41:43 --> 00:41:47

It's the speakers, your own, your male speakers

00:41:47 --> 00:41:50

that's next to you, are the one who

00:41:50 --> 00:41:51

messed up their time, did not listen.

00:41:52 --> 00:41:55

Okay, now he take his frustration, what, how?

00:41:55 --> 00:41:57

By using the evidence.

00:41:57 --> 00:42:01

That's a very bad way of using evidence,

00:42:01 --> 00:42:03

you know, against your sister.

00:42:05 --> 00:42:10

You know, exactly, you know, it might be

00:42:10 --> 00:42:12

a little bit out of line, but I

00:42:12 --> 00:42:13

still think it is perfect.

00:42:14 --> 00:42:18

You know, there is this brother who made

00:42:18 --> 00:42:20

this sign.

00:42:21 --> 00:42:23

And it says, the Prophet ﷺ said, when

00:42:23 --> 00:42:26

you do, Allah loves it, when you do

00:42:26 --> 00:42:29

something that you do it correct and perfect.

00:42:30 --> 00:42:32

He put it for his wife in the

00:42:32 --> 00:42:33

kitchen.

00:42:34 --> 00:42:36

Then she took it from the kitchen and

00:42:36 --> 00:42:37

put it somewhere else.

00:42:38 --> 00:42:41

Yeah, now, to get him back, you know,

00:42:41 --> 00:42:44

and you know what, he deserve it.

00:42:44 --> 00:42:46

I should have known there's some way you

00:42:46 --> 00:42:48

would sneak a dad joke into this, into

00:42:48 --> 00:42:48

this.

00:42:49 --> 00:42:50

It's not a dad joke.

00:42:50 --> 00:42:51

It's a true story.

00:42:52 --> 00:42:55

You know, so what I'm saying is, you're

00:42:55 --> 00:42:58

organizing the evidence into a personal level.

00:42:59 --> 00:43:00

This is mocking the religion.

00:43:00 --> 00:43:01

That's haram.

00:43:02 --> 00:43:03

Okay, it's like for me, when I talk

00:43:03 --> 00:43:06

to a woman, about is it allowed for

00:43:06 --> 00:43:07

a man to give salam to a woman,

00:43:07 --> 00:43:08

a woman to reply to salam?

00:43:09 --> 00:43:09

Yes, it is allowed.

00:43:09 --> 00:43:12

But if someone use this as a way

00:43:12 --> 00:43:15

to hit a woman, to seduce a woman,

00:43:15 --> 00:43:18

you taking the religion for your personal desire,

00:43:18 --> 00:43:19

that's haram.

00:43:21 --> 00:43:23

That's absolutely law.

00:43:24 --> 00:43:26

And it's not acceptable.

00:43:28 --> 00:43:31

So this is just sad when you see

00:43:31 --> 00:43:32

people you do that.

00:43:32 --> 00:43:35

Going back to what we're saying earlier, in

00:43:35 --> 00:43:40

regard to the issue that you mentioned in

00:43:40 --> 00:43:45

regard to the, what was your original question,

00:43:45 --> 00:43:47

the original point, the second question that you

00:43:47 --> 00:43:50

have in regard to the hadith, people of

00:43:50 --> 00:43:50

hellfire.

00:43:51 --> 00:43:52

So it's an advice.

00:43:52 --> 00:43:57

Also, the reason there is more women in

00:43:57 --> 00:44:00

hellfire than men, okay, it is because the

00:44:00 --> 00:44:03

number of women will be way more than

00:44:03 --> 00:44:04

the number of men.

00:44:05 --> 00:44:07

The Prophet ﷺ said for every woman will

00:44:07 --> 00:44:10

be 50 women and one man.

00:44:11 --> 00:44:13

And we know in the end of the

00:44:13 --> 00:44:16

days, closer to the Day of Judgment, the

00:44:16 --> 00:44:19

overwhelming majority of people will not be Muslim.

00:44:21 --> 00:44:23

So that's why there's so many women in

00:44:23 --> 00:44:27

hellfire, you know, in numbers, because their numbers

00:44:27 --> 00:44:30

is much, much bigger than men, especially in

00:44:30 --> 00:44:31

the end of the day.

00:44:31 --> 00:44:34

And you know, Hafsa, Abu Huraira r.a,

00:44:34 --> 00:44:38

they were asking him, the Sahaba were debating,

00:44:38 --> 00:44:41

is there is more women in Jannah than

00:44:41 --> 00:44:42

men or not?

00:44:43 --> 00:44:45

And actually, whatever I said, yes, there is.

00:44:47 --> 00:44:49

Yeah, so it's not only to women, so

00:44:49 --> 00:44:52

there's, you know, more female in Jannah than

00:44:52 --> 00:44:53

men.

00:44:53 --> 00:44:56

So it goes also in another way.

00:44:57 --> 00:44:59

And there is a whole discussion over this,

00:44:59 --> 00:45:01

you know, because also Hur and Ain are

00:45:01 --> 00:45:04

female, you know, and so many things like

00:45:04 --> 00:45:06

this, al-Ulama r.a have mentioned.

00:45:07 --> 00:45:09

So Allah ﷻ is not against or in

00:45:09 --> 00:45:14

favor of anybody, favoring someone or discriminate between

00:45:14 --> 00:45:15

us based on our gender.

00:45:16 --> 00:45:17

This is not the case in Shari'ah.

00:45:18 --> 00:45:19

Yeah.

00:45:19 --> 00:45:20

Jazakum Allah khair for that clarification, Sheikh.

00:45:21 --> 00:45:22

Again, we can't do justice to every topic,

00:45:22 --> 00:45:25

but I hope that gives some clarity.

00:45:25 --> 00:45:26

And it's important, I think what the one

00:45:26 --> 00:45:28

point that you said earlier, which was that,

00:45:28 --> 00:45:31

you know, mocking women using hadith and weaponizing

00:45:31 --> 00:45:34

religion is haram, you know, using...

