Waleed Basyouni – Friction Not Fraction

Waleed Basyouni
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The importance of Islam is discussed, including the manner in which it is addressed and the speaker's personal history. Bu Bu is upset with the Prophet Qaeda and describes their behavior as lying and false. The importance of forgiveness and apologizing for mistakes is emphasized, along with the need for forgiveness and apologizing for mistakes to avoid negative emotions. The segment also touches on forgiveness and the success of human beings in achieving goals, while ending with a webinar on forgiveness.
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In the name of Allah the Merciful, the

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Compassionate, the Compassionate.

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Allah

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is

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the Greatest, Allah is the Greatest.

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There is no god but Allah.

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Allah is the Greatest, Allah is the Greatest.

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All praise due to Allah and his praise

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and blessings and peace be upon our Prophet

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Muhammad ﷺ, his family, his companions and his

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followers until the day of judgment.

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I bear witness that Allah is the only

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one worthy of worship and Muhammad ﷺ his

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last and final messenger.

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He said about these two individuals that they

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are for me like my ears and eyes.

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They are the best two people ever walk

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in the face of this earth after the

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prophets and the messengers.

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These two individuals the closest to the Prophet

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ﷺ and the most noble of all companions

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and all the ummah of Muhammad ﷺ.

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They have a very high status in Islam.

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The amount of virtues they have displayed in

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their life and the amount of praise that

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they received from Allah and his messenger ﷺ

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unmatched.

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Their virtue, their nobility and their closeness to

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the Messenger of Allah ﷺ is something that

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cannot be imagined by man unless he has

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studied the life of the Prophet ﷺ.

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They are Abu Bakr and Umar.

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Even though Abu Bakr known to be gentle

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and calm, but sometimes Abu Bakr can be

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a little bit aggressive and strong and come

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across very strong.

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So one day Abu Bakr and Umar they

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were talking to each other back and forth

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and disagree over something and the discussion got

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heated up.

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Abu Bakr became a little bit aggressive with

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Umar and upset Umar.

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He kind of crossed the line.

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There is friction happened between them.

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Quickly Abu Bakr realized that he lost control.

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Ya Umar I'm sorry.

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I think I have crossed the line.

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Please forgive me.

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Umar turned his back and he started walking

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to his house.

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Abu Bakr behind him saying Ya Umar please

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and Umar did not respond.

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Please forgive me and he kept going until

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he went to his house, entered his house,

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closed the door.

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Abu Bakr felt so bad.

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He was in pain.

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He couldn't go back even to his house.

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How would he go back to his house

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when he knows that his best friend, that

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one of the closest companion to the Prophet

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ﷺ, Umar al-Farooq is upset with him.

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And he is the one who have crossed

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the line and have said something which is

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not appropriate.

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So he went to the Prophet ﷺ.

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Musri'an, munfa'ilan, was walking fast.

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You can tell that he is very upset.

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To the extent Abu al-Darda'a radiallahu

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anhu said, we were sitting with the Prophet

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ﷺ.

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He was walking very fast that he holding

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his thawb, his garment in his hand, and

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even basically his knees were showing.

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Usually that's not how, he was walking fast

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and he is very upset, not even aware.

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That his legs completely or his legs showing

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and even his knees were showing.

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When the Prophet ﷺ saw that, رَآهِ النَّبِيسَ

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صَلَّمَ قَالَ أَمَّا صَحِبُكُمْ هَذَا فَقَدْ غَامَرٌ يعني

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ايش يعني دخل في غمرة الغضب.

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دخل في غمرة أمر عظيم.

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This person is in a great distress.

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There is something very upsetting to Abu Bakr

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to be in such state.

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فَسَلَّمَ أَبُو بَكَر He gives salam to the

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Prophet ﷺ, the companion.

