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gonna change when it comes to your relationship with your parents

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wasn't going to change when it comes to your relationship with your children. What is going to change in your relationship with yours?

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What's gonna change when it comes to your relationship with your community?

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What's gonna change in your relationship with that mess?

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How's your relationship with Allah subhanaw taala on the top of August going to change

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how's your relationship with your friends and your neighbors will change, this is going to be improved, is it there is something wrong going on, I have to stop.

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As you can see, there's so many things here need to be talked about. And definitely we cannot go in details over each and every point of

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button, the top of all points I will ask is our relationship with the loss of Canada are going to be changed?

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Are we going to be on always in contact with him. And there is nothing you know, when Allah Subhana Allah wants to talk to us.

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He sent to us the books,

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the Quran, so when you read the Quran, Allah talking to you.

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But when you want to talk to a lot, you raise your hands

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and your heart and your turn starts complicating and praising the last panel.

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That basically is the other side of the coin, if you can imagine one side of the forum, a lot talking to the other side will be used to

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our attitude with the giraffe has to come to change. Whenever you pray, and you raise your hand, and you pray to Allah Subhana Allah, the prophets or someone has told us that those who don't know Allah during the time of Eve, Allah will not be there for them in the time of hardship and calamity.

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Instead of the drought became just a words that empty words that you said, after salaat, or after each slot, and this sticker that you don't even contemplate on the meanings of it, that you don't even think about the meaning behind these words that you sign.

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It should change to be something very meaningful, meaningful, something meaningful, that you know that every word comes in from your mouth, you really mean it. And this one will be accepted. A lot of people make a lot of drama. But I'll tell you the key for this job to be accepted. And it basically, in my opinion, one of the clear, the clear points that identify your relationship with a lot, how much you make, how much you raise your hand, and you pray and you turn to your Lord.

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I knew this old woman,

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okay, that she was telling me about herself. I was once giving a lecture about the Dra. And she came to me and she said, with her eyes full of tears, and she was telling me chest,

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you know, me and a drought of Scala and it's just different story. And she said, I'm always eating habit, I turned to our last panel that I always ask a lot of hands on.

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And she said like, sometimes it's just amazing that the first thing that comes to my mind to ask illustrata to the simple example. She said, for example, we're on the airport, our bank did not come come out, you know, to the basic needs to be collected in the right place. They said Okay, you know what, this is all the bags, if you don't have your bag, go to the US. And my husband said hey, let's go father. Basically, the reports about our missing back even before that, the first thing I'll say, your Allah Ya Allah, Allah protect my back. And I will ask Allah to help me to provide she said, what law is your holy one law and Avi, I will say, I would hear that noise, basically the build to

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stop moving again, and I'll see my back coming up.

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She said to the simplest things in my life.

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That's why when you read the job or the alarm and said that

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was something that didn't do it all the time, it means a draft the draft that they ask Allah subhanaw taala even in the simplest thing, the Sahaba used to make to ask for and ask Allah Subhana Allah to help them and to aid him for

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They truly identify how much you rely on a lot. Sometimes even when you do a program, when you prepare something,

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really, really, in the middle of the night, to stand up and ask a lot to give Baraka and to bless your efforts, in the things that you do. We all care about, you know, taking all the necessary means and planning and marketing and the finance department and all, that's fine, excellent. But the question is how much you really you put emphasis on?

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If you want to identify your relationship with the loss of animal data also?

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know, how much do you know of his means?

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Think of how much you know of his names and attributes. And we've been asked an order by Allah, what the law is, is not refresh, not for droopy. Why do you think one third of the Quran is about Allah, and his names and his attributes, and it's all to basically focus on the greatness of Islam attributes waiting for this book.

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Just not to memorize it or not to know it, not to ask him through these names, or by these names, or

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anything, it's about time to change this attitude towards the loss of Hello data to know him more. And you cannot know someone more than at least to know these names.

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To know about his qualities, attributes?