00:45:34 --> 00:45:37

Zuhra, Zuhra asking, I just said, Abu Huraira

00:45:37 --> 00:45:39

r.a, there was a debate happened in

00:45:39 --> 00:45:41

front of him and he was asked, some

00:45:41 --> 00:45:43

people said the majority of people in Jannah

00:45:43 --> 00:45:46

are female and also more than, there is

00:45:46 --> 00:45:47

more female than male.

00:45:48 --> 00:45:50

Okay, then Abu Huraira r.a mentioned that,

00:45:50 --> 00:45:52

yes, for every man, there will be like

00:45:52 --> 00:45:56

two women or, you know, so that means,

00:45:56 --> 00:45:59

or two women, like referring to al-Hurain,

00:45:59 --> 00:46:00

so that means there is more female than

00:46:00 --> 00:46:02

male in Jannah as well.

00:46:03 --> 00:46:07

So, you know, again, it's the issue of

00:46:07 --> 00:46:09

there's more number of women than men.

00:46:10 --> 00:46:12

It has not to do with the gender

00:46:12 --> 00:46:12

itself.

00:46:14 --> 00:46:15

Awesome, Saas.

00:46:15 --> 00:46:16

Jazakum Allah khair, Sheikh, for that clarification.

00:46:16 --> 00:46:19

I do challenge you guys, especially those who

00:46:19 --> 00:46:21

are feeling, you know, like it can be

00:46:21 --> 00:46:23

a very triggering kind of environment or topic,

00:46:23 --> 00:46:25

that I challenge you guys to actually register

00:46:25 --> 00:46:27

for the class for Complicated Online, the A

00:46:27 --> 00:46:29

to Z of Modern Women's Book, that is

00:46:29 --> 00:46:30

the basis of this discussion.

00:46:31 --> 00:46:32

And, you know, go through all the modules.

00:46:33 --> 00:46:34

We cover everything from the beginning of a

00:46:34 --> 00:46:36

female's life, all the fiqh, all the rulings,

00:46:36 --> 00:46:38

everything that has an impact on her existence

00:46:38 --> 00:46:40

as a Muslimah, all the way to the

00:46:40 --> 00:46:40

very end of her life.

00:46:41 --> 00:46:43

And you'll find, especially as you delve deeper

00:46:43 --> 00:46:44

and you have more time to ask questions

00:46:44 --> 00:46:47

and to find the responses, that this will

00:46:47 --> 00:46:48

be the course that's the answer to all

00:46:48 --> 00:46:50

of your prayers and all your frustrations as

00:46:50 --> 00:46:50

a woman.

00:46:51 --> 00:46:52

So, inshallah, I look forward to you guys

00:46:52 --> 00:46:54

continuing that discussion with us, inshallah, inside the

00:46:54 --> 00:46:56

course and getting a chance to do justice

00:46:56 --> 00:46:57

to this conversation.

00:46:58 --> 00:47:01

Another thing, Sheikh, that is a little interesting,

00:47:01 --> 00:47:02

that this is still prevalent, or this is

00:47:02 --> 00:47:04

still a conversation point, or this is brought

00:47:04 --> 00:47:08

up, is this discussion around, what do you

00:47:08 --> 00:47:10

call it, around divorce, and specifically because the

00:47:10 --> 00:47:11

divorce statistics, as we, you know, at this

00:47:11 --> 00:47:13

module in the course, and we discussed it

00:47:13 --> 00:47:15

as well, are pretty high, but that women

00:47:15 --> 00:47:18

who initiate a divorce do not smell the

00:47:18 --> 00:47:18

fragrance of Jannah.

00:47:18 --> 00:47:19

And this, I believe, is also from an

00:47:19 --> 00:47:22

authentic hadith that a woman who is the

00:47:22 --> 00:47:24

one who is initiating, she will not go

00:47:24 --> 00:47:25

to Jannah as well.

00:47:25 --> 00:47:26

This is linked, I guess, to the previous

00:47:26 --> 00:47:27

topic we just covered.

00:47:27 --> 00:47:28

Can you give us some more clarification on

00:47:28 --> 00:47:31

what this means and what that actually is

00:47:31 --> 00:47:32

meant to, you know, express?

00:47:35 --> 00:47:36

The hadith of the Prophet, peace be upon

00:47:36 --> 00:47:39

him, about a woman who is asking her

00:47:39 --> 00:47:42

husband for a divorce, asking for a divorce,

00:47:42 --> 00:47:44

will not smell the fragrance of Jannah, said

00:47:44 --> 00:47:48

that, if you take this hadith, the way

00:47:48 --> 00:47:51

it sounds like that, just like the sound,

00:47:51 --> 00:47:54

it will contradict a rule in Islam, which

00:47:54 --> 00:47:55

is called khul'a, which is a woman

00:47:55 --> 00:47:59

asked to divorce her husband, and she is

00:47:59 --> 00:48:01

allowed to ask for a divorce.

00:48:02 --> 00:48:06

And the Prophet, peace be upon a woman,

00:48:06 --> 00:48:09

without her permission, her daughter, he asked her,

00:48:09 --> 00:48:11

he said, you have a choice to reject

00:48:11 --> 00:48:14

this marriage and to nullify the marriage, because

00:48:14 --> 00:48:16

you never were consent, were never taken.

00:48:17 --> 00:48:18

And if you want to consent to what

00:48:18 --> 00:48:19

your father did, it's up to you.

00:48:20 --> 00:48:21

So that means she can initiate.

00:48:21 --> 00:48:22

He said, no, I don't want this marriage.

00:48:23 --> 00:48:25

I was never, I never gave my consent

00:48:25 --> 00:48:25

to it.

00:48:26 --> 00:48:28

So if this is the case, there is

00:48:28 --> 00:48:29

a contradiction.

00:48:29 --> 00:48:30

So al-'ilm, rahim Allah, said that in the

00:48:30 --> 00:48:32

hadith that she will not find the fragrance

00:48:32 --> 00:48:33

of Jannah.

00:48:33 --> 00:48:36

If a woman asks that because she has

00:48:36 --> 00:48:40

a boyfriend hidden, because she just married for

00:48:40 --> 00:48:42

the sake of, you know, just spend coming

00:48:42 --> 00:48:44

night with him, or take his money and

00:48:44 --> 00:48:46

leave, you know, she's not really committed to

00:48:46 --> 00:48:47

the marriage.