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And he said, immediately, he said, يَا رَسُولَ

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اللَّهِ كَانَ بَيْنِي وَبَيْنَ مِنِ الْخَطَّى بِشَيْءٍ فَأَسْرَعْتُ

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إِلَيْهِ ثُمَّ نَدِمْتُ There is something between me

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and Abu Bakr, and I have said things

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which is not I should have said, and

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I came out of my mouth, and I

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regret it.

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بَادَرَتْ مِنِّي بَادَرَتْ قَوْلٍ فَغَضِبَ مِنْهَا Said something

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was not proper or maybe appropriate, and he

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became upset with me.

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And I asked him to forgive me, and

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he didn't.

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I seek his forgiveness, and he did not

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answer me.

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فَأَقْبَلْتُ إِلَيْكَ So I came to you.

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Came to the Prophet ﷺ, so the Prophet

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ﷺ maybe mediate.

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Maybe the Prophet ﷺ will talk to Umar.

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To make sure that Umar رضي الله عنه

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will accept the apology of Abu Bakr رضي

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الله عنه أرضاه.

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فَقَالَ النَّبِي ﷺ وَلَمْ يَغْفِرْ لَكَ He did

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not accept your apology, did not forgive you.

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He said yes.

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كَأَنَّ النَّبِي يَقُولْ لَهِ عُمَرْ مَا غَفَرَ لَكَ

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غَفَرَ اللَّهُ لِأَبِي بَكْرٍ He said he didn't

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say I forgive you.

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You know what?

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May Allah forgive Abu Bakr.

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Three times ﷺ.

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All this happening in the masjid, in the

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gathering of the Prophet ﷺ.

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But there is a very different scene in

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Umar رضي الله عنه's house.

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Inside Umar رضي الله عنه's house, that anger

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that he had رضي الله عنه أرضاه, he

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calmed down and that anger changed completely to

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a regret.

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How come I did not accept Abu Bakr's

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apology?

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How come that Abu Bakr asked me to

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forgive him and I did not say yes?

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How come Abu Bakr left me upset that

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I did not honor his apology?

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Subhanallah, 180 degree.

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After Abu Bakr was chasing Umar رضي الله

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عنه to ask for forgiveness, now Umar رضي

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الله عنه said I need to go to

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Abu Bakr رضي الله عنه to ask for

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forgiveness and to apologize.

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So he goes to Abu Bakr's house.

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Is Abu Bakr here?

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They said no.

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He said where is he?

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They said he might be at the Prophet's

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ﷺ masjid.

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And usually when you don't...

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I would assume that the first place to

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go look for Abu Bakr is the masjid.

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He's always with the Prophet ﷺ.

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And Umar رضي الله عنه goes to the

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masjid and he saw the Prophet ﷺ and

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Abu Bakr there and the Sahaba there.

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فلما أتى وراء أبا بكر في مجلس النبي

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ﷺ جلس ولم يتكلم.

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He said Umar and he didn't say anything.

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As if he want to solve it between

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him and Abu Bakr alone.

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No need to open the conversation in front

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of everybody.

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But he noticed that the Prophet ﷺ is

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not happy.

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وكان بأبي وأمه ﷺ من كمال صدقه.

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من تمام صدقه وشفافية أنك تعرف ما في

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نفسه برؤية وجهه ﷺ.

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One thing unique about the Prophet ﷺ that

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you know how he feels by just looking

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at his face.

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He doesn't have...

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I'm not gonna say poker face.

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No, no, no.

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He doesn't have that straight face.

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He doesn't...

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you immediately...

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he doesn't deceive.

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If he's happy, he's happy.

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You can tell from his face.

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If he's not happy, he's not happy.

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If he's in pain, it's in pain.

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You immediately can tell.

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So they found that the Prophet ﷺ تلور

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وجهه.

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The Prophet ﷺ's face was changed.

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And he looks very upset with Umar ﷺ

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when Umar came.

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And to show you even how much he

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is angry with Umar, that Umar ﷺ sat

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on his side.

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Then the Prophet ﷺ looked to the other

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side, to the companion.

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فتحول عمر.

