Waleed Basyouni – Friction Not Fraction
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The importance of Islam is discussed, including the manner in which it is addressed and the speaker's personal history. Bu Bu is upset with the Prophet Qaeda and describes their behavior as lying and false. The importance of forgiveness and apologizing for mistakes is emphasized, along with the need for forgiveness and apologizing for mistakes to avoid negative emotions. The segment also touches on forgiveness and the success of human beings in achieving goals, while ending with a webinar on forgiveness.
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In the name of Allah the Merciful, the
Compassionate, the Compassionate.
Allah
is
the Greatest, Allah is the Greatest.
There is no god but Allah.
Allah is the Greatest, Allah is the Greatest.
All praise due to Allah and his praise
and blessings and peace be upon our Prophet
Muhammad ﷺ, his family, his companions and his
followers until the day of judgment.
I bear witness that Allah is the only
one worthy of worship and Muhammad ﷺ his
last and final messenger.
He said about these two individuals that they
are for me like my ears and eyes.
They are the best two people ever walk
in the face of this earth after the
prophets and the messengers.
These two individuals the closest to the Prophet
ﷺ and the most noble of all companions
and all the ummah of Muhammad ﷺ.
They have a very high status in Islam.
The amount of virtues they have displayed in
their life and the amount of praise that
they received from Allah and his messenger ﷺ
unmatched.
Their virtue, their nobility and their closeness to
the Messenger of Allah ﷺ is something that
cannot be imagined by man unless he has
studied the life of the Prophet ﷺ.
They are Abu Bakr and Umar.
Even though Abu Bakr known to be gentle
and calm, but sometimes Abu Bakr can be
a little bit aggressive and strong and come
across very strong.
So one day Abu Bakr and Umar they
were talking to each other back and forth
and disagree over something and the discussion got
heated up.
Abu Bakr became a little bit aggressive with
Umar and upset Umar.
He kind of crossed the line.
There is friction happened between them.
Quickly Abu Bakr realized that he lost control.
Ya Umar I'm sorry.
I think I have crossed the line.
Please forgive me.
Umar turned his back and he started walking
to his house.
Abu Bakr behind him saying Ya Umar please
and Umar did not respond.
Please forgive me and he kept going until
he went to his house, entered his house,
closed the door.
Abu Bakr felt so bad.
He was in pain.
He couldn't go back even to his house.
How would he go back to his house
when he knows that his best friend, that
one of the closest companion to the Prophet
ﷺ, Umar al-Farooq is upset with him.
And he is the one who have crossed
the line and have said something which is
not appropriate.
So he went to the Prophet ﷺ.
Musri'an, munfa'ilan, was walking fast.
You can tell that he is very upset.
To the extent Abu al-Darda'a radiallahu
anhu said, we were sitting with the Prophet
ﷺ.
He was walking very fast that he holding
his thawb, his garment in his hand, and
even basically his knees were showing.
Usually that's not how, he was walking fast
and he is very upset, not even aware.
That his legs completely or his legs showing
and even his knees were showing.
When the Prophet ﷺ saw that, رَآهِ النَّبِيسَ
صَلَّمَ قَالَ أَمَّا صَحِبُكُمْ هَذَا فَقَدْ غَامَرٌ يعني
ايش يعني دخل في غمرة الغضب.
دخل في غمرة أمر عظيم.
This person is in a great distress.
There is something very upsetting to Abu Bakr
to be in such state.
فَسَلَّمَ أَبُو بَكَر He gives salam to the
Prophet ﷺ, the companion.
And he said, immediately, he said, يَا رَسُولَ
اللَّهِ كَانَ بَيْنِي وَبَيْنَ مِنِ الْخَطَّى بِشَيْءٍ فَأَسْرَعْتُ
إِلَيْهِ ثُمَّ نَدِمْتُ There is something between me
and Abu Bakr, and I have said things
which is not I should have said, and
I came out of my mouth, and I
regret it.
بَادَرَتْ مِنِّي بَادَرَتْ قَوْلٍ فَغَضِبَ مِنْهَا Said something
was not proper or maybe appropriate, and he
became upset with me.
And I asked him to forgive me, and
he didn't.
I seek his forgiveness, and he did not
answer me.
فَأَقْبَلْتُ إِلَيْكَ So I came to you.
Came to the Prophet ﷺ, so the Prophet
ﷺ maybe mediate.
Maybe the Prophet ﷺ will talk to Umar.
To make sure that Umar رضي الله عنه
will accept the apology of Abu Bakr رضي
الله عنه أرضاه.