00:48:47 --> 00:48:49

She took the marriage as just a mean

00:48:49 --> 00:48:51

either to fulfill her desires, or to make

00:48:51 --> 00:48:53

money out of the guy, or because she

00:48:53 --> 00:48:55

has another boyfriend and relationship, you know, or

00:48:55 --> 00:48:58

a boyfriend on the side, and that's why

00:48:58 --> 00:48:59

she want to leave the marriage for that.

00:49:00 --> 00:49:02

That's what it is the hadith talking about,

00:49:02 --> 00:49:04

for a woman who does that for that

00:49:04 --> 00:49:04

purpose.

00:49:04 --> 00:49:07

But if a woman don't, she, some people,

00:49:08 --> 00:49:11

I had a divorce case recently, and the

00:49:11 --> 00:49:13

guy was telling me, what's the base for

00:49:13 --> 00:49:13

khuluq?

00:49:14 --> 00:49:15

I mean, why she wants to make khuluq

00:49:15 --> 00:49:16

for me?

00:49:16 --> 00:49:19

I said, she doesn't want to be with

00:49:19 --> 00:49:19

you.

00:49:21 --> 00:49:22

He said, that's not a base.

00:49:22 --> 00:49:22

I said, it is.

00:49:23 --> 00:49:25

She just said, I don't want to live

00:49:25 --> 00:49:25

with this man anymore.

00:49:28 --> 00:49:28

Is that enough?

00:49:29 --> 00:49:29

Yes, enough.

00:49:29 --> 00:49:31

A woman came to the Prophet ﷺ.

00:49:31 --> 00:49:33

See how the Prophet ﷺ, a woman came,

00:49:33 --> 00:49:36

said, Ya Rasulullah, I can't, I don't want

00:49:36 --> 00:49:38

to do something which is part of the

00:49:38 --> 00:49:40

kufr, to be ungrateful, to be, you know,

00:49:40 --> 00:49:44

not cooperative, not to, you know, ring your

00:49:44 --> 00:49:44

husband.

00:49:45 --> 00:49:45

That's not good.

00:49:46 --> 00:49:47

She said, I can't do that.

00:49:47 --> 00:49:48

I can't stand this man.

00:49:48 --> 00:49:49

I can't even look at his face.

00:49:51 --> 00:49:53

And in some narration, he was not attractive

00:49:53 --> 00:49:55

at all to her, you know.

00:49:56 --> 00:49:58

So she said, I can't, I don't want,

00:49:58 --> 00:49:59

that's the only reason, nothing.

00:50:00 --> 00:50:03

She said, I do not have anything against

00:50:03 --> 00:50:06

his deen, his religiosity, or his khuluq.

00:50:06 --> 00:50:08

He is very well-mannered, he's very religious,

00:50:09 --> 00:50:10

but I just can't stand him.

00:50:11 --> 00:50:13

And the Prophet ﷺ didn't say, shame on

00:50:13 --> 00:50:15

you, what's the base for this?

00:50:15 --> 00:50:17

No, he said, just give him back his

00:50:17 --> 00:50:18

mahaf, and let's just call it off.

00:50:19 --> 00:50:21

Sheikh, I have someone asking for clarification.

00:50:21 --> 00:50:23

So I think some of what's causing, like,

00:50:23 --> 00:50:26

the frustration is, how come the hadith wasn't

00:50:26 --> 00:50:26

clear on this?

00:50:26 --> 00:50:28

Like, why does it require so much context?

00:50:28 --> 00:50:30

I know that we have other hadith that

00:50:30 --> 00:50:31

give us so much explanation.

00:50:32 --> 00:50:37

That's how the nature of every speech, this

00:50:37 --> 00:50:38

is the nature of talk.

00:50:38 --> 00:50:40

That's why we don't base, that's why you're

00:50:40 --> 00:50:42

not supposed to make a rule.

00:50:42 --> 00:50:44

You're supposed to ask the appeal of the

00:50:44 --> 00:50:44

scholars.

00:50:44 --> 00:50:47

That's why we combine things together.

00:50:48 --> 00:50:50

We don't take one evidence by itself.

00:50:51 --> 00:50:54

So that hadith will remain for those women

00:50:54 --> 00:50:57

who, divorce for them is something, like, easy.

00:50:58 --> 00:51:00

Every, like, there are some people, like, every

00:51:00 --> 00:51:02

couple of months, oh, I divorce him, and

00:51:02 --> 00:51:02

I take another one.

00:51:02 --> 00:51:04

I divorce him, I take another one.

00:51:04 --> 00:51:06

That hadith will apply to somebody like that.

00:51:07 --> 00:51:09

It scares the person, you know?

00:51:09 --> 00:51:10

You know what?

00:51:10 --> 00:51:12

Don't commit to marriage, unless you're really committed

00:51:12 --> 00:51:12

to it, too.

00:51:13 --> 00:51:15

But if it's happened, alhamdulillah, shari'ah give

00:51:15 --> 00:51:17

you also exits, and give you way.

00:51:18 --> 00:51:20

You're never going to live with someone you

00:51:20 --> 00:51:20

can't live with.

00:51:21 --> 00:51:23

Shari'ah cannot force you to live with

00:51:23 --> 00:51:24

someone that you don't want.

00:51:25 --> 00:51:27

I think this is why...

00:51:28 --> 00:51:30

That's why we have a rule called khul.

00:51:31 --> 00:51:34

The woman have the power to terminate the

00:51:34 --> 00:51:34

marriage.

00:51:34 --> 00:51:36

Divorce in the hand of the man, to

00:51:36 --> 00:51:37

terminate the marriage.

00:51:37 --> 00:51:40

Man does not need justification for the divorce.

00:51:40 --> 00:51:42

If he said, I don't want divorce, I

00:51:42 --> 00:51:44

don't love this woman anymore.

00:51:45 --> 00:51:46

You know, I don't make an investigation.

