Waleed Basyouni – Friday Khutba 10-11-2024
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The importance of shari'ah in achieving personal and spiritual goals is discussed, as it is used to reference the concept of "has" and affect one's behavior. The speakers emphasize the need for guidance on how to deal with emotions and controlling one's behavior to avoid harming others. They also touch on the concept of "immaturity," which can affect one's behavior and can lead to negative behavior. The importance of self-reflection and increasing one's token is also emphasized.
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All praise due to Allah and his praise
and blessings and peace be upon our Prophet
Muhammad salallahu alayhi wa sallam His family, his
companions and his followers until the Day of
Judgment I bear witness that Allah is the
only one worthy of worship and Muhammad salallahu
alayhi wa sallam his last and final messenger.
My dear brothers and sisters Yaqul al-imam
al-shatibi rahimahullah mulakhisan maqsadan azeeman min maqasid
al-shari'ah Yaqul fa inna al-shari
'ata tad'u ila al-khuruji min da
'i al-hawa ila da'i al-huda
He summarized one of the most important goals
of shari'ah that our religion came to
free you from being enslaved, controlled by your
desires to be controlled by the guidance of
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala That's very big
concept and important concept in our religion that
the person submit to the will and to
the guidance of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
not to be following his or her own
desires Desires which is usually translate the word
al-hawa in the Qur'an and Sunnah
mentioned in the Qur'an is like what
27 or 26 times All of them, every
time in these 26 times al-hawa, desire
was mentioned was not mentioned in a positive
meaning Actually criticized ma dhukra ila madhmuman fala
tattabi'u al-hawa Don't follow your desires
an ta'dilu It will lead you not to
be fair and just fahkum bayna al-nasi
bil-haqqi wala tattabi'u al-hawa Rule
between people based on justice, not based on
desires ara'ayta man ittakhadha ilahahu hawa Have
you seen those who have taken their desires,
their God, their Lord balittaba'al ladheena dhalamu
ahwa'ahum bighayri ilm The transgressor only follow
their desires with no knowledge And so many
verses in the Qur'an like this And
that's something important because We as a human
being Desire is part of who we are
It is something in us But al-Islam
help us, give us tools Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala created us and he knows us
the best And he knows if we submit
ourselves to our desires We will not succeed
in this life and the next That's why
there is so many rules and regulations And
guide us in Islam in relation to the
issue of how to deal with the desires
But today I would like just to comment
on one concept of al-hawa Which is
when you not have the ability to have
a self-control When you don't have the
ability to govern your own feelings And to
control your reactions When you lose self-control
That can be very damaging to you and
to your relationships with people Your relationship with
Allah Your relationship with the religion Your relationship
with your family When you don't know how
to control yourself And when you know how
to master this Like somebody said I'm a
king Why?
Because I rule myself I know how to
rule myself I'm in control of myself It
is hard for me to imagine Someone who
cannot lead and cannot be in control of
his own desires How this person expected to
lead his family To lead a community To
lead in his organization If you can't have
a control of yourself And you cannot be
able to control your reactions And you have
a self-control How can you have a
control of others Or other things around you
You know, the real, the problem really That
desires has to do with feelings المشكلة تكمن
في صعوبة ضبط النفس أنها تتعلق بالمشاعر You
know, you can close your eyes If you
don't want to see something You can close
your ear if you don't want to hear
something I agree with you, it's hard to
close your mouth If you don't want to
eat something But you still can do that
But the problem, you have a control over
these senses But the problem with self-control
That basically, it comes from your heart You
don't have the ability to close your heart
You can control your eyes, you can close
your eyes Your ear, your basically, your mouth
But you can't close your heart These feelings,
you don't have that control over That's why
it requires from the person A great deal
of effort and mastering that That's why Nabi
Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam Praise those who are able
to do that To control that desire, to
control their feelings فَأَمَّا مَنْ خَافَ مَقَامَ رَبِّهِ
وَنَهَى النَّفْسَ عَنِ الْهَوَى فَإِنَّ الْجَنَّةَ هِيَ الْمَأْوَى
Those who fear Allah and control their desires
Al-Jannah is the reward لَا تَغْضَبُ لَكَ
الْجَنَّةَ Don't be angry and Al-Jannah is
your reward لَيْسَ الشَّدِيدُ بِالسُّرْعَةِ إِنَّمَا الشَّدِيدِ الَّذِي
يَمْلِكُ نَفْسَهُ And Nabi Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said
The strong person is not the one with
big muscles Who can wrestle with people No,
the strong person is the one who can
control himself In a time of anger مَنْ
حَجَّ فَلَمْ يَرْفُثْ وَلَمْ يَفْسُقْ رَجَعَكَ يَوْمِ وَلَدَتْهُ
أُمُّهُ Those who go to hajj and control
themselves Control their reactions, control their feelings Because
that feeling will lead to actions When you
control that, you come back from hajj Without
committing any type of rafath or fusuq Ya
'ni sins or arguing or using bad words
Or losing your control and anger You come
back as if the same day you were
born Ya'ni free of sins That sort
of control over your emotions Is something so
important Emotions like what?