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Umar moved to the other side.

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Then the Prophet ﷺ looked to the other

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side.

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Then Umar ﷺ sat right in front of

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the Prophet ﷺ.

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فجلس بين يدي النبي ﷺ.

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فقال يا رسول الله, ما أرى إعراضك عني

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إلا لشيء قد بلغك عني.

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يا رسول الله, I see that you turn

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your face away because you heard something about

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me.

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فما خير الحياة وأنت معرض عني يا رسول

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الله.

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What's good in this life يا رسول الله,

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if you gonna turn your face away from

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me?

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If you are upset with me?

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What's good in this life?

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If you're not pleased with me?

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فقال رسول الله ﷺ, أنت الذي اعتذر إليك

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أبو بكر فلم تقبل منه.

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You're the one Abu Bakr asked you to

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forgive him.

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Apologize to you.

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And you said no?

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You didn't accept it?

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Your brother asking you to forgive him and

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you deny that request?

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فقال والذي بعثك بالحق.

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I swear by the one who sent you

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with the truth.

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ما من مرة يسألني إلا وأستغفر له في

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نفسي.

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وما خلق الله من أحد أحب إليّ بعدك

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يا رسول الله منه.

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He said, every time يا رسول الله he

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said, please forgive me, inside my heart I

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was saying may Allah forgive you.

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But I was upset, I didn't say it

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out loud.

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Allah is my witness that I don't love

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anyone in this life.

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After you, more than Abu Bakr.

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When النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم saw that

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the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم's face like

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that and the conversation going to that direction,

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وإذ بأبي بكر رضي الله عنه لا يتمالك

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مشاعر.

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Abu Bakr couldn't control his feelings.

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And Abu Bakr moved from his spot, go

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to the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم in

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front of him, يجثو على ركبتيه.

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He sat on his knees and he said,

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يا رسول الله والله وأنا كذلك.

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يا رسول الله me too, I love this

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man more than anyone else after you يا

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رسول الله.

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يا رسول الله والله كنت أنا أبدى بالظلم.

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يا رسول الله والله كنت أنا أظلم.

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يا رسول الله I was the one who

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started it.

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يا رسول الله I the one who was

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wrong, not him.

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Don't be angry at him.

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وإذ بنبيك صلى الله عليه وسلم يقبل على

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أصحابه.

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And Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم Now the

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conversation go to the companions, to us the

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ummah.

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And he said صلى الله عليه وسلم إِنَّ

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اللَّهَ بَعَثَنِي إِلَيْكُمْ Allah have sent me to

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you.

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All of you said I was lying.

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No one said I'm a true prophet and

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messenger from Allah except Abu Bakr رضي الله

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عنه.

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At one point no one believed me except

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Abu Bakr.

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At one point Abu Bakr was the only

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one said يا رسول الله you were sent

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by Allah.

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And none of you did.

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إِنَّ أَبَبَكْرُ وَأَسَانِي بِمَالِهِ وَنَفْسِهِ Abu Bakr at

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one point he have given his wealth.

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He was willing to put his life at

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risk to protect me, to support me.

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And none of you did.

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فَهَلَّ تَرَكْتُمْ لِي صَاحِبِي He said leave my

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companion, leave my friend alone.

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Leave my friend alone, don't bother him.

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Don't upset him.

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The narrator said قَالَ فَمَا أُوذِيَ أَبَبَكْرٍ بَعْدَهَا

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أَبَدًا No one dared to say anything to

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Abu Bakr after this.

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وَعَلِمَ النَّاسُ مَكَانَتَهُ مِن رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَى اللَّهِ

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سَلَمًا أَنَّهَا بِمَنْزِلٍ أَعْظَمْ مِمَّا كَانُوا يَتَصَوَّرُونَ At

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this point the Sahaba realized that Abu Bakr

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رضي الله عنه his status with the Prophet

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صلى الله عليه وسلم how close he is

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to the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم in

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the level beyond what they were thinking.