00:51:46 --> 00:51:48

I try to make solace between him and

00:51:48 --> 00:51:50

her, so he can say, no, no, I

00:51:50 --> 00:51:50

don't.

00:51:51 --> 00:51:54

And also, termination of the marriage can come

00:51:54 --> 00:51:55

from a judge.

00:51:55 --> 00:51:57

Let's say the woman said, I don't want

00:51:57 --> 00:51:58

to do khul, I don't want to give

00:51:58 --> 00:52:01

him his mahr back, and he is not

00:52:01 --> 00:52:03

willing to divorce me, and he's abusing me.

00:52:05 --> 00:52:07

The judge have the power to tell him,

00:52:07 --> 00:52:08

you divorce her.

00:52:08 --> 00:52:10

He said, no, he said, I divorce her

00:52:10 --> 00:52:11

in your behalf.

00:52:12 --> 00:52:13

Forgive me if I'm wrong.

00:52:13 --> 00:52:17

You don't have even to consent to it.

00:52:18 --> 00:52:21

Because I protect the rights of people here.

00:52:21 --> 00:52:22

So a lot of people think that there

00:52:22 --> 00:52:23

is kind of ultimate power.

00:52:24 --> 00:52:25

There's no ultimate power.

00:52:27 --> 00:52:29

I think this is why it's important when

00:52:29 --> 00:52:32

we take hadith in their singularity.

00:52:32 --> 00:52:34

And hadith can be something that's authentic, that's

00:52:34 --> 00:52:36

recorded in a specific context.

00:52:36 --> 00:52:37

And this is why we have ulama.

00:52:37 --> 00:52:40

This is why we have shuyukh to explain

00:52:40 --> 00:52:42

where the applications are, a legal application, where

00:52:42 --> 00:52:45

it's actually relevant, and where it's specific to

00:52:45 --> 00:52:46

a specific situation.

00:52:46 --> 00:52:47

Because I know there's so many hadith I've

00:52:47 --> 00:52:49

learned from you, and in the course of

00:52:49 --> 00:52:50

this class, the complicated course as well, in

00:52:50 --> 00:52:52

terms of the different scenarios in which a

00:52:52 --> 00:52:54

woman can ask for divorce, and through our

00:52:54 --> 00:52:55

Q&As and all the clarification that we

00:52:55 --> 00:52:56

received.

00:52:56 --> 00:52:58

And there's such a breadth of openness.

00:52:58 --> 00:52:59

And there's a reason why this is something

00:52:59 --> 00:53:02

that, it may be of the disliked of

00:53:02 --> 00:53:03

the things that Allah allows, but it's definitely

00:53:03 --> 00:53:04

something that's allowed.

00:53:04 --> 00:53:06

So it's important to get your reason.

00:53:06 --> 00:53:08

You know what's interesting?

00:53:09 --> 00:53:11

Recently, somebody asked me to come to the

00:53:11 --> 00:53:15

court, to give a testimonial over what a

00:53:15 --> 00:53:18

woman in divorce in Islam deserve financial, her

00:53:18 --> 00:53:19

financial rights.

00:53:20 --> 00:53:23

He thought that he, if he go with

00:53:23 --> 00:53:26

sharia, he gonna end up like paying like

00:53:26 --> 00:53:28

some, like maybe $2,000 and get out

00:53:28 --> 00:53:29

of it.

00:53:29 --> 00:53:31

You know, okay, you have $500 for that

00:53:31 --> 00:53:35

three months, that's $1,500 and $500 more,

00:53:35 --> 00:53:36

maybe I'm out.

00:53:36 --> 00:53:39

Then, yeah, so when I came and I

00:53:39 --> 00:53:42

explained exactly what she deserved financially, he found

00:53:42 --> 00:53:45

out it's cheaper to go with that American

00:53:45 --> 00:53:45

law.

00:53:46 --> 00:53:49

So he flipped, he flipped.

00:53:49 --> 00:53:50

He said, I don't want the sharia.

00:53:54 --> 00:53:57

And it isn't look, people have this like

00:53:57 --> 00:54:01

thinking like, unfortunately, and people twist things just

00:54:01 --> 00:54:03

for, I don't care if it is more

00:54:03 --> 00:54:05

or less, that's not how I look at

00:54:05 --> 00:54:05

it.

00:54:05 --> 00:54:06

I look at it what Islam have given,

00:54:07 --> 00:54:09

what Islam has been just with everyone.

00:54:13 --> 00:54:15

So it is important for us to learn

00:54:15 --> 00:54:16

our deen.

00:54:17 --> 00:54:18

And we have to learn, there are certain

00:54:18 --> 00:54:21

things you might not like in the religion.

00:54:21 --> 00:54:23

But that's Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala in

00:54:23 --> 00:54:26

the end of the day, he is, he

00:54:26 --> 00:54:28

knows what he created.

00:54:28 --> 00:54:31

If he says, a woman cannot do this,

00:54:31 --> 00:54:32

cannot do this.

00:54:32 --> 00:54:34

He said, woman not allowed to do this,

00:54:34 --> 00:54:34

woman not allowed to do that.

00:54:34 --> 00:54:36

He knows you better than yourself.

00:54:37 --> 00:54:39

If he said, men not allowed to do

00:54:39 --> 00:54:41

this, men are not allowed to do that.

00:54:41 --> 00:54:42

Because he know you better.

00:54:43 --> 00:54:45

And we have to learn how to submit

00:54:45 --> 00:54:46

to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala as well.

00:54:47 --> 00:54:48

And to trust him too.

00:54:49 --> 00:54:50

JazakAllah khair Sheikh.

00:54:50 --> 00:54:51

I know I want to recognize that we're

00:54:51 --> 00:54:53

a little bit past the hour and we

00:54:53 --> 00:54:54

haven't had a chance to cover everything.

00:54:54 --> 00:54:56

I know there's a lot of very specific

00:54:56 --> 00:54:59

questions coming in about people's personal situations and

00:54:59 --> 00:55:01

their scenarios and what would connect and relate

00:55:01 --> 00:55:02

to their relationships.