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Really, how much do you know if his name's sorry, after this call to take a piece of paper and write everything down every name that you know?

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And see how many of them are right names versus wrong names, and then see how many businesses that you really know what it means.

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10 1530 names you can write down. Yes, more than 100 names of the

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brothers and sisters,

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that after you put this list, ask yourself how many of these names I really use in my draft constantly.

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and so forth. So I think one of the things that identify your relationship with Allah

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since last Ramadan, how many extra verses your minds how many extra surahs, you have add to your memorization?

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I, you know, I can I understand, I understand that you, we don't speak Arabic, it's very hard, but I cannot understand that. But you know, it's a whole entirety, you and you did not make a progress with a single verse.

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With a single, small sort of,

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I don't think that is something wrong here is not not the language anymore as an excuse.

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How much time and effort you have put into this.

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You know, one of the early Muslim scholars said, I spent 18,000 pieces of gold dinar

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and learning

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how much time and effort and money and basically you have dedicated really, to Hong Kong.

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This is

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Yeah, we talked about this, but it's in the end of our priority list.

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And this one thing to identify the relationship with Allah.

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If you want to also see, to identify the relationship with Allah, see when you stand before him.

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How much love how much respect how much honoring how much concentration that you have in your salon.

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And that we'll see how close you are from Allah, our how far you are from Allah. And believe me,

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just thinking about it just terrified me.

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Because it will fall away from a lot today.

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I'm afraid

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we might be also far away from him tomorrow.

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I can go on and on. And you're fishing ship with the Prophet, your relationship with the religion, how much you know how much you seriously learn, you know how much effort you put on it. And it can talk about your relationship with your spouse, your parents, your children. There's so many things and I want you to think about this and to say you know what, this is must be a month it will mark a major change. I know you cannot take in all these funds.

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But what are the things that you get to decide on this month to take off?

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Definitely your relationship with Allah but also your relationship with human being

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See, what are the areas that you like the most? Is it your relationship with the parents, is your relationship with the spouse is your relationship with your children on

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day one, God's telling me about his kids. He said, If my kids didn't listen to me, I said, don't care much. I should not care much about your kids not listening to you. But I'll tell you one thing. Your kids are very much watching you. Even if they don't listen, but they are watching you. So you be careful.

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When you behave,

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are we going to stop the violence in our house

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that our kids are listening to and watching?

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How are we going to change the language that we use

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with each other at home?

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Are we going to replace the field for the love that your children, your spouse should not feel you as much as they should love you. And I'm looking forward to do what you want.

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I'm going to be in a business of winning people's hearts,

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or the business of controlling others, even if they are your children or your spouse.

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I'm going to change my attitude with my community.

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Instead of just being a customer, and expecting to be served to change my attitude to be a partner, to build,

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as a partner, when I will come new member to my community in my organization, as an a partner willing to work and cooperate with organizations.

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When I go to sleep, when I think of myself and my family, do I think of us as a part of the community and loss. And the success of my brothers? Is the success of me.

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Before I start even any any progress, I may say, is this going to contribute to the strength in our community or not?

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We should be in a business of building one another and completing one another and not dating one another.

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You know, brothers and sisters, this is the month of change. I think a lot of us sometimes think when we think about the end of our life, what legacy we're going to leave behind us. Are you ever thought about leaving a legacy behind you? Do you think you are a person worth of that? And that's one of the things that I think it needs to be changed also how you look at yourself.

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You know the difference between fame and greatness. fame is always about what you gain in life. But greatness is about what you give in life.

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Do you want to be a famous or you want to be a great person?

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Because greatness is always based on what you give, not what you gain.

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And also parents Allah said, couldn't hire automatic acquisitiveness.

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You're the greatest nation ever was brought out to people. And there's greatness because what they give no more digging. Your greatness will come from how much you contribute how much you give, to society to community, not only to the Muslim community, but to the community at large if you live in a land of minority, and you live as a minority in the land of non Muslim countries.