Like anger, like love It's a very strong
emotion But how can you control that love?
Not to let your love for something lead
you to do something haram Fear, it's a
very strong emotion How can you make your
fear control?
Hurt, hurt is a very strong feeling But
guess what?
Those who are hurt can hurt others as
well While they are feeling that they are
hurt so much You know?
Jealous, it's a very strong feeling How can
you control that jealousy?
So it will not turn to be something
negative The lust, the sexual lust Is a
very strong feeling as well But how can
you control that so it will not lead
you to haram?
إِنَّ مَنْ لَمْ يُحْسِنِ السَّيْطَرَ عَلَى مَشَاعِرِهِ قَدَتْهُ
إِلَى الْمُهْلِكَاتِ Those who cannot have a control
over their feelings Definitely it will turn them
to their destruction You know?
The happiness of a man in this life
Does not consist of the absence But in
the mastery of his or her passions When
you can master your feeling That would bring
happiness, bring peace to your life And it
is allowed for you to be sad It's
allowed for you to be angry It's good
to be angry sometimes It's good to be
sad sometimes Or you know, it's good to
be jealous sometimes These feelings are not completely
bad But when you don't control them When
they got out of control That's when they
become bad Otherwise Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
said زِيِّنَا لِلنَّاسِ يَحِبُّوا الشَّهَوَاتِ It's a natural
thing to have the desire For the opposite
gender The love for wealth, the love for
fame You know?
It is a natural thing to be angry
فَلَمَّا ذَهَبَ عَن مُوسَى الْغَضَبِ When Musa became
angry إِنِّي رُزِقْتُ حُبَّهَا I am in love
with her يقول النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم
Love is not a bad thing سَاد إِنَّ
الْخَلْبَ لَيَحْزَنُ I'm sad over the death of
my son He said صلى الله عليه وسلم
But the point is to be able to
control these feelings And not to let it
control you Because if you don't control it
It will lead to things that you will
regret And it can be a long term
effect for you And sharia have given us
Certain guidelines in this regard One of it
is your ability to transfer these feelings From
being negative to something positive Make sure that
you channel your anger To be something that
will be productive Channel your sadness to be
something to be productive To learn and to
grow from these feelings Also, make sure that
Whenever you want to deal with self control
It's so important to mature up Immaturity is
unbelievable reason For people to lose control And
to hurt others and to hurt themselves And
I see that sometimes When we see the
reaction of people When something, a calamity happen
Or a disaster happen So immaturity, just anything
You know, just recently talking to someone Oh,
it wasn't very immature for me to say
that And that's so often I hear that
That people, you know, don't know how to
grow up Especially when their emotions are so
tense You have to know how to deal
with things with wisdom And to make sure
that you deal with it with maturity Also,
some people, I believe They need kind of
professional help Seek professional help If you have
an extreme anger, can't control You should look
to a therapy Or look at program to
help you to master your anger Or your
reactions Basically, your violence If it reach to
that level May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
help us And to make us always in
control of ourselves أقول ما سميتم أستغفر الله
لي ولكم باستغفره الحمد لله وحده والصلاة والسلام
على من لا نبي بعده I think one
of the most important point that I would