00:55:02 --> 00:55:03

I do implore you guys to make sure

00:55:03 --> 00:55:05

you check out at the very least go

00:55:05 --> 00:55:06

to complicated.online and check out what the

00:55:06 --> 00:55:07

course is about.

00:55:07 --> 00:55:09

But there's so much more nuance and there's

00:55:09 --> 00:55:11

so much more specific, you know, situations that

00:55:11 --> 00:55:13

we discuss through the sessions and in the

00:55:13 --> 00:55:15

live Q&As where you can ask questions

00:55:15 --> 00:55:17

and we have an entire hour just dedicated

00:55:17 --> 00:55:19

to questions that we're answering for you guys

00:55:19 --> 00:55:19

inshallah.

00:55:20 --> 00:55:21

I know we won't be able to take

00:55:21 --> 00:55:23

all the dozens, mashallah, that are coming in

00:55:23 --> 00:55:24

publicly and privately in chat.

00:55:24 --> 00:55:25

So I want to make sure you guys

00:55:25 --> 00:55:26

have an opportunity that you don't leave this

00:55:26 --> 00:55:28

session without an avenue of getting those questions

00:55:28 --> 00:55:28

answered.

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With that said, the last thing I want

00:55:30 --> 00:55:33

to touch on, I know we had some

00:55:33 --> 00:55:35

intense kind of topics.

00:55:35 --> 00:55:36

We'll keep it kind of light as we

00:55:36 --> 00:55:38

close off because it's not as common, I

00:55:38 --> 00:55:40

don't think, in the Muslim community right now.

00:55:40 --> 00:55:42

But something that has become a bit more

00:55:42 --> 00:55:44

popular in the West and a bit more

00:55:44 --> 00:55:47

like you maybe see in celebrity culture and

00:55:47 --> 00:55:48

things like that is surrogacy.

00:55:49 --> 00:55:51

And I know when we were discussing this

00:55:51 --> 00:55:53

topic, Sheikh, you mentioned that even Pope Francis

00:55:53 --> 00:55:55

came out earlier this year and he put

00:55:55 --> 00:55:57

out a very strong statement against the topic

00:55:57 --> 00:55:58

of surrogacy.

00:55:58 --> 00:56:00

And he said, like I quote, I deem

00:56:00 --> 00:56:02

deplorable the practice of so-called surrogate motherhood,

00:56:02 --> 00:56:04

which represents a grave violation of the dignity

00:56:04 --> 00:56:06

of the woman and the child based on

00:56:06 --> 00:56:08

the exploitation of the situations of the mother's

00:56:08 --> 00:56:09

material needs.

00:56:10 --> 00:56:11

That's very strong wording.

00:56:11 --> 00:56:12

And I know some European countries have their

00:56:12 --> 00:56:13

own rulings on it.

00:56:13 --> 00:56:15

American states deal with it independently.

00:56:15 --> 00:56:17

In Canada, you can't pay for it, but

00:56:17 --> 00:56:18

it can be done altruistically.

00:56:18 --> 00:56:21

What is the Islamic kind of mindset around

00:56:21 --> 00:56:24

this as adoption, as fertilization of eggs and

00:56:24 --> 00:56:25

egg freezing and things like that become more

00:56:25 --> 00:56:26

common?

00:56:26 --> 00:56:27

Where is our stance on surrogacy?

00:56:30 --> 00:56:30

Absolutely.

00:56:31 --> 00:56:32

First of all, I just want to say

00:56:33 --> 00:56:35

Qur'an and Sunnah, the hadith of the

00:56:35 --> 00:56:39

Prophet ﷺ is authentic and sound, is as

00:56:39 --> 00:56:41

authority as the Qur'an, no different level

00:56:41 --> 00:56:42

of authority.

00:56:43 --> 00:56:44

And as some verses are ambiguous, are not

00:56:44 --> 00:56:48

clear, some hadith are not clear, some ayat

00:56:48 --> 00:56:50

are obligated, some hadith are obligated.

00:56:50 --> 00:56:52

You know, and so we have to understand

00:56:52 --> 00:56:56

both in the light of knowledge, how the

00:56:56 --> 00:56:58

early generations have understood the meaning of it,

00:56:58 --> 00:57:02

and applying this to our modern life, this

00:57:02 --> 00:57:03

has to do with the scholars.

00:57:03 --> 00:57:05

And that's why this course is about fatawa

00:57:05 --> 00:57:07

more than laying rules.

00:57:08 --> 00:57:11

Like there's about 400 something questions I answer

00:57:11 --> 00:57:12

in this course.

00:57:12 --> 00:57:16

So it is very go down to every

00:57:16 --> 00:57:17

day kind of situation.

00:57:18 --> 00:57:20

What I do if I have to go

00:57:20 --> 00:57:22

study, for example, on abroad in another state,

00:57:23 --> 00:57:24

and I leave my family, I'm allowed to

00:57:24 --> 00:57:24

do this.

00:57:24 --> 00:57:26

I'm allowed to have a night shift to

00:57:26 --> 00:57:26

work.

00:57:27 --> 00:57:29

So it's a very specific to, not just

00:57:29 --> 00:57:31

work rules are for women, one, two, three.

00:57:31 --> 00:57:34

No, we deal with real issues in the

00:57:34 --> 00:57:34

course.

00:57:35 --> 00:57:37

So, but as the rules, I just want

00:57:37 --> 00:57:38

to make sure to understand that.

00:57:39 --> 00:57:43

Surrogates, it means that you ask a woman

00:57:43 --> 00:57:45

to bear the child.

00:57:46 --> 00:57:53

And surrogate woman can be the baby's, basically

00:57:53 --> 00:57:57

the woman egg fertilized by the husband.

00:57:57 --> 00:58:01

So the mother and the father are married

00:58:01 --> 00:58:03

to each other, but the fertile eggs will

00:58:03 --> 00:58:05

be taken and put it in a third

00:58:05 --> 00:58:06

person's womb.

00:58:06 --> 00:58:08

That's haram by the consensus of the Muslim

00:58:08 --> 00:58:09

scholars today.