فَقَالَ النَّبِي ﷺ وَلَمْ يَغْفِرْ لَكَ He did
not accept your apology, did not forgive you.
He said yes.
كَأَنَّ النَّبِي يَقُولْ لَهِ عُمَرْ مَا غَفَرَ لَكَ
غَفَرَ اللَّهُ لِأَبِي بَكْرٍ He said he didn't
say I forgive you.
You know what?
May Allah forgive Abu Bakr.
Three times ﷺ.
All this happening in the masjid, in the
gathering of the Prophet ﷺ.
But there is a very different scene in
Umar رضي الله عنه's house.
Inside Umar رضي الله عنه's house, that anger
that he had رضي الله عنه أرضاه, he
calmed down and that anger changed completely to
a regret.
How come I did not accept Abu Bakr's
apology?
How come that Abu Bakr asked me to
forgive him and I did not say yes?
How come Abu Bakr left me upset that
I did not honor his apology?
Subhanallah, 180 degree.
After Abu Bakr was chasing Umar رضي الله
عنه to ask for forgiveness, now Umar رضي
الله عنه said I need to go to
Abu Bakr رضي الله عنه to ask for
forgiveness and to apologize.
So he goes to Abu Bakr's house.
Is Abu Bakr here?
They said no.
He said where is he?
They said he might be at the Prophet's
ﷺ masjid.
And usually when you don't...
I would assume that the first place to
go look for Abu Bakr is the masjid.
He's always with the Prophet ﷺ.
And Umar رضي الله عنه goes to the
masjid and he saw the Prophet ﷺ and
Abu Bakr there and the Sahaba there.
فلما أتى وراء أبا بكر في مجلس النبي
ﷺ جلس ولم يتكلم.
He said Umar and he didn't say anything.
As if he want to solve it between
him and Abu Bakr alone.
No need to open the conversation in front
of everybody.
But he noticed that the Prophet ﷺ is
not happy.
وكان بأبي وأمه ﷺ من كمال صدقه.
من تمام صدقه وشفافية أنك تعرف ما في
نفسه برؤية وجهه ﷺ.
One thing unique about the Prophet ﷺ that
you know how he feels by just looking
at his face.
He doesn't have...
I'm not gonna say poker face.
No, no, no.
He doesn't have that straight face.
He doesn't...
you immediately...
he doesn't deceive.
If he's happy, he's happy.
You can tell from his face.
If he's not happy, he's not happy.
If he's in pain, it's in pain.
You immediately can tell.
So they found that the Prophet ﷺ تلور
وجهه.
The Prophet ﷺ's face was changed.
And he looks very upset with Umar ﷺ
when Umar came.
And to show you even how much he
is angry with Umar, that Umar ﷺ sat
on his side.
Then the Prophet ﷺ looked to the other
side, to the companion.
فتحول عمر.
Umar moved to the other side.
Then the Prophet ﷺ looked to the other
side.
Then Umar ﷺ sat right in front of
the Prophet ﷺ.
فجلس بين يدي النبي ﷺ.
فقال يا رسول الله, ما أرى إعراضك عني
إلا لشيء قد بلغك عني.
يا رسول الله, I see that you turn
your face away because you heard something about
me.
فما خير الحياة وأنت معرض عني يا رسول
الله.
What's good in this life يا رسول الله,
if you gonna turn your face away from
me?
If you are upset with me?
What's good in this life?
If you're not pleased with me?
فقال رسول الله ﷺ, أنت الذي اعتذر إليك
أبو بكر فلم تقبل منه.
You're the one Abu Bakr asked you to
forgive him.
Apologize to you.
And you said no?
You didn't accept it?
Your brother asking you to forgive him and
you deny that request?
فقال والذي بعثك بالحق.
I swear by the one who sent you
with the truth.
ما من مرة يسألني إلا وأستغفر له في
نفسي.
وما خلق الله من أحد أحب إليّ بعدك
يا رسول الله منه.
He said, every time يا رسول الله he
said, please forgive me, inside my heart I
was saying may Allah forgive you.
But I was upset, I didn't say it
out loud.
Allah is my witness that I don't love
anyone in this life.
After you, more than Abu Bakr.
When النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم saw that
the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم's face like
that and the conversation going to that direction,
وإذ بأبي بكر رضي الله عنه لا يتمالك
مشاعر.
Abu Bakr couldn't control his feelings.
And Abu Bakr moved from his spot, go
to the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم in
front of him, يجثو على ركبتيه.
He sat on his knees and he said,
يا رسول الله والله وأنا كذلك.