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They know he's very dear, very special.

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But that's another level.

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رضي الله عنه أرباح All this from the

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Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم لأنه وفي Because

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the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم is faithful.

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And the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم never

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forget when no one said يا رسول الله

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you are the messenger of Allah you are

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saying the truth except Abu Bakr when the

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whole world rejected him except Abu Bakr when

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he was the first to give his money

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when the first to put his life at

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risk when the first to believe in him

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صلى الله عليه وسلم هذه القصة this story

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I don't want you to forget about it

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as you leave the masjid because I can't

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comment on this story in this khutba but

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I want you to reflect about so many

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meanings so many lessons so many things that

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might relate to you in your life today

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and just wanna open your horizon with some

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points One make sure if you have wronged

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someone that you ask for forgiveness make sure

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if you have done wrong to someone that

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you don't think it's just gonna go away

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you have to say it you have to

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show it you have to seek it it

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might not be granted to you the acceptance

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or apology right away but it doesn't mean

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that you go okay who cares I tried

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no Abu Bakr tried and tried and tried

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and go to the Prophet صلى الله عليه

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وسلم because he knows how the Prophet صلى

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الله عليه وسلم how much influence he has

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that's the attitude that you show when you

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were wrong when you have hurt someone when

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you have wronged someone النبي صلى الله عليه

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وسلم said مَن كَانَتْ لَهُ عِنْدَ أَخِيهِ مَظْلَمَةً

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فَلَيْ تَحَلَّلْ مِنْهُ الْيَوْمُ قَبْلَ إِلَّا يَكُونَ دِيْنَارٌ

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وَلَا دِرْهَمٌ وَلَكِن بِالْحَسَنَاتِ وَالسَّيِّئَاتِ if you have

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wronged someone make sure you go and you

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ask for the forgiveness today because in the

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Day of Judgment there is no money it's

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good deeds and bad deeds he takes from

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your good deeds and he give you from

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his bad deeds that's what you should keep

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in mind see Abu Bakr have no problem

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to admit it in front of everybody he

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said يا رسول الله I was wrong I

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am the one who started it it's not

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a shame to apologize it's not a weakness

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to apologize weak people don't say sorry strong

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people say sorry strong people admit their mistakes

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I love how fast they realize that they

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were wrong I wish that we learn that

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sometimes I get cases I involve to reconciliate

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between family members not friends, family members and

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it's going on for decades I didn't talk

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to my brother for 20 years I didn't

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talk to my father for 10 years I

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didn't talk to my sister for my aunt

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for my husband or my ex or whatever

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we need to learn, you know what I

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come back quickly I don't leave things in

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my heart because these negative feelings are nothing

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but poison forgiving someone it does not mean

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validating what this person have done wrong let

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me say this out loud and clear accepting

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somebody's apology it doesn't mean that I confirm

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what you did was correct or okay no,

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at all it's still wrong, it's still mistake

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but that's what apology you apologize for something

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wrong you have done and you accept the

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apology of someone who have hurt you, harmed

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you what, you apologize for something good I

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accept your apology because you done good to

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me no, because you hurt me and that's

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why I accept that's why it's a very

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high level of manners and I will end

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with this sometimes, there is so many lessons

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but I wrote something that caught my attention

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and that's why I started my khutbah by

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telling you how great these two men were

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even great men and women can make mistakes

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things can heated up and they cross the

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line use the word, use the things make

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a poor judgment even those people can make

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mistakes there is no place for idealistic there

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is no ideal persons or perfect person, perfect

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group Abu Bakr r.a and Umar both

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have done wrong and they admitted I wish

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that we can understand that we can learn

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that we can treat people this way so

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we have so much rahmah because sometimes our

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expectation sets us for failure because we expecting

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just to be perfect especially when someone become

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more practicing their religion they just expecting them

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an yatahawwal minal bashariyya ilal malaiqiyya they become

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all of a sudden from a human being

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you expect them to be an angel may