00:58:09 --> 00:58:13

Okay, because still the child will be fed

00:58:13 --> 00:58:15

and will be nurtured by the blood of

00:58:15 --> 00:58:16

the surrogate woman.

00:58:16 --> 00:58:19

And that will make her a mother to

00:58:19 --> 00:58:20

that child.

00:58:21 --> 00:58:23

And it's not allowed because Nabi salallahu alayhi

00:58:23 --> 00:58:25

wa sallam did not allow for a man

00:58:25 --> 00:58:28

to put his sperm in somebody else's womb,

00:58:29 --> 00:58:31

which is not halal.

00:58:31 --> 00:58:32

It's not wa'if for you.

00:58:32 --> 00:58:32

Okay.

00:58:33 --> 00:58:35

And this is will be khalq lil-ansab,

00:58:36 --> 00:58:39

basically mixing between the lineage.

00:58:39 --> 00:58:42

And it is not allowed by the consensus

00:58:42 --> 00:58:43

of the Muslim scholar today.

00:58:44 --> 00:58:47

And that's where I stand with the ijma'

00:58:47 --> 00:58:48

of ahl al-ilm today.

00:58:48 --> 00:58:49

So it's not allowed.

00:58:50 --> 00:58:54

And we have to come to a terms

00:58:54 --> 00:58:56

that, you know what, He creates some of

00:58:56 --> 00:58:59

us, gives some of us female, some of

00:58:59 --> 00:59:01

us male, some of us, we use a

00:59:01 --> 00:59:03

wudu in the Quran when we have male

00:59:03 --> 00:59:04

and female children.

00:59:06 --> 00:59:07

And some of us will not have children.

00:59:08 --> 00:59:11

Even al-ulamah said among prophets and messengers,

00:59:11 --> 00:59:13

some of them had male only, some have

00:59:13 --> 00:59:15

female only children, and some of them had

00:59:15 --> 00:59:17

male females, and some of them had no

00:59:17 --> 00:59:18

children at all.

00:59:19 --> 00:59:22

You know, like they said, he did not

00:59:22 --> 00:59:23

have a child, children.

00:59:23 --> 00:59:27

So even among the prophets themselves, to show

00:59:27 --> 00:59:28

that this is how Allah Subh'anaHu Wa

00:59:28 --> 00:59:29

Ta-A'la created people.

00:59:30 --> 00:59:34

In any case, so whenever Allah Subh'anaHu

00:59:34 --> 00:59:36

Wa Ta-A'la did not allow you

00:59:36 --> 00:59:39

to have children, for wisdom, be grateful to

00:59:39 --> 00:59:40

Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la.

00:59:41 --> 00:59:44

Obviously, if the egg from the surrogate woman

00:59:44 --> 00:59:46

and not related to you, and you just

00:59:46 --> 00:59:50

take her eggs and fertilize it with the

00:59:50 --> 00:59:52

sperm of the husband and put it back

00:59:52 --> 00:59:55

in the woman, that's even more haram, you

00:59:55 --> 00:59:56

know, clearly haram.

00:59:57 --> 00:59:59

So in any scenario, surrogate woman is not

00:59:59 --> 01:00:00

allowed in Islam.

01:00:01 --> 01:00:06

But if somebody will fertilize the egg outside,

01:00:06 --> 01:00:11

like an incineration children, or you fertilize the

01:00:11 --> 01:00:14

egg of the wife in a lab, take

01:00:14 --> 01:00:16

a sperm from the man and the egg

01:00:16 --> 01:00:18

from the woman, and they are married to

01:00:18 --> 01:00:20

each other, and you fertilize outside in the

01:00:20 --> 01:00:24

lab in a tube, then after several weeks

01:00:24 --> 01:00:27

or whatever, they transfer it to the mother's

01:00:27 --> 01:00:31

womb, to your wife's womb, that's allowed, that

01:00:31 --> 01:00:31

is permissible.

01:00:32 --> 01:00:36

Freezing the egg, freezing the egg or the

01:00:36 --> 01:00:38

sperm, is something that the ulema in modern

01:00:38 --> 01:00:39

days debated over.

01:00:40 --> 01:00:40

Okay?

01:00:41 --> 01:00:43

Some of them said it's allowed, some of

01:00:43 --> 01:00:43

them it's not allowed.

01:00:44 --> 01:00:47

I lean towards the majority of the scholars

01:00:47 --> 01:00:48

today said it's not allowed.

01:00:49 --> 01:00:51

And most of the fiqh council said it's

01:00:51 --> 01:00:52

not allowed.

01:00:54 --> 01:00:57

If it is, we'll be freezing it.

01:01:00 --> 01:01:03

Let me just retract this back, because you

01:01:03 --> 01:01:06

have the general fiqh council in the Muslim

01:01:06 --> 01:01:07

world said it's not allowed.

01:01:07 --> 01:01:09

You have a fatwa committee in Egypt, for

01:01:09 --> 01:01:10

example, said it's allowed.

01:01:11 --> 01:01:14

By looking at, there is a detailed discussion

01:01:14 --> 01:01:16

about this in the course, especially the course

01:01:16 --> 01:01:20

about entrusted fiqh of children, more detailed discussion

01:01:20 --> 01:01:20

of those.

01:01:20 --> 01:01:23

But the position that I lean towards, it's

01:01:23 --> 01:01:24

kind of middle between the two.

01:01:25 --> 01:01:28

Because one of the major reasons that the

01:01:28 --> 01:01:31

scholar said it's not allowed, because they said

01:01:31 --> 01:01:34

there is a possibility for this frozen egg

01:01:34 --> 01:01:37

to be used by someone else.

01:01:38 --> 01:01:39

There is possibility.

01:01:39 --> 01:01:43

And that possibility is a possibility to be

01:01:43 --> 01:01:46

used by, he said, even, even I asked

01:01:46 --> 01:01:50

some Western scientists and doctors, he said, yes,

01:01:50 --> 01:01:53

there's rules and regulations, but even the possibility,

01:01:53 --> 01:01:53

it still exists.

01:01:54 --> 01:01:56

And there is even incident.