يا رسول الله me too, I love this
man more than anyone else after you يا
رسول الله.
يا رسول الله والله كنت أنا أبدى بالظلم.
يا رسول الله والله كنت أنا أظلم.
يا رسول الله I was the one who
started it.
يا رسول الله I the one who was
wrong, not him.
Don't be angry at him.
وإذ بنبيك صلى الله عليه وسلم يقبل على
أصحابه.
And Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم Now the
conversation go to the companions, to us the
ummah.
And he said صلى الله عليه وسلم إِنَّ
اللَّهَ بَعَثَنِي إِلَيْكُمْ Allah have sent me to
you.
All of you said I was lying.
No one said I'm a true prophet and
messenger from Allah except Abu Bakr رضي الله
عنه.
At one point no one believed me except
Abu Bakr.
At one point Abu Bakr was the only
one said يا رسول الله you were sent
by Allah.
And none of you did.
إِنَّ أَبَبَكْرُ وَأَسَانِي بِمَالِهِ وَنَفْسِهِ Abu Bakr at
one point he have given his wealth.
He was willing to put his life at
risk to protect me, to support me.
And none of you did.
فَهَلَّ تَرَكْتُمْ لِي صَاحِبِي He said leave my
companion, leave my friend alone.
Leave my friend alone, don't bother him.
Don't upset him.
The narrator said قَالَ فَمَا أُوذِيَ أَبَبَكْرٍ بَعْدَهَا
أَبَدًا No one dared to say anything to
Abu Bakr after this.
وَعَلِمَ النَّاسُ مَكَانَتَهُ مِن رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَى اللَّهِ
سَلَمًا أَنَّهَا بِمَنْزِلٍ أَعْظَمْ مِمَّا كَانُوا يَتَصَوَّرُونَ At
this point the Sahaba realized that Abu Bakr
رضي الله عنه his status with the Prophet
صلى الله عليه وسلم how close he is
to the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم in
the level beyond what they were thinking.
They know he's very dear, very special.
But that's another level.
رضي الله عنه أرباح All this from the
Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم لأنه وفي Because
the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم is faithful.
And the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم never
forget when no one said يا رسول الله
you are the messenger of Allah you are
saying the truth except Abu Bakr when the
whole world rejected him except Abu Bakr when
he was the first to give his money
when the first to put his life at
risk when the first to believe in him
صلى الله عليه وسلم هذه القصة this story
I don't want you to forget about it
as you leave the masjid because I can't
comment on this story in this khutba but
I want you to reflect about so many
meanings so many lessons so many things that
might relate to you in your life today
and just wanna open your horizon with some
points One make sure if you have wronged
someone that you ask for forgiveness make sure
if you have done wrong to someone that
you don't think it's just gonna go away
you have to say it you have to
show it you have to seek it it
might not be granted to you the acceptance
or apology right away but it doesn't mean
that you go okay who cares I tried
no Abu Bakr tried and tried and tried
and go to the Prophet صلى الله عليه
وسلم because he knows how the Prophet صلى
الله عليه وسلم how much influence he has
that's the attitude that you show when you
were wrong when you have hurt someone when
you have wronged someone النبي صلى الله عليه
وسلم said مَن كَانَتْ لَهُ عِنْدَ أَخِيهِ مَظْلَمَةً
فَلَيْ تَحَلَّلْ مِنْهُ الْيَوْمُ قَبْلَ إِلَّا يَكُونَ دِيْنَارٌ
وَلَا دِرْهَمٌ وَلَكِن بِالْحَسَنَاتِ وَالسَّيِّئَاتِ if you have
wronged someone make sure you go and you
ask for the forgiveness today because in the
Day of Judgment there is no money it's
good deeds and bad deeds he takes from
your good deeds and he give you from
his bad deeds that's what you should keep
in mind see Abu Bakr have no problem
to admit it in front of everybody he
said يا رسول الله I was wrong I
am the one who started it it's not
a shame to apologize it's not a weakness
to apologize weak people don't say sorry strong
people say sorry strong people admit their mistakes
I love how fast they realize that they
were wrong I wish that we learn that
sometimes I get cases I involve to reconciliate
between family members not friends, family members and
it's going on for decades I didn't talk
to my brother for 20 years I didn't
talk to my father for 10 years I
didn't talk to my sister for my aunt
for my husband or my ex or whatever
we need to learn, you know what I
come back quickly I don't leave things in
my heart because these negative feelings are nothing
but poison forgiving someone it does not mean
validating what this person have done wrong let
me say this out loud and clear accepting
somebody's apology it doesn't mean that I confirm
what you did was correct or okay no,
at all it's still wrong, it's still mistake
but that's what apology you apologize for something
wrong you have done and you accept the
apology of someone who have hurt you, harmed
you what, you apologize for something good I
accept your apology because you done good to
me no, because you hurt me and that's
why I accept that's why it's a very
high level of manners and I will end
with this sometimes, there is so many lessons
but I wrote something that caught my attention
and that's why I started my khutbah by
telling you how great these two men were
even great men and women can make mistakes
things can heated up and they cross the
line use the word, use the things make
a poor judgment even those people can make
mistakes there is no place for idealistic there
is no ideal persons or perfect person, perfect
group Abu Bakr r.a and Umar both