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Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala forgive us may

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Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala give us guidance

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in our life I say what you have

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heard and ask Allah forgiveness for me and

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you, so ask forgiveness for me alhamdulillahi wahdahu

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wassalatu wassalamu ala man la nabiya ba'dahu wa

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ba'd my dear brothers and sisters when

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Umar r.a said, ya rasulullah there is

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no taste for life what kind of good

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in life if you are angry at me

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have you ever thought about that what kind

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of good life you will have if Allah

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is angry at you you know what what

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good in a money that you earn but

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Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala curse you for

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it what good in a vacation that you

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go enjoy it but Allah subhanahu wa ta

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'ala is angry at you for what you've

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been doing in that place what good in

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a relationship between a man and a woman

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that bring nothing but Allah subhanahu wa ta

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'ala anger and wrath at you what good

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in a desire that lead to the *

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fire what good in a life that far

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away from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala's blessings

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and love that's something you should think about

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think about the moment you see the Prophet

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in the day of

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judgment and he's angry at you because you

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abandoned his sunnah because you did not support

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his religion and think about how you live

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your life while you are blessed loved, appreciated

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by Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala that's something

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to keep in mind as we leave this

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khutbah Monday, our community are invited to cast

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their votes and as a non-profit organizations

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we can't tell you who to vote for,

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who not to vote for but I just

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want to make sure that you go and

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vote and use your conscious make your best

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judgment and in election there is no one

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size fits all it's a myth the whole

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concept of one size fits all myth ask

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me about it how many times I thought

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it's gonna fit me and I thought too

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small so just don't take it as a

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general make sure that you understand this is

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not an issue of you know a halal

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and haram and like these are ijtihad and

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opinions and I think you should be able

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to and that diversity that diversity is healthy

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as long as collectively we have a common

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goal as a community and we should not

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deceive ourselves as a community because our power

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our leverage comes from our power how much

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power we have and that's when you leverage

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that power you can't ask for a leverage

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that you don't have the power for that's

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not making the community feel less about themselves

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no but expectations they say expectation sucks it's

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very true but sometimes putting an expectation that's

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not realistic can lead to people get very

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you know disappointed and I think we do

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have power I don't I think we do

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have ability to make a change especially maybe

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more states than others but even here in

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Houston even here in Texas we do have

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a chance to make sure that our voice

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heard especially against those people who have no

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care no regards at all to us as

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a community to us as Ummah to what

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is hurting us the most as people vote

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and lobby to support for example Israeli lobbies

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and has to be a red line not

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to be crossed at certain level we as

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Ummah also have our issues I can't accept

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that the blood of the Muslims and nations

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to be almost wiped out is to be

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something cheap has no value has no meaning

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but be cautious because also sometimes there is

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a balance that you have to have not

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every candidate not every person there is always

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there will be a judgment call for each

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and every case but I feel your pain

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as a community and I think we have

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every right to express that in our way

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in one way or another you know when

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it comes to voting but my message and

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the most important message just make sure that

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you go and vote you know just make

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sure that your name counts because it's an

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accumulating power over the years it's not a

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this year we're going to make a change

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may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala make it

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easy for all of us especially for our

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brothers and sisters in Gaza and those people

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who are suffering from these transgressions that's going

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on against the innocent men and women in

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Palestine and in Lebanon and other places this

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aggression that we see every day unfortunately demonstrated

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against a lot of innocent people who have

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nothing to do but they're asking for a

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simple rights which is the rights of their

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own land a right of them to be

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protected to be free to be able to

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travel free to be able to breathe to

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be able to ask for the simple human

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rights that any person asks for may Allah

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subhanahu wa ta'ala give them victory over

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those who transgress against them may Allah subhanahu

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wa ta'ala bring peace and prosperity and

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healing to this part of the world may

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Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala give peace and

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prosperity to this part of the world and

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may Allah bless Muhammad and his family and

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his people may Allah have mercy on you

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