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I will conclude my talk today was just very practical points. How can you maintain this change, you might be excited, you might be able to see you know, focal diseases. Now I want to make this change. I want to make this some of and we all do 100 enough, especially in the beginning.

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But how can you really achieve the change that you want. I'll say one, identify your goal. And make them very clear.

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identify the areas that goals that you want to achieve. And,

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you know, if you don't know where you want to go, and you just travel like that, most likely, you're not going to end up the person that you want, you're gonna end up somewhere else. If you don't identify where is the point be that I want to go to from A to B, you will never reach B if you don't identify clearly. So the first thing you need to identify your goal and to identify it as a very clear goal.

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Number two,

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that basically, you should be excited about the new goals that you set for yourself.

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You should be excited about these goals that you're setting for your self. You should not start doing things which is you know it's going to be boring. It's not going to make you know you cannot be excited about for a long time. So

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He can live with it something you would love to

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make sure that you have the right reason for

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make sure that you contemplate on the what the reason for you really to do that.

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It's really because of you or because of pressure around, is it because you're 100% can not convince, or just because this is the culture, this is the religion on doing.

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So you need to think about, you've come up with five to six reasons that are very convincing for you to come to this, to basically lead you to do this

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lead to this change lead decision. So first, identify your goal, make them very clear. To be excited about this post, choose something excited about it. Three have the right reasons for the right reasons for hand number four,

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that don't ever let the challenges of life to bury you alive. Don't let the problem that you see prevent you from reaching the goals that you want. I want you to know that you know the challenge that you have, let's say you are a youth and you service, a lot of challenges, a lot of fitness, make sure that all these challenges are the reason for you to be successful. Use these obstacles to make you to make you a successful person. You know, I'm talking to you from Texas to in the summer. There's a nice story I heard. From the few who live in the south

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of town, we don't have a title fish, it's called cod fish.

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Okay, this cod fish, they bring it from the north cold water. So we used to bring it to the southern village. In the old days, it became like, you know, frozen or they basically not fresh didn't want a fresh cod fish. So we used to bring them into containers. And in these containers, they put a lot of them 1000s of them. By the time they arrive, you become so smooshy so you know the taste is completely different, tasteless, so it didn't work out. So what are the people that will ship this cartridge made a very interesting invention. You know what he that he put in that container catfish,

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catfish on the natural predator to the contrary.

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We don't go along together. But you drop in the tanker in the tanker, basically several of these catfish. So the whole entire trip, what happens is the cod fish we're alert, we're in constant move, and protection and defense position. And that kept them fresh, strong. The whole entire trip

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was kind of out of sometimes dropped catfish in your way in your life, to keep you strong, to keep you alive, to keep you always alert and to grow you and not to destroy you, not ever to put you down not ever to basically prevent you from prevailing at all these challenges of life are meant to make you strong,

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the more you will be able to

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basically resist this pressure on life, the more you will became a valuable person. If you ever look at the difference between charcoal, a piece of charcoal basically a call a call and a piece of rock which is called the Black Diamond, the most valuable, the most expensive rock in the face of the earth, they are identically coming from the same, basically route. The only difference between the charcoal and the diamond is basically the structure of the diamonds is meant to basically to resist pressure versus the charcoal, that the structure of it is not meant to resist pressure so you can crush it with your hand.

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And that's what makes that rock valuable. Their ability to resist the pressure.

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It's your ability to resist the pressure was going to make you a valuable person. I want you to come to the challenges in life. I want you to start from above to start aiming towards these goals while you are full of trust that you are the person who can achieve his goal. You are the person who will make this change happen and is the level of your life, with your family, in your community. And if you live with this spirit, while your heads up, while you're always trying to sort of not just survive, you always try to thrive. You always strive to be the best you always know and you're capable of. This is how you live your life. I guarantee you

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Get your goals.

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Because there is nobody can defeat you from inside except yourself.