have done wrong and they admitted I wish
that we can understand that we can learn
that we can treat people this way so
we have so much rahmah because sometimes our
expectation sets us for failure because we expecting
just to be perfect especially when someone become
more practicing their religion they just expecting them
an yatahawwal minal bashariyya ilal malaiqiyya they become
all of a sudden from a human being
you expect them to be an angel may
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala forgive us may
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala give us guidance
in our life I say what you have
heard and ask Allah forgiveness for me and
you, so ask forgiveness for me alhamdulillahi wahdahu
wassalatu wassalamu ala man la nabiya ba'dahu wa
ba'd my dear brothers and sisters when
Umar r.a said, ya rasulullah there is
no taste for life what kind of good
in life if you are angry at me
have you ever thought about that what kind
of good life you will have if Allah
is angry at you you know what what
good in a money that you earn but
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala curse you for
it what good in a vacation that you
go enjoy it but Allah subhanahu wa ta
'ala is angry at you for what you've
been doing in that place what good in
a relationship between a man and a woman
that bring nothing but Allah subhanahu wa ta
'ala anger and wrath at you what good
in a desire that lead to the *
fire what good in a life that far
away from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala's blessings
and love that's something you should think about
think about the moment you see the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in the day of
judgment and he's angry at you because you
abandoned his sunnah because you did not support
his religion and think about how you live
your life while you are blessed loved, appreciated
by Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala that's something
to keep in mind as we leave this
khutbah Monday, our community are invited to cast
their votes and as a non-profit organizations
we can't tell you who to vote for,
who not to vote for but I just
want to make sure that you go and
vote and use your conscious make your best
judgment and in election there is no one
size fits all it's a myth the whole
concept of one size fits all myth ask
me about it how many times I thought
it's gonna fit me and I thought too
small so just don't take it as a
general make sure that you understand this is
not an issue of you know a halal
and haram and like these are ijtihad and
opinions and I think you should be able
to and that diversity that diversity is healthy
as long as collectively we have a common
goal as a community and we should not
deceive ourselves as a community because our power
our leverage comes from our power how much
power we have and that's when you leverage
that power you can't ask for a leverage
that you don't have the power for that's
not making the community feel less about themselves
no but expectations they say expectation sucks it's
very true but sometimes putting an expectation that's
not realistic can lead to people get very
you know disappointed and I think we do
have power I don't I think we do
have ability to make a change especially maybe
more states than others but even here in
Houston even here in Texas we do have
a chance to make sure that our voice
heard especially against those people who have no
care no regards at all to us as
a community to us as Ummah to what
is hurting us the most as people vote
and lobby to support for example Israeli lobbies
and has to be a red line not
to be crossed at certain level we as
Ummah also have our issues I can't accept
that the blood of the Muslims and nations
to be almost wiped out is to be
something cheap has no value has no meaning
but be cautious because also sometimes there is
a balance that you have to have not
every candidate not every person there is always
there will be a judgment call for each
and every case but I feel your pain
as a community and I think we have
every right to express that in our way
in one way or another you know when
it comes to voting but my message and
the most important message just make sure that
you go and vote you know just make
sure that your name counts because it's an
accumulating power over the years it's not a
this year we're going to make a change
may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala make it
easy for all of us especially for our
brothers and sisters in Gaza and those people
who are suffering from these transgressions that's going
on against the innocent men and women in
Palestine and in Lebanon and other places this
aggression that we see every day unfortunately demonstrated
against a lot of innocent people who have
nothing to do but they're asking for a
simple rights which is the rights of their
own land a right of them to be
protected to be free to be able to
travel free to be able to breathe to
be able to ask for the simple human
rights that any person asks for may Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala give them victory over
those who transgress against them may Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala bring peace and prosperity and
healing to this part of the world may
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala give peace and
prosperity to this part of the world and
may Allah bless Muhammad and his family and
his people may Allah have mercy on you