01:01:56 --> 01:01:57

If you look and you read about this

01:01:57 --> 01:02:01

issue, there is incident of, you know, a

01:02:01 --> 01:02:02

mistake been happened.

01:02:03 --> 01:02:06

So Sharia looking for protecting the leader.

01:02:06 --> 01:02:10

So they said, but I believe if it

01:02:10 --> 01:02:13

will be protected for a short period of

01:02:13 --> 01:02:16

time, and that's, many scholars said that.

01:02:16 --> 01:02:20

Let's say, you know what, because you take

01:02:20 --> 01:02:22

samples and you're going to try to do

01:02:22 --> 01:02:27

artificial, you know, personalization in it too.

01:02:27 --> 01:02:29

You need multiple samples.

01:02:29 --> 01:02:31

So you freeze them instead of every time

01:02:31 --> 01:02:33

you take and you extract and it's like

01:02:33 --> 01:02:35

expensive and you freeze them.

01:02:35 --> 01:02:38

And when the things succeed, you get rid

01:02:38 --> 01:02:38

of the rest.

01:02:39 --> 01:02:40

Okay.

01:02:40 --> 01:02:41

That's allowed.

01:02:41 --> 01:02:47

And also it became something also very, let's

01:02:47 --> 01:02:50

say there is a woman, worry that she

01:02:50 --> 01:02:53

is, if she find a way to guarantee

01:02:53 --> 01:02:56

a hundred percent that this egg of her

01:02:56 --> 01:02:58

or this sperm of her will be safe

01:02:58 --> 01:03:03

and secure a hundred percent or like, like

01:03:03 --> 01:03:07

95% over time, like something like that,

01:03:07 --> 01:03:09

like I'm very sure it'll be secure and

01:03:09 --> 01:03:12

it will be terminated by the time she

01:03:12 --> 01:03:13

died.

01:03:13 --> 01:03:14

I believe it's allowed.

01:03:15 --> 01:03:16

Why?

01:03:16 --> 01:03:18

Let's say there is a sister.

01:03:18 --> 01:03:20

Her age is 34.

01:03:21 --> 01:03:22

She's not married yet.

01:03:23 --> 01:03:25

But what if I don't marry until my

01:03:25 --> 01:03:28

40, maybe my 40, I do not, my

01:03:28 --> 01:03:30

chance of fertilization became less.

01:03:30 --> 01:03:32

Or the quality of your eggs decreases as

01:03:32 --> 01:03:32

you age.

01:03:34 --> 01:03:35

Decrease or amend.

01:03:36 --> 01:03:37

So I want to freeze this.

01:03:37 --> 01:03:38

So when I get married, in case it

01:03:38 --> 01:03:41

did not succeed, I can use that.

01:03:41 --> 01:03:42

Okay.

01:03:42 --> 01:03:44

I am, for example, going to go through

01:03:44 --> 01:03:46

chemotherapy and let's say the side effect of

01:03:46 --> 01:03:47

it, it will prevent or some kind of

01:03:47 --> 01:03:50

operation that the side effect will prevent me

01:03:50 --> 01:03:53

from producing your, an egg that can be

01:03:53 --> 01:03:55

fertilized or my sperm will not be anymore

01:03:55 --> 01:03:57

because of chemotherapy treatment will not be able

01:03:57 --> 01:03:58

to produce children.

01:03:58 --> 01:03:59

So I, you know what, I'm going to

01:03:59 --> 01:04:00

freeze this.

01:04:00 --> 01:04:01

When I get married, I can use this

01:04:01 --> 01:04:05

for my wife and I can make a

01:04:05 --> 01:04:08

very assurance that this is, would be the

01:04:08 --> 01:04:08

case.

01:04:09 --> 01:04:10

I believe it is.

01:04:11 --> 01:04:14

And as for this rare incident of accident,

01:04:15 --> 01:04:19

we cannot generalize rules based on a rare

01:04:19 --> 01:04:20

accident in Sharia.

01:04:21 --> 01:04:23

In Sharia, always, النادر لا حكم لها.

01:04:23 --> 01:04:24

Something rarely happened.

01:04:25 --> 01:04:25

Okay.

01:04:26 --> 01:04:27

You don't base the rules on it.

01:04:27 --> 01:04:28

طيب ما هو؟

01:04:28 --> 01:04:31

There is accidents happen in mixing babies in

01:04:31 --> 01:04:31

hospital.

01:04:33 --> 01:04:33

That's right.

01:04:34 --> 01:04:36

Can we say, rule, you're not allowed to

01:04:36 --> 01:04:39

have children in hospitals and to be in

01:04:39 --> 01:04:41

the nursing, like a place and all, because

01:04:41 --> 01:04:43

there is a possibility of mixing children.

01:04:43 --> 01:04:45

No, you don't base rules on a very

01:04:45 --> 01:04:47

rare situation like that.

01:04:48 --> 01:04:50

So as long as there's rules and regulations,

01:04:50 --> 01:04:52

it will guarantee you to be protecting this

01:04:52 --> 01:04:53

eggs.

01:04:53 --> 01:04:53

Yes.

01:04:54 --> 01:04:56

Also, I don't believe it's allowed for a

01:04:56 --> 01:04:59

person to freeze the sperm or for the

01:04:59 --> 01:05:00

husband.

01:05:00 --> 01:05:03

Then she injected on herself after the husband

01:05:03 --> 01:05:07

died or after the husband divorced her.

01:05:09 --> 01:05:10

You know, I still got you.

01:05:11 --> 01:05:12

You have to pay child support.

01:05:12 --> 01:05:13

Don't have your sperm.

01:05:14 --> 01:05:15

It's not allowed.

01:05:15 --> 01:05:18

So, yeah, that will be not allowed.

01:05:18 --> 01:05:21

So you see, that's what led the samskara

01:05:21 --> 01:05:23

to close that door and said, you know

01:05:23 --> 01:05:23

what?

01:05:23 --> 01:05:25

Just close the door because what if after

01:05:25 --> 01:05:28

he died, then she injected herself on that

01:05:28 --> 01:05:29

and now she has a child.