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Unless you give up. So my brothers and sisters, in the end of my talk today, I wish to

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wish you all the best from the bottom of my heart. I ask Allah Subhana Allah to hold me and to hold all of you to make this carnavon the real month of change, were real things will change in our life and would go to the better direction.

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Yes, we pray a lot. We say Oh Allah change this a change that you know, especially in somebody's going through a hardship. And I found really interesting point here to be

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contemplate on which is so many times we ask Allah subhanaw taala to change our circumstances.

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But she never ask yourself, why Allah

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made these circumstances? What Allah put us first of all, in these circumstances

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and you know, the answer is

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no, Allah Allah Yo, yo, yo,

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yo, yo Mati unfussy alone will not change your circumstances, until you change yourself.

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depressed, so many times all law change the circumstances, between us praying for changing ourselves, which is the point. And that's why I love with you, first of all, in that circumstance, for you to change. And the moment you change, things will be changing around.

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So make sure that we mark this 2011 as a mark, as a month, that will be remembered years to come by you and by your family. And hopefully Charlotte by your community as well. Some of us in the motherland abena, Mohammed Ali Salim, and it would like to extend my thanks to Allah Subhana, Allah first. And then to the brothers and sisters, who basically facilitate this program that was highly rewarded, and tremendous, tremendously. And except for all of us, thank you very much. So

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I'm going to be in the business of winning people's hearts,

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or the business of controlling others, even if they are your children or your spouse.

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I'm going to change my attitude with my community.

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Instead of just being a customer, and expecting to be served to change my attitude to be a partner, to build,

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as a partner, when I will come new member to my community in my organization, as an a partner, we're willing to work and cooperate with organizations.

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When I go to sleep, when I think of myself and my family, do I think of us as a part of the community in Moscow, and the success of my brothers? Is the success of me.

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Before I start even any any progress, I may say, is this going to contribute to the strength in our community or not?

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We should be in the business of building one another, completing one another, and not dating one another.

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You know, brothers and sisters, this is the month of change. I think a lot of us sometimes think when we think about the end of our life, what legacy we're going to leave behind us. Are you ever thought about leaving a legacy behind you? Do you think you are a person worth of that? And that's one of the things that I think it needs to be changed also how you look at yourself.

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You know the difference between fame and greatness. fame is always about what you gain in life. But greatness is about what you give in life.

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Do you want to be a famous or do you want to be a great person?

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Because greatness is always based on what you give, not what you gain.

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And a loss of parents Allah said couldn't hire our own medical community nurse.

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You are the greatest nation ever was brought out to people. And there's greatness because what the gifts not begin. Your greatness will come from how much you contribute, how much you give to society to community, not only to the Muslim community, but to the community at large if you live in a land of minority and you live as a minority in the land of non Muslim countries.

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I will conclude my talk today was just very practical points.

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How can you maintain this change, you might be excited, you might be busy, you know, for years, now I want to make this change, I want to make the some of and we all do 100 enough, especially in the beginning, from above. But how can you really achieve the change that you want, I would say, one, identify your goals, and make them very clear, and

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identify the areas that goals that you want to achieve.

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You know, if you don't know where you want to go, and you just travel like that, most likely, you're not going to end up the person that you want, you're gonna end up somewhere else. If you don't identify where is the point be that I want to go to from A to B, you will never reach B if you don't identify. So the first thing you need to identify your goal, and to identify it as a very clear goal.

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Number two,

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that's basically you should be excited about the new goals that you set for yourself.

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You should be excited about these goals that you're setting for your self, you should not start doing things which is you know, it's going to be boring, it's not going to make you know, you cannot be excited about for a long time somebody can live with it something you would love to

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make sure that you have the right reason for

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make sure that you contemplate on the what the reason for you really to do that.

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Is it really because of you or because of pressure or is it because you're under persons can not convince, or just because this is the culture, this is the religion of doing.

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So you need to think about, you'd come up with five to six reasons that are very convincing for you to come to this, to basically lead you to do this.