like to end with it Is the issue
of, for self-control Control your tongue No
matter what is emotions going inside you Learn
how to control your tongue And you deal
with your emotions later But don't open your
mouth And if you have to Just make
sure you tune it down It was said
once, Churchill One of his rival, she was
a member in the In the British House
of Commons Her name was, I think Lady
Astor or something like that In a heated
debate, she told him You know what, if
I was your wife I would put a
poison in your soup Then he smiled and
he said If I was your husband, I
would have drink it And just he ended
the whole thing And everybody started laughing and
things passed That's a control, you might laugh
at that But that's a mastery of controlling
your tongue That's a mastery of controlling himself
And not let himself to go lose it
And this is an important thing that you
need to learn And we need to learn
Don't allow yourself to start backbite Accusing people
Saying bad words, cursing or making things or
lying Just because there is a tense emotion
Because you're so scared, you're so afraid And
you start saying things that you might regret
in the future You wanna need help with
losing your tongue And remember, whatever you say,
Allah will ask you about Allah will ask
you about what you say, not what you
didn't say Remember, the Prophet s.a.w.
said Say good or remain silent A lot
of people think that they have to say
something Especially in the world of social media
today Everybody think that I have to make
an opinion I have to make a statement
You don't have to Also, make sure that
you reduce the amount of talk Make sure
that you mention Allah before you open your
mouth I've seen a wonder from Sheikh Ibn
Baz One of my teachers Anytime he want
to open his mouth and talk Especially if
somebody made him angry He make a lot
of dhikr and istighfar Then he will talk
before he speaks Remember, not only to say
the right thing in the right place But
far more difficult to leave unsaid wrong things
at the tempting moment Remember, sometimes the resistance
of making your point Make you win a
lot of points Allahumma
inna nas'aluka an tuhsina khitamana wa an
taghfira dhunubana wa an tarhama da'afana wa
an tajbura kasrana Allahumma inna nas'aluka an
tarhama ikhwanana al mustadha'afina fi biladi al
sham wa fi filistina khasatan yadha al jalali
wa al ikram wa ghazata ya arhama al
rahimin irhamhum bi rahmatik Allahumma irhamhum bi rahmatik
wa aafihim bi aafiyatik Allahumma ajil lahum bil
faraj ya hayya qayyum Allahumma inna nas'aluka
an taghfira liwalidina Allahumma aghfir liwalidina Allahumma aghfir
liwalidina ya ahya'a wa amwata Allahumma ahdina
wa ahdi azwajana wa awladana wa dhurriyatina li
kulli khayr wa abid a'anna sharr al
fitani maa dhahra minha wa maa batan wa
aslih wa laa ta'umur al muslimin wa
man wallaytahu amrana yadha al jalali wa al
ikram wa laa taj'alna fitnatan lilqawm al
dhalimin Allahumma ahina muslimin wa amitna muslimin ya
hayyu ya qayyum anzir rahmatika wa barakatika wa
ghinaaka wa lutfika ala hadha al masjidi wa
ahlihi wa jaliyatina ya arhama al rahimin wa
ahfazna bihifdika ya qawiyu ya aziz wa salli
wa sallim wa barik ala nabiyyina muhammad wa
ala alihi wa sahbihi wa sallim tasliman kathira
And today, my brothers and sisters of Friday
Nabi salallahu alayhi wa sallam encouraged us to
increase our salat wa salam ala rasulillah so
increase your salat rasulillah until the maghrib time
Allahumma salli wa sallim wa barik ala nabiyyina
muhammad wa alihi wa sahbihi wa qumu lill
salat ya rahmankumullah Al Fatiha