01:05:29 --> 01:05:31

Now he won't share or can he inherit

01:05:31 --> 01:05:32

or cannot inherit.

01:05:32 --> 01:05:34

These are all these things complication.

01:05:34 --> 01:05:36

So let's close the door for this.

01:05:36 --> 01:05:37

I see that.

01:05:38 --> 01:05:39

But as I said, that scenario that I

01:05:39 --> 01:05:41

gave you, I think it is reasonable.

01:05:42 --> 01:05:44

It is somewhere in the middle between this

01:05:44 --> 01:05:46

opinion and Allah knows best.

01:05:48 --> 01:05:50

This is a very interesting topic.

01:05:50 --> 01:05:52

I know it's not as, you know, common

01:05:52 --> 01:05:53

or whatnot, but it's important for the community

01:05:53 --> 01:05:55

to have this kind of guidance and to

01:05:55 --> 01:05:57

have this resource that we have through this

01:05:57 --> 01:05:57

course.

01:05:58 --> 01:06:00

For being generous with your time with us

01:06:00 --> 01:06:02

and to everyone else who's, I know people

01:06:02 --> 01:06:03

are sharing some of their own personal struggles

01:06:03 --> 01:06:04

with some of these topics, some of their

01:06:04 --> 01:06:06

own challenges and, you know, issues that they've

01:06:06 --> 01:06:08

had throughout their lives when they've been, you

01:06:08 --> 01:06:11

know, you know, spoken to and not the

01:06:11 --> 01:06:13

best way or not the most nuanced way

01:06:13 --> 01:06:14

when discussing these things.

01:06:14 --> 01:06:15

So does that come up here for being

01:06:15 --> 01:06:16

here in this space?

01:06:16 --> 01:06:17

I hope that you guys all found benefit.

01:06:17 --> 01:06:19

And I know there's so many more questions

01:06:19 --> 01:06:22

that have come up around IVF, around freezing

01:06:22 --> 01:06:23

eggs, around a lot of the other topics

01:06:23 --> 01:06:26

that we discussed already around divorce and all

01:06:26 --> 01:06:28

these kind of nuance, all these specific questions

01:06:28 --> 01:06:29

about things that you guys are struggling with.

01:06:29 --> 01:06:31

I do encourage you guys once again, register

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for Complicated Online, the A to Z of

01:06:33 --> 01:06:34

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01:06:34 --> 01:06:37

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01:06:37 --> 01:06:38

So as soon as you register, you get

01:06:38 --> 01:06:40

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01:06:40 --> 01:06:41

take it at your own pace.

01:06:41 --> 01:06:42

We have a Q&A that's scheduled at

01:06:42 --> 01:06:44

the end of this month, September 24th.

01:06:44 --> 01:06:46

So I think that's also a Tuesday, inshallah,

01:06:46 --> 01:06:47

around this time.

01:06:47 --> 01:06:49

So you can submit questions that you didn't

01:06:49 --> 01:06:50

find answers to in the class and make

01:06:50 --> 01:06:52

sure that you are fully satisfied leaving the

01:06:52 --> 01:06:53

course, inshallah.

01:06:53 --> 01:06:55

I do recommend you guys make that part

01:06:55 --> 01:06:56

of your experience and the course is dropped.

01:06:56 --> 01:06:57

The link is dropped into the chat and

01:06:57 --> 01:06:59

the price varies depending on the country that

01:06:59 --> 01:07:00

you're coming in from so that we make

01:07:00 --> 01:07:02

it more equal to folks who are coming

01:07:02 --> 01:07:03

in around the world where, you know, they

01:07:03 --> 01:07:05

don't, maybe don't use the US dollar, et

01:07:05 --> 01:07:05

cetera.

01:07:05 --> 01:07:07

So please do check on the link so

01:07:07 --> 01:07:08

that you can find out more details.

01:07:08 --> 01:07:10

Please forgive us for any of our shortcomings

01:07:10 --> 01:07:12

trying to squeeze in such a heavy topic

01:07:12 --> 01:07:13

in a short period of time to do

01:07:13 --> 01:07:15

justice to it, to lay the groundwork and

01:07:15 --> 01:07:16

then to cover a lot of heavy things

01:07:16 --> 01:07:17

is not easy to do.

01:07:17 --> 01:07:19

So may Allah reward the shift because I

01:07:19 --> 01:07:22

wouldn't have touched it with a 10 foot

01:07:22 --> 01:07:23

pole if it wasn't there, alhamdulillah, with us

01:07:23 --> 01:07:25

to make sure that we got the proper

01:07:25 --> 01:07:26

guidance and the proper understanding.

01:07:27 --> 01:07:29

Inshallah, and when we start the Q&A,

01:07:29 --> 01:07:32

we will entertain back some of the comments

01:07:32 --> 01:07:34

and comments on them, inshallah.

01:07:34 --> 01:07:34

Yeah.

01:07:35 --> 01:07:38

Thank you very much and you're always welcome

01:07:39 --> 01:07:41

and looking forward to see you guys.

01:07:41 --> 01:07:42

As-salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.

01:07:43 --> 01:07:45

As-salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.

01:07:45 --> 01:07:47

That was Sheikh Waleed Bassioni, our instructor for

01:07:47 --> 01:07:49

Complicated Online with Al-Maghrib Institute.

01:07:49 --> 01:07:51

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01:07:51 --> 01:07:53

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01:07:53 --> 01:07:55

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01:07:55 --> 01:07:56

You guys have been amazing, amazing audience.

01:07:56 --> 01:07:58

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01:07:58 --> 01:08:00

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01:08:00 --> 01:08:04

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01:08:04 --> 01:08:06

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So either way, you guys can benefit there.

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And again, if there's anything that you didn't

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get a full satisfaction of, the answers to

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this, you know, in this session, the answers

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to a lot of that is going to

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be in the Complicated Online course.

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Once again, that's al-maghrib.online is where

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you can find out that course and more

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information about it.

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We look forward to seeing you there.

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For now, take care, stay happy, stay healthy,

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stay safe.

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And assalamualaikum warahmatullahi

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