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lead to this change lead this. So first, identify your goal, make them very clear, to be excited about this. Choose something excited about it. Three, have the right reasons for it, have the right reasons for it. And number four is

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that don't ever let the challenges of life to bury you alive. Don't let the problem that you see prevent you from reaching the goals that you want. I want you to know that you know the challenge that you have, let's say you are a youth and you service, a lot of challenges, a lot of fitness, make sure that all these challenges are the reason for you to be successful. Use these obstacles to make you to make you a successful person. You know, I'm talking to you from Texas. So in the summer, there's a nice story I heard from the few who live in the south. People thought we don't have a title fish. It's called cod fish.

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Okay, this cod fish sea bring it from the north cold water. So we used to bring it to the southern village in the old days became like, you know, frozen or they basically not fresh, didn't want to fresh cod fish. So they used to bring them into containers. And in these containers, they put a lot of them 1000s of them. And by the time they arrive you become so smooshy so you know the taste is completely different, tasteless, so it didn't work out. So one of the people will ship this cartridge made a very interesting invention. You know what he did? He put that container catfish.

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catfish on the natural predator to the contrary.

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We don't go along together. But you drop in the tanker in the tanker, basically several this catfish. So the whole entire trip what happens is the cod fish we're alert, we're in constant move and protection and defense position. And that kept them fresh, strong. The whole Antarctic

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also kind of out of sometimes dropped catfish in your way in your life, to keep you strong, to keep you alive, to keep you always alert and to grow you and not to destroy you, not ever to put you down not ever to basically prevent you from prevailing are all these challenges of life are meant to make you stronger.

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The more you will be able to basically resist this pressure in life, the more you will became a valuable person. If you ever look at the difference between charcoal a piece of charcoal basically a call, a call and a piece of rock which is called the Black Diamond. The most valuable the most expensive rock in the face of the earth is the identity

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ticularly coming from the same, basically route, the only difference between the charcoal and the diamond is basically the structure of the diamonds is meant to basically to resist pressure versus the charcoal, that the structure of it is not meant to resist pressure, so you can crush it with your hand.

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And that's what makes that rock valuable. Their ability to resist the pressure

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is it's your ability to resist, the pressure was going to make you a valuable person, I want you to come to the challenges in life, I want you to start from about to start aiming towards these goals, while you are full of trust, that you are the person who can achieve his goal, you are the person who will make this change happen, and is the level of your life, with your family, in your community. And if you live with this spirit, while your heads up, while you're always trying to strive to serve, not to survive, you always try to thrive, you always strive to be the best you always know and you're capable of, if this is how you live your life, I guarantee you will get your

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goals.

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Because there is nobody can defeat you from inside except yourself.

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Unless you give up. So my brothers and sisters, in the end of my talk today, I wish to

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wish you all the best from the bottom of my heart. I asked Allah Subhana guard to hold me and to hold all of you to make this carnavon the real month of change, were real things will change in our life, and would go to the better direction.

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Yes, we pray a lot. We say a lot change this change that you know especially in somebody's going through a hardship. And I found really interesting point here to be

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contemplate on which is so many times we ask Allah subhanaw taala to change our circumstances

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continues to grow. So Allah

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made these circumstances what Allah put us first of all in these circumstances

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and you know the answer is

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no Allah Allah, you will not get out.

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Yo yo ma t unfussy. Allah will not change your circumstances until you change yourself.

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Pray so many times all law change the circumstances between us praying for changing ourselves, which is the point. That's why I love with you, first of all, in that circumstances, for you to change. And the moment you change, things will be changing around.

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So make sure that we mark this 2011 as a mark as a month that will be remembered years to come by you and by your family and hopefully Sharla by your community as well. Some of us in Amman and Edina Mohammed Ali was of the us senate and it would like to extend my thanks to Allah Subhana Allah first and then to the brothers and sisters who basically facilitate this program allows high reward and tremendously and except for all of us. Thank